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I was reading the always helpful Atlanta Bargain blog about online dating services. It got me thinking that I have never met a real life matchmaker in person.  I’ve watched them in reality television, marveling at their proclivity to read into single people’s behavior (SPB).  It is rather interesting how they correct the bad SPB (seemingly for the cameras), allowing them to attract the right type of people. Paying someone to do some of the “hunt for compatibility” leg work almost seems like a great investment.

In some cultures, parents arrange the marriages of their children. What would be the harm in paying for a similar “arrangement” from a professional? I seriously considered signing up for a professional matchmaking service because I am very curious about my “diagnosis”. Perhaps I have overlooked something that needs to be adjusted before I am truly open to meeting a potential Mr. Right. Hey, I’m wise, but I never claimed to have it all figured out!

I asked my personal “love squad” what they thought about this and I got varying opinions.  I think the general consensus was it seemed “desperate” and unrealistic.  I don’t agree with that at all. Then again, I am a supporter of internet dating.

Ms. Cash raises a great point when she asks,  “is it a worthwhile investment or a wasted expense” to pay money to aid in the search for love? Why do so many people feel strange about spending money on matchmaking services or paying fees for online dating? Is it different from making an investment in gym memberships or the costs associated with grooming?

What are your thoughts about professional matchmakers? What would you want to ask them?

How much or how little should we invest in dating? Does  “you get what you pay for” apply here?

190 comments Add your comment

Leggs

February 16th, 2010
8:11 am

Good morning!

Interesting because I am contemplating trying this form of dating. I know of 2 couples that met and married and seem happy on the outside. My only concern with online dating is that I feel I should at least first get out and meet men on my own before I tackle the beginnings of courtship through a computer. I talk the talk, now just have to get my feet to moving and frequent establishments conducive to meeting people. Home, work and church and the supermarket are not breeding grounds for meeting people (lol). It can help, but seems like I get more attention when I go to Home Depot. Perhaps, I’ll cruise those aisles a little more often (J/K).

Leggs

February 16th, 2010
8:18 am

@i am loved ~ loved reading you at the end of the day yesterday. That’s exactly what you have to CONTINUE to do. PUMP YOURSELF UP DAILY. I do it every morning while getting ready for work. I feel like you on some days, but I shake it off as soon as despair rears its ugly head. We are all worthy! And, the Annie lyrics were on point!

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 16th, 2010
9:00 am

Good morning! Woke up this morning feeling like Misses Bytch is on my shoulder today. Betta watch out! Hope to knock her off my shoulder sooner than later.

DIG THAT

February 16th, 2010
9:02 am

Good morning
Actually Leggs that is a comfort for most people that internet date. Some people don’t respond or interact socially as well face to face, but doesn’t mean they are sheltered or not able to. Stay out da Home Depot and log on to LETMESEEWHATTHEHELLTHISISABOUT.COM LMAO!!!

DIG THAT

February 16th, 2010
9:04 am

Please let that Bytch get knocked off her shoulder. I will eat all my broccoli if you just get rid of that Bytch. Please Lawd.

Willie Dynamite

February 16th, 2010
9:23 am

Morning All,

Good topic, I don’t know about making an investment in Matchmakers. i do think for some its a viable option. As with anything there has to be some type of trust involved. I mean if a matchmaker is telling you things about yourself that need changing and you just flat out refuse to change or believe those things then thats just a wasted investment. Maybe some folks just need a extra set of eyes that shows them the view from outside looking in. I just think before any of this get to know yourself totally.

Slim – Don’t get rid of the Bytch on ya shoulder. It shows some balance.LOL!!!

M. (pronouced M dot)

February 16th, 2010
9:30 am

Interesting.

My old coworker in Chicago had a girlfriend whose parents were VERY interested in seeing her married off. She had a very busy lifestyle, so I can see matchmakers making working in this situation. They can do all the screening for you based on what you are looking for. I think her family paid for the dating service that you see in the Airplane magazines. After being set up, she ended up marrying the guy. I think anything can work, but I just think dating services are frowned upon because it’s like cheating on the test. You really didnt have to do anything and you still get a good grade.

Professor is.....

February 16th, 2010
9:32 am

Hola!

Matchmaker, Matchmaker,
Make me a match,
Find me a find,
catch me a catch
Matchmaker, Matchmaker
Look through your book,
And make me a perfect match

Chava:
Matchmaker, Matchmaker,
I’ll bring the veil,
You bring the groom,
Slender and pale.
Bring me a ring for I’m longing to be,
The envy of all I see.

Professor is.....

February 16th, 2010
9:34 am

I would love to speak with a professional Matchmaker. I think it would be fun. As for investing, hmmm I would like to think that I would not invest too much. When it comes to my pennies I can be cheap. Usually I like meeting guys on my own…getting to know the guy, paying attention to red flags, and checking out http://www.dontdatehimgirl.com or the GA inmates query for more info.

Leggs

February 16th, 2010
9:36 am

@DigThat ~ Socially, I’m good with people, just have to get out there a little more.

@SlimOne ~ aim and fire {{{{{slingshot}}}} just knocked that bytch off your shoulders. Now, stand up, dust off your shoulders and SMILE…you’re good! Misss B now jumping in WillieD’s pocket for more balance!

Pandora

February 16th, 2010
9:38 am

There is absolutely nothing wrong with a person hiring someone to find them a compatible mate. On-line dating works if you give it time and don’t speed up the process or allow the other person to speed it up.

DIG THAT

February 16th, 2010
9:39 am

@Professor
What about refunds. Any policy on that?

DIG THAT

February 16th, 2010
9:41 am

@Leggs
Do you feel like anything is stopping you from getting out there?

Professor is.....

February 16th, 2010
9:42 am

@DIG THAT~You already know if the process does not work I want my money back!

ImAPeach404

February 16th, 2010
9:44 am

You really didnt have to do anything and you still get a good grade.

@M. – I disagree. I think by the time a person decides that a matchmaker is necessary – it’s probably because they’ve done everything they know how and nothing has worked.

Confession… I’ve tried Match and Eharmony. I know two ppl that were married after meeting someone on that site, but they were yt. IDK if that truly matters, but I dont find that those sites work for brown people looking for other brown people. Just an observation.

I do watch Millionaire Matchmaker — I love Patty — and I think it’s so dopey when the millionaire makes a statement regarding a man/woman not wanting them for their $. Helloooooooooo! You just joined a dating club for millionaires!?!?!?

