The Tipping Point
It is so easy to get stuck in a relationship that is not going anywhere. Trust me, it happens all the time, even when you have said that you aren’t “dating just to be dating”. Somehow complacency sets in, red flags get ignored, and before long you both reach your tipping point.
When a new romance reaches its tipping point, one or both of you are faced with choices to make. You can communicate and express your needs and desires to redefine your connection, or you can cut your losses and move on.
The tricky part (to me) is figuring out when to salvage the relationship and when to chuck the deuces and move on. When there are no major hurdles for you to cross, shouldn’t you want to work out personality clashes?
Is it possible that reaching a “tipping point” is just another relationship milestone to reach? Don’t some couples go through it and come out stronger than they were before?
Have you ever dated someone and things were going “alright”, but just got a little stagnant? How did you figure out if you would invest more time and effort? How do you know when it’s worth putting in the work?
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PRINCESSNIK
January 28th, 2010
2:43 pm
@ CEE: Benedict? oh, okay. You came and hollered at us country Savannah State folks, hunh?
Yea BC is an HBCU also, right across the street from Allen University and down the block from Univ of S.C. We made our rounds around the local HBCU circuit LOL
Mo (aka Moeisha)
January 28th, 2010
2:43 pm
Dan – cosigning that about Freaknic ‘95 (hell ‘94 too). I did the VA Beach Greek Parties and the one in Philly. Still nothing on Freaknic ‘95
Infamous – I was a regular at Atlanta Live when I was home! LOL
Lady J – I did Daytona too and I made it through sober. I cant say the same for the HU vs HU game (Howard vs Hampton), NC A&T’s homecoming and a few other road trips. LMAO! WHEW!
Lady J
January 28th, 2010
2:44 pm
@PRINCESSNIK I am a proud SCSU Bulldog Alumni!!!!!!:)
Leggs
January 28th, 2010
2:44 pm
Lol, a long time! Went to Atlanta Live. I remember “Lite Up Atlanta” where throngs and throngs of folk were in the streets. Didn’t know Altanta had it in them. We had fun.
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
2:44 pm
@LadyJ – yeah I was, and will always be a lame. Daytona was my very first tipsy, i think. Well my girls got wine coolers and boones farm…and we drinking like we some debutantes.
funny now. One of my homegirls we called her waht the kids call “Oreos” nowadays…she to this day is still like that. So whiteboy silly, and she still smokes…I think it was from her working in Spencers during those days. lol
PRINCESSNIK
January 28th, 2010
2:45 pm
@ Lady J, I had some good times at SCSU also, and Clafflin too
Dan - my invented truth
January 28th, 2010
2:45 pm
@Luvbug
I think so, late Saturday night. All you could see was the lights flashing and maybe a few folks got interviewed.
While Atlanta Live was straight, the 112 (off Old NatL) was the best.
@Slim
Watchoutshawty
Lady J
January 28th, 2010
2:47 pm
cee cee I promise it was my first time drunk and i thought they would have to call my mom bc i wouldn’t stop throwing up but I recovered….lol and NEVER went back LAME is an understatement I do regret never just seeing what freaknic was about….lol but the stories and being from sc by myrtle beach it reminds me of bike week….
yes PRINCESSNIK SCSU has great memories all the way around….my best days of my life were in college!!!!
DreamsMaterialize
January 28th, 2010
2:48 pm
Awwwww shooot, ya’ll talkin’ ’bout the real A. 559 was off the chains. Or Club Illusions on campbellton rd., mardi gras at fat tuesdays in the underground., Nikki’s VIP on stewart, when lenox mall had a movie theatre
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 28th, 2010
2:50 pm
Dreams Mat – I’ll take you back a lil further.. Purple Onion on Stewart..
SlimOne...just call me Nicety!
January 28th, 2010
2:50 pm
Mirror mirror on the wall
Tell me mirror what is wrong?
Can it be my DeLA clothes
Or is it just my Dela Soul
What I do ain’t make believe
People say I sit and try
But when it comes to being Dela
Its just me, myself and I
Lady J
January 28th, 2010
2:51 pm
DreamsM in the 559 was my first time seeing a star up close Da Brat of course was holding it down!!!!!! LOL
Willie Dynamite
January 28th, 2010
2:51 pm
Afternoon All,
Dayum did I walk into Throwback Thursday or what. Alright just for today going for the low I got 2 vintage 95 freaknic T-shirts. who want 1?
