Ex-Rated
I had not planned to blog about singer John Mayer’s so-called “Mayergate” controversy that caused a buzz last month. If you were spared the pop culture road kill, Mr. Mayer had a very interesting interview with Playboy magazine. Throughout the interview – (which I’m wondering if he was actually high at the time), Mayer managed to insult pretty much numerous of people who were probably fans before this.
When Mayer referred to sex with his ex-girlfriend, Jessica Simpson, as “a drug”, I wondered how often guys rated their women out loud to other people. Is this normal? Do guys really reflect on their conquests and rank the women and their skills? I won’t deny that some women certainly bring it up their naughty memories in girl talk, mostly to gush about how the man made him feel.
Mayer also alluded to the fact that he isn’t attracted to women of color. He chose a truly unfunny and dumb way to put it. This seemed to upset a lot of people but I can’t knock him for having a preference of white women. Having that kind of validation from men of other races isn’t really something a most women of color seek out. I certainly don’t need it to feel attractive, but I don’t need that from any race or gender. It is a slippery slope, though. Women want to feel sexy and desired, but often times, the only way that is depicted is in a hypersexual way that fetishizes us.
Do you think men and women could do a better job with our “ex-rated” talk? When do we outgrow the locker room talk and naughty chatter about our dirty secrets?
Did you read or hear about John Mayer’s interview that caused all that controversy? Jessica Simpson said in an Oprah interview this week that she was really disappointed and saddened that he shared intimate details about their relationship. Have you ever found out that your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend were badmouthing you or blabbing about your bedroom skills? How did you handle it?
Happy Friday!
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Rell - Looking for Ms. P. Galore
March 5th, 2010
12:15 pm
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CQL-IFEk6hw&feature=related
AmazonRed™
March 5th, 2010
12:16 pm
Say smething interesting and Ared is gonna ask for ur email add coz she likes them tall!
I just like to track the tall ones for research purposes.
Tis all…y’all don’t know what I got goin on around these parts! 
who...me?
March 5th, 2010
12:17 pm
I keep the details between me and my spouse private out of respect for my spouse. I know he wouldn’t appreciate being spoken about in that way to friends of mine that he may run into a couple times a month. Also, you know how women do… if he’s good to you then he’ll be good to me too!! So sad and triflin….
But as far as any of the guys I dealt with before him, yes, I dished, I didn’t have any real emotional attachment to them, and now that I think of it, not much respect either. They were cool people though…
mytw♥cents
March 5th, 2010
12:18 pm
See somebody just walked up & startled me…
I was saying I felt like a voyeur scrolling in on your seduction of some sweet young thang!
Kym-Clown Wrangler
March 5th, 2010
12:19 pm
You know John Mayer is all over the dang gone place..he is on Herbie Hancock’s Possibilities album. Song called Stitched Up..I guess the lyrics could apply to a few of his lady friends.
“Exactly how you hear it, is exactly how it all went down…
It was later in the evening
That the facts and the figures got turned around
True, there was a woman
Yes, she did advance my way
And I can’t be sure exactly but I swear I saw her say my name
It was the right time
She was the real thing
I had to walk away
(See) Don’t wanna be, stitched up out of my mind
Feeling strung out, laggin’ behind
All trapped in, can’t do a thing because I’m
Locked down
Stitched up, feeling the burn
All strung out, I finally learn that
Trapped in, can’t do a thing because I’m
Locked down
Rell - Looking for Ms. P. Galore
March 5th, 2010
12:20 pm
@my2…what are you talking abut
DIG THAT
March 5th, 2010
12:22 pm
@Kym
The very first thing I thought about was Bigelow’s or Tanqueray. Lol
Melo
March 5th, 2010
12:22 pm
@Ared??
say it then,u know u havent been around so we dont know….
Looks like we got sme interesting company(from u gelrz view point) altho i kinda doubt and suspect his backbone,u wld chew that boy alive in my view!
Dude craving attn is kinda suspect??
I hope they not a new midtown shimvisitor!
AmazonRed™
March 5th, 2010
12:25 pm
melo – Stop playing…you know I ain’t the one to pursue any of the dudes that run thru this joint. That’s how I didn’t fall into the con artist’s trap, remember?!
If dude is 6′6″ I’m very happy for him.
I still prefer the real world tho! 
Kym-Clown Wrangler
March 5th, 2010
12:27 pm
@Dig That I don’t club either but I know if you want to meet folks in the city that you share common ground with you have to go to the folks. Find your niche. If you want quiet and relax..I don’t think you gonna find that at the Luckie Lounge.
