In the last few months, I feel as if I have either read or watched some random relationship guru tell single women just about everything we have to let go to have a man. An ongoing theme seems to be that women aren’t all that realistic about what they want. It’s debatable how true this really is in general. I can honestly say that this doesn’t seem to be the case with many of the single people I know. Is chivalry and generosity too much to ask for though?
I think men and women can agree that being with a person who is giving and generous is a huge turn on. Of course, a lot of people think that chivalry and generosity is only related to finances. I think that it relates to more than that. A bargain hunting, practical, smart with his money - man is Grade A hot. These are the guys that will make you swoon with their intellect and financial acumen, all the while finding ways to romance you. This is what I call a keeper.
However, in my experiences, a guy who was cheap is usually stingy, inflexible, and a lot of times closed off. Plenty of frugal and practical men meet and marry women, but cheap men rarely even date. They’re too busy finding more important expenditures in their budget. Hey, if that makes them happy, more power to them.
Ladies, it’s not only sexy when a man is generous; a woman with a big heart who doesn’t have a problem showing her giving spirit, especially in this post-feminist age, is quite appealing to men. I think this is part of why some men get so annoyed when a woman has not made an effort to pay the tab, or make an offer. The idea that a woman can’t show a man that she can be giving could actually become a red flag. Men pay attention to that kind of thing.
Guys, in your experience, do you think that generous women are few and far between? Women are known to be nurturers, but do you find that they show their generosity to you? Have you ever dated a cheap woman?
Ladies, what has been your experience dating cheap men? How do you tell if a man is smart and frugal or cheap and stingy?