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Do you want me?

If someone could find a way to manufacture a crystal ball for relationships, they would be very rich.  Unfortunately, we are left to our own devices of over analyzing or misreading signals.  In the first couple of weeks, you can at least be sure that there is an attraction.  You are returning calls, agreeing to meet up, and making yourself available.  It’s the sweetest part because it’s all clear.

Then there is that period of time where one or both of you have decided how you feel about each other.  You don’t want to play yourself so you start looking to take your cues from the other person.  The problem is, they are doing the exact same thing.  So how do you know they want you as much as you want them?

Personally, I try to wait it out one until the ambiguous behavior goes away.  Sometimes, it doesn’t and I get the message and move on.  What do you do? Do you let the person know how much you want them? Are you comfortable bringing it up in a talk?

Is it important to have the same level of interest in order for it to work?

Of course men and women express their interest and desires differently sometimes.  Ladies, when do you know a man wants you as much as you want him? Men, how do you determine a woman is on the same page with you and what you want?

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Melo

February 23rd, 2010
12:18 pm

Melo would you send a racy picture with your shirt off to a chick you just met?

I wldnt even consider sending a wang pic even if she asked for some racy pic…not in me. :roll:

I cant imagine getting myself hard and getting my iphone to get a shot just coz some trick asked… :lol: smdh ??

LL411

February 23rd, 2010
12:19 pm

@ I AM… give him his sh*t and do the happy skip the other way…NEXT!

Comments on the friends that disappear with the divorce… I had someone I thought was a good friend (I was more friend to her than she was to me), I’d done her favors (jail bail = long story, lend money from my sock drawer, etc.)

When I told her I was going to divorce this bit*ch could not understand why, I never talked my business, so to her everything was perfect. She was “auntie” to my kids and friends with my husband, we were suppose to be like family. The kicker came when I pulled my credit report during this time and saw a cell phone I’d gotten in my name for her and she’d been paying on had been reported delinquent. I asked her about it and she very nasty like told me she had “other” bills to pay.
Truthfully, I believe she knew her cash flow was about to dry up. Can you say “niccka”!

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
12:19 pm

SlimOne…just call me Nicety!: you got all us beat. :shock:

Professor...

February 23rd, 2010
12:19 pm

@SlimOne :shock: are you serious???? Not the church socks on…yuck!

DreamsMaterialize

February 23rd, 2010
12:20 pm

Does this man behavior appeal to some women??
Ladies just remember one thing when you’re completely baffled about why a guy would possibly do something so foolish. That fact that he felt comfortable doing it to you means that he’s done it elsewhere with success. So, he’s done it to other women and had positive results.

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
12:24 pm

Dreams Mat I agree

But church socks???? C’Mon Son!!!!

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
12:25 pm

“…trying to open them “leggs” too soon it is disrespectful and a turnoff.” EXACTLY.

Nice body, but come on SON, too soon for WOW pictures if any at all. He’s 42. Met him Saturday night, got home 3:30 and he calls me 5:30 to tell me he’s at breakfast and enjoyed meeting me. Calls again at 1:45 to ask what do I do w/my daughter “when Stella wants to get her groove on.” If you could have seen my face or even felt my heart cuz it sank that one bum rushes straight to this without even getting to know my last name! It’s brutal out there!

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
12:26 pm

So, he’s done it to other women and had positive results.

You know Dreams, I don’t even believe that. I think some are sick & truly don’t have a clue.

Or if they did get a “bit” from that type of behavior, it was from someone as seedy as they are & they are looking for a repeat. Even then I highly doubt it.

I say that because I recall asking a few guys that did stupid stuff like that, years ago, why they did it. They said they thought some women liked it. I asked how was it working. They sat there looking blank.

Le Siren- I'm baaaack!

February 23rd, 2010
12:27 pm

Nothing is a bigger turnoff than an inappropriate body pic early in the game!!!! I absolutely HATE that! Besides, it makes you look desperate.

Professor...

February 23rd, 2010
12:29 pm

Leggs he is a loser asking somebody that mess on Sunday morning…WTH is wrong with him. I cannot stand it when a man ask me about sex too soon. smdh

Ok, what did you tell him, because I want to use that line one day I know you said something slick.

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
12:30 pm

“…fact that he felt comfortable doing it to you means that he’s done it elsewhere with success.”

@DreamsM ~ No doubt. When men do this, I look at it as their way of seeing how I would react and I would actually be down to entertain their foolishness. Well, he found out I’m not down! It’s all a design to see who will bite and who won’t! There are so many “gauges” out there to peek into one’s personality that you simply have to be careful. There is no reason ofn God’s Green Earth for me to send a WOW pic of myself to someone I’ve known for less than 48 hours. Some of you guys are bonkers.

I’ll tell you about the dude whose number I didn’t take. And he was dead serious!!

Bibay

February 23rd, 2010
12:32 pm

SlimOne- ROFLMAO!! Not with the church socks still on!

