The Tipping Point
It is so easy to get stuck in a relationship that is not going anywhere. Trust me, it happens all the time, even when you have said that you aren’t “dating just to be dating”. Somehow complacency sets in, red flags get ignored, and before long you both reach your tipping point.
When a new romance reaches its tipping point, one or both of you are faced with choices to make. You can communicate and express your needs and desires to redefine your connection, or you can cut your losses and move on.
The tricky part (to me) is figuring out when to salvage the relationship and when to chuck the deuces and move on. When there are no major hurdles for you to cross, shouldn’t you want to work out personality clashes?
Is it possible that reaching a “tipping point” is just another relationship milestone to reach? Don’t some couples go through it and come out stronger than they were before?
Have you ever dated someone and things were going “alright”, but just got a little stagnant? How did you figure out if you would invest more time and effort? How do you know when it’s worth putting in the work?
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Raqi
January 28th, 2010
12:42 pm
What’s the topic now? They got me on the grind today. I’ve been craving a bag of Fritos and I can’t even escape long enough to get it.
Someone please give me a round up…
DreamsMaterialize
January 28th, 2010
12:43 pm
Funny thing tho chicks are drawn to these type dudes
I know. Usually, it’s chicks who have been enabling them to act like this all their lives. And NO I’m not saying that it’s the woman’s fault that dudes act like this. (have to put the disclaimer out there for those who will immediately and falsely draw that conclusion) Once you’re grown, you are 100% responsible for your life. It’s up to you to honestly assess how your past has helped/hurt you and make the appropriate adjustments.
For Real
January 28th, 2010
12:43 pm
“dudes laying up on chicks are leeches” – Don’t give leeches a bad name. At least leeches have some medicinal use. What good is a dude that lays up on a chick?
Heading lernch!!! Cee meet me at Chow Baby!!!!
?????
January 28th, 2010
12:44 pm
..I’ve met a few men who,once learing I have a house,car,career and NO kids like literally/instantly talk about tryna move in or all of a sudden they want to get all super serious,super quick and that is soo not my style.
just an mmm mmm mmm for this
lurker
January 28th, 2010
12:47 pm
Don’t give leeches a bad name. At least leeches have some medicinal use.
True, so true
Melo
January 28th, 2010
12:47 pm
Maybe he has to downsize from the Mc Mansion to the Partment in the hood with the stick up against the door but a dude
Actually this is a good time to buy a spare crib..houses are selling for a song in the A..like 20k or sme like that…
When u a 65 old and creaky, and all the women in ur lyfe are gon, a 25k 3 roomed crib wont look so bad in da hood.
PRINCESSNIK
January 28th, 2010
12:49 pm
Ok to quote CEE i have a that’s whats up!
My daughters father agreed to paint my garage for the mere cost of one homemade roasted lemon pepper chicken.
now that’s whats up!!!!
Raqi
January 28th, 2010
12:53 pm
Okay leeches and guys wanting to move in, I think I can update on imagination alone.
Ummmmmm!
January 28th, 2010
12:54 pm
Since this is the liberating age, why is it o.k. for a woman to move in with a man, but not a man moving in with a woman. So all men who move in with a women is lazy and lacks motivations huh! Wow what a statement!
A lot of judging going on in this camp! Raqi during chores has nada to do with equal effort!
Desperate times = desperate measures… Hence men and women living together because its tight out here!
Keeepppp Dropping FOR REAL….The truth will help some of these knuckleheads out here!
Snoop Dogg
January 28th, 2010
12:57 pm
somebody is da bombdiggity. house, car, career and make more den 60 gggs a year? da bombdiggity
Sassy Me....I'm soo ready :-)
January 28th, 2010
1:06 pm
Princess…that’s what’s up
Leggs
January 28th, 2010
1:08 pm
We are all da bombdiggity one way or another.
Snoop Dogg
January 28th, 2010
1:13 pm
We are all da bombdiggity one way or another.
fa shizzle. eveybody got a crib, job and career. we all da bombdiggity.