DIG THAT
March 5th, 2010
12:27 pm
dude you a 6′6 cat in atlanta…my dude just go stand in front of philips with a hawks jacket..some groupie will mistake you for a player..lol
@Rell
LMAO!!!! You ain’t never lied.
SexyCool - The Silly Version
March 5th, 2010
12:28 pm
Cemeeli – Just logged onto my credit union account to look at the zero paid off balance again. They have it taken off my account altogether. It’s REALLY history now.
Doing a chair dance…Cabbage patching, prepping, bankhead bouncing and doing the running man and the jerk (if I could) all at the same time. LOL
who...me?
March 5th, 2010
12:28 pm
@ Melo
Funny you should say that (about your friend trying to talk to the girl), every single one of the guys that I’ve dated, have had one of their friends try to talk to me behind their back. Including my husband before we were serious……and heck, my roommate tried to get with him too…again, before we were serious. Hmmm…maybe we just two bad ass mutha effas…..
Kym-Clown Wrangler
March 5th, 2010
12:31 pm
@Dan Have you not seen Sinbad’s new comedy special? He said why old dudes wanna hang with young chicks..you need to be with someone who will know the symptoms of a stroke. LMAO.. you laying there with one side paralyzed and she asking you why you drooling and looking at her like that.
Leggs
March 5th, 2010
12:31 pm
Yes, yes, it was the Kindle!
Melo
March 5th, 2010
12:32 pm
Ared??
oohh boy!!
Rell - Looking for Ms. P. Galore
March 5th, 2010
12:32 pm
That’s how I didn’t fall into the con artist’s trap
wow….she went there!!!!!
@dig that…..i got away for years with i am a comedian on comic view…this is groupie central
SexyCool - The Silly Version
March 5th, 2010
12:33 pm
Just walked into our breakroom – uberbutch gay chick on the common area computer shopping for men’s shoes online.
Wonder if she’s buyin’ em for her daddy???
mytw♥cents
March 5th, 2010
12:34 pm
Your 11:36. Just sayin’ – it was the first post I saw as I attempt to review. No biggie. Hope your world is sunshiney brite.
What are y’all gonna be up ton in these 60 degrees the next coupla days? I have a lovely hacking cough but am willing to live vicaariously thru anyone planning to have a fun weeekend in the sun. Surely, CEE will bring me fish n grits to feel better. Right???
Dan - my invented truth
March 5th, 2010
12:35 pm
@Kym
I’m only 31
Melo
March 5th, 2010
12:36 pm
who…me?
Dang, must be sme nice about u then…..
I was gon ask for ur pic…but dang, u say husband,so u married……
But umm, on 2nd thoghts,just send it,im married too! takpat78@gmail.com
AmazonRed™
March 5th, 2010
12:36 pm
What melo? Oh we are still avoiding certain topics round here? My bad.
DIG THAT
March 5th, 2010
12:37 pm
@Kym
Mos def. Can’t sit on ya butt and think the world is coming to you. Buddy gon have to Get out to Get off
Carlito
March 5th, 2010
12:37 pm
No hoodspots for me. I’m just new to the city and now the new job and home are stable im ready to enjoy this place
AmazonRed™
March 5th, 2010
12:38 pm
Welcome Carlito. Where did you move here from?
Rell - Looking for Ms. P. Galore
March 5th, 2010
12:39 pm
lito…go to barleys….echelon 3000 has a nice mix of bougie and ghetto..but they all ova 30….taboo two if its still open…
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA BLACK DYNAMITE!
March 5th, 2010
12:43 pm
Lets get it skrait.. Its not crack its Krytonite.. That everlasting SC…
Carlito
March 5th, 2010
12:45 pm
Okay, I see there are many conversations at once. But for the record I would never date or want to meet a woman from the internet. I’m old fashioned, I like the initial to be face to face, plus I like my privacy.
Melo
March 5th, 2010
12:47 pm
Ared??
crickets crickets crickets crickets crickets crickets crickets
)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
AmazonRed™
March 5th, 2010
12:48 pm
What melo? What?!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA BLACK DYNAMITE!
March 5th, 2010
12:51 pm
Carlito – You wanna meet bad chicks in the A.. Go to Publix.. The 9’s and dimes shop there.. The 6, 7 and 8s shop at Kroger and the 5 and unders shop at Walmart..
Just my observation..
AmazonRed™
March 5th, 2010
12:54 pm
Men with kids are the ones picking up chicks in the Supermarkets.
