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Chasing Pavements

One of my favorite singer/songwriters, Adele sings about chasing after love, even if it leads nowhere.  It reminds me of what it feels like to be the woman asking a guy out first.  I know men are used to this feeling, all the time, but for a lady, there could be more at stake.  Every time a woman asks a man out first, she is taking a risk at shifting the dynamics of a future relationship.

Is it better for a woman to make such a risk if she feels that strong of an attraction to a guy?

When women approach men, what exactly do they stand to lose? I always hear so many men say that they truly admire a woman that can ask him out.  I have no hard statistics, but these same men aren’t actually married or in a relationship with that woman.  So is it really admirable or are men secretly thinking they don’t want to be the one pursued after all?

When a woman asks a man out, is she chasing pavements? Can it ever lead to a relationship with good potential?

361 comments Add your comment

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
9:19 am

I think over time it is quite ok to ask your guy out…In the start it should be the other way around….be agressive for some is a major turn off and the new words thirsty and hungry and older one desprate and attention whore comes into play with associating some women doing anything to go on a date or have a warm body by them….some even descibe me as such from time to time but I truly don’t let their assessment define me. I welcome being approached and persued and I have some and at which both have failed over time but again what is for me either way will be so I am open and relaxing a bit and trying to enjoy the ride of being single and keeping the legs closed for better results….yeah I am honest with self and know the same results will give the same problems so we will see what the new ride will bring over time….

Morning!

Jeff

February 18th, 2010
9:20 am

Welcome to the wonderful world of equality ladies. It’s not the walk over to ask someone out that is nerve-racking, it’s the walk back after they shoot you down.

Raqi...Filled with His Love

February 18th, 2010
9:27 am

Good Morning.

While it is okay for a woman to make her attraction known to a man, being the old fashion type of girl that I am I do believe that men are to be the chasers.

You often hear some of them say that they like for women to come after them I have yet to meet a man that has said he was not put off by a woman chasing him.

I think it is a woman’s duty or place to make herself “catchable” should she share an attraction with a man, but she should let him be the one that chase her. Now this doesn’t mean play hard to get, but it simply means if he is interested he will be letting you know. And if you are interest show mutual interest and reciprocate.

I have asked a guy out in my past and I have to say that I have a flop under my belt and a short lived dating run also. Even with the one that I initially asked out it was after talking on the phone a few times and then allowing him to be the chaser after that.

Raqi...Filled with His Love

February 18th, 2010
9:33 am

There are some things in life that we just can’t change. I truly believe that some things were put into play from the beginning and when we try to change it, it throws of the balance in the Universe. It’s sorta like when your body is trying to fight off a foreign object. When something don’t belong the nature workings of your body will get thrown off and sometimes create infections.

That’s how I feel about relationships and their workings. When something in the mix isn’t as it should be it creates an infection.

Some men just don’t know the priviledge and upper hand they have been dealt by our Creator. It’s not a priviledge to be used as a manipulation tactic or for foul living but it a priviledge to be a man. To be the head and so many men these days either don’t want the role or aren’t “man” enough to know how to handle it and do right by it.

DreamsMaterialize

February 18th, 2010
9:39 am

When women approach men, what exactly does they stand to lose?
How can you actually “lose” something by pursuing your own happiness? You have nothing to lose, and everything to gain.

Every time a woman asks a man out first, she is taking a risk at shifting the dynamics of a future relationship
What exactly is the risk in this? I don’t understand. The risk is standing idly by, watching your happiness pass you by. Nothing comes without risk, especially things with great reward. If you aren’t willing to risk anything for love and happiness, then you don’t deserve love and happiness…you deserve whatever you get.

When a woman asks a man out, is she chasing pavements? Can it ever lead to a relationship with good potential?
A woman who asks a man out will see an overall improvement in the types of guys who match her preferrences. That increases your chances of having a good relationship. If you want the best, you have to go get it. If you think waiting around for the best to come find you is a good strategy, then you’ll continue to be disappointed. I’d challenge anyone to go to their job and try that strategy…see how long you last.

anonymousella

February 18th, 2010
9:43 am

i’m going to go with no. it has never worked out for me. in my experience, what happens is that the guy enjoys being chased for a change and will ride it out until someone catches his eye.

now that doesn’t mean she shouldn’t flirt. a woman can and should drop hints to let a man know that his advances will be reciprocated. but make the first move? nah homie … lol.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 18th, 2010
9:56 am

I love Adele’s voice and I really like that song.

HI YA’LL

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
10:02 am

I agree with anonymousella

a woman can and should drop hints to let a man know that his advances will be reciprocated. but make the first move? nah homie … lol.

Good Morning!

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
10:08 am

Morning Crew!

Chasing pavement would just be all is it to it too….

Melo

February 18th, 2010
10:09 am

it’s the walk back after they shoot you down

You right Jeff!!!,the back of her head will seem and weigh real heavy as she walks back to her corner,let alone those high heels.She will wish she was wearing flip flops instead.

It dont look good unless u have done some real research and u are assured of the outcome/success or if ur ego is really a high octane level to withstand the downside.

Guys are used to rejection instead.

Ladies?? Not so!
We so not used to our ladies sulking in silence, in public,ur sucking ur forefinger in mouf,looking glum. :-)

So quit the thoght! :lol:

Good morning folks,getting warmer!

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
10:11 am

morning…

i agree with anonymousella and Princess.

not hannein’.

NY2GA

February 18th, 2010
10:13 am

Raqi – I have read your comments and I think you are taking this a little bit to left field. Some things in life you cannot change, you are joking right? It throws off the balance of the universe, good comedy for so early in the morning. Privilege and upper hand, you are cracking me up.

I do agree with you that a woman should make herself, maybe not “catchable” but known to the man who she might have an attraction too. Sorry to hear about your past success rate not working out, but believe me, in this day and time, there is nothing wrong with a woman saying hey, let’s go out and have a drink. From that point, it’s on the both of them to determine if this is something they want to pursue. You are asking him out, you are not asking him to marry you. It’s not that serious… :-)

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
10:19 am

@NY2GA when does it become aggressive behavior from a women’s standpoint that could be a turn off with persuing a man first….

Fred G. Sanford, Jr.

February 18th, 2010
10:23 am

I’ve never understood the “don’t approach men… it will ruin the potential relationship” argument.

How can women think making the man initiate increases the odds of having a better relationship when most, if not all, of their failed relationships were initiated by men?! If anything, you’d think they’d be more open to the idea of trying something different.

Melo

February 18th, 2010
10:25 am

I am so not feeling the topic today!…

I am actually looking more to Tiger’s press conference tommorrow,his wife beside him and her arms around on his shoulders(her luving hubby),on the podium, as he talks of his foibles with the multiple heiffers and her(wify) :lol: impending reconciliation moves and her move back to the family crib!

The Masters Trnament wil be a real spectacle and fun to watch,I wish i had a ticket!

Welcome Tiger! :lol: :lol:

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
10:28 am

lol melo! Golf is welcoming him back too money talks!

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
10:30 am

melo I’m with you on the topic! it’ll change by lunch LOL

Fred G. Sanford, Jr.

February 18th, 2010
10:30 am

“If you think waiting around for the best to come find you is a good strategy, then you’ll continue to be disappointed. I’d challenge anyone to go to their job and try that strategy…see how long you last.” — DreamsMaterialize

On point.

I don’t feel sorry for some women who can’t find love. It’s usually because they’re romantically lazy. They can get degrees, jobs, buy homes and cars, start and run businesses – all by themselves – but refuse to say “hello” or invite a guy out first? They show hustle and initiative in every area of their life except for their love life. I don’t get it.

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
10:32 am

@ Melo – I hope that works out as well. i’m still :mrgreen: at him Hmmm…there will only be a select number of media attendance to hear him make statements, per Tiger’s PR.

a ticket to Master’s if/when he returns? big hit.

Raqi...Filled with His Love

February 18th, 2010
10:33 am

NY2GA, I didn’t say it was wrong for a woman to make her attraction known to the man. Read my first couple of lines. I said that after that point it’s the man that should do the chasing.

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
10:34 am

a closed mouth don’t get fed huh….lol and it is ok to step outside the box and meet n greet more….hmmmm

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
10:35 am

@ Fred …They show hustle and initiative in every area of their life except for their love life. I don’t get it.

In most cases when a female does approach the guy, the guy feels like she is too agressive, sure he may sign on for the puddy (wow i been reading Melo too long) but typically the guy is more confident if he is the agressor. Not to say that applies to every single situation.

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
10:38 am

so guys:

do you think its time for a paradigm shift?

are you comfortable with women being the one to step to you?

NY2GA

February 18th, 2010
10:38 am

Lady J – To answer your question “when does it become aggressive behavior from a women’s standpoint that could be a turn off with persuing a man first”, if the guy is not showing any interest or if he kinda blows you off, then I would not waste my (your) time. If the attraction is mutual, you will know it right off, you will feel it during your conversations. If the woman keeps pursuing and he is not reciprocating, he is not interested. You know the signs, no return phone calls, etc…

If you are interested in the guy and he appears to be cool (I am sure you have been doing some observations), then strike up a conversation, see what he has to say, if it sounds good and feels good, then go for it. If things don’t turn out well, the conversation while having that drink is corny or stiff, then say thank you and be on your way.

NY2GA

February 18th, 2010
10:40 am

PRINCESSNIK – The time has already come. Women are going for theirs. If she steps to me and it feels good, then let’s talk, feel things out. You are not making a life long committment because you step to someone and have a little convo.

Professor...

February 18th, 2010
10:41 am

Hola!

I am a bit old fashion so I would not be comfortable asking a guy out. However, I would like to think I am bold enough to do it, but I just have not done it.

Like many of you I am looking forward to the Great Tiger press conference and I wonder if Mrs. Tiger will stand behind or beside her man…

Melo

February 18th, 2010
10:42 am

PRINCESSNIK??

really proud of u for that 10.35 analysis!

Have that mindset in the dating world..as a gerl,u be a champion,trust!…like a shark in murky waters but with night vision goggles!! :lol:

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
10:44 am

@ NY2GA …..You are not making a life long committment because you step to someone and have a little convo.

Ok so that goes back to :

“a woman can and should drop hints to let a man know that his advances will be reciprocated.”

I don’t have a problem having a little convo with a guy, i’m in my best element talking with men but once the conversation is out there I’m probably not going to be the one doing the asking out

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
10:45 am

cool NY2GA….wonder what the new topic will be….pls not tiger! lol

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
10:50 am

Everyone is waiting for the Tiger conference @11:00.

