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Ring Barrier

Getting engaged should be an exciting and happy experience. The woman has the easy part, she just has to be happy and say yes. The gentleman, however, has to navigate all that comes with proposing. Talking to the parents (if he so desires), plotting out the proposal plans, and ring shopping.

I didn’t realize how much guys worry about engagement rings. A friend of mine said that he did not want to disappoint his girlfriend so he made sure to get her sister involved. My co-worker said that his wife didn’t like the engagement ring he selected and she told him as much.  They nearly broke up because of it.  I know of another couple who delayed their engagement until they could afford the ring she they wanted.

Perhaps I just don’t get it,  but what is it about rings that can cause so much stress? It’s supposed to just be a symbol of a couple’s love and commitment, isn’t it?

Have you ever had a ring cause a breakup? What is the “proper” etiquette for women who receive rings they don’t like? What do you think men should spend on engagement rings?

What happens to the ring if the wedding is called off? Do you think the ring should matter as much as it does?

407 comments Add your comment

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
3:02 pm

@ SexyCool – Mayne, forget what Melo talkin about. Freeman is nasty…

SexyCool

January 29th, 2010
3:02 pm

I want to buy a house that has room for me to plant a small garden so that I can have some fresh vegetables.

Sybil

January 29th, 2010
3:03 pm

But can’t punctuate worth a damn.

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
3:03 pm

So, the synopsis here is “Dan is DTM”…. YEP!

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
3:03 pm

Okay, Dan. You caught the humor. LOL

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
3:04 pm

Good news (depending on your political affiliation);

Word has it that BHO ‘pwned’ some Republicans – live via C-span and CNN – in a question and answer session at their meeting.

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
3:06 pm

I want some ‘tater chips…some cheese doodles at that.

Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)

January 29th, 2010
3:07 pm

Hmmm….it’s gonna rain tonight…a FRIDAY NIGHT…what to do???

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
3:08 pm

SexyCool, having a garden is nice. I grow my some stuff myself. I don’t know about this upcoming Spring though. I can get time consuming the baby is getting to that age that you have to keep an eye on her.

PRINCESSNIK

January 29th, 2010
3:10 pm

CeeMee, cheese doodles are not ‘tater chips LOL they are in a category all their own

SexyCool

January 29th, 2010
3:10 pm

Sassy – you know what I’m thinking….:D

Mr. Lurker ( B.K.A. 007)

January 29th, 2010
3:11 pm

Ms. lurker how are you doing today? Are you going to celebrate for your promotion?

Regarding rings…Once you leave the store the value drops signicantly so it regardless who keeps the ring it will be counted as a lost investment!

With a 50 percent divorce rate it would seem we need to work on putting more time and effort to make a marriage work, instead of all the time many of you have invested in planning a wedding!

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
3:11 pm

Cheese Doodles= Hot Cheetos ??

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
3:11 pm

Sassy go out and get wet. Or stay home and get “wet”. LOL

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
3:11 pm

Goodness, Raqi….hey Dan, that deserved a :lol: :lol: :lol:

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
3:12 pm

@Melo

I’m not attempting to speak ‘above’ anyone, it’s the way my mind works. It’s not done to embrass or insult anyone, and people that know me well know that.

My upbringing aside – and I’ll thank you to leave it there -, I read manuals for fun (to find out how things work). I’ve had a library card since age 5. I got kicked out of kindergarten for being upset that the other kids couldn’t read (<–true story).

I can't explain why I literally yearn to know stuff, I just do. And if that makes my coversations and word choice strange, fine by me.

But what I won't do, is spend extra time frustrating myself in an attempt to relate, like or don't; I truly don't care.

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
3:14 pm

@ Princess – Oh…girl, i use to eat my baby’s cheese doodles up when he’d take a nap. I havn’t had those things in years…..

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
3:15 pm

I’ll make you one out of the deed to the house I just bought.

My kinda ring!! LOL

DreamsMaterialize

January 29th, 2010
3:15 pm

Whew, you guys didn’t start the topic yet did you?

A man wants his wife to have THE BEST, without you ever saying a word to influence it, but as soon as you do say a word or we feel that you think it’s just your rite, then we immediately think a little less of you. With that said… You want a ring? I’ll make you one out of the deed to the house I just bought. Now put that on your finger and show it to your friends.

And ya’ll quit messing with Dan.

SexyCool

January 29th, 2010
3:18 pm

You put me ON the deed and we are really cooking with butta!!!

Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)

January 29th, 2010
3:18 pm

you know what I’m thinking…go out and get wet. Or stay home and get “wet”

iRaq and SessyCool the last time I did that dude said I bit him and made his stomach hurt(jumpin up n down on him/it) and he LOVED it(no tadpoles in the ute,though I don’t do that) soo who knows. I actually thought about going to the movies to see “Legion”, it looks kinda interesting.

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
3:19 pm

WTH? Forget being a teacher… I think my calling is to be a psychic.

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
3:19 pm

Mason wants to go see The Book of Eli tonight. It depends on if we can get like a 9:00 showing not too far from home. We are having dinner at home and will go out to get some coffee and dessert somewhere and then to see the movie.

Has anyone seen this one yet? Is it worth seeing?

Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)

January 29th, 2010
3:21 pm

And ya’ll quit messing with Dan.

We’s just playin’….don’t get your ascot in a bunch…K? :)

DreamsMaterialize

January 29th, 2010
3:22 pm

Wouldn’t think of leaving my wife’s name off the deed. Aiight now Sassy, I don’t even wear an ascot. Now, do I do sudoku puzzles and math and logic brain teasers? You know it.

