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Do you want me?

If someone could find a way to manufacture a crystal ball for relationships, they would be very rich.  Unfortunately, we are left to our own devices of over analyzing or misreading signals.  In the first couple of weeks, you can at least be sure that there is an attraction.  You are returning calls, agreeing to meet up, and making yourself available.  It’s the sweetest part because it’s all clear.

Then there is that period of time where one or both of you have decided how you feel about each other.  You don’t want to play yourself so you start looking to take your cues from the other person.  The problem is, they are doing the exact same thing.  So how do you know they want you as much as you want them?

Personally, I try to wait it out one until the ambiguous behavior goes away.  Sometimes, it doesn’t and I get the message and move on.  What do you do? Do you let the person know how much you want them? Are you comfortable bringing it up in a talk?

Is it important to have the same level of interest in order for it to work?

Of course men and women express their interest and desires differently sometimes.  Ladies, when do you know a man wants you as much as you want him? Men, how do you determine a woman is on the same page with you and what you want?

282 comments Add your comment

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
1:47 pm

When a person wants you they will make time for you. They will have your best interest at heart. They will talk about you to their friends. They will want to show you off to the world.

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
1:49 pm

SlimOne…just call me Nicety n see that’s where you went wrong.
Mickey Dee cherry pie!! Naw girl! :P
Chocolate chip cookie where it’s at!

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
1:50 pm

I have to believe that most are doing it because they’ve had some success…unless you’re the first one they tried it on.

DreamsMat, I don’t know what you are talking about, but just reading up from the bottom that statement is true. I asked a guy friend once why some men say some dumb crap or expect women to do dumb crap and think it not odd to ask. He said because it worked on somebody.

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
1:50 pm

Lurker: I like that you think I am funny and refreshing!
:-D

princessnik

February 23rd, 2010
1:50 pm

I am Loved….

girl I am with you on the Choc Chip Cookies, especially when they are fresh and warm and the choc is just the right gooey :)

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
1:51 pm

hey if we are giving out money…..make it rain on me.
I have bills to pay!

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
1:52 pm

Princess!!! I loves me some Mikey Dee cookies!!!!!

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
1:54 pm

I’m trying to post but can’t determine which word is preventing it from posting!

@WD ~ please let my people go!!!

Professor

February 23rd, 2010
1:54 pm

Slim how is that cherry pie? Is it baked or fried? Personally I like that apple pie they used to sell back in the day fried all crisp…yum

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
1:55 pm

Before I have to get back to my 10K edits, here’s dude #2, age 52:

He walked around the club so much I thought he was security making sure everyone’s area was drama free. Anyway, he finally sat down beside me and introduced himself. Complimented my dress. He’s wearing a suit, buttoned up shirt with tie. He laughed when I asked if he was security saying I was the 2nd person who asked him that. He asked me to dance. We talk for a few and I ask if he’s married. The pause was ri di culously funny so I said never mind, you’ve already answered. He said “no wait, let me explain.” Standard boiler plate language to follow: blah, blah, blah, married 20 years. Going through a divorce…wife lives in one part of the house and he lives in the other. He says he likes my “spirit” and thinks we could have fun together. I laugh and ask if he’s really serious.” Of course he says yeah! He ask if I would give him my number or if I wanted his. I said neither one. I am not looking for that type of drama in my life. He had the AUDACITY to say his wife is boring, acts older than her years. I said if you don’t get away from me I’m going to call real security and tell them you’re bothering me!

Someone must have switched my perfume with “horny” juice cuz all I’m attracting are free wielding coochie slayers!

Le Siren- I'm baaaack!

February 23rd, 2010
1:56 pm

Hey Melo! I know it’s been a loooong time since I’ve posted…but I lurk all the time:)

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
1:57 pm

Dreams – You took the words right out of my mouth, about the term “liberated”. These women are not liberated at all.

