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Do you want me?

If someone could find a way to manufacture a crystal ball for relationships, they would be very rich.  Unfortunately, we are left to our own devices of over analyzing or misreading signals.  In the first couple of weeks, you can at least be sure that there is an attraction.  You are returning calls, agreeing to meet up, and making yourself available.  It’s the sweetest part because it’s all clear.

Then there is that period of time where one or both of you have decided how you feel about each other.  You don’t want to play yourself so you start looking to take your cues from the other person.  The problem is, they are doing the exact same thing.  So how do you know they want you as much as you want them?

Personally, I try to wait it out one until the ambiguous behavior goes away.  Sometimes, it doesn’t and I get the message and move on.  What do you do? Do you let the person know how much you want them? Are you comfortable bringing it up in a talk?

Is it important to have the same level of interest in order for it to work?

Of course men and women express their interest and desires differently sometimes.  Ladies, when do you know a man wants you as much as you want him? Men, how do you determine a woman is on the same page with you and what you want?

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Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
8:35 am

should be interesting dialouge this morning….sitting back taking pointers….although I say actions will determine such….if a man is interested I would think he would make it known in some subtle ways both parties may take it slow just in case of rejection….this is where some mind games are thrown in for some to beat around the bush for comfort vs just coming out and say I am interested lets get to know each other more….some folk know what they want see it and capture it but it it many more who will draw it out and it is for the other person to determine early on what’s being sold and if they are going to entertain it….

side bar: Gary Owen is going to be @ Uptown Comedy tonight and I truly want to see him live it is my free parent day I can afford to go but I am stuck on stupid with someone anyone to meet me there….my inner circle all had previous engagements and I got a stuck on stupid feeling this morning like chic just go but physically I am not moving! Ha! I am going to see by this evening if the scary cat mode will still be in place or will I just do it and go and not look back!

Good Morning Folks!

Mo

February 23rd, 2010
8:48 am

Good Morning!! You are right Lady J this will be a very interesting discussion. I want to hear some answers b/c after getting a divorce and getting back out here to date has been quite interesting is all I can say.
What time are the shows for Gary Owen?

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
8:53 am

Girl I have let guys know and NOTHING they let me know and NOTHING like my blog buddy said yesterday just enjoy life and the gem will be under my fingertips without me even knowing….I say if two people are interested in the same goal why not explore but in my cases its been pulling teeth so I am over it pressing the issue….what is for me will be and long term its not going to be as soon as I would think so I must again get 100% comfortable in my own skin….I will check on the shows Mo!

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
8:56 am

Mo that was easy I called and a real person answered shows are 8 and 10 and 20 bucks can’t be that of course parking….but hey wanna meet me there or ride together I will pick you up also if need be….either time is fine with me I will still be at work on Hump Day! LOL

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
9:05 am

Mo piggy backing on the word divorce I founded when you tell a man this even if he is the same staus DIVORCED some back away…..even being a mother…..don’t want to call it two strikes bc without both I wouldn’t be the person I am today its just percieved by most as negative or baggage even when there is no drama…meaning me and my ex husband get along great respect each other are great parents and co parents and still some shy away….I understand some don’t dater women with kids and divorce isn’t a happy word but as grown folk the older one gets they have been through something not so plesant and it shouldn’t be held againt them…

And of course some play the age thing but I have found age isn’t a major factor it is where most are in their life the game doesn’t have age requirements I see all play it from time to time men and women….

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
9:05 am

One thing I learned thru trial and error over my years of dating was that when a man truly wants you he will call. He will want to spend time with you. He will go for what he wants.

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
9:09 am

agree raqi and I am sticking to that simple assessment…..those antics of putting myself on front street for nothing is over….Men go after what they want period….Good Post sis!

DreamsMaterialize

February 23rd, 2010
9:11 am

Morning
This sounds along the same lines as who should approach. I’m not real mushy with the words, but I am a man of action. So, I like to think my actions clearly signal that I am in like with you. lol Now, at some point I need some feedback from you to let me know if the actions should continue. Otherwise, I’ll start diverting my efforts to other prospects.

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
9:14 am

DreamsM actions set the tone and is important…..so true!

Mo (aka Moeisha )

February 23rd, 2010
9:19 am

Morning All!!

okay I see someone is trying to take my name this AM! :mad:

Its cool, hey Mo!

Lady J – im out, its Lil Mo day so I cant swing

Hey Dreams – how are you?

As for the topic, I sooooo need to take notes on this one……im interested to see some of the responses

mytw♥cents

February 23rd, 2010
9:23 am

I think this is an area which we overanalyze. If a man continues to engage you, he’s interested. If not, he can do without you. Likewise, if a woman continues to be receptive, that’s his cue. My intentions are always clear to ME, but I’ve learned that I come across as subtle to other people half the time. Like I think I’m yellin and I’m not really cuz I’m softspoken. Or I’ll give what I think is a straight, but tactful answer. It’s lost on some folks unless it’s blunt & blatant. So I make an extra effort (just short of feelin like a floozie) to receive what he’s putting out there if I want to pursue it because I already know I can seem nonchalant.

I don’t believe in all these playing hard to get kinda rules – if you’ll notice, even those who subscribe to them will throw em out the window when it’s someone they have a genuine interest in. Cuz they don’t want em to get away without knowing they’re open… I think the waiting game is just that. A game, and it tends to backfire.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 23rd, 2010
9:25 am

It’s funny this topic came up because I think it describes where I am with someone I’m dating right now…It’s like we keep dancing around the ‘elephant in the room’ because no one wants to reveal their cards too early, and open themselves up to being vulnerable.

Dreams He said the very same thing about ‘his actions’….so with me being a little more vocal, as some women are, i’m like dude just Say whatchu mean and mean whatchu say…said and done. :-)

Mo (aka Moeisha )

February 23rd, 2010
9:26 am

Lady J – girl I am so >>>>HERE<<<< with you on that 'two strikes' thing! I tell people Im divorced, parent of one and dudes look at me sideways even if they are in the same situation!!! And I dont let it get me I just shake my head and keep it moving. Like you, me & my ex get along fine and that is cause for some eyebrows to be raised as well. Why cant people who arent together anymore get along, especially when they have a child together. I dont even sweat it, its their loss! :smile:

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
9:27 am

wow ok cool….hmmmm Mo too funny! stepping away from the screen! LMAO!

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
9:29 am

For every action there is a reaction. If you get nothing back then you should just move on.

Everybody has a fear, hidden or clearly visible, of being rejected so we act with caution. But how will we ever know if the other is as into you as you are them if neither party never puts it out there. It sure prevents wasting time with someone that’s not into you and wasting time when you can be moving forward in getting to know the one that is. Been there, done that.

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
9:30 am

If a man continues to engage you, he’s interested.

Exactly, TwoLincolns, exactly.

mytw♥cents

February 23rd, 2010
9:30 am

MOEISHA – I was like, where are her parentheses?!?!! LOL

DREAMS – If you take the action of giving her several shots of Don Julio and her feedback is “gimme one more,” hasn’t she said enough???

PSA: Just being silly. .02 does not advocate gettin chicks likka’d up to make them more receptive. She should choose you in sobriety.

Professor...

February 23rd, 2010
9:31 am

Daamn Mo, I thought that was you! I did not realize the aka Moeisha was gone…lol.

Lady J the show should be great! This is one of those topics I want to lurk on…he loves me…he loves me not…he loves me!

BTW~regardless of how shy or inexperienced a person is, s/he will let you know how they are feeling about you I call it ACTIONS vs. WORDS!!

Mo (aka Moeisha )

February 23rd, 2010
9:32 am

okay since the blog ate my post….

Lady J im with you on your 9:05. I guess its more strange for exes to get along for the sake of the kid cause I get :shock: all the time when people hear that my ex and I get along. But thats the way it SHOULD be, we have a kid together….SMDH

Mo (aka Moeisha )

February 23rd, 2010
9:34 am

mytwo/Professor – they almost got ya’ll but thanks for knowing ya gurl! :wink: I keeps my parentheses and ‘aka Moeisha’…..(given to me by Mr SJ3000)

Professor...

February 23rd, 2010
9:41 am

Another thing…I think in the beginning things are warm and fuzzy for a reason it is fresh and new. Those cute things can become annoying after you become accustomed to the person. There is nothing like that quirky stuff getting on your nerves, and usually that is the reason I fall back and discontinue calling and responding as much.

Long story short, the more you get to know the person the more you realize nawl, this ain’t what I want.

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
9:48 am

If a man continues to engage you, he’s interested???!!

Good morning folks….

That 2CENTS line is both right and wrong.

Yes, a man who answers his phone when u call and arranges dates and what not with u is comfortable with u like that.But he may also play games with that,thats why communication will need to be established still.

Does he eventually open his mouth to utter something suggesting he wants u for a girlfriend or he wants u as a ride along smash buddy??. Coz,clearly, a woman who is feeling him and anxious,like I see Lady J is,may assume things and but assume wrongly and be used(sorry for the word) And sometimes females have a hard time pressing,for fear of frightening the catch in case it flies away! :lol:

Its better to really know,thru communication and interaction than to assume and be wrong.I would rather, u still ask the qstion after a going on a number of dates…just so u know where u stand! And why not even open up urself about ur feelings towards him,so he knows??