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
12:35 pm

without even getting to know my last name! It’s brutal out there!

l think Dreamz may have a point altho im still baffled. Clearly a guy behaving the way he did to Leggs aint looking for anything serious? Maybe they are used to just hitting pros,who knows??

If that works,then clearly,yeah,it has to be brutal out there,for the women who get theirs in on that play!

:-) :roll: :lol:

Bibay

February 23rd, 2010
12:37 pm

Leggs- there is an article in the Essence about how folks are “sexting” and sending naked pics. Men in their 30’s saying it is a game to get women to send pics to show to their boys. Just too immature and foolish.

Professor...

February 23rd, 2010
12:38 pm

Melo,

Do you think these guys are looking for the “liberated” women? You know the women that get their groove on and boast about it. Because a lot of women would have met up with him that evening and knocked the boots off sideways.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 23rd, 2010
12:40 pm

Dreams, You might have a point with the guys doing it from previous success…but I think sometimes it’s just for shock value. Maybe we’ve all turned into a bunch of conceited exhibitionistic voyeurs (yeah, i made that word up lol)

My cousin showed me the vid and I was like ARE YOU SERIOUS? REALLY? Said he just sent it out the blue one day. She just never responded…I mean what was the dude going to say, “hey, did you get my video I sent?” He should’ve been embarrassed. I can see if this was sent late night on a Friday or Saturday after exchanging drunk texts but chuuch socks? LMAO!!!!!! :???:

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
12:41 pm

Clearly a guy behaving the way he did to Leggs aint looking for anything serious?

Melo – Exactly, that’s what I was trying to get at! Any male (not man) that does that is looking for sleaze, not substance. So he may have been “successful”, just defined in a different way!LOL!!

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
12:41 pm

LL411 : I wish the ex the very best. I told him that I hope his new relationship works out.

You have to leave a realationship with grace.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 23rd, 2010
12:42 pm

A guy on my facebook page made an official announcement with regards to chicks sending racy pics, especially the ones taken in the bathroom. He was like mayne, some of yall chicks need to clean ya dayum bathrooms…toothpaste splatters all on the mirror so it always looks cloudy, a whole bunch of crap on the counter, or the ones taken in the bedroom, you see piles & piles of dirty clothes in the background..That AIN’T cute or sexy! lmao :lol:

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
12:44 pm

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
12:44 pm

@Professor, it’s not often I’m caught off guard, but I was. My only reply was “it won’t be you!” I said goodbye cuz I had to finish getting ready to take lil leggs to see Alvin Ailey!

I can’t type…

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
12:46 pm

SlimOne…just call me Nicety! how bout the bathroom pics where folks forgot to flush? :shock: EEEEEEEEEEEWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!

SexyCool

February 23rd, 2010
12:46 pm

A “WOW pic” – LMAO!

czBrat

February 23rd, 2010
12:49 pm

Hi Yas!

just popping in but had to :lol: :lol: @ Leggs’ text request. that’s just creepy!

Hola Profesora! Hi Melo!

brb

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
12:49 pm

LMSBAO!!!!!!

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
12:50 pm

liberated” women? You know the women that get their groove on and boast about it.

@Proff!

I think there are a lot of females in their late 30s to 40s/50s,proly married and divorced and not looking for anything long term or permanent who may be on that route. I really think they are there and dont mind flounting their sexxuality the same way a raging male(30+) or 40sh,not looking for much else,may also be flaunting his.

Thus the size of the package may be an issue here.

Lemme see what u working with?? :-) coz the mindest maybe,i dont wanna waste a night or my hours on some lame package??

I can imagine that.

:lol: :lol:

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
12:50 pm

Do you think these guys are looking for the “liberated” women?

Professor – Okay, but these “liberated” women better not be whining later on that they can’t find a “good” man! And the sick men doing it can’t complain about not being able to meet a nice “lady”, later on down the line when they’re old and dried-up and alone!

Where yall meet these kind of people?

SMH

Melo

February 23rd, 2010
12:53 pm

Hey CzBrat/Le Siren!

For Real

February 23rd, 2010
12:54 pm

Wayyyyyy Off Topic: 500 if someone can tell me what sport has got this coach pissed off?

The coach of China’s world champion women ripped into the team after losing to struggling Russia on Monday, saying they lacked passion and that his days with the squad were numbered.

China went down 7-4 to the Russians, who are near the bottom of the pack, one day after handing Canada their first loss of the Olympics. China’s record stands at 5-3.

“I’m furious,” the team’s Canadian coach, Dan Rafael, told reporters after the game.

Rafael said he aims to keep coaching after the Olympics, but pressed on if he would do so for China, he said: “Probably not.”

His contract runs until June 2010.

Rafael blasted the players, led by Wang Bingyu, for being inconsistent and not taking his directions to heart. He said they were treating the Olympic competition as if it was just another job.

“This is the national team,” he said. “It’s been together for six or seven years and most of the players have been on the team for that long and take it for granted.”

China came into the competition as strong contenders, having beaten Sweden last year to take the world title, a first for an Asian team. Rafael has been stingy with praise even when they have won, saying their performance changes with each end in a game.

