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Billboard of Shame

If you happened to have missed the headlines last week, Atlanta was one of the cities included in the “vengeance by billboard” by YaVaugnie Wilkins.

Billboard
Photo Credit: AJC

There is certainly a lot that is not being told about the couple’s history. Mr. Phillips made his public statement about an 8-year relationship with Ms. Wilkins. I think what struck me the most was how a relationship ends up like this after such a long time.

The whole saga seems deeper than “hell hath no fury”. Maybe it is a cautionary tale about how well we know the people we are dating or committed to. Do you think a person can conceal an entire marriage without showing any signs?

What happens when someone is not the person they portray themselves to be? If you found out that you had been dating a married person, how would you react?

What is it about love gone wrong that makes us want to exact revenge, anyway? Have you ever gone out of your way to humiliate or embarrass someone who betrayed you? Did it make you feel better?

Do you think we have a sense of entitlement when it comes to breakups? Are we owed some type of retribution for being hurt?

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Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
8:50 am

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
8:58 am

Good morning,

If I “found out” I were dating a married person, I’d stop dating her. Right then. At that moment.

Never acted out about a breakup, I mean why? Doesn’t change anything, doesn’t do anything but make me look ‘extra foolish’. Asalam ‘Alaykum.

What people feel “entitled to” is a whole nuther can of worms….so I’ll leave that for later.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 25th, 2010
8:58 am

Good morning! Blog seemed to have opened a lil late but who cares…Um ON TOPIC “Do you think a person can conceal an entire marriage without showing any signs?”

I haven’t experienced being with someone who was married that kept it hidden for a long period of time. I would think that it takes A LOT of lying, maneuvering etc to keep that lie going. However, I won’t say that it’s impossible to do. It would be easy for me to just say the ‘victim’ is just desperate and resistant to any of the Red flags associated with hiding a marriage…but i’m sure it can be done…just like chicks who claim to not know they are pregnant until the baby is peaking out the punani.

“What is it about love gone wrong that makes us want to exact revenge, anyway?” Loving someone or being in love requires you to let your guard down…it requires to let someone inside your mind, body, spirit…sort of like the ultimate breach. So when someone takes advantage of that, it hurts like no other. At least with a physical pain, you can pinpoint the area of hurt/pain. With an emotional hurt, it’s just so much more draining, scary,…it’s like someone being able to get inside the pentagon take a dump on a desk, making a sammich and wack off in every office. So when we are hurting that much, since you cannot pinpoint an actual wound, you may become irrational and feel that only way you can make yourself feel better is to hurt in return.

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
9:03 am

@Angie

It happens….enjoy the ride.

Lady J

January 25th, 2010
9:03 am

hmmmmmm this should be an interesting one today…..my simple thoughts keep it moving gracefully….

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
9:06 am

Whatever he may have been filling her head with, she believed him. Not sure how in 8.5 years she didn’t realize his words weren’t matching up with his actions, but then again maybe they were. Through her putting up those billboards, she let him and all know her heart has been sliced open, the wound too deep for her to see straight. When in pain, you inflict pain on the other in the most damaging way you can think of. He has been humiliated. Perhaps her goal was to make the wife look foolish as well. Nonetheless, all 3 are looking foolish.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 25th, 2010
9:08 am

“Have you ever gone out of your way to humiliate or embarrass someone who betrayed you?”

No I haven’t actually acted anything out but I sure as hayo thought about some shyt! LOL! I’ve never done the whole slash tires, destroy property or print out flyers talking about his weenie was little or anything. lol No we aren’t necessarily owed a sense of retribution for being hurt but i’m sure we would all like to see the other party go thru some sort of hardship just to make ourselves feel better. I think things wouldn’t be so bad if we were just honest with each other about what it is we want…AND BE PREPARED FOR THE CONSEQUENCES OF THOSE DECISIONS

If you’re married but want a chick on the side be upfront about it to the potential side piece, but be prepared if she begins to want more and threatens to tell your wife/boss/kids if you don’t give her what she wants

If you’re a man who is actually into men but still want to keep up the facade of the ‘american dream’ then let the chick know you want to make a business deal before you marry her & have 2.5 kids with her. However, be prepared if you tick her off and she threatens to tell your family/boss/friends.

Lady J

January 25th, 2010
9:14 am

good post leggs and I have a hard time believe folk don’t know what’s going one…most times we chose to ignore and I am a firm believer women know what is going on in their home is how they handle it that determines the outcome…

Lady J

January 25th, 2010
9:16 am

meant hard time believing whats going on….smh @ me! LOL

Hey Angie!!!!:)

Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
9:18 am

hey Lady! so good to read you.