I see nothing wrong with asking a man out. Not all the time, but hell we all like to be hunted, even men. Sure, it’s the norm for them to chase us, but nothing wrong with shaking things up every so often.

DreamsMaterialize

February 18th, 2010
10:52 am

I see. So, the “I Don’t Ask Guys Out” approach has been a winning strategy right? Also, using one example to show that something doesn’t work isn’t justifiable. Proof by example is not a proof. If you want the same thing you’ve been getting, then keep implementing the same strategy, but if you want something different and more successful, then change it up.

Jeff

February 18th, 2010
10:52 am

I’m perfectly comfortable with women taking the intiative in a lot of things. Just don’t let me hear you complain about the negatives that come with those opportunities.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 18th, 2010
10:53 am

So fellas…what happened to you all talking about being able to recognize the vibe of desperation coming from an aggressive chick a mile away?….Must be a mighty fine line or either ya’ll are talking out of boef sides of ya mouff.

I am loved (or at least I thought I was)

February 18th, 2010
10:53 am

Dear Blog,

It has been a pleasure getting to know you.
I’m taking a hiatus.
My ex justed texted me that he wants his key back and he has stuff of mine to give back.
He states that he met someone that meets his needs.

This really hurts right now. good-bye.

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
10:54 am

@ LadyJ – pls get the ball rolling…or maybe the lurkers got something to add today.

Ms. Main has been m.i.a, she usually bring up some interesting spins from the lurker’s corner.

Jeff

February 18th, 2010
10:57 am

We men can sense desperation just like you women can. What is a boeff and a mouff?

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
10:59 am

seriously oh my

Anotha Brotha

February 18th, 2010
11:01 am

This is primarily an issue that comes up with black women- and to be more specific, women with a need to feel chosen and “chased”, as so many of you have stated. Being “old fashioned”, citing Proverbs etc is cover. You crave to be desired and valued. Many will spend years by themselves waiting for a man to give her that value that her father never did. It’s a self-esteem/image issue. Most men in here have experienced speaking to a “bg”, only to have her act as if she didn’t hear you. It’s not due to disinterest, it’s because she wants you to fight through her nonsense and thoroughly choose her. This, however, is an unfortunate psychological flaw in a large number of women that contribute to them not having a man. Conversely, white girls (or more specifically, women who have healthy psychological states), have the strength to initiate a convo. They’re more concerned with having a guy then feeling selected.

If a woman were to extend her hand, with a smile and say hello, I would give her added attention as she has shown herself to be a strong woman.It would also be a major positive consideration when deciding whether she has longterm potential. It’s the weak and meek amongst you that are a turnoff to a strong man. But, you all are having so much success in relationships so do what it do.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 18th, 2010
11:03 am

Jeff, that was ebonics…boeff = both and mouff = mouth

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
11:03 am

jeff
boeff=both
mouff=mouth

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
11:05 am

lol…the translation.

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
11:06 am

you know what everybody………..

what you are lookin for is looking for you

so if he/she is looking for the her/him to approach then they are looking for you too

kimmie

February 18th, 2010
11:07 am

Hey Blog Fam!

Just because it’s different, doesn’t necessarily mean it’s more successful. Think about that.

But do what works for you. The men I chose to deal with relish their role as men.

As for me, the few times I’ve tried to initiate, my success rate is ZERO!

Sooo… yes, the MAN I deal with made the initial approach. I have had plenty of opportunity to RECIPROCATE and DO SO. But he initiated the pursuit. WE like it that way.

Oh, I could really care less what Tiger has to say. I’ll watch the Master’s or whatever tournament he may be in, if I happen to have it on and have absolutely nothing else to watch, because he’s the greatest golfer ever. As for his other mess, that’s on him & his swiss women.

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
11:08 am

we could go around about this topic all day but in the end different people find different things attractive, what one person may want, another person may detest

SexyCool

February 18th, 2010
11:09 am

I am loved – You are loved. Sending you cyberhugs and vibes of love.

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
11:09 am

@ Nicety – She is so adorable!…

IDK...to risk or not?

February 18th, 2010
11:11 am

Mornting!

Taking risks can be scary generally no exception in the area of women approaching men. My question is how much is too much? In the approach. I asked a question the other day about something similiar…a person has sparked my interest, he has a blog, i made a comment on it…which was posted but not responded to. (typical) Should there be another move I make? Or…….

DreamsMaterialize

February 18th, 2010
11:11 am

being able to recognize the vibe of desperation coming from an aggressive chick a mile away
There is a difference between aggressive and assertive. I don’t see anything desperate about someone taking the initiative to get what she wants.

I am loved
Now you cut all that ish out. The blog told you that this would happen. Actually, the blog advised you to preempt this scenario by voluntarily giving back the key and any other items. I know that doesn’t make you feel any better, but take it as a lesson. Sometimes people on the outside who are emotionally detached can see things more clearly than the one who is completely immersed. I would encourage you to keep blogging. Believe it or not, some gems are dropped on here regularly and it could prove to be therapeutic.

IDK...to risk or not?

February 18th, 2010
11:14 am

I am Loved…as Tupac said, “You gotta keep ya head up”

NY2GA

February 18th, 2010
11:14 am

PRINCESSNIK – I like that 11:06 post …

I was at a little get together and a nice lady was with her friends and asked me who I was there with (sorta jokingly). I said no one, she said cool, you are with us now. That’s all it took, we are cool to this day and have the best of times. It doesn’t have to be that serious, again, you are not asking him to come home and meet momma and daddy. It’s getting together to chat and see if there is any interest. If so, move forward, if not, step…

Old fashion, new fashion, doesn’t matter. You are merely talking to someone, if the conversation comes up about going out, cool, if not, don’t. I say it again, it’s not that serious, don’t make a mountain out of a mole hill. If you like someone, speak to them, if they like you, they will talk back.

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
11:15 am

lol i was waiting on that lol!

Raqi...Filled with His Love

February 18th, 2010
11:16 am

So fellas…what happened to you all talking about being able to recognize the vibe of desperation coming from an aggressive chick a mile away?

SlimOne, Exactly. But you know what I think it is, when it’s about a woman they find attractive or could possibly be intimidated by and she approaches it all good until it isn’t any more. When it’s a woman they find unattractive that approaches she is labeled desperate and/or throwing herself at “men”.

kimmie

February 18th, 2010
11:16 am

To clarify, are we talking about actually asking for a guy’s number first and asking him out or are we just talking about saying hello, smiling, initiating a conversation?

I’ve never had trouble with the later. I’ve never done the former. But then I’ve never had to. Any guy that was interested has approached me, end of subject, not an issue. Even the shyest guys. I like men who know what they want & go after it.

Anotha – The whole “wait for the guy to approach you or there will be a negetive shift in the dynamics of the relationship” thing? Guess who really put that out to the mainstream media & to the masses? The “Swiss” authors of the book The Rules! And why knock some sisters that want to follow biblical tradition? They usually meet like-mind brothas, so it all works out. But please spare us the “swiss” girls do this better than the sisters mess, okay?

Raqi...Filled with His Love

February 18th, 2010
11:18 am

I am loved we tried to help you avoid that. You should have sent the key back to him and you would not be having what is happening right now.

Don’t let him have the best of you though. And don’t let him see you hurting.

East Point's Own

February 18th, 2010
11:20 am

A woman is not considered aggressive if she asks a man out… what I find is that once a man lets that woman who asked him out know that he is not interested, often the ladies won’t accept that and they keep coming at the dude. That is aggressive.
But just like men who throw out the ‘B’ word when a man turns down their intial advances women can get out of hand too… all men who don’t connect with you upon meeting you are not broke,gay, or have a little d*&k…

I have found that when I have turned down the advances of some women they wanna ask a million questions about why I feel that way… blah, blah, blah…or they wanna keep “hanging out” as if they are going to change my mind… that’s when women have gone too far. If we just met in the last 1 or 2 weeks you should not be that attached and/or emotionally involved. I don’t necessarily mean when a woman approaches and the man turns her down immediately, but rather after the first week or two of dating and the man determines that she is not a good fit.

Once again I am not woman bashing… but since I only date women that’s all I can comment on. If what I have said does not apply to you that’s fine too.

http://hispointofview.com

Anotha Brotha

February 18th, 2010
11:20 am

Yes, but the Swiss girls are winning. You all get on Nightline crying every week.

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
11:22 am

@I am loved ~ take DreamsM advice. Continue to blog and DO NOT ADOPT the “woe is me” attitude. Although him texting you he found someone else that fits his needs was unnecessary, don’t let your emotions show on your face when you give him back his key/stuff. Better yet, can he pick it up and drop your stuff off at a relative/friend’s home????

Professor...

February 18th, 2010
11:22 am

I am loved You will get through this, stay strong and do not let a heartbreak, break you and your spirit.

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
11:23 am

Kimmie – mother of the “shut the door with that mess!”…i feel some kind of way after reading that 11:16. But i didn’t wear my armor bearer gear today…so i’m gone pass the plate from wayy in the back.

Raqi...Filled with His Love

February 18th, 2010
11:23 am

kimmie I don’t know what it’s talking about. NY2GA told me I was out in left field. (Thanks NY. LOL)

When it says “Chasing….” I assumed it was talking about being the pursuer. Being the one doing the chasing.

There is nothing wrong with making the initial attraction known, but I don’t think women should do the chasing. That’s how a lot of women get their hearts broken and get used, chasing men that aren’t really that into them. If a man is interested he will let a woman know it. But if she’s that keeps going at him, there are some real jerks out there that will milk it for what it’s worth.

Just like some women are known to use men they are not really that into.

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
11:23 am

@ Anutha Brotha……….You all get on Nightline crying every week.

dizzam!, you had to take it there.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 18th, 2010
11:23 am

@Raqi I think you have a point there as far as WHO is it that’s doing the approaching. I guess it’s no different than when a guy you’re NOT interested in sends you some ‘crazy message’..but when that same message is sent by a guy you’re sort of attracted to, it’s then considered sweet. :lol:

Matter of fact, i have initiated exchanging numbers with a dude when I was out about 2 months ago. Before we departed he asked if I wanted to come home with him to cuddle…WTF! So needless to say, I never called him and he never called me after that. I have no problem initiating a conversation with a guy, but as far as leading the meeting on to a courtship, I’d much rather let the guy take the reigns on that one.

@Cee If I let the Mexican guy that approached me Saturday knock me up, I might now have a chance to have a baby that can measure up to my Jassy poo LOL!

