Take Sand to the Beach Causes Friction
I am really thankful that I am not a celebrity. Seriously, who could endure living the life in a fishbowl. You are constantly under scrutiny and when you are dating, it seems to be worse. A lot of the gossip blogs were posting rumors about Atlanta-based actor, Lance Gross and his fiancee, actress/model Eva Pigford. It seems a few people witnessed Eva angrily leaving Miami and when Lance was surrounded by, uh excited fans.
Who knows what actually happened on Superbowl weekend but it made me think of couples who go out together. A lot of my guy friends have this unspoken rule of leaving their women at home when they know there will be hot women around. Events such as Superbowl weekend, or Vegas weekends to see a fight, should be reserved for male bonding (read: no women allowed).
Do you think that taking someone you are in a relationship with to a place where you will be surrounded by “temptations” is a good idea? Would it bother you if you were out on the town someplace and you noticed a gang of people shameless flirting with your date?
What if you are dating someone who is the life of the party, and you are more low-key and laid back. How would it work out if you two have different “party” personalities?
Does the old saying, “taking sand to the beach” imply that someone is planning to hook up?
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Leggs
February 8th, 2010
8:57 am
Good morning!
Does the old saying, “taking sand to the beach” imply that someone is planning to hook up? I think the implication is there, but doesn’t necessarily have to go down. To avoid disrespecting their mates, some like to go solo to enjoy the eye candy without upsetting their SOs. Nothing wrong with looking, but it’s so much easier when alone with your buddies.
Oh, and for the record, you’re surrounded by temptation everyday!
East Point's Own
February 8th, 2010
9:01 am
Taking sand to the beach is different from taking your mate with you on a trip/outing.
“Sand” refers to people you are just messing with, as is going to a place where you plan to hook up with new women but you bring women you already know to the party… So yes taking sand to the beach is a term reserved for when you plan on meeting some new people to hook up with. This term does not apply if you are in a relationship and you are taking your mate with you on a trip with no plans of making new friends.
I have dated the life of the party before and I have no problem with it because I know who she is leaving the party with, and that’s all that matters. If you are insecure about your relationship or you are jealous then you need to think twice before you take your mate around other good looking people…LoL
http://hispointofview.com
abc
February 8th, 2010
9:05 am
Some guy flirting with my girl has a big problem coming from me. Such tactless behavior is well rewarded with a broken nose.
DreamsMaterialize
February 8th, 2010
9:19 am
Morning
If I’m committed to a woman, I’ll take her anywhere. It won’t matter how hot the other chicks are because my chick is the hottest to me. Taking sand to the beach doesn’t apply to your mate. It applies to chicks you’re just having fun with. Why bring a chick I’m messing with to a place where I’m proactively trying to hook up with other chicks? That’s what “sand to the beach” means. I don’t mind my girl being the life of the party, but dudes need to watch themselves. I’ll trust my girl to nip the advances in the bud, but if that’s not enough, then I’ll step in and end it.
Leggs
February 8th, 2010
9:25 am
“Sand” refers to people you are just messing with….I beg to differ.
“Sand” is a term used to refer to your mate, your ace boon coon, your live-in gf, etc. It’s not just used for your sleeping buddy. Sand is a term used where a person can feel free to flirt w/o disrespecting their mate. Sure, flirting with another is disrespectful, but many have the mindset that “what she doesn’t know won’t hurt her.” Sure, not all think like this, but many do. And, sure, if you need to flirt with another you shouldn’t be in a relationship, but we know not all believe this.
East Point's Own
February 8th, 2010
9:26 am
You can’t hate on a dude for flirting with yo lady if he doesn’t know she is with you… if she allows the flirting to go too far whether you are there or not, is a problem you gotta deal with your lady on.
Lady J
February 8th, 2010
9:26 am
daggit can’t join the friend page til I get home….Mo I maybe calling you boo!!! LOL Chile so many situations were going on last night!!!! LOL I was neutrual and hosting my fanny off just laughing at the many victims in the rooms…..many men will invite all of them over and everyone maintains with the looks and glares from convo and attention others are getting…just plain funny live entertainment!!!!! I was sorta pissy though with the colts lost anf may I add it felt good not to be shaking and baking with firting last night….I enjoyed my folks and that was that! Happy Monday Crew!!!!!:)
Leggs
February 8th, 2010
9:31 am
Ok, guess I’m wrong.
