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Ring Barrier

Getting engaged should be an exciting and happy experience. The woman has the easy part, she just has to be happy and say yes. The gentleman, however, has to navigate all that comes with proposing. Talking to the parents (if he so desires), plotting out the proposal plans, and ring shopping.

I didn’t realize how much guys worry about engagement rings. A friend of mine said that he did not want to disappoint his girlfriend so he made sure to get her sister involved. My co-worker said that his wife didn’t like the engagement ring he selected and she told him as much.  They nearly broke up because of it.  I know of another couple who delayed their engagement until they could afford the ring she they wanted.

Perhaps I just don’t get it,  but what is it about rings that can cause so much stress? It’s supposed to just be a symbol of a couple’s love and commitment, isn’t it?

Have you ever had a ring cause a breakup? What is the “proper” etiquette for women who receive rings they don’t like? What do you think men should spend on engagement rings?

What happens to the ring if the wedding is called off? Do you think the ring should matter as much as it does?

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Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
8:36 am

Good morning,

If the wedding is called off, the ring is returned to the giver (male or female). Court ruling have upheld that an engagement ring is a conditional gift and if the conditions (ie wedding) are not met, the ring should be transactionally returned.

As for etiquette on rings, I’ve heard anywhere from 3-6 months salary (of the male); and if the given ring isn’t accepted (for style, not function) the jury is still out on the etiquette of the recipients given course of action.

Personally, the ring, the wedding day, the entire ritual is overblown IMO. While I understand societal pressure, I could go for me, her, 2 witnesses, a preacher/judge and our favorite spot and do the thing.

PRINCESSNIK

January 29th, 2010
8:36 am

What happens to the ring if the wedding is called off?

Morning all,

I gave the ring back, I didn’t want any ties/reminders of a situation gone bad.

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
8:37 am

…first one here…

Yeah, did Melo send in this topic?

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
8:38 am

I think a lot of the angst over the ring is because the man is trying to show his love for his bride to be with the right size diamond, and the woman wants the right size to show off to friends and family (kinda laughing).

And, if the wedding is called off, the ring should be given back to the man! However, if my man calls off the wedding the day of the wedding I ain’t giving jack back. :lol:

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
8:42 am

…well guess i was 3rd.

@ Melo

At this point you owe Queen a 10 carat…she has birthed your ashy babies, and she’s cooked you goat testicles, cow thighs, and horse chittling…Yeah bruh, you should step up..

ImAPeach404

January 29th, 2010
8:46 am

If the wedding is called off what happens to the ring??? Well I think that depends on why the wedding isn’t going to happen. If it’s b/c of something HE’s done – sorry dude, you’re not getting the ring back. If I decide that I don’t want to marry buddy… I’ll give it back.

I have a very specific idea about what I want – I’m hella picky and I just like what I like. So, I’d show him what I like and hopefully he sticks with that. And I wouldn’t do it in an obvious way either – maybe just looking at a catalog one day or something like that. I hope my dude wouldn’t ask my sister b/c she knows nothing about my taste!

If I received a ring I didn’t like… idk what I’d do. I would feel so ungrateful b/c I’d want to say something but every time I look at it all I’d be thinking of how much I dont care for it.

ImAPeach404

January 29th, 2010
8:51 am

And Dan I’m with you… I think weddings are totally overblown and a HUGE waste of $. I have a very specific idea of how I’d like my “wedding” to go – and it wouldn’t cost anymore than $500-$600, including food & dranks. I’d rather spend a good amount on a long honeymoon then put whatever else we were going to spend in the bank or invest it.

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
8:52 am

LOL WiseDiva, You don went and did it now.

Yes the engagement ring is supposed to just be a symbol of a couple’s love and commitment. It also is a promise and agreement symbol. Accepting it is saying that you agree to marry the gentleman.

Engagement rings have been said to show in a material form how much a man loves his woman. However you have to scale that based on what the man’s pockets can afford to be fair.

IMO when the man presents the ring at the time of proposal he should know his intended’s taste and expectations. That he way he can get one that he knows she will probably like. If he does not want to chance her not liking it, he should propose and then they go together to pick out the ring. If she has to wear it she should at least like it. And yeah, many will say she should like it just because he gave it to her but that is only part true. He should care enough to get as close as he to something she would like. It’s that part of showing how much you care? Getting something the person will like.

And truth be told, the ring is also a show piece. Other’s will see it. Yeah I said it.

Now being that the ring is presented as a proposal and accepted as an agreement, it should be returned to the giver should the marriage not take place. That’s only fair. It’s different from receiving a gift.

Lady J

January 29th, 2010
8:54 am

Morning folks!!!! Happily give it back and keep it moving…..lol only shacked with one guy, same guy proposed, we married, the ring wasn’t the cause, so no never experienced the ring being an issue….the other issues out weigh the ring…..and I had a modest half carat princess cut solitare and was truly satisfied bc the quality was awesome so I am not into to all that but I can’t lie I do ring watch other chics and be like wow that’s a nice big ring but I wonder how clear are the diamonds…and I will be honest it was white gold not platinum….lol

TGIF CREW!!!!:)

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
8:56 am

Cemeeli, I didn’t think Melo at the time, but while reading I thought a guy who doesn’t want to spend the money must have suggested this topic. LOL

ImAPeach404

January 29th, 2010
8:59 am

Engagement rings have been said to show in a material form how much a man loves his woman.

Raqi I know you were just making a statement and possibly not agreeing… but I just think this is wrong! I think the fact that he proposed should symbolize how much he loves you, not how much he’s spent.

He should care enough to get as close as he to something she would like.

I agree. And not only that, he shouldn’t want to waste such a large amount of money on something she doesn’t even care for.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 29th, 2010
8:59 am

Well I was wondering the question about picking out rings, just recently. Do you casually take your girl into a jewelry store and get an idea of what she likes? Do you seek out the assistance of those close to her? Or do you just wing it, cross your fingers, and hope for the best…that she likes what you picked out?

Even though I’d be blown away by the proposal…I wouldn’t want a ring that I didn’t like. (not necessarily the size of the ring but they style would be more my issue. I have small fingers so I would want something that compliments my stature)

Willie Dynamite

January 29th, 2010
9:01 am

Morning All,

On the outside looking in I’d say the whole wedding proposal/ring/day is way overblown. I do however understand that for the 1st and hopefullylast time around that MOST women have dreamed about the process ever since they were little girls. Not many dudes sit around with the boys talking bout yeah my wedding day gon be this or that. With that being said I couldn’t imagine giving a Ring that would cause resentment or problems.
When I did the deed I used a .50 blowpop candy ring. It was funny and she laughed but accepted. I told her she could go pick out her own ring within reason and she coulds et up the wedding within reason. We discussed the whole thing and decided on the Day/Date/location and how much we wanted to spend. At the end of it the Ring and Wedding was less important than the Honeymoon and starting our future together. The $$$ saved by getting less than a HUGE Rock was used on the 1st house.

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
9:02 am

@Raqi

Because I respect your opinion, I’ll ask: if the ring is a “show piece” and “symbol” of “how much the man loves his woman”, then what is the value of the proposal, marriage, vow before God and family, and subsequent life?

I’m interested to hear your (and any other answer).

Lady J

January 29th, 2010
9:05 am

WillieD now that I had my day you are so right but several years ago you couldn’t tell me nothing…I had to have it and I did…..this time around the courthouse never looked so preetier and trust I am still not fixed on having that bling bling ring….but overrated and overblown is the truth looking back….we live and learn….

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
9:05 am

Peachy that’s why I said “…have been said to…”. I don’t necessarily agree with the statement.

And I agree back with you on getting the ring the woman likes. Many will misinterpret that to mean getting a massive rock but that’s not the case. My bff and her husband has somewhat inexpensive rings but they are really unique rings. They are fusion rings that they had made based on her taste. She is very happy with it because it is what she wants.

Ross

January 29th, 2010
9:06 am

During my divorce, my ex-wife wanted to give me the engagement ring back. I just told her to keep that. However, I did take back the wedding ring, because it had been the wedding ring of my grandmother.

When I got engaged, I bought the nicest ring I could afford. It wasn’t anything fancy, but a $900 platinum set with a nice diamond in it. When I get engaged again, which will probably be soon, I will do the same thing. I might be able to afford a little more, but I just don’t believe in these “rules” about how much a ring should cost. If the woman says no because she wants a bigger ring, then I’ll be happy to take it back and break up. That’s just too greedy for me. The ring is a symbol of love, not a deposit on a financial commitment. If they just want to get a different style of ring, I wouldn’t be offended. Sometimes we as men get it wrong when picking out things they will like. As long as they aren’t trying to “trade up.”

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
9:09 am

Dan, the vows and commitment before God means everything. If you are asking me to change the minds of people that say the ring symbolizes the love I cannot do that.

While I love my ring it is not what matters the most. I not only accepted a proposal of marriage but I made a vow to be his wife. Ring or not I have to be true to the vows that I made.

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
9:09 am

I thought about The Melo cause he’s meintioned maybe gettin Queen one. I’ve seen the guy just ask, marry & give a band, but later on got her one she picks…

the idea of a family heirloooms(grandmas and mammas ring) is going away too.

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
9:12 am

When I did the deed I used a .50 blowpop candy ring.

Do i know her? I’ve heard this story from a friend…

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
9:13 am

@Raqi

I’m not asking you to change anyone’s mind. Just state your opinion on the subject. And thank you for doing so.

As Ross stated (kinda), the whole attitude about the ring/wedding/etc. is the final giveaway about what life will be like after the wedding, IMO.

ImAPeach404

January 29th, 2010
9:14 am

I have a question… ladies lets say that there was a specific ring that you wanted that was expensive and way more than the guy could afford. And let’s say that when he proposed he had the exact ring you wanted. Lets also say you were very curious and asked how he could afford it and thats when he confessed he bought it from someone on Craigslist. Would you have a problem with that???

ImAPeach404

January 29th, 2010
9:15 am

And, I’m really curious about something else…

Swizz Beatz took Alicia to Hawaii for her birthday and while they were there… he proposed!!!
But ummmm, he’s still married. So, do you think she should have accepted the proposal? Do you think he should have asked???

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
9:16 am

WillieD, my marido and I spent less than $1,000 to get married. The cost of my dress, his suit and fee for the minister came to less that $1,000. The reception was paid for by both of our brothers and a couple of their friends. It was massive. Tons of foods and drinks. Music, dancing, laughing, and a good company of family and friends.

We got married 10 days after he proposed.

Now the proposal was truly awesome. Nothing fancy but awesome.

Melo

January 29th, 2010
9:17 am

she has birthed your ashy babies, and she’s cooked you goat testicles, cow thighs, and pig chittling

Merning!

Cee..actually, i think i will buy her a wedding ring,not necessarily for her but for my daughters…jes so they get the lesson and symbolisim that its better to be married than jes sling it to anybody and everybody with no real value in return.

As for the rest of the topic….I wldnt be bothered with all that toomfoolery of somebody trying to act up on my generosity….

Happy Friday!

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
9:18 am

@Peach

Swiss aint dumb. If he let AKeys get away, theres a long line (starting with the D) of guys waiting to snatch that right up.

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
9:19 am

Thanks Raqi, I too said it’s a show piece.

@ImAPeach ~ I didn’t waste lots of money on the wedding. I did most of it myself, meaning invitations (thanks to PrintShop), even had the tissue paper in the rsvp envelope, decorations, a friend w/her own catering business who threw down for me, and other friends who got drunk with me while we did the decorations for the table. It was a very nice wedding ceremony in a very nice church. I had a very nice reception.

Sidebar: The day I presented the final divorce decree to him, my wedding ring broke! I had engagement ring and wedding band welded 2gether. I laughed all the way up the stairs. It truly tickled me.

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
9:21 am

@ Slim -….friends, aunties, mamma ‘n nem would be thinking “‘Ummm yeah she likes this, not that”. Pretty much just suggest something they THINK. But since he’s my old man. i bet the dollar that he’d get it right by far.

…like soemone said…all you gotta do is know her mannerisms…

Lady J

January 29th, 2010
9:21 am

raqi still wondering back now that it is over why in the sam hell did I have to take a yr to plan a 30min ceremony girl thinking about it and the money spent wow no regrets it just blows my mind where my energy should have been spent….wow…

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
9:24 am

Melo – Okay.

btw – you know i was teasing you, right?

Willie Dynamite

January 29th, 2010
9:27 am

Similac – Ion know if you know her or not. If she walking around smiling all the time cause she snagged a helluva dude that yeah you do :;-):

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
9:27 am

@ Peach – Ummm SwizzBeat and Alicia operatives for that is “a mess”.

We (society) are confusing our kids…what’s the RUSH?!!

Guy's guy

January 29th, 2010
9:28 am

What happens to the ring if the enguagement does not work out? The guy usually gets it back and takes pennies on the dollar for it when he sells it. Afterall, he can’t save it for the next bride to be, what do you think she would do if she found out it was for another girl? Just another reason why smart guys are slow to take the final step.

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
9:30 am

“….do you think she should have accepted the proposal? Do you think he should have asked???

He shouldn’t have asked and she shouldn’t have accepted. That’s a playa move right there. He knows he can’t marry her. Empty words as far as I’m concerned.