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
2:52 pm
mardi gras at fat tuesdays in the underground – Oh yeah. and Hooters.
@ LadyJ – I thank GOD he watched over our silliness then, and now. I just never like the way that felt…I feel you.
@ BikeWeek – Very cool. I don’t remember why we went though. Lots of jsut riding around.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
January 28th, 2010
2:52 pm
Dreams – Fat Tuesdays on piedmont as well! And I totally for that Lenox did have a movie theater!
Melo
January 28th, 2010
2:53 pm
ummmm, you have “business” over there?
CEE..one of my home boys was married to this fat afr/american chic back in the day and they lived on Martin luther kind dr, ova there on the west side…told me 559 was off da meter…
I know Ritz on old nat hwy was popping some time back in da day,dont know ’bout now…
112 on cheshire
atlanta live on piedmont
I used to go to glenridge at that hood club but one time,smebody almost popped their gun,while having an argument,when we were in line to get in and we ran for cover ….
I neva went to a hood club after that,till now.
I remember meeting Monica back there in the hood on time.
PRINCESSNIK
January 28th, 2010
2:53 pm
@ Lady J ….my best days of my life were in college!!!!
being from sc by myrtle beach it reminds me of bike week….
Yes Lawd! Going “away” to school was the best decision i could have made. I grew up 15 minutes from FVSU and am so glad i chose to attend elsewhere. Bike Week, i don’t even have to say anything you already know!
Mo (aka Moeisha)
January 28th, 2010
2:54 pm
meant forgot that Lenox has a movie theater!
And I never went INSIDE of 559. I couldnt see enough entrances and exits so I stayed in the parking lot…..til a guy got pissed that I wouldnt give him my number and threw his drink at me (yes threw his drink at me…my 2nd and last time at the fi-fi-ni)
Dan - my invented truth
January 28th, 2010
2:54 pm
Wait, y’all were in college….dag I’m young…
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
2:56 pm
@ WillieD – You got any rib sandwhiches to throw in the back seat of the bowling ball purple Cutlass you rollin in over there? lol
DreamsMaterialize
January 28th, 2010
2:56 pm
Not the Purple Onion! Freaknic, Daytona, Myrtle Beach Bike Week, NC A&T homecoming, Playas Ball, Virginia Beach, I even did Freezenik Ski weekend in Gatlinburg…WHAT!
PRINCESSNIK
January 28th, 2010
2:56 pm
Dan where you in middle school?
Lady J
January 28th, 2010
2:57 pm
mo don’t act I had a GREAT time in the 559 and ain’t nobody bother us!!!!! LOL!!!!!
Dan - my invented truth
January 28th, 2010
2:57 pm
Princess
High Schoolish
PRINCESSNIK
January 28th, 2010
2:57 pm
@ Dan now i was in h.s. in 95……..don’t age me LOL
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 28th, 2010
2:57 pm
Mo – Im throwing my drink at you cause all my requests/come ons have been ignored.
Dream_n
January 28th, 2010
2:57 pm
@ Willie D
I’on know what the “freaknic” was about… and judging by the name I can only imagine.
But how much them t-shirts going for??
@ Dan.. Sorry bruh you are not young.
Lady J
January 28th, 2010
2:57 pm
LMBAO I thought he said he was 30 one time PRINCESSNIK so he would have been in college too….lmao @ you PRINCESSNIK
PRINCESSNIK
January 28th, 2010
2:58 pm
high school ish, would that be 8th grade
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
2:59 pm
@ Melo – Yeah, you beeeen an ATLien for a minute.
The woooorsstest hood spot me and a friend ever spent the worst 5 minutes of our life was at SpeakEazy. Her brother had to use her car and we had to go in to find him OMYGAH!
Lady J
January 28th, 2010
2:59 pm
yeah hs in 95 grad high school in 97 grad college in ‘01 means I would have been born in ‘79 and i am soooooooooo HAPPY TO BE 30 baby!!!!! Anticipating 31 gracefully!!!! Time is on my side! Ha! lol
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 28th, 2010
2:59 pm
Cee – Ok Ive been actually looking for a 84 Regal… I want a clean one just to kick it in.
Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)
January 28th, 2010
3:00 pm
Alright just for today going for the low I got 2 vintage 95 freaknic T-shirts. who want 1?
Man do I remember my first Freaknic up all and thru the AUC and getting stuck in the best traffic jams ever. Those were the daaaaayzz
Dreams that 2:48 is what’s up. I remember my first time at the 559….I was new to the “A” and the whole night all I was like
Dan - my invented truth
January 28th, 2010
3:00 pm
Lady J
I am 31.
In 1995 I was kinda still in high school but went to a Freaknik (<–spell it right) set at the OMNI hotel
PRINCESSNIK
January 28th, 2010
3:00 pm
@Lady J, same here! we probably ran into each other in O’burg a couple of time LOL
Leggs
January 28th, 2010
3:00 pm
Duggan’s on Ponce was the hot spot for a long time after we finished clubbing!
Melo
January 28th, 2010
3:00 pm
my best days of my life were in college!!!!
@Lady J
now there, i agree..
U drank in college?? im surprised esp when i look at u now..
But college days were my best ever as well,back at home……
And i didnt drink beer….!
Just music,soccer and the V!
DreamsMaterialize
January 28th, 2010
3:01 pm
Oh yeah. and Hooters.
Don’t even talk about that Hooters in the underground. It was off the chains. might could mess around and get a lap dance from the girls working in there. think some of em got off work and went to Magic or the Gentleman’s club. lol
And the 559 parking lot would be crackin after it let out.
PRINCESSNIK
January 28th, 2010
3:02 pm
@ Dan how were you “kinda sitll in high school” either you were or you were not, and at 31 you got me beat LOL
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 28th, 2010
3:02 pm
Of course Tuskegee was the best days of my life
Mo (aka Moeisha)
January 28th, 2010
3:02 pm
Infamous – now I thought you had love for the ‘resident 5 footah’?!?! C’mon dont do me like that. here’s a kiss….MMMUAH!!
Dan – you were in high school in ‘95? I was a sophmore in college…..
Lady J – had a many a good time at ole Hampton U (lawd all that ocean/bayfront water made me a bad girl…hehehehe). Va Beach, Norfolk Live, Ebony Showcase….hanging at Norfolk St, then riding to VA State (and making sure my big brother didnt see me)..WHEW!!
Leggs
January 28th, 2010
3:03 pm
koff, koff, in ‘95 I was in my first house!
Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)
January 28th, 2010
3:03 pm
You got any rib sandwhiches to throw in the back seat of the bowling ball purple Cutlass you rollin in over there?
And make sure you use that Merita white bread….you know the kind that gets all sticky from the juice/grease once we mash it together…lol
Willie Dynamite
January 28th, 2010
3:04 pm
Similac – how’d you know that. 1980 Cutlass Supreme sittin on dem 30’s and Vogues. Ahhh memories.
Dream_N – Come on ovah here with me and we can um discuss/negotiate and I’ll let you know what Freaknic was all about.
Lady J
January 28th, 2010
3:04 pm
Dan thought we were close in age but I never got to GA then it wasn’t until I left home…..got you dude where did you do undergrad…MO lov ya for HBCU but we don’t do no HAMPTON U!!!!! LOL
Melo you are funny!!!!!
Mo (aka Moeisha)
January 28th, 2010
3:05 pm
Lady J – my BFF went to SCSU as well so I made a homecoming or two there as well. All the drankin and err um…..smo(cough)kin…..LOL. Had a blast….oh we hell that was at Hampton too!
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
3:05 pm
@ Infamous – I was and old school car junkie. Cain’t roll up at JJs Ribshack and holler at Tiny in something new, she’d look at me sideways.
DreamsMaterialize
January 28th, 2010
3:05 pm
Awwwww I forgot about Hampton, Norfolk, Virginia beach area. Norfolk was NOOOO joke…country ghetto. lol Got stuck in the tunnel one time cause some folks got to shootin in the tunnel. I was like, are you REALLY serious…in the tunnel?
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 28th, 2010
3:06 pm
Mo – well D@mn I done asked you to meet me at the pawn shop. Its ok I can step my game up.. Meet me at the jewelry shop in South Dekalb..
PRINCESSNIK
January 28th, 2010
3:07 pm
@ sassy And make sure you use that Merita white bread
what you know bout that merita !