If you have ever been really excited about meeting someone great, you probably have dealt with that person’s curve balls. Those completely unexpected, totally out of left field tidbits of information that are somewhat “game changers” in dating. That is not to say that you shouldn’t still be excited, but the curve balls sort of puts things in perspective, really fast.
I have a lot of experience with these curve balls. I’ve dodged them and I have thrown a few of my own, because hey, I have a past like everybody else. The most important thing I learned is that you have to be mindful of how you handle curve balls. Whether you are on the receiving end or the one throwing them.
If you handle situations with maturity and finesse, you can pretty much coast through the biggest curve balls. Drama and angst is optional, not required. If you happen to have something to reveal to someone, try to do it at the right time. Don’t pick a time when you are distracted or in bed to do it.
How do you deal with “shocking revelations” when you are dating someone new? Do you prefer to know upfront what the person needs to share? Do you think that waiting longer is better? Can you tell when someone has something they want to tell you but can’t figure out how to proceed?
Are there some curve balls that should remain unspoken?