PRINCESSNIK

January 29th, 2010
9:31 am

take a yr to plan a 30min ceremony girl thinking about it and the money spent wow no regrets it just blows my mind where my energy should have been spent

So would ya’ll agree that way more time and energy should be put into the Marriage and not the Wedding? Cause truely there is a difference

abc

January 29th, 2010
9:31 am

I spent way too much money on a certified and very highly rated diamond in a vintage looking setting that she likes quite a lot, a ring for a queen, as she puts it. It’s big enough that it interferes with some of her activities, so I got her a rather large James Avery gold band with a bit of Solomon’s Song written on it in Hebrew to wear when she’s doing those things. I think she might even like the gold band better.

I think it was more important to me that she have the most impressive diamond in the room than it is to her. In fact, I don’t think she cares about that at all.

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
9:33 am

Yes, PrincessNik, more effort into the marriage and not the ceremony!

Willie Dynamite

January 29th, 2010
9:34 am

What happens to Ring if it doesn’t work out?

Well I’d say chalk it up as a loss. Without getting into court rulings and reasons why and all that. As a Man just understand that 90% of the time you wont be getting it back. If you mess up maybe you mess up bad enough for her to throw it back at you. Other than that take the L and K.I.M.

mytw♥cents... maybe even marcasite

January 29th, 2010
9:35 am

If your relationship allegegedly ends over a ring, it consisted of at least one shallow person or two people who’d been denying deeper issues. It’s important to pay attention to your mate’s tastes and I think it’s okay to ask for help. If he’s proposing to me with something cookie cutter then I would kinda wonder how he missed lesson 1 about my personality. But I ain’t about to turn over the card table.

I’m not a fan of telling him the exact ring you want or the idea of re-shopping it after purchase. I think the salary guidelines are ridiculous as a gauge for what should be spent and if we want we could delve all into classicism and what happens when marrying up, down or around your status… If ever outright asked my preference, I’d say I love the aged look of marcasite. Partly because it’s got character and partly cuz it looks antique. And I love heirloom jewelry stories from other folks so maybe I can start that tradition in the illustrious line of Cents’. Have a sunshiney day all!

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
9:35 am

@abc

Congrats on the nuptials!!

ImAPeach404

January 29th, 2010
9:36 am

@Raqi – 10 days?! Wow!

@Leggs – It definitely can be done. I’ve been watching a lot of Say Yes To The Dress and Platinum Weddings and I am just astonished. On the dress show, this chick spent 10k on her dress! I mean… the dress!!! They haven’t bought one flower petal, green bean, rented not one limo – nothin! And they’ve already spent 10K!!! SMH…

@Cemeeli – excellent observation @ 9:27

ImAPeach404

January 29th, 2010
9:38 am

If you mess up maybe you mess up bad enough for her to throw it back at you

LOL!!!

Lady J

January 29th, 2010
9:39 am

@PRINCESSNIK all day everyday…..The marriage componet was nver explored with me and i am honest to say it….I wanted that dream wedding and I had it…after our great honeymoon we came back and want to choke each other like who are you after all the excitement ended….girl I could go on but nothing good came after that trust….be true to thy ownself was my lesson learned….

Lady J

January 29th, 2010
9:42 am

and he was no stranger a college sweetheart, lived 4 yrs prior to the porposal, married one yr in the same house, seperated 2, then a legal divorce, we were seperated longer than married legally….a hot mess of just wanting the WEDDING!!!!! Never again boo…lol

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 29th, 2010
9:43 am

Morning.

The symbol of the ring is definately more for outward expression than anything. To a woman, the ring is her NONVERBAL way of showing other people, particularly women and her girlfriends, that I was good enough to be CHOOSEN TO BE A WIFE. It’s definately a bragging tool for women, that’s why they get caught up on mine is bigger than yours comparison.

“What is the “proper” etiquette for women who receive rings they don’t like?”

That’s a great question. The proper etiquette is to get a refund, take your money and put it back in the bank.

My question is what is the proper etiquette for a Man who receives a ring he doesnt like? I am tired of seeing women with blindnig rings, and the husband has a simple gold band. That’s not equal. How come the guy cant get carat’s also?

My coworker’s wedding ring is pathetic. I know the women are going to counter the argument by saying, alot of guys work hard and dont want to risk messing up or losing their ring. How about whatever amount of carat’s that she gets, he should get. She gets 4 carats, he gets 4 carats? And if he works hard and may lose it, give him a gold band just to wear at work.

Thoughts.

Van Jones

January 29th, 2010
9:47 am

Suppose the wedding is called off and whe gives the ring back. What does he do with it now? Take it back? Sell it and get half his money back? Give a “tainted” ring to his next fiance?
Either way, whoever paid for the ring gets the shaft (and not in a good way).

Ross

January 29th, 2010
9:50 am

Fortunately for my, my new girlfriend has made it clear that she isn’t interested in the “typical” overblown ceremony. She just wants to go to Vegas, or somewhere fun, or get married and just have a big party. For it being my second time, I am more than ok with that!

Ross

January 29th, 2010
9:51 am

I have seen a lot of guys with fancy or blinged out wedding rings. I don’t really like jewelry like that. Honestly, a $75 gold band is all I want.

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
9:51 am

I agree with most of what you said M. But, don’t think a man wants to walk around with a 4 karat ring on.

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
9:51 am

LOL LadyJ. Yeah we knew we wanted to get married so we just went and did it. He asked me on a Tuesday night, two Saturdays later we were saying “I do”.

Sweets

January 29th, 2010
9:51 am

Well, I’m 41 and have not been married (yet?!) but my thoughts on this subject have changed over the years. I used to say I didn’t care what kind of ring would be offered to me if I loved the man enough to marry him. However, I now think if you are going to wear it EVERY day for the rest of your life, I would like a ring where I get to have some say on the style. It does not have to be a LARGE ring but it has to be one that I enjoy looking at on my hand. I also am in favor of clarity and cut over size. It’s quality, not quantity!

Regarding the other part of this question/topic, I agree with others. I would most likely give the ring back. I mean, what are you going to do with it if it doesn’t work out? It seems really immature to keep it. Let go. Even if he cheats or otherwise breaks your heart, I’d still give it back….eventually.

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 29th, 2010
9:53 am

@Leggs

Well something that doesnt look like it came out of a Dave & Buster’s game machine lol…

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
9:53 am

abc, you are a great guy.

PRINCESSNIK

January 29th, 2010
9:55 am

Well something that doesnt look like it came out of a Dave & Buster’s game machine lol…

LOL!

Lady J

January 29th, 2010
9:55 am

lol Ross i say the courthouse but I would prefer oversees @ a resort very small and just go into it the right way….

Bingo Raqi you knew what you two wanted I was out to please the mass and put on a show for folk that just don’t matter after the fact….lol…

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
9:56 am

“Should she have a ring?” it miiight keep the niqqa spirits off her, but not necessarily all the time.

Lemme tell ya’ll about some real talk, and something W8 posted on here a while back…how a man knows….Yea, i gotta give credit where credit is due….sorry.

W8 mentioned a “kept” woman…refering to a man knowing when a women is kept, or has been snagged by a man and his mark is there…Whether she’s wearing a ring, or not…it’s just that “way” about her.

I wholeheartedly agree…cause it is our spirit, mannerisms, the way we speak…that whole aura. I believe men have intuitions (yea they are intuitive)…about whether her man’s spirit rests on her.

maybe it’s a smell or something…i’on know.

PRINCESSNIK

January 29th, 2010
9:57 am

When I was planning a wedding i just wanted a small cermony with immediate family only and a HUGE Blowout of a reception, it was my mother who was insistent upon trying to have a big gala wedding…..I kind of understood since i’m the baby of the family but i just wasn’t feeling it and i still feel the same way, there are better things that money could be spent on.

Nonya

January 29th, 2010
9:58 am

Kept the rings from my 1st marriage/divorce. Returned the ring from my 2nd engagement (didn’t matter to me whose fault it was). I have a male friend, though, who dated a woman for 12 years total…after year 8 he proposed and they were engaged for 4. They broke up last August. He wants his ring back. I told him he needs to charge that one to the game…after 12 years and no “I do”, she’s earned the right to keep the ring. Just my opinion…

Luvbug

January 29th, 2010
10:00 am

You end it? Give the ring back. He ends it? He shouldn’t expect it back unless it’s a family heirloom.

What was Keys’ answer?

@Leggs/M.Dot – I was thinking the same thing about the 4 karat ring…I don’t know about a guy walking around with a flashy wedding ring on.

I guess that’s the other social expectation. Women are expected to over do it and men to under do it.

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 29th, 2010
10:00 am

@Lady J

That’s interesting that you say that. My friend said the same thing. Dont be in a rush. Alot of women just want the wedding. This is the 1 day that all eyes, attention will be on them. Women love attention in any capacity.

Professor is.....

January 29th, 2010
10:00 am

Diamonds are a girl’s best friends!

Otay!

Proper etiquette states that the woman should return the ring. However most men depending on the reason will allow the woman to keep the ring.

Question: Should the ring go back after a divorce…the husband gives the ex-wife his band and the ex-wife gives the husband his ring back? I always thought after a marriage each person should keep their rings and go from there. However a HS associated that is in the mist of a divorce told me he wanted her to give him the ring so he could pawn it :shock: I think he paid 5K for the ring and he was counting the money he would get. Another friend fought his ex-wife and got the wing back and he pawned it as well to me that is trifling.

@IMApeach I want a long honeymoon; nice ring and I could careless about having a wedding I want the money spent on us and the rest saved for our future.

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
10:01 am

and also to add to that…if you stay “kept” in or out a relationship…THAT man comes right to your doorstep.

Melo

January 29th, 2010
10:02 am

I think it was more important to me that she have the most impressive diamond in the room than it is to her.

Congrats abc!

Ur mellowing since,kinda shows..no longer gung-ho on the ladies,not as as much.

Im sure some single ones in here wld luv to be close to ur lady so they get schooled on the secret to her man-softening skills. :lol:

U really Tame now dude..completely neutered! :lol: :lol:

Dewi

January 29th, 2010
10:03 am

Something that has not been addressed yet, and I think is a glaring omission in the comments thus far, is speaking with the parents. Not asking permission, so to speak, but discussing with her parents your intentions. After all, they’re about to “lose” one of the most treasured aspects of their lives, one of their children will be officially forming a new family, and making the transition from a parent-child relationship to more of a friend, or mentor type relationship. That is a monumental shift, and if out of nothing more than courtesy, you should always speak with her parents.

Now, I’m not saying that you should ask for permission. If you’re asking for permission, then you are not ready to get married, and should not do so. As I made clear to my father-in-law, mother-in-law and brother-in-law (it took me three trips to their house to finally discuss this with them), I was not looking for permission, I was extending a courtesy to them that I would want extended to me if the roles were reversed. Too many people don’t do this, and I think that’s probably one reason for the high failure rates we see in today’s marriages.

abc

January 29th, 2010
10:05 am

Thanks, she’s an excellent girl! I’m a lucky guy.

lurker

January 29th, 2010
10:06 am

Albeit a few years ago, I kept mine. No quams because of that.

Lady J

January 29th, 2010
10:06 am

M. i will re-marry and it will be for the right reason and the right person for me and my daughter but you betta know I will take my time it is no rush….all we have is forever and yeah I love me some Regina Belle!!!!!:)

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
10:06 am

Mdot, I don’t know of a man that has a super fancy ring. My husband wears a plain band. That’s it. Most men I know just wear a plain band and maybe a few small specks of diamonds or a some type of engraving.

Wedding rings and bands just pretty much say “hey, I am married”.

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
10:07 am

12 years, 12 months, 12 minutes…

No wedding, give me back my ring, or I’ll see you in court.

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
10:08 am

abc – That’s realy nice. A man wants his woman to represent him….i see you start off with that rang!

NOW we can have lunch. :) lol

lurker

January 29th, 2010
10:09 am

Something that has not been addressed yet, and I think is a glaring omission in the comments thus far, is speaking with the parents.

yep, yep yep Dewi

Sunny Daze

January 29th, 2010
10:10 am

This article brings back memories of engagement ring stressor moments. Probably like a good many young folks starting out, we didn’t have a nest egg and financial assets were minimal at best. We needed furniture and many other things to get started with. I couldn’t see spending a big wad of cash on a ring when we had both just gotten out of college and needed some many practical things. Hence the rub and sleepless nights. I loved my sweetie and wanted her to have the best and she had been mentioning the nice rings her girlfriends had gotten. What to do? I decided to take her to the jewelry store and let her pick out what she wanted. I did nothing to influence her decission but also understood she realized that we needed appliances and dishes and many things. She chose a ring that you had to look hard to see the little bitty rock and was on sale to boot. A few years after our marriage she put that ring away and we bought her another with a big rock but she insisted it be CZ.. You couldn’t tell the difference. My wife’s practicality is just one of the many reasons I fell in love with her and our love has lasted all these years. She’s still my Sweetie.

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
10:11 am

Dave & Busters bling bling!

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
10:14 am

I didn’t think it’s a glaring omission since the topic is about rings. But, I do agree that parents should be asked. That’s one old fashioned act I like to hear about.

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
10:15 am

After a certain age he shouldn’t have to worry about getting approval from parents. If ya’ll both got homes, kids, other responsibliites ect…and you all wanna get married. Ummm what are the parents approving?

