Love Does Not Hurt
It is a sad and tragic fact that relationships and violence go together at times. There are some of us who grew up around abusive relationships in our homes or in our families. If there is no healing involved from this, we have all seen what can happen when another generation carries it into their relationships.
It seems that during the early dating stages, a lot of red flags are presented, and sadly overlooked. I remember reading about the young teacher who was allegedly slain by a boyfriend. Her father, heartbroken, mentioned how his daughter would make comments about certain behaviors that simply seemed “protective” or “attentive” at the time. What can single people do to be more aware of person who has dangerous behaviors?
It’s not just adults that cope with this issue, teens also find themselves faced with dating violence, at very young ages. Imagine your first love, puppy love. Then imagine if all that intense emotion led to physical abuse. If you were confused and caught up in your “normal” teenage love affair, how awful would it feel if domestic violence was added in? I could barely handle the ending of a grade school crush, who knows how I would have dealt with something so terrifying.
We all have to take a part in educating our families, communities, and our teens that love does not hurt. The Partnership Against Domestic Violence will conduct a panel discussion this week: Spotlight on Teen Dating Violence.
I believe that we should address what is causing the rise in domestic violence and work together on ways we can stop it. How can we become more involved?
When it comes to your children (if you have any), what do you teach them about violence in relationships? What were you taught?
Event information from article:
Spotlight on Teen Dating Violence
When: 9:30 a.m. to 2 p.m. March 13
Where: Carl and Mary Ware Academic Center, Clark Atlanta University
Participants must preregister.
For more information, call the Partnership Against Domestic Violence at 404-870-9603 or visit www.padv.org. There’s also a statewide crisis line at 1-800-33-HAVEN (1-800-334-2836
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2CPTG-"Anna Mae, just eat the damn cake"
March 10th, 2010
11:47 am
yeah, Leggs, on MTV, or was it VH1……..but ya ever notice how those that were abusive early on, end up suffering at the end?
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA DADDY NOT A HUSBAND
March 10th, 2010
11:47 am
Nik – Honestly I think its the person thats comfy with their sexual prowess.. Some are built for it and some arent.. Some people are station wagons and mini vans and others are sports cars..
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
March 10th, 2010
11:48 am
@DK You mean you don’t play along with the “princesses”. just a game. You can steer a boat from ahead OR behind…trick is knowing which is most appropriate.
(and you don’t have to try to deal with “ugly”)
PrincessNik.....One in a Million
March 10th, 2010
11:48 am
LMBO
Cemeeli
March 10th, 2010
11:49 am
she has a friend that checks her man’s mileage in his car to see if he actually went where he said he was going
Fool! What if SHE drives to the “spot”?…com’ on Ms. Sherlock…you look a mess.
Raqi It’s just not enough time in my lifetime to keep up with another person’s child. If he doing it….go.
PrincessNik.....One in a Million
March 10th, 2010
11:51 am
Infamous your 11:47 is what i thought also, cause trust all dudes ain’t puttin it down the same way/amount etc….
Randyt SMDH
Melo
March 10th, 2010
11:51 am
I know you’re really going to cross your eyes when you find out I don’t support capital punishment
me neither!
only God has right to take lyfe.
Thats the contradiction I find strange with our
enemiesfriends on the conservative right. Pro lyfe on birth but Pro death when convicted of a certain offense.Raqi
March 10th, 2010
11:52 am
LOL at such an outrageous generalization. Sex is to be enjoyed. Princess, unless you are just trying to stir up the pot this afternoon, how does one that actually entertain such crazy generalizations place themselves on “love scale”? What standards do you live by when it comes to being with a man you like/love and how much effort you put into pleasuring him as your man? Not you literally, but in general since you asked the question.
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
March 10th, 2010
11:52 am
Princess, I’m having a brain freeze … SMDH?
PrincessNik.....One in a Million
March 10th, 2010
11:52 am
shaking my d@mn head
Carlito
March 10th, 2010
11:52 am
Leggs, exaclty. She had low self etseem. She allowed Mister to control her.
Melo, my point was that a woman should not fear her man but she should feel her man is the ultimate protector and how do you physically challenge that?
BlackMagicWoman, “Until you do right by me!!!”
SexyCool - About Business
March 10th, 2010
11:53 am
Speaking of SEX…the sex.com registry is for sale.
2CPTG-"Anna Mae, just eat the damn cake"
March 10th, 2010
11:54 am
you’d be surprised…..some of the prettiest girls, are also some of the freakiest….all it takes is that one dude to straight beat her back out, then, she gon WANT that shyt….ain’t a gal on here can tell me they don’t appreciate a good beat down er’y now and then…..if so, then you ain’t never had na’aan!!!!