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
3:22 pm

@ Dreams – I didn’t think we’d be on the ring thing by now anyway….this a man topic? too much skress…i though we were going to clown Melo today.

Melo

January 29th, 2010
3:23 pm

CEE..

OH i read that Morgan Non Story..

Its a Non Story…its actually better than I thoght.

Morgans’ wang is absolved…..Not Blood…

The magazine pple are just jealous and stupid…

he looking cool too in those glasses :lol:

Now I watched Morgan ’s new movie based on South Africa over the MLK holidays,,whats the name..im so bad..it was really touching..

Morgan is My Hero… :-)

Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)

January 29th, 2010
3:24 pm

The Book of Eli looks interesting,too. I forgot about that one….

Denzeeeel….(said in my Whitley coice).

Mo (aka Moeisha )

January 29th, 2010
3:24 pm

TGIF!! Hey err’body!!

So what are we talking about now? :o )

DreamsMaterialize

January 29th, 2010
3:26 pm

Mo you must have pulled up right behind me in the blog parking lot. lol How you doin today?

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
3:27 pm

saw the fisrt 30 minutes and fell asleep. Maybe I was tired. My sister liked it, but my mom and dad didnt.

Honestly I dont reccomend it.

For Real

January 29th, 2010
3:28 pm

Wake up wake up wake up, It’s the 1st of the month
Get up get up get up, So cash your checks and come up

Wake up wake up wake up, It’s the 1st of the month
Get up get up get up, So cash your checks and come up

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
3:29 pm

Come on Melo

Your ex wife’s grandaughter (correct me if I’m wrong)?????
And you see absolutely nothing wrong with that. I mean to each its own, but I’m entitled to an opinion. And that is IMO not kool.

Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)

January 29th, 2010
3:29 pm

I don’t even wear an ascot. Now, do I do sudoku puzzles and math and logic brain teasers? You know it.

DreamsMat that’s what’s up…lol

Have a good weekend y’all.

For Real

January 29th, 2010
3:30 pm

Straight out of Compton! Crazy mofoer named Ice Cube!
From the gang called Figgers with Attitudes!
When I’m called off, I got a saw off!
Squeeze the trigger, & bodies are hauled off!

SexyCool

January 29th, 2010
3:32 pm

I put Morgan in the same dirty old man category as I do Hugh Hefner.

Tazzee - there's nothing better than love

January 29th, 2010
3:32 pm

Raqi – I loved The Book of Eli. It’s not the action flick the previews make it to be – it is a spiritual movie. That one is going in my personal collection when it comes out on DVD.

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
3:33 pm

DreamsMat, my son loves doing the sudoku puzzles and when I check his web usage he has tons of IQ test and brainteaser type sites in his history.

Dan - my invented truth

January 29th, 2010
3:33 pm

@All

For Real (no pun intended) y’all be careful out there tonite.

It’s the 1st but the streets is still hungry.

Stay safe and stay thirsty my friends

Melo

January 29th, 2010
3:35 pm

Did u say ex wife’s ???

If we ex,we ex…anybody else,as long as they’re not my blood or the products of my ex and I ,are qualified to luv me,her nieces,her sister,her auntie etc…..

I dont even see why the hulah baloo about..

My ex’s big or young sister is fair game!

There is no Biggie here..

For Real

January 29th, 2010
3:35 pm

Who the fuggk is this? Pagin me at 5:46
in the mornin, crack of dawn an’
now I’m yawnin – wipe the cold out my eye
See who’s this pagin me – and why

Raqi

January 29th, 2010
3:37 pm

Thanks Tazzee.

(Note to self: Spiritual Movie, No fooling around while watching The Book of Eli)

lurker

January 29th, 2010
3:39 pm

OMG OMG….ya’ll are clowning Dapper Dan…tooo funny. Good thing he’s a good sport about it. That’s says a lot

Dream_n

January 29th, 2010
3:40 pm

Melo

See your 3:35 contradicts what you’ve expressed in the past.

RAqi no disrespect..Aint tryna start anything. But the dbl standard is a mutha.

Didnt you tell Raqi that she should say a prayer everyday for being with her ex husbands best friend. But yet Morgan (a man) is exempt from the same advice.

I mean this girl prolly came over for family gatherings. This is her grandmothers ex husband we’re talking about.

But oh it’s okay cause he’s a man right?

Leggs

January 29th, 2010
3:43 pm

and we bet not hear any crickets, Mr. Melo!

PRINCESSNIK

January 29th, 2010
3:46 pm

I’m out ya’ll gotta help princess2 get ready for the father/daughter dance at school tonight

Melo

January 29th, 2010
3:47 pm

Dream_n what i say in the past?

I think u confusing what i might have respect for and not do with whats taboo..

That relationship is not incestous…wld i do it if it were me…

Thats where u confused!

U know,me.i aint so short of puddsy to phluck where i spit,then turn around and phluck again next to it, and see my spit again in few minutes…naw..that aint me..

BUT Morgan wanna do it,deal with grand dgther of ex then go to family outing and meet ex..thats on Morgan.

It aint Taboo as such!

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
3:48 pm

@ Melo – So you wouldn’t mind when your daughters become of age 17 or 18(thats bout right)i notice from your sharing about them you want some kept daughters…one of them starts dating and have a relation with your sister’s ex husband?

Watch that now….

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 29th, 2010
3:49 pm

Ya’ll Get up off Dan now.. I cant sit around and let ya’ll get my guy for writing so Purdy..

Cemeeli

January 29th, 2010
3:49 pm

oh shoot…it’s time to go….ya’ll enjoy a good one tonight.

~Be easy.