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
10:15 am

@ SunnyDazy – …cool beans. that’s your sweet stuff hunh? :)

Nonya

January 29th, 2010
10:17 am

I’m with you, Cemeeli.

Lady J

January 29th, 2010
10:18 am

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 29th, 2010
10:19 am

@Raqi

Oh ok. Would you and the other ladies be cool if your husband just gave you a simple gold band. It really shouldnt matter right? Just a simple gold band?

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
10:23 am

Women love attention in any capacity

Mdot, all attention was on me at the reception. I was looking hawt and dancing my tushy off. LOL

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
10:23 am

Good Morning All,

On Topic: I agree with most of the folks, I believe the ring should be given back if the wedding is called off, hey but to each its own.

I’m not on the road to wanting to get married, but if I did, we could get married at city hall and have a very intimate reception with close family and friends…. Then on to the honeymoon. (proly where I would spend most of the money) I’m not a jewelry person, so if my mate didnt have a problem with me not wearing it everyday then i wouldnt. I mean the ring for my doesnt symbolize anything, its just a tradition that we’ve followed. Now the vows in front of the priest and the promise to God to uphold his law iis the most important factor to me.

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 29th, 2010
10:24 am

@Lady J

That’s why I am not in a hurry whatsoever. I just need to enjoy my youth and realize that these women and marriage arent going anywhere.

Like I always say, women like the idea of marriage, Big wedding to show off in front of their friends, ring, honeymoon, etc.

But they dont like the rules of marriage. I heard the rules are to love, honor, and obey. Is that true married folk?

Lady J

January 29th, 2010
10:24 am

M. my girlfriend happily wears her gold band and they went to the court house and she has a good man so yes I would wear it happily….the ring doesn’t take of home….

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
10:24 am

Would you and the other ladies be cool if your husband just gave you a simple gold band. It really shouldnt matter right? Just a simple gold band?

M. I’ll be the pretentious one. Yeah, it matters…if you paying a grip for your toys and then get me a .50 blowpop ring no offence WillieD…we got some problems.

Lady J

January 29th, 2010
10:24 am

those are vows both parties take M. before God or their God and he is first through the husband etc….rules is the wrong word imo

Luvbug

January 29th, 2010
10:25 am

Rules you say?

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
10:26 am

A man wants his woman to represent him

Cemeeli, exactly!!!

PRINCESSNIK

January 29th, 2010
10:28 am

After a certain age he shouldn’t have to worry about getting approval from parents. If ya’ll both got homes, kids, other responsibliites ect…and you all wanna get married. Ummm what are the parents approving?

OKKKKKKK! At that point everybody is well past grown. But the idea is cute

Lady J

January 29th, 2010
10:30 am

cee cee my mom was like don’t even invite her to the second one she just wants it to last….lol so serious i was like mama you will be there for me….lol wedding planning is overwhelming to all when you make it all about the wedding! LOL

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
10:30 am

As for consulting the parents, after a certain age that should not be necessary. My husband told my brother that he was going to ask me. I told my dad that I was getting married again.

mytw♥cents... maybe even marcasite

January 29th, 2010
10:30 am

Maybe I’m in moderation for denouncing platinum for marcasite…hmmm

The more I think about the woman bold enough to ask to exchange the ring the more I just think she’s selfish. I’m thinkin’ he’s like take my ring, take my name and take me as I am… she’s like I’ll take your ring (back) and take you kinda like you are after makin’ a lil adjustment….Then maybe she’s also one who wants to hyphenate or maintain maiden regardless of his feelings about it. Yeah, I can overanalyze this type chick all day. Glad I’m not a dude!

GOOD GUY/VAN JONES. Yes —-> that re-ringing is a NO GO! :shock:

CEMEELI Good day madam. Now that interpretation of RUSH is all relative. Some folks tip toe round sitchyashuns & relationships for an excessive amount of time for multiple factors… fear, second guessing, self sabotage… they can all delay the eventual outcome. Doesn’t make it impossible to misstep, likewise a shorter courtship doesn’t mean due diligence hasn’t been done. Maybe they just cut out the foolishness and cut to the chase. Speakin of which, can’t wait till the day somebody question all that extra Ism you’ve been throwin round and you give a straight answer. Yeah, Anutha Futha…

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 29th, 2010
10:31 am

@Cemeeli

LOL I see. Also I heard that sometime women after they get engaged, they take the ring to get appraised to see how much he really spent.

Have any of you ladies done that?

PRINCESSNIK

January 29th, 2010
10:31 am

Yeah, it matters…if you paying a grip for your toys and then get me a .50 blowpop ring

let me cosign that one! if you can spend big money on inanimate objects that show you no affection surely you can spend decent money on an engagement ring for the woman you plan to make your wife.

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 29th, 2010
10:34 am

@PRINCESSNIK

LOL I see what you mean. Can he get at least 2 carat’s or 1 carat and a new tv for the man cave?

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
10:35 am

Too much goes into that darn ring. Hell that thing can be lost, accidentally flushed down the toilet, stolen, or any other unfortunate accident.

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
10:36 am

mytwo – when i said RUSH i mean SwizzB’s is in a marriage. Can they at least get done with that.

No..no no maam, dont get it confuzed…The concept of a short courtship was not my intent….methinks for mainstream SwizzB “why RUSH”. These two are on the media radar and it’s heard everywhere.

What about the kids?… :(

i'm swiss

January 29th, 2010
10:36 am

I think most guys have no problem spending as much (or more) than they can possibly afford on their girl. But on behalf of all guys I would like to extend a hearty F@#% YOU to all jewelers, diamond brokers, etc. I won’t even get into exactly what’s involved with the diamond mining industry — but these thieving b@stards take advantage of the emotional pressure involved with such a symbolic purchase to charge ridiculous prices for a little shiny rock. Mrs. Swiss’s ring cost more than my car. Now, I’m happy to spend any amount of money on her, but d@mn. If I were her, I’d have much rather I proposed with a new car. :lol: Just sayin’…

Melo

January 29th, 2010
10:38 am

That’s why I am not in a hurry whatsoever.

M(dot)???

Just make sure her head is in the right place..the marriage is more important than the ring and if ur financial situ dont warrant anything lavish,she shld go by what u can afford..stick to ur lane, financially.

If she trifling over a ring,pass on her coz u proly saving urself some headaches down the road.

If u start off with a women that wants the “whole universe” of her friends to know and get jealous of her, based on whats rocking her fingers(coz thats what they do, some of them) u know u have started a veld fire in ur lyfe coz u set the wrong standard.

Lots of men dont lead,they are led (mis-led) by the frivolous desires of their women….I had a cousin go to jail for 3 yrs coz he cldnt sustain the lyfestyle.

Its a slippery road,if u do!

PRINCESSNIK

January 29th, 2010
10:38 am

@ M. …..a new tv for the man cave?

the carat’s would have to be if that’s his taste, but yea he can def. get a new tv for the man cave, cause he will need to be outta my way when i get ready to clean the house ;)

PRINCESSNIK

January 29th, 2010
10:39 am

they take the ring to get appraised to see how much he really spent.

didn’t have to I was there when it was purchased

i'm swiss

January 29th, 2010
10:40 am

I think most guys have no problem spending as much (or more) than they can possibly afford on their girl. But on behalf of all guys I would like to extend a hearty F@#% YOU to all jewelers, diamond brokers, etc. I won’t even get into exactly what’s involved with the diamond mining industry — but these thieving b@stards take advantage of the emotional pressure involved with such a symbolic purchase to charge ri-di-cu-lous prices for a little shiny rock. Mrs. Swiss’s ring cost more than my car. Now, I’m happy to spend any amount of money on her, but d@mn. If I were her, I’d have much rather I proposed with a new car. :lol: Just sayin’…

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
10:43 am

Cee

Now that I agree with.

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
10:44 am

Mdot, if the guy knows his woman well enough he will know if not presenting her with an engagement ring will cause a problem. The wedding bands are not presented until the ceremony. So a woman just receiving a band will not have received a ring at all at the proposal or during the engagement time.

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
10:44 am

M I’ve been to a appraisal appointment with a friend before. But her husband sent her cause he wanted a 2nd quote. She didn’t do it on the sneaky tip.

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
10:45 am

My ring was appraised because we got it insured.

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
10:47 am

i’m swiss – good to read you. Hope all is well with you all.

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
10:47 am

I like that post to M. Melo

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 29th, 2010
10:51 am

@Melo

Good point. Alot of people like to keep up with the jone’s i.e. their girlfriends. You ever deal with a woman and she says Erika’s man did this for her…that’s a real man, my next man is going to be like him….blah blah blah…lol

“Lots of men dont lead,they are led (mis-led) by the frivolous desires of their women….”

I agree. You know the rule I heard. You never follow your woman. That always leads to a dead in. You can take input, but you can be mis led.

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
10:53 am

If your woman ever tells you that she wants something like someone else tell her to go live with that person.

QUOTE FOR TODAY

January 29th, 2010
10:53 am

“Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has
reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome”.
Booker T. Washington

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
10:55 am

@ i’m swiss – tell ‘em how you really feel, then!

…Mrs. Swiss paid a grip on your ring too….i know, not as much…but, i’m just sayin somethin here. sowwy. lol :)

Lady J

January 29th, 2010
10:56 am

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 29th, 2010
10:58 am

@Raqi

“So a woman just receiving a band will not have received a ring at all at the proposal or during the engagement time.”

So what if on the wedding day you dont like the actual ring that is presented?

Tazzee - still praying for Haiti

January 29th, 2010
11:01 am

Morning Folks!

My fiance’ and I discussed what kind of ring I liked – even went online and built my type of ring. My preference: princess cut set in white gols. When he proposed and opened that box with a marquis cut set in yellow gold – it was the most beautiful ring I’ve ever seen in my life! Real Talk.

He apologized for not getting the ring I thought I wanted, but he said he fell in love with this ring the moment he saw it. He went to other stores, saw rings like we discussed, but kept going back to this one. I’m glad he got what he wanted me to have. He said we could exchange it, but I’m not having it.

All my other jewelry is white gold – my ring stands out. I still look at it daily and smile.

M(dot) – I got my ring appraised for insurance purposes.

As far as the wedding, we’re not having one perse – my original plan was to say vows in the pastor’s office. My BFF has taken it upon herself to make it a little more than that – I told her to have at it. As long we say “I do” – it’s all good. I did give her a $100 budget for decorations. Other than that, I plan to buy a cute sun dress. I will be doing hair and make-up so we can take some cute pictures, but that’s about it.

After the vows, we’re going to dinner, but it’s everyone for themselves. I really didn’t invite anyone but some of my loved ones say they are coming – I manage their expectations – there will be no music, no lighting of the candles. Just vows and two happy folks.

We are having a nice honeymoon though.

If (God forbid) we don’t get married – I would give the ring back.

I can tell you this – my sweetie put a lot of time and effort into getting my ring. He knows more about diamonds than I do – shoot, his son does too because he was present on a lot of the shopping trips.

I’ve been looking at bands for him, but because of his profession – he just wants a stainless steel band. I’ve been looking at some James Avery bands – those are pretty sturdy so I’m going to try to sell him on one of those.

Can’t remember who asked – but if he got my ring on Craigslist or at the pawn shop – I wouldn’t care.

lurker

January 29th, 2010
11:04 am

So what if on the wedding day you dont like the actual ring that is presented

MDot, let’s hope it won’t be an immediate issue. Let’s hope that’s something that either just glad to be present will squash or a matter that can be handled later

Tazzee - there's nothing better than love

January 29th, 2010
11:05 am

well dang, that was a long post… sowwy

Luvbug

January 29th, 2010
11:05 am

Sorry ImAPeach404 – I half read your post…if that’s true about Alicia Keys, that’s ugly for her and Swizz. I agree with Dream_n and Cemeeli, that’s very sad for the kids. How can a person walk around in good conscious doing that?

Image means a lot though cuz the RHOA lady gets slammed a lot for being with someone else’s husband, but Alicia Keys gets a pass…if the story is true.

Tazzee - there's nothing better than love

January 29th, 2010
11:07 am

I had a friend that lost her engagement ring. It fell down the drain when she was washing her hands (or the dishes..) She called a plumber – still couldn’t find it. So she wore a simple band.

On their wedding day – her husband put another diamond on her finger. She wasn’t expecting it.

I am whatever you say I am

January 29th, 2010
11:07 am

I gave my ring back. It was the right thing to do.

Breaking up over an engagement ring? That is so shallow. I’m sure there may be bigger issues lurking.

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
11:08 am

@I’m swiss ~ you have just spoken out loud for so many, many men!

“…but if he got my ring on Craigslist or at the pawn shop – I wouldn’t care.” Good girl! Good girl!

WOW

January 29th, 2010
11:10 am

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 29th, 2010
11:12 am

All I gotta say is The EX had 3 carats.. 2 carat ring and 1 carat diamond wedding band.. Soooo.. The New Wife will have to have at least 4.. Sorry..

Tazzee - there's nothing better than love

January 29th, 2010
11:14 am

Speaking of Alicia Keys – just bought tickets to her concert.

