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Do you want me?

If someone could find a way to manufacture a crystal ball for relationships, they would be very rich.  Unfortunately, we are left to our own devices of over analyzing or misreading signals.  In the first couple of weeks, you can at least be sure that there is an attraction.  You are returning calls, agreeing to meet up, and making yourself available.  It’s the sweetest part because it’s all clear.

Then there is that period of time where one or both of you have decided how you feel about each other.  You don’t want to play yourself so you start looking to take your cues from the other person.  The problem is, they are doing the exact same thing.  So how do you know they want you as much as you want them?

Personally, I try to wait it out one until the ambiguous behavior goes away.  Sometimes, it doesn’t and I get the message and move on.  What do you do? Do you let the person know how much you want them? Are you comfortable bringing it up in a talk?

Is it important to have the same level of interest in order for it to work?

Of course men and women express their interest and desires differently sometimes.  Ladies, when do you know a man wants you as much as you want him? Men, how do you determine a woman is on the same page with you and what you want?

282 comments Add your comment

SexyCool

February 23rd, 2010
2:42 pm

Want me, don’t you want me
To touch you and to hold you tight
Don’t you want me like I want you
To kiss and love all through the night.

Dream_n

February 23rd, 2010
2:42 pm

It’s Brownstone… Raqi

Professor you’re still here???

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
2:42 pm

Leggs, one of the ladies here is dating a guy that she met on eharmony. This is the 3rd guy that she met thru them and she speaks highly of their service. I would always tease her about the eharmony commercials and how the couples just look so right for each other and it’s all supposed to be based on “personality” traits.

She doesn’t badly of the first two attempts. She just says it a process that the system take you thru. She was telling one of the guys about it just last week. Try it and see.

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
2:43 pm

I was working as a waitress in a hotel bar
That much is true
…………
…………..( I don’t remember the rest of the words)

Don’t you want me bay-by?
Don’t you want me, oh ah oh?

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
2:46 pm

Thank you Dream_n.

♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪
If you love me, say it
If you trust me, do it
If you want me, show it
If you need me, prove it

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
2:47 pm

SexyCool, can you hear me now? LOL

♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪
If you love me, say it
If you trust me, do it
If you want me, show it
If you need me, prove it

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
2:47 pm

Raqi – I like that song too.

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
2:47 pm

You see now actions speak louder than words
So don’t just say things that I’ve already heard
Don’t want your body without your soul
I don’t want a love who will come here and go

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
2:48 pm

Lady J?!!!!

Way to go mummy..self improvement is it……

Now look!!?? ,that ex old ish got none on u…… :lol: getting urslef right!!

Congratulations!!!

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
2:48 pm

thanks brotha!

Gary

February 23rd, 2010
2:49 pm

I hate Women, to bad we can’t be segregated, it would make my life easier there would be no distractions.

SexyCool

February 23rd, 2010
2:50 pm

You are officially ALL THE WAY TURNED UP!!!

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
2:50 pm

Congrats Lady J!!!

I remember that feeling when I got in. I really enjoyed grad school. It was all about business. Different from undergrad, which I also enjoyed, but on a different level.

Cool beans!

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
2:51 pm

I hate Women

Gary, how does your mother feel about that?

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
2:53 pm

It’s plenty dudes out there then, Gary.

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
2:57 pm

@Raqi ~ the group is SWV, but can’t think of the song title…might be If You Want Me, Say IT???

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
2:58 pm

Thanks Kimmie I am soooo excited and the key for me is not to give up! I have to see this through and I am happy I am going to bigger and better things!!!!!

Living Life

February 23rd, 2010
2:59 pm

Congrats Lady J.

E-Harmony…..Hmmm I recall a friend a few yrs back doing the online dating thing and all the men she got only wanted one thing. That turned me off from even thinking about it, but I have heard of some that have had good experiences.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 23rd, 2010
3:00 pm

Pretty slow blog day. Yawwwn! Is it 5 o’clock yet?

lurker

February 23rd, 2010
3:00 pm

Going through a divorce…wife lives in one part of the house and he lives in the other. He says he likes my “spirit” and thinks we could have fun together.

Wouldn’t it be nice if a body part would fall off everytime this sort of lie is told.

czBrat

February 23rd, 2010
3:01 pm

awwww! Lady J, congratulations!!! (isn’t there an emoticon for clapping???) well, i’m giving you a standing O at my desk :)

SexyCool

February 23rd, 2010
3:02 pm

Mad props, LadyJ.

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
3:05 pm

Lady J

Girl, you will be done & graduating before you know it! What made it so great for me were a few things. First, I was scared I might not get in because there were folks I KNEW had better grades than I did in undergrad that could not get in that school. Second, it felt so good being around such brilliant people! There were folks that had their own businesses, a few I’d already heard of! The professors were great too, and everyone respected my ideas and what I had to say. There were also a few classes where not only was I the only AA, but the only woman. And those men were SO NICE and respectful to me, treated me as an equal! It was a great experience!

i'm swiss

February 23rd, 2010
3:06 pm

“I was working as a waitress in a hotel bar
That much is true
…………
…………..( I don’t remember the rest of the words)”

But even then I knew I’d find a much better place
Either with or without you…

I am the king of 80’s synth-pop ;-)

Luvbug - The V Keeper

February 23rd, 2010
3:08 pm

I can never tell when a guy likes me – completely oblivious. Of course, if he’s always trying to be around me, it crosses my mind…but unless he’s doing that and tells me, I don’t know…won’t guess…won’t assume.

When I like (or don’t like) a guy that I’ve been around for a while, I say it. If I don’t say it, it means that I could go either way (serious relationship or not).

