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Chasing Pavements

One of my favorite singer/songwriters, Adele sings about chasing after love, even if it leads nowhere.  It reminds me of what it feels like to be the woman asking a guy out first.  I know men are used to this feeling, all the time, but for a lady, there could be more at stake.  Every time a woman asks a man out first, she is taking a risk at shifting the dynamics of a future relationship.

Is it better for a woman to make such a risk if she feels that strong of an attraction to a guy?

When women approach men, what exactly do they stand to lose? I always hear so many men say that they truly admire a woman that can ask him out.  I have no hard statistics, but these same men aren’t actually married or in a relationship with that woman.  So is it really admirable or are men secretly thinking they don’t want to be the one pursued after all?

When a woman asks a man out, is she chasing pavements? Can it ever lead to a relationship with good potential?

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Raqi...Made in Bourdeax

February 18th, 2010
3:24 pm

Raqi...Made in Bourdeax

February 18th, 2010
3:25 pm

You + Me = We

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
3:25 pm

Geechee translation

there = day
been here = beenyea
come here – cumyeah

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
3:26 pm

@Cemeeli
Freaknik brought the world to Atlanta and we almost lost it. Everytime I brought somebody here they never left. Just up and moved and called everybody they knew. Lol

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
3:27 pm

Snuggie = The new baby maker contraption.

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
3:27 pm

CeeMee

Some shoe = a pair of shoes

Raqi...Made in Bourdeax

February 18th, 2010
3:27 pm

My husband just sent me a link where this guy got mad at the IRS and set his house on fire and drove a plane into a building where federal employees worked.

People just are losing it these days. Permanent solutions to temporary problems costing them their life and freedom.

Willie Dynamite

February 18th, 2010
3:29 pm

Sassy – thats funny cuz when I went to Jamaica I could understand alot of what the locals were saying. Thats thanks to my geechie friends.
Now Charleston, I loved the food (shrimp n grits) and the people. I could not stand seeing the shackles and all that just right in my face at the market. because of that it would be very hard for me to go back there.

Raqi...Made in Bourdeax

February 18th, 2010
3:29 pm

Snuggie = The new baby maker contraption.

LOL That’s what Tazzee is going to get for a wedding present.

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
3:29 pm

Everytime I brought somebody here they never left. Just up and moved and called everybody they knew.

DIG THAT – My college roomate from Athens, New York & Savannah they all live her. The one from Savannah goes back and forth…shes a realator and has a rental in Savannah…just went back home a last year.

Never decides where to stay, until something goes on, or wrong. lol :)

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
3:31 pm

Princess – My deep deep south & ooolder south GA family will say they are going fishing.

Fishing = Shopping.

Now tell me that aint a mess!

Sassy Me :-)

February 18th, 2010
3:32 pm

CeeMee you on the one with that translation..lol.

When my dad(yes I said dad and not sperm donor but that’s another topic) first went to the C of C he said part of the reason he liked it was b/c the people/geechie/food reminded him of home(Trini)…my mom was the other reason he liked it. :oops:

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
3:32 pm

CeeMee I got some family in south ga too honey SMH

Raqi...Made in Bourdeax

February 18th, 2010
3:33 pm

♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪So good, take this heart mine into your hands
You give good love to me♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪

DreamsMaterialize

February 18th, 2010
3:33 pm

what if they had been the total opposite, would you have labeled them as desperate had the come at you? Desperate has nothing to do with how you look. Desperation has to do with self-esteem. If you feel you are not worthy of something, you try to overcompensate to get it.

kimmie I only mentioned their credentials to make the point that they had alot to offer and had no reason to be desperate. I’m not stuck on credentials, but I am stuck on ambition and hard work. A graduate degree is one one way to identify an ambitious, hard worker.

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
3:33 pm

RAQUI OMG i been singing that song in my head all week!

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
3:36 pm

@Princess
And don’t forget that when you had too much to drink. The next day when somebody asked you what is wrong you you got to say I went out and got “drunk up” last night. LMAO

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
3:36 pm

They country selves drive some nice whips though.

My uncle that still eats souse meat( we’re not gonna do this today ya’ll :) ) and east pig feet too. My unc drives a 1500 crewcab Chevy, a Hummer…and he has a DODGE RAM…2 more cars that are like 5-6 years old, Suburban and a Tahoe for the wifey.

They country, but them negros ain’t wanting for nothing.

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
3:38 pm

@ Sassy – He’s from Trinidad…oh! Well yeah it would remind him of home.

Sassy Me :-)

February 18th, 2010
3:38 pm

I could not stand seeing the shackles and all that just right in my face at the market.

I know Willie I don’t like it either. Now what I do love still about downtown is King street,The Battery and Waterfront park. I’ll be going back down there to see my mom n stuff next month. They’ve done alot down there and whenever I go back it’s so much to do and see….plus having fam there makes ie grrreat.