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
11:16 am

@all

That’s my whole thing about the wedding/V-day/ring issue. As Swiss said emotional pressures exerted by outside forces (commercials, society, friends, family) to have the ring and then the day built up with little to no thought in most cases (Tazzee, looking at you to life after that.

I’m not just talking the potential financial burden of a wedding or an engagement, I’m talking about all of it.

No dis to anybody, but that whole scene reeks of “fantasy” vs “reality” and I pray to God to meet a woman that knows the difference.

i'm swiss

January 29th, 2010
11:17 am

Hi Cee, hi Leggs

I’m doing quite well, thanks.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not cheap (I went to Tiffany for Lil’ Mama’s ring) — I’m happy to spend money on Mrs. Swiss… I just think the relative price of jewelry is pretty crazy, compared to other items…

But actually, Cee — my ring was pretty cheap (under $300 — it’s Tungsten — cheap, but durable). But it’s the one I wanted & it looks cool as hell — I get compliments on it all the time.

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
11:20 am

Dan, why do you guys have such a problem with your woman wanting nice stuff? I mean you guys want nice stuff for yourself why can’t we have nice stuff.

Just because our type of material possessions are different than you all’s doesn’t mean yours are less commecial, geared by society and superficial.

mqew

January 29th, 2010
11:20 am

The ring thing depends on the couple. The man should def know his future wife enough to gage what would be an appropriate ring. Some chics just don’t care on one side of the spectrum and to others it’s the end all and be all (in this case I’d suspect that HE wouldn’t care so it shouldn’t be a problem, I mean, that is the person he’s marrying) It would be retarded if he’s surprised that the “rings not big enough, or expensive enough”. He should know the “crazy” he’s planning on living with for the rest of his life…

Tazzee - there's nothing better than love

January 29th, 2010
11:21 am

Dan – pre marital counseling is VERY important to me. I think as we get older we realize that the marriage is what’s important. I have a childhood friend that spent a grip on a wedding and was divorced less than a year later… Then again, I have a friend that spent a grip on a wedding and they’re still going strong 14 years later. So it’s not always fantasy vs. reality. Some folks get their fantasy while completely aware of the reality.

Speaking of pre marital counseling – we start our formal counseling Monday. I’m excited!

Lady J-Quest for Staying Power!

January 29th, 2010
11:22 am

Tazzee I so want to see robin thicke sing sex therapy live!!!! Enjoy sis! and CONGRATS!!!!!!!! so happy for you!

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
11:24 am

@ Dan – In your case, if you marry and she’s into the ring/wedding thing does she lose good character/level headed credit b/c of her emphasis about it?

Folks sayin the same “it’s just a piece of paper” social pressure about marriage too. But what is important or fantasy to some, is not to others.

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
11:27 am

@i’m swiss ~ we know you’re not cheap but you made a valid point on the exorbitant prices of rings.

I never did understand why women spend so much $$ on their wedding dress just to put it in a hope box in the hope that they could pass it along to their daughters…what happens if they only have sons.

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
11:28 am

I just think the relative price of jewelry is pretty crazy, compared to other items

absolutley!

Swiss – I know…somethings are just skewed like that. Glad you see it, but did your thing anyway.

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
11:30 am

@Raqi

It’s not about “having nice stuff”<–that's a false choice and you know it.

In the case of the ring (as with anything else) what my girl wants, she gets. But it speaks to her motivation, and lack of concern for mine, to insist constantly on public perception vs private reality. I'm about reciprocity, I need my babe to meet half way. Have the ring, give me the small wedding, we do the reception on a budget, etc.

I'm the head of the family and we have goals to get to here on end, and sacrifices must be made in the short term, for the long term agenda. And for me, it starts at the moment the engagement is accepted (because we've had this dicussion prior).

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
11:31 am

Cemeeli, exactly. Why the da hell do so many men need 60″ of screen to watch a football game on? LOL But then want to cry “fantasy” when a woman wants a nice ring or wedding. Or 2,3,4,50, 75 pairs of shoes.

I am whatever you say I am

January 29th, 2010
11:31 am

I know what type of ring I would like to have but I will accept whatever ring my man would give me provided it was in good taste and it was white gold. I don’t do the yellow gold, sorry.

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
11:32 am

Hey Tazzee. Does it feel like your big day is coming in on the express train?

mqew

January 29th, 2010
11:34 am

Swiss, tungsten is what i recently got my spouse… I’m looking at it on the dresser right now. He still doesn’t wear it. I think we’re just ‘those’ who don’t give a ratz azz.

DAN – I was never the girl who dreamed about how her wedding was going to be… coupled with a cousin’s wedding… that was like SUPER HUGE! Thirty to forty (30-40) wedding party plus others not walking down the asile. 600-700 people. Just pure unadulterated EXCESS! They were seperated in three months. I was 15 maybe 16. I was smdh then. I VOWED at that time, it was definitely never doing that… making the marriage about everthing except THE MARRIAGE!!!

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
11:35 am

Gotdarnit that Raqi IV is now the Raqi V!

Well, imma say this – He wants a 56 inches…okay, gotcha baby. Cause i know i’m more than good when i get my toys.

runit.

mqew

January 29th, 2010
11:38 am

I used to know where my ring was (since I don’t where it). Since we moved in Nov… I have no freaking idea…. jus saying

Melo- I liked your 10:38!!!

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
11:39 am

LOL Cemeeli. I can’t say what I want to say, but yep it’s good.

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
11:43 am

I think you and I are the same

My sis is the polar opposite. She wants the ring, the big wedding, and all the glitz and glam. I don’t knock her for it. He wants to give her whatever she wants.

Me on the other hand…… ehh

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
11:46 am

mqew

That was agreeing with your previous posts.

PRINCESSNIK

January 29th, 2010
11:49 am

@ Raqui

Why the da hell do so many men need 60″ of screen to watch a football game on? LOL But then want to cry “fantasy” when a woman wants a nice ring or wedding. Or 2,3,4,50, 75 pairs of shoes.

My sentiments exactly! I have an thing for D&B bags, and most guys are like y you spend that type of money on that to which i reply ummmm u have a ps3, a wii AND an x-box Now shut ya trap.

Professor is.....

January 29th, 2010
11:55 am

As for the Swizz Beats and Alicia keys mess if this junk is true I will never support (pay my money) them again. I have strong feelings on stuff like this!

As for weddings I like the small and elegant…I have been to some large weddings where the bride and groom invited everyone they could think of, and witnessed their guest talking about them. IMO vows are so important that I only want positive energy no more than 25 folks!

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
12:01 pm

@CeeMee

No, she doesn’t lose anything in my eyes, I love her, I do for her. But I’m exasperated by the whole thing and realistically, if my exasperation is not accounted for in the planning; then we may not make it.

@Raqi

Wanting her to have nice things is a false choice. I want to give my wife the world. But realistically, we have to live after the engagement, after the wedding, after the honeymoon in the real world. The real world has bills (her, mine, ours) and the real world don’t give a dizzam about “[her] special day”.

I just look for a woman that takes that into consideration and (as stated to Ceemee) my feelings in general when discussing planning.

Just saying

January 29th, 2010
12:03 pm

As for the Swizz Beats and Alicia keys mess if this junk is true I will never support (pay my money) them again. I have strong feelings on stuff like this!

By standard, she’s just another billboard chick. LOL

Just saying

January 29th, 2010
12:04 pm

I’m sure though, the glizt and glam associated with her name (in the opinions of some) raises her a hint above being considered a trick

Professor is.....

January 29th, 2010
12:06 pm

@Tazzee when is the big day? Will you have a few lemon pepper wings as a just because… :grin:

mqew

January 29th, 2010
12:06 pm

Dream n – I personally just never needed it or wanted it (big or extravagant ring or wedding). Another cousing of mine that’s all she’s ever wanted at any/all costs. She’s endured some HORRIBLE relationships because of it. Just because she wants it sooooo bad.

Professor is.....

January 29th, 2010
12:07 pm

I’m sure though, the glizt and glam associated with her name (in the opinions of some) raises her a hint above being considered a trick

You are correct it raises her to a s.lutty.trick.azz.ho

Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)

January 29th, 2010
12:08 pm

As for the Swizz Beats and Alicia keys mess if this junk is true I will never support (pay my money) them again.

Well she’s sure ’nuff sporting an engagement ring :confused:

mqew

January 29th, 2010
12:09 pm

My spelling is especially atrocious (sp) today :-)

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
12:11 pm

AHHHH CHOOOOOOOOO

Excuse me, hating bothers my allergies.

AKey a trick

AHHCHOOO sniff, sniff, sniff

Professor is.....

January 29th, 2010
12:11 pm

I stopped supporting R. Kelly after that mess with him and that little girl. I know my pennies does not mean a thing to those folks, however my morals will not allow me to support such mess!

I don’t know which is worst messing with an underage child or messing with someone’s marriage, because those are vows before God.

Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)

January 29th, 2010
12:13 pm

You are correct it raises her to a s.lutty.trick.azz.ho

Dang Professor tell us how you really feel…you just cut her down to the “white meat”. I have strong feelings about that,too…especially from first hand experience with my sperm donor and his whorIsh ways.

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
12:14 pm

through my now stuffy nose There should have been a question mark “AKeys a trick?”

sniiiifffdarn allergies

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
12:16 pm

if my exasperation is not accounted for in the planning; then we may not make it

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
12:19 pm

“if my exasperation is not accounted for in the planning; then we may not make it” WOW, sounds like your exasperation takes precedence over her desire to want a ring. Ok she verbally acknowledges you’re exasperated, will the relationship then survive??? Sounds like you need your blankie….

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
12:19 pm

@Leggs

Reciprocity = balance, equalibrium, yin/yang, karma, the Golden Rule

However you wanna call it, I need this in my life; and definitely, in the woman I plan to marry.

Just saying

January 29th, 2010
12:19 pm

Yes Dan

A TRICK IS A TRICK IS A TRICK, FAMOUS, WELL-KNOWN, AN UNKNOWN. BILLBOARD CHICK, BILLBOARD TOPPER. SAME ACTS, MENTATILY, DEEDS. NO DIFFERENCE. Now, need a kleenex? LOL

Professor is.....

January 29th, 2010
12:21 pm

Sassy Swizz and Keys ought to be shame, because this mess right here is a scandal and a shame. H3ll kids are involved and he has a wife. I just don’t believe in all this crap. I guess Swizz and Key will do like sl.uts do…live and learn.

Luvbug

January 29th, 2010
12:22 pm

I’m sure though, the glizt and glam associated with her name (in the opinions of some) raises her a hint above being considered a trick

I think that’s how many people measure it…I completely disagree with that “depends on who you are” measure…but people do that a lot…slam some and look the other way for “special” others

I can think of ways that has turned my family (extended) upside down

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
12:23 pm

@Just saying

sniiff I do.

But judgmental people make it worse

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
12:23 pm

Hola!!! Professor

Now while I dont agree with what A Keyes, or R. Kelly situations. I kinds seperate them. I know my I’m not perfect and will never be. I enjoy both of their music and will more than likely continue to.

But I understand where you’re coming from.

I mean can the divorce be finalized before they start a relationship.

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
12:24 pm

I kinda seperate them.

music vs their personal life

Professor is.....

January 29th, 2010
12:25 pm

How do you diffentiate between someone being judgmental and stating their opinion…especially on a blog :roll: ???

Just asking…headed out…

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
12:27 pm

I understand that Dan. It reads as though you just through your wife to be under the bus because she wants the ring and you’re exasperated that she wants it. You need it in your life for her to understand your lack of understanding over how she sees the ring as being an important symbol of your love. So, you probably will be going through quite a few women to find that special gem! Just tell her you don’t like to spend $$ on unnecessary things and wedding rings are unnecessary. Betcha land her then!

Professor is.....

January 29th, 2010
12:30 pm

Hey Dream_n!!!!

That is good you can separate them. With R.Kelly I hate hearing his voice on the radio, but I was never a huge fan…I only cared for a song or two. With AKeys I am not into her new stuff either so it is cool. I am trying to think on in the past where I separated the music from the person…I guess that would be Michael Jackson…hee heee oohhh

…now moonwalking off the blog

Melo

January 29th, 2010
12:30 pm

Mqew/Drems..thanx

Proff..
im a lil surprised by Alicia Keys coz ive always looked to her and thoght she had a good head atop those shlders…she dont need the money,she dont need the glamour attachement to Beartz,she aint no groupie..so what is it?
Only one reason!! :lol:

Anybody can be dyckmatized,thats what it means…phsychology profesor,medical doc,lawyer.. hehehe….even an astraunat..soaring high up there in the sky will fall to the dyck’s gravitational pool..as long as that thang hits the right corners in that coochie…oldest trick of all time…God is on to smething with this thang….

no other explanation here! :lol:

@Swiss/2CAN

If God ever made a “mistake”,its not attaching a reading meter to our wangs..u know like the oil dip stick in motor vehicles….that way..we wld have TO stick dip..then as u pull it out..u like :shock: whaaat,145???!! HELL NO!! :lol: :lol:

Lady J-Quest for Staying Power!

January 29th, 2010
12:35 pm

melo the astronaunt lady was over the top with it…lol

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
12:36 pm

@Prof

Making moral judgment on person you don’t know, and on a situation you couldn’t possibly know is judgmental. Even on a blog…

@Leggs

Reread the post: What she wants, she gets.

