The Tipping Point
It is so easy to get stuck in a relationship that is not going anywhere. Trust me, it happens all the time, even when you have said that you aren’t “dating just to be dating”. Somehow complacency sets in, red flags get ignored, and before long you both reach your tipping point.
When a new romance reaches its tipping point, one or both of you are faced with choices to make. You can communicate and express your needs and desires to redefine your connection, or you can cut your losses and move on.
The tricky part (to me) is figuring out when to salvage the relationship and when to chuck the deuces and move on. When there are no major hurdles for you to cross, shouldn’t you want to work out personality clashes?
Is it possible that reaching a “tipping point” is just another relationship milestone to reach? Don’t some couples go through it and come out stronger than they were before?
Have you ever dated someone and things were going “alright”, but just got a little stagnant? How did you figure out if you would invest more time and effort? How do you know when it’s worth putting in the work?
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Dan - my invented truth
January 28th, 2010
2:10 pm
Beating on the lunchroom tables
Yeek
Instant dance offs
Yeek
Rap battles that ended when the bell rang
Yeek
and the invention (at Harper High School) of the “Bankhead Bounce”
Luvbug
January 28th, 2010
2:14 pm
Cemeeli – most girl’s popcorn waves looked just like popcorn too…straight crusty. Those required a special skill/stylist.
Dan - my invented truth
January 28th, 2010
2:14 pm
@Melo
Yes, $50-$100K
Mo (aka Moeisha)
January 28th, 2010
2:15 pm
DK – NOT THE HERRINGBONE!! OMG!! ROTFLMAO @ the Big Worm Perm…
Cemeeli – yep, popcorn waves…..the memories!
czBrat... proud new grand-auntie!
January 28th, 2010
2:19 pm
ya’ll are funny. got me picturing a bunch of random faces in those ‘yearbook yourself’ pics on facebook.
Dream_n
January 28th, 2010
2:19 pm
What the he!! did I just walk into. Confessions of 1960/70 babies…
LMAO
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 28th, 2010
2:20 pm
Awww Ya’ll better know it.. My whole dope boy crew had perms. We would make sure we had that bounce to them curls.. Wow! That ish is funny as I sit here and type it.. DJ Quik didnt have nothing on me..
Cee – You remember when your Rocky Ford Homies had the perms..
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
2:21 pm
Luvbug – You tombout my Auntie ‘nem popcorn waves and all that black gel i put on their heads to make it stay “tight” longer? and crusty….hahahaha…lol
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
2:23 pm
@ Infamous – Stop! Do you remember the Players Balls?
oh, and i had me a fat FAT herringbone to go with my anklet …yep, it was a set. I had a rope set too.
Boy, you better gone….
Leggs
January 28th, 2010
2:23 pm
I always wanted a herringbone, but they did kink up quickly.
112 was the joint back in the date…sorry, we’re talking an entire different generation of folk. I almost forgot!
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 28th, 2010
2:23 pm
Then go switch it up and get Lo’d out and put the Olo hat on over the big curls with the Polo Jacket, shoes, shirts and the whole nine..
SlimOne...just call me Nicety!
January 28th, 2010
2:24 pm
Slim walking in with the big Gemini gold earings, fanga waves, and blue jean shirt with the Pleather patches in front….All i wanna do is zooma zoom zoom in a boom boom, just shake ya rump!
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
2:24 pm
The lil Korean lady said he already took care of my tab. I would just walk up to the glass counter and pick out what i wanted.
that was not good….
Luvbug
January 28th, 2010
2:24 pm
There’s a white girl in town…name is cocaine…get inside yo brain…PLAY YOU LIKE UH LAME!!
Long Scratchin…(slow down…song change)
Dun da da da Dun da da da…my mine playin tricks on me
Dream_n
January 28th, 2010
2:25 pm
@ Luvbug
I was scared of that song/video.. My dad used to play that.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
January 28th, 2010
2:25 pm
Playas Balls!!! WOOOOOOW! Now that brought back some memories! Right up there with the good ole days of Freaknic (before it went haywire).
High School talent shows…..lol
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 28th, 2010
2:27 pm
Yeah Players Balls were they the best thang going sinc Pimpin and O’in..
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
2:27 pm
@ Luvbug – i see you tryna get these folks going. lol Kilo,…wow!
Dan - my invented truth
January 28th, 2010
2:29 pm
Freaknic….woooooowwww (best thing EVER)
@Slim
We are reminiscing, why are you describing your outfit for today? We talking comin up days…
Lady J
January 28th, 2010
2:29 pm
str8 afternoon party huh folks….lmao @ the back in da day stuff…
PRINCESSNIK
January 28th, 2010
2:29 pm
Playas Balls!!! WOOOOOOW! Now that brought back some memories!