DreamsMaterialize

February 18th, 2010
11:24 am

I like men who know what they want & go after it.
We also like women who know what they want and go after it.

But you know what I think it is, when it’s about a woman they find attractive or could possibly be intimidated by and she approaches it all good until it isn’t any more. When it’s a woman they find unattractive that approaches she is labeled desperate and/or throwing herself at “men”.
This doesn’t make any sense. But I’ll generalize wildly too. The reason why women refuse to approach is because as long as they don’t ask guys out, they don’t have to take any responsibility for their failed interactions with guys. However, as soon as you start asking guys out, then you’ll have to start being accountable for the results of your interactions.

Raqi...Filled with His Love

February 18th, 2010
11:26 am

Enter your comments here

Mo (aka Moeisha - tired as h3ll! )

February 18th, 2010
11:26 am

Hey Err’body!!

Lady J – hey chica, didnt forget about that info…working on it! Its been a kwazy week! So whats the new topic? :smile:

Dreams – how do?

on topic – I dont mind asking a guy out but its not something I do all the time.

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
11:27 am

@I am loved ~ do you need me to round up Slap-A-Hoe tribe and kick him in his shins???

NY2GA

February 18th, 2010
11:27 am

Raqi – Chasing, really. I read your first couple of lines, I stand corrected. Now as for chasing, if I like you, I will talk to you and see if the conversation and attraction is there. If so, I will ask you out, if you say no, that’s it, ain’t no chasing in it.

All I am saying is lighten up a little bit!!!

Raqi...Filled with His Love

February 18th, 2010
11:29 am

But you know what SlimOne, in that instance of exchanging the numbers and you being the one to initiate it, I think the real test is if he calls you first and more often than you running him down calling him.

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
11:29 am

If I let the Mexican guy that approached me Saturday knock me up

Nicety – I am on the flo’!!! lol Girl, that baby would be a lil too close.

lil Tequero Taco Bell, be at the gas stations scannin’ and grinnin’ don’t they?

Anotha Brotha

February 18th, 2010
11:29 am

“The reason why women refuse to approach is because as long as they don’t ask guys out, they don’t have to take any responsibility for their failed interactions with guys. However, as soon as you start asking guys out, then you’ll have to start being accountable for the results of your interactions.”

+1

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
11:30 am

Thanks sistah Mo!!!!! I will keep you posted of my event as well!:)

kimmie

February 18th, 2010
11:32 am

Depends on what you define as “winning”!

Professor...

February 18th, 2010
11:32 am

The reason why women refuse to approach is because as long as they don’t ask guys out, they don’t have to take any responsibility for their failed interactions with guys.

Now you got me thinking on that one…

Raqi...Filled with His Love

February 18th, 2010
11:32 am

LOL NY2GA, you know Sunday, being Valentine’s Day and all, the sermon was about “love between a man and his woman” (Read those last 5 words, LOL) and I am already a traditional kind of girl so maybe it’s still spilling over into today. :lol:

Melo

February 18th, 2010
11:35 am

Dont somebody here have I am loved’s phone or email??

Reach out to her plz and help her,..u ladies coz she seems to be needing lots of break up help.

I aint being funny,im serious!

IDK??
the answer to ur 11.11 qstion is on ur 11.14 advice to I am loved!… :lol:

If that blog man aint answering ur email but u wanna continue with ur proposal,u being aggressive,much the same way u dont like a dude pressing after u have told him NO!

Keep ur head up and keep looking! :lol:

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
11:35 am

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
11:37 am

If i had her contact Melo i would.

Somebody thinks the world of her, and she don’t even know it…cause the blinders are on.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 18th, 2010
11:40 am

@Cee lmao! Thing about it is he doesn’t have the stereotypical look of a Mexican male. He looks like he’s from Israel or Lebanon or something…however, he is short tho. :shock:

Raqi...Filled with His Love

February 18th, 2010
11:43 am

He looks like he’s from Israel or Lebanon or something…

SlimOne, I know you are talking to Cemeeli, but is that guy you speak of truly Mexican or South American? I know a man from South America that looks a lot like a middle eastern. He says a lot of his family is mistaken for MidEast nationalities.

kimmie

February 18th, 2010
11:43 am

Dreams – Are you currently dating anyone and did she initally ask for your number & ask you out? Just curious. You have a right to feel the way you feel. You read like a guy that has a modern point of view. I think a lot of us ladies on here have maybe tried to take the “modern, woman going for what she wants” approach to men and it did not work. Maybe if we had approached someone with the mindset you appear to have, we would not have gotten shot down. See, a lot of guys claim to be cool with certain things, but in reality are really not. Like Raqi said, the more some things change, the more they stay the same.

East Point – Sounds like the women you describe that kept after you when you were not interested were stalkers. It’s equally annoying and unattractive coming from a female as it is a male.

But hey, it’s only really stalking if you’re not interested, right?

I’ve also heard it said by some guys that some women don’t know how to “let a man be a man”. Does initiating numbers & dates count under that column?

Professor...

February 18th, 2010
11:43 am

Melo you are right…I hope someone with some positive energy reach out to I am loved…hopefully I am have some sisters, friends to see her through.

IDK...to risk or not?

February 18th, 2010
11:45 am

Lol…see Melo…thats why I like your font! :-) )

Raqi...Filled with His Love

February 18th, 2010
11:46 am

Does initiating numbers & dates count under that column?

kimmie now this answer I really want to hear? LOL

(jeopardy music playing in background)

IDK...to risk or not?

February 18th, 2010
11:46 am

just was trying something new…taking a risk! and to be honest, it was kind of fun..fulfilling!

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 18th, 2010
11:47 am

Raqi I’m positive…I guess he gets that all that time (being mistaken as Middle Eastern) but he’s from Texas and both of his parents are from Mexico. lol He said I look like I’m from Egypt. For the most part I get mistaken as being from Somalia, Ethiopia or Indian…depends on the day and hairstyle I guess. Go figure

Melo

February 18th, 2010
11:47 am

he doesn’t have the stereotypical look of a Mexican male

:mrgreen: :roll:

SlimOne?? in some ways I cld :lol:

But,what does that mean??

u mean he didnt have a ladder in his truck??

Sassy Me :-)

February 18th, 2010
11:48 am

do you need me to round up Slap-A-Hoe tribe and kick him in his shins???

You know I’m down….

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
11:48 am

I’ve also heard it said by some guys that some women don’t know how to “let a man be a man”.

I believe so.

Beautiful ♥

February 18th, 2010
11:49 am

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
11:50 am

Nicety All i’m saying is you never know what’s in store for you.

The shower would include an pinata….that’s fine. It’s in the budget. :)

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 18th, 2010
11:51 am

@melo “u mean he didnt have a ladder in his truck??”

Um…don’t think i’m going to touch that question with a 10ft pole, (no pun intended) He didn’t look like Cha Chi, put it like that. lol

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
11:53 am

For the most part I get mistaken as being from Somalia, Ethiopia or Indian

Yup, you are suspect.

Nicety – That’s why we need you. Somebody gotta play the screaming swiss girl when the escape car pull up.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 18th, 2010
11:55 am

Melo matter of fact, he is actually a BMW car dealer. I don’t believe a ladder is needed in that occupation unless of course you work at a Toyota Dealership……ooooh cold busted! j/k ;-p

@Cee Ohhhh a Pinata…you mean I get to beat the shyt out of something and not be considered crazy for a change? I’m going IN! lol

Raqi...Filled with His Love

February 18th, 2010
11:57 am

Breaking News…

I’m getting ready to eat a piece of zucchini bread that is the best I have ever tasted. Better than what I make. gasp LOL

Last night went I got home for the movie when I was unlocking the door I smelled something so good radiating from the kitchen. When I stepped in the house I saw this loaf of warm, sweet, delicious zucchini bread sitting on the counter. The Man bakes. He offered me a piece and I could not resist telling him how good it was. 10 times better than how good it smelled. He says it was made in love. LOL I had a piece for breakfast and I brought a piece to have with my lunch.

How am I supposed to be trying to get rid of these stubborn pregnancy pounds when he all up in the place baking breads/cakes at 10:30 in the evening?

Okay, back to the you Monica WiseDiva.

NY2GA

February 18th, 2010
11:59 am

Humm… Let a man be a man. Does initiating numbers and dates count under that column. A real man is going to be a man regardless, no person can take that from him. If a woman asks for the number there is nothing wrong with that. If the guy is simple minded in that he thinks oh she is after me, then you don’t want to deal with that dude anyway.

Real dudes will think it’s cool and if he is interested in the woman (same way if the woman is interested in the dude) he will say sure, call me sometime or I will call you. Yes, it’s just that simple…lol..

Raqi...Filled with His Love

February 18th, 2010
12:00 pm

SlimOne, you said he shawt. Maybe the ladder would be to climb up in the car. LOL

Let me stop and go heat my lunch.

Melo

February 18th, 2010
12:04 pm

so much comedy in these postings, i may not do what i wanna do now..

LOL :lol: will suffice!

Professor...

February 18th, 2010
12:04 pm

@NY2GA RIGHT ON on that 11:59

Mo (aka Moeisha - tired as h3ll! )

February 18th, 2010
12:05 pm

Cemeeli – Hey chica! I am thisclose to getting a pepsi! I have done so well but dayum a sistah is about to crack!! WHEW! Pass me some popcorn please!

ok so this is waaaay off topic but I am really liking Usher’s song Daddy’s Home! :smile:

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 18th, 2010
12:05 pm

LOL @ Raqi Shawt! lol

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
12:06 pm

Mo not usher!!!!!! I don’t do him lol but glad you like the song! LOL!

kimmie

February 18th, 2010
12:07 pm

Yes, it’s just that simple

If only it was. If it was, we would not be having this discussion.

A real man is going to be a man regardless, no person can take that from him.

This has always been my take! In fact, I’ve always found that whole “let a man be a man” stuff hillarious. That’s like me saying a dude won’t let me be a woman. I’m all woman and nothing will ever stop that!

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
12:08 pm

lady j, no usher for you :( i think his cd is going to be a good one

Mo I’m with ya I love Daddy’s home

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
12:08 pm

Now passin’ Mo some pop cone in a cup…and a lil pepsi to follow.

Her you go Mo cain’t have you choking on the pop cone….4 oz wont hurt.

kimmie

February 18th, 2010
12:09 pm

Melo – What’s your take on a woman asking for your number and a date?