But I would think that in a mature and nuturing relationship, the two parties can agree on a level sufficient to both of their happiness (see also Raqi’s statement yesterday about housework, parenting, etc.).

I’m not stressing about it, if I have the opportunity to provide, I consider that a blessing. However, when it begins to be more about “stuff” than “us” – yes, a conversation is/will be had about needs vs wants.

Tazzee - there's nothing better than love

January 29th, 2010
12:36 pm

Raqi – yes, it seems like it’s right around the corner. I’m all stressed with what’s going to happen after we get back from the honeymoon and he’s like it’s no big deal. He seems to think everything is simple and I’m wondering how we’re going to fit both our clothes in one closet. How am I going to adjust to, not being able to walk around in just a t-shirt and panties because there’s a teenage boy in the house. How I won’t be able to start taking my bra off in the garage (hate this thing) and let them hang as soon as I get home… stuff like that, LOL.

The bachelorette soiree is planned, the last international trip as single woman is planned and I think I just settled on the date for the bridal shower (if that’s what you want to call it) – but what happens on May 22, when we get back from our honeymoon is a little overwhelming.

Professor – May 14 is the date. I probably won’t be able to eat anything, but I plan to have some LPs at the bridal shower ;-)

Lady J Thanks!

I was listening to my workout mix the other day and realized that if I boycotted Swizz Beats – some of my favorite workout songs would have to go… so for the sake of me staying fit, I’ll have to overlook his personal transgressions.

Seriously – if I paid attention to the personal lives of celebrities, I most likely wouldn’t listen to any music, watch any TV or go see any movies.

Morally, I think dating before a marriage is dissolved is wrong. But if I judged people based on that – there are some friends I wouldn’t deal with. There are plenty of folks that believe it’s OK to date someone that’s separated.

Shoot – I don’t believe in abortion. Imagine if all abortions were made public, how many folks would I choose not to ’support’…

Luvbug

January 29th, 2010
12:37 pm

she aint no groupie..so what is it?

Now, I’m not saying that she is one… but how do you know she’s not one?

Only one reason!! …I will not copy paste the rest but…

Ooooooo, this time it’s the guys (or thangs) fault?! She couldn’t help herself?!

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
12:38 pm

Leggs I agree. Dan sounds as if he lives by “my way or the highway” theory. He sounds like wants a woman that will accept only wanting and having the things that he feels she should have. Good luck on finding that type of woman. Maybe a mail order bride would be the way to go.

No woman wants a man that dictates to her.

Melo

January 29th, 2010
12:41 pm

but how do you know she’s not one

@Luvbug…i wld think a groupie is the one following on celebrities jes to get trinkets and some lay in exchange…

We dont have a record of that bout her…besides,with her busy music schedule,thats not possible…

Now if u say that Super head freak Karim lady is a groupie,we agree coz she sells her tricky mouf job,we know that! :lol: :lol:

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
12:41 pm

LOL Tazzee. You are going to be fine.

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
12:44 pm

@ Melo

Now that astronaut lady’s situation was definately a WOW moment.

I agree Tazzee Half of the stuff I wouldn’t be listening to or watching. And half of the people, well more than half of the people wouldn’t be able to associate with me.
But if someone feels strongly about a certain type of situation then they do have the god given right to do what they feel.

mytw♥cents... maybe even marcasite

January 29th, 2010
12:45 pm

MDOT If you don’t go somewhere witcho 12 Carat pinky ring!!!

CEE I don’t know bout Beatz & Alicia but that’s for him and his wife to figure out. I don’t even entertain the speculation about them cuz there is a divine order to thangs, as we know. But in general I think we like to judge other folks speed of progress. Really, we need to mind our own MPH, three Cs or whatever. And I see you tryna disregard the ISM
ISM
ISM
ISM
ISM

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
12:45 pm

Dan, just because a woman wants nice things, even if it starts with the ring, does not mean she does not have a grip on reality. And while you may have basis of sufficient level of happiness, there will be things that even you will want and you will want her to understand and not make a bid deal about it. You have to allow room for adjustments.

You can’t put up a door that does not allow for expansion and shrinkage due to climate changes.

Melo

January 29th, 2010
12:47 pm

How I won’t be able to start taking my bra off in the garage
@Tazzee
on fridays,go bra-less..its good for fresh air to percolate there Tazzee…

besides,ur single subordinate dudes will have a good reason to like their boss,esp when u jest tease with a lil skin,off that top! jes a lil skin and dangling tatas,not too much :lol:

( i be bringing reports to u all the time,as u sit on ur chair..”hey miss Tazz,lemme swing around so i can show u”) :lol: :lol:

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
12:49 pm

I was sent a link in my email about prison rape. I’m sooooo mad I decided to view the video.

Luvbug

January 29th, 2010
12:50 pm

Melo

“No public record” doesn’t mean it’s not true. Now of course, I won’t believe it until I see it, like I won’t confirm her being engaged until s/he actually says it…but there is no way to know.

It’s just funny to here people completely down a person for something then completely turn around and give a pass to another in a similar circumstance.

Sometimes I wish I could get in the heads of people who knowingly hurt others…just to know if they feel anything…just a little something.

Tazzee - there's nothing better than love

January 29th, 2010
12:51 pm

Dream_n – I agree, honestly if more people let their money follow their beliefs, there would be a lot of folks out of business. AND perhaps if folks knew their actions would mess with their pockets, they might think twice before doing certain things. For instance, I don’t understand why Morgan Freeman is getting so many gigs – his relationship with his step-granddaughter disgusts me, but he’s becoming the next James Earl Jones – I hear his voice EVERYWHERE (and cringe a little)

I used to be that way, but as more and more stuff started coming out… Let me just say that I would have to do without my favorite past-time – Football. :lol:

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
12:53 pm

if folks knew their actions would mess with their pockets

Tazzee, I have a friend that always say if you want to get someone’s attention touch them in their pocket.

kimmy

January 29th, 2010
12:55 pm

It depends..If I caaled it off then you can have it back ubkess I calle it off for something like cheating. It’s gift..If you ask for tha bak then ask for everything back.

Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)

January 29th, 2010
12:56 pm

I’m sooooo mad I decided to view the video.

I watched a prison documentary about the same thing and it was disturbing,albeit an unfortunate reality.

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
12:56 pm

LOL @ Tazzee

About a week or so ago, I put something about that as my facebook status. I heard he was trying to impregnate her. Now that situation is just weird all around.

I’m with you. I loves me some football. I just take it for what it is. I can like your craft, but I dont have to like all of your actions.

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
12:58 pm

“even an astraunat..soaring high up there in the sky will fall to the dyck’s gravitational pool..as long as that thang hits the right corners” – and the lady driving through the night wearing a diaper proved your point, Melo.

Ok, Dan, I only had one contact in. I’ll put the other in and re-read!

Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)

January 29th, 2010
12:59 pm

his relationship with his step-granddaughter disgusts me,

And he’s just a-flauntin her around errwhere like “hey this is what I do”…nasty is what that is.

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
12:59 pm

lol i thought the Winter Storm Advisory is for the Nroth corna of Georgia.

Pa-lease don’t tell me when i get to the store all the bread will be gone.

hehehe

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
12:59 pm

Sassy it was so disturbing. Now I’m not naive I know it goes on in prisons, but to actually hear the men talk about how they rape other men. And to hear the stories from the men that have been raped is just heartbreaking. And its even more sad that the guards and the warden know this type of stuff exists and they can’t control it, yet these men are supposed to be in a controlled environment???

I dont get it. I know you are not in prison b/c you won a humanitarian award. But to be violated in that manner is horrible.

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
1:05 pm

I don’t know bout Beatz & Alicia but that’s for him and his wife to figure out.

mytwocents exactly, and like i was saying he needs to mind his and the wifes first….just sayin.

yes we all need to mind our own…cause most certainly my MPH might not be like someone elses C’s….so when i say “why RUSH” i’m basing that on my logic. Cause at the same time some folk C’s saying my MPH is too long.

it’s all good.

Just a Thought

January 29th, 2010
1:06 pm

@Raqi I love ur 11:20 -
“why do you guys have such a problem with your woman wanting nice stuff? I mean you guys want nice stuff for yourself why can’t we have nice stuff.”

I’ve had this discussion over and over again with guys. Why is it a negative that I like nice things. It might be something different if I didn’t know what I liked, but the truth of the matter is I do. Why must my engagement ring be less stunning than the right hand ring I bought myself all to prove to you that I believe in “keeping it real”??? Maybe if I didn’t wear jewelry at all then I’m suddenly hinting I want a 4 carat solitaire, then you could look at me sideways…but I like jewelry, I wear diamonds now…so sorry if my guy doesn’t like jewelry, but I do. I also understand from a financial standpoint, a guy may not be able to buy my “dream” ring, and I’m ok with that…what I’m not ok with is when he can afford it, but refuses to buy it to prove a point. SMH

Tazzee - there's nothing better than love

January 29th, 2010
1:07 pm

shoot, my MPH might be a direct violation of someone else’s Cs and the ISM will be all out of wack…

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
1:09 pm

@Raqi

Again, you’re providing a false choice as the basis of your argument.

If my standard of living and “nice” things is not hers, realistically how have we gotten to the point of marriage without some consensus?

As for dating, there are not as many women out there as you would think that still hold to the value system that you and Leggs (apparently) do. There are some women for whom love isn’t a ring, or a show on Valentine Day, or a big wedding. It’s about her and her man -nothing and no one else.

Lastly, it isn’t “my way or the highway”; consider if (when dating) Mase made what for you were spurious and superficial demands, would your love for him force you to stay unconditionally?

Again, reciprocity. (and yes, that means I give as much as I get)

Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)

January 29th, 2010
1:12 pm

And its even more sad that the guards and the warden know this type of stuff exists and they can’t control it, yet these men are supposed to be in a controlled environment???

Dream guul my mouth was hanging open the whole time I watched. The prison guards do know but they call those things(cigs,snacks,money,coffee,sex) vices that keep the inmates happy and as long as they’re “happy” they’ll be less likely to act up,hence making their job of keeping the peace easier.

I saw some of the dudes talk about being turned out and being somebody’s boy…they talk about the “family units” formed there and other aspects of their altered reality. They look for the same things in prison that they do in the real world i.e.love,companionship,friendship,etc……

Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)

January 29th, 2010
1:14 pm

Go sit in a corner somewhere and read a dictionary/thesaurus and hush.

Lady J-Quest for Staying Power!

January 29th, 2010
1:15 pm

PRINCESSNIK

January 29th, 2010
1:17 pm

@ TAZZEE For instance, I don’t understand why Morgan Freeman is getting so many gigs – his relationship with his step-granddaughter disgusts me,

Do tell….i haven’t heard about that whats the deal

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
1:18 pm

“…hold to the value system that you and Leggs (apparently) do” This is funny, cuz you don’t know my value system. I wasn’t discussing the fact that she may want a ring. I was discussing your need for her to acknowledge your EXASPERATION!

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
1:19 pm

@ Tazzee – okay. Do your MPs and Cs…

Mine is different to a many cause i have a growning child that i consider daily as well as his. It won’t be just me affected in the concept of how/where the relationship is going.

and that circles back to SwizzB, the kids…the kids.

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
1:20 pm

They look for the same things in prison that they do in the real world i.e.love,companionship,friendship,etc

Although that statement is true, it just seems twisted.

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
1:21 pm

I’m sorry Dan but I don’t understand that question. There is obliviously a typo. Please retype.

But as for me thinking love is based on material possessions that I don’t. However I still say that there is nothing wrong with having them within reason. Yes it is very important that two people agree on the life style they want to live before getting married, but for me to get all angry and pissy about something my husband wants to buy just because we did put it on the list in the beginning stages is just crazy.

I am not saying a woman should spent all kinds of crazy money on a wedding, but I am just saying that guys like you should see our wants as being just as important to us as yours. And you have realize just because I didn’t want it today does not mean I will not want it next month. The same go for your menfolk.

That’s were communication and compromise comes in. Instead of a stern no, because you don’t see the necessity what’s wrong with considering it and maybe trying to work out a way for her to have it. Hell, most places will grant payment plans.

Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)

January 29th, 2010
1:23 pm

Although that statement is true, it just seems twisted.

I know right?…that’s why the whole time I was like :shock:

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
1:24 pm

…we did not put it….

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
1:24 pm

@Leggs

Thus the apparently, if I was mistaken – my apologies.

So, by the fact that you still have questions about my “exasperation”, am I correct in assuming that if the opposite were true (ie she’s exasperated with me about something) that in that case my feelings come before hers given the significance to me of a given event?

I mean, if I’m to consider her feelings regarding a wedding, are mine not relevant?

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
1:26 pm

@Raqi

Would you care to answer my question for Leggs as well?

And it isn’t about the wedding as an event. It is (for me) about the bills after or the (potential) depletion of savings prior.

We are essentially saying the same thing, that communication and compromise will get “us” where we’re both comfortable.

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
1:29 pm

@ Dan – Yes please consider your feeling. You would be a mess if she spent over the budget if you didn’t say anything.

And why do i get the feeling you would have a blinged out wedding…maybe not…but she (jsut cause) might see to it.

after all that talk.