That may be the moment he is waiting on!

The fact that we seeing each other on the regular,u know where i stay and i know urs and that we smashing on the regualr dont mean a thing about a long term exclusive relationship.

Good morning!

DreamsMaterialize

February 23rd, 2010
9:53 am

LadyJ
Tone Setter was always our first play in foot ball. The goal was to make your presence felt on the first play. If you could do that, then you could control the rest of the game.

Slim
Yeah I feel you. sometimes you gotta speak up and put your actions in perspective for the other person. Men like to show how they feel, women like to hear it.

Mo
I almost got got too. I thought maybe you were trying to make a statement by leaving off the rest of your name. So, how are you doing?

Mytwo
I know what the feedback is when she accepts the 2nd shot. lol

Mo (aka Moeisha )

February 23rd, 2010
9:59 am

Dreams – im good, hanging in here! But I could use a drank already though! LOL

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

February 23rd, 2010
10:10 am

Hello All,

This is a tough “one size does not fit all” discussion. It is almost always a tightrope walk trying to “demonstrate interest” without scaring the other off. I make very quick decisions. In my professional life, I am paid to make decisions and form opinions quickly and hopefully accurately…and act on those, accepting the consequences of my decisions. Relationships cause an inordinate amount of problems in this area.

In a perfect world (or at least in MY perfect world), after two or three dates both parties should know if they are “feeling it”. They should be able to look each other in the eye and say, “this is feeling really right, I like you a lot, and I want to see where this might go”. In the real world, we do this “mating dance” that turns everyone into a sort of “player” like it is some kind of (un)reality show.

People are scared to express their feelings…because they have been burned before. Shame, because any relationship not built on honesty will have a rough road, guaranteed.

abc

February 23rd, 2010
10:13 am

It’s the same old thing, once again: chicks are so focused on presenting an image that they obscure who and what they really are from others, and even from themselves.

Ladies, if a man wants you, you’ll know it. He’ll tell you, and demonstrate it in countless ways that you won’t be able to mistake for something else. If he doesn’t, then he doesn’t really want you. Simple, isn’t it? You should try it. I know, I know; you just can’t!

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
10:16 am

Mo sooooo true and dreamsM right on sir!!!! Professor decision made I am going….I am not going back to the eastside today until I lay my head down for the evening I am going to get a good park and seat order dinner and wine and do the damn thang life is short and I got to practice what I preach! LOL

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
10:16 am

funny topic about crystal balls.
I’ve been having visions lately. I’ve had them before in the past but lately they have been occurring more frequent.
I used to wish for the ability to see the future, now it’s kinda getting on nerves, lol.

The ex has agreed to meet me tomorrow for exchange of goods.
I’m sad it’s over because I know we will never ever ever get back together. I love myself too much to go thru that pain again.
I have to keep reminding myself that it’s not me why things didn’t work out, it’s him.
I was honest in how I felt and in my actions while he chose to the play games.

Will the real men please stand up?

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

February 23rd, 2010
10:25 am

@I am loved (I guess)

Two things real quickly (and forgive me, I am pi$$ed off at my company and so in a really “this is the reality” kind of mood.

1) Love yourself first, because no one else matters. If people sense that you do not love yourself they accept that feeling also…sort of a law of nature usually.

2) If women (and men) are not finding “real men (women)” then they usually are, as the old song goes, “lookin for love in all the wrong places”. They are there, next to you in line at Kroger, in the workplaces that you frequent, in churches, schools, etc.

Maybe it is not that they do not exist, maybe, it is that we sometimes look in all the wrong places.

Living Life

February 23rd, 2010
10:26 am

Hey Mo (aka Moeisha ) sorry about taking your name. I’m new to the site. I better change it:-) I’ll now be called Living Life:-)
@Lady J – what time is best for you?
@Raqi – I am with you about if a man really wants you he will show you.

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
10:27 am

Right Melo with your assessment just read it but it is true!:)

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
10:28 am

Living Life funny! LOL

For Real

February 23rd, 2010
10:30 am

“So how do you let them know that you want them?”

ZIPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!! Followed by “You can take your time but Ballwood here only got 50 strokes in him”

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
10:30 am

How do you process out not being pressed truly….what part of growth or wisdom or age or broken hearts does that I truly don’t care mode comes in bc I do still care for some odd reason that I am single…lol

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

February 23rd, 2010
10:32 am

good post Melo

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
10:32 am

um….not to be funny and way off topic but do folks wearing jerri curls realize that look is out of style (thinking this as someone with Jerri curls walks past me)

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
10:36 am

@ Randy

1st off: just because I’m going thru something don’t make assumptions

A) I do love myself- that’s why I am not partaking in his game playing
B) I wasn’t looking where I found him.

DreamsMaterialize

February 23rd, 2010
10:37 am

Mo
You need some drank already. Well ok, but drink cautiously. What’ll it be?

Living Life
Welcome, and good to read you.

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
10:38 am

Randy:

I honestly believe your advise applies to him.
I don’t think he loved himself. He couldn’t see what I saw and if you don’t love yourself, how can you love someone else?

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
10:39 am

How do you process out not being pressed truly….what part of growth or wisdom or age or??

Lady J??
If u luv somebody or are feeling them,just let them know.Coz that frees ur mind and heart and it wont weigh heavy on u after u do.

But dont display thirsty tendencies,be subtle,let the man lead with his actions and words and u follow what he his suggesting.

However,at some point after going out for a cpple of dates,u truly feel him,let him know,softly and tenderly without allowing urself to be taken advantage of. Dont rumble on and on about how u make a perfect match.(thats bull) Just lete him know u like him a lot to be his guy! Thats it!

Hear what he has to say and say that no further.Thats subtle pressing!(I hate to be smothered by a chic,waiting on me to say what she wants to hear) :lol: :lol:

After that declaration by u,just play it by ear and his actions! U can only be and in control of U!

Mo (aka Moeisha )

February 23rd, 2010
10:40 am

Living Life – welcome and its okay… glad you could join us!

Dreams – umm lets see, I’ll start w some flavored sweet tea for now, nothing too strong just yet… :smile:

For Real

February 23rd, 2010
10:40 am

I am: I just want to say you bring a 32 tooth smile to my face everyday. Dayum I would love to get you drunk and then turn you loose on the public.

mytw♥cents

February 23rd, 2010
10:41 am

MELO I agree with that Zulu logic there… I typed the part about using discernment in invisible ink. Also, I meant to point out that people ~ well, men~ often tell you EXACTLY what they want of you, but we choose to analyze it until it becomes what we want.

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
10:41 am

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
10:43 am

Got you melo I am seeing the issue know for real is right zzzzzzzzziiiiiiiiiipppppppp and let it flow through the actions vs the speech…..thanks big brotha seriously bc it is apparent I am doing something wrong and don’t mind being corrected!

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
10:43 am

ALOL @ For Real!!!

lurker

February 23rd, 2010
10:51 am

Ladies, when do you know a man wants you as much as you want him?

Wow. Always….given the circumstances are he’s doing all the right things. Never…he you’re getting nothing.

lurker

February 23rd, 2010
10:52 am

“never…’if’ you’re getting nothing”

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
11:01 am

Here’s what I’m learning: don’t make someone a priority when they only make you an option, be with someone that loves you more , hold back and keep them guessing, wondering, chasing…

princessnik

February 23rd, 2010
11:02 am

Morning All

abc….i agree with you….. “if a man wants you, you’ll know it. He’ll tell you, and demonstrate it in countless ways that you won’t be able to mistake for something else.”

@ Melo, sorry I didn’t have a chance to get back to you on the ugly girl/better sexxx question yesterday I had a busy day doing payroll.

princessnik

February 23rd, 2010
11:03 am

@ my two men~ often tell you EXACTLY what they want of you, but we choose to analyze it until it becomes what we want

so true

Professor...

February 23rd, 2010
11:07 am

um….not to be funny and way off topic but do folks wearing jerri curls realize that look is out of style (thinking this as someone with Jerri curls walks past me)

Hey I am loved! Those folks wearing Jerri curls, California curls, S-curls etc are just trying to blend and they look foolish…hahaha

Melo that was a daamn good post…I am raising my glass to you!

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
11:09 am

Professor: all I can think of when see her walk by is “….so let your soul glow…..”

Look at the pic: http://www.soupytrumpet.com/images/soul-glo.gif

Professor...

February 23rd, 2010
11:14 am

I am loved, girl you must be my cousin or something I think the same thing too when I see them! Oh yea about three years ago this lady came in asking my hairstylist to do her curl. My stylist said I don’t think they sell the curl stuff at my beauty supply store…the lady said oh I already have it with me because I know y’all don’t keep it at the shops and stuff. I was :shock: because that is a sign no one is wearing them if the product is never there, because we know that soul glow is not selling out

princessnik

February 23rd, 2010
11:16 am

@ Professor………..the lady said oh I already have it with me because I know y’all don’t keep it at the shops and stuff.

