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Mix and Mingle For a Cause

If you don’t already know this, volunteering is sexy. In fact, I’ll take it further and say that single people who actively contribute time and efforts to their communities and charities make the best dates ever.  Guys, if you can manage to enlighten your date about your volunteer work, I can’t tell you how impressive this is to a smart woman.  It shows a lot about your character and ideals. It also sends the message that you possess traits that would be desirable in a husband and/or father.

I’m not even talking about saving the world or some superman heroics here.  Heck, just seeing a good looking man at the recycling center makes me swoon. I’m all  “aww he cares about the environment,  I bet he has a big heart” -  I’m a softie that way.

One of the wonderful things about Atlanta is that there are so many great charities and organizations that provide countless of opportunities to get involved.  If you are going to get all dressed up to go out anyway, why not mix and mingle for a cause! Why not check out the local charities who have annual fundraisers? Are you currently involved with a volunteer project or organization?

Of course, you shouldn’t go overboard and attempt to treat charity/volunteering events like some speed-dating function. Please, don’t be that guy/girl.  I just believe that when you are already participating in something that is important to you then you will feel good about yourself.  Which, in turn, can make your confidence go up.  It’s win-win. I’m not saying you will definitely meet someone wonderful but chances are you will at least connect with like-minded people who care!

Have you ever taken a date to a volunteer event or community service project?  What would you do if your first date was at a food bank or a shelter? Personally.. I would be impressed. I know a lot of guys would think I would pout or whine about it. As much as I love looking cute on a date, I would throw on some comfy clothes and shoes with no problem.  Some guys think that is when we look the sexiest (I’m looking at you, Drake).

Check out these great events happening in the city this weekend:

Stir It 28: Food Bloggers Align for Haiti Relief

Habitat for Humanity and Saigon Gourmet Haiti Fundraiser

Upcoming fundraisers:

Cystic Fibrosis Foundation – Atlanta Wine Opener

First Fridays (Portion of the proceeds will go to the Sisters of Faith Cancer Foundation)


308 comments Add your comment

Leggs

February 19th, 2010
8:04 am

Good morning, everyone! I do a lot of volunteer work. As a matter of fact I’m volunteering to sort medical supplies to send to Haiti next Thursday.

Enjoy your day today!

Cemeeli

February 19th, 2010
8:43 am

Morning….hey Ms. Leggs.

I’m early! and i like this topic.

…Fish on Friday @ McDonalds today – BOGO filets.

Binford2K

February 19th, 2010
8:53 am

Frankly, if the first date suggested by a woman was a volunteer effort/function, I’d be put off. To me, that’s something you get to after a few dates and realize you want to keep seeing them or see them exclusively. I was a Big Brother for a while and didn’t do it for any other reason other than I thought it was right and a way to give back. I did not care if anyone knew or were impressed by it.

But I do like to see a gal with a sense of community with the mindset to help …after I know I like her.

Leggs

February 19th, 2010
9:00 am

Hey, Ms. Cee. I can’t bring myself to order one of those fish sandwiches or anything else from Mickey Dees. I have a gf who loves them.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 19th, 2010
9:01 am

TGIF! Good morning

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 19th, 2010
9:06 am

Slim is starting the “Bring the McRib Back” Foundation. ;-)

Professor

February 19th, 2010
9:08 am

Hmmm,

I would not be impressed. I like those silent givers the ones that give and do not want recognition. Also I think we all well some of us have charities that are close to our hearts. For me I like helping children, even more so children with setbacks, or animals (horses and dogs). With that said I do not have the interest in helping the (insert cause here).

After a few months of dating I may participate in a charity event with this person. I guess you can say I am protective of my time and money. So I only concentrate on a few charities to make an impact.

Hola!

Melo

February 19th, 2010
9:12 am

Wake up people!!

Merning!!!!

Raqi

February 19th, 2010
9:12 am

Volunteering is a good thing when you are doing it for the right reasons.

This is a very timely topic.

Tomorrow my bffs and I are meeting with a lady that one of my friend’s know that helps with a women’s and children shelter. We all have gone thru our closets and gathered clothing as well as bought new undergarments to take to give to this representative at the shelter. These items will help in providing the ladies at the shelter with decent attire to go on job interviews. And we are giving the kids some new clothing.

What will our men be doing while we are out? They are taking care of the babies. They are all getting together at Doc’s house and taking care of the kiddies. I can almost imagine a scene from Daddy Daycare. LOL

My baby is 8 months and you know I have the 15yr old. Doc’s boys are 15 and 13. Mari’s kids are 1 and 2. And Deni’s baby is 2 months. I hope they have lots of fun. LOL

Peaches

February 19th, 2010
9:13 am

Folks forget about someone elses motivation for doing something right and proper. JUST DO IT! I’m kinda toe up about this Benny Hinn news.

Leggs

February 19th, 2010
9:15 am

@Raqi ~ is the name of your organization “Dress for Success?”