Row

February 16th, 2010
9:45 am

This is a really great topic for today. Online dating is not for everyone. Some people find the one and others do not. I tired online dating and it is not working for me. I was online for a year before I finally met the one; at least I thought he ws the one. The guy I met online; him and I have been talking for seven months and it is not working out. I am just trying to find the correct way of saying , let go our separate ways. This is not working. :(

M. (pronouced M dot)

February 16th, 2010
9:45 am

@ImAPeach404

I mean in the standpoint that the matchmaker does the work.

Poppa Grande

February 16th, 2010
9:48 am

I met Ms. PG through a speed dating event. I still remember the cost of the registration…..$28.00. I remember signing up because I had other friends that claimed that they would go to the event, but they all pulled out at the last minute. I treasure every dollar that I earn, so I went because I didn’t want to lose $28.00.

Little did I know that in return for that $28.00 that I would meet anyone worth talking to for more than the 8 minutes let alone 10 plus years. I went into it just looking for a friend not a mate. It just worked out that I found both in one person.

Professor is.....

February 16th, 2010
9:49 am

I think I mentioned on the blog before, but a singles party is always good. Sometimes a few games, drinks and progressive professionals will do the trick. Each person has to bring someone of the opposite sex…someone with great qualities that you would want in a date. If nothing else you always meet some good folks to vibe with.

Wonderwoman

February 16th, 2010
9:54 am

I’ve tried the online dating for about a year, and it personal not for me. But it could work for others.
I went out on a lot of dates, but only meet one guy that I truly had a connection with.
@Leggs give it try and see if its for you. But I’m with you on your some of the posts you made, its better to just get out there and meet someone. Like you I have to get up, and get out there!

Poppa Grande

February 16th, 2010
9:54 am

Slim

I know why Missus Bytch is around. She wants to partake in Mardi Gras. She wants to let it all out before Ash Wednesday.

abc

February 16th, 2010
9:55 am

I was reading lately that Asian men and Black women get the least play from online dating sites — only 7-10% of online participants said they’d even consider dating them. Weird statistic.

So, why not try a matchmaker? It’s a personal choice, not something that I’d ever do, but that’s because I’m a guy. I’m happy enough hanging out in my cave — or, at least, I used to be.

ImAPeach404... still learning lessons

February 16th, 2010
10:02 am

@Row – If you feel that way it’s likely that he feels the same way too. Just be nice about it. And if he has any questions – don’t get frustrated, just answer. And don’t be stink! Did you yall do anything for Valentines Day?

@Poppa – Your 9:48 made me smile. What a blessing…

I would try speed dating. I’m always looking to do something new.

@Professor – I was going to throw a game night party like that. Singles bring a single friend of the opposite sex. But nobody ever wants to come to my house cuz I live so far. So… never happened.
But, the idea sounds good and I’d be into attending something like that.

Melo

February 16th, 2010
10:03 am

Good morning!

Have we gotten this bad and this desperate??

Online dating has more games and is for the dissillusioned and failed types.Folks wont even give u their full body pictures..dude will be on wheelchair or sports a limp and he just puts out a passport size pic..and what of the Amazon ladies who will only show face..no neck,no legs..Nothing…
You get the real deal when u schedule a meet a greet,thats when u see this Big woman struggling to get outa her car??

WHAAAAAAT! :shok: :evil: :roll:

Thats Online dating for you! :lol:

Melo

February 16th, 2010
10:03 am

ImAPeach404... still learning lessons

February 16th, 2010
10:08 am

thats when u see this Big woman struggling to get outa her car??

Melo….
giggling

DIG THAT

February 16th, 2010
10:09 am

Seems like online dating is about if not the exact same as traditional dating. 50/50 chance of getting “the one”.
Oh yeah and a piece of advice. If you do decide to internet date, make sure you and your partner have a web cam. The pic from when they used to be fine might not be the same guy/girl they are today but live streaming is the real deal.

Poppa Grande

February 16th, 2010
10:13 am

Melo

Your post reminded me of “Janet Jackson” from the movie Friday. That came about through Craig’s sister (Regina King) trying to hook Smokey (Chis Tucker). It wasn’t even internet and the hookup female looked very little like Janet Jackson. (maybe that had the same poetic justice braids).

Deception can come about in any number of ways.

Your post did make me :lol:

Leggs

February 16th, 2010
10:14 am

@PoppaG ~ that 9:48 was so so very nice! Good for you and Mrs. PG. One thing I do know is I’m not going the route of online dating until I see what transpires the old fashiond way of meeting men. When this weather breaks, I will be going out more!

Poppa Grande

February 16th, 2010
10:20 am

Leggs

For me, the internet was really only around for a few years before I got married. So, I never really got a chance to try it. I know people that it has worked for and I know people that had to get restraining orders. However, I knew people that had similar results doing it the old fashioned way.

Plus, I never really had problem meeting females. I only planned to go to the event because I few friends were interested in giving it a try.

I probably would not have given internet dating much of a try. I already feel like the art of conversation is dying. Written words are not quite the same as spoken word. Written words leave interpretation solely up to the reader. It is very passive. There aren’t any non verbal cue such as posture or verbal cues such as voice inflection etc. It can lead to simple misunderstandings.

Leggs

February 16th, 2010
10:24 am

And that’s what I would truly miss with online dating before actually meeting the person. Voice inflection, body language, etc.

blarney stoned

February 16th, 2010
10:25 am

Zero interest! I prefer to meet my ladies the old fashioned way, catch them as they fall off the bar-stool….

i'm swiss

February 16th, 2010
10:28 am

Eh… To me, all means of meeting people are pretty much the same. You can certainly find some psychos online with internet dating, but you can just as easily find them online at Home Depot. Likewise, you can meet good people online or off. It’s just another way to meet people & what happens after you meet is still up to you.

I think with anything it all boils down to how you approach it. If you have the mindset that you’re out shopping for “the one” then you’re likely to be disappointed more often than not. But if you’re just looking for a way to meet new people that you otherwise might never encounter, then I think it can be worthwhile.