PRINCESSNIK

January 29th, 2010
1:34 pm

tazzee, nevermind i googled it, wow first of all i didn’t realize he was 75 years old and she is 25 wow, i’m speechless

Professor

January 29th, 2010
1:36 pm

So Dan, how do you deal with all of the laws that govern us that are based on moral judgement? Someone had to pass those laws.

Anyway there is a difference between opinions and judgement…we had several folks on here stating Akeys and Swizz were sl.uts, but guess what we still have some sl.uts that we deal with.

PRINCESSNIK

January 29th, 2010
1:36 pm

@ Dan/CEE, Yes please consider your feeling. You would be a mess if she spent over the budget if you didn’t say anything.

And why do i get the feeling you would have a blinged out wedding…maybe not…but she (jsut cause) might see to it.

You guys ever watch that show on WE called rich bride poor pride, too funny the bride and groom always have differing ideas over the budget

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
1:37 pm

Mytwo – here’s some “ism” since you like hearing the dimp pimp is a little man.

today, a.m. I could sense the hesitancy in his face to ask, but he did anyway….”Momma, is it okay to have a friend of the opposite sex and be just friends?”…(my simple “Yes” reply) “aiught cause, Tarlissa is cool I like her, but I don’t like her like THAT – and I don’t want them to say we go together. She’s smart and funny I want to hang out with her”…

yuuup, “that’s what’s up” ….hmmm let’s see where this goes.

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
1:38 pm

But Dan, there will always be something. If she wants a big wedding, since this is what we are talking about today, why plan and save to give her what she wants.

The way you are talking about “bills afterwards” can go for anything. Will not take vacations because there will be bills that still occur when you get back? What about going out just within the city? Or just major purchases around the house that aren’t exactly necessary but nice to have?

The bills are going to be here no matter what. But you only live once. Don’t deprive yourself or woman from the having and doing nice things because there will be a bill that may and will come later.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 29th, 2010
1:40 pm

I bought my EX wife a nice ring because I look at the ring to be a reflection of me and at the time I thought she only deserved the best..

Luvbug

January 29th, 2010
1:40 pm

They look for the same things in prison that they do in the real world i.e.love,companionship,friendship,etc

Not talking about prison per se, but women are known to seek the above when no men are around. Women can also have one stud and live happily among other women with long gaps of sex (years and years) in between…I say all this to ask…

Do you think that nonsex is type of sex for women? Men seem to need sex. But women seem to be able to easily substitute sex-sex with non-sex-sex (companionship, friendship, conversation)

And no, I am not talking about lesbian action.

PRINCESSNIK

January 29th, 2010
1:41 pm

ooops rich bride poor bride i meant to say, and no its not always the bride who wants the extravagant nuptials

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
1:41 pm

…why not plan and save…

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
1:42 pm

@Professor

I understand the religious tradition and history behind our current legal system and abide by them for the sake of the collective.

However, in my personal life, I try not impose my morality on to anyone else, nor use that to either condemn or approve of their choices.

I can only pray for people…

Just saying

January 29th, 2010
1:43 pm

Dan – But judgmental people make it worse

TOUCHE’ Not that I agree that blogging is judgement but I like that comeback

Just saying

January 29th, 2010
1:44 pm

Dan – you don’t agree with “each one teach one?” I know it’s suppose to be freaky Friday but just wondering

PRINCESSNIK

January 29th, 2010
1:45 pm

Do you think that nonsex is type of sex for women? Men seem to need sex. But women seem to be able to easily substitute sex-sex with non-sex-sex (companionship, friendship, conversation)

I don’t think so! I think there is a place for each of the things you mentioned. I want “nonsex” and “sex-sex” in my life.

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
1:46 pm

@Princess – The affair started when she was 17 or 18 years old…even more perved.

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
1:47 pm

@ Luvbug

I can find a lot of substitutions for sex. While its natural and enjoyable. It can sometimes be overrated.

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
1:49 pm

@Dan ~ Baby Boy, I don’t have anymore questions about your exasperation. Yes, your feelings are relevant, but do you know you talk funny?

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
1:51 pm

@Just Saying

I’m always willing to learn something…especially from a young lady

SexyCool

January 29th, 2010
1:51 pm

Head nod.

Being intimately involved in the planning of my sister’s wedding, I am overwhelmed with the sheer detail and COST of it all. It’s really making me think long and hard about what I want when I get married. I just want to sign the license, jump a broom and take some really nice pictures with me in a reasonably priced dress and him in a nice suit and call it a day.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 29th, 2010
1:54 pm

Does sex with self fall under the realm of non-sex? I’m jus sayin doh

WOW

January 29th, 2010
1:55 pm

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
1:55 pm

@Leggs

I wasn’t aware that the use of an above average vocabulary was “talking funny” (if that’s what you’re referring to)

Luvbug

January 29th, 2010
1:56 pm

I was wondering b/c, in general, when men in long term committed relationships mention what’s a turn on, it usually directly involves sex. When you pan to the women in those relationships, they mention things that lead to sex before the sex…helping out around the house, going out to eat and talk, other non sex things…then somewhere at the end…sex

So, it sometimes makes me think that most of the sex for women is actually the nonsex lead.

Just saying

January 29th, 2010
1:56 pm

Dan: I’m always willing to learn something…especially from a young lady

I just bet

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
1:56 pm

above average vocabulary

So what’s an avergae vocabulary?

Just becasue you’ve found 12 different ways to say a word???

lmao.. some people

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
1:57 pm

Above average, nope. You know how some southerners really have that twang in their voices and we say they talk/sound funny. You got that twang!

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
1:57 pm

I used to think Morgan Freeman was gay.

Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)

January 29th, 2010
2:03 pm

I didn’t know that verbose meant above average….

SexyCool

January 29th, 2010
2:04 pm

Sex-Sex?? and Non-Sex?? WTH?

SexyCool

January 29th, 2010
2:04 pm

Stop thinking so hard, woman.

Luvbug

January 29th, 2010
2:04 pm

Does sex with self fall under the realm of non-sex? I’m jus sayin doh

lol

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
2:04 pm

@melo

“Just becasue you’ve found 12 different ways to say a word???”

No, because I choose specific words to express my intent and try to make point as clear as possible. I appreciate, in all contexts, truthful and coherent expression (regardless of my agreement with the point being made).

Luvbug

January 29th, 2010
2:06 pm

SexyCool – LOL – I couldn’t think of another way to describe it…pretty much all that stuff you do with your partner and/or friends that makes you happy but is not sex

Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)

January 29th, 2010
2:06 pm

Just becasue you’ve found 12 different ways to say a word???

No Dream guul maybe it feels above average if they’re wearing the smoking jacket with the matching ascot…

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
2:08 pm

@Sassy

Again, who defines ‘too’?

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
2:09 pm

Sometimes I think you pick out specific words in the dictionary and promise yourself to use each and everyone for that day. While you may try to articulate your point to the best of your ability sometimes your posts come across as bunch of mumbo jumbo.

But I gotcha :wink:

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 29th, 2010
2:10 pm

Sassy – Hey whats wrong with a smoking jacket and ascot.. Im offended..

SexyCool

January 29th, 2010
2:11 pm

Luvbug – what am I gone do with you? LOL!!! I loveS my blog people! (Most of ya’ anyway) :)

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
2:11 pm

@Dream_n

Believe it or not, I speak like this off-line and as casually as well.

And you’re funny with the “word of the day”

SexyCool

January 29th, 2010
2:14 pm

Aw, hell, Dan – sometimes, you just come across like you’re trying too damn hard. And I know you’re all comfortable in your own skin and with yourself and how you choose to express yourself and all that, but sht, I’m just sayin’. Boy, stop.
LOL!

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
2:14 pm

Be honest, Dan, you use the Microsoft Word Thesaurus don’t you?

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
2:14 pm

and there it is. @ Sassy and Dream_n – ‘com on nah! hehehehe

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
2:18 pm

@SC

I’ll try. But it’s a function of who I am and how I think.

@Raqi

Actually, I really do use dictionary.com to hone the meanings.

Look, I read the dictionary as a child, I’m half a nerd.

East Point's Own

January 29th, 2010
2:19 pm

Until a year or two ago I had never heard of women who demanded a certain engagement ring. I was told that the man should buy the ring the woman wants because she has to wear it every day. I always thought that the proposal was squarely up to the man, I never thought that the woman should know its coming. If you go out ring shopping with your lady then she knows the engagement is coming. At most I would say that the man should pay attention when they aare out and she admires certain rings, or take note when she leaves magazines open on the table with a ring on the page…LoL

But I would say that if I bought a woman a ring and she was displeased with it we would have a problem because that shows that she cares more about the ring than what the ring means.

If the couple breaks up the ring should be returned, I mean why woulkd you want to keep a reminder of a failed relationship anyway?

But that’s just http://hispointofview.com

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
2:19 pm

There was a guy that worked here that constantly went out of his way to make himself sound “smart” but failed miserably because he constantly used words in the wrong place. He would be talking and someone would just blurt “That’s not what (insert word) means”.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 29th, 2010
2:22 pm

Raqi – Yeah that dude on in living color too..

But honestly.. If Dan wants to express himself then so be it.. Let him do him.. Ya’ll should be used to it by now..

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
2:23 pm

Did I do dat…..

SexyCool

January 29th, 2010
2:27 pm

Raqi – Shthead used to do that. And HATED to be corrected. So, I just started letting his ass go around sounding like an idiot especially towards the end.

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
2:27 pm

Raqi

I know what you’re talking about. At my job, when I was fairly new my co workers would be having conversations. This older woman would feel the need to say a word while having the conversation, then look at me and give a brief meaning. I didnt pick up on it at first, but when i finally did. I told her dont do that.She would say a word, then look in my direction and say “you know when blah blah blah”

SMH at her giving me a definition of the word before continuing.
I chalk it up to her being an older white woman and me being the only black at my location. (and the youngest)

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
2:28 pm

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
2:28 pm

LOLOLOLOL…that was funny, SexyC!

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
2:28 pm

How about a compromise?

I continue to not lash out at the overuse of “lol” and emoticons (I mean really, if your joke was funny would lol be needed?)

and

y’all forgive me and my “word of the day”

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
2:29 pm

LOL SexyCool. It wouldn’t be so bad if people like that were just making normal mistakes but to make yourself sound dumb trying to make yourself sound smart? LOL

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
2:29 pm

Sheesh, SexyC. Your post was posted while I was typing my response and now my response is before your post. Weird.

SexyCool

January 29th, 2010
2:29 pm

You go first.

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
2:29 pm

Sassy you have now used your maximun emoticons for today.. please refrain from using anymore.

Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)

January 29th, 2010
2:30 pm

D K of course nothing’s with it ;)

My bad CeeMee :oops: You know how I get sumtimes…lol

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
2:30 pm

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
2:31 pm

SassaFrass this week – Two Bean Chili…

Tazzee – Catch that mail.

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
2:33 pm

Dream_n, we also had one of them here. Felt the need to give meanings as if other didn’t know them already. If you feel you need to give definitions try talking on a level everyone can understand.

Beautiful

January 29th, 2010
2:33 pm

i kept my ring. he didn’t ask for it back. i made it into a beautiful pendant necklace. i wear it everyday. :o ) that was my 2nd one. the first one jus sits on my dresser. i used to wear it, but found out the hard way that it scared off men!

SexyCool

January 29th, 2010
2:33 pm

Leggs – I would cringe when I would hear him say “numerous OF times.”
Double you tee eff?

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
2:36 pm

Dan, the use of LOL and emoticons are strictly because when reading a forum you cannot see each other facial expressions to know that they are just kidding or making a joke.

Sometimes those disclaimers are needed and sometimes folks still get offended.

so sad

January 29th, 2010
2:36 pm

This whole idea makes me sad. I remember the day when a young man could ask a young lady to marry him without an engagement ring. The wedding band was the symbol of love, a circle of never ending love.
The engagement ring is the cherry on top not a requirement. Any women or girl that ask for a specifice ring or an amount spent on a ring should be reconsisded as a future mate. A diamond can always be a nice anniversary gift when money is not as big an issue.
Broken engagement what happens to the ring?? Groom breaks off the wedding the ring goes with the girl. The girl calls off the wedding the ring goes back to the guy.

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
2:36 pm

Leggs, there’s an Omen. The other day I asked Infamous a question and saw my question on the screen. But when I refreshed his answer to my question was before my question.

Beautiful

January 29th, 2010
2:37 pm

went out last nite. i’m paying for it now. my eyes hurt. but the band *legally blind* was hot!!! six of us had a great time. a lot of old friends from high school was n da house! TN who is my son’s VP at his high school was there. he is so phine. they called him LL Cool J all nite. he hugged me and didn’t want to let go. awwww. another guy came up to me and said *i see you on FB all the time*. really? gotta look for him on there later.

gotta run! have a good w/e y’all!

Melo

January 29th, 2010
2:38 pm

Dan?? 2.04??
iI havent said anything in an hr,let alone to u…must be some melo ghost,if smebody addressed u with my blog name…

Anyway..uall now onto Judgemental..blah blah??