Sassy Me :-)

February 19th, 2010
9:17 am

Happy Friday blog crew!

Have you ever taken a date to a volunteer event or community service project? What would you do if your first date was at a food bank or a shelter?

I volunteer feeding the hungry and homeless at a church off of Fair street right down the street from Morehouse when I can but it’s usally on Saturday morning VERY early(we fix n serve b’fast then give a box lunch for later) so I wouldn’t dare bring a date. However if a man I was dating truly wanted to go that early then yeah that would be hawt.

CeeMee I saw that add ’bout the fish sammiches but I thought it was just for a short period of time today…and who dat talking ’bout bringing back the McRib? Folk lost their minds when they first came out….how long ago was that?

Professor

February 19th, 2010
9:19 am

Peaches~the Benny Hinn news surprised me too, especially after 30 years together! For some reason, I always think if two people have been married a long time like 20 or 30 years they ought to be able to work it out. I know my thinking is flawed on that one.

Leggs

February 19th, 2010
9:19 am

2004 or 2005!

Leggs

February 19th, 2010
9:22 am

Some people just don’t want to grow old miserable in their marriage even after 20-30 years. That’s “settling” to stay just because of the number of years involved. Going through the motions isn’t any fun. Perhaps the “quality of life” is more important than a loveless, fake marriage (meaining appearing happy and connected in public while living like War of the Roses behind closed doors).

Cemeeli

February 19th, 2010
9:24 am

On topic: when you give to the needy its not a act that should be announce loud and openly as if to be honored by people. But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doin. So that your giving may be in secret. It’s more of a blessing!

@Leggs – I know what you’re sayiing about the filet. The stuff there tastes like nothing…or something…or maybe the something is just extra processed.

Cemeeli

February 19th, 2010
9:28 am

@ Professor – I agree with your 9:08 statement. I would not be impressed just cause a guy volunteers overtly.

I too enjoy planting seeds (whatever that be time, money, ect) to children and young adults.

Cemeeli

February 19th, 2010
9:30 am

@ Peaches – What happen with Benny Hinn?

princessnik...five miles to empty

February 19th, 2010
9:32 am

I used to do quite a bit of volunteering prior to grad school, kind of fell off and haven’t gotten back on the wagon yet trying to find something i really “feel” if that makes sense. However, i don’t think its something you should go around announcing loudly either, that makes it seem as though you are in it for the wrong reason. Unless i actually met a dude while doing the volunteer work he would probably have to get to know me very well to even uncover my volunteer work.

Good Morning!

Sassy Me :-)

February 19th, 2010
9:33 am

Cee Benny Hinn and his wife are divorcing.

Raqo

February 19th, 2010
9:33 am

Leggs, I don’t think so. The lady that we are meeting goes to church with my friend. She works with women at shelters in helping them find jobs so that they can get back on their feet. She expressed to my friend that the young didn’t have decent clothing to wear when they go out on interviews. While we were together Wednesday night my friend asked if we could help and that’s what we all are doing.

I’ll find out the name for you.

DIG THAT

February 19th, 2010
9:34 am

Good Morning All,
Lawd we talking bout food already.

TGIF!!!!

DIG THAT

February 19th, 2010
9:35 am

@Cemeeli
I’m not even sure if that is fish

princessnik...five miles to empty

February 19th, 2010
9:38 am

Dig That/CeeMee……those are fish parts

Cemeeli

February 19th, 2010
9:38 am

Thanks Sassy…was hoping it was not death. I did not want to read/research it.

Rajaan’s news is rehashing fresh memories & wounds for me. I cain’t take much more.

Professor

February 19th, 2010
9:38 am

Question: Do “we” go too far trying to impress potential dates? I mean is it really necessary trying to come up with all of this trendy stuff, so that we will appear compassionate, helpful, natural, and beautiful or whatever illusion we are trying to paint. Does this make us gullible, always locking in on something and perhaps pretending?

IMO, YES!

DIG THAT

February 19th, 2010
9:39 am

@Professor
I guess my thinking is a little flawed too. To me what haven’t you gone thru in 30 years that can’t be fixed that could lead to divorce. Guess you got to walk in those shoes to know but mayne can’t we work it out. I been leaving the toilet seat up for 25 years and now you wanna walk out and can’t take it no more. C’mon baby I will work on it. LMAO!!!!

Cemeeli

February 19th, 2010
9:40 am

@Princess/DIG THAT – filet-o-fish mush…it’s mush! lol Yasin’s has a good fish sandwhich…and so does 6Feet.

DIG THAT

February 19th, 2010
9:40 am

@Princess
Fish parts with a ton of tartar(I think it’s tartar)sauce

Leggs

February 19th, 2010
9:41 am

@Dig That ~ my exact sentiment, is that really fish???

@Raqo/Raqi ~ Dress for Success is a program giving back to shelthers where the women are provided with business attire clothing to look presentable on job interviews.