Full disclosure: Mrs. Swiss & I actually met on an online dating site, so I obviously believe good things can come of them. And in our case, we almost certainly never would have met otherwise. Whatever works for you…

DreamsMaterialize

February 16th, 2010
10:33 am

Morning

Your happiness is as valuable as you say it is. Once you set that value, there is no method of pursuit that should be discounted. Go for yours. Any horror story that you can think up for online dating and matchmaking can also be applied to meeting people in any other situation. Are there crazy people online? Yep, but you can meet crazy people in church, professional conferences, upscale trendy venues, and social get togethers.

i'm swiss

February 16th, 2010
10:38 am

Of course, having said that… Before I met Mrs. Swiss I did have 1 encounter much like the one Melo described. This girl had a gorgeous face, but only had head shots posted. On the phone, she was always talking about going to the gym & how she was a gymnast in college… Then when we met… Well, let’s just say I don’t think the balance beam would hold her anymore… :lol:

Lady J

February 16th, 2010
10:39 am

Internet dating nope, matchmaker nope, paying for these services nope never had….however i met some great internet buddies online…Never met them just email and chat and occasional calls….is that dating nope but that is the beauty of it to me…just platonic convo…Hey Gang!

Professor is.....

February 16th, 2010
10:40 am

u schedule a meet a greet,thats when u see this Big woman struggling to get outa her car….LMAO :grin:

@ImAPeach…the singles gathering is nice if it is done right. A good friend on mine had one a few years back on V-day. It was great and it was something to do for those that did not have a date.

DIG THAT

February 16th, 2010
10:40 am

@i’m swiss
Too funny. I bet that was hilarious

Wise Diva

February 16th, 2010
10:43 am

maybe I can find a matchmaker in Atlanta and interview them. I would probably ask them their “success” rate, however they gauge that sort of thing.

DIG THAT

February 16th, 2010
10:45 am

@Professor
What do you think is so special about the singles parties? I do know a girl that is contemplating one of those parties. I think it is very interesting just curious about the dynamics.

IDK...

February 16th, 2010
10:45 am

this topic brings up something yall might could help; guy has blog. girl ‘likes’ guy. strangers to each other. girl knows a little info. girl wants to ‘know’ guy.

approach??? (guy is somewhat “famous”)

IDK...

February 16th, 2010
10:46 am

oh, good morning happy mardi gras

SlimDiva

February 16th, 2010
10:46 am

Good morning! I met my current mate a little over 2 years ago via an online PAID matchmaking service. We both “investigated” each other. Because we grew up in the same area, we had mutual friends and were able to ask them. I do NOT have any regrets.

Poppa Grande

February 16th, 2010
10:50 am

Wise Diva

Have they started paying you for all the work that you are putting into this blog? You deserve something from them. You have survived all the partners that blew this Popsicle stand a long time ago. Getting “Love squads”, using survey money, and now contemplated interviewing a matchamker.

I’m just saying that someone at the AJC should at least pass a hat around for ya.

i'm swiss

February 16th, 2010
10:50 am

@ DIG THAT — Yeah, I had to fight to conceal my surprise, that’s for sure… Even still, she turned out to be a cool chic & we still had fun hanging out — just without any romance… :lol:

DIG THAT

February 16th, 2010
10:56 am

@i’m swiss
I can dig that. I got some internet buddies and they are good folks. No romance either but I was actually surprised how cool and close we have been. I have actually got the opposite shock. I always kept it casual and a couple have flown to Atlanta to kick it with me and I have been blown away. I was not expecting anything but these women were absolutely beautiful.

ImAPeach404... still learning lessons

February 16th, 2010
10:57 am

I’m just reading everyone’s responses and while I’m not a fan of online dating, I really think that because of the racial make-up of where I live, go to church, work, shop, get gas, go to the library, dine out… I just don’t run into a lot of brothas and maybe I need to look online again (even though it never worked in the past) I wouldn’t mind dating outside my race but, idk. I just don’t get approached by men of other races nor do I see many (if any) that capture my attention.

Wish I could find someone at Church…

Professor is.....

February 16th, 2010
10:57 am

@DIG THAT~ I am bias to them, because I have met some great folks (movers and shakers) at those parties. Plus you do not have that “club/lounge scene” going. The last one I went to each person had to do an intro, which was great. Also my friend had an area downstairs that you could chat away from the crowd if you wanted to, like a one-on-one. What is really good about those parties goes back to something Melo hinted to. It gives you a chance to meet someone that other folks know about…you can check their history and pedigree through the grapevine :grin:

i'm swiss

February 16th, 2010
11:02 am

“I have actually got the opposite shock”

@ DIG THAT — As have I. So, I married that one… ;-)

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 16th, 2010
11:05 am

Thanks DIG IT & Leggs Mayne was she weighing me down this morning. I feel so much better now. ;-)

Poppa you might have a point there…think I need to flash my itty bitties to shake that bytch off me? lololol

ImAPeach404... still learning lessons

February 16th, 2010
11:07 am

@Wise – there is a friend from elementary school whom I caught up with on FB. She owns a matchmaking service… lemme know if you’d like her information.

@Dig – I know you asked Professor but ima answer to :) When I was thinking of throwing a singles party myself, I was trying to figure out a way for it not to be too many dudes there. I know a lot of guys. So I figures a good way was to have the single guy bring a single gal… and that way it would be even. And, I just figured that if everyone in attendance knew everyone in attendance was single, it would make for a fun and interesting night.

Tweti

February 16th, 2010
11:10 am

@ Leggs – my new “low key” guy I mentioned yesterday…met him online back in October. It’s been really good so far. I think, though, that a lot of it has to do with his mentality. We were both tired of the games and drama that seems to be a requirement to date people now. We’re a good fit and I’m open to all possibilities. So, don’t knock it. I agree with the previous posts…it could go either way.

Mr_NYC

February 16th, 2010
11:25 am

I prefer to use the term “online meeting” or “online introductions.” That changes my perspective, because once you establish contact, everything is the same as far as building rapport, establishing trust, and checking your gut about the individual’s intentions. You still must ask the same questions, take your time, and get to know someone. Its pretty much the same as it is in approaching or being approached by someone in a public place for the first time. Really unless you are introduced by a mutual friend, you must do your homework. I’ve met some great women online; some locally and some in other cities. None of whom I would have met or crossed paths with otherwise. The method allows you to cast a wider net and creates new possibilities.

kimmie

February 16th, 2010
11:28 am

Hey Peeps!

Leggs, I see some great-looking guys in Home Depot & Lowes. They are always friendly and the plus is that they are usually homeowners and work well with their hands:)

I look at online dating & matchmaking as just another way to meet people. Yes, you have to be careful, but you have to do that anyway whereever you meet people. In fact, I noticed on the 2 guys I dated in the past that were setups, I kinda let my guard down because I knew them “thru” someone! That ended up being to my detriment.

I met my boo in Publix and I had to be just as careful as if I had met him online – talked on the phone quite a bit first, met out in public several times before going to each others homes, etc. We had a lot in common and ran in some mutual circles, so that helped too.