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
3:08 pm

Kimmie I needed that I copied and pasted it and saved it to my email…I will view that periodically that there is a end and I can’t run bc others are smarter and are in better or different places than me!!!!! Thanks sooo much!!!!

@czBrat thanks this is a bit personal for me and youand that is motivation tooo!!!!! thanks for the well wishes!!!!

Living Life thanks for the congrats!

Luvbug

February 23rd, 2010
3:09 pm

Enter your comments here

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
3:09 pm

SexyCool thanks honey!!!!!:)

czBrat

February 23rd, 2010
3:09 pm

Life i once completed an eharmony profile but didnt sign up for the service because their fees were ridiculous. i suppose if you’re searching for your soulmate then money doesn’t matter, but i was just looking for chatter. i started a profile on another dating site and ended up meeting my s/o there. couldn’t be happier!

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
3:10 pm

ok going to register for classes!!!!! Thanks blog read ya in the morning!

LL411

February 23rd, 2010
3:10 pm

Wouldn’t it be nice if a body part would fall off everytime this sort of lie is told. LMAO!!!!

czBrat

February 23rd, 2010
3:11 pm

ok. now i’m gonna fold my arms and pout cuz the blog-gobblin is eating my posts. :/

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
3:13 pm

@Kimmie ~ Human League….B98.5 plays that song to death.

You were working as a waitress in a cocktail bar
When I met you
I picked you out, I shook you up, and turned you around
Turned you into someone new
Now five years later on you’ve got the world at your feet
Success has been so easy for you
But don’t forget it’s me who put you where you are now
And I can put you back down too
Don’t, don’t you want me……

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
3:13 pm

I can never tell when a guy likes me – completely oblivious

could/does that mean u relate very easily with other people and treat them the same thus u wldnt even know nor notice it if someone is giving u the extra eye??

Unless they are explicit about it?

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
3:14 pm

@kimmie/im swiss – Human League sings that song! The radio station I listen to constantly plays it.

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
3:15 pm

Congrats Lady J !!! whoo-hoooo!!!!!!

Where are you going? (I’m hoping you are going where I applied because then that would let me know I should be hearing something soon)

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
3:16 pm

Ok, had to go back to see what I missed.

BIG CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU, LADYJ!!!! Do the damn thing!

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
3:17 pm

song stuck in my head:

I’m trying to find the words to describe this girl without being disrespectfulllllllllllll…………………..

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
3:17 pm

@czB ~ The blog has been eating mine all day!

i'm swiss

February 23rd, 2010
3:18 pm

“Human League sings that song! The radio station I listen to constantly plays it.”

So does my iPod, Prof ;-)

czBrat

February 23rd, 2010
3:19 pm

again ….. Life, i almost tried eharmony at one time but didnt want to pay their crazy rates. i wasnt looking for a soulmate, just some mindless chatter. i starting a profile on another dating site and ended up meeting my s/o there.

and that’s all i wanted to say, blog-gobblin!! :razz:

Luvbug

February 23rd, 2010
3:19 pm

Melo – Yep. I don’t know unless they are explicit. Some people have a flirty nature (even some women with other women). Some others are extremely outgoing.

Metro Atlanta is filled will marketing, PR and sales professionals, so I get confused and just say how I feel or don’t feel.

mytw♥cents

February 23rd, 2010
3:21 pm

Aww, I’m in luv with the musical note thingy!

LUVBUG, I understand. I think they’re being cordial…until they makea me blush. Then the lightbulb flashes!

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
3:21 pm

argosy university I am and thanks honey nothing online st8 classes like undergrad…..located in dunwoody down the street from the mall!!!! hope so too honey if not still want your email address need proofreader eyes! LOL

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
3:22 pm

:shock: I have no gas!!! I had gas in my tank this morning to last me till I got home to pick up my little I am. and now I’m on echo
(insert curse word here)

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
3:29 pm

now I’m on echo…(insert curse word here)

as long as u dont wear a mugg on ya face..ill laugh :lol:

I know the feeling! (borrowing ur buddy/co worker $1,then the next co-worker, another $1 etc jus so u can fill enough gas to get u home) :lol:

:lol:

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
3:36 pm

talking of graduate school??

Queen says her friend is doing an MBA..so i say,”MBA” where did she get her undergrad from anyway,i dont remember her going to school??

She says,”aaaghh,u know!” (with a corny,smirky smile)

I say,”u know what??!!” :lol: (showing smirky face too,kinda sensing where this was going?

she says,” u know there are some online degrees now?!!”

and I say,” so AND??!

She says,”u know,she got an online certificate for a bachelors so she on the MBA now!”

Now,we had a real hearty laugh!!! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

my 4 yr old son comes in on hearing the loud laugh(smiling with his dimbes) “whaaaat,daddy whaaaat!”

HILARIOUS!!!

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
3:38 pm

Congrats again Lady. I visted them for their psych programs but I didn’t have bread like that to go.
You’re going near my job :-)

Melo: I have funds for gas now finding an economically priced pump…now that’s a different story.
If you see my hooptie on the side of 285 west bound, please don’t stare.

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
3:40 pm

NEWS ALERT ~~ Former NBA star Jayson Williams was sentenced to five years in prison Tuesday for fatally shooting a hired limo driver in 2002, ending an eight-year legal odyssey by tearfully apologizing to the victim’s family. He will be eligible for parole in 18 months.

czBrat

February 23rd, 2010
3:42 pm

I am you got me flashing back to when i could just scoop the loose change off my dresser and put about 5 gallons in the tank. (sigh). i work near perimeter too. if you’re still out there when i leave i’ll pick you up!