I probably would have passed out laughing so hard

princessnik

February 23rd, 2010
11:17 am

I AM Loved/Professor ya’ll got me seeing that moment in coming to america where the people get up from the sofa and have left three curl stains LOLOL

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
11:18 am

Morning Gang!

I’ve found that if a guy is truly interested, you don’t have to question things. It will be very apparent thru actions and even the shyest guys will let you know verbally too. My SO made his interest and his intentions very clear from jump. No guessing games.

In looking over my past relationships, when I had to “decipher” and try to “figure things out”, I was really being played. The guy was deliberately trying to keep me off balance. Not only that, the atmosphere was such that I was uncomfortable communicating my feelings or even asking what was up.

In the situation I am in now, I am not apprehensive. I am not afraid of “scaring him off”. When you feel that way, that’s your intuition, God, etc, telling you that things are not right. You should not have to walk on eggshells, especially if there has been sufficient time and not on the 1st date!

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
11:19 am

@ Professor………..the lady said oh I already have it with me because I know y’all don’t keep it at the shops and stuff. :shock:

ALOL!!!!!!

LL411

February 23rd, 2010
11:23 am

The ex has agreed to meet me tomorrow for exchange of goods. Did you talk dude into meeting you? I’ve been out of the loop a minute, but I thought the stuff was either going in the trash, or the mail or the attic…

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
11:24 am

Those curl chemicals smell like they ought to be strong as battery acid and burn thru somebody’s head! That’s such a disgusting style!

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
11:25 am

For the ladies: Ever notice that your single girlfriends are the most harsh if a guy doesn’t treat you the way you want to be treated?
He may have other qualities that are good but that one thing he did that messed up will have your girlfriends saying ” ah hell naw girl, let him go, don’t call him, etc!!!

Ever notice how the more open you are to allow a man mkae up for his mistake, you end up with more dates and possible marriage while your single friends stay, single?

Daily bread: don’t always listen to your single friends. there may be a reason why they stay single.

Professor...

February 23rd, 2010
11:25 am

Princessnik it was difficult holding it in, and the way she said it all huffy puffy with a lot of attitude made it really funny.

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
11:26 am

I am – Is it a situation where you live in a house and he could just drop the stuff off and/or you guys mail each other’s stuff, so you won’t have to see each other?

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 23rd, 2010
11:28 am

I am….that’s why it’s not the best idea to share too many negative aspects of your relationship with other people. They are outside looking in the window that you, maybe unknowingly, are setting for them. For whatever reason, negativity tends to outweigh the positives on many issues. It can take 12 positives to combat one single negative issue.

lurker

February 23rd, 2010
11:29 am

I AM LOVED – Ever notice that your single girlfriends are the most harsh if a guy doesn’t treat you the way you want to be treated?

That’s why you NEVER do the “tell all.” You have to make decisions for yourself. Half are just mad, so some things will need to be kept private. There’s only so much you share. The rest should ALWAYS be kept between the two parties involved. Even if it’s a bust and you’re resolved to walk, it’s private still.

lurker

February 23rd, 2010
11:30 am

I AM LOVED….I received flowers last week. You should have seen the HUGE question mark on my friend/coworker’s face. I was grinning on the inside like, nope I ain’t tell you. It’s nonya. LOL

lurker

February 23rd, 2010
11:31 am

….and because of that I removed the card….folks are dang nosey

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
11:33 am

I am – You really should make it a practice to not listen to people that give bad and/or unwarranted advice, single or married! I’ve had married folk give me horrible advice.

Only share your business with one or 2 people whose advice you respect and who are not only talking the talk, but walking it too.

Everyone, not just single friends, but family members too, only remember the bad, no matter how small, when you have long forgiven your mate for the offense. Don’t fault them for that, I think we’ve all been guilty of it. If it’s a minor enough offense, they’ll eventually come around. A lot of times, though, folks on the outside can see things you can’t see, or they just get a bad vibe. If it’s someone you respect, it may be worth at least considering. I can’t count the number of times friends and families have told me they didn’t feel right about a guy I was seeing, but didn’t want to say anything and let me come to the conclusion myself.

But sitting around telling your business to some nosey, misery-loves-company friends – that’s a bad, high school move.

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
11:35 am

Kimmie: In the situation I am in now, I am not apprehensive. I am not afraid of “scaring him off”. When you feel that way, that’s your intuition, God, etc, telling you that things are not right. You should not have to walk on eggshells, especially if there has been sufficient time and not on the 1st date!

Preach on sista!

Professor...

February 23rd, 2010
11:36 am

Princess…I am loved started this mess! Not to mention that soul glo ad she posted.

@Kimmie I agree with you. Those relationships that are not good for you it seems like you are “walking on eggshells” trying not to nag, or say what is making you feel a certain way. I am so glad the early to mid 20s are behind me…that is when those things took place in my life.

I am loved…I have one single friend I refuse to listen to or mention a relationship in convo to her. We have been friends forever, but she will go crazy on a man. I happened to see her out once and I was on a date…well she hung around trying to see and hear what we were talking about. She later told me she wanted to see how he looked when the check came for our meal. She called me later that night and said he was a player, and when I asked her why she thought that she said he looked like this guy we both knew. She is always single, and when she is dealing with a guy she always say I just need my needs met I don’t want him for real. However she is the main one driving by his house and checking his phone. Now she is cool on other levels to kick it with etc., but she will dog a man out.

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
11:37 am

Hey Hey Hey everyone, I don’t tell all!

I’m just saying! I have a few close friends and man they can be harsh!
Some of their advise can be harsh but I follow the beat of my own drum.
I’ve also learned that those that are happily married give the best advise :-) (in my case anyway)

princessnik

February 23rd, 2010
11:39 am

@ I am Loved……..Ever notice that your single girlfriends are the most harsh if a guy doesn’t treat you the way you want to be treated?

Misery loves company honey, and not to mention women as a whole tend to hate on each other, they wanna floss when they have, and pull you down when they don’t.

Lurker said it rather nicely “There’s only so much you share. The rest should ALWAYS be kept between the two parties involved.”

Let us not forget that “The clean up woman” does still exist

princessnik

February 23rd, 2010
11:40 am

@ Lurker……and because of that I removed the card….folks are dang nosey

too funny my mom did the same thing I sent her some thanks/just because flowers and she said her office was trying so hard to see where they came from

princessnik

February 23rd, 2010
11:42 am

I am loved…..”I’ve also learned that those that are happily married give the best advise ”

if you are going to seek advice, seek advice of people who are where you want to be, people who have your best interest at heart

kinderbabe

February 23rd, 2010
11:42 am

good morning all.:) hope everyone is well this morning

Professor...

February 23rd, 2010
11:44 am

Let us not forget that “The clean up woman” does still exist

Yes Ma’am they exist…good point

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
11:45 am

I am – You don’t have to “tell all” to some. They are the kind that are just ready to pounce! Feed those with a long-handled spoon.

One of my married, but very nosey & opinionated friends was over my house. Me & my SO had been dating for about 6 months. I called him for something, he was not available, so I left a message. I knew he was out with his kids to a movie or something, so I was not worried that he was out of pocket, and I’m not the clingy type anyway. About an hour & a half passed and he had not called back. I was still not worried. Well, my friend was. She told me that was a bad sign and don’t be surprised or disappointed if things didn’t work out with him. I completely ignored her. She came to that negetive conclusion on her own, even though all she did was overhear me leaving a message.

lurker

February 23rd, 2010
11:46 am

Princessnik – Funny too, she walked up unexpectedly and was taken aback…why? Right, because you don’t know all you think you know. Heck the stuff we chuck it up about is ONLY surface. She’s got access to my floor so I politely removed the minute she walked away because I sort of got that gut feeling that she’d be back.

Tell your mom we are here <> <>

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
11:51 am

LL411 : I had his stuff stored where I wouldn’t have to look at it.
Lst week, he sent me a text saying he wants his key back because “he met someone that meets his needs”

Kimmie: rather meet him in public to do the swap. His idea and I’m cool with it. I don’t want him to come to house, my son is there.

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
11:53 am

Lurker: I’m happy you got flowers :-)

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
11:55 am

I don’t want him to come to house, my son is there.

Okay, gotcha!

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
11:56 am

Interesting topic….how do you know when someone wants you. Went out Sat. night and 3 men gave me their numbers. Yep, I took 2 of them. One has been calling and texting since Sun morn. However, one of his texts asked me to send him a WOW picture. I asked what a WOW pic was, but had an idea. He sent me a pic of him barechested with just a hint of pubic hair showing. What a turnoff so early in the game.

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
11:56 am

Hello, i am loved, good to read you.

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
11:57 am

princessnik : I do!!!
The best way to be rich is to learn from rich people.
Poor can’t get rich following the advise of poor people!

I’m just grateful GOD has blessed me with the ability to treat men with kindness and not try to be harsh, snap on them, etc….
As they say, you attract bees with honey.