I know several people that use online dating regularly with much success. Noboby has run into a stalker or anything. Those that did not work out would have not worked out anyway, even if they had met by more traditional methods. One friend that uses it lives in Augusta, where there are not as many options to meet people. The other is very busy and being a former New Yorker, did not have a car the 1st few years she lived here. Both have met some wonderful guys. I know of several people, like former coworkers, that have gotten married.

I’ve made some great friends on this blog! Hey SCool & Sister Cee!

Professor is.....

February 16th, 2010
11:29 am

Question: Do you all think there are negative connotations present regarding where/how you make your SO? Example would you reveal that you met your SO through your BF, because s/he were your BF former beau? Would you reveal that your SO may have been a former boss, student, escort etc.?

DIG THAT

February 16th, 2010
11:31 am

@Peach
That sounds like a good idea because that was my thinking at first that it would be a ton of dudes fighting over 4 women.

Professor is.....

February 16th, 2010
11:36 am

DIG THAT & PEACH…it is a must that you bring a member of the opposite sex to make it work out. I have said it before and will say it again. Bring someone that is progressive with good character.

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
11:40 am

Leggs!!! I was thinking about you today!!! you are like the big sister I never had! thanks for the support

Hi M Dot!!!!

Professor is….. OMG!!!!! I was really good friends with this guy in college. We dated very very briefly (five dates maybe?)
Anyhoo….do you know his ex put him on blast on don’tdatehimgirl.com!!!
Turns out he has a daughter he never supported :O I never new he had a kid in college!!! and it gets worse. His ex dedicated a website airing out all his dirt. he’s a brain surgeon now and on his company email he cussed her out and demanded that she take the site down. She forwarded that email to his superiors. OMG!!!! :O

kimmie

February 16th, 2010
11:41 am

Some of you ladies probably already know this but Essence Atkins, actress from Smart Guy and Half & Half, met her husband on Match.com. He some kind of financial executive and very handsome. They dated for about a year and a half & married last year. She was tired of trying to date men in the entertainment industry and struck gold. They gave all of the single guests at the wedding a 6 month subscription to Match.com.

SexyCool

February 16th, 2010
11:41 am

Sade is about to perform on Ellen.

HEY, Kimmie!!

Oh, and Melo’s example about meeting a dude online who ended up being in a wheelchair was actually my experience that I have shared on the blog in the past.

kimmie

February 16th, 2010
11:43 am

SCool – Sade was on David Letterman last week. Essence.com posted her performance youtube video.

She’s still GOT IT!

SexyCool

February 16th, 2010
11:46 am

Sade is obviously a fan of sticking with what works. This chick hasn’t changed her look in 20 years.

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
11:47 am

I would love to hire a matchmaker if I had the money but any extra money I have goes towards my son. As a single parent, I don’t have the large sums it takes to hire a matchmaker (can’t be throwing money around like that)

here’s the skinny on online dating.

if you go to giveyourhandabreak.com you can pull up all the stats of all the online dating sites.

a lot of reason why women say that eharmony or match.com doesn’t work is because there are more women on that site than men.
So unless you like tacos, it’s not going to work.

I have found a few sites where men outnumber men and I have done well with it. I haven’t met the one but it has allowed me to meet men that I normally would not meet.
For example: If I go out in public, maybe 1 guy if that will talk to me. (not to say I’m a bad catch, I’ve been told I’m a hottie)
Online, my email is flooded.

kimmie

February 16th, 2010
11:48 am

SCool – I want to be Sade when I grow up!

mqew

February 16th, 2010
11:49 am

I think it’s cool to make that investment. If I was single and working and had kids maybe… and just busy. I could see how it would be another way to increase my chances of meeting THE ONE!

Sade is on Ellen.. I LOVE HER! Don’t like the single tho…. :shock:

Tazzee

February 16th, 2010
11:49 am

Morning Folks!

Well, I think you all know I met my fiance’ online – so there’s my opinion of that, LOL. The worst liars I’ve met were in person, one at speed dating and the other at a Falcons event.

Approximately half of my current girlfriend circle was met online too.

Sooo, it’s all relative. I don’t think I’d pay for a matchmaker because I’m a little too cheap for that. Shoot, I used the cheapest online dating service I could find – had to email a few frogs to get to my prince but it was worth it.

Tazzee

February 16th, 2010
11:52 am

PoppaG I just sent you an email. I hope your address hasn’t changed.

SexyCool

February 16th, 2010
11:53 am

As to the topic, it is pretty obvious that by the time a dude is paying for matchmaker services (not an online dating site), he is apt to be more serious about committing to a real relationship.

mqew

February 16th, 2010
11:54 am

Kimmie – I as well would like to be her when grown :lol:

Now I have to listen to some Sade to get my fix as I DON”T like the Soldier song

kimmie

February 16th, 2010
11:56 am

mqew – I love Soldier of Love – love the drums & other instruments in it!

Also love the video to it!

Tazzee - 3 months til Mrs.

February 16th, 2010
11:58 am

SCool Call me! I just told my love that I needed to call you…

mqew I used to chat with guys while sitting under my hair dryer. That was my favorite time to communicate with my online ‘matches’ – easy breezy.

kimmie I read about Essence Atkins and her hubby. Wonderful story.

Professor I think my Mr. is a little shy about telling folks we met online, but I have no problem with it. I have gotten questions like ‘how did you know he wasn’t crazy?’ but I replied, ‘the same way I found out the dude at church wasn’t crazy’

kimmie

February 16th, 2010
11:59 am

She so exotic & mysterious & classy!

My favorite is Nothing Can Come Between Us, the song & the video, which is in black & white. She’s wearing this close-fitting white lace dress with her signature long braid. I think she’s barefoot too.

Saw her in concert back in 2001 & she ROCKED IT! India Irie opened & she was great too!

Professor is.....

February 16th, 2010
11:59 am

I am Loved! I love your new moniker by the way!!!!
I feel that anytime you can due a little research or due diligence it is great.

mqew

February 16th, 2010
12:00 pm

Kimmie – I don’t get it. I luv, luv, luv her. But that song /:) NOPE! I think I’m the only fan that don’t like it.

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
12:01 pm

Professor: Thanks!

I was shocked though when I saw my college friend on that site :-O
Fell off my rocker!!!!
OMG!!! I mean in school he was this cool dude and then he has this double life.
WOW!!!!

mqew

February 16th, 2010
12:04 pm

KIMMIE – Why girl, WHY? I’m done! I’m on Sade all day now…. THAT SONG… OMG!