I went to college in SC and we always came back for Playa’s Ball!
Lady J
January 28th, 2010
2:30 pm
I remember the club 559 when I was in college in sc to visit the A was big time fo me lololol
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
2:31 pm
Freaknic was crazy…up there with Daytona Beach.
Dan - my invented truth
January 28th, 2010
2:31 pm
Luvbug tryin to get somebody hurt
You’ll tear a muscle if the DJ went from “Cocaine” to “My mind playin tricks on me”..
PRINCESSNIK
January 28th, 2010
2:32 pm
Does anybody remember Orange Crush?
Dream_n
January 28th, 2010
2:32 pm
I know I’m going to regret asking this question…
Please inform me of what the “Playas Ball” consisted of??? Did you win a cup or something afterwards??
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
2:32 pm
@ LadyJ – Do you remember the biiig guy that owned Club 559? He’s still around, and still THE same.
Luvbug
January 28th, 2010
2:32 pm
Dan – you right
Mo- didn’t Atlanta Live air on channel 69 or something too?
Mo (aka Moeisha)
January 28th, 2010
2:33 pm
Lady J – my spot was Atlanta Live!! LOL! And I who didnt hit 112!
Now back in the day…..Sharon Showcase……Club XS…….
Dream_n
January 28th, 2010
2:33 pm
@ PRINCESSNIK
Soda?
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
2:33 pm
Princess – You betnot be a former Tiger, up in here?
PRINCESSNIK
January 28th, 2010
2:33 pm
@ DreamN Please inform me of what the “Playas Ball” consisted of??? Did you win a cup or something afterwards??
The Playa’s Ball I recall was like freaknic except it was in Statesboro.
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
2:34 pm
@ Dan – OrangeCrush is Savannah’s version of Freaknic…’cept there’s a Beach.
PRINCESSNIK
January 28th, 2010
2:34 pm
@ CEE I am a former tiger but not Savannah State, Benedict College in Columbia SC. But we had friends at Sav. State
Leggs
January 28th, 2010
2:34 pm
When I got here we went to a club called Babe’s off Candler Road, and on Wednesdays, Buster’s right across from So. DeKalb Mall, 112, but of course Mr. Vee’s was the spot. If you wanted to really get your “bumpkin” on Sansuchi (sp?) was the spot. Haaaaa, I’ll never forget the sawdust floor.
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 28th, 2010
2:35 pm
Nik – Orange Crush in Savannah
Melo
January 28th, 2010
2:36 pm
Do you remember the biiig guy that owned Club 559?
@CEE
Thats a hood club, right,on the west side..??
I passed thru there back then..1997,if thats it
SlimOne...just call me Nicety!
January 28th, 2010
2:36 pm
@Dan OH SNAP, You tryin to jone on me? You betta talk to da hand fo i stomp you with my Hi-Tech Boots and my Cross Colors Hoodie on
Dan - my invented truth
January 28th, 2010
2:37 pm
I’m sorry
I’ve done Daytona, The Kappa beach party at FAMU and in Galveston and none of ‘em beat ‘95 Freaknic.
NOT ONE.
@Luvbug
Atlanta Live…..wooooowwww
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 28th, 2010
2:37 pm
Mo – Atlanta Live was when Atlanta was live
Luvbug
January 28th, 2010
2:38 pm
Dan – I never went…wasn’t it (Atlanta Live) on tv or something?
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
2:38 pm
@Princess – Benedict? oh, okay. You came and hollered at us country Savannah State folks, hunh?
Melo
January 28th, 2010
2:39 pm
Bil Campbell killed freakyneeky and Shirley broght the recession!
PRINCESSNIK
January 28th, 2010
2:39 pm
@ DK Nik – Orange Crush in Savannah
yep!
Lady J
January 28th, 2010
2:39 pm
cee cee I do girl those were the days 1999 was all that Daytona I only did once and prayed to my father if he got me back sober I would never drink brown liquor again….I don’t drink it any more my first time introduced to crown str8….in 100 degree weather….whew back in the day!!!!!
Mo I wished I could have frequent those spots back then….lol
SlimOne...just call me Nicety!
January 28th, 2010
2:40 pm
BOO-YAH!
czBrat... proud new grand-auntie!
January 28th, 2010
2:40 pm
omg Leggs. how long have you been here?
Luvbug
January 28th, 2010
2:41 pm
Hi-Tech Boots…Das Efx?!
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
2:42 pm
@Melo – It still there as in the structure,…yeah that one. Right the westside.
ummmm, you have “business” over there? My in-law did at one point.
Luvbug
January 28th, 2010
2:42 pm
Dang…just remembered…Black Moon…Don’t front you know I gotcha open