DONT judge Morgan then,coz u dont know the facts…

what im gleaning:

he phlucking ex step daughter

she not blood altho he called her daughetr at some point

started when it was legal for her to be smelt..aka 18 yrs old

he 75..means he can breath in,make it rise,breathe out..make it calm down :lol:

the state where he lives,let alone any other state in america says,”its fine”

the wife may not have been upfront with delivering the matrimonial gifts..refer to Raqi if in doubt… :lol:

hes in Holywood..u need eye candy on ur arm over there…

at 25 now,after 7 years of receieving it,she must be satisfied.

MELO says..THERE IS NO PROBLEM…….she is a former step daughetr!

Uall Jealous..U wld step in her shoes,all u females if it were u being approached by HIM!

SexyCool

January 29th, 2010
2:39 pm

Oh…and the other thing that I used to tell him, “Having an extensive vocabulary does not make you a good communicator. So, are you more concerned with ’sounding’ intelligent or being understood?”

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
2:44 pm

LOL @ Melo (Dan i only did the LOL b/c Melo has no idea that I actually gave a hearty laugh out loud at my computer while reading his post) Am I going to have to do this every time??

So, are you more concerned with ’sounding’ intelligent or being understood?”

My sentiments exactly

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
2:44 pm

SexyCool, yeah then they want you to believe that it’s your fault that you cannot understand on the level that they are speaking when in reality they haven’t really said anything.

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
2:44 pm

@Melo

My bad, homie

@SC

I’ve heard that before (re 2:39), but here’s my thing: if you can’t understand me given the resources at all our fingertips (blackberry’s, iPhone, etc.) then really, is it my fault or your problem? (the nebulous “you”)

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
2:45 pm

“Double you tee eff?” CUTE!

“Having an extensive vocabulary does not make you a good communicator” You’re absolutely right!!!! Take my boss, he’s a freaking geninus, but can’t form a simple question. It must take him 3 mins just to ask me to go make a copy of a document! By the time he’s finished talking, I have no idea what he asked me to.

I know Raqi. Weird

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
2:46 pm

Dan, when it’s just a easy to talk on a level that all can understand? Why the need to pull out the “thesaurus and dictionary” just have casual conversation with every day folks?

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
2:47 pm

“…if you can’t understand me given the resources at all our fingertips (blackberry’s, iPhone, etc.) then really, is it my fault or your problem?” HELL YEAH it’s your fault. Who brings out gadgets to discern what a person is saying in everyday convo?

SexyCool

January 29th, 2010
2:47 pm

So, I have to have a frickin’ dictionary on hand to converse with you? Again, stop it, Dan. That mess is tiring, tiresome and a turn off.

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
2:48 pm

@ Melo – I’m gonna call touchback on your foolishness! It is his grand-daughter that he at some point help rear.

I don’t care what you say…that’s nasty!!!…gone somewhere

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
2:51 pm

Dan, you need to talk to robots!

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
2:52 pm

Dan, what do the following terms mean?

1. Conversate

2. Interpretate

Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)

January 29th, 2010
2:53 pm

Dream guul Stop it I say!…lol

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
2:53 pm

SO to be Dan’s 1 true..

You have to be okay with a $30 meal at a restaurant. Don’t even think about a penny more. Have on hand a gadget to understand what the he!! he’s talking about. Be at least of the age of 40. And dont expect an extravagant wedding casue we got bills to pay.

SexyCool

January 29th, 2010
2:54 pm

Cem – I was going to say that it’s disgusting and creepy and Granddaddy Freeman ain’t got enough money…mattafact…ain’t that much money in the world.

Sybil

January 29th, 2010
2:54 pm

It is obvious that Dan is quite impressed with his own intelligence.

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
2:56 pm

Dream_n, yeah a $150 device just to have dinner and conversation with a guy that does not want to pay more than $15 for your meal.

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
2:58 pm

Dan, you know we just messing with you. We all have our day. Don’t get those suede elbows dirty now.

Oh yeah, I forget. “LOL”

PRINCESSNIK

January 29th, 2010
2:58 pm

@ MELO Uall Jealous..U wld step in her shoes,all u females if it were u being approached by HIM!

Don’t nobody want worms!!!!! :)

Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)

January 29th, 2010
2:58 pm

Who brings out gadgets to discern what a person is saying in everyday convo?

Well sah….

The Theory of Reciprocity states that… I couldn’t help it…just couldn’t.

Melo

January 29th, 2010
2:59 pm

Grand daughter or step daughter

@Dan??

growing without, in a single parent home and poor and aspiring to be learned is no excuse for speaking above those u trying to communicate with..coz now if u think u do have the tools to be able to speak in a sophisticated way..

If the folks u talking to(at??) aint understanding,that aint communication,per definition..coz communication is a 2 way convo…u commune,i(they) decode,i hit u back,u decode.Like dat.

Non-Communication is NOISE!

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
2:59 pm

@Raqi

1. Nothing; but it is used as a colloquailism (and it’s irratating);

2. I’ve never heard in my days.

@Sybil

As the conversation(s) have developed, clearly it is not I who is impressed by what for me is casual conversation (project much?).

@Dream

Here’s my thing, if you (the nebulous you) want someone that can speak, write, or communicate on a given social level at his discretion, then that is your choice in life, I wish you luck in it.

So, the synopsis here is “Dan is DTM”…..well alllrighty then

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
3:00 pm

The Theory of Reciprocity states that… hahahahahhahaha.. Sassy you a mess!

In all seriousness I’m juss mess’n around with ya!

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
3:01 pm

Some of the richest of the rich, more famous than not can’t spell worth a darn and don’t attempt to talk over common people’s head.

Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)

January 29th, 2010
3:01 pm

what do the following terms mean?

Now he’s about to write a dissertation on said terms…..

CeeMee you gone send that 2 bean my way?…..please.

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
3:02 pm

:wink: ing at your Melo (that’s winking)!

Melo

January 29th, 2010
3:02 pm

Dan/School

I want to buy a house with room for a garden

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
3:02 pm

@ SexyCool – Mayne, forget what Melo talkin about. Freeman is nasty…

SexyCool

January 29th, 2010
3:02 pm

I want to buy a house that has room for me to plant a small garden so that I can have some fresh vegetables.

Sybil

January 29th, 2010
3:03 pm

But can’t punctuate worth a damn.

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
3:03 pm

So, the synopsis here is “Dan is DTM”…. YEP!

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
3:03 pm

Okay, Dan. You caught the humor. LOL

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
3:04 pm

Good news (depending on your political affiliation);

Word has it that BHO ‘pwned’ some Republicans – live via C-span and CNN – in a question and answer session at their meeting.

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
3:06 pm

I want some ‘tater chips…some cheese doodles at that.

Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)

January 29th, 2010
3:07 pm

Hmmm….it’s gonna rain tonight…a FRIDAY NIGHT…what to do???

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
3:08 pm

SexyCool, having a garden is nice. I grow my some stuff myself. I don’t know about this upcoming Spring though. I can get time consuming the baby is getting to that age that you have to keep an eye on her.

PRINCESSNIK

January 29th, 2010
3:10 pm

CeeMee, cheese doodles are not ‘tater chips LOL they are in a category all their own

SexyCool

January 29th, 2010
3:10 pm

Sassy – you know what I’m thinking….:D

Mr. Lurker ( B.K.A. 007)

January 29th, 2010
3:11 pm

Ms. lurker how are you doing today? Are you going to celebrate for your promotion?

Regarding rings…Once you leave the store the value drops signicantly so it regardless who keeps the ring it will be counted as a lost investment!

With a 50 percent divorce rate it would seem we need to work on putting more time and effort to make a marriage work, instead of all the time many of you have invested in planning a wedding!

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
3:11 pm

Cheese Doodles= Hot Cheetos ??

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
3:11 pm

Sassy go out and get wet. Or stay home and get “wet”. LOL

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
3:11 pm

Goodness, Raqi….hey Dan, that deserved a :lol: :lol: :lol:

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
3:12 pm

@Melo

I’m not attempting to speak ‘above’ anyone, it’s the way my mind works. It’s not done to embrass or insult anyone, and people that know me well know that.

My upbringing aside – and I’ll thank you to leave it there -, I read manuals for fun (to find out how things work). I’ve had a library card since age 5. I got kicked out of kindergarten for being upset that the other kids couldn’t read (<–true story).

I can't explain why I literally yearn to know stuff, I just do. And if that makes my coversations and word choice strange, fine by me.

But what I won't do, is spend extra time frustrating myself in an attempt to relate, like or don't; I truly don't care.

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
3:14 pm

@ Princess – Oh…girl, i use to eat my baby’s cheese doodles up when he’d take a nap. I havn’t had those things in years…..

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
3:15 pm

I’ll make you one out of the deed to the house I just bought.

My kinda ring!! LOL

DreamsMaterialize

January 29th, 2010
3:15 pm

Whew, you guys didn’t start the topic yet did you?

A man wants his wife to have THE BEST, without you ever saying a word to influence it, but as soon as you do say a word or we feel that you think it’s just your rite, then we immediately think a little less of you. With that said… You want a ring? I’ll make you one out of the deed to the house I just bought. Now put that on your finger and show it to your friends.

And ya’ll quit messing with Dan.

SexyCool

January 29th, 2010
3:18 pm

You put me ON the deed and we are really cooking with butta!!!

Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)

January 29th, 2010
3:18 pm

you know what I’m thinking…go out and get wet. Or stay home and get “wet”

iRaq and SessyCool the last time I did that dude said I bit him and made his stomach hurt(jumpin up n down on him/it) and he LOVED it(no tadpoles in the ute,though I don’t do that) soo who knows. I actually thought about going to the movies to see “Legion”, it looks kinda interesting.

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
3:19 pm

WTH? Forget being a teacher… I think my calling is to be a psychic.

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
3:19 pm

Mason wants to go see The Book of Eli tonight. It depends on if we can get like a 9:00 showing not too far from home. We are having dinner at home and will go out to get some coffee and dessert somewhere and then to see the movie.

Has anyone seen this one yet? Is it worth seeing?

Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)

January 29th, 2010
3:21 pm

And ya’ll quit messing with Dan.

We’s just playin’….don’t get your ascot in a bunch…K? :)

DreamsMaterialize

January 29th, 2010
3:22 pm

Wouldn’t think of leaving my wife’s name off the deed. Aiight now Sassy, I don’t even wear an ascot. Now, do I do sudoku puzzles and math and logic brain teasers? You know it.

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
3:22 pm

@ Dreams – I didn’t think we’d be on the ring thing by now anyway….this a man topic? too much skress…i though we were going to clown Melo today.

Melo

January 29th, 2010
3:23 pm

CEE..

OH i read that Morgan Non Story..

Its a Non Story…its actually better than I thoght.

Morgans’ wang is absolved…..Not Blood…

The magazine pple are just jealous and stupid…

he looking cool too in those glasses :lol:

Now I watched Morgan ’s new movie based on South Africa over the MLK holidays,,whats the name..im so bad..it was really touching..

Morgan is My Hero… :-)

Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)

January 29th, 2010
3:24 pm

The Book of Eli looks interesting,too. I forgot about that one….

Denzeeeel….(said in my Whitley coice).

Mo (aka Moeisha )

January 29th, 2010
3:24 pm

TGIF!! Hey err’body!!

So what are we talking about now? :o )

DreamsMaterialize

January 29th, 2010
3:26 pm

Mo you must have pulled up right behind me in the blog parking lot. lol How you doin today?

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
3:27 pm

saw the fisrt 30 minutes and fell asleep. Maybe I was tired. My sister liked it, but my mom and dad didnt.

Honestly I dont reccomend it.

For Real

January 29th, 2010
3:28 pm

Wake up wake up wake up, It’s the 1st of the month
Get up get up get up, So cash your checks and come up

Wake up wake up wake up, It’s the 1st of the month
Get up get up get up, So cash your checks and come up

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
3:29 pm

Come on Melo

Your ex wife’s grandaughter (correct me if I’m wrong)?????
And you see absolutely nothing wrong with that. I mean to each its own, but I’m entitled to an opinion. And that is IMO not kool.

Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)

January 29th, 2010
3:29 pm

I don’t even wear an ascot. Now, do I do sudoku puzzles and math and logic brain teasers? You know it.

DreamsMat that’s what’s up…lol

Have a good weekend y’all.

For Real

January 29th, 2010
3:30 pm

Straight out of Compton! Crazy mofoer named Ice Cube!
From the gang called Figgers with Attitudes!
When I’m called off, I got a saw off!
Squeeze the trigger, & bodies are hauled off!

SexyCool

January 29th, 2010
3:32 pm

I put Morgan in the same dirty old man category as I do Hugh Hefner.

Tazzee - there's nothing better than love

January 29th, 2010
3:32 pm

Raqi – I loved The Book of Eli. It’s not the action flick the previews make it to be – it is a spiritual movie. That one is going in my personal collection when it comes out on DVD.

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
3:33 pm

DreamsMat, my son loves doing the sudoku puzzles and when I check his web usage he has tons of IQ test and brainteaser type sites in his history.

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
3:33 pm

@All

For Real (no pun intended) y’all be careful out there tonite.

It’s the 1st but the streets is still hungry.

Stay safe and stay thirsty my friends

Melo

January 29th, 2010
3:35 pm

Did u say ex wife’s ???

If we ex,we ex…anybody else,as long as they’re not my blood or the products of my ex and I ,are qualified to luv me,her nieces,her sister,her auntie etc…..

I dont even see why the hulah baloo about..