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
11:59 am

waving at Leggs: Hey shuga!!!!

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
12:00 pm

ut-oh! I’m in trouble….some dude texting me and I can’t remember who he is :shock:

Professor...

February 23rd, 2010
12:04 pm

He sent me a pic of him barechested with just a hint of pubic hair showing.

:shock:
:???:
:shock:
:mrgreen:
:shock:
:mrgreen:
:shock:

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
12:04 pm

Leggs : I got you beat.

Nice dude I met once sent me a dick pic. :shock:
I was so turned off

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
12:04 pm

He sent me a pic of him barechested with just a hint of pubic hair showing

Leggs??

I assume this is a man about ur age,smewhat??

I hear about this a lot and it boggles my mind?? :lol:

Men using wangs to woo women?? :???: :-) :roll:

Does this man behavior appeal to some women?? (really wanna know)

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
12:05 pm

I am – Another thing to consider – my mom used to tell me you never know what’s going on in somebody else’s house. A lot of people talk a good game, about how tough they are and what they would or wouldn’t let so-and-so do, blah, blah, but behind closed doors they are whimpering puppies, they turn into a complete marshmallow.

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
12:06 pm

Melo – No, it does not appeal to women, but some men are just stupid.

Professor...

February 23rd, 2010
12:06 pm

I am loved…are you over there BIG pimpin’?

:grin: ….some dude texting me and I can’t remember who he

Professor...

February 23rd, 2010
12:09 pm

Melo, this behavior does not appeal to women at least not some women. Leggs mentioned she met him like Sunday, and today is only Tuesday he is trying to open them “leggs” too soon it is disrespectful and a turnoff.

Leggs did he have a Tyson Bedford chest? Like supa fine :grin:

lurker

February 23rd, 2010
12:10 pm

I AM LOVED…I’m happy you’re happy I got flowers

Professor...

February 23rd, 2010
12:12 pm

Melo would you send a racy picture with your shirt off to a chick you just met?

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
12:13 pm

Leggs: hope he didn’t have taco meet.

Princess: maybe that’s why I’m not so upset to see the ex since I’m over here pimpin , :-D lol

Sunday: dude from 2 years ago still texting me
Monday: dude that I just met that has been emailing gives me the number and is like please please call
Tuesday : Dude who I couldn’t remember who is but just now remembered – is texting me.

Yep! It’s gonna be a great week! :mrgreen:

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
12:15 pm

Lurker: I’m happy you’re happy I’m happy you got flowers!

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 23rd, 2010
12:15 pm

A pub hair pic has nothing on a dude sending a vid of him wacking off with his church socks still on, on a Sunday afternoon!! Buddy ain’t learn nuttin’ in service that day other than how to service himself. LMAO

lurker

February 23rd, 2010
12:16 pm

I AM LOVED…I’m happy that you’re happy that I’m happy that you’re happy I got flowers

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
12:18 pm

OOOOOOOOOOOOHHHHHHHHHHHHH !!!! COOOOOOOOOOOOKKKKKKKKIIIIIIIIIEEEEEE!
My girl scout cookies come today!!!!!

me in a few hours: http://kindkitchen.files.wordpress.com/2008/07/cookie-monster.jpg
nom nom nom nom

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
12:18 pm

Melo would you send a racy picture with your shirt off to a chick you just met?

I wldnt even consider sending a wang pic even if she asked for some racy pic…not in me. :roll:

I cant imagine getting myself hard and getting my iphone to get a shot just coz some trick asked… :lol: smdh ??

LL411

February 23rd, 2010
12:19 pm

@ I AM… give him his sh*t and do the happy skip the other way…NEXT!

Comments on the friends that disappear with the divorce… I had someone I thought was a good friend (I was more friend to her than she was to me), I’d done her favors (jail bail = long story, lend money from my sock drawer, etc.)

When I told her I was going to divorce this bit*ch could not understand why, I never talked my business, so to her everything was perfect. She was “auntie” to my kids and friends with my husband, we were suppose to be like family. The kicker came when I pulled my credit report during this time and saw a cell phone I’d gotten in my name for her and she’d been paying on had been reported delinquent. I asked her about it and she very nasty like told me she had “other” bills to pay.
Truthfully, I believe she knew her cash flow was about to dry up. Can you say “niccka”!

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
12:19 pm

SlimOne…just call me Nicety!: you got all us beat. :shock:

Professor...

February 23rd, 2010
12:19 pm

@SlimOne :shock: are you serious???? Not the church socks on…yuck!

DreamsMaterialize

February 23rd, 2010
12:20 pm

Does this man behavior appeal to some women??
Ladies just remember one thing when you’re completely baffled about why a guy would possibly do something so foolish. That fact that he felt comfortable doing it to you means that he’s done it elsewhere with success. So, he’s done it to other women and had positive results.

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
12:24 pm

Dreams Mat I agree

But church socks???? C’Mon Son!!!!

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
12:25 pm

“…trying to open them “leggs” too soon it is disrespectful and a turnoff.” EXACTLY.

Nice body, but come on SON, too soon for WOW pictures if any at all. He’s 42. Met him Saturday night, got home 3:30 and he calls me 5:30 to tell me he’s at breakfast and enjoyed meeting me. Calls again at 1:45 to ask what do I do w/my daughter “when Stella wants to get her groove on.” If you could have seen my face or even felt my heart cuz it sank that one bum rushes straight to this without even getting to know my last name! It’s brutal out there!

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
12:26 pm

So, he’s done it to other women and had positive results.

You know Dreams, I don’t even believe that. I think some are sick & truly don’t have a clue.

Or if they did get a “bit” from that type of behavior, it was from someone as seedy as they are & they are looking for a repeat. Even then I highly doubt it.

I say that because I recall asking a few guys that did stupid stuff like that, years ago, why they did it. They said they thought some women liked it. I asked how was it working. They sat there looking blank.

Le Siren- I'm baaaack!

February 23rd, 2010
12:27 pm

Nothing is a bigger turnoff than an inappropriate body pic early in the game!!!! I absolutely HATE that! Besides, it makes you look desperate.

Professor...

February 23rd, 2010
12:29 pm

Leggs he is a loser asking somebody that mess on Sunday morning…WTH is wrong with him. I cannot stand it when a man ask me about sex too soon. smdh

Ok, what did you tell him, because I want to use that line one day I know you said something slick.

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
12:30 pm

“…fact that he felt comfortable doing it to you means that he’s done it elsewhere with success.”

@DreamsM ~ No doubt. When men do this, I look at it as their way of seeing how I would react and I would actually be down to entertain their foolishness. Well, he found out I’m not down! It’s all a design to see who will bite and who won’t! There are so many “gauges” out there to peek into one’s personality that you simply have to be careful. There is no reason ofn God’s Green Earth for me to send a WOW pic of myself to someone I’ve known for less than 48 hours. Some of you guys are bonkers.

I’ll tell you about the dude whose number I didn’t take. And he was dead serious!!

Bibay

February 23rd, 2010
12:32 pm

SlimOne- ROFLMAO!! Not with the church socks still on!

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
12:35 pm

without even getting to know my last name! It’s brutal out there!

l think Dreamz may have a point altho im still baffled. Clearly a guy behaving the way he did to Leggs aint looking for anything serious? Maybe they are used to just hitting pros,who knows??

If that works,then clearly,yeah,it has to be brutal out there,for the women who get theirs in on that play!

:-) :roll: :lol:

Bibay

February 23rd, 2010
12:37 pm

Leggs- there is an article in the Essence about how folks are “sexting” and sending naked pics. Men in their 30’s saying it is a game to get women to send pics to show to their boys. Just too immature and foolish.

Professor...

February 23rd, 2010
12:38 pm

Melo,

Do you think these guys are looking for the “liberated” women? You know the women that get their groove on and boast about it. Because a lot of women would have met up with him that evening and knocked the boots off sideways.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 23rd, 2010
12:40 pm

Dreams, You might have a point with the guys doing it from previous success…but I think sometimes it’s just for shock value. Maybe we’ve all turned into a bunch of conceited exhibitionistic voyeurs (yeah, i made that word up lol)

My cousin showed me the vid and I was like ARE YOU SERIOUS? REALLY? Said he just sent it out the blue one day. She just never responded…I mean what was the dude going to say, “hey, did you get my video I sent?” He should’ve been embarrassed. I can see if this was sent late night on a Friday or Saturday after exchanging drunk texts but chuuch socks? LMAO!!!!!! :???:

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
12:41 pm

Clearly a guy behaving the way he did to Leggs aint looking for anything serious?

Melo – Exactly, that’s what I was trying to get at! Any male (not man) that does that is looking for sleaze, not substance. So he may have been “successful”, just defined in a different way!LOL!!

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
12:41 pm

LL411 : I wish the ex the very best. I told him that I hope his new relationship works out.