I couldn’t remember the video so I brought it up on youtube…. goose bumps as soon as the intro came in :lol:

CLASSIC!!!

kimmie

February 16th, 2010
12:06 pm

mqew

February 16th, 2010
12:10 pm

Tazzee – I get it. I think everyone who was able to build something great that met through non traditional means is tremendously blessed!

I’ve had conversations with people that believe that these types of relationships are damned because they didn’t ‘allow’ God to bring them together… :-| <——— Whatever, I say what eva the flip works!!!

PRINCESSNIK

February 16th, 2010
12:10 pm

Morning All,

mqew & kimmie all this sade talk makes me think of my silly brother, i jokingly asked him if he had downloaded the new sade cd to his ipod and he launched in to this impromptu “i’m so depressed” song set to “soldier of love” i laughed until i could barely breath

Professor is.....

February 16th, 2010
12:12 pm

@Tazzee I have found folks are a little shy sometimes to say where/how they met. I guess church sounds better than MIA blog. :twisted:

@I am loved…it is always the cool ones that have it all. One of my GF were telling me about someone she knew. This couple had it all, and while she rumbled through some boxes (she and her husband had just closed on their dream home) she found a box of his items with all these momentos from his mistress. Apparently he never ended the relationship with his ex. The wife had a nervous breakdown and she is back living with her family.

PRINCESSNIK

February 16th, 2010
12:13 pm

@ I am….As a single parent, I don’t have the large sums it takes to hire a matchmaker (can’t be throwing money around like that)

Amen sistah!

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
12:30 pm

mqew – THANKS FOR THE COMPLIMENTS :-D

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
12:31 pm

Professor: Apparently he never ended the relationship with his ex. The wife had a nervous breakdown and she is back living with her family.

OH MY!!!!!

Leggs

February 16th, 2010
12:34 pm

@SlimOne ~ glad the missus didn’t hang around for long.

@Tweti – I’m glad it worked out for you. I can’t knock what I haven’t tried. All I know is this (me) has to change.

@Kimmie ~ haa haa. This guy introduced himself to me in Publix about a week ago. I saw him talking to another woman and thought they were together. Next thing I knew he approachs me while I’m looking at the green peppers and says “I just wanted to tell you you are very pretty” I said thank you and he proceeded to give me his number. I asked if he was with the woman I saw him talking to in the other aisle, and he said no. Was just saying hello. I chuckled and declined his number saying I was involved. Why, cuz he seemed to be crusing to she who would and wouldn’t bite!

@I am love – you can remove the reference to Enimen’s reference and stay with I am loved. Thanks, I have so many lil sisters!

Melo

February 16th, 2010
12:35 pm

give your hand a break.com??

I am luved??

that website name is funny fo sho?? Give ur hand a break??

Are they implying that the singles are self stimulating(manual rabbit in/out motion) and those websites cld prove such a relief for the female wrists???

I can imagine chic sitting by the edge of the bed,in sexxy red nite lingerie,leggs apart and claves tensed,the right hand busy at work,in and out,softly and slowly and the left hand cupping the right tata,her leggs shaking and her head tilting backwards while she moans slowly while closing her eyes!

The web site pedlers are so creative!!!??? :lol: :roll:

Melo

February 16th, 2010
12:37 pm

calves tensed

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

February 16th, 2010
12:47 pm

Melo are you a ghost writer for Zane? (re:12:35 post)

Professor

February 16th, 2010
12:48 pm

:shock: at that 12:34 sounds like your hands are busy too :shock:

Professor

February 16th, 2010
12:48 pm

Nicety I say we find all of Melo’s graphic, and funny posts and sell them in a little black book.

Professor

February 16th, 2010
12:50 pm

@Leggs…do you like turning dudes down? I ask because you are smooooooooth with it :grin:

Melo

February 16th, 2010
12:52 pm

Proff/Slim??

so whats ur interpretation of that website’s name, i dont get it??

Professor

February 16th, 2010
12:56 pm

Melo pull your shirt out so everyone will not see your spoiled pants…make sure you wash your hands they look sticky! :grin:

Melo, I did not think about it, but I did not have your vision either…lol.

Leggs

February 16th, 2010
12:59 pm

meant the reference to Enimen’s SONG….

@Professor, I like that question. No, I don’t think I like it but why string someone along just so I can tell myself I actually traded numbers with a person I know is no where what I’m looking for. I really don’t have time to waste. Not only that, the vibe he gave off to me was sleezy at best. Right off the bat he told me he just moved here from Las Vegas and trying to open his own business (which I can’t remember what it was). His vibe was all wrong and we all know about our gut feeling. My “gut” is my true barometer. I think we all have ignored it over time. Not anymore!

Let me rephrase my answer…yes, I guess I do like turning dudes down cuz I haven’t met a man yet!

Professor

February 16th, 2010
1:01 pm

Gone Ms. Leggs!!! I like your answer, and you are doing the right thing. Why get tied up with someone that is all wrong just to say you have someone?

Willie Dynamite

February 16th, 2010
1:02 pm

Melo – I thought the same thing when I read the name of that Website. Not just on the Womans side but single Men/Women altogether.

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
1:04 pm

at Melo 12:35 post:

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
1:04 pm

at Melo 12:35 post: :-O

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
1:05 pm

the giveyourhandabreak.com site gives you stats on all the dating sites.

PRINCESSNIK

February 16th, 2010
1:07 pm

giveyourhandabreak.com

i guess this means, give your hand a break as in you don’t have to type/search all those diff websites, you type in one website and see which dating sites has the best stats and go from there………..

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
1:08 pm

LOL Melo takes off shirt and pulls pants down

He has the garters around his socks (like the old dudes from the 20’s)

shirt open…GASP!!! TACO MEAT!!!!!

LOL

i'm swiss

February 16th, 2010
1:10 pm

“i guess this means, give your hand a break as in you don’t have to type/search all those diff websites, you type in one website and see which dating sites has the best stats and go from there………..”

Riiiiiiiiiiiiiight…. They’re talking about typing… That’s the ticket…. :lol:

BTW… Melo — D@mn, dude. Just d@mn… :lol:

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
1:10 pm

For those of you that like to live dangerously….there is a dating site called crazyblinddate.com
you select the places and times you are available for date.
you get matched up with someone that matches your interestes, except….you don’t see there pic. you see a blurred out pic of matches that you get to choose and if you agree to the date you go don’t know who they are or what they look like until you meet in person.
The dating site send you a text message on how to find the person you are looking for such as ” I’m in a green shirt at the bar”

PRINCESSNIK

February 16th, 2010
1:11 pm

@swiss……..i tried :)

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
1:11 pm

sorry for my typos
ugh!

