Valentine’s Day is almost here, folks, and there’s no better time to get some real-life perspectives from those who are knee-deep in a relationship, or have been there and actually want to go back. We’ve assembled a panel to give us their no-holds-barred opinions about love, life and the pursuit of coupledom.
So let me introduce the Love Squad as they tackle today’s topic: Your “best ex” resurfaces in your life. They are saying all the right things. Do you take them seriously? Should you?
Daniel, 27, Atlanta. Favorite love song: “Love Your Love The Most,” Eric Church:
“That totally depends on your ex’ sincerity. The key is whether the other person really wants to get back together because he (or she) misses YOU. If your ex just misses the nice feelings or benefits of being in a relationship (with somebody…anybody!), that is a problem. If you decide it’s a good idea to get back together, first sit down with your ex and figure out what went wrong the first time. Use it as a learning experience and a chance to get to know your ex – and yourself – better.”
Elizabeth, 30, Atlanta. Favorite romantic movie: “Love Actually”:
“In theory, I’d tell myself if it didn’t work out before, it likely won’t again and move on, sister, But if this guy was my “best ex,” meaning he’s a great person and maybe we didn’t work out because of timing, location, etc., I’d definitely want to hear what he has to say. If his words stir my heart and we find we have the same goals in life, I am sure I’d give it a go. Again.”
Martin, 40’sh, Atlanta. Favorite song: “I’d Rather,” Luther Vandross:
“It would be great seeing my best ex again and although initially it would be intriguing to find out if she’s sincere, I would remember that she’s an ex for a reason or reasons – and I’m sure those reasons would outweigh anything that could be said.”
LaShonn, 39, Atlanta. Favorite movie: “Pretty Woman”:
If my best ex came back now, I’d run for the hills. Yes, it was good while it lasted but I’ve seen bigger and better since and have no desire to go backward. Temporarily, it might be fun to reunite but over the long haul, nothing good can come out of it. Can it?
Well, this Love Squad rocks! A lot of valid points. Here’s my short answer: Yes. Full disclosure: There has been a certain ex who is heavily on my mind. The memories alone are making me feel butterflies. Maybe it’s a fleeting moment, though! What do you guys think? Is it good to reunite? What is the best way to determine if they (or you?) are sincere?
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