You have to leave a realationship with grace.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 23rd, 2010
12:42 pm

A guy on my facebook page made an official announcement with regards to chicks sending racy pics, especially the ones taken in the bathroom. He was like mayne, some of yall chicks need to clean ya dayum bathrooms…toothpaste splatters all on the mirror so it always looks cloudy, a whole bunch of crap on the counter, or the ones taken in the bedroom, you see piles & piles of dirty clothes in the background..That AIN’T cute or sexy! lmao :lol:

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
12:44 pm

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
12:44 pm

@Professor, it’s not often I’m caught off guard, but I was. My only reply was “it won’t be you!” I said goodbye cuz I had to finish getting ready to take lil leggs to see Alvin Ailey!

I can’t type…

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
12:46 pm

SlimOne…just call me Nicety! how bout the bathroom pics where folks forgot to flush? :shock: EEEEEEEEEEEWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!

SexyCool

February 23rd, 2010
12:46 pm

A “WOW pic” – LMAO!

czBrat

February 23rd, 2010
12:49 pm

Hi Yas!

just popping in but had to :lol: :lol: @ Leggs’ text request. that’s just creepy!

Hola Profesora! Hi Melo!

brb

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
12:49 pm

LMSBAO!!!!!!

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
12:50 pm

liberated” women? You know the women that get their groove on and boast about it.

@Proff!

I think there are a lot of females in their late 30s to 40s/50s,proly married and divorced and not looking for anything long term or permanent who may be on that route. I really think they are there and dont mind flounting their sexxuality the same way a raging male(30+) or 40sh,not looking for much else,may also be flaunting his.

Thus the size of the package may be an issue here.

Lemme see what u working with?? :-) coz the mindest maybe,i dont wanna waste a night or my hours on some lame package??

I can imagine that.

:lol: :lol:

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
12:50 pm

Do you think these guys are looking for the “liberated” women?

Professor – Okay, but these “liberated” women better not be whining later on that they can’t find a “good” man! And the sick men doing it can’t complain about not being able to meet a nice “lady”, later on down the line when they’re old and dried-up and alone!

Where yall meet these kind of people?

SMH

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
12:53 pm

Hey CzBrat/Le Siren!

For Real

February 23rd, 2010
12:54 pm

Wayyyyyy Off Topic: 500 if someone can tell me what sport has got this coach pissed off?

The coach of China’s world champion women ripped into the team after losing to struggling Russia on Monday, saying they lacked passion and that his days with the squad were numbered.

China went down 7-4 to the Russians, who are near the bottom of the pack, one day after handing Canada their first loss of the Olympics. China’s record stands at 5-3.

“I’m furious,” the team’s Canadian coach, Dan Rafael, told reporters after the game.

Rafael said he aims to keep coaching after the Olympics, but pressed on if he would do so for China, he said: “Probably not.”

His contract runs until June 2010.

Rafael blasted the players, led by Wang Bingyu, for being inconsistent and not taking his directions to heart. He said they were treating the Olympic competition as if it was just another job.

“This is the national team,” he said. “It’s been together for six or seven years and most of the players have been on the team for that long and take it for granted.”

China came into the competition as strong contenders, having beaten Sweden last year to take the world title, a first for an Asian team. Rafael has been stingy with praise even when they have won, saying their performance changes with each end in a game.

“I don’t know who’s going to show up—the team that played Canada yesterday, or the team that played Russia today,” he said.

Despite the loss, China is still in third place and in the running to make the semifinals, which start later this week.

When asked about her coach’s tirade, Wang, 25, said she had just come off the ice but that she was also angry about the loss. She rejected the accusation that she and her team mates were not passionate about the game.

“Of course we love ,” she said.

For Real

February 23rd, 2010
12:55 pm

Kimmie: Shouldn’t you call the females sick too if they are partaking? Fair and Balanced?

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
1:04 pm

these kind of people

It’s all sick, 4Real, not trying NOT to hold anybody accountable. But that’s a world I don’t deal in, so I’m not taking sides, male or female, don’t care about being fair.

Professor...

February 23rd, 2010
1:05 pm

Hey czBrat!

Melo/Kimmie I have seen a lot of what I call “liberated” women that brag about being on the prowl and boast about getting theirs and in the end they look :cry: :cry :cry: because that is not what they want.

Also I had a friend in college that would always find fault in women little stuff like I don’t date them over 125 and she is 133 or I do not like her car. Once he pledged he went crazy sleeping around and he complains about the lack of good women running around here.

Professor...

February 23rd, 2010
1:06 pm

Lol I only wanted to delete friend…

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
1:10 pm

@Bibay ~ to show to their boys. You kidding me, right? Didn’t that stop once you got out of your 20’s? I kid, I kid, but somewhere around mid 30’s, NO??? Ok, I guess NEVA!! A damn shame!

This is not gonna break my spirit. This is not gonna break my spirit. This is not gonna break my spirit. I said, this is not gonna break my spirit!!!!

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 23rd, 2010
1:10 pm

Well I think the folks that are brandishing their private parts should just take that mess to Craigslist. lol

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 23rd, 2010
1:13 pm

I AM “bathroom pics where folks forgot to flush?” Can you say VOMIT in my mouth?!!!!!!!!!! That reminds me, someone I know said a dude they were talking to asked if she would send him a pic of her peeing. :???: :shock:

czBrat

February 23rd, 2010
1:14 pm

of course it’s not gonna break your spirit Leggs. just laugh at that fool ‘n KIM. he will attract the type of woman that responds to such nonsense. YOU will attract maturity :)

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
1:14 pm

@ForReal ~ I believe the sport is “Curling”

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
1:18 pm

czB ~ I am laughing. It’s absolutely amazing. However, would like to come on here soon and not give you guys a M.I.A. You know me, I’m over here a hollering over this mess. It did pinch at the heart, but found out in less than 48 hours I don’t need to be wasting my time. When I let someone jump my bones, best believe it will be with a lot more class than he showed me! Just plain disrespctful…

Sassy Me :-)

February 23rd, 2010
1:21 pm

Yes Leggs I think it’s curling,too. Both the men’s and women’s teams have been struggling…from what I’ve seen. They’ve won some matches(or Ends) recently but they struggled a bit in the beginning.

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
1:21 pm

Just plain disrespctful…

Leggs – That’s the way I take it. I mean, if all you want is sleaze, go pay a pro. There is a classy way to get sleaze. But to resort to “tech-flashing” should be illegal.

SexyCool

February 23rd, 2010
1:23 pm

Speaking of tech-flashing, it appears that ChatRoulette users see plenty of that.

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
1:29 pm

Lurker: I’m happy that you’re happy that I’m happy that you’re happy that I’m happy that you’re happy I got flowers

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 23rd, 2010
1:29 pm

Imma need the flights to Vegas to drop a lil :shock:

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
1:30 pm

@ForReal ~ please deposit the $500 in 056 999930 1238…thank ya veerrry much!

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
1:31 pm

:shock: just remembered I can’t run for president due to my explicit pics my exes have of me :shock:

Slim one: Can you say VOMIT in my mouth?!!!!!!!!!!

Okay why I got to eat that as I’m enjoying my cookies…
Ick!!!!

cookie monster no happy

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
1:32 pm

Well, you didn’t say 500 of what??? So never mind the deposit!

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 23rd, 2010
1:32 pm

I AM Tell me about it..I was trying to enjoy the new Cherry Pie from Mickey D’s…then ewwwwww blech!

DreamsMaterialize

February 23rd, 2010
1:45 pm

Kimmie
I guess there’s some dudes out there who just keep doing the same dumb things without EVER getting any positive results, but I have to believe that most are doing it because they’ve had some success…unless you’re the first one they tried it on.

Do you think these guys are looking for the “liberated” women?
I wouldn’t consider those women liberated. A liberated woman thinks things through, weighs options, assesses the impacts of her decisions, and does so without blindly accepting the norms of everyone else. Liberated means free, but not irresponsibly free.

lurker

February 23rd, 2010
1:46 pm

I AM LOVED…you’re funny and refreshing!

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
1:47 pm

When a person wants you they will make time for you. They will have your best interest at heart. They will talk about you to their friends. They will want to show you off to the world.

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
1:49 pm

SlimOne…just call me Nicety n see that’s where you went wrong.
Mickey Dee cherry pie!! Naw girl! :P
Chocolate chip cookie where it’s at!

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
1:50 pm

I have to believe that most are doing it because they’ve had some success…unless you’re the first one they tried it on.

DreamsMat, I don’t know what you are talking about, but just reading up from the bottom that statement is true. I asked a guy friend once why some men say some dumb crap or expect women to do dumb crap and think it not odd to ask. He said because it worked on somebody.

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
1:50 pm

Lurker: I like that you think I am funny and refreshing!
:-D

princessnik

February 23rd, 2010
1:50 pm

I am Loved….

girl I am with you on the Choc Chip Cookies, especially when they are fresh and warm and the choc is just the right gooey :)

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
1:51 pm

hey if we are giving out money…..make it rain on me.
I have bills to pay!

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
1:52 pm

Princess!!! I loves me some Mikey Dee cookies!!!!!

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
1:54 pm

I’m trying to post but can’t determine which word is preventing it from posting!

@WD ~ please let my people go!!!