“I don’t know who’s going to show up—the team that played Canada yesterday, or the team that played Russia today,” he said.

Despite the loss, China is still in third place and in the running to make the semifinals, which start later this week.

When asked about her coach’s tirade, Wang, 25, said she had just come off the ice but that she was also angry about the loss. She rejected the accusation that she and her team mates were not passionate about the game.

“Of course we love ,” she said.

For Real

February 23rd, 2010
12:55 pm

Kimmie: Shouldn’t you call the females sick too if they are partaking? Fair and Balanced?

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
1:04 pm

these kind of people

It’s all sick, 4Real, not trying NOT to hold anybody accountable. But that’s a world I don’t deal in, so I’m not taking sides, male or female, don’t care about being fair.

Professor...

February 23rd, 2010
1:05 pm

Hey czBrat!

Melo/Kimmie I have seen a lot of what I call “liberated” women that brag about being on the prowl and boast about getting theirs and in the end they look :cry: :cry :cry: because that is not what they want.

Also I had a friend in college that would always find fault in women little stuff like I don’t date them over 125 and she is 133 or I do not like her car. Once he pledged he went crazy sleeping around and he complains about the lack of good women running around here.

Professor...

February 23rd, 2010
1:06 pm

Lol I only wanted to delete friend…

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
1:10 pm

@Bibay ~ to show to their boys. You kidding me, right? Didn’t that stop once you got out of your 20’s? I kid, I kid, but somewhere around mid 30’s, NO??? Ok, I guess NEVA!! A damn shame!

This is not gonna break my spirit. This is not gonna break my spirit. This is not gonna break my spirit. I said, this is not gonna break my spirit!!!!

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 23rd, 2010
1:10 pm

Well I think the folks that are brandishing their private parts should just take that mess to Craigslist. lol

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 23rd, 2010
1:13 pm

I AM “bathroom pics where folks forgot to flush?” Can you say VOMIT in my mouth?!!!!!!!!!! That reminds me, someone I know said a dude they were talking to asked if she would send him a pic of her peeing. :???: :shock:

czBrat

February 23rd, 2010
1:14 pm

of course it’s not gonna break your spirit Leggs. just laugh at that fool ‘n KIM. he will attract the type of woman that responds to such nonsense. YOU will attract maturity :)

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
1:14 pm

@ForReal ~ I believe the sport is “Curling”

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
1:18 pm

czB ~ I am laughing. It’s absolutely amazing. However, would like to come on here soon and not give you guys a M.I.A. You know me, I’m over here a hollering over this mess. It did pinch at the heart, but found out in less than 48 hours I don’t need to be wasting my time. When I let someone jump my bones, best believe it will be with a lot more class than he showed me! Just plain disrespctful…

Sassy Me :-)

February 23rd, 2010
1:21 pm

Yes Leggs I think it’s curling,too. Both the men’s and women’s teams have been struggling…from what I’ve seen. They’ve won some matches(or Ends) recently but they struggled a bit in the beginning.

kimmie

February 23rd, 2010
1:21 pm

Just plain disrespctful…

Leggs – That’s the way I take it. I mean, if all you want is sleaze, go pay a pro. There is a classy way to get sleaze. But to resort to “tech-flashing” should be illegal.

SexyCool

February 23rd, 2010
1:23 pm

Speaking of tech-flashing, it appears that ChatRoulette users see plenty of that.

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
1:29 pm

Lurker: I’m happy that you’re happy that I’m happy that you’re happy that I’m happy that you’re happy I got flowers

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 23rd, 2010
1:29 pm

Imma need the flights to Vegas to drop a lil :shock:

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
1:30 pm

@ForReal ~ please deposit the $500 in 056 999930 1238…thank ya veerrry much!

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 23rd, 2010
1:31 pm

:shock: just remembered I can’t run for president due to my explicit pics my exes have of me :shock:

Slim one: Can you say VOMIT in my mouth?!!!!!!!!!!

Okay why I got to eat that as I’m enjoying my cookies…
Ick!!!!

cookie monster no happy

Leggs

February 23rd, 2010
1:32 pm

Well, you didn’t say 500 of what??? So never mind the deposit!

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 23rd, 2010
1:32 pm

I AM Tell me about it..I was trying to enjoy the new Cherry Pie from Mickey D’s…then ewwwwww blech!

DreamsMaterialize

February 23rd, 2010
1:45 pm

Kimmie
I guess there’s some dudes out there who just keep doing the same dumb things without EVER getting any positive results, but I have to believe that most are doing it because they’ve had some success…unless you’re the first one they tried it on.

Do you think these guys are looking for the “liberated” women?
I wouldn’t consider those women liberated. A liberated woman thinks things through, weighs options, assesses the impacts of her decisions, and does so without blindly accepting the norms of everyone else. Liberated means free, but not irresponsibly free.

lurker

February 23rd, 2010
1:46 pm

I AM LOVED…you’re funny and refreshing!