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Dating Stimulus Plan

After a gorgeous weather weekend in Atlanta, I’ve started to get excited about Spring and Summer.  I was out and about this weekend having a wonderful time in the city.  How was your weekend?

I managed to go to at least three places I have never been to before.  It is so easy to get in a rut doing the same things, going the same places, and sometimes running into the exact same crowd.

Maybe it is time to bail out our love lives with a dating stimulus plan! Something that stimulates us so that we are  excited about where we live.  This could have a great positive effect on us, I think.  I definitely wouldn’t want to strike up a conversation with a good-looking dude only to find out that he hates Atlanta, his job, and is miserable.  I’ll pass.

Even if you want to move away, you can’t deny that there are many wonderful things about our city! If you don’t take the time to find them, it’s a reflection on you and your lack of imagination and effort – not the city. I’m just saying!

What do you think you can do for your dating stimulus plan? How do you get out of a dating rut or dry spell? It would be great if we could all list at least five things to do or see.  Something totally out of the ordinary and exciting enough to shake things up.

Happy Monday everyone!

188 comments Add your comment

Raqi

February 22nd, 2010
1:56 pm

SexyCool, those are the kind that smile in your face and will stab you in the back. They wear two faces.

Cemeeli

February 22nd, 2010
1:58 pm

@kimmie – I’m sorry yes, the right word…kinda scary…you said it.

apparently they were speaking with s/o, or family…but saying some SKRONG thangs. i should have just walked away…but i my body was stuck.

Cemeeli

February 22nd, 2010
2:00 pm

$60??? Raqi – glad you like her.

SexyCool

February 22nd, 2010
2:00 pm

Stuck – Cemeeli. I feel you on that. (really lol)

Melo

February 22nd, 2010
2:01 pm

CEE??

catch them on a personal phone call and they are the total opposite & straight crazy?!?

But u know the workplace cab be/is a peaceful outting for some folks in and around crawzzy folks,no wonder the peace in them. The moment they get in the house,their face blows up,mugging!

Bills and nem crawzzy folks are no joke! :lol:

U neva been in a house where some folks just spend the day scratching their balls doin none while u toiling at work?
Cant help but be crawzy talking to them and not strangers!

DreamsMaterialize

February 22nd, 2010
2:02 pm

Raqi is your sitter someone you know personally or through a service?

Cemeeli

February 22nd, 2010
2:04 pm

@ JtJ – Hope you stick with your budget too. You seem to be enjoying all the planning and whatnot. Make it a good one.

Cemeeli

February 22nd, 2010
2:06 pm

needed that laugh Melo.

SexyCool

February 22nd, 2010
2:07 pm

A family that I used to do some work for used to use a service called “Friends of the Family” quite a bit.

Raqi

February 22nd, 2010
2:11 pm

That’s why we don’t go out more. The good thing is $60 is a flat rate now that was originally based on $15 an hour. Now if we are only gone 3hrs we pay $60 but if we are gone 5 hours we only pay $60. The baby likes her and that matters a lot.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 22nd, 2010
2:12 pm

It’s all about progression, while you’re too busy chasin’ your next erection. Feed ya mind & elevate yo soul. Cuz all ‘da cars, money and da clothes’ get old so i’ve been told. ;-)

Raqi

February 22nd, 2010
2:14 pm

DreamsMat, she is sorta like a friend of a friend. I just feel comfortable with her. And when we know we are going to be out pretty late she will bring her husband along so she doesn’t have to drive home late at night by herself.

lurker

February 22nd, 2010
2:15 pm

A good babysitter is well worth the money plus you can feel at ease leaving your little pumpkin.

princessnik

February 22nd, 2010
2:15 pm

@ cee Princess – So which are you going to do first?

I’m not even sure, but i’m going to figure it out

sorry it took so long busy day

Cemeeli

February 22nd, 2010
2:16 pm

sexycool – okay. glad you were standing there with me looking around the perimeter in the atmosphere, as if “dis cain’t be!”.

…think i looked down at the carpet 1-2 times too.

JtJ-229 Days til I Say "I Do" Again!!

February 22nd, 2010
2:20 pm

@ Ceemeeli- Yeah, but I don’t know about “enjoying it”. I just try to keep it all planned (written out) and tracked in my excel spreadsheet, so I know where I am at. The FSU garter was worth the $10 bucks!!

Now, I am off to the dentist…finally!

princessnik

February 22nd, 2010
2:20 pm

@ CEE/Raqui

$60??? Raqi – glad you like her.

wow i pay my niece $50 for a whole week :)

DreamsMaterialize

February 22nd, 2010
2:22 pm

wow i pay my niece $50 for a whole week
Can I hire your niece, or is that the family discount? lol

Melo

February 22nd, 2010
2:23 pm

too busy chasin’ your next erection…… elevate yo soul.???