Sometimes my left hand has smacked me for not stopping my right hand from doing….J/K

Raqo

February 19th, 2010
9:43 am

is it really necessary trying to come up with all of this trendy stuff

Professor, I agree with that question. It seems these days that people think they have to be “trendy” or with the current “fad” to be accepted as an eligible potential. You hear so much about folks looking for the new up and coming trends looking for mates. There is nothing wrong with liking certain things and visiting certain places but mindset now of having to be in the know just to get a date and/or mate is just quite puzzling.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 19th, 2010
9:43 am

“I been leaving the toilet seat up for 25 years and now you wanna walk out and can’t take it no more. C’mon baby I will work on it”

@DIG You are a trip! I’m sure if that was the case it would’ve come down to her falling into the cold azz toilet water, still swarming with your urine, at 3am in the morn, one too many times. Believe me, that’s NO FUN AT ALL! Hayo…i’d divorce yo azz too. lol

DreamsMaterialize

February 19th, 2010
9:43 am

Morning
I’ve gone on volunteer efforts with women I was dating, but never as a first date. I’m not opposed to it. I like a woman whose consciousness includes community outreach. I volunteer because it’s my way of doing for others what has been done for me.

Leggs

February 19th, 2010
9:44 am

Sorry, didn’t mean to use attire and clothing back to back…sheesh!

Raqi

February 19th, 2010
9:47 am

Leggs, thanks for pointing out my typo. I didn’t realize I was a stroke off in my own name. LOL

Cemeeli

February 19th, 2010
9:48 am

@ Leggs – Giving is a precious thing for me….well maybe one of the most precious…i believe my ministry is giving.

i abandon any thought of what will happened, or if i will get something in return. I have given my way while under duress and downtrodden situations…and i mean some DARK times in my life…& to floks that may not have needed it…lemme stop here….

Leggs

February 19th, 2010
9:49 am

Why are you Raqo today???

Raqi

February 19th, 2010
9:52 am

Cemeeli, I believe if you do or give in the name of charity looking for something in return then it’s not from the heart. You shouldn’t be doing it in pretense.

I don’t do a lot of volunteering. Only when my church has a function will I do volunteering. But I will help someone that I know need help. I am not Santa Clause. I don’t try to fill every hand that is held out, but I don’t mind helping when I feel the need is truly there.

Cemeeli

February 19th, 2010
9:53 am

@ DIG THAT – are you treatin for Fish today?

tho Slim wants a McRab sandwhich…yes, McRab

abc

February 19th, 2010
9:53 am

Volunteering at the homeless shelter, with mentally and physically handicapped, habitat for humanity, etc. hardly makes a date kind of scenario. Exactly what kind of volunteer/charity are you talking about? As in, donate money for a gala event or something?

Cemeeli

February 19th, 2010
9:54 am

You shouldn’t be doing it in pretense.

You and i know that…buuuutttt…

DreamsMaterialize

February 19th, 2010
9:55 am

So why exactly do we have to be secretive about giving? I agree that no person should give with an expectation of praise or recognition. But if I’m passionate about a cause, I don’t care who knows. Not only that, but maybe being vocal about it educates someone else who may be moved to support that cause. What’s wrong with that?

princessnik...five miles to empty

February 19th, 2010
9:55 am

Dig That/Ceemee

@ DIG THAT – are you treatin for Fish today?

tho Slim wants a McRab sandwhich…yes, McRab

PrincessNik wants a southern chicken sandwich :)

Raqi

February 19th, 2010
9:56 am

Leggs, it’s a typo.

Leggs

February 19th, 2010
9:57 am

@Cee ~ I thoroughly understand cuz I feel the same way.

princessnik...five miles to empty

February 19th, 2010
9:57 am

dreams M

So why exactly do we have to be secretive about giving?

I don’t think you have to be secretive, but we have all met someone who does volunteer work and announces it just to make themselves look good.

Leggs

February 19th, 2010
9:58 am

I see that now. You’re post didn’t appear on my screen until after I asked.

Raqi

February 19th, 2010
9:59 am

DreamsMat, there is nothing wrong with others knowing, but the statement means don’t do it for show. Don’t give just so you can get the recognition. That’s not the purpose of giving. It’s to help others and not to receive praise and recognition from others.

Cemeeli

February 19th, 2010
10:01 am

@ Dreams – Not saying anything is wrong with sharing the word with others for others to give…you off base after reading me.

I’m speaking totally off the boastful pretense of …”i did my good deed, see me!”

when you DON’T give to the man/woman with the cup/bucket on the corner has/was it said to the next man “i didn’t give, are you”?

DreamsMaterialize

February 19th, 2010
10:05 am

It’s to help others and not to receive praise and recognition from others.
I said that in my post.

So, let’s play devil’s advocate. Are we saying that a person who does NOT give from the heart should not give at all? Countless corporations and wealthy people give to charity or start charitable organizations strictly as a tax shelter. That type of giving is not from the heart, but the recipients still benefit from what is given. I’d venture to say that if we only accepted donations from people who gave “from the heart”, many charities would be severely lacking in contributions.