I had not planned to blog about singer John Mayer’s so-called “Mayergate” controversy that caused a buzz last month. If you were spared the pop culture road kill, Mr. Mayer had a very interesting interview with Playboy magazine. Throughout the interview – (which I’m wondering if he was actually high at the time), Mayer managed to insult pretty much numerous of people who were probably fans before this.
When Mayer referred to sex with his ex-girlfriend, Jessica Simpson, as “a drug”, I wondered how often guys rated their women out loud to other people. Is this normal? Do guys really reflect on their conquests and rank the women and their skills? I won’t deny that some women certainly bring it up their naughty memories in girl talk, mostly to gush about how the man made him feel.
Mayer also alluded to the fact that he isn’t attracted to women of color. He chose a truly unfunny and dumb way to put it. This seemed to upset a lot of people but I can’t knock him for having a preference of white women. Having that kind of validation from men of other races isn’t really something a most women of color seek out. I certainly don’t need it to feel attractive, but I don’t need that from any race or gender. It is a slippery slope, though. Women want to feel sexy and desired, but often times, the only way that is depicted is in a hypersexual way that fetishizes us.
Do you think men and women could do a better job with our “ex-rated” talk? When do we outgrow the locker room talk and naughty chatter about our dirty secrets?
Did you read or hear about John Mayer’s interview that caused all that controversy? Jessica Simpson said in an Oprah interview this week that she was really disappointed and saddened that he shared intimate details about their relationship. Have you ever found out that your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend were badmouthing you or blabbing about your bedroom skills? How did you handle it?