PRINCESSNIK

February 16th, 2010
1:12 pm

crazyblinddate.com

wth

Melo

February 16th, 2010
1:12 pm

PRINCESSNIK??

I like that 1.07,makes sense..

maaayne,Willie and myself really need Jesus coz we went waaay off in the gutter! :lol:

PRINCESSNIK

February 16th, 2010
1:13 pm

Melo, I think you just needed a release for your “creative mind”

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
1:13 pm

princess: yes ma’am crazy blind date!!

i'm swiss

February 16th, 2010
1:14 pm

“The dating site send you a text message on how to find the person you are looking for such as ” I’m in a green shirt at the bar””

Or…

“I’m the one drooling, with the uni-brow.”

:lol:

Melo

February 16th, 2010
1:14 pm

u so kind PRINCESSNIK!

PRINCESSNIK

February 16th, 2010
1:14 pm

I am………….I am not ready for that LOL

i'm swiss

February 16th, 2010
1:15 pm

@ PRINCESS — It was a valiant effort, but some battles are lost before they’re begun… ;-)

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
1:18 pm

LMAO @ swiss

Princess: i thought about do the crazyblinddate but I am shook!

PRINCESSNIK

February 16th, 2010
1:19 pm

Question: If you make the comment to your significant other “if i have to do it all by myself, i may as well be by myself” should you be hurt when the s/o packs your ish and says well go be by yourself :shock:

(and no this did not happen to me, my homegirl did this to her s/o and he begging like Keith sweat to come back home)

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
1:22 pm

Melo

February 16th, 2010
1:26 pm

PRINCESSNIK??

the qstion that has to be asked is:

Is she safe??

coz Atlanta guys are really getting crawzy! That story of the Henry county school teacher that was murderd by her crawzy boy really touched me.

Be careful dating some of these fugitives,for real!

be safe out there!

Melo

February 16th, 2010
1:28 pm

I am loved??

u missed picturing my hanging balls..thats a very distinctive feature of mine! :lol:

i'm swiss

February 16th, 2010
1:30 pm

@ Melo — And another question to be asked is: Is HE safe…

Between this and that crazy professor in Alabama, it looks like the ladies are busting through that glass ceiling of crazy….

The whole world is losing its d@mn mind…

Leggs

February 16th, 2010
1:34 pm

Heck, you better ask is he a HE….

M. (pronouced M dot)

February 16th, 2010
1:36 pm

@ Everyone

Have any of you had any funny/horrible online dating experiences?

You see her pictures online and meet her in person and its two different people?

i'm swiss

February 16th, 2010
1:37 pm

“Heck, you better ask is he a HE….”

Or did she used to be a HE… :lol: Dang, it’s scary out there, huh?

PRINCESSNIK

February 16th, 2010
1:38 pm

@ Melo, yea she safe, he is a big ole teddy bear not the violent type at all

@ swiss, yea he safe too

the problem is they are not married, and she makes GREAT money, and he feels like she ought to be doin all this extra (nonsensical) stuff and she is very conservative with her funds

People male and female alike don’t seem to realize that you get more stuff when you don’t ask for it, one thing i can’t stand is somebody else counting MY MONEY, trying to figure out how to spend it and my homegirl is the same way that’s almost an immediate GTFOH move.

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
1:39 pm

the only way that I would do the crazy blind date is if I had someone I knew go with me (you can arrange for group dates on that site)
Otherwise….umm……hell naw…..
Dude might end up like this: http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_vAusYxjkZE8/SwFEAAj6S_I/AAAAAAAAA_Y/JtEI5s9-1H4/s1600/Dale+Alan+Lee.png

Melo

February 16th, 2010
1:41 pm

Swiss..??

u right..whenever a married woman is getting hit “right” by another man,they lose their mind.

well,just being hit right will coz a woman to lose her mind anyway and either plead Allegiance to the current boo or if not,to a different boo.

Not being hit at all will also cause a woman to lose her mind! :lol: :roll: :evil:

Now,what gives??!!! :roll:

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
1:44 pm

Leggs

February 16th, 2010
1:46 pm

@M. ~ 2 summers ago I played around with a dating site. The site was ri dicu lous in that you could “flirt” with the guys (3 programmed flirts) and email those who were “preferred” members (meaning they paid for their subscription). Women’s membership was free, but guys can either pay or simply flirt with those 3 little sad phrases. What a waste of time to receive those flirts from guys who weren’t preferred members. Anyway, I decided to meet one guy off the site at my lunch hour. He seemed like a nice brother, just a little shorter than myself. Well, when I called him later that evening he swore up and down he never met me and I never met him…..CLICK! I immediately erased my profile. That’s my horror story!

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
1:49 pm

I’ve been blessed with enjoyable online experiences.

Oh wait,,,,there is the stalker that kept emailing me for webcam pics.
That was creepy.

Leggs

February 16th, 2010
1:50 pm

“Not being hit at all will also cause a woman to lose her mind!” Only the weak ones who think they’re not living if they’re not having sex. Sex is very important, but it’s not the end of life if you’re not involved! And, it is the weak ones that destroy their “being” by focusing on a dyck they can’t get too!!!

Melo

February 16th, 2010
1:57 pm

weak ones that destroy their “being” by focusing on a dyck they can’t get too!!!

Leggs??

u gotta point..but i think the asraunaut lady put uall females in a deep hole that will take uloooong time to recover! :lol:

Austraunat lady in a diaper! :roll: pants on the ground! :lol:

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
2:01 pm

Here’s another site

unhappy in your relationship? GO TO ASHLEYMADISON.COM

Where the cheat do so indescreet.

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
2:03 pm

and if you’re really desperate….there’s always craigslist

Leggs

February 16th, 2010
2:05 pm

I hear what you’re saying, Melo, but she’s an exception. In all your years on God’s green earth, how many women have you heard about that wore a diaper to confront the other woman. One in the bucket is not necessarily a bad look on women in general.

Let’s see, what’s one of the weirdest things I’ve heard a man do trying to get to his “honey pot?” Give me a moment cuz your species can be trifling as well.

