Chasing Pavements
One of my favorite singer/songwriters, Adele sings about chasing after love, even if it leads nowhere. It reminds me of what it feels like to be the woman asking a guy out first. I know men are used to this feeling, all the time, but for a lady, there could be more at stake. Every time a woman asks a man out first, she is taking a risk at shifting the dynamics of a future relationship.
Is it better for a woman to make such a risk if she feels that strong of an attraction to a guy?
When women approach men, what exactly do they stand to lose? I always hear so many men say that they truly admire a woman that can ask him out. I have no hard statistics, but these same men aren’t actually married or in a relationship with that woman. So is it really admirable or are men secretly thinking they don’t want to be the one pursued after all?
When a woman asks a man out, is she chasing pavements? Can it ever lead to a relationship with good potential?
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Sassy Me :-)
February 18th, 2010
2:45 pm
Lady there’s not a whole lot going on down there in Sumter…that’s one of those places where you’ve gotta take a ride elsewhere to have some fun.
we kept going deeper into nowhere i was like wth…
SNIK I understand…lol. I do.
Lady J
February 18th, 2010
2:47 pm
PRINCESSNIK I am from Dillon a country gal @ best don’t get me wrong but Sumter did NOTHING for me Sassy PREACH!!!!!!! I hate to say a wasted yr but I could have went on to State from the start! LOL As a transfer to state I just didn’t get the same love as starting there as a freshman! LOL
DIG THAT
February 18th, 2010
2:47 pm
And seems like the deeper I went into SC the more trouble I got in. But I will say that I had so much fun back then that those memories will be with me forever and I have been a lot of places. It is so funny tho that we are even talking bout Sumter. Nobody used to know where that was. Listening to the big DM
Sassy Me :-)
February 18th, 2010
2:48 pm
Okay now SNIK throwing around that Geechie word….my momma n dem from there. What’s funny is that depending on what part of Charleston you’re in the dialect is different..yet the same.
Lady J
February 18th, 2010
2:49 pm
the big DM was the BEST thing going I went to Charleston recently and boy from i26 on I was jamming away! Love that station it is a classic!
DIG THAT
February 18th, 2010
2:50 pm
@Sassy
At first I thought it was just dialect but then after awhile just seem to be whole notha language.
PRINCESSNIK
February 18th, 2010
2:50 pm
@Sassy What’s funny is that depending on what part of Charleston you’re in the dialect is different..yet the same.
yep I agree! Shout out to Johns Island and N. Charleston
DIG THAT
February 18th, 2010
2:51 pm
I know Lady J. If not for the big DM it would have been a basket case.
PRINCESSNIK
February 18th, 2010
2:51 pm
Lady J the big DM was the BEST thing going
yes ma’am they had the best “traffic mix” every afternoon
Willie Dynamite
February 18th, 2010
2:54 pm
Hadn’t heard of Sumter for bout 10-15 yrs. I went to college with some country bumpkins from Sumter and Bishopville.
Charleston and their geechie folks can actually be classified as another country.
Willie Dynamite
February 18th, 2010
2:54 pm
Now that I think about it Charleston had the best food I ever ate.
PRINCESSNIK
February 18th, 2010
2:55 pm
Willie D where did you go to college?
Lady J
February 18th, 2010
2:55 pm
weird though gang I could never get with living in cola stayed in orangeburg a yr after graduation and came on to the A….Charlotte either those two places I visit only seriously!
Lady J
February 18th, 2010
2:56 pm
Willie D as a lil girl we stayed in lynchburg and its by bishopville the sticks baby!
PRINCESSNIK
February 18th, 2010
2:56 pm
Lady J, Dig That, Sassy Me,
I think i’m going to Homecoming this year! Let me start the homecoming fund right now LOL ya’ll know how the HBCU homecoming goes
Lady J
February 18th, 2010
2:57 pm
best hole in the wall clubs though don’t get it twisted a place to let your hair down and be free with ya folks and include a motorcycle boy I would think i am 17 again! BAM! LOL
PRINCESSNIK
February 18th, 2010
2:58 pm
@ Lady J I could never get with living in cola
OMG i LOVED “the metro” I was upset when I moved back to GA lol
DIG THAT
February 18th, 2010
2:58 pm
My baby was born in Sumter
Lady J
February 18th, 2010
2:59 pm
PRINCESSNIK I am taking it to another level do HC every year but this year I am attending Founder’s Day weekend festivitives and going to the scholarship gala sat and regina belle is performing in orangeburg I am becoming a life member in the atl scsu alumni chapter networking on a higher leve…not even working tomorrow can’t wait to get away for the weekend ORANGEBURG here I come!!!!!! Carefree!!!!!
Cemeeli
February 18th, 2010
3:01 pm
Awww…ya’ll having memory lane ’bout ole geechie SC.
I like the Carolinas…Charleston is beeeaauuutiful… so is Myrtle Beach. North..north NC is my favorite fall-time haven.
PRINCESSNIK
February 18th, 2010
3:01 pm
Lady J I do homecoming every other year, I need to do better about my alumni status LOL I can’t believe its been __ years
Sassy Me :-)
February 18th, 2010
3:02 pm
DIG THAT it kinda is another language rooted in slavery w/ mixing of slaves from different villages. They all had to communicate somehow so that’s one of the reasons/ways Gullah came about.
Umm SNIK whatchu know ’bout Johns Island and North Chas.?….my mom/step-dad live off of Dorchester road.