SlimOne???

I know we talking stimuli/lus so erection/erect gets in der smewhere but i think u lost me and most of the females there…

soul and erection dont usually go hand in glove…

U wanna elucidate and make it easy for us?? :lol: U on another level right now!

princessnik

February 22nd, 2010
2:23 pm

fella’s i have a question, i was just having a conversation wit a guy friend and he says the consensus among fellas is that ugly girls have the “better” sex

“you aint never noticed the ugly chicks are the ones with all the kids?”

wow

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 22nd, 2010
2:25 pm

Hey Dreams….

I decided to come back and not let dude get the best of me.

Actually, I would like to thank the ex.
I want to give a standing ovation to the ex for allowing me to see how disturbed and mentally challenged he really is.
Only someone that does not clearly have themselves together would play headgames with a woman such as myself that only treated him with kindess.
Because he showed me how he is, he has simply provided an opportunity for someone else worthy of my love to step to the plate.

I am free!!!!!!!!

princessnik

February 22nd, 2010
2:25 pm

Dreams M i think that’s the family discount LOL

normally i buy her school shoes and part of her school clothes, so I was like look I need a babysitter and you need some money let’s work it out ;)

Cemeeli

February 22nd, 2010
2:27 pm

@ Princess – Raqi is comfortable and nothing surpasses that peace when you drop you baby/kid off with…trust/tried and true.

$50 for the week is what i’d give my family too. yeah.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 22nd, 2010
2:27 pm

melo ha ha ha ha Was just throwin something out there that I came up with on the way to work one morn. Totally off-topic lol my bad, guess I forgot my disclaimer ;-)

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 22nd, 2010
2:30 pm

<—–enjoying a coke and a smile

princessnik

February 22nd, 2010
2:31 pm

@ Cee Raqi is comfortable and nothing surpasses that peace

Oh yeah i know! Trust me I know! When Princess2 was a baby a lady from my church kept her the first 2.5 years and she only charged me $50 a week also :)

Melo

February 22nd, 2010
2:34 pm

the consensus among fellas is that ugly girls have the “better” sex

princessnik??

better sex?? OR they insist on Raw??

which is which?

I prefer u send me ur pic be4 i answer that one!

(aha!…) :-)

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 22nd, 2010
2:36 pm

my son’s father is the babysitter .
nothing like free babysitting while trying to get my date on :-D

DreamsMaterialize

February 22nd, 2010
2:36 pm

I am loved
I think you’re looking at it the right way. So, now the healing truly begins. Spring is around the corner, so get ya Sexy right and get out there.

Princess
Dang I wish I could find a sitter for $50 a week. Now about that sexy and ugly chicks. The best sex I’ve had was from that 7/8 range. The so-called dimes often think they’re too cute to get down with it…think they’re doing you a favor.

SexyCool

February 22nd, 2010
2:38 pm

I just paid off a loan today. I have logged onto my credit union site three times today just to look at the ZERO BALANCE!!!

Melo

February 22nd, 2010
2:42 pm

throwin something out there that I came up with on the way to work one morn

SlimOne??

i kinda figured that coz u were in ur own zone there,taling about improving ur soul,which is good but..eeeehh,erection?? i thoght surely?, Naw…that must be her cobweb talk!! :lol: :lol:

did u catch Wanda on V today teasibng Nina brown…and her(nina”s) sexual angst??

Wanad was saying Nina needs to have her back scratched and touched a lil bit coz shes just messing up people in the studio..to much aggresssion.

I feel for u ladies coz guys dont do that…

U go on a cycle..u grow horns..

U dont get hit,u grow horns..

If guys were like that,imagine..we wld have serious cases of violence in america..thank God! :lol: :lol:

Leggs

February 22nd, 2010
2:43 pm

That is a beautiful feeling, SexyC. Betcha look 3 more times before day’s end!

Cemeeli

February 22nd, 2010
2:44 pm

Congratulations!…for real.

since you have freed up extra change…i don’t mind you pay somma mine. uhn-un.

Cemeeli

February 22nd, 2010
2:45 pm

check it on mo’ time SexyCool…i ain’t mad at cha!

kimmie

February 22nd, 2010
2:49 pm

I am free!!!!!!!!

I am – Yay!!! I’m happy for ya!!

Free at last, free at last, thank God almight, I’m free at last!

kimmie

February 22nd, 2010
2:49 pm

SCool – Imma have that same feeling real soon!

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 22nd, 2010
2:50 pm

melo I think if more chicks took matters into their own hands, they wouldn’t need to act out their aggressions as much as they do. Which reminds, I still haven’t made it to Starship yet.

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 22nd, 2010
2:56 pm

Thanks Dreams

I believe that love is right around the corner and everyday I am getting closer to having my soulmate find me.