Professor

February 23rd, 2010
1:54 pm

Slim how is that cherry pie? Is it baked or fried? Personally I like that apple pie they used to sell back in the day fried all crisp…yum

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
1:55 pm

Before I have to get back to my 10K edits, here’s dude #2, age 52:

He walked around the club so much I thought he was security making sure everyone’s area was drama free. Anyway, he finally sat down beside me and introduced himself. Complimented my dress. He’s wearing a suit, buttoned up shirt with tie. He laughed when I asked if he was security saying I was the 2nd person who asked him that. He asked me to dance. We talk for a few and I ask if he’s married. The pause was ri di culously funny so I said never mind, you’ve already answered. He said “no wait, let me explain.” Standard boiler plate language to follow: blah, blah, blah, married 20 years. Going through a divorce…wife lives in one part of the house and he lives in the other. He says he likes my “spirit” and thinks we could have fun together. I laugh and ask if he’s really serious.” Of course he says yeah! He ask if I would give him my number or if I wanted his. I said neither one. I am not looking for that type of drama in my life. He had the AUDACITY to say his wife is boring, acts older than her years. I said if you don’t get away from me I’m going to call real security and tell them you’re bothering me!

Someone must have switched my perfume with “horny” juice cuz all I’m attracting are free wielding coochie slayers!

Le Siren- I'm baaaack!

February 23rd, 2010
1:56 pm

Hey Melo! I know it’s been a loooong time since I’ve posted…but I lurk all the time:)

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
1:57 pm

Dreams – You took the words right out of my mouth, about the term “liberated”. These women are not liberated at all.

While I think the men that do some of those stupid, disrespectful things do it out of stupidity or for shock value, you are right, the rest have had success at it. But probably their definition of success – someone of the same ilk that will go along for the quick ride, cheaper than paying a “pro”, I guess.

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
1:57 pm

Before I have to get back to my 10-K edits, here’s dude #2, age 52:

He walked around the club so much I thought he was security making sure everyone’s area was drama free. Anyway, he finally sat down beside me and introduced himself. Complimented my dress. He’s wearing a suit, buttoned up shirt with tie. He laughed when I asked if he was security saying I was the 2nd person who asked him that. He asked me to dance. We talk for a few and I ask if he’s married. The pause was crazy long so I said never mind, you’ve already answered. He said “no wait, let me explain.” Standard boiler plate language to follow: blah, blah, blah, married 20 years. Going through a divorce…wife lives in one part of the house and he lives in the other. He says he likes my “spirit” and thinks we could have fun together. I laugh and ask if he’s really serious.” Of course he says yeah! He ask if I would give him my number or if I wanted his. I said neither one. I am not looking for that type of drama in my life. He had the AUDACITY to say his wife is boring, acts older than her years. I said if you don’t get away from me I’m going to call real security and tell them you’re bothering me!

Someone must have switched my perfume with “horny” juice cuz all I’m attracting are free wielding coochie slayers!

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
2:01 pm

Leggs, I don’t know the best places to meet people, but the clubs are just not it.

SMH

princessnik

February 23rd, 2010
2:03 pm

leggs/Cee

I’m thinking of signing Princess2 up for rec soccer/tball approx how much are cleats and pants?

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
2:04 pm

aaawwww. Poor Leggs, LOL

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
2:04 pm

LOL Leggs. That’s just sad.

Professor

February 23rd, 2010
2:04 pm

Ms. Leggs were you wearing a mini-mini dress?

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
2:04 pm

I heard club Kroger on Peach is a good spot.

SMH LOL!!!!!

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
2:04 pm

thinks we could have fun together

Even that statement right there rubs me the wrong way!

LL411

February 23rd, 2010
2:05 pm

You have to leave a relationship with grace.

That’s right!

Once my feelings have been hurt to the point of no more tears/anger, it’s DEUCES! Nah, I’m not going to call ya job, slash ya tires, blow up your phone, nada!

DreamsM… I met a guy on-line, talked once on the phone.. that was well over a year ago. This dude must have a text mail list (???) he sends to every female in his phone, stuff like: thinking of you, have a blessed day, haven’t heard from you in a while. People that send out WOW pics and texts like this and don’t even know you are str8 crazy.

SexyCool

February 23rd, 2010
2:05 pm

Leggs – what do you like to do besides cook and parent Lil Leggs? Do you have some hobbies or interests that would allow you to get into some clubs or organizations that would increase your chances of meeting a like-minded, normal guy?

For Real

February 23rd, 2010
2:07 pm

Legg: Yes you are right. I just can’t see how you can get upset at that sport. Now for your 500, I can give you 500 pics of just my toco meat or you can get toco meat and chest umm wait Kimmie took all of those but I can substitute the toco meant and chest with a pic of back hair, or pics of the bumps on the back of my head or you can select the nice azz pic of my razor bumps, oh yeah I just got the pics of my ashy azz feet and look you can see how long I let me toenails grow. I might have to hold those for Slim. Dayum that girl got foot fetish out of this world. Oh, oh, I know you have the pics I got of my hair booty got that idea from Prince. Wait, wait, dayum naw Professor been on me for 3 months for those pics. Hold on, now I do have nice pic of my ashy knees you can have. Ish my fault again, Mo loves those too merch for me to give dem away. Well just pick from the other while I look at my poak, pert, portpholi, my picture book.

SexyCool

February 23rd, 2010
2:08 pm

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
2:09 pm

4 Real – LOL!!!

SexyCool

February 23rd, 2010
2:09 pm

(let me try htis again)
LL411 – I call that kind of texting – performing regular Public Relations for the masses.

WillieD – if you are around, send me an email. I realize that I never answered a question you posted a few weeks back. cscfromajc@yahoo.com

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
2:11 pm

LL: I’m sad of the outcome but I am happy to know that GOD has something better and special for me.

I can’t wait for the next relationship to start one day. :-)

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
2:11 pm

Leggs, have you tried eHarmony?

For Real

February 23rd, 2010
2:13 pm

Dude: Hey I like you I think we could alot of fun together.

Kimmie: (In her Aunt Ester voice) Wait-a-minute Sucker!

Dude: Umm I’m sorry. Do you eat?

Kimmie: (In her Witney Houston voice) BOBBYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!

princessnik

February 23rd, 2010
2:15 pm

For Real I love your “skits”

For Real

February 23rd, 2010
2:16 pm

Raqi: What do you about real-Hornimee?

Sassy Me :-)

February 23rd, 2010
2:18 pm

thinks we could have fun together = we could have sex together

Married men kill me with this crap…then they don’t understand how come you don’t wanna play. STFU already.

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
2:18 pm

ForReal, huh?

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
2:19 pm

4 Real – Go sit down!(said in my Aunt Ester voice) LOL!!!

SexyCool

February 23rd, 2010
2:19 pm

Raqi, Kimmie – Mailbag.

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
2:21 pm

<—back in while, gotta drop kids off at the pool

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
2:22 pm

LMAO AT real!!!!! about time one of skits is actually funny!

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
2:24 pm

@kimmie ~ I realize clubs are not the spot, but was invited to a b-day party at The Crowe’s Nest and have only been there once many moons ago and was curious about the place.

@Cee ~ go to http://www.eastbay.com. I just bought cleats. Track season official starts TODAY. Looking forward to this meet so I can actually see her run!

@Professor ~ it was short, but not micro (LOL).

@SexyC ~ you’re in my head, you’re in my head. I’m going to take the last class of my exotic dance classes and then I’m going to take salsa lessons, then I’m going to join a bicycling club. I tell you what I won’t join is a BINGO club!!!

@ForReal ~ I hollered…I was happy to read that somebody got the booty hair pic cuz I definitely didn’t want that one. Oh snap, it’s you Professor, you freak!

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 23rd, 2010
2:25 pm

Professor It says it’s Baked…mmmmm

East Point's Own

February 23rd, 2010
2:25 pm

THE INFAMOUS DK

February 23rd, 2010
2:26 pm

If you want my Body and you think Im sexy come on baby let me Know…

princessnik

February 23rd, 2010
2:28 pm

Infamous DK that post made me picture nell carter and an episode of gimme a break…………….LMBO

Dream_n

February 23rd, 2010
2:29 pm

Popping in for a quick second…

I’ve never worked so hard in my life.. but the benefits will be well worth it.

Topic?

SexyCool

February 23rd, 2010
2:29 pm

Actually, DK, everytime I read the title, I sing in my head:

“Want me? Dontchu want me? To kiss and to hold me tight.” ♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪
Head nod to Raqi.

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
2:36 pm

Rod Stewart…I like that song!

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
2:37 pm

@Raqi ~ I’ve been seriously considering it.

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
2:39 pm

SexyCool, I keep thinking of a song but I cannot figure out what it is. It goes something like “if you want me, say it….” I think. Do you know what song that may be?

SexyCool

February 23rd, 2010
2:41 pm

Sing louder, Raqi. I can’t hear you.

SexyCool

February 23rd, 2010
2:41 pm

Oh…and I just tore Jody’s lyrics UP!