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
12:11 pm

PRINCESSNIK nope and it goes waaaaaaaaayyyyy back never did and Papers made me totally write him off! LOL I am a Tevin Campbell chic if we comparing the two….Usher just never did it for me I remember in college not caring for him! LOL

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
12:13 pm

@ Kimmie…..A real man is going to be a man regardless, no person can take that from him.

a lot of times Women don’t know how to fall back and let the man do what men are supposed to do, we’ve become so programmed to “do it all” that we feel like a man is imposing on our self proclaimed independence

Mo (aka Moeisha - tired as h3ll! )

February 18th, 2010
12:14 pm

Lady J – now I dont like Papers…awful song. But I like Tevin Campbell too, Always in My Heart is one of my favs by him

PRINCESSNIK – I ‘ahem’ got a lil bit of Usher’s new cd…..it wont beat Confessions but it will be better than Here I Stand

Cemeeli – THANK YOU CHICA!! Now dont mind the way I scoff it down…..lol

Melo

February 18th, 2010
12:15 pm

What’s your take on a woman asking for your number and a date?

@Kimmie!??

im really ok with a warm smile,nice set of teeth and just a nod,suggesting i can converse with her at ease and if i wanna approach,she aint mugging me.

Str8 up “u look nice,ooohhh,can i have ur number,what do u do” is gonna get her the number,no problem(coz im just polite) but lots of ???? in my head.

Unless she has something really redeeming in her head and background,she str8 up sirlon..ready to be devoured!

Nothing more,nothing less! :lol:

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
12:19 pm

Lady J…..I like most of Usher’s music, now i don’t own the usher cd library or anything

I used to have a crush on tevin too……………thank goodness i got over that cause its just summin……

kimmie

February 18th, 2010
12:20 pm

a lot of times Women don’t know how to fall back and let the man do what men are supposed to do, we’ve become so programmed to “do it all” that we feel like a man is imposing on our self proclaimed independence

Princess – Oh, I totally get that. Yes, it can be a little tough, but a lot of times that independance is not “self-proclaimed”, but out of necessity, because the man had not stepped up. Those that have not stepped up anyway are usually the ones I see doing the most complaining about “too independant” women. But, that’s my observation and a whole nother Oprah!

I am loved (or at least I thought I was)

February 18th, 2010
12:21 pm

I would like to clarify that I made every attempt to get this man back his stuff but he chose to ignore me.
I did not want to mail the key or just drop it off because I did not want to be held responsible if someone broke into his apt.
Otherwise may have felt “Who cares” but that is not my attitude.

Please say don’t have the woe me attitude.
Look, When I hurt I hurt. It’s okay for me to cry, vent, etc…
I much rather go thru the hurt and pain so that if it is ever meant for me to be with someone new, I will be in a healthier state.

This is one of the reasons why I wanted to stop blogging, I didn’t want to her comments like well we saw this coming and it could have been prevented, etc.

Like I said before, I made every attempt to give him his stuff back and when he didn’t respond I boxed it up and put it out of site.

I am not the type of woman to throw someone’s stuff out because they’re not coming to get it.

I also look at it from his perspective: Maybe he didn’t contact me to avoid confrontation, maybe he didn’t contact me because he wasn’t sure how to tell me the news, maybe he didn’t contact me because it wasn’t important at the time.

Who cares1?! This chapter of my life is now closed and it hurts like hell.
All I ever wanted was to find someone that loved me as much as I loved them and enjoyed my company as much as I enjoyed theirs.

For 34 years (yes Melo, I’m 34) all I’ve ever wanted was to be loved, marriage, kids, etc….

I have my son and I love him dearly but I still want a husband, etc…

I don’t know if it will ever happen for me but after 34 yrs, I’m real tired of the hurt and the game.
I’ve never really been one for games and maybe that’s why I’m losing because I choose not to play it.

As far as the ex goes, I wish him the best and I hope the new chick is everything he ever wanted.

NY2GA

February 18th, 2010
12:21 pm

Kimmie – Exactly, you are all woman and know one is/can take that away from you.

We are having this discussion not because things are and can’t be simple, we are having the discussion to show how different people think. I also laugh at the notion of let a man be a man nonsense, wasted time and energy…

PRINCESSNIK – If it’s a real dude, the woman does not have to fall back or do anything different. What is it that the woman is doing that she needs to fall back on? Asking for a number, asking to go out for a drink, or something much more? I like a woman that can handle hers and do for herself, does not have any impact on my manhood. Now when I come into the picture, I should be able to help enhance what she is doing, not take anything away, that’s how real dudes think.

NY2GA

February 18th, 2010
12:23 pm

Professor – pre’ciate that … Just trying to keep it real.

kimmie

February 18th, 2010
12:23 pm

Melo – Thanks for your honesty!

kimmie

February 18th, 2010
12:26 pm

NY2GA – You sound like a real stand-up MAN! Cool post!

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
12:26 pm

NY2GA, i’m speaking in terms of a relationship, not just a meeting. Let me give you an example, right now i do my own yardwork, fix minor things as needed, pay all the bills etc…..now if/when i get married some of those things should know longer be 100% my duty. Some women will continue to try and do everything and not give dude the chance to “be a man”.

“I should be able to help enhance what she is doing”

I absolutely agree, where I am weak he should be strong and vice versa

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
12:28 pm

I am loved……you wanna borrow my waiting to exhale soundtrack cd?

Raqi

February 18th, 2010
12:29 pm

I agree that no one can stop us from being who we are. If the person is not down with who you are and how you deal that person is not the one for you.

Melo

February 18th, 2010
12:30 pm

but a lot of times that independance is not “self-proclaimed”, but out of necessity, because the man had not stepped up.

@Kimmie!
I agree,or that she just dont know how to let a man do it. Some females did not grow up in that environement and may not know how to do it.My Queen had a passive kinda dad.From what i hear,he was entrenuerial,had a thriving bizzness,left a cpple of homes to his wife and kids but the pic i get is that his wife(my mom in law) soemhow ran the show.And my Queen, i think inherited her mum traits.

She didnt know how to be a woman and let a man be a man,esp after we were married,untill after we got thru some issues and after she learnt some lessons thru our church women(this,she confessed to me)

So yeah,its takes learning and growing up osmosis(from parents/family) smtimes to learn how to be a woman and be led!

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
12:31 pm

Melo!!

i agree

Raqi

February 18th, 2010
12:35 pm

Princess, I agree with you but IMO in this case it’s not the contribution of manual labor that makes a man. It’s his authoritative nature. His courage. His leadership. His reasoning. His giving of respect. His ability to love. His accountability.

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
12:39 pm

Raqui…I wasn’t referring to simply the contribution of manual labor

a very vivid memory i have from growing up was every month my dad would sit down with the bills and a legal pad and go through and write on them how much to pay, my mother would then sit down with the stack of bills and write out the checks and place them in the return envelopes, my father would then put stamps on them and take them to the post office

I am very aware of all of the aspects of what a real man contributes to the household, manual labor is just a small part of the big picture

kimmie

February 18th, 2010
12:42 pm

Melo – I respect that so much, because while I had a great example with my parents, my dealings with men turned out to be a learning experience. The men I dealt with in the past did not STEP UP, so I had to continue “wearing the pants”. I would even ASK for help & get shot down. I’m a hard worker and never played the helpless female role. I know where my weaknesses lie and am not too proud to ask for help. So, now I’m dealing with a REAL MAN, more like my dad. I have to stop myself and accept the help he gives, but it’s tough because I’m so used to having to do it all myself! It’s nice not having to carry all the weight! This is how it is suppose to be.

What I’m most grateful for though Melo, is that he recognized that in me and gently WORKED WITH me on it, instead of beyotching about it and dumping me! Or just sitting back and being lazy and not STEPPING UP. Sounds like you worked thru that with Queen, which is great and shows what a stand up man u are!

DreamsMaterialize

February 18th, 2010
12:46 pm

kimmie
Sorry to just respond…had a meeting. I have had lots of women approach or ask me out. Two women have recently sought me out, and I didn’t see anything desperate about it. They are both very attractive, one is a Ph.D. and a professor, and the other has an MBA in a very high profile position. They are both down to earth, good conversationalists, and really cool to hang out with. Their approaching me also didn’t detract from my manhood in any way. I don’t need a woman to “let me be a man” because I am already that, regardless of what she does. Only I have power over that.

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
12:48 pm

Wassup good people.
On topic. I actually experience being pursued pretty frequently and I don’t think anything is wrong with that. I think I read earlier and totally agree that all these professional women that are truly agressive in business and education and other avenues of life, why would it be so out of the norm for them to pursue a romantic aspect or at least a dude as gifted as myself for their other needs. If you see something you like go for it.

kimmie

February 18th, 2010
12:49 pm

Dreams – Cool. The modern man, I like that.

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
12:50 pm

maybe we should stop using the phrase “let a man be a man” and instead say accept the things that a real man brings to the table

kimmie

February 18th, 2010
12:52 pm

Princess – I do hate that “let” phrase!

DreamsMaterialize

February 18th, 2010
12:54 pm

The modern man, I like that.
Is that what it is? It just seems like the reasonable man. lol

Mo
What’s good with you? Glad to see you poke in. Back away from the Pepsi! Besides, I still haven’t replaced it. lol

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
12:55 pm

Kimmie,

yea when you think about it and process it, its not that you are stopping him from being a man or letting him be a man, its a matter of being open to what he is bringing or being closed to it. If a man is trying to share his strenghts and gifts (personal talents) with you and you keep on doing it your way or no way one of two things is going to happen, he will get tired and move on to a woman who is open to all he has to offer or he will try and work through it with you, in which case he still might end up moving on to where he feels he is appreciated.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 18th, 2010
12:56 pm

The topic of “let a man be a man” reminds me of when my mom was showing me how to make scrambled eggs when I was younger. She was telling me what I should do and then stood watch as I did it. Apparently, I wasn’t scrambling the eggs around enough because they started to stick to the bottom of the pan. So she stepped in and took over because she couldn’t stand to watch me do it. lol Anyhoo, I said all that to say, I think that’s how women sometimes treat men when it comes to allowing the men to do what they do in the manner they feel it needs to be done. Women have gotten so used to doing certain things in their own way, that when a man comes along, they tend to have a hard time sitting back and seeing another do it, maybe not in the fashion they would do it. We are all human, so even if the man makes a mistake, still stand behind him in a supportive manner. No need to kick em while he’s down or do the “I told you so” look when he decided to go a different way than you. We still need to maintain a level of respect with each other.