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
2:09 pm

yeah…the diaper lady.
um….elevator didn’t go all the way up….Lights on but nobody’s home…. :O

Melo

February 16th, 2010
2:13 pm

Other than crwazy murder,men are tame compared to women…

they will do drive byes,see another car parked in the drive way and go peek thru the bedroom window to see if guy is busy with the heifer,and they will either break the windows to spite the guy/heifer or the just being jealous that the johnson aint gon down on her nana instead.
And she may leave after that,only to return at the same place and be under him ,in the same bed…even to the extend of joking as they cuddle and lavish in sweet nothings,” i really pined to be here when i saw u phlucking that heifer yesterday”

Thats a woman there 4 u Leggs!! :lol: :roll:

And we luv u for that!! :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

February 16th, 2010
2:15 pm

Give me a moment cuz your species can be trifling as well. I dare you to tell us one. lol

Leggs

February 16th, 2010
2:16 pm

That’s not a woman, that there are two idiots made for each other!

Leggs

February 16th, 2010
2:25 pm

First off, the dude that shot the 2nd grade teacher yesterday over some argument…trifling!

@SlimOne ~ I think your Ms. Bytch briefly found me this afternoon.

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
2:27 pm

Melo

February 16th, 2010
2:29 pm

@Leggs??
H
ow bout the women who take their high heels and wigs off and go at it..esp in da clubs/malls coz they happen to meet while one is eye candy on dude ’sarm??

u havent heard those??

neva seen 2 dudes fighting over chic,neva…

Only thing i deplore is these murders??

Are these men from here??

Leggs

February 16th, 2010
2:38 pm

@i am loved ~ please don’t help them (lol)!

What, are you kidding me, Melo…never seen a dude fighting over a chick. You’re right, no time to fight they just start shooting!!!

Leggs

February 16th, 2010
2:43 pm

Let’s get back to “making an investment”

PRINCESSNIK

February 16th, 2010
2:47 pm

leggs let me help you out…..

my clerk was dating (now married to) one of the guys we work with/dispatch Dude was so jealous of her he was all up in another dudes face about her about to fight ON THE CLOCK no less and lose his job (mind you all the guys have to come to her at some point because she is the main point of contact for issuing work orders) to me that’s bad enough ain no na~na worth loosing a 50,000 job for !

LL411

February 16th, 2010
2:52 pm

Only dated one person I met online… for 3 1/2 years. Talked about a week and a half, met and went on from there.

Now, talked to quite a few for example:

The one… who talked non-stop about self, never asked to meet… but propositioned to arrange Sunday afternoon rondevues (sp) because he was otherwise soooo busy, click.

The one… selling wolf tickets to his show… I’m a business man, yeah, got my own business, work from home. This fool was always drunk in the middle of the day (my opinion), and hanging with the homies, click.

Melo

February 16th, 2010
2:53 pm

PRINCESSNIK??

any time u see a “dude” jealous and wanting to fight ova that,trust me,one of two issues involved:

dude is fat and dating above him

dude aint got no strong dyckk and backbone and mentally lame.

:lol: :roll:

Which one of those two is true if not both??

PRINCESSNIK

February 16th, 2010
2:55 pm

Melo, I really don’t know?!?!?

i especially don’t want to know about the second one LOL YUK!

She is older than him though…………………………..

Leggs

February 16th, 2010
2:55 pm

“dude aint got no strong dyckk and backbone and mentally lame.” Why did OJ come to mind?

Melo

February 16th, 2010
2:58 pm

She is older than him though

that too is a problem esp if she has magic moves he aint neva seen in bed!

lame dudes swallow too

PRINCESSNIK

February 16th, 2010
3:00 pm

Melo we talking like 50 and 41……………not 40 and 25 LOL

Melo

February 16th, 2010
3:02 pm

PRINCESSNIK??

50 and 41??

magic, cougar moves :lol: and financial loot! :roll:

thats the issue here!

Lord Velonese (insert trendy Quote here)

February 16th, 2010
3:03 pm

Lazy people I tell you, got to let someone else pick a mate for you? Well I guess if the relationship messes up you get to blame the matchmaker instead of yourself? You people get more pathetic every day I swear. In my opinion if you’re not willing to work for it you do not deserve it PERIOD.

PRINCESSNIK

February 16th, 2010
3:04 pm

Melo my friend I wish i could say it was so simple both are recently divorced….forget it…….i’m not even trying to tap into their psyche it is what is

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

February 16th, 2010
3:23 pm

Sorry late into the conversation.

Personally I like eHarmony and Match. I’ve almost married two ladies I;’ve met on line, had almost no bad experiences, etc. BUT I always get to know them via email and phone calls before I ever ask them out. I watch for inconsistencies in what they say and write. If something does not smell right, I am gone. Met some real great ladies.

Funny Match story, found a gal on line that was my ex-wife’s roomate in college. An amazing thing had occurred, according to her age, she had somehow missed seven years and we were now seven years older than she was..strange ;-)

Lying about age is a definite turnoff…hellz tell me the truth, I am more interested in the face than the number.

i'm swiss

February 16th, 2010
3:43 pm

“If something does not smell right, I am gone.”

Words to live by, brother. Words to live by… :lol:

Leggs

February 16th, 2010
3:47 pm

You guys need to stop refreshing your screen to see what else has been posted and add to the convo…this is dying a painful, slow death!

Leggs

February 16th, 2010
3:50 pm

How about making an “investment” and post….haa haa haa, couldn’t resist!!

Melo

February 16th, 2010
3:51 pm

@swiss/Randy-t??

If something does not smell right, I am gone

Words to live by, brother

I know Randy is speaking figuratively and Swiss is thinking about the fish smell!

:lol:

Professor

February 16th, 2010
3:53 pm

You guys need to stop refreshing your screen to see what else has been posted and add to the convo…this is dying a painful, slow death!

Leggs, you must have eyes in the back of your head? I was hitting F5, and your comment popped up! :grin:

Professor

February 16th, 2010
3:55 pm

Question: How many of you out there would relocate to be with your soulmate? If you met someone online and the chemistry was great would you move to be with that person, so that you could start a life together?

The reason I ask is because I know someone that is leaving GA and moving to NY (I think it is NYC) to be with her “soulmate.”

PRINCESSNIK

February 16th, 2010
3:57 pm

@ Leggs……………. this is dying a painful, slow death

started off slow too, i lurked a long time before i said anything oh well there is always tomorrow’s topic

Have a good evening!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

February 16th, 2010
4:04 pm

@Melo and Im Swiss

Literally OR figuratively. If I think something is wrong, I’m out of there. If something akin to the “outhouse door on a tuna boat”…I’d break the Olympic record.

i'm swiss

February 16th, 2010
4:04 pm

So, this seems like an appropriate time for a completely un-related comment…

Can I just say that Robin Thicke is giving hope to my people… that one day, we, too, can be smooth. :lol: That dude sprung from the loins of quite possibly the whitest, nerdiest dude on earth (with the possible exception of this guy) — and yet he’s managed to break free from his stiff, awkward, whiteboy roots to produce a pretty darn good baby-making song… An inspiration, I tell you… ;-)

kimmie

February 16th, 2010
4:13 pm

Professor – Regarding your move question – Yes, I would relocate, but not without a ring and a wedding date set. And we would have to be moving TOWARD something positive, like he has a great job opportunity. The company I work for is international, so I could possibly transfer.

This guy I dated and would have married moved back to his hometown of San Diego. When I talked to him in recent years, 10 years after our breakup, he said one big reason he did not give me a ring was because I said I would not leave ATL. I politely corrected him – told him I would have gladly relocated, but for 2 reasons #1 – No official proposal, with ring & date set AND #2 – He had no job & moved back in with his parents! Duh!!!

Melo

February 16th, 2010
4:17 pm

to the “outhouse door on a tuna boat”…I’d break the Olympic record.

@RANDY/SWISS??

thats why having ur too best eyes open when u go down there is very important! :lol:

and neva take extra flesh/muscle coverings on the actual kitty for granted.That funky smell may just be lurking under there…

the moment u flip that layer up to get to ur intended destination,the tip of ur tongue extendimng out, ready to do lick damage like a python……pheeeeeeeew..the pungent shiiiit smell hisses.str8 into ur face… :evil:

@Randy :arrrow: doing the summersault to the exit door :lol:

Professor

February 16th, 2010
4:20 pm

@Kimmie I agree I would have to have a ring and a wedding date set as well. I love to see things move forward and progression…I would not give up my life here without a ring and a date. The lady I mentioned is “sporting” a nice ring!

kimmie

February 16th, 2010
4:24 pm

Professor – Is she excited about moving? I would look at it as a new adventure!

Professor

February 16th, 2010
4:24 pm

@Swiss~it’s funny you mentioned Robin Thicke that is how I picture you in my head!

Mail call

i'm swiss

February 16th, 2010
4:27 pm

@ Prof — I actually don’t even know what the dude looks like, I just know he doesn’t sing like a white boy…. :lol: Though, if you want to get the real picture, you can find me on the MIA Facebook page. I should be fairly easy to spot… ;-)

i'm swiss

February 16th, 2010
4:29 pm

Oh, and Melo — I’m speechless. :lol:

Leggs

February 16th, 2010
4:30 pm

Let’s play devil’s advocate…you’ve been given the ring and a date has been set. You relocate….3 months later you guys have broken up. A ring and a date doesn’t solidfy much. You got the ring and a date, how about marriage counseling. Some would use the ring and a date as the dangling carrot to get you only to find out later you or the relationship is not what was expected. On top of that, breaks the engagement and asks for the ring back. Then what???

Leggs

February 16th, 2010
4:31 pm

Robin Thicke looks just like his father, Alan Thicke!

Melo

February 16th, 2010
4:32 pm

Leggs??

u just have to take risks sometimes..leap of faith!

i'm swiss

February 16th, 2010
4:35 pm

“Robin Thicke looks just like his father, Alan Thicke!”

Oh… well, I guess it’s a good thing he can sing.

Professor

February 16th, 2010
4:35 pm

@Leggs I would keep the ring and waste some grits on him instead! just kidding…seriously I would not move without the ring, but I would have to have one to start transitioning to another state. I would have to find a job or two…(workaholic, so that will give me time to test the market and meet some folks in that city.

I would like to think I would take the risk and have faith.

kimmie

February 16th, 2010
4:42 pm

I would like to think I would take the risk and have faith.

Leggs – That is my take on it too. I guess hindsight is 20/20, because there are a few things I wish I had stepped out on faith for, not just for a dude, but other things. Like I had an opportunity to do an exchange student thing in London when I was in grad school. I didn’t do it because I would have had to quit my job & was scared I wouldn’t be able to find one when I got back. A few other things I wish I had done, but guess were not meant to be, but I try to have no regrets.

Mind you, if I am actually considering relocating from my beloved ATL for a dude, you best believe I really feel he is worth it & have complete faith in the situation. But stuff does happen – heck, we could end up breaking up right here in ATL. So, you gotta have faith & trust in your decisions.

Melo

February 16th, 2010
4:47 pm

“While such a paradigm shift may be a stochastic shock to systems representing a Tipping Point, going forward we’ll adapt to the externality.”

courtesy http://www.twitter.com/janewells

Leggs

February 16th, 2010
4:50 pm

Who wrote that, Dan???

Melo

February 16th, 2010
4:52 pm

when i read the article on cnbc,i was thinking about Dan actually!

Professor

February 16th, 2010
4:53 pm

Where is Dipper Dan?

Leggs

February 16th, 2010
4:54 pm

From my heart…life is hard, have fun, enjoy the people you spend quality time with and don’t sweat the little stuff because it really isn’t important. I speak about the silver lining a lot cuz I truly believe it. When things are going from bad to worse, try to find it because that’s when you’ll be able to smile to the other side of thru…

Nite!

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
4:55 pm

HI Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts) !!!!

THE SUN WILL COME OUT TOMORROW……….BETTA BOTTOM DOLLAR………..

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
4:59 pm

Princess: I would move to be with my soulmate provided I had a job lined up and could sell my house.

Randy: about the age thing. This cat lied about his age on the dating site I was. Turned out we are both alumni at the same college and he had me go to the alumni page to see his website.
This fool had the dates he graduated from college posted and I was able to see based on simple math how old he really was.Such a turn off! I hate liars!!1 he seemed like a cool dude too but if you can easily lie like that whatelse could he lie about.
HE GOT….LET GO!

Melo

February 16th, 2010
5:00 pm

nite nite all menless lurkers/blogettes..

will dream holding u in my arms,hope u do the same!

melo :lol:

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
5:04 pm

MELO: AIN’T YOU MARRIED?

Melo

February 16th, 2010
5:07 pm

@I am loved :roll:

crickets crickets

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
5:10 pm

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
5:10 pm

crickets is what you hear in your bedroom!
LOL
:-O

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
5:11 pm

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
5:11 pm

I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)

February 16th, 2010
5:12 pm

I am loved

February 16th, 2010
5:22 pm

where did everybody go?
crickets crickets crickets