While I think the men that do some of those stupid, disrespectful things do it out of stupidity or for shock value, you are right, the rest have had success at it. But probably their definition of success – someone of the same ilk that will go along for the quick ride, cheaper than paying a “pro”, I guess.

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
1:57 pm

Before I have to get back to my 10-K edits, here’s dude #2, age 52:

He walked around the club so much I thought he was security making sure everyone’s area was drama free. Anyway, he finally sat down beside me and introduced himself. Complimented my dress. He’s wearing a suit, buttoned up shirt with tie. He laughed when I asked if he was security saying I was the 2nd person who asked him that. He asked me to dance. We talk for a few and I ask if he’s married. The pause was crazy long so I said never mind, you’ve already answered. He said “no wait, let me explain.” Standard boiler plate language to follow: blah, blah, blah, married 20 years. Going through a divorce…wife lives in one part of the house and he lives in the other. He says he likes my “spirit” and thinks we could have fun together. I laugh and ask if he’s really serious.” Of course he says yeah! He ask if I would give him my number or if I wanted his. I said neither one. I am not looking for that type of drama in my life. He had the AUDACITY to say his wife is boring, acts older than her years. I said if you don’t get away from me I’m going to call real security and tell them you’re bothering me!

Someone must have switched my perfume with “horny” juice cuz all I’m attracting are free wielding coochie slayers!

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
2:01 pm

Leggs, I don’t know the best places to meet people, but the clubs are just not it.

SMH

princessnik

February 23rd, 2010
2:03 pm

leggs/Cee

I’m thinking of signing Princess2 up for rec soccer/tball approx how much are cleats and pants?

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
2:04 pm

aaawwww. Poor Leggs, LOL

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
2:04 pm

LOL Leggs. That’s just sad.

Professor

February 23rd, 2010
2:04 pm

Ms. Leggs were you wearing a mini-mini dress?

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
2:04 pm

I heard club Kroger on Peach is a good spot.

SMH LOL!!!!!

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
2:04 pm

thinks we could have fun together

Even that statement right there rubs me the wrong way!

LL411

February 23rd, 2010
2:05 pm

You have to leave a relationship with grace.

That’s right!

Once my feelings have been hurt to the point of no more tears/anger, it’s DEUCES! Nah, I’m not going to call ya job, slash ya tires, blow up your phone, nada!

DreamsM… I met a guy on-line, talked once on the phone.. that was well over a year ago. This dude must have a text mail list (???) he sends to every female in his phone, stuff like: thinking of you, have a blessed day, haven’t heard from you in a while. People that send out WOW pics and texts like this and don’t even know you are str8 crazy.

SexyCool

February 23rd, 2010
2:05 pm

Leggs – what do you like to do besides cook and parent Lil Leggs? Do you have some hobbies or interests that would allow you to get into some clubs or organizations that would increase your chances of meeting a like-minded, normal guy?

For Real

February 23rd, 2010
2:07 pm

Legg: Yes you are right. I just can’t see how you can get upset at that sport. Now for your 500, I can give you 500 pics of just my toco meat or you can get toco meat and chest umm wait Kimmie took all of those but I can substitute the toco meant and chest with a pic of back hair, or pics of the bumps on the back of my head or you can select the nice azz pic of my razor bumps, oh yeah I just got the pics of my ashy azz feet and look you can see how long I let me toenails grow. I might have to hold those for Slim. Dayum that girl got foot fetish out of this world. Oh, oh, I know you have the pics I got of my hair booty got that idea from Prince. Wait, wait, dayum naw Professor been on me for 3 months for those pics. Hold on, now I do have nice pic of my ashy knees you can have. Ish my fault again, Mo loves those too merch for me to give dem away. Well just pick from the other while I look at my poak, pert, portpholi, my picture book.

SexyCool

February 23rd, 2010
2:08 pm

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
2:09 pm

4 Real – LOL!!!

SexyCool

February 23rd, 2010
2:09 pm

(let me try htis again)
LL411 – I call that kind of texting – performing regular Public Relations for the masses.