Melo
March 10th, 2010
11:55 am
Luvbug!
the only difff in ur scenario is if the lady kills him after he has put a lil of the dizzle in the nana(when beiong raped) or has slapped her and she has some hand marks,thats str8 coz there is DNA evidence..and the intruder who comes into my home does not belong there so he toast.
without that,its hard to just take ur word!
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
March 10th, 2010
11:55 am
Not to start a debate Melo, but I am one of those pro life, pro capital punishments types. Simple rule about capital punishment for me, seldom if ever repeat offenders. You don’t try to reform a dog with rabies…you put him down. IMHO
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
March 10th, 2010
11:56 am
@ Princess … got ya.
SexyCool - About Business
March 10th, 2010
11:57 am
@Toucan – co-sign on that 1154a.
Mad luv to ya’, homey!
We need to hang out SOON, dude!
Melo
March 10th, 2010
11:57 am
how do you physically challenge that?
@Carlito
anger is an emotion,its not a rational thoght process
see u thursday folks….
this weather needs my attention..
SlimOne...no mo' locked doors
March 10th, 2010
11:57 am
Wet-n-Wild Wednesday is starting to feel more like Wiggety Wack Wednesday.
PrincessNik.....One in a Million
March 10th, 2010
11:57 am
Raqi, it was a statement that was thrown at me, so i’ve just been curious as to see if that’s what most guys really think LOL. It doesn’t matter to me one way or the other so…
What standards do you live by when it comes to being with a man you like/love and how much effort you put into pleasuring him as your man?
As many times as he can get it up, it’s my duty to handle the biz
now i expect the same in return, i like what you like you like what i like now lets do the thing
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA DADDY NOT A HUSBAND
March 10th, 2010
11:58 am
2 – Yeah Ive had some Extremely Beautiful ladies with their lips around Desmond in my lifetime and doing things that would make a Porn Director Proud.. Umm Hmmm
SlimOne...no mo' locked doors
March 10th, 2010
11:58 am
Speaking of chicks gettin a good back beat down, Ladies, have you ever messed around with a dude who was NOT confident in the bedroom? That’s so irritating and WACK!
Leggs
March 10th, 2010
11:59 am
One of my favorite lines in the movie is them in that buggy and Celie pointing her finger saying “Nothing will come good to you until you do right by me!!”
Not only did she have low self-esteeem, she was young and didn’t have anybody to teach her a damn thing.
@2C ~ it was on VH1. Angela Bassett’s arms in that movie much like Linda Hamilton’s in The Terminator.
Also, have any of your notice this before:
Fact of Life: After Monday and Tuesday…even the calendar says W. T. F.
Cemeeli
March 10th, 2010
11:59 am
…thunder over here…
DANG!
Raqi
March 10th, 2010
11:59 am
if so, then you ain’t never had na’aan!!!!
2CTPG, Yep. I’z agree. Like I told one lady once that was talking some craziness, “Sweetie you just ain’t had it right yet”.
Melo
March 10th, 2010
12:00 pm
Not to start a debate Melo,
@Randyt??
very few Pro death pple want to be the actual hangman……..
why??
(im gone)
Raqi
March 10th, 2010
12:02 pm
she was young and didn’t have anybody to teach her a damn thing
Leggs, Yeah. Her stepfather used her and then sold her off to be used some more. And Mista played on that. A dude like that has some serious issues himself.
2CPTG-"Anna Mae, just eat the damn cake"
March 10th, 2010
12:02 pm
aiiight Sexy…..look for me in a few weeks….I get my parts for my “classic” out there in Alpharetta; plus, I gotta get me some “not seen around here” gear, for this upcoming wedding I gotta attend……
I never shop where I live….you know you doin’ it, when dudes compliment you on ya gear…..so I’ll be that way in a few…
Cemeeli
March 10th, 2010
12:02 pm
@ Leggs – Such a cor…funny one
PrincessNik.....One in a Million
March 10th, 2010
12:03 pm
@2C
ain’t a gal on here can tell me they don’t appreciate a good beat down er’y now and then…..if so, then you ain’t never had na’aan!!!!
you telling the truth!
SlimOne...no mo' locked doors
March 10th, 2010
12:04 pm
Leggs her self-esteem was beat down from the very start by her father. He would always compare her to her sister. “See Ceilie, Nettie does…blah blah blah”. So out the gate she was tainted mentally.