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
12:57 pm

Slim, nicely stated

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
1:00 pm

someone please help me answer this…..What might be your challenges in the clinical arena? How would you address those challenges?

Wise Diva

February 18th, 2010
1:08 pm

I can never predict what side of the debate some of you will be, LOL. I love it.

I wish we could fast forward through the Tiger Wood conference/coverage. I’m so over it, ugh

Wise Diva

February 18th, 2010
1:09 pm

uh I meant Woods, that was not intentionally left off to refer to,..oh never mind

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 18th, 2010
1:14 pm

Thanks Princessnik

@Wise Diva….Beeeeehave. :lol:

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
1:19 pm

Nicety aahhh…i just ate a good lunch.

Hmmph, somebody’s been behaving…I’m reading that 12:56 and shaking my head (in a good way) while calling the shower coordinator ’bout your sky blue pinata.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 18th, 2010
1:21 pm

Mr Pinata is a self-proclaimed Hopeless romantic…he sent me this quote last night, “Dreams are like stars…you may never touch them, but if you follow them, they will lead you to your destiny” author unknown. :-D

kimmie

February 18th, 2010
1:22 pm

Slim – Good post. Funny, my mom was the same way when she used to try to teach me stuff!

It’s been talked about on here before, and Raqi mentioned it earlier this morning, about the Natural order of things. I think a lot of this “too independant” behavior sometimes is just a natural reaction to an unnatural situation. Because regardless of what the guys have said on here, quite a few men still have very traditional views of male & female roles in relationships. And it becomes a major topic of discussion when one party does not want to go along with the tradional way of doing things. Not all bad, just different.

As for my own experience, while yes, I admit I had gotten used to having to do things myself, so much that it was automatic that I either do it myself or pay someone else to do it. Even my asking for help in the past was my way of trying to bring the guy in, see what help he could offer. With the man I have now, while I had trouble at first accepting help, I have never been disrespectful. I just can’t fathom someone being SO INDEPENDANT and driven that she would run roughshod over a man, belittling him to the point of him feeling unappreciated. This is what it sounds like when men complain about women being too independant. I guess it happens though. They’re not smart enough to be cool about it, these women? I mean, even now it’s some things that I know I could do better than my man, but I know how to make my point without putting him down. I am supportive, I chill, and then gently suggest another way we might try to accomplish something. I try to back it up with information. He’s more receptive and it usually works, no putdown or disrespect.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 18th, 2010
1:23 pm

@Wise And come to think about it, i’m not sure why all of us were so surprised about Tiger Wood(s)…just think how he uses that…ah hem, NINE iron on the green. Shouldn’t have been any different in the bedroom right? :mrgreen:

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
1:27 pm

Mo – Okay Usher is looking older finally.

Melo

February 18th, 2010
1:29 pm

NINE iron on the green

SlimOne…??

he uses a Nine iron on the fairway,not green!..

putter on the green.

In fact,if u are to give him credit,its for his putting ability and strokes… :lol:

Dead center,in the hole! :lol:

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
1:31 pm

Slim Quotes are used sometimes in place of saying “love you” stuff.

:lol:

i'm swiss

February 18th, 2010
1:33 pm

Afternoon, blogville… A little late chiming in, but here goes:

“When it’s a woman they find unattractive that approaches she is labeled desperate and/or throwing herself at “men”.”

@ Raqi — This is true, however, it works both ways. You ladies know that when a dude who doesn’t live up to your standards approaches you, you (and your girls) label dude a loser & laugh your arses off at him. :lol: You know it’s true…

Personally, I’ve been approached by women, but it’s never amounted to anything. I think probably this is because if she were a woman that I was truly interested in, I would have beaten her to the punch. Even a woman who is willing to make the first move is likely to be slower to make the move than an equally interested man, just because of the way we’re taught to behave. Consequently, all the women who have managed to beat me to the punch did so only because they we not at the top of my list to approach in the first place…

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
1:34 pm

I am not touching that golf nine…

ok

Mo Get back here with the bag of popcorn. and stop hiding the pepsi from folk!

Raqi

February 18th, 2010
1:34 pm

They are both very attractive, one is a Ph.D. and a professor, and the other has an MBA in a very high profile position

DreamsMat, what if they had been the total opposite, would you have labeled them as desperate had the come at you?

i'm swiss

February 18th, 2010
1:35 pm

Oops, typo… Should have read: “…they were not at the top of my list…”

Raqi

February 18th, 2010
1:37 pm

I think probably this is because if she were a woman that I was truly interested in, I would have beaten her to the punch.

Gouda, I agree with you there. But I to realize there are cases where the woman may see the guy first and like I already stated there is nothing wrong with the woman showing her interest. But the man should do the chasing.

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
1:37 pm

@Raqi
I have never never labled the women that approach me as desperate. Could be ego but I always think well she definitely has good taste. And she is not scared to go after what she wants

kimmie

February 18th, 2010
1:38 pm

Raqi – Right, regarding your 1:34.

Plus Dreams, what’s up with all that about their MBA & Ph.D & all? Haven’t you guys said that you didn’t care about all that? LOL!!

Melo

February 18th, 2010
1:39 pm

what if they had been the total opposite, would you have labeled them as desperate had the come at you?

Good qstion Raqi altho,even with those that approached him,it wld be interesting to know what has he done with them…….long term prospects much??

I gotta go,but it was nice talking to uall

see yaall tmrow! :lol:

Raqi

February 18th, 2010
1:40 pm

WiseDiva how much wood could a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck could chuck wood?

kimmie

February 18th, 2010
1:42 pm

Dig – You are probably different, but too often when men do it, it’s “he’s going after what he wants, he’s being assertive, taking initiative, runnin thangs”! When women do the same, we’re labeled a beyotch, too independant, angry, desperate, etc!

Willie Dynamite

February 18th, 2010
1:43 pm

Afternoon All,

I can totally relate to this topic. My Wife initially approached and asked me out for drinks. We somewhat knew each other as some of her extended circle or friends knew some of my circle of friends. Anyway we would frequently be in the same places. She asked her friends about me and they gave her the news. I never really asked about her because I tended to leave friends of friends alone. She knew I wasn’t ready for relationship and all that. We met had a few drinks and left it at that. 3-4 months later we meet again (her request), I’m still in the same having fun life mode and told her that. We were cool off and on for about 2 yrs before we started dating seriously. In that time frame I can say she asked me out about 3-4 times for drinks before I ever thought about asking her out. The rest is history.

i'm swiss

February 18th, 2010
1:43 pm

“But I to realize there are cases where the woman may see the guy first and like I already stated there is nothing wrong with the woman showing her interest. But the man should do the chasing.”

@ Raqi — Agreed. It’s all about subtlety. A woman can give the “green light” but still leave it up to the man to press the accelerator… ;-)

Wise Diva

February 18th, 2010
1:44 pm

LOL @ the Tiger Woods jokes, ya’ll are worse than me hehehe

NY2GA

February 18th, 2010
1:48 pm

Kimmie – 12:26 post, I definitely try to be. Tricks are for kids, we Grown now …lol…

NY2GA

February 18th, 2010
1:51 pm

PRINCESSNIK – 12:26 post, I got you and yes that makes a lot of sense. We definitely on the same page…

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
1:55 pm

they let that younglady Angela go lastnight on American Idol…i usually don’t watch it, but she had some story.

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
1:55 pm

they let that younglady Angela go lastnight on American Idol…i usually don’t watch it, but she had some story.

kimmie

February 18th, 2010
1:57 pm

You see, I’m swiss & Melo have basically said they prefer the more traditional approach. Nobody puts them down. But when women express that we’d rather follow a more traditional role, we get put down, or it’s a debate.

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
1:59 pm

@kimmie
Well its a matter of viewpoint. It’s probably new to a lot of guys. It could be a level of intimidation. I normally don’t hang in places where people are desperate, however we are in an age where a woman’s independence is multiplied at levels we have never seen in history so this area doesn’t shock me. And women have risen so high in social, economic and educational status that alot of men feel like they are at a disadvantage and will never approach these women. And these women are beautiful as well. Do I call her a beyotch because she finds me attractive and wants to buy me drinks? No!!! I actually find it fun and letting her get her independence on while we get wasted and live it up. Do yo thang girl. How you gon be mad with that? LMAO!!!

Raqi

February 18th, 2010
1:59 pm

Oh yeah, kimmie and others that recommended it, while watching Valentine’s Day last night about 45 minutes in I rated it ♥♥♥ but by the end of the movie I gave it ♥♥♥♥. Had Kathy Bates and Queen Latifah had better roles it would have gotten ♥♥♥♥♥.

Raqi

February 18th, 2010
2:02 pm

88% of Marriages the man proposed.

Raqi

February 18th, 2010
2:03 pm

78% of Divorces the woman files. LOL

kimmie

February 18th, 2010
2:05 pm

Raqi – I forgot to ask did you enjoy the movie! While no, not an Oscar contender, it is entertaining! The critics really slammed it. Sometimes, I’m just not in the mood for “deep”!

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
2:05 pm

@ Kimmie Sometimes, I’m just not in the mood for “deep”!

life is deep enough

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
2:07 pm

@Raqi
Too funny. I have a buddy that married a cardiologist and he is was doing pretty for himself but that shoe can be on the other foot too. I”m good with that as well. Now he gets half of her stuff instead of the other way around.

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
2:09 pm

good read dig that!

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
2:10 pm

raqi sooooo true with the stats! lmao

Mr. Lurker ( B.K.A. 007)

February 18th, 2010
2:11 pm

What it do people?
Sassy is back! Yes!!!!!!!! :smile: :smile:

A famous quote from yesterday’s blog. I am not longer f/cking anyone on the blog…by SexyCool. You are all that!

Hey it’s 2010, women are empowered to dreams big and live the life of their choosing asking out a man should be minor compared to the what you they are accomplishing right here and right now!

Last week a woman tracked me down in Walmart to ask for the digits, she was finnneeeee!

Raqi

February 18th, 2010
2:14 pm

It’s probably not a movie I will intentionally watch again. We did notice that Gary Marshall likes to recycle his casts. There were like 5 or 6 of them in that movie last night that one of my bff says were in Princess Diaries.