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
2:41 pm

Melo and gang I got accepted in to grad school!!!! Yay me!!!! just sharing! as always thanks for bearing all of me! haha! Will celebrate the news! LOL

SexyCool

February 23rd, 2010
2:42 pm

Want me, don’t you want me
To touch you and to hold you tight
Don’t you want me like I want you
To kiss and love all through the night.

Dream_n

February 23rd, 2010
2:42 pm

It’s Brownstone… Raqi

Professor you’re still here???

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
2:42 pm

Leggs, one of the ladies here is dating a guy that she met on eharmony. This is the 3rd guy that she met thru them and she speaks highly of their service. I would always tease her about the eharmony commercials and how the couples just look so right for each other and it’s all supposed to be based on “personality” traits.

She doesn’t badly of the first two attempts. She just says it a process that the system take you thru. She was telling one of the guys about it just last week. Try it and see.

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
2:43 pm

I was working as a waitress in a hotel bar
That much is true
…………
…………..( I don’t remember the rest of the words)

Don’t you want me bay-by?
Don’t you want me, oh ah oh?

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
2:46 pm

Thank you Dream_n.

♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪
If you love me, say it
If you trust me, do it
If you want me, show it
If you need me, prove it

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
2:47 pm

SexyCool, can you hear me now? LOL

♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪
If you love me, say it
If you trust me, do it
If you want me, show it
If you need me, prove it

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
2:47 pm

Raqi – I like that song too.

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
2:47 pm

You see now actions speak louder than words
So don’t just say things that I’ve already heard
Don’t want your body without your soul
I don’t want a love who will come here and go

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
2:48 pm

Lady J?!!!!

Way to go mummy..self improvement is it……

Now look!!?? ,that ex old ish got none on u…… :lol: getting urslef right!!

Congratulations!!!

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
2:48 pm

thanks brotha!

Gary

February 23rd, 2010
2:49 pm

I hate Women, to bad we can’t be segregated, it would make my life easier there would be no distractions.

SexyCool

February 23rd, 2010
2:50 pm

You are officially ALL THE WAY TURNED UP!!!

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
2:50 pm

Congrats Lady J!!!

I remember that feeling when I got in. I really enjoyed grad school. It was all about business. Different from undergrad, which I also enjoyed, but on a different level.

Cool beans!

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
2:51 pm

I hate Women

Gary, how does your mother feel about that?

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
2:53 pm

It’s plenty dudes out there then, Gary.

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
2:57 pm

@Raqi ~ the group is SWV, but can’t think of the song title…might be If You Want Me, Say IT???

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
2:58 pm

Thanks Kimmie I am soooo excited and the key for me is not to give up! I have to see this through and I am happy I am going to bigger and better things!!!!!

Living Life

February 23rd, 2010
2:59 pm

Congrats Lady J.

E-Harmony…..Hmmm I recall a friend a few yrs back doing the online dating thing and all the men she got only wanted one thing. That turned me off from even thinking about it, but I have heard of some that have had good experiences.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 23rd, 2010
3:00 pm

Pretty slow blog day. Yawwwn! Is it 5 o’clock yet?

lurker

February 23rd, 2010
3:00 pm

Going through a divorce…wife lives in one part of the house and he lives in the other. He says he likes my “spirit” and thinks we could have fun together.

Wouldn’t it be nice if a body part would fall off everytime this sort of lie is told.

czBrat

February 23rd, 2010
3:01 pm

awwww! Lady J, congratulations!!! (isn’t there an emoticon for clapping???) well, i’m giving you a standing O at my desk :)

SexyCool

February 23rd, 2010
3:02 pm

Mad props, LadyJ.

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
3:05 pm

Lady J

Girl, you will be done & graduating before you know it! What made it so great for me were a few things. First, I was scared I might not get in because there were folks I KNEW had better grades than I did in undergrad that could not get in that school. Second, it felt so good being around such brilliant people! There were folks that had their own businesses, a few I’d already heard of! The professors were great too, and everyone respected my ideas and what I had to say. There were also a few classes where not only was I the only AA, but the only woman. And those men were SO NICE and respectful to me, treated me as an equal! It was a great experience!

i'm swiss

February 23rd, 2010
3:06 pm

“I was working as a waitress in a hotel bar
That much is true
…………
…………..( I don’t remember the rest of the words)”

But even then I knew I’d find a much better place
Either with or without you…

I am the king of 80’s synth-pop ;-)

Luvbug - The V Keeper

February 23rd, 2010
3:08 pm

I can never tell when a guy likes me – completely oblivious. Of course, if he’s always trying to be around me, it crosses my mind…but unless he’s doing that and tells me, I don’t know…won’t guess…won’t assume.

When I like (or don’t like) a guy that I’ve been around for a while, I say it. If I don’t say it, it means that I could go either way (serious relationship or not).

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
3:08 pm

Kimmie I needed that I copied and pasted it and saved it to my email…I will view that periodically that there is a end and I can’t run bc others are smarter and are in better or different places than me!!!!! Thanks sooo much!!!!

@czBrat thanks this is a bit personal for me and youand that is motivation tooo!!!!! thanks for the well wishes!!!!

Living Life thanks for the congrats!

Luvbug

February 23rd, 2010
3:09 pm

Enter your comments here

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
3:09 pm

SexyCool thanks honey!!!!!:)

czBrat

February 23rd, 2010
3:09 pm

Life i once completed an eharmony profile but didnt sign up for the service because their fees were ridiculous. i suppose if you’re searching for your soulmate then money doesn’t matter, but i was just looking for chatter. i started a profile on another dating site and ended up meeting my s/o there. couldn’t be happier!

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
3:10 pm

ok going to register for classes!!!!! Thanks blog read ya in the morning!

LL411

February 23rd, 2010
3:10 pm

Wouldn’t it be nice if a body part would fall off everytime this sort of lie is told. LMAO!!!!

czBrat

February 23rd, 2010
3:11 pm

ok. now i’m gonna fold my arms and pout cuz the blog-gobblin is eating my posts. :/

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
3:13 pm

@Kimmie ~ Human League….B98.5 plays that song to death.

You were working as a waitress in a cocktail bar
When I met you
I picked you out, I shook you up, and turned you around
Turned you into someone new
Now five years later on you’ve got the world at your feet
Success has been so easy for you
But don’t forget it’s me who put you where you are now
And I can put you back down too
Don’t, don’t you want me……

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
3:13 pm

I can never tell when a guy likes me – completely oblivious

could/does that mean u relate very easily with other people and treat them the same thus u wldnt even know nor notice it if someone is giving u the extra eye??

Unless they are explicit about it?

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
3:14 pm

@kimmie/im swiss – Human League sings that song! The radio station I listen to constantly plays it.

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
3:15 pm

Congrats Lady J !!! whoo-hoooo!!!!!!

Where are you going? (I’m hoping you are going where I applied because then that would let me know I should be hearing something soon)

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
3:16 pm

Ok, had to go back to see what I missed.

BIG CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU, LADYJ!!!! Do the damn thing!

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
3:17 pm

song stuck in my head:

I’m trying to find the words to describe this girl without being disrespectfulllllllllllll…………………..

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
3:17 pm

@czB ~ The blog has been eating mine all day!

i'm swiss

February 23rd, 2010
3:18 pm

“Human League sings that song! The radio station I listen to constantly plays it.”

So does my iPod, Prof ;-)

czBrat

February 23rd, 2010
3:19 pm

again ….. Life, i almost tried eharmony at one time but didnt want to pay their crazy rates. i wasnt looking for a soulmate, just some mindless chatter. i starting a profile on another dating site and ended up meeting my s/o there.

and that’s all i wanted to say, blog-gobblin!! :razz:

Luvbug

February 23rd, 2010
3:19 pm

Melo – Yep. I don’t know unless they are explicit. Some people have a flirty nature (even some women with other women). Some others are extremely outgoing.

Metro Atlanta is filled will marketing, PR and sales professionals, so I get confused and just say how I feel or don’t feel.

mytw♥cents

February 23rd, 2010
3:21 pm

Aww, I’m in luv with the musical note thingy!

LUVBUG, I understand. I think they’re being cordial…until they makea me blush. Then the lightbulb flashes!

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
3:21 pm

argosy university I am and thanks honey nothing online st8 classes like undergrad…..located in dunwoody down the street from the mall!!!! hope so too honey if not still want your email address need proofreader eyes! LOL

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
3:22 pm

:shock: I have no gas!!! I had gas in my tank this morning to last me till I got home to pick up my little I am. and now I’m on echo
(insert curse word here)

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
3:29 pm

now I’m on echo…(insert curse word here)

as long as u dont wear a mugg on ya face..ill laugh :lol:

I know the feeling! (borrowing ur buddy/co worker $1,then the next co-worker, another $1 etc jus so u can fill enough gas to get u home) :lol:

:lol:

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
3:36 pm

talking of graduate school??

Queen says her friend is doing an MBA..so i say,”MBA” where did she get her undergrad from anyway,i dont remember her going to school??