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
3:39 pm

CeeMee

aaaaaaahhhhh souse meat, i used to love it until i accidentally read the ingredients now i gag at the thought

DigThat

drunk up “him was drunk up last night…i tell he gwan wit dat day”

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
3:39 pm

Raqi – I’m just waiting on Tazze to come in and rebuke you on that gift.

Sassy Me :-)

February 18th, 2010
3:40 pm

iRaq you sound like you’re up to someone

kimmie

February 18th, 2010
3:42 pm

Dreams – I was just messing with you! :)

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
3:44 pm

@Princess
Thank you. Correct translation. Souse meat. Now that is some stuff you got to be use to.

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
3:45 pm

@Raqi~ he got mad at the IRS cuz he kept owing them money every year? You’re absolutely right, people are losing their minds.

@I am ~ didn’t mean to offend you. Was only saying I realize you’re hurt and your entitled to be hurt. However, just hope you’re not walking around looking wounded. That’s what “woe of me” attitude looks like!!

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
3:45 pm

@ DIG THAT – HOw about in ATLANTA i have to translate for some of the folks that are not from here.

You know we got a few words too.

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
3:47 pm

@Raqi ~ that’s a special number!

Sassy Me :-)

February 18th, 2010
3:47 pm

souse meat, i used to love it until i accidentally read the ingredients now i gag at the thought

Yeah now I know why you couldn’t let it get too hot…cause that stuff will melt….they got errthing from the roota to the toota in that stuff….made some good azz sammiches back in the day,too.

drunk up “him was drunk up last night…i tell he gwan wit dat day”

SNIK/DIG THAT the rest of that would’ve been man they been so drunk up…dem boy day head been bad last night”.

PRINCESSNIK

February 18th, 2010
3:48 pm

Sassy too funny lol

Sassy Me :-)

February 18th, 2010
3:52 pm

Thanks for the laughs y’all.

Mi a gwan home to mi yard….the geechy Trini gal dey a leave di place…seen.

Read you guys tomorrow. :)

Willie Dynamite

February 18th, 2010
3:54 pm

You know we got a few words too

Similac – yeah yall do.

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
3:54 pm

@Cemeeli
You right baby. We got a language of our own too. Folk look at you like wtf did you just say.

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
3:55 pm

@Sassy
LMAO!!!!!

lurker

February 18th, 2010
3:57 pm

Frankly, I see nothing wrong with being raised the old fashion way. It’s what kept me from crossing lines to the point of no return and it kept me in the category of “good girl.” What I have come to know though, is the fallout from that is that you will be afraid to do what you really feel and want. You will get passed over simply because that other chick wasn’t afraid. Where I ended up though is in a good place. Not too forward but not afraid to ask. I’ll say though that was a hard job for the first dude I intimately interacted with…lol He was constantly saying, don’t you want to please your man or why I (being he) gotta always make the first move all the time or if you want it, take it or we’re at home, do whatever you feel. The point was I had to learn it didn’t cheapen me or make me less of a lady because I stepped out of the box. That was a struggle though, seriously.

DreamsMaterialize

February 18th, 2010
3:58 pm

Not the Gullah talk. lol We used to get cabin on James Island and kick it.

kimmie you know you good with me. probably cuz you see things my way. lol j/k

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 18th, 2010
4:00 pm

My dad used to and still does eat Liverwurst in that plastic tube-like thing…

Willie Dynamite

February 18th, 2010
4:01 pm

Lurker – good for you. So whatchu saying is you have accepted the fact that you are a freak :roll:

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
4:03 pm

Whatever shawty.

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
4:04 pm

the eyeroll is making a comeback the last two days! lol :)

lurker

February 18th, 2010
4:07 pm

@WillieD

Lurker – good for you. So whatchu saying is you have accepted the fact that you are a freak

Let’s say I have some tendencies as everybody does, right? We’ll just sum it up with I don’t walk around with it stamped on my forehead…lol

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
4:08 pm

hahahaha…Willie knows i’m over here chokin on that one!

Dag…be confident in your freakdom.

lurker

February 18th, 2010
4:11 pm

Speaking of liverwurst….we just bought my mom livercheese the other week. She was craving. I was surprised they still carried it

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
4:13 pm

How, or what cologne smells like watermelon?!!? This guy just left from here, and i’m like, huhnh???

coolwater?

Leggs

February 18th, 2010
4:16 pm

I use to love liverwurst….haven’t had a liverwurst sammich in many, many years.

lurker

February 18th, 2010
4:19 pm

Cemeeli

February 18th, 2010
4:22 pm

lurker silly too.

lurker

February 18th, 2010
4:24 pm

how come this thing won’t auto refresh anymore? i used to cut and paste the link to refresh but that ain’t working either

lurker

February 18th, 2010
4:25 pm

i used the cut and paste method because taking the browser back and forward stop working not that aint working…maybe i should be working

DIG THAT

February 18th, 2010
4:27 pm

@Leggs
Liverwurst? Ewwwwww. Definitely an acquired taste.