And two of them I know were in Pretty Woman and The Runaway Bride. You got to love those Marshalls.

kimmie

February 18th, 2010
2:14 pm

Dig – That’s refreshing. Last Sunday, a young lady spoke for our annual Love Sunday, which is sort of like Women’s day because a women’s group in the church puts on the event. The speaker is an epidemiologist at the CDC, a researcher, is on President Obama’s health counsel, involved in a lot of community activities, teaches dance at the church AND has a PH.D husband and 2 beautiful kids under 5 years old AND she’s beautiful! Her resume is probably thicker than Michele Obama’s and she’s as sweet as she can be, easy-going. A lot of guys would be very intimidated by all that and not approach her. Her hubby had no problem though! That’s who I thought about when reading your post.

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
2:15 pm

I can dig that 007. Fine Walmart booty. If Walmart had a bar that would be the hottest ticket in town.

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
2:16 pm

@kimmie
That is a confident man that got the prize. That actually is a turn on.

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
2:17 pm

If Walmart had a bar that would be the hottest ticket in town.

Dig That

you aint never lied! What is about “wally world”? When we would be home from college my best friends momma would always send us on a late night run for juice and bannans for granny, amazing the people we ran into.

Raqi

February 18th, 2010
2:19 pm

Let’s do a WalMart and rollback. Yesterday was about rotations.

Let me ask you a question Mr. Lurker. This woman was so fine, what are the chances of her seeing someone else and still running you down do you think?

I mean a fine woman probably has a guy, right? And then she out chasing dudes. LOL

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
2:24 pm

raqui …..Let’s do a WalMart and rollback

CLASSIC!

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
2:24 pm

@Raqi
You have no clue how many fine and drop dead beautiful women I meet on a daily basis with no man in sight. Which is basically what kimmie and I were discussing. And that is probably the main reason there is so much non traditional chasing.

@Princess
I wish I knew but wally world can be off the chain sometime, especially late at night. ^5

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
2:25 pm

walmart is the devil lol I spend more money than ever I hatte going in lolololol but PRINCESSNIK in orangeburg back then that was our highlight! LOL just thinking back to sunday morning I spent more money than the list called for but I do get great looks from the men in there but it stops there….lol

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
2:25 pm

Dig That, i remember reading a while back that some wal-marts were doing singles nights :shock: you had a special bow to put on your buggy to let other singles know you were “shopping” :lol:

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
2:27 pm

in orangeburg back then that was our highlight!

Lady J! oh boy do i remember, and then when you were doing/buyin something you had no business you’d go to the walmart on the other side of town (I was in Columbia):wink:

Sassy Me :-)

February 18th, 2010
2:28 pm

Sassy is back!

Heey 007!! ;)

Willie Dynamite

February 18th, 2010
2:30 pm

Thats funny, the Wifey hates Walmart becuz she gets hit on so much there.

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
2:30 pm

lmbao PRINCESSNIK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Cola was an upgrade for me chica me and the ex killed Harbbison (sp)from the movies to resturants to best buy to whatever! Those were the days!!!!!! Life was not pressing @ all I didn’t even own a cell phone! hahahaha!

kimmie

February 18th, 2010
2:32 pm

Yep, remember the days of “Club Walmart”!

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
2:32 pm

@Princess
Singles night at Walmart. WOW!!!!! I didnt do Walmart in South Carolina when I lived there but I can only imagine. I wonder if Walmart was there when I was. I was on the run back then and hiding out in little teenie weenie town called Sumter.

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
2:33 pm

seriously PRINCESSNIK I have yet to speed date although I will soon but to do it in wally world NOT i don’t think so I truly very seldom go in….it was my turn to cook and bake cup cakes and cookies sunday that is the ONLY reason I was in there…..lol

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
2:33 pm

Lady J………. didn’t even own a cell phone!

Me either LOL!!!! (I actually Lived in the Harbison area after graduation.) I had a pager :shock: I spent a little time in O’Burg though, the ex was in grad school there, and he ended up being an Dorm Director at Clafflin for a short while

Sassy Me :-)

February 18th, 2010
2:34 pm

you had a special bow to put on your buggy to let other singles know you were “shopping”

Where they do that at?….Wally world already has the market in a choke hold, now they selling booty,too? Wow who’dve thunk it :???:

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
2:34 pm

DIG THAT!!

I know exactly where sumter is! I spent most of my weekends there during my first 2 years of college, my high school sweethearts aunt lived there and she would come pick me up to get away from campus! Small world!

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
2:35 pm

@Sassy
Now it is truly a one stop shop. Amazing. Lol

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
2:36 pm

Sassy Me

I can’t remember exactly where, i just remember reading about it

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
2:37 pm

dig that I HATE SUMTER LOL I went to Morris for a yr and got on down the road a good school just not for me! Sumpter SUCKS! LMAO!

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
2:39 pm

Lady J the first time she came to get me and we kept going deeper into nowhere i was like wth but it was peaceful and away from the hustle and bustle of campus

Sassy Me :-)

February 18th, 2010
2:40 pm

I was on the run back then and hiding out in little teenie weenie town called Sumter.

When Walmart first blew-uptuated mymom was living in Summerville less that 5 mins away from one…she was hooked.

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
2:41 pm

girl smh @ that place…..lol

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
2:42 pm

@Lady J
I mean really sucks and I stuck out like a sore thumb in Sumter. I’m trying to be low-key and all of a sudden I was the talk of the town. It was ridiculous. Somehow I figured you went to Morris

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
2:44 pm

Lady J… SC as a whole was a shock for me from the ABC with red dots closing at 7pm, til the stores still only being open from 1 to 5 on sunday, to the Geechie Dialect of the charleston area But I wouldn’t trade those 4 years for nothing!

Sassy Me :-)

February 18th, 2010
2:45 pm

Lady there’s not a whole lot going on down there in Sumter…that’s one of those places where you’ve gotta take a ride elsewhere to have some fun.

we kept going deeper into nowhere i was like wth…

SNIK I understand…lol. I do.

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
2:47 pm

PRINCESSNIK I am from Dillon a country gal @ best don’t get me wrong but Sumter did NOTHING for me Sassy PREACH!!!!!!! I hate to say a wasted yr but I could have went on to State from the start! LOL As a transfer to state I just didn’t get the same love as starting there as a freshman! LOL

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
2:47 pm

And seems like the deeper I went into SC the more trouble I got in. But I will say that I had so much fun back then that those memories will be with me forever and I have been a lot of places. It is so funny tho that we are even talking bout Sumter. Nobody used to know where that was. Listening to the big DM

Sassy Me :-)

February 18th, 2010
2:48 pm

Okay now SNIK throwing around that Geechie word….my momma n dem from there. What’s funny is that depending on what part of Charleston you’re in the dialect is different..yet the same.

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
2:49 pm

the big DM was the BEST thing going I went to Charleston recently and boy from i26 on I was jamming away! Love that station it is a classic!

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
2:50 pm

@Sassy
At first I thought it was just dialect but then after awhile just seem to be whole notha language.

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
2:50 pm

@Sassy What’s funny is that depending on what part of Charleston you’re in the dialect is different..yet the same.

yep I agree! Shout out to Johns Island and N. Charleston ;)

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
2:51 pm

I know Lady J. If not for the big DM it would have been a basket case.

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
2:51 pm

Lady J the big DM was the BEST thing going

yes ma’am they had the best “traffic mix” every afternoon

Willie Dynamite

February 18th, 2010
2:54 pm

Hadn’t heard of Sumter for bout 10-15 yrs. I went to college with some country bumpkins from Sumter and Bishopville.

Charleston and their geechie folks can actually be classified as another country.

Willie Dynamite

February 18th, 2010
2:54 pm

Now that I think about it Charleston had the best food I ever ate.

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
2:55 pm

Willie D where did you go to college?

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
2:55 pm

weird though gang I could never get with living in cola stayed in orangeburg a yr after graduation and came on to the A….Charlotte either those two places I visit only seriously!

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
2:56 pm

Willie D as a lil girl we stayed in lynchburg and its by bishopville the sticks baby!

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
2:56 pm

Lady J, Dig That, Sassy Me,

I think i’m going to Homecoming this year! Let me start the homecoming fund right now LOL ya’ll know how the HBCU homecoming goes :lol:

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
2:57 pm

best hole in the wall clubs though don’t get it twisted a place to let your hair down and be free with ya folks and include a motorcycle boy I would think i am 17 again! BAM! LOL

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
2:58 pm

@ Lady J I could never get with living in cola

OMG i LOVED “the metro” I was upset when I moved back to GA lol

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
2:58 pm

My baby was born in Sumter

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
2:59 pm

PRINCESSNIK I am taking it to another level do HC every year but this year I am attending Founder’s Day weekend festivitives and going to the scholarship gala sat and regina belle is performing in orangeburg I am becoming a life member in the atl scsu alumni chapter networking on a higher leve…not even working tomorrow can’t wait to get away for the weekend ORANGEBURG here I come!!!!!! Carefree!!!!!

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
3:01 pm

Awww…ya’ll having memory lane ’bout ole geechie SC.

I like the Carolinas…Charleston is beeeaauuutiful… so is Myrtle Beach. North..north NC is my favorite fall-time haven.

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
3:01 pm

Lady J I do homecoming every other year, I need to do better about my alumni status LOL I can’t believe its been __ years :)

Sassy Me :-)

February 18th, 2010
3:02 pm

DIG THAT it kinda is another language rooted in slavery w/ mixing of slaves from different villages. They all had to communicate somehow so that’s one of the reasons/ways Gullah came about.

Umm SNIK whatchu know ’bout Johns Island and North Chas.?….my mom/step-dad live off of Dorchester road.

Charleston and their geechie folks can actually be classified as another country. So… :)

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
3:04 pm

lololololol PRINCESSNIK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
3:04 pm

Sassy I had some classmates from there, couple of ladies who were my intro to the Geechie Dialect lol i remember that day we met very clearly lol

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
3:05 pm

@ DIGTHAT you’re from Carolina too?

@ Sassy – Is that the Granny that gave you the Snuggie for Christmas?…wont be using it too long. Should warm up soon. :)

I remember when Upward Bound was held in Aiken?

Sassy Me :-)

February 18th, 2010
3:08 pm

ya’ll know how the HBCU homecoming goes

OKAY?! Folk that hadn’t been to a game all season long(and won’t see again til next season) will go and get an outfit and get fresh for homecoming. That’s a huge social event.

I see you CeeMee…over there talkin bout geechie… :)

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
3:09 pm

@ Sassy will go and get an outfit and get fresh for homecoming. That’s a huge social event

and probably won’t even go inside the stadium, outside tailgating and socializing

Lady J

February 18th, 2010
3:09 pm

Be easy gang going to find an outfit! Peace!:)

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
3:10 pm

Sassy

I’m sorry it is geechie in SC…well shoot, so was Savannah & Brunswick! So i’m not sayin nothing really. :)

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
3:11 pm

@Cemeeli
No. I’m actually a native of Atlanta. I know hard to believe but we do exist.

