The best time to showcase your personality could be at an intimate gathering. I’m all for mix and mingling at large events, but there is something really cool about meeting people at a small dinner party or mellow house party. Unfortunately, if you aren’t a friendly or positive person, you could actually run off potential dates in this kind of social setting.
One of my bootcamp buddies, Tim, told me that he met a young woman Sunday night at a friend’s house. He noticed her almost right away, described her as very attractive. It wasn’t long before he started hearing a lot of what she was saying to people. It was mostly complaints and whining about the Superbowl, the food, and whatever else she didn’t like. Major turn-off. I wondered if there were other women there who had great attitudes, were actually watching the game, and probably wouldn’t bite his head off if he said something to him.
When I asked him who else caught his attention, he couldn’t really think of anyone that stood out. Great, so the attractive complainer got his already limited attention, and everyone else faded in the background? This actually happens a lot, I’ve witnessed it myself.
Single people will completely overlook a great potential because we get too distracted by the flashy, obnoxious types. The people that would probably be a total waste of time. It’s not even about being attracted to the bad boy/girl types, per se. It’s about taking the time to focus on a variety of different people. You never know who you may feel a connection with so it’s good to truly mingle with everyone.
Have you ever been to some event with potential dates and found it difficult to stand out in the crowd?
Do you know when you are being negative or complaining to the point that you are becoming less attractive?
Why do you think people take the time to dress up, go out, but their attitude is completely negative?