Leggs
January 28th, 2010
1:20 pm
Let’s talk about sex baby, let’s talk about you and me….
Leggs
January 28th, 2010
1:25 pm
Pick up on this….awwww push it!
Owww baby, salt n pepa’s here…….wait a min this dance is only for the sexy people…..get up there and dance!
Professor~the jury
January 28th, 2010
1:25 pm
Melo,
What do you know about a stick up against the door?
Professor
January 28th, 2010
1:31 pm
Awww watch me do my dance on push it. Can y’all see me? Okay let me do it a little harder….that is may jam!
Now I am making my face…you know that ugly face you make when you are dancing hard…
Dan - my invented truth
January 28th, 2010
1:32 pm
@Melo
There not that low…at least not requiring major repair.
Average is $50-$100 (+ taxes) foreclosed
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
1:33 pm
Princess Now dat’s your baby daddy?! cool.
ForReal couldn’t meet you at Chow’s…
stirfry sounds good and easy for dinner though.
Luvbug
January 28th, 2010
1:35 pm
Man…just caught the song on the end. (awww push it…awww push it)
That’s right on time. I heard supersonic not too long ago on comcast.
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
1:35 pm
Missy Elliott and Ciara – “Work” song had me geeked-up, at lunch fa real!!!
Tazzee - still praying for Haiti
January 28th, 2010
1:37 pm
Afternoon Folks!
Leggs and Professor – either of you going to the Fresh Fest? I’m going to be a dancing fool at that concert – hope the folks behind me are the type that like to stand up.
On the house thing – it tickles me when I hear about a relationship on the rocks and the wife tells the husband to get out. In most cases, the man is the one paying the bills – I don’t understand it.
Luvbug
January 28th, 2010
1:39 pm
Taxicab confessions: Yes, Luvbug had stacks – riding boots – hoop earings – and ….dun,dun,dun,dunnnn…a jery curl
DON”T JUDGE ME!!!
Melo
January 28th, 2010
1:40 pm
What do you know about a stick up against the door?
@Proff??!
stick up against the door??
well thats another lingo but i took it to mean that the door dont have a proper or good key or latch that can be locked,so u put a piece of wood or sme against it,say at night, so the door can remain shut….
(altho Trey Wingo can always knock it with a zebra kick if u aint answering his calling and hes following up on that debt u owe him!)
I grew up cntry and in da hood so i think i know dat!
Am, i right tho Proff??
Professor
January 28th, 2010
1:40 pm
Hey Tazzee I am not going to the Fresh Fest. I am still trying to be young and that will tell my age if I get caught going.
Leggs
January 28th, 2010
1:41 pm
@Tazee ~ I tried to win tickets twice…10th caller once and again 12th caller while they were looking for the 14th caller.
Professor
January 28th, 2010
1:42 pm
Melo you are right…it just took me back when you said it!
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 28th, 2010
1:43 pm
Luv – I spit my coffee out at the Jheri Curl.. I know that was a sight to see. The only reason I didnt have a dreasy Micheal Jackson is because my Moms wasnt having it.. Especially since my older sister just went out and just got one.. Moms was hot.
Melo
January 28th, 2010
1:44 pm
Average is $50-$100 (+ taxes) foreclosed
@DAN..
IN SW Atlanta?
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 28th, 2010
1:45 pm
Prof – Check out DK at 12:33. Melo out here byting without giving proper writing credit..
Luvbug
January 28th, 2010
1:46 pm
Yeah DK- I too was just letting my soul glow….Now? All pictures confiscated.
Leggs
January 28th, 2010
1:50 pm
I need to take myself to the Fresh Fest. Let me look up the cost of tickets
DreamsMaterialize
January 28th, 2010
1:51 pm
Confession: I had a shag…and a tail.
Luvbug
January 28th, 2010
1:52 pm
NOT THE TAIL!!!