I get hit on in Publix, stared at in Kroger and avoided in Walmart…perhaps they think I got a gang of kids when I’m in Walmart. Though my cart wouldn’t indicate such!
Kym-Clown Wrangler
March 5th, 2010
12:55 pm
LMAO..wait DK you based a woman of quality on where she shops? Lawd if wonders never cease..so what if she buys meat at Publix, frozen veggies and staples at Kroger, and household goods at Walmart do you average the score?
Carlito
March 5th, 2010
1:01 pm
Black Dynamite, that is funny
Melo
March 5th, 2010
1:02 pm
I guess the recession is really biting some folks??…….
uall heard,or did u, about the dude who was in a bike accident with a car….he was dressed like going to an interview,suit on and shoes and tie……
so he gets knocked by a car and the ambulance comes and they lay him on the strecther….the paramedics try to get his shoes off,like they normally wld do….
dudes looks unconscious but is startled by paramedics actions on his feet
and wakes up str8 to sit upright and says,”Hell No,my feet are good,dont take off my shoes!” 
paramedics pay him no attn but dude is wearing shoes with socks(or so it seems) and they trying to pry all that off so they feel his vitals etc and dude is in some kinda of a daze…..
Only to find that dude aint wearing no socks,the socks are worn off to the ankle and the socks part that fits the feett is worn out and missing and dude is just wearing “socks”,more like ankle warmers just for sho….
Carlito
March 5th, 2010
1:07 pm
AmazonRed, I moved here from Saint Paul, Minnesota.
Leggs
March 5th, 2010
1:09 pm
@Carlito ~ too bad you don’t want to meet anyone from the internet. I was going to suggest you meet me during intermission by the 3rd door on your right if you’re facing the facility!!
AmazonRed™
March 5th, 2010
1:09 pm
Minnesota huh? Yes, you definitely need to be broken in here slowly. No hood spots for you and there are plenty!
mytw♥cents
March 5th, 2010
1:14 pm
ROFL! @ that INFAMOUS assessment. What say you of Target and the occasional Whole Foods, Farmer’s Market and Camp Creek World of Beverages hahaahaa!!! I’m so donee witchu
MELO You leave that po man alone with his crusty feet. Y’all givin me the giggles & it hurts to laugh!
AmazonRed™
March 5th, 2010
1:15 pm
So funny that he’s hoping to meet folks, and asks for suggestions…but wouldn’t want to ever put a [screen] name to a face!
SexyCool - The Silly Version
March 5th, 2010
1:15 pm
MyTwo – Stay out of World of Beverages buying up all the Cherry Jack Rum!!!
princessnik_living life like its golden
March 5th, 2010
1:17 pm
Doing a chair dance…Cabbage patching, prepping, bankhead bouncing and doing the running man and the jerk (if I could) all at the same time.
SexyC this made me bust out laughing, had to cover my mouth
lurker
March 5th, 2010
1:17 pm
You wanna meet bad chicks in the A.. Go to Publix.. The 9’s and dimes shop there.. The 6, 7 and 8s shop at Kroger and the 5 and unders shop at Walmart..
That was fuuuunnnyy….good thing I’m a Publix girl. I cain’t STAND Wal-mart
AmazonRed™
March 5th, 2010
1:18 pm
Love the Camp Creek World of Beverages. I thought I was doing something by buying my likka at Costco. WOB had all the same stuff for a little cheaper.
Besides, it’s where I buy this wine folks call “liquid ecstasy”
lurker
March 5th, 2010
1:19 pm
Melo you’re ALWAYS sitting with your tongue hanging and tail wagging for some chick to jump on and giving out your email addy like food stamps but the first to rag women. I bet if you did get some side puddy from a blog chick you’d put her on blast the first thing next morning…SMH
AmazonRed™
March 5th, 2010
1:19 pm
Which market a woman shops is more indicitive of how much money she has rather than how she looks. There are some busted chicks in Publix too.
lurker
March 5th, 2010
1:20 pm
Folks think they’re saving a lot by going to Wal-mart but I figure by the time your drive to one and sift through all the twans and shims(I know at the Howell Mill locations) it’s just sooo not worth the hassle. I’d rather pay the extra
Melo
March 5th, 2010
1:21 pm
IDK..u got a point!
and u hardly ever get good fresh veggies at walmart.
princessnik_living life like its golden
March 5th, 2010
1:22 pm
A Red
your 1:19 is on point, i was just in Publix yesterday and saw some hobgoblins!
ATTentIon WH*RE
March 5th, 2010
1:22 pm
AMAZON must be a Walmart gal