The Tipping Point
It is so easy to get stuck in a relationship that is not going anywhere. Trust me, it happens all the time, even when you have said that you aren’t “dating just to be dating”. Somehow complacency sets in, red flags get ignored, and before long you both reach your tipping point.
When a new romance reaches its tipping point, one or both of you are faced with choices to make. You can communicate and express your needs and desires to redefine your connection, or you can cut your losses and move on.
The tricky part (to me) is figuring out when to salvage the relationship and when to chuck the deuces and move on. When there are no major hurdles for you to cross, shouldn’t you want to work out personality clashes?
Is it possible that reaching a “tipping point” is just another relationship milestone to reach? Don’t some couples go through it and come out stronger than they were before?
Have you ever dated someone and things were going “alright”, but just got a little stagnant? How did you figure out if you would invest more time and effort? How do you know when it’s worth putting in the work?
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Lady J
January 28th, 2010
3:08 pm
Ok headed to Argosy University in Dunwoody to turn in my Admissions packet!!! Thankful for the great motivation today!!!! Enjoy your evening folks! I gots to get my MA before 35 I put it off long enough…..lol Peace!
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
3:08 pm
@ Sassy – The between the ribshack and the carwash i don’t know who was seen more. Me and Cynt and ‘nem, or Big Boi and Ceelo…the borhters ate good and washed cars….it was so funny.
Lady J
January 28th, 2010
3:09 pm
State is more than a party school Mo but i gots you the BEST homecoming EVER!!!!!!!:)
DreamsMaterialize
January 28th, 2010
3:10 pm
Yeah I know about that SC State too. My cousin went there.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
January 28th, 2010
3:10 pm
Dreams – I HATED that daggone tunnel! And yes, Norfolk was country ghetto with a Naval base added in! That whole tidewater area was something else!
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
3:11 pm
“how were you “kinda sitll in high school” either you were or you were not”
@Princess – I am crakin’UP at you.
Leggs you too.
Beautiful
January 28th, 2010
3:11 pm
jus seeing wussup!
Melo
January 28th, 2010
3:12 pm
(lawd all that ocean/bayfront water made me a bad girl…hehehehe).
uuughhh hu!
(u filled and send in ur census papers from yesterday MO?)
Mo (aka Moeisha)
January 28th, 2010
3:13 pm
Infamous – you are right, hence why I sent the kiss your way.
While we are in S.Dekalb I need to get a pretzel also.
DreamsMaterialize
January 28th, 2010
3:13 pm
we hit all them schools. Tennessee State, Fisk, ‘Skeegee (TeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeUuuuuuuu!). But what ya’ll know about Bayou Classic in the NO? Whewwwww!
PRINCESSNIK
January 28th, 2010
3:15 pm
@ Dreams I don’t care what anybody says the HBCU experience is one that cannot be matched WHICHEVER one you attended/vistited.
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
3:16 pm
@ Dreams – Hooters was there forever. Is it still in Underground?
Mo (aka Moeisha )
January 28th, 2010
3:17 pm
Melo – whet?
PRINCESSNIK – co-signing that 315!!
Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)
January 28th, 2010
3:19 pm
what you know bout that merita !
Shyyd Princess back in the day you know that’s all we had….but why did the sammich seem to taste better after we smushed it together. Speaking of sammiches umm Willie you got any “poke chop sammiches”. Wow that just made me think about Ms. Annes ghetto burger.
I see you CeeMee and Cynt and ‘nem…lol.
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
3:20 pm
btw – Mo I looooooveee Hampton’s campus. Love it!
and Howard too. The way the party is different though in DC. They like house musci.
DreamsMaterialize
January 28th, 2010
3:21 pm
Cemeeli naw it’s not there anymore. They moved it to Peachtree, across from the Hard Rock Cafe. That one isn’t bad either, but still not like the one in the underground. Now the fellas might wanna check out this new spot called the Tilted Kilt…puts Hooters to shame.
Leggs
January 28th, 2010
3:22 pm
@Ms. Cee ~ this talk is making me want to grab my yellow and white shawl that took me 2 months to crochet, get on my houveround and mosey on down the road!
Dan - my invented truth
January 28th, 2010
3:23 pm
I was enrolled in High School
But me, school, and the streets were doing the Hokey Pokey.
@Mo
I told you about my affinity for older women
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
3:23 pm
“grab my yellow and white shawl that took me 2 months to crochet, get on my houveround and mosey on down the road!”
Oh lawd! got me! i’m done.
Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)
January 28th, 2010
3:25 pm
But what ya’ll know about Bayou Classic in the NO?
Lawd..lawd…lawd. For a while I just knew somehow my momma was gonna find out what I did those years I begged her to let me go….the dabauchery….the a-a-a-a-a-lcohol
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
3:25 pm
@ Leggs – You know what this old school stuff makes me think? …in one sentence.
….He don’ brought me a mighty long way….
Melo
January 28th, 2010
3:25 pm
@PRINCESSNIK/MO/CEE
I wldnt want my gerlz or my boy to go to an HBCU but ill sure urge my boy to go party with them students ova there,for an out an out good exshperience..
must be fun,if uall are to be believed!
Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)
January 28th, 2010
3:26 pm
this talk is making me want to grab my yellow and white shawl that took me 2 months to crochet, get on my houveround and mosey on down the road!
Alright now keep in mind there’s a 3 mph limit on those things
PRINCESSNIK
January 28th, 2010
3:27 pm
this talk is making me want to grab my yellow and white shawl that took me 2 months to crochet, get on my houveround and mosey on down the road!
Oh my!
Mo (aka Moeisha )
January 28th, 2010
3:27 pm
Dan – lol, okay Mr West End
Cemeeli – I love that campus too and your right, alot of house and go-go up there in DC! Mighty long way indeed!
Leggs
January 28th, 2010
3:28 pm
….He don’ brought me a mighty long way….
That’s a very nice summation!
I know we all can look back in amazement that we even got out alive over half the stuff we knowingly walked into! WE HAD FUN!
PRINCESSNIK
January 28th, 2010
3:31 pm
@ Melo I wldnt want my gerlz or my boy to go to an HBCU but ill sure urge my boy to go party with them students ova there,for an out an out good exshperience..
don’t believe the negativity!
And don’t get it twisted it wasn’t all partying, I graduated with honors and with the 2nd highest GPA in my major.
Melo
January 28th, 2010
3:31 pm
I graduated with honors and with the 2nd highest GPA in my major.
@PRINCESSNIK
and thats the thing I observbed back in college,the gerlz that partied and were debauchered the most,had brains too…!
DreamsMaterialize
January 28th, 2010
3:33 pm
I wldnt want my gerlz or my boy to go to an HBCU
Mine generally don’t have a choice. I tell my son “You can go where you want, but the check is going to Morehouse”. My dad told me the same thing. My daughter has just a little more flexibility.
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
3:34 pm
@Melo – My lad DOES NOT want to attend an HBCU. Now one of his teachers is a Morehouse Man (for some reason that MM is a mantra)…anyway he enjoys his teacher’s HBCU stories. But if you ask him where he’s going he speaks Duke.
PRINCESSNIK
January 28th, 2010
3:38 pm
@melo : and thats the thing I observbed back in college,the gerlz that partied and were debauchered the most,had brains too…!
I’ll give you that, but i wasn’t one of those gerlz, but i sure knew some i always wondered how they kept their gpa up when their legz were open all night everynight
Dan - my invented truth
January 28th, 2010
3:39 pm
@Dreams
Thazzzz Riiight.
Dan - my invented truth
January 28th, 2010
3:41 pm
@Melo/Cee
Do you best to visit the schools before sending them off; Duke is a shock to most people (specifically, us).
@Mo
That’s Mr. SW Atlanta….
lurker
January 28th, 2010
3:41 pm
Who said Freaknic?
Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)
January 28th, 2010
3:41 pm
I know we all can look back in amazement that we even got out alive over half the stuff we knowingly walked into! WE HAD FUN!
Yessiirrr!!!
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
3:45 pm
@ Dan – The closest he’s been to Duke is Wake Forest (i have fam in NC)…and that visit he was 8yp. He’s only 10…we got time to talk him down…lol i kid.
I support/encourage whatever choice…
Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)
January 28th, 2010
3:45 pm
Lurker Willie D started it when he was tryna sell one of his Vintage Freaknic ‘95 shirts…he only had two though
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
3:48 pm
Who was Mayor during freaknic 95 or 96? I remember a News interview and the Mayor was shoooocked at all the people that came to Atlanta.
lurker
January 28th, 2010
3:48 pm
Willie D started it when he was tryna sell one of his Vintage Freaknic ‘95 shirts…he only had two though
I’m take one for old times sake
lurker
January 28th, 2010
3:50 pm
Mayor was shoooocked at all the people
So was my mama. She wanted to call the police. LOL
DreamsMaterialize
January 28th, 2010
3:50 pm
It was Bill Campbell. He destroyed it after 95.
Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)
January 28th, 2010
3:51 pm
Who was Mayor during freaknic 95 or 96?
Wasn’t it Bill Campbell CeeMee ?
Leggs
January 28th, 2010
3:52 pm
Andrew Young was the mayor!
Mo (aka Moeisha )
January 28th, 2010
3:52 pm
alright ya’ll Im out! This stroll down memory lane has been fun!
Ya’ll be easy!
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
3:52 pm
@ Lurker – lol…O.k.! that’s right ma.
My mamma bbq’d for me and all my friends come over and hung out. She just wanted us to be safe.
Leggs
January 28th, 2010
3:53 pm
You’re right SassyMe. I forgot all about his greedy behind.
PRINCESSNIK
January 28th, 2010
3:55 pm
Deuces ya’ll, i’m going to put in my kilo cd for the ride home and continue the stroll down memory lane LOL
Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)
January 28th, 2010
3:55 pm
He destroyed it after 95.
He damn sure did
Read y’all tomorrow…peace.
lurker
January 28th, 2010
3:56 pm
@ Lurker – lol…O.k.! that’s right ma.
Girrrrrl, I won’t even speak on it.
Professor is.....
January 28th, 2010
3:57 pm
Bill Campbell in 95
Andrew Young 80’s
Maynard Jackson before them R.I.P