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
3:11 pm

Are you guys still on topic??

Raqi

February 18th, 2010
3:12 pm

Baby, I’m in need of your love
And you got that touch
That I need so much
And I am about to explode
Freely, completely, everything you want I’ll be
Good love down to the last drop
And I’m not gonna stop

Loving you every day
Don’t you look no more
Love without a limit
Loving you every day
Don’t you look no more
Love without a limit

♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
3:12 pm

Leggs we don’t know what happened to everybody else so we took a stroll down memory lane to SC LOL

Willie Dynamite

February 18th, 2010
3:13 pm

Nik – I went to college here in Atlanta. I had some friends from there so I’ve traveled that area pretty good. Had a friend-gil from Charleston and that place is special (Hey Lady J). Not in a bad way just different.

kimmie

February 18th, 2010
3:13 pm

Dig – I’m another native Atlantan! Yes, we do exist!

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
3:13 pm

@ DIG THAT – Hello fellow ATLien. So am i.

Sassy Me :-)

February 18th, 2010
3:14 pm

Yes CeeMee that’s the Granny that gave me the Snuggy…I’m ready to put it up trust me. That thing has so mcu static cling I sound like rice krispies when I walk in it…done washed n dryed it and it’s still actin up.

couple of ladies who were my intro to the Geechie Dialect
SNIK what I find funny is that people from other places sumtimes think geechie sounds like an island dialect…

kimmie

February 18th, 2010
3:14 pm

Raqi – That’s one of my favorite MJB songs!

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
3:15 pm

@I am loved – are you still lurking??? Call me (770) 270-3842!

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
3:16 pm

@kimmie & cemeeli

ATL in the house. It got to the point at one time there so many different people here that I felt like I was from out of town. Big hug and kiss Peaches

Sassy Me :-)

February 18th, 2010
3:16 pm

I remember when Upward Bound was held in Aiken?

ME,TOO!! I went there a few times in high school….y’all got my eyes all watery…..

Willie Dynamite

February 18th, 2010
3:16 pm

Geechie reminds me alot of the Patois spoken in Jamaica.

Raqi...Made in Bourdeax

February 18th, 2010
3:17 pm

kimmie, yeah that’s a nice one. I am so feeling it right now. Imma let it play again.

Raqi...Made in Bourdeax

February 18th, 2010
3:18 pm

Leggs, did you just post your real number?!?!?!?!

Sassy Me :-)

February 18th, 2010
3:18 pm

friend-gil

Now see….you ain’t right. I’m jus sayin

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
3:19 pm

Sassy Girl those things are clingy…lol @ you ready to say goodbye Mr. Snuggie. I sooo feel you!

Willie Dynamite

February 18th, 2010
3:20 pm

ohhh you caught that. I’m just saying.

Sassy Me :-)

February 18th, 2010
3:22 pm

Geechie reminds me alot of the Patois spoken in Jamaica.

Actually some of the words used in both places are the same…I’ve noticed that with some of my Bahamian friends as well. The slave trade was heavy in Chucktown b/c of the harbor and the old slave market is still open in downtown as a tourist site/shopping centre.

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
3:22 pm

@ DIG THAT lol we (natives) are becoming extinct…most of my friends moved away, and the few here don’t deal with transplants at all…

@ Sassy – You remember Upward Bound?!!? that’s funny

Raqi...Made in Bourdeax

February 18th, 2010
3:23 pm

LOL Snuggie!!!! I thought about one of those things the other night when I was sitting on the couch and took a blanket and wrapped it around me and baby.

Raqi...Made in Bourdeax

February 18th, 2010
3:24 pm

Raqi...Made in Bourdeax

February 18th, 2010
3:25 pm

You + Me = We

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
3:25 pm

Geechee translation

there = day
been here = beenyea
come here – cumyeah

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
3:26 pm

@Cemeeli
Freaknik brought the world to Atlanta and we almost lost it. Everytime I brought somebody here they never left. Just up and moved and called everybody they knew. Lol

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
3:27 pm

Snuggie = The new baby maker contraption.

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
3:27 pm

CeeMee

Some shoe = a pair of shoes

Raqi...Made in Bourdeax

February 18th, 2010
3:27 pm

My husband just sent me a link where this guy got mad at the IRS and set his house on fire and drove a plane into a building where federal employees worked.

People just are losing it these days. Permanent solutions to temporary problems costing them their life and freedom.

Willie Dynamite

February 18th, 2010
3:29 pm

Sassy – thats funny cuz when I went to Jamaica I could understand alot of what the locals were saying. Thats thanks to my geechie friends.
Now Charleston, I loved the food (shrimp n grits) and the people. I could not stand seeing the shackles and all that just right in my face at the market. because of that it would be very hard for me to go back there.

Raqi...Made in Bourdeax

February 18th, 2010
3:29 pm

Snuggie = The new baby maker contraption.

LOL That’s what Tazzee is going to get for a wedding present.

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
3:29 pm

Everytime I brought somebody here they never left. Just up and moved and called everybody they knew.

DIG THAT – My college roomate from Athens, New York & Savannah they all live her. The one from Savannah goes back and forth…shes a realator and has a rental in Savannah…just went back home a last year.

Never decides where to stay, until something goes on, or wrong. lol :)

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
3:31 pm

Princess – My deep deep south & ooolder south GA family will say they are going fishing.

Fishing = Shopping.

Now tell me that aint a mess!

Sassy Me :-)

February 18th, 2010
3:32 pm

CeeMee you on the one with that translation..lol.

When my dad(yes I said dad and not sperm donor but that’s another topic) first went to the C of C he said part of the reason he liked it was b/c the people/geechie/food reminded him of home(Trini)…my mom was the other reason he liked it. :oops:

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
3:32 pm

CeeMee I got some family in south ga too honey SMH

Raqi...Made in Bourdeax

February 18th, 2010
3:33 pm

♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪So good, take this heart mine into your hands
You give good love to me♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪

DreamsMaterialize

February 18th, 2010
3:33 pm

what if they had been the total opposite, would you have labeled them as desperate had the come at you? Desperate has nothing to do with how you look. Desperation has to do with self-esteem. If you feel you are not worthy of something, you try to overcompensate to get it.

kimmie I only mentioned their credentials to make the point that they had alot to offer and had no reason to be desperate. I’m not stuck on credentials, but I am stuck on ambition and hard work. A graduate degree is one one way to identify an ambitious, hard worker.

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
3:33 pm

RAQUI OMG i been singing that song in my head all week!

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
3:36 pm

@Princess
And don’t forget that when you had too much to drink. The next day when somebody asked you what is wrong you you got to say I went out and got “drunk up” last night. LMAO

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
3:36 pm

They country selves drive some nice whips though.

My uncle that still eats souse meat( we’re not gonna do this today ya’ll :) ) and east pig feet too. My unc drives a 1500 crewcab Chevy, a Hummer…and he has a DODGE RAM…2 more cars that are like 5-6 years old, Suburban and a Tahoe for the wifey.

They country, but them negros ain’t wanting for nothing.

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
3:38 pm

@ Sassy – He’s from Trinidad…oh! Well yeah it would remind him of home.

Sassy Me :-)

February 18th, 2010
3:38 pm

I could not stand seeing the shackles and all that just right in my face at the market.

I know Willie I don’t like it either. Now what I do love still about downtown is King street,The Battery and Waterfront park. I’ll be going back down there to see my mom n stuff next month. They’ve done alot down there and whenever I go back it’s so much to do and see….plus having fam there makes ie grrreat.

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
3:39 pm

CeeMee

aaaaaaahhhhh souse meat, i used to love it until i accidentally read the ingredients now i gag at the thought

DigThat

drunk up “him was drunk up last night…i tell he gwan wit dat day”

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
3:39 pm

Raqi – I’m just waiting on Tazze to come in and rebuke you on that gift.

Sassy Me :-)

February 18th, 2010
3:40 pm

iRaq you sound like you’re up to someone

kimmie

February 18th, 2010
3:42 pm

Dreams – I was just messing with you! :)

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
3:44 pm

@Princess
Thank you. Correct translation. Souse meat. Now that is some stuff you got to be use to.

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
3:45 pm

@Raqi~ he got mad at the IRS cuz he kept owing them money every year? You’re absolutely right, people are losing their minds.

@I am ~ didn’t mean to offend you. Was only saying I realize you’re hurt and your entitled to be hurt. However, just hope you’re not walking around looking wounded. That’s what “woe of me” attitude looks like!!

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
3:45 pm

@ DIG THAT – HOw about in ATLANTA i have to translate for some of the folks that are not from here.

You know we got a few words too.

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
3:47 pm

@Raqi ~ that’s a special number!

Sassy Me :-)

February 18th, 2010
3:47 pm

souse meat, i used to love it until i accidentally read the ingredients now i gag at the thought

Yeah now I know why you couldn’t let it get too hot…cause that stuff will melt….they got errthing from the roota to the toota in that stuff….made some good azz sammiches back in the day,too.

drunk up “him was drunk up last night…i tell he gwan wit dat day”

SNIK/DIG THAT the rest of that would’ve been man they been so drunk up…dem boy day head been bad last night”.

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
3:48 pm

Sassy too funny lol

Sassy Me :-)

February 18th, 2010
3:52 pm

Thanks for the laughs y’all.

Mi a gwan home to mi yard….the geechy Trini gal dey a leave di place…seen.

Read you guys tomorrow. :)

Willie Dynamite

February 18th, 2010
3:54 pm

You know we got a few words too

Similac – yeah yall do.

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
3:54 pm

@Cemeeli
You right baby. We got a language of our own too. Folk look at you like wtf did you just say.

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
3:55 pm

@Sassy
LMAO!!!!!

lurker

February 18th, 2010
3:57 pm

Frankly, I see nothing wrong with being raised the old fashion way. It’s what kept me from crossing lines to the point of no return and it kept me in the category of “good girl.” What I have come to know though, is the fallout from that is that you will be afraid to do what you really feel and want. You will get passed over simply because that other chick wasn’t afraid. Where I ended up though is in a good place. Not too forward but not afraid to ask. I’ll say though that was a hard job for the first dude I intimately interacted with…lol He was constantly saying, don’t you want to please your man or why I (being he) gotta always make the first move all the time or if you want it, take it or we’re at home, do whatever you feel. The point was I had to learn it didn’t cheapen me or make me less of a lady because I stepped out of the box. That was a struggle though, seriously.