Charleston and their geechie folks can actually be classified as another country. So…
Lady J
February 18th, 2010
3:04 pm
lololololol PRINCESSNIK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
PRINCESSNIK
February 18th, 2010
3:04 pm
Sassy I had some classmates from there, couple of ladies who were my intro to the Geechie Dialect lol i remember that day we met very clearly lol
Cemeeli
February 18th, 2010
3:05 pm
@ DIGTHAT you’re from Carolina too?
@ Sassy – Is that the Granny that gave you the Snuggie for Christmas?…wont be using it too long. Should warm up soon.
I remember when Upward Bound was held in Aiken?
Sassy Me :-)
February 18th, 2010
3:08 pm
ya’ll know how the HBCU homecoming goes
OKAY?! Folk that hadn’t been to a game all season long(and won’t see again til next season) will go and get an outfit and get fresh for homecoming. That’s a huge social event.
I see you CeeMee…over there talkin bout geechie…
PRINCESSNIK
February 18th, 2010
3:09 pm
@ Sassy will go and get an outfit and get fresh for homecoming. That’s a huge social event
and probably won’t even go inside the stadium, outside tailgating and socializing
Lady J
February 18th, 2010
3:09 pm
Be easy gang going to find an outfit! Peace!:)
Cemeeli
February 18th, 2010
3:10 pm
Sassy
I’m sorry it is geechie in SC…well shoot, so was Savannah & Brunswick! So i’m not sayin nothing really.
DIG THAT
February 18th, 2010
3:11 pm
@Cemeeli
No. I’m actually a native of Atlanta. I know hard to believe but we do exist.
Leggs
February 18th, 2010
3:11 pm
Are you guys still on topic??
Raqi
February 18th, 2010
3:12 pm
♫ Baby, I’m in need of your love
And you got that touch
That I need so much
And I am about to explode
Freely, completely, everything you want I’ll be
Good love down to the last drop
And I’m not gonna stop
Loving you every day
Don’t you look no more
Love without a limit
Loving you every day
Don’t you look no more
Love without a limit♫
♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪
PRINCESSNIK
February 18th, 2010
3:12 pm
Leggs we don’t know what happened to everybody else so we took a stroll down memory lane to SC LOL
Willie Dynamite
February 18th, 2010
3:13 pm
Nik – I went to college here in Atlanta. I had some friends from there so I’ve traveled that area pretty good. Had a friend-gil from Charleston and that place is special (Hey Lady J). Not in a bad way just different.
kimmie
February 18th, 2010
3:13 pm
Dig – I’m another native Atlantan! Yes, we do exist!
Cemeeli
February 18th, 2010
3:13 pm
@ DIG THAT – Hello fellow ATLien. So am i.
Sassy Me :-)
February 18th, 2010
3:14 pm
Yes CeeMee that’s the Granny that gave me the Snuggy…I’m ready to put it up trust me. That thing has so mcu static cling I sound like rice krispies when I walk in it…done washed n dryed it and it’s still actin up.
couple of ladies who were my intro to the Geechie Dialect
SNIK what I find funny is that people from other places sumtimes think geechie sounds like an island dialect…
kimmie
February 18th, 2010
3:14 pm
Raqi – That’s one of my favorite MJB songs!
Leggs
February 18th, 2010
3:15 pm
@I am loved – are you still lurking??? Call me (770) 270-3842!
DIG THAT
February 18th, 2010
3:16 pm
@kimmie & cemeeli
ATL in the house. It got to the point at one time there so many different people here that I felt like I was from out of town. Big hug and kiss Peaches
Sassy Me :-)
February 18th, 2010
3:16 pm
I remember when Upward Bound was held in Aiken?
ME,TOO!! I went there a few times in high school….y’all got my eyes all watery…..
Willie Dynamite
February 18th, 2010
3:16 pm
Geechie reminds me alot of the Patois spoken in Jamaica.
Raqi...Made in Bourdeax
February 18th, 2010
3:17 pm
kimmie, yeah that’s a nice one. I am so feeling it right now. Imma let it play again.
Raqi...Made in Bourdeax
February 18th, 2010
3:18 pm
Leggs, did you just post your real number?!?!?!?!
Sassy Me :-)
February 18th, 2010
3:18 pm
friend-gil
Now see….you ain’t right. I’m jus sayin…
Cemeeli
February 18th, 2010
3:19 pm
Sassy Girl those things are clingy…lol @ you ready to say goodbye Mr. Snuggie. I sooo feel you!
Willie Dynamite
February 18th, 2010
3:20 pm
ohhh you caught that. I’m just saying.
Sassy Me :-)
February 18th, 2010
3:22 pm
Geechie reminds me alot of the Patois spoken in Jamaica.
Actually some of the words used in both places are the same…I’ve noticed that with some of my Bahamian friends as well. The slave trade was heavy in Chucktown b/c of the harbor and the old slave market is still open in downtown as a tourist site/shopping centre.
Cemeeli
February 18th, 2010
3:22 pm
@ DIG THAT lol we (natives) are becoming extinct…most of my friends moved away, and the few here don’t deal with transplants at all…
@ Sassy – You remember Upward Bound?!!? that’s funny
Raqi...Made in Bourdeax
February 18th, 2010
3:23 pm
LOL Snuggie!!!! I thought about one of those things the other night when I was sitting on the couch and took a blanket and wrapped it around me and baby.