My ex’s big or young sister is fair game!

There is no Biggie here..

For Real

January 29th, 2010
3:35 pm

Who the fuggk is this? Pagin me at 5:46
in the mornin, crack of dawn an’
now I’m yawnin – wipe the cold out my eye
See who’s this pagin me – and why

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
3:37 pm

Thanks Tazzee.

(Note to self: Spiritual Movie, No fooling around while watching The Book of Eli)

lurker

January 29th, 2010
3:39 pm

OMG OMG….ya’ll are clowning Dapper Dan…tooo funny. Good thing he’s a good sport about it. That’s says a lot

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
3:40 pm

Melo

See your 3:35 contradicts what you’ve expressed in the past.

RAqi no disrespect..Aint tryna start anything. But the dbl standard is a mutha.

Didnt you tell Raqi that she should say a prayer everyday for being with her ex husbands best friend. But yet Morgan (a man) is exempt from the same advice.

I mean this girl prolly came over for family gatherings. This is her grandmothers ex husband we’re talking about.

But oh it’s okay cause he’s a man right?

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
3:43 pm

and we bet not hear any crickets, Mr. Melo!

PRINCESSNIK

January 29th, 2010
3:46 pm

I’m out ya’ll gotta help princess2 get ready for the father/daughter dance at school tonight

Melo

January 29th, 2010
3:47 pm

Dream_n what i say in the past?

I think u confusing what i might have respect for and not do with whats taboo..

That relationship is not incestous…wld i do it if it were me…

Thats where u confused!

U know,me.i aint so short of puddsy to phluck where i spit,then turn around and phluck again next to it, and see my spit again in few minutes…naw..that aint me..

BUT Morgan wanna do it,deal with grand dgther of ex then go to family outing and meet ex..thats on Morgan.

It aint Taboo as such!

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
3:48 pm

@ Melo – So you wouldn’t mind when your daughters become of age 17 or 18(thats bout right)i notice from your sharing about them you want some kept daughters…one of them starts dating and have a relation with your sister’s ex husband?

Watch that now….

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 29th, 2010
3:49 pm

Ya’ll Get up off Dan now.. I cant sit around and let ya’ll get my guy for writing so Purdy..

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
3:49 pm

oh shoot…it’s time to go….ya’ll enjoy a good one tonight.

~Be easy.

SexyCool

January 29th, 2010
3:49 pm

He raised this woman as his granddaughter, didn’t he?

Professor is.....

January 29th, 2010
3:50 pm

…stepped in just in time. Hot dayum!

Melo

January 29th, 2010
3:50 pm

Dream-n

I hadnt seen Raqi in ur qstion there but im sure i put them in same boat..

Morgan and Raqi..and no dissing..

It aint Taboo..altho

I…..wld not do it!

No societal Taboo broken.

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
3:51 pm

Love this record…George Michael’s FAITH!!!

lurker

January 29th, 2010
3:52 pm

Melo thinking is warped right now and he can see the “OKAY” in just about anything but you wait until his girls become of age. I think his position on sex and anything goes will slightly shift.

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
3:53 pm

Okay Melo.

I like your round about answer so we’ll leave it at that. It’s Friday!

Mo (aka Moeisha )

January 29th, 2010
3:53 pm

Dreams – how are you? And yeah I figured I’d slide in for a sec and check out whats crackin in Blogsville on this lovely friday.

Melo

January 29th, 2010
3:54 pm

CEE..U know my home is more wholesome than these cali folks homes…

Thery are liberal to the core….

I still have some Zulu conservatism in me.

u were talking about permission to marry earlier on..my daghters need my permission!!

No tatted up dude stepping up to my kids and cming in my living room to ask for marriage!

Dismissed,go and find a bride in SWA! :lol:

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
3:54 pm

Cemeeli, you are correct. It’s about that time. I need to be getting out of here in the next 10 minutes or so.

Have a good one.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 29th, 2010
3:55 pm

Mo – Im still waiting on you to email me.. I already talk to the Chinese dude in the Jewelry Spot.. It seems like you ready, Ohhh tell me that you ready..

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 29th, 2010
3:55 pm

Melo – You daughters are gonna bring a dude in with his pants on the ground.. Then Im gonna see how you feel when some young dude got his Johnson Hung off in one of your daughters..

mytw♥cents... maybe even marcasite

January 29th, 2010
3:57 pm

I bet y’all ain’t still talkin Cut, Clarity n Color…

Tryna see if this leanin’ towards a Riesling weekend or an 1800 Silver one… anybody doin anything exciting?

Any-thing, not Any-one. Pervs.

Professor is.....

January 29th, 2010
3:57 pm

Melo,

At what age will you give your kids permission to marry?

DreamsMaterialize

January 29th, 2010
3:58 pm

Raqi keep encouraging your son with the mathematics and logic. I love to see that.

Dream_n What’s good girl? How you been?

Professor is.....

January 29th, 2010
3:59 pm

Melo,

Is this Queen’s first marriage?

Professor is.....

January 29th, 2010
4:00 pm

You daughters are gonna bring a dude in with his pants on the ground.. Then Im gonna see how you feel when some young dude got his Johnson Hung off in one of your daughters..

Melo, would send his girls home before he allowed that to happen, or at least to Canada somewhere Shoot his daughters may not want an American man especially if they are looking for a powerful man to lead their household…

For Real

January 29th, 2010
4:01 pm

I won’t deny it, I’m a straight ridah
You don’t wanna fuggk with me
Got the police bustin at me
But they can’t do nuttin to a G

DreamsMaterialize

January 29th, 2010
4:01 pm

mytwo if you need someone to roll with on that riesling or 1800, “here I go!”

lurker

January 29th, 2010
4:02 pm

Melo – You daughters are gonna bring a dude in with his pants on the ground.. Then Im gonna see how you feel when some young dude got his Johnson Hung off in one of your daughters..

Okay then…yeah, that trumps my 3:52….talk about clarity but I agree

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
4:03 pm

Everything …………..DreamsM

How’s your side of the world?

Proffessor where you been?

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
4:05 pm

American man especially if they are looking for a powerful man to lead their household…

You betta stop it!! LOL

Professor is.....

January 29th, 2010
4:05 pm

Proffessor where you been?

Lil Mama you know I am here all day everyday for the most part… :grin: Where have you been?

Melo

January 29th, 2010
4:06 pm

At what age will you give your kids permission to marry?
@Proff

After grad school

Is this Queen’s first marriage?…im her first…i broke ground! :lol:

@DK… bring a dude in with his pants on the ground

They know the price of bringing dishonor to the fam…thingis,nobody they know of,thats close,dresses like that.not even their cousins and nephews…so..thats a Big LEAP to bring some body thru my garage,into our kitchen and living room,Like dat!

DreamsMaterialize

January 29th, 2010
4:08 pm

Mo I’m holding it down. Ready to get this weekend started.

Dream_n I’m all good. counting down the minutes and seconds.

Mo (aka Moeisha )

January 29th, 2010
4:08 pm

For Real – im rockin witcha dude…..jammin!!

Infamous – he didnt give you a hard time did he? Cause you know i gotcha back boo. :wink: As long as he gon hook us up (yeah you gets a rang too) then we are cool. He dont wanna ahem…mess with it. lol

Mo (aka Moeisha )

January 29th, 2010
4:09 pm

oh and hey MyTwo!! How are you! Im sitting here trying to decide what my drink for the night shall be as well…..I’ll take that 1800.

Professor is.....

January 29th, 2010
4:10 pm

They know the price of bringing dishonor to the fam… **now, that is deep**

Tazzee - there's nothing better than love

January 29th, 2010
4:10 pm

mytwo – nothing exciting for me this weekend. Might go see Avatar since there’s no football (I’m boycotting the Pro Bowl). With this weather, not much going on tonight.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 29th, 2010
4:12 pm

For Real I got that case of “It ain’t rainin but I shole feel pizzed on” T-shirts ready for pickup. Because you’re such a great customer of mine, I’m going to throw in these wool dizzle mittens in ABSOLUTELY FREE

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
4:12 pm

Melo

January 29th, 2010
4:13 pm

whet heppened to Ms Main..and Grace?

i miss those 2,esp Miss Main Lurker

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
4:13 pm

Counting down the minutes and seconds??? What we got planned? I ain’t dressed yet?

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
4:15 pm

Professor I’m in and out now a days. Today I had more fre time,

DreamsMaterialize

January 29th, 2010
4:16 pm

What we got planned? I ain’t dressed yet? If you ain’t dressed, then you already know what we got planned. ;-)

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
4:18 pm

I set myself up for that one. LOL

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
4:19 pm

I mean so how long this gon be going on till I get that deed?

Professor is.....

January 29th, 2010
4:21 pm

Where is M.dot with all the jokes and voice of reason? Give us a few laughs for the road….

mail call

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
4:21 pm

I was waiting on you to supply the comedy Professor!

I need a good laugh to start this weekend off right.

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
4:22 pm

“They know the price of bringing dishonor to the fam”

Anybody sense The Godfather or Scarface with that sentence?

Professor is.....

January 29th, 2010
4:23 pm

Dream_n, all of my jokes are stale except for my Dan jokes, and I am going to save those for Melo Monday. IMO Dan has had enough today.

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
4:23 pm

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
4:25 pm

Oh that LOL was for Leggs

I feel ya Professor. He did get it today.

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
4:28 pm

Thanks Dream_n!

Good night everyone!

Professor, please close us out…I have to bounce, my ride is leaving.

Professor is.....

January 29th, 2010
4:29 pm

Lol Leggs I did not sense that…I guess because I have friends and in-laws from other parts of the world. In those cultures it is an abomination to disgrace or bring dishonor to the family. I’ve heard stories of those that wanted to do things that would bring dishonor would leave and go to cities several hundred miles away so the family name would not be tarnished (I guess you hope no one finds them while they scrub the ground).

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
4:30 pm

Yea I’m out too..

Be Safe Everyone!!!

DreamsMaterialize

January 29th, 2010
4:31 pm

Dream_n deed? Oh yeah right. Here you go…just for you. I know it still has the Professor’s address on it, but don’t you worry about that. lol

For Real

January 29th, 2010
4:31 pm

Wanna be a — baller, shot caller
Twenty inch blades — on the Impala
A caller gettin laid tonight
Swisher rolled tight, gotta spray my ice
I hit the HIIIGHWAY, making money the FLYYYY WAY
But there’s got to be a BETT-ER WAYY!
A better way, better way, YEAH-AHHHH

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
4:33 pm

@ DreamsM

Aww hell naw…. LMAO!!!

@ For Real: That was my ish!!!

Melo

January 29th, 2010
4:34 pm

Anybody sense The Godfather or Scarface with that sentence?

I neva watched any of those…..

If i(parents) dont bless the dghetr’s marriage,the union is derogatively called,”cooking pots”(loose transltion) in our Zulu culture.

No worse shame u can ever have bestowed on u,for a female!

Professor is.....

January 29th, 2010
4:34 pm

Professor stepping up to the mike…to let the blog family know that it is not always about getting even. On behalf of Leggs let this quote by Kahlil Gibran hold you down until Monday!

An eye for an eye, and the whole world would be blind.
~Kahlil Gibran

Mo (aka Moeisha )

January 29th, 2010
4:35 pm

Alright ya’ll, im out as well! Off to start my weekend!

Ya’ll be easy and be careful! Have a great evening and weekend!

:0)

DreamsMaterialize

January 29th, 2010
4:37 pm

hope no one finds them while they scrub the ground You mean the dance? lol “lemme hear ya say sccccccccrub the ground! Now dip baby dip. Cmon now dip baby dip.”

Professor is.....

January 29th, 2010
4:38 pm

Dang DreamsM, why did I start moving when I read the words to that song? Okay it is time to dip baby dip as in taking my boo-tay home!

…stepping out!

Night-night!

mytw♥cents... maybe even marcasite

January 29th, 2010
4:57 pm

Hey LEGGS/MO/TAZZ/DREAMS ‘nem. I’m good, just so ready for my drank! I’m a woman of the people so sounds like Tequila shots to set this weekend off. We gotta watch it, Mo. Dreams gonna swap out that 1800 for Don Julio when we ain’t lookin. And Leggs might see it, but she’ll let him! Now which watering hole…

P.S. Taz, just channel your Hawaiian Pro Bowl excursion to buffer the pain :)

Runaway Fiancee

January 30th, 2010
2:18 pm

I have been engaged three times and have all the rings. Each time, the ring was bigger.

ditzytracy

February 1st, 2010
8:18 am

When i received my engagement ring i was so happy with the man , The ring isnt one i would of picked out . It isnt heidiously expensive , but my man took time and bought what he thought i would love . Thats what means the most to me ..As far as a wedding i wont spend a fortune ,I had a white wedding the first time and did it under a thousand dollars dress included . This time it will be friends family and fun …

Heather

February 1st, 2010
8:24 pm

A woman who gets too concerned about a ring is entirely too materialistic. My husband didn’t buy me a ring, but an engagement bicycle, because he knows I have no use for rings and would prefer something practical and fun. If he’s going to spend several thousand dollars, I want something more than shiny!

Anyhow, the ring is supposed to be symbolic. If you find yourself more concerned with the material object than the proposal, you’re marrying the wrong person.