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Brief Interviews with Hideous Men

No, today’s post title is not related to my dating misadventures! Thankfully, the phase of dating hideous boys ended in my 20s.  Brief Interviews with Hideous Men, written by David Foster Wallace (RIP), was a collection of short stories in which men were interviewed about their attitudes and behaviors with women.

The book was adapted into a film of the same name, directed by The Office actor,  John Krasinski. I should have read the book first because I would be interested to see more of how David Foster Wallace drew conclusions about masculinity, what it means to be a man, and fatherhood.

A few of the interviews were meant to be humorous, but some were thought-provoking. The film explores the sometimes “dark” male interactions with women. What struck me most was the kind of emotions that actually drove their behavior. I know some men like to proclaim that they are simple in their wants and needs. I can’t argue that point much, but I would take it further and say that the things that shape a man’s desires, attitudes, and behavior can be quite complex. Would you agree?

Do you think women should put more effort in exploring the character of the men they date? We can figure out what he likes to eat, what makes him get turned on, or what his favorite sports teams are; but what about what drives him? How can a woman get closer to someone if he is emotionally guarded to the point that he doesn’t find it easy to let people in? Should she give up or be patient?

Guys, can you tell when a woman is looking to really get to know you? Are you generally guarded with women that you date in the beginning? Do you find ways to show her who you truly are? How would she know it?

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THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 26th, 2010
4:45 pm

Sometimes I don’t even know how I’m gon’ eat
‘Bout twenty dollars away from being on the street
Sh!t, you might see a joker on tv
But hell it’s almost like I’m rappin’ for free
That little money be gone…got dammit, I’m grown
Gotta help keep the heat and lights on

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 26th, 2010
4:47 pm

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 26th, 2010
4:47 pm

@I am whatever you say I am

Don’t get to sassy and roll your neck to hard today…I dont want your leather wig to come off.

LoveLife411

January 26th, 2010
4:50 pm

@ Hilarious

I’ve been reading on and off all day, and this afternoon it seems folks just needed a break from the heavy. Chill :)

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 26th, 2010
4:52 pm

@I am whatever you say I am

So you talking greasy to huh? Where your man at? Or did you settle for sharing with VOR’s man?

Or are you settling for the falcons? All 62 of them?

DreamsMaterialize

January 26th, 2010
4:52 pm

Now as an Outkast I was born, wasn’t warned of the harm
That would come to meet me like Met Life, but yet life
Done sent me through a lot of up’s and down like it ain’t nothing’
Like elevators but I ain’t the one that’s pushin’ the buttons
I got off at the 13th floor, when they told me that it wasn’t one
They said it skipped from 12 to 14

Professor

January 26th, 2010
4:52 pm

M dot Not a leather wig! You are banned from roasting today!

VoiceOf Reason

January 26th, 2010
4:53 pm

@ M. (pronouced M dot)

What?? Where are you going? You must be all tuckered out from today’s events….all that thinkin’ and two-finger typing on the keyboard today….bless your lil’ heart….

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 26th, 2010
4:56 pm

@VoiceOf Reason

I was just letting you get a jump start on traffic so you can get to the flea market and get your number 3 yaki weave on sale before they run out. Just looking out.

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 26th, 2010
4:59 pm

@ VOR

Now run along on your training wheels ok? I hope you dont smoke…your lips like you been eating tar flavored now & laters.

VoiceOf Reason

January 26th, 2010
5:01 pm

@ @ M. (pronouced M dot)

Forgive me father for I have just whipped an old man senseless. And if it is your will to take him during his sleep tonight, please forgive him for all the wack-tastic jokes he told on this page and free him from the agony of knowing that he wasted his last sunny day on your green earth trying, unsuccessfully, to box with the best.

I am whatever you say I am

January 26th, 2010
5:15 pm

@ M dot a.k.a. Mr. Dobalina.
http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/archive/f/f0/20061225132913!James_brown_mugshot2.jpg
Rough times for you huh?