DreamsMaterialize

February 18th, 2010
3:58 pm

Not the Gullah talk. lol We used to get cabin on James Island and kick it.

kimmie you know you good with me. probably cuz you see things my way. lol j/k

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 18th, 2010
4:00 pm

My dad used to and still does eat Liverwurst in that plastic tube-like thing…

Willie Dynamite

February 18th, 2010
4:01 pm

Lurker – good for you. So whatchu saying is you have accepted the fact that you are a freak :roll:

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
4:03 pm

Whatever shawty.

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
4:04 pm

the eyeroll is making a comeback the last two days! lol :)

lurker

February 18th, 2010
4:07 pm

@WillieD

Lurker – good for you. So whatchu saying is you have accepted the fact that you are a freak

Let’s say I have some tendencies as everybody does, right? We’ll just sum it up with I don’t walk around with it stamped on my forehead…lol

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
4:08 pm

hahahaha…Willie knows i’m over here chokin on that one!

Dag…be confident in your freakdom.

lurker

February 18th, 2010
4:11 pm

Speaking of liverwurst….we just bought my mom livercheese the other week. She was craving. I was surprised they still carried it

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
4:13 pm

How, or what cologne smells like watermelon?!!? This guy just left from here, and i’m like, huhnh???

coolwater?

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
4:16 pm

I use to love liverwurst….haven’t had a liverwurst sammich in many, many years.

lurker

February 18th, 2010
4:19 pm

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
4:22 pm

lurker silly too.

lurker

February 18th, 2010
4:24 pm

how come this thing won’t auto refresh anymore? i used to cut and paste the link to refresh but that ain’t working either

lurker

February 18th, 2010
4:25 pm

i used the cut and paste method because taking the browser back and forward stop working not that aint working…maybe i should be working

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
4:27 pm

@Leggs
Liverwurst? Ewwwwww. Definitely an acquired taste.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 18th, 2010
4:30 pm

Leggs don’t let DIG make you feel ashamed of liking liverwurst. I used to eat it with my dad back in the day because…afterall, I was daddies little girl. When my mom and sister used to stank the house up with eatin chitlins’ me and my pops used to dip out for pizza, all the while sticking out our tongues calling them DOO DOO Breath!. LOLOL!

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
4:32 pm

@Slim
Lawd. If you eat liverwurst you might as well chow down on some chitlins. Lol Same doo doo breath just different route to get it as stank as possible.

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
4:32 pm

DIG THAT – Auh, Grady babies say “ewwww”? Lol :)

lurker

February 18th, 2010
4:33 pm

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
4:35 pm

“…all the while sticking out our tongues calling them DOO DOO Breath!.” Yes indeed! Thanks for the laugh.

@DigT ~ use to love liverwurst. It has a particular smoothness to it that I like.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 18th, 2010
4:37 pm

LMAO @ DIG IT!!!!! Man I tried it a few years ago because all I recall was being in love with eating it…Mayne! :shock: I couldn’t even swallow it. I guess my taste buds had changed cause I dayum sho ain’t a little girl anymore. lol

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
4:38 pm

@Slim
That baby done growed up. Lol

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
4:39 pm

Leggs that doesn’t sound tasty…smooth to the taste? Isn’t it meat? I’ve never tried it.

DreamsMaterialize

February 18th, 2010
4:40 pm

Hey no more talk about liverwurst and souse meat. need to figure out what’s for dinner. who’s cooking tonight? can I come over and eat?

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
4:42 pm

@Cee ~ guess that wasn’t very appealing. But take watermelon, I like watermelo for what I call the “grit” of the melo. The texture. Liverwurst, if I remember correctly, was smooth to my tongue. Now, these are memories of a teenager!

Dinner tonight is baked talipa. Haven’t decided on my sides yet!

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 18th, 2010
4:42 pm

Dreams You can come on over…we’re having Pickled Pig feet & rabbits foot. ;-)

lurker

February 18th, 2010
4:42 pm

Enter your comments here

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
4:43 pm

Damnit, Damnit….So use to typing Melo, I forgot how to spell!!!

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
4:45 pm

I can see slim in the woods now chasing down a pig for his feet and jumping bushes with her rifle after a waschaly wabbit. Rufus get the pots ready. Mama be home wit dinner in a bit.

DreamsMaterialize

February 18th, 2010
4:46 pm

Dang Slim. How about I just come eat for dessert? lol

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
4:47 pm

Leggs it’s all good i know what you meant.

Tilapia was on the dinner table last night, w/ broccli and rice…

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
4:48 pm

@Dreams
The pickled pig feet might be dessert

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
4:50 pm

i’m so tired of our boys getting shot up over nothing. Did you all read about the Bennett young man?

http://www.ajc.com/news/cobb/bennett-described-as-one-311927.html

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 18th, 2010
4:50 pm

Dreams, well you’re in for a treat…we’ll be eating Monkey Brains…it’s a delicacy you know.

princessnik

February 18th, 2010
4:51 pm

aww slim no monkey booty aka spam

lurker

February 18th, 2010
4:53 pm

Dinner will be chops, roasted potatoes and broccoli

princessnik

February 18th, 2010
4:53 pm

Dreams M lemme get one for the road I’ll take a white wine spritzer ;)

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
4:55 pm

princessnik

February 18th, 2010
4:56 pm

yes Dig That, i don’t eat it, but i remember going to NYSP during the summer and they served it daily and the other kids referred to it as Monkey booty, and it does kinda look like it………

DreamsMaterialize

February 18th, 2010
5:02 pm

princessnik wine spritzer it is. take the rest of the bottle…enjoy your evening.

lurker now I like the way that sounds. so what time should I be there? lol

Slim I know how to take a hint. If you just didn’t want me over for dinner you could have said so…dang. lol

princessnik

February 18th, 2010
5:05 pm

Dreams M

‘preciate ya ;)

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
5:06 pm

There’s a Zebra on the loose downtown by the Sam Nunn bldg. WTF!

lurker

February 18th, 2010
5:06 pm

dreams…730ish

lurker

February 18th, 2010
5:07 pm

bologna and ham yea but spam and liverchees/wurst no can do. my mom and sister yeah but uh uh. oh, definitely no no to souse meat…ugh

princessnik

February 18th, 2010
5:08 pm

lurker, i gotta say no to the bologna too

princessnik

February 18th, 2010
5:09 pm

does anybody eat hoghead cheese? I remember selling it when i worked in the deli, looks rather gross

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
5:10 pm

@princessnik ~ I was recently re-9ntroduced to the fried bologna sammich. Nice little thing to grab when you want to snack on something.

princessnik

February 18th, 2010
5:12 pm

leggs i’m picturing the bologna bubbled up in the middle in the pan LOLOLOL!

lurker

February 18th, 2010
5:12 pm

Princessnik, I said bologna because we ate that growing up, more so than ham. I haven’t had or bought bologna in eons but it was a constant, especially during the summer holidays or saturday nights with chips and grape koolaid. Remember when the large bag of chips had the two double bags inside?

lurker

February 18th, 2010
5:14 pm

yep, friend bologna…mmm mmm mmm

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
5:14 pm

BTW, speaking of food, when my ex dropped lil leggs off he came in with a bag of Prawns knowing I liked shrimp. Ain’t no shame in my game, I grabbed those Prawns, thanked him and said good night!

princessnik

February 18th, 2010
5:14 pm

Remember when the large bag of chips had the two double bags inside?

sorry nope don’t remember that, but i’m with ya on the grape koolaid even though i barely drink grape now

lurker

February 18th, 2010
5:16 pm

okay, prawns? what’s that

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
5:17 pm

Huge shrimp…colossal

lurker

February 18th, 2010
5:19 pm

ahhh, gotcha

princessnik

February 18th, 2010
5:19 pm

Lurker, you haven’t seen the Jamie Foxx movie “bait” before i take it LOL

lurker

February 18th, 2010
5:21 pm

princess, actually i have….guess i missed something huh…lol

princessnik

February 18th, 2010
5:23 pm

yeah that’s what he was stealing when he got caught and locked up LOL,

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
5:23 pm

Aint nothing like a good ol fried bologna sammich

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
5:26 pm

It is good, esp with a tall glass of koolaid. Takes you right back home to playing stickball in the streets!

princessnik

February 18th, 2010
5:30 pm

Takes you right back home to playing stickball in the streets!

a good ol PBJ (honey pb with apple jelly)on fresh bread (pref Merita) does that for me wit a tall glass of Orange Kool-Aid

Think i’ll go fix me one now ;)

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
5:30 pm

@Leggs
Grape or Red

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
5:32 pm

Tropical punch mixed w/pink lemonade or black cherry mixed w/pink lemonade!

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
5:36 pm

Got to add that lemonade mix. Now you talking baby. You know how to do it.

princessnik

February 18th, 2010
5:39 pm

I thought i was the only one who liked to mix lemonade with other flavors LOL

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
5:42 pm

Gotta watch out for the flavors children like. Roaring Strawberry or Blue Ice. Mixed Blue Ice with pink lemonade or was it lemon lime and pink lemonade that turned the kookaid brown?? Lil leggs wouldn’t drink it.

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
5:45 pm

souse meat, chitlins, liverwurst, spam and now we’re talking about koolaid! gotta love the blog!

princessnik

February 18th, 2010
5:45 pm

leggs i think its lemon lime and anything that turns brown LOL

i remember once upon a time they made watermelon Koolaid but only briefly and it was clear… my mom was like ummm y u got this water in a pitcher like that

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
5:50 pm

Yeah it’s the lemon lime. I baked the talipa last night for dinner this evening, but I think I’m stopping off at W.K. Wings and get me an order of Ranch wings! Yummy!

PRINCESSNIK....remember when commitment was golden

February 18th, 2010
5:51 pm

leggs that sounds yummy, i think i may do some lemon pepper wings this weekend

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
5:58 pm

Ok I was just hungry. Now I’m starving.

princessnik....remember when commitment was golden

February 18th, 2010
6:01 pm

dig that me too off to the kitchen i go

night ya’ll

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
6:04 pm

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
6:05 pm

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
6:11 pm

Today’s topic, Chasing Pavements immediately has me thinking of the police chasing that Zebra down the road! The image is scary but funny!

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
6:32 pm

I just heard about that. Craaaazzzzzyyyyyyyy