Beautiful ♥
February 8th, 2010
9:31 am
morning ev1, Lady J!
i WANT my fella to have the guys nite out. go! get away and from under me!
lol.
Lady J
February 8th, 2010
9:35 am
I hear ya Beautiful ♥….if I had a guy I would beat him out the door to my own event so I am cool with that it is just funny how some side pieces and jump offs are invited to events and functions and many are present at the same time and everyone play their role!!!!1 LOL Ok I am laughing to myself LMBAO!
Lady J
February 8th, 2010
9:36 am
Beautiful ♥ email me pls ladyj817@sprint.blackberry.net
abc
February 8th, 2010
9:38 am
EPO, I’d advise them to get lost, and if they didn’t comply immediately, the broken noses would commence. I wouldn’t play with bs like that.
Lady J
February 8th, 2010
9:39 am
Sade’s Soldier of Love Album is released today CEE CEE!!!!!:) LOL All I want for vday is this album and Teddy p’s greatest hits…lol and I’m str8! LOL
Kym
February 8th, 2010
9:40 am
Good Morning All,
Gosh I miss ya’ll from time to time..I will join your FB page Wisey..but if I start getting pillow fights and virtual drinks the friendship is over..LOL!!
Okay on topic..I agree with the fellows..I thought sand to the beach meant bring someone you are dating to a place where you are trying to get more dates..who wants to do that? Considering I am a fan of football and not football parties..if I don’t have tickets to the big game then I am not one for trucking it to the hot spot just to be on the scene..so if ole dude wants to go to Miami…by all means do you..just don’t call me for bail money(shout out to Warren Skippy Sapp). I have seen the lights of the Vegas strip..again I respect “Homie Time” so I am not for following ole dude with the fellows to Vegas. Considering I am some what the social butterfly I would always try to make my SO feel included..but even I know where to draw the line with convo and flirting..so I am not incline to be disrespectful.
Lady J
February 8th, 2010
9:42 am
EPO I had a situation once where that happened and I excused myself from that dudes face and continue on with my date meaning I did set the tone that I wasn’t interested and my date didn’t have to prove a point…I handled it and was respected for doing so….although thinking back @ the characters I think it was a test to test my character if I got down like that….some do i don’t #iamjustsayin’:)
Demi
February 8th, 2010
9:42 am
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My people what do ya say (We Ready!)
Ain’t no more play in N.O. (We Ready!)
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What’s up (Colt’s Fans), Big mouth, Big talk, Big game
Teacher’s pet, takin’ aim, pop the Tech, takin’ aim
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Plenty change, plenty glock
Pack the heat and I’ma keep em’ hot
And I’ma take my stress right off the top….
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Kym
February 8th, 2010
9:44 am
@Lady J I love that single! I am going to get the album today. All the old favorites are back..Maxwell–Sade…Yes!!!
East Point's Own
February 8th, 2010
9:47 am
If you have to get rid of a dude who is flirting with your woman then you need to consider who your woman handles herself when you are not around. Unless the dude just does not get her point as she tries to tell him she is taken you should never have to say a word to another dude who approaches your lady.
Lady J
February 8th, 2010
9:48 am
Kym me TOO!!!!!!! LOL Bout to love me some ME MRE AND MORE through both albums each songs tells a story about my journey and Vday is bout to be like this past Christmas for a as a grown woman Single—-A CELEBRATION OF IT ALL!!!!!!:) Starting @ Vickery’s then Vino Libro in Glenwood Park Fri evening! Can’t wait!:)
Demi
February 8th, 2010
9:48 am
Demi is now off to drink like dem white boys…while hype lika mugga
I AIN’T SCURRR’D…I KEEP THEM HOT!!!!