She says,”aaaghh,u know!” (with a corny,smirky smile)

I say,”u know what??!!” :lol: (showing smirky face too,kinda sensing where this was going?

she says,” u know there are some online degrees now?!!”

and I say,” so AND??!

She says,”u know,she got an online certificate for a bachelors so she on the MBA now!”

Now,we had a real hearty laugh!!! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

my 4 yr old son comes in on hearing the loud laugh(smiling with his dimbes) “whaaaat,daddy whaaaat!”

HILARIOUS!!!

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
3:38 pm

Congrats again Lady. I visted them for their psych programs but I didn’t have bread like that to go.
You’re going near my job :-)

Melo: I have funds for gas now finding an economically priced pump…now that’s a different story.
If you see my hooptie on the side of 285 west bound, please don’t stare.

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
3:40 pm

NEWS ALERT ~~ Former NBA star Jayson Williams was sentenced to five years in prison Tuesday for fatally shooting a hired limo driver in 2002, ending an eight-year legal odyssey by tearfully apologizing to the victim’s family. He will be eligible for parole in 18 months.

czBrat

February 23rd, 2010
3:42 pm

I am you got me flashing back to when i could just scoop the loose change off my dresser and put about 5 gallons in the tank. (sigh). i work near perimeter too. if you’re still out there when i leave i’ll pick you up!

DreamsMaterialize

February 23rd, 2010
3:43 pm

Lady J congrats on getting in grad. school. Your success in grad school will depend on how hard you work. If you do it right, it should be the most strenuous mental workout you’ve ever had, but you’ll see immediate results.

Now who was that talking about O’s on the desk?

czBrat

February 23rd, 2010
3:47 pm

can’t believe i’ve been thumbing through this thick azz issue of vogue for a half hour and haven’t found a single article yet. nothing but ads. (lots of cute shoes though) :)

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
3:48 pm

Now who was that talking about O’s on the desk?

@Dreamz!!??

that was CzBrat!! :lol:

dont worry,she working from home! :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

February 23rd, 2010
3:48 pm

Melo
You know more and more school administrators are getting these online advanced degrees. It’s probably the best career advancement racket going. A mediocre teacher destined to earn no more that 40k a year can get an online degree and suddenly boost their earning potential to 100k as an administrator.

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
3:48 pm

Don’t You Want Me – Lyrics

You were working as a waitress in a cocktail bar
When I met you
I picked you out, I shook you up, and turned you around
Turned you into someone new
Now five years later on you’ve got the world at your feet
Success has been so easy for you
But don’t forget it’s me who put you where you are now
And I can put you back down too

(Chorus:)
Don’t, don’t you want me?
You know I can’t believe it when I hear that you won’t see me
Don’t, don’t you want me?
You know I don’t believe you when you say that you don’t need me
It’s much too late to find
You think you’ve changed your mind
You’d better change it back or we will both be sorry

Don’t you want me baby? Don’t you want me oh
Don’t you want me baby? Don’t you want me oh

I was working as a waitress in a cocktail bar
That much is true
But even then I knew I’d find a much better place
Either with or without you
The five years we have had have been such good times
I still love you
But now I think it’s time I lived my life on my own
I guess it’s just what I must do

(Chorus)

Don’t you want me baby? Don’t you want me oh
Don’t you want me baby? Don’t you want me oh

(Repeat four times and fade)

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
3:49 pm

Saying to CZBRAT in my Fred Sanford voice: Eleanor!!! She coming to save us!!!!

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
3:50 pm

O’s on the desk? :shock:
I must have missed something……

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
3:52 pm

Online courses are fast growing. I would just make sure they are from an accredited university. Kennesaw State has an online MBA program, I think I heard.

Ga State only had a few online courses when I did my MBA there, but I would not trade the experience of actually attending class in person for anything.

Luvbug

February 23rd, 2010
3:59 pm

You know more and more school administrators are getting these online advanced degrees.

What?!

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
4:00 pm

DreamsM well said!!!!!! Thanks brotha will save that message too!!!!! Kimmie I tried online 3x in my 20s and it failed reverting back to dreamsM I wasn’t ready Universityof Phoenix….anyway the past won’t define me I am excited Foundations of Community Counseling 3/4-4/24 then Counseling Theory 5/10-6/30 then to Abnormal Psycholgy 7/1-8/21 all on tuesdays and thursdays can’t beat that….

I am- I will die with students loans it is all good!!!! LOL

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
4:01 pm

Dreamz!??
educational fraud is very rampant in america. CEOs running big corporations and they have neva stepped in grad school like they claim on their resumes.

I think nepotism/cronyism is to blame..the hr folks know the guy is so and so’s friend and they pass on the background.

back home i used to wrk with 2 cheats..fellow managers..one lady had an associate degree but them folks didnt know the difference and the other guy,my boss,claimed to be a CPA….he always reviewed my accounting journals around 4.30 pm,when it was about time to go home,even when i submitted them to him in the morning,..and he wld stroll into my office,like he was querrying sme on them, and thats whwn I wld give him a tutorial on accounting 101!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Luvbug

February 23rd, 2010
4:11 pm

Can kids now earn their elementary, middle and/or high school degree online now too?

I’m not joking. Can they?

DreamsMaterialize

February 23rd, 2010
4:14 pm

Melo you’re right about nepotism. CEO’s are probably the worst when it comes to this. Many of them go to a company for a few years, collect severance, and then on to the next to do the same thing…over and over again.

Professor

February 23rd, 2010
4:16 pm

Melo…I had the same exp with this older WM before. He was very honest and humble, which made it easier giving him the tutorial, plus he would always looked out for me during bonus time.

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
4:18 pm

LuvBug/Kimmie..

problem is a lot of online educational stuff NOW thats fake .

U can pay for an online degreee certificate if u got the right $$$,without studying for nor passing no exam.

czBrat

February 23rd, 2010
4:25 pm

Luvbug i don’t know about early education, but the answer to online high school is ‘yes’. i am homeschooling my son through his senior year with the support of an online ’school’. regionally accredited and provides transcriipts and diplomas as preferred by most colleges.

kimmie i cant wait for state to open more online courses. i am an online/self-paced learner all the way!

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
4:27 pm

Professor??

dude im talking about was not even honest,just a fraud thru anf thru but very likeable and smooth..i knew it but most folks including the CEO and hr did not…

u know when u in the industry,u spot a fraud from miles away just after a few discussions.

whats funny,the guy kept in his office,al the latest CFO magazines/literature etc just to hoodwink people.

They(board) fired him eventually after 3 successive years of Fnal accounts being qualified.

I didnt set him up! :lol: :lol:

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
4:30 pm

My bad! meant to say: Saying to CZBRAT in my Fred Sanford voice: Elizabeth!!! She coming to save us!!!!

Professor

February 23rd, 2010
4:31 pm

Melo,

Did you get the job when he left :grin:

czBrat

February 23rd, 2010
4:32 pm

LOL! i gotchu I am. i got room for 4 more …. how many munchkins stranded with u out there?

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
4:38 pm

Posts keep getting eaten!

Melo – People in the know in corporate america don’t recognize those fly-by-night degrees/so-called universities!

The best things about the schools I attended, besides the great education, are reputation, name-recognition, respect and networking-opportunities. Prestige goes a long way, folks don’t want to hear that, but it’s true.

Make sure your kids go to the best accredited school their grades & money will get them in.

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
4:39 pm

Did you get the job when he left

@Proff!??

they suspended him when I was there,acted in his capacity 4 about 2 months but left soon after to move here.

I gathered they fired him after i was here,just talking to my folks back home….he had gotten a lawyer when i was there and was contesting etc..i advised the HR executive to advise the CEO,(coz CEO had a meeting with the lawyer) to advise the lawyer to tell his client to give him(lawyer) a copy of his CPA certificate for validation…. :-)

I didnt stay long enough to get my bonus for that sly move coz of my departure! :lol: :lol:

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
4:39 pm

Melo – Prestige counts for a lot. Make sure your kids go to the best accredited university their grades, scores & money will get them in!

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
4:45 pm

Prestige counts for a lot!!

WILL TRY

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
4:49 pm

@ Czbrat: I call shotgun!!!

DreamsMaterialize

February 23rd, 2010
4:53 pm

Time to call it a day. Going home to relax.

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
4:55 pm

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
4:58 pm

By Bloggers!!!

I’ll be at work for about another hour and 32 mins.

Saying in Fred Sanford voice: CZBRAT!!!! Don’t leave us!!!!!!!!!!!

lurker

February 23rd, 2010
5:04 pm

Prestige counts for a lot. Make sure your kids go to the best accredited university their grades, scores & money will get them in!

….and God. Please let’s place him first on the list!

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
5:06 pm

sigh: thinking about the ex :-(

wishing I had someone I could get under so I could get over the ex

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
5:08 pm

Oh well, at least there’s still monopoly (pogo.com)

Vic

February 23rd, 2010
5:19 pm

Many relationships have not come to fruition because neither partyo one was willing to put themself out there. I think you have to put yourself out there if you want to be in a relationship. Actions can be ambiuous. Say what you mean and mean what you say, but you should always follow through with your word (with action).