Melo
January 28th, 2010
1:52 pm
DK said it Proff..
i like how uall folks say some things and some aspects of ur daily living in ur lingo..it brings me back home,when i think about it..
I cant wait to go on some trip to the carribean to see some of my homies there,raw..im sure we will pick up some thangs/culture that came str8 up from zululand and is unadulterated.
We got got news today that Queen’s green card has been processed and is on its way,so we all very excited….and cant wzait to travel.
Somebody is swallowing, taaaatataaa, tonite!
Luvbug
January 28th, 2010
1:54 pm
DK – Not sure if you’re from Atlanta…you’ll never guess looking at me, but I use to be in a dance group that did talents shows too
YEEK!!
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
1:55 pm
it tickles me when I hear about a relationship on the rocks and the wife tells the husband to get out. In most cases, the man is the one paying the bills
Tazzee – Right. When i shacked up, we moved in together. He paid all the house bills, i paid the electric and that was it….oh, and grocery. that was also when i was Dream_n’s age…EARLY 20s. Even then being a young guy, he never thought to say that the place was his, even though he could have…he was paying for the place! When we had a big argument he’d leave and go stay at a friends spot…along with hittin’ up the BodyTap, Magic, and a few other places…but, I never was the “get out” trick. Bills always paid and my own independence lead me to leave him…getting out was my choice.
Dan - my invented truth
January 28th, 2010
1:58 pm
@Melo
I’m talking courthouse steps sales; and all over
Mo (aka Moeisha)
January 28th, 2010
1:59 pm
Luvbug – LMAO!! I know about dat YEEK shawty!! Too funny!
Dreams – not the shag AND the tail!!! OMG!!!!
Unfortunately my father didnt let me rock the ‘latest and greatest’ back in the day (no finger waves, etc) but I still had some wild hair choices. Now college was altogether different….SCISSOR HAPPY!!!
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 28th, 2010
1:59 pm
Luv – What you talkin bout.. This my pinky this my thumb…
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
2:01 pm
@Melo – I understand the “man law” moving in concept too…but i was not going to move into his Condo either. So, like i said…we can get an “us”..but not moving in “yours”.
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
2:03 pm
Mo – they are called “fanga waves”. lol
I learn how to do those in the 6th Grade.
Melo
January 28th, 2010
2:04 pm
I’m talking courthouse steps sales; and all over
@Dan..u saying as low as 50.00$ not 50k?
Mo (aka Moeisha)
January 28th, 2010
2:06 pm
Cemeeli – LOL! I forgot, my Decatur got away for a moment! It is Fanga Waves,
I rocked so many different hair colors once I went AWAY to school….my father was like “dayum, I never know who I may pick up from the airport!” LOL
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 28th, 2010
2:06 pm
Hey now DK had some push waves and a big worm perm. Awww man I thought I was killing em with my Shirley temple curls or the rollers, the guess jean, guess sweatshirt and the jacket with the ostrich or snakeskin boots. Oh and dont forget the super thick herringbone..
Luvbug
January 28th, 2010
2:08 pm
Mo/DK – that’s funny…look at me now…you could have a million guesses and never land on that one…straight Mary Poppins…not made up…just grew in that direction.
I do miss the energy and how life felt at that time though
Dan - my invented truth
January 28th, 2010
2:08 pm
I hated the herringbone
One false move…and it was ruined
@DK
So you were straight outta Locash huh?
Luvbug
January 28th, 2010
2:09 pm
The herringbone too?! Don’t kill em DK!!…man, memories memories
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 28th, 2010
2:09 pm
Awww you shouldve saw me a 112(on Piedmont) 1 Tweezy up by rooms to go.. I was killin em. Russell at Mouchez(sp) use to set me straight..
Cemeeli
January 28th, 2010
2:09 pm
Mo I was like “finger waves??”…get bourgeois on ya girl then!…lol
‘member popcorn waves?