Wha, Wha, Wha, Wha, (Gunfire) Wha, Wha, (Gunfire) Wha
Wha, Wha, Wha, (Gunfire) Wha, Wha, Wha, Wha
Lady J
February 8th, 2010
9:49 am
Wise Diva I am losing it today I can join from my BB what was I thinking just 1st thought was FB is blocked on Work computers! Ha! I am joing now! Thanks for the FB Page Missy!!!!:)
Beautiful ♥
February 8th, 2010
9:50 am
*but if I start getting pillow fights and virtual drinks the friendship is over.*
lmbo.
abc
February 8th, 2010
9:50 am
EPO, agreed; knowing her the way I do, that’s reason enough for me to launch at him. I’d know he’s pressing it, she wouldn’t be inviting it.
Beautiful ♥
February 8th, 2010
9:53 am
@Lady
you got mail!
Demi
February 8th, 2010
9:53 am
Some guy flirting with my girl has a big problem coming from me. Such tactless behavior is well rewarded with a broken nose.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA…
lightbulb
That be them dudes shot dead over a woman…Matter of fact, some dude was just killed over a woman in MIA…
THE INFAMOUS DK aka LUCKY NUMBER 11
February 8th, 2010
9:54 am
Lady J – I’ll ne at Vino Friday.. My Birthday is Thursday.. Lucky Number 11..
Beautiful ♥
February 8th, 2010
9:55 am
awww. who is da pretty mami in green?
Lady J
February 8th, 2010
9:56 am
DEMI BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
LMAO
I am still hot!!!!!:(
Congrats though to you and your team boo!!!!!:)
Beautiful ♥
February 8th, 2010
9:56 am
morning DK and Alvin!
Lady J
February 8th, 2010
9:57 am
Hope to meet you there THE INFAMOUS DK aka LUCKY NUMBER 11:)!!!!!!
Lady J
February 8th, 2010
9:58 am
I meant to ask when was your bday DK!!!!!! I knew it was soon! Ok
PRINCESSNIK
February 8th, 2010
10:00 am
Morning All,
first @ Demi! Congrats to the saints But please let’s not change No Mo Play in GA to No mo play in NO, that’s just wrong I mean the Saints already jacked the Bengals “who dey” and changed it to “who dat” Don’t get me wrong I’m not a Saints hater, Love me some Reggie Bush and Drew Brees.
On Topic: I’m with Dreams M if i’m committed to someone I’d take them anywhere, but I don’t mind the time apart, just know your limits and know your role.
DreamsMaterialize
February 8th, 2010
10:04 am
LMAO at Demi for changing a GA anthem to a NO anthem. If that ain’t antagonistic, I don’t know what is. haha
Ms. S. Cool
February 8th, 2010
10:04 am
I’m back, bytches!!! LOL!
Why the SuperBowl be causing relationship problems? More lol!
M. (pronouced M dot)
February 8th, 2010
10:08 am
Morning.
Guys definately dont like to bring sand to the beach. I think we dont do it because some guys are really careless when other women are around so the best method is to not even get in that situation. Also, if your woman is the drinking type, this usually leads to drama when you are out so thats a good reason to leave her at home. I think if you two have different party personalities, you need to just be opena and dont over do whatever you do.
“Does the old saying, “taking sand to the beach” imply that someone is planning to hook up?”
This is not true for guys really because we really have to work to get to this level….now ladies…it’s a different story. They have their pick of the litter….always.
@abc
LOL Whats up with the influx of abusive women out here. Mary J. Blige did the same thing. If you arent happy, you can leave, you dont have to put your hands on anybody.
Sassy Me :-)
February 8th, 2010
10:10 am
who is da pretty mami in green?
That’s a nice costume…pretty indeed. I’m all blacked out.
Wonder how many it’ll be by the end of the day.
Demi
February 8th, 2010
10:13 am
THE INFAMOUS DK…I am getting ready to break up with a woman a week before Valentine…If I live…I stall hit up every single’s hot spots between here and hawaii…if not…pls call up a few biker’s clubz and ride around 285 for your boy…
Leggs
February 8th, 2010
10:13 am
You guys are on the Superbowl, but did any of you watch the SEC Woman’s basketball game between LSU and Ole Miss! Dagnabit, that was a game in a game, in a game! 3 pointers flying left and rightfrom both teams, 3 OTs, Hightower was flying high up until the 2nd OT. That was a good game to watch. Just wondering if any of you saw it?