When my son’s father and I split I made sure that I focused on me and I didn’t start dating again until 1 year and plus months.

I think God gave me what I needed from my ex (dude I just broke up with)(we had a good relationship while we were a couple) and then took him away because he has something better for me down the road.
I’m not trying to sound cocky when I say that but now that I am not in that relationship I am able to see things that clearly show he was not the best partner for me.

I am very hopeful that I will find love.
I honestly believe I will marry one day whereas before I didn’t believe it.

I also am aware of my dating patterns: I find love when I am not thinking about it.

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 22nd, 2010
2:58 pm

I’ve also come to learn men want you more when it doesn’t seem like they can have you (at least that’s in my case)

This dude that I met once 2 yrs ago still tries to holla!!!Geesh!!

He texted me last night trying to make a date and the only reason why I responded was because I thought he was someone else. :O

mytw♥cents

February 22nd, 2010
2:58 pm

What tis this overcast sky??? I loves me some rain but d@mn. I was tryna hold onto that Sunday afternoon ridin round 285 blastin Outkast feelin’…

Oh well. How many folks has Melo tried to stimulate with his package?

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 22nd, 2010
2:58 pm

LOL @ Kimmie!!!!

Roiiiittttttttt!!!!!!!

kimmie

February 22nd, 2010
2:59 pm

If guys were like that,imagine..we wld have serious cases of violence in america.

Melo – Uhm, we’ve already had plenty of cases of men acting out violently in the news.

Jay

February 22nd, 2010
3:02 pm

I am…You baby daddy is your babysitter while going on a date. Dont let that backfire. If he thinks you are getting some, and he wants some….watch out….LOL

Melo

February 22nd, 2010
3:03 pm

Slimone??

I think thats one issue i will gladly suggest for ur meet and greet and talk fest u planning….cob web aggression! or cob web angst/boyfriend-less misery!!?? :lol:

Coz if females maintained their cool,took care of themselvs(like u suggset..im sure thru rabbit??) then most,who happen to be nice/pretty ladies,by the way,wld move around with smiles on their faces instead of frowns and thus better able to snag good guys.

I cant tell u how many times ive met nice chics in publix/home depot and she looking either angry and frowning and mugging or miserable,her head drooping and shlders hunched..

And im like gerl plzzz!!..u got everyting going on good but ur attitude?/ i cant even say hello!!???

Cobweb angst is a mthfckker??? :lol: :lol:

mytw♥cents

February 22nd, 2010
3:04 pm

SEXYCOOL. Did you go to the driving range yesterday? Thought I mighta caught a glimpse.

I am loved (I guess.....)

February 22nd, 2010
3:04 pm

Melo is right though. Back in the day , I would catch attitude if I didn’t get any.
The joke with my friends is that you always knew when I got some because I would be happy for days.

Now that I am older, I have learned to get closer to my hand in times of a drought. Um….lately….my hand about to fall off :-O

Melo

February 22nd, 2010
3:07 pm

Uhm, we’ve already had plenty of cases of men acting out violently in the news

Kimmie!!?

I know,im just saying yes,given male tendency for violence,imagine if that sexxual angst issue was one of the things that affect us the same way it does females?

this wrld wld be unliveable.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 22nd, 2010
3:08 pm

Well Melo, Battery operated tools are not to be confused as REPLACEMENTS…but merely make-shift bridges, to hold you over until the real thang comes thru. Getting it in every so often, gets your endorphins flowing, hence wiping that frown off the face and relieving some of that tension you probably didn’t know you had.

LMAO@ I am loved…..hand bout to fall off… :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

February 22nd, 2010
3:10 pm

This dude that I met once 2 yrs ago still tries to holla!!!Geesh!!
Lots of chicks make a crucial mistake when dealing with this kind of guy. They don’t permanently cut ALL communications of any sort. A dude feels like all he needs is your attention and he can make something happen. Cut off his calls, texts, letters, emails, psychic channeling anything. lol As soon as you even crack the door, that’s all he feels he needs, even it’s not really the case. If you haven’t communicated in any way in 5 years, and you all of a sudden accept a phone call, then it gives him a glimmer of hope, and he’ll run with that.

Melo

February 22nd, 2010
3:13 pm

Back in the day , I would catch attitude if I didn’t get any.

I am loved??

I know right coz sme days, when i dont give her some for days..it seems like Queen almost rapes me… :lol:

I be like,”hold on,let me prime this thang, i be on u in a few..daaaaang mayne”!…. :lol: :lol:

I had a nother fat chic back in the day that i gave up on..str8 up neypho this gerl..i bailed out..and said “no way,cant take ur apetite any longer” she wldnt give my wang time to recuperate..wanted me hard all the daymm time…

Told her,”excuse me,I aint on performance enhancing drugs,Im OUT!! ” :lol: :lol: