Make An Investment
I was reading the always helpful Atlanta Bargain blog about online dating services. It got me thinking that I have never met a real life matchmaker in person. I’ve watched them in reality television, marveling at their proclivity to read into single people’s behavior (SPB). It is rather interesting how they correct the bad SPB (seemingly for the cameras), allowing them to attract the right type of people. Paying someone to do some of the “hunt for compatibility” leg work almost seems like a great investment.
In some cultures, parents arrange the marriages of their children. What would be the harm in paying for a similar “arrangement” from a professional? I seriously considered signing up for a professional matchmaking service because I am very curious about my “diagnosis”. Perhaps I have overlooked something that needs to be adjusted before I am truly open to meeting a potential Mr. Right. Hey, I’m wise, but I never claimed to have it all figured out!
I asked my personal “love squad” what they thought about this and I got varying opinions. I think the general consensus was it seemed “desperate” and unrealistic. I don’t agree with that at all. Then again, I am a supporter of internet dating.
Ms. Cash raises a great point when she asks, “is it a worthwhile investment or a wasted expense” to pay money to aid in the search for love? Why do so many people feel strange about spending money on matchmaking services or paying fees for online dating? Is it different from making an investment in gym memberships or the costs associated with grooming?
What are your thoughts about professional matchmakers? What would you want to ask them?
How much or how little should we invest in dating? Does “you get what you pay for” apply here?
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i'm swiss
February 16th, 2010
1:10 pm
“i guess this means, give your hand a break as in you don’t have to type/search all those diff websites, you type in one website and see which dating sites has the best stats and go from there………..”
Riiiiiiiiiiiiiight…. They’re talking about typing… That’s the ticket….
BTW… Melo — D@mn, dude. Just d@mn…
I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)
February 16th, 2010
1:10 pm
For those of you that like to live dangerously….there is a dating site called crazyblinddate.com
you select the places and times you are available for date.
you get matched up with someone that matches your interestes, except….you don’t see there pic. you see a blurred out pic of matches that you get to choose and if you agree to the date you go don’t know who they are or what they look like until you meet in person.
The dating site send you a text message on how to find the person you are looking for such as ” I’m in a green shirt at the bar”
PRINCESSNIK
February 16th, 2010
1:11 pm
@swiss……..i tried
I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)
February 16th, 2010
1:11 pm
sorry for my typos
ugh!
PRINCESSNIK
February 16th, 2010
1:12 pm
crazyblinddate.com
wth
Melo
February 16th, 2010
1:12 pm
PRINCESSNIK??
I like that 1.07,makes sense..
maaayne,Willie and myself really need Jesus coz we went waaay off in the gutter!
PRINCESSNIK
February 16th, 2010
1:13 pm
Melo, I think you just needed a release for your “creative mind”
I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)
February 16th, 2010
1:13 pm
princess: yes ma’am crazy blind date!!
i'm swiss
February 16th, 2010
1:14 pm
“The dating site send you a text message on how to find the person you are looking for such as ” I’m in a green shirt at the bar””
Or…
“I’m the one drooling, with the uni-brow.”
Melo
February 16th, 2010
1:14 pm
u so kind PRINCESSNIK!
PRINCESSNIK
February 16th, 2010
1:14 pm
I am………….I am not ready for that LOL
i'm swiss
February 16th, 2010
1:15 pm
@ PRINCESS — It was a valiant effort, but some battles are lost before they’re begun…
I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)
February 16th, 2010
1:18 pm
LMAO @ swiss
Princess: i thought about do the crazyblinddate but I am shook!
PRINCESSNIK
February 16th, 2010
1:19 pm
Question: If you make the comment to your significant other “if i have to do it all by myself, i may as well be by myself” should you be hurt when the s/o packs your ish and says well go be by yourself
(and no this did not happen to me, my homegirl did this to her s/o and he begging like Keith sweat to come back home)
I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)
February 16th, 2010
1:22 pm
Melo as an old man: http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_7_I-rffdoco/R8PsBRvCmyI/AAAAAAAAApo/Acg9tkBhbO0/s1600/crazy_old_man_mike.jpg
Melo
February 16th, 2010
1:26 pm
PRINCESSNIK??
the qstion that has to be asked is:
Is she safe??
coz Atlanta guys are really getting crawzy! That story of the Henry county school teacher that was murderd by her crawzy boy really touched me.
Be careful dating some of these fugitives,for real!
be safe out there!
Melo
February 16th, 2010
1:28 pm
I am loved??
u missed picturing my hanging balls..thats a very distinctive feature of mine!
i'm swiss
February 16th, 2010
1:30 pm
@ Melo — And another question to be asked is: Is HE safe…
Between this and that crazy professor in Alabama, it looks like the ladies are busting through that glass ceiling of crazy….
The whole world is losing its d@mn mind…
Leggs
February 16th, 2010
1:34 pm
Heck, you better ask is he a HE….
M. (pronouced M dot)
February 16th, 2010
1:36 pm
@ Everyone
Have any of you had any funny/horrible online dating experiences?
You see her pictures online and meet her in person and its two different people?
i'm swiss
February 16th, 2010
1:37 pm
“Heck, you better ask is he a HE….”
Or did she used to be a HE…
Dang, it’s scary out there, huh?
PRINCESSNIK
February 16th, 2010
1:38 pm
@ Melo, yea she safe, he is a big ole teddy bear not the violent type at all
@ swiss, yea he safe too
the problem is they are not married, and she makes GREAT money, and he feels like she ought to be doin all this extra (nonsensical) stuff and she is very conservative with her funds
People male and female alike don’t seem to realize that you get more stuff when you don’t ask for it, one thing i can’t stand is somebody else counting MY MONEY, trying to figure out how to spend it and my homegirl is the same way that’s almost an immediate GTFOH move.
I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)
February 16th, 2010
1:39 pm
the only way that I would do the crazy blind date is if I had someone I knew go with me (you can arrange for group dates on that site)
Otherwise….umm……hell naw…..
Dude might end up like this: http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_vAusYxjkZE8/SwFEAAj6S_I/AAAAAAAAA_Y/JtEI5s9-1H4/s1600/Dale+Alan+Lee.png
Melo
February 16th, 2010
1:41 pm
Swiss..??
u right..whenever a married woman is getting hit “right” by another man,they lose their mind.
well,just being hit right will coz a woman to lose her mind anyway and either plead Allegiance to the current boo or if not,to a different boo.
Not being hit at all will also cause a woman to lose her mind!
Now,what gives??!!!
I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)
February 16th, 2010
1:44 pm
melo now: http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_8sbbVZQ6g9o/ReSMfyF58EI/AAAAAAAAAQQ/E0ZQrK1D5T0/s400/bathroom.jpg
Leggs
February 16th, 2010
1:46 pm
@M. ~ 2 summers ago I played around with a dating site. The site was ri dicu lous in that you could “flirt” with the guys (3 programmed flirts) and email those who were “preferred” members (meaning they paid for their subscription). Women’s membership was free, but guys can either pay or simply flirt with those 3 little sad phrases. What a waste of time to receive those flirts from guys who weren’t preferred members. Anyway, I decided to meet one guy off the site at my lunch hour. He seemed like a nice brother, just a little shorter than myself. Well, when I called him later that evening he swore up and down he never met me and I never met him…..CLICK! I immediately erased my profile. That’s my horror story!
I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)
February 16th, 2010
1:49 pm
I’ve been blessed with enjoyable online experiences.
Oh wait,,,,there is the stalker that kept emailing me for webcam pics.
That was creepy.
Leggs
February 16th, 2010
1:50 pm
“Not being hit at all will also cause a woman to lose her mind!” Only the weak ones who think they’re not living if they’re not having sex. Sex is very important, but it’s not the end of life if you’re not involved! And, it is the weak ones that destroy their “being” by focusing on a dyck they can’t get too!!!
Melo
February 16th, 2010
1:57 pm
weak ones that destroy their “being” by focusing on a dyck they can’t get too!!!
Leggs??
u gotta point..but i think the asraunaut lady put uall females in a deep hole that will take uloooong time to recover!
Austraunat lady in a diaper!
pants on the ground! 
I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)
February 16th, 2010
2:01 pm
Here’s another site
unhappy in your relationship? GO TO ASHLEYMADISON.COM
Where the cheat do so indescreet.
I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)
February 16th, 2010
2:03 pm
and if you’re really desperate….there’s always craigslist
Leggs
February 16th, 2010
2:05 pm
I hear what you’re saying, Melo, but she’s an exception. In all your years on God’s green earth, how many women have you heard about that wore a diaper to confront the other woman. One in the bucket is not necessarily a bad look on women in general.
Let’s see, what’s one of the weirdest things I’ve heard a man do trying to get to his “honey pot?” Give me a moment cuz your species can be trifling as well.
I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)
February 16th, 2010
2:09 pm
yeah…the diaper lady.
um….elevator didn’t go all the way up….Lights on but nobody’s home…. :O
Melo
February 16th, 2010
2:13 pm
Other than crwazy murder,men are tame compared to women…
they will do drive byes,see another car parked in the drive way and go peek thru the bedroom window to see if guy is busy with the heifer,and they will either break the windows to spite the guy/heifer or the just being jealous that the johnson aint gon down on her nana instead.
And she may leave after that,only to return at the same place and be under him ,in the same bed…even to the extend of joking as they cuddle and lavish in sweet nothings,” i really pined to be here when i saw u phlucking that heifer yesterday”
Thats a woman there 4 u Leggs!!
And we luv u for that!!
DreamsMaterialize
February 16th, 2010
2:15 pm
Give me a moment cuz your species can be trifling as well. I dare you to tell us one. lol
Leggs
February 16th, 2010
2:16 pm
That’s not a woman, that there are two idiots made for each other!
Leggs
February 16th, 2010
2:25 pm
First off, the dude that shot the 2nd grade teacher yesterday over some argument…trifling!
@SlimOne ~ I think your Ms. Bytch briefly found me this afternoon.
I am loved (formely known as I am whatever you say I am)
February 16th, 2010
2:27 pm
another woman gone loco: http://www.ajc.com/news/dekalb/wife-killed-husband-faked-307968.html
Melo
February 16th, 2010
2:29 pm
@Leggs??
H
ow bout the women who take their high heels and wigs off and go at it..esp in da clubs/malls coz they happen to meet while one is eye candy on dude ’sarm??
u havent heard those??
neva seen 2 dudes fighting over chic,neva…
Only thing i deplore is these murders??
Are these men from here??
Leggs
February 16th, 2010
2:38 pm
@i am loved ~ please don’t help them (lol)!
What, are you kidding me, Melo…never seen a dude fighting over a chick. You’re right, no time to fight they just start shooting!!!
Leggs
February 16th, 2010
2:43 pm
Let’s get back to “making an investment”
PRINCESSNIK
February 16th, 2010
2:47 pm
leggs let me help you out…..
my clerk was dating (now married to) one of the guys we work with/dispatch Dude was so jealous of her he was all up in another dudes face about her about to fight ON THE CLOCK no less and lose his job (mind you all the guys have to come to her at some point because she is the main point of contact for issuing work orders) to me that’s bad enough ain no na~na worth loosing a 50,000 job for !
LL411
February 16th, 2010
2:52 pm
Only dated one person I met online… for 3 1/2 years. Talked about a week and a half, met and went on from there.
Now, talked to quite a few for example:
The one… who talked non-stop about self, never asked to meet… but propositioned to arrange Sunday afternoon rondevues (sp) because he was otherwise soooo busy, click.
The one… selling wolf tickets to his show… I’m a business man, yeah, got my own business, work from home. This fool was always drunk in the middle of the day (my opinion), and hanging with the homies, click.
Melo
February 16th, 2010
2:53 pm
PRINCESSNIK??
any time u see a “dude” jealous and wanting to fight ova that,trust me,one of two issues involved:
dude is fat and dating above him
dude aint got no strong dyckk and backbone and mentally lame.
Which one of those two is true if not both??
PRINCESSNIK
February 16th, 2010
2:55 pm
Melo, I really don’t know?!?!?
i especially don’t want to know about the second one LOL YUK!
She is older than him though…………………………..
Leggs
February 16th, 2010
2:55 pm
“dude aint got no strong dyckk and backbone and mentally lame.” Why did OJ come to mind?
Melo
February 16th, 2010
2:58 pm
She is older than him though
that too is a problem esp if she has magic moves he aint neva seen in bed!
lame dudes swallow too
PRINCESSNIK
February 16th, 2010
3:00 pm
Melo we talking like 50 and 41……………not 40 and 25 LOL
Melo
February 16th, 2010
3:02 pm
PRINCESSNIK??
50 and 41??
magic, cougar moves
and financial loot! 
thats the issue here!
Lord Velonese (insert trendy Quote here)
February 16th, 2010
3:03 pm
Lazy people I tell you, got to let someone else pick a mate for you? Well I guess if the relationship messes up you get to blame the matchmaker instead of yourself? You people get more pathetic every day I swear. In my opinion if you’re not willing to work for it you do not deserve it PERIOD.