Lady J
February 8th, 2010
10:16 am
side bar: paying down debt feels GREAT!!!!!!!! My Monday Testimony!!!!!:) Work hard, Play Harder, but it is going to feel great with less revolving debt! Praise God!:)
Demi
February 8th, 2010
10:23 am
Beautiful…Hey and how in Sam’s Hill do you get a heart next to yur name…yousa a Deuce now?
Cali is full of corporate gangstas now LOL
Prince (the purple one is blogging amoung us!! Ain’t that some ISH!!!), Lady J and Dreams…It’s a once in a life time event…I am just trying to soak in all this free alcohol, LOL
Lady J
February 8th, 2010
10:24 am
Enjoy Demi!!!!!!!!!:)
PRINCESSNIK
February 8th, 2010
10:26 am
@ Lady J, I am feeling you with the paying debt down! I bought a house last year so i will be getting the newhomebuyers credit, what i affectionately refer to as “Obama Money” and I plan to pay off EVERYTHING!, I will only owe my mortgage and my student loans
Ms. S. Cool
February 8th, 2010
10:29 am
You know that ’sand’ thing can go both ways – in non-committed relationships, that is.
Lady J
February 8th, 2010
10:36 am
@PRINCESSNIK I didn’t know until I filed my takes if you are enrolled in school by April 1, 2010 you would get some OBAMAMONEY!!!!! HAHAHAH!!! Really had no clue bc I am going back to school for me but that incentive is welcomed and as an experienced person in debt it won’t be wasted trust that!!!!! Paying debt is my silent theme!!!! Congrats on your home also!!!!:)
PRINCESSNIK
February 8th, 2010
10:40 am
Lady J its my silent theme also! Debt free with money in the bank! and it surely isn’t easy especially being a single mom.
@ms_jones74
February 8th, 2010
10:41 am
I’ll quote my friend, with whom I’m discussing this topic.”If his behavior would change depending on if I am there or not, he doesn’t need to have a girlfriend/SO. If we just playin’ around, I need to check myself. ”
I think if men want to play the field and what not, more power to them… but do not ask me to commit to you. Don’t ask me to marry you, don’t promise me fidelity, don’t ask me not to date someone else. If we’re not committed (as in we discussed that we’re not committed, not you ASSumed we’re not committed) you’re free to do what you want, when you want. When you ask me to commit to you, and then when you get among some ’sand’, your behavior changes, we have a problem. Same goes for me. If I wouldn’t flirt with a guy in front of my man, I don’t need to be flirting with a man behind his back. I need to either curb my behavior or not be committed.
Yeah Yeah I know… I’m not dead and I can see handsome men all around me. Temptation is everywhere. Every day, every time I step outside my door I am faced with temptation. I make the choice to remain faithful and not jump the UPS man every time he delivers a package… why would it be different in a room full of UPS men?
I think people have ‘rules’ that are standard for everyone else, but they change when it’s THEM in the situation. I can rationalize ANYTHING and make it okay in my mind… but that’s why we consciously make commitments to each other. And consciously honor them.
DreamsMaterialize
February 8th, 2010
10:42 am
Demi I feel you man. Have fun. We just want to hear the stories. Bet there’s a whole lotta “Misadventures” going on down there. I know you didn’t bring “sand to the beach”. haha
@ms_jones74
February 8th, 2010
10:43 am
As for Eva, if that story is true, she need to get a grip. Regardless of how attractive these women are, they are in love with an image. He may or may not play into that, but he brought her because he wanted to her to be there with him.
Lady J
February 8th, 2010
10:44 am
@PRINCESSNIK who you telling from another single mom but we are doing it gracefully with a smile!!!! We got this boo!:) We will have longer money down the road for are angels God Blessed us with!:)Amen!
DreamsMaterialize
February 8th, 2010
10:47 am
SexyC It definitely goes both ways. Actually, I’ve seen a chick bring sand to an event, to find out that she was “familiar” with two other grains of sand on that beach. classic. lol These events are always funny to me anyway. I like to observe all the dynamics.