WillieD – if you are around, send me an email. I realize that I never answered a question you posted a few weeks back. cscfromajc@yahoo.com

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
2:11 pm

LL: I’m sad of the outcome but I am happy to know that GOD has something better and special for me.

I can’t wait for the next relationship to start one day. :-)

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
2:11 pm

Leggs, have you tried eHarmony?

For Real

February 23rd, 2010
2:13 pm

Dude: Hey I like you I think we could alot of fun together.

Kimmie: (In her Aunt Ester voice) Wait-a-minute Sucker!

Dude: Umm I’m sorry. Do you eat?

Kimmie: (In her Witney Houston voice) BOBBYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!

princessnik

February 23rd, 2010
2:15 pm

For Real I love your “skits”

For Real

February 23rd, 2010
2:16 pm

Raqi: What do you about real-Hornimee?

Sassy Me :-)

February 23rd, 2010
2:18 pm

thinks we could have fun together = we could have sex together

Married men kill me with this crap…then they don’t understand how come you don’t wanna play. STFU already.

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
2:18 pm

ForReal, huh?

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
2:19 pm

4 Real – Go sit down!(said in my Aunt Ester voice) LOL!!!

SexyCool

February 23rd, 2010
2:19 pm

Raqi, Kimmie – Mailbag.

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
2:21 pm

<—back in while, gotta drop kids off at the pool

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
2:22 pm

LMAO AT real!!!!! about time one of skits is actually funny!

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
2:24 pm

@kimmie ~ I realize clubs are not the spot, but was invited to a b-day party at The Crowe’s Nest and have only been there once many moons ago and was curious about the place.

@Cee ~ go to http://www.eastbay.com. I just bought cleats. Track season official starts TODAY. Looking forward to this meet so I can actually see her run!

@Professor ~ it was short, but not micro (LOL).

@SexyC ~ you’re in my head, you’re in my head. I’m going to take the last class of my exotic dance classes and then I’m going to take salsa lessons, then I’m going to join a bicycling club. I tell you what I won’t join is a BINGO club!!!

@ForReal ~ I hollered…I was happy to read that somebody got the booty hair pic cuz I definitely didn’t want that one. Oh snap, it’s you Professor, you freak!

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 23rd, 2010
2:25 pm

Professor It says it’s Baked…mmmmm

East Point's Own

February 23rd, 2010
2:25 pm

THE INFAMOUS DK

February 23rd, 2010
2:26 pm

If you want my Body and you think Im sexy come on baby let me Know…

princessnik

February 23rd, 2010
2:28 pm

Infamous DK that post made me picture nell carter and an episode of gimme a break…………….LMBO

Dream_n

February 23rd, 2010
2:29 pm

Popping in for a quick second…

I’ve never worked so hard in my life.. but the benefits will be well worth it.

Topic?

SexyCool

February 23rd, 2010
2:29 pm

Actually, DK, everytime I read the title, I sing in my head:

“Want me? Dontchu want me? To kiss and to hold me tight.” ♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪
Head nod to Raqi.

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
2:36 pm

Rod Stewart…I like that song!

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
2:37 pm

@Raqi ~ I’ve been seriously considering it.

Raqi

February 23rd, 2010
2:39 pm

SexyCool, I keep thinking of a song but I cannot figure out what it is. It goes something like “if you want me, say it….” I think. Do you know what song that may be?

SexyCool

February 23rd, 2010
2:41 pm

Sing louder, Raqi. I can’t hear you.

SexyCool

February 23rd, 2010
2:41 pm

Oh…and I just tore Jody’s lyrics UP!

Lady J

February 23rd, 2010
2:41 pm

Melo and gang I got accepted in to grad school!!!! Yay me!!!! just sharing! as always thanks for bearing all of me! haha! Will celebrate the news! LOL