2CPTG-"Anna Mae, just eat the damn cake"
March 10th, 2010
12:05 pm
however, though, Nik…..nevermind uglygirls…….why do thin broads have them deep coochies? I’m tombout, lawd hammercy, cat for days…..and a cameltoe like nobody’s business……..Slim, care to elaborate?
Tazzee - 65 days til Mrs.
March 10th, 2010
12:07 pm
Oh yeah – my boo has more than 3 tats. I might lick them tonight…
Leggs
March 10th, 2010
12:07 pm
@Raqi ~ when I first saw the movie when it first came out I vowed never to watch it again, and I haven’t. The verbal and mental abuse Mister heaped upon Celie disgusted me. And, that kitchen she walked into, disgusted me as well.
@Cee ~ most of mine are cor…I mean funny!
Luvbug
March 10th, 2010
12:08 pm
Fact of Life: After Monday and Tuesday…even the calendar says W. T. F.
SexyCool - About Business
March 10th, 2010
12:09 pm
Negro – don’t make me come huntin’ you. Far serious, though, I’ll buy you a drAnk when I see ya’.
Cemeeli
March 10th, 2010
12:09 pm
my boo has more than 3 tats. I might lick them tonight…
@ 65 Days – You is getting outta hand!…but got darnit i like it…
I dare ya’!
hehehehe
2CPTG-"Anna Mae, just eat the damn cake"
March 10th, 2010
12:10 pm
I’m serious Sexy…..cause the wedding is in May…..and my bottomline is finally back in the black, so I’m good!!!!
SlimOne...no mo' locked doors
March 10th, 2010
12:13 pm
@2CPTG “I’m tombout, lawd hammercy, cat for days…..and a cameltoe like nobody’s business……..Slim, care to elaborate?”
Um…I can only speak for me and I can definitely attest to the CT like nobody’s buiness. I try to forewarn potentials and it’s like having a ghostlike experience…just can’t believe it till you see it. lol
SexyCool - About Business
March 10th, 2010
12:14 pm
Speaking of drAnks, is it too early in the day to start thinking about PEACH MOJITOS?!?!? OMG!!! To die for.
Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)
March 10th, 2010
12:14 pm
Ladies, have you ever messed around with a dude who was NOT confident in the bedroom? That’s so irritating and WACK!
Yes I did when I was in the midst of my dragon slaying heydays in college and just after…I think part of it was my fault b/c I was very straight forward, live and direct and umm dude couldn’t get it up….never saw or spoke to him again….he called and all that but I wasn’t interested. Was that wrong?
thunder over here
We just heard some over here, too….where would I rather be right now and what/who would I be doing?…hmmmmm
Raqi
March 10th, 2010
12:14 pm
My bff had a case once where this older guy 60ish impregnanted this girl, well not really a girl she was in here early 20’s, but she was mentally retarded by State standards. The woman lived on the same street as him with her parents. Her parents sued him and he tried to fight it saying it was consensual because she was of age. Well stupo lost his case and was tried by a jury in the end for sexual assault.
While this dude had an attorney that defended him, my bff said that after the trial and his sentencing his own attorney told him he was sick bastard. Any person that would take advantage of someone with a mental disability is sick.
That’s how I feel about the Color Purple. Celie did not have a mental disability but after being treated the way she was by her father, Mista took her for the sole purpose of taking advantage of her.
Raqi
March 10th, 2010
12:15 pm
I might lick them tonight…
Tazzee?
LMBO
Mo (aka Moeisha)
March 10th, 2010
12:15 pm
SCool – okay I am off to get my cappucino, I tried to stay away but it aint happenin!
Tazzee – well alright Mrs to be!!
ya’ll are off da chain today! LOL
Raqi
March 10th, 2010
12:16 pm
I dare ya’!
Cemeeli, I double dare her. LOL
Raqi
March 10th, 2010
12:17 pm
Leggs, yeah that is not movie that I care to ever watch again.
Raqi
March 10th, 2010
12:18 pm
SexyCool, Yep. Too early.
SlimOne...no mo' locked doors
March 10th, 2010
12:18 pm
Sassy Well being that he couldn’t get it up, does that constitute him not being confident, or just having technical difficulties? I could see if every attempt with met with the same wimpy noodle…so just after that one time, you gave him the boot? lololol
SexyCool - About Business
March 10th, 2010
12:18 pm
@Raqi – I’ma blame you for the licking that Tazzee is about to commence.
Cemeeli
March 10th, 2010
12:19 pm
We just heard some over here, too….where would I rather be right now and what/who would I be doing?…
auh…lemme guess.
Sassy – Here’s a start…Peruvian Scallops With Mango..whether you start that treat in bed or after, it’s a winner.