*I have a hard time believe folk don’t know what’s going one* you don’t look for it until he gives you a reason. been there.

ImAPeach404

January 25th, 2010
9:22 am

Ha! Saw that story and thought it was funny. I don’t think she was right… but I understand.
I used to be big on revenge but not anymore – I’m confident that people always reap what they sow but it’s not responsibility to be the one that see’s to it. My Daddy upstairs will take care of that.

In the past I dated a married man unknowingly. I know…
But when we first met there were absolutely no signs. Then after a few weeks of talking I discovered he had a young son, he was less than a year old that lived with him. *red flag*.
So I asked about momma, he said that they weren’t together anymore. He’d told her he was keeping his son full time but he would go with her from time to time…
They were both African so it wasn’t hard to believe that when he said he was keeping his son at his house, that’s what was going to happen and there wasn’t any lip about it.
Later he slipped and said something about her setting the alarm at the house *red flag*. Once I questioned that, he then told me that sometimes she stays there to help out on the weekends but thats it. Nothing was going on at all – she was there very infrequently. This was around the time I started to think something was up.
Anyway, I would question the relationship all the time even asking if they were married and he would deny deny deny. It was about 6 or 7 months in before I got a phone call from her…

Now, mind you I would see buddy every single day and he’d stay around until it was late. And by late I mean like 11-12 and much later on the weekends. I’d see him every single day except Sundays b/c he’d have Church and he played soccer and thats the day his games were. And if there was ever a time when he didn’t have a game – we’d see each other. We talked ALL the time. He’d call me from home. He always answered the phone. He was totally and completely available. No, I never went to his house b/c there was never a need – I wasn’t driving at the time, he worked like 10 minutes from where I lived so he’d come to my house after work and on the weekends when we’d go out, he’d always come pick me up. He lived about 35-40 minutes from me so it never made sense, even to me, for him to come pick me up, drive out to his spot then take me back home. It wasn’t like he said I couldn’t come – logistically it didn’t sense and it wasn’t a real big deal.

Sorry for the long post but I said all that to say – it is possible to conceal a marriage. I eventually was alerted there was a female in his life, that was hard to conceal. But the marriage wasn’t. And I know (now) that due to the nature of their culture, she let him do a lot that allowed him to get away with concealing the marriage

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
9:22 am

Good Morning.

Yes the signs are there. I was with my married lover for only 1-1/2 years and looking back I will tell you that the signs were definitely there. I just chose to ignore them.

I find it a little hard to believe that someone can be with an actively married person for 8 years and not see the signs. Just from my experience alone I would think a person after that long knows but refuse to admit it within themselves.

I was watching an episode of L&O:Criminal Intent last night and this guy had 3 different wives in three different states. Come to find out one wife knew about the other two that had no clue. His excuse, as with what I experienced, was he traveled for business. I wish I would have stayed awake to see how it ended.

Lady J

January 25th, 2010
9:23 am

Thanks Angie but me I ask 99 questions and always look for non verbals too…that gut feeling of it ain’t right pops to me early and I go from there…..we want it to be it the right one the end of dating but most times both sides has their share of baggage….

Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
9:29 am

*always reap what they sow but it’s not responsibility to be the one that see’s to it. My Daddy upstairs will take care of that.*

^5

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
9:30 am

Leggs, thankfully I didn’t resort to trying to publicly humilate my married ex, I just broke up some of his stuff in the house as I was moving out.

I think him having to tell his wife, who did not want kids, that he had gotten his mistress pregnant was enough humilation for one century. LOL

Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
9:31 am

@Lady
i ask questions now, but back then i didn’t know any better. i was so naive. and i bet he loved dat shii*t!

Lady J

January 25th, 2010
9:31 am

Amen to that Angie…..That is one thing I am glad I don’t do anymore it will work itself out…..

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 25th, 2010
9:31 am

“Do you think we have a sense of entitlement when it comes to breakups? Are we owed some type of retribution for being hurt?”

I think single people do have a sense of entitlement. The key is to:

1. “Learn from it and don’t be burned from it”.
2. Also, I learned its definately good to move forward and focus your energy somewhere else because we waste a lot of energy focusing on an ex or the past.

I think the best revenge is to stay on top of your game (physical, financial, socially, etc) and thats enough revenge when you run into your ex and they see your life has not missed a beat without them.

Lady J

January 25th, 2010
9:33 am

I guess with my gaurded behavior I’ve played the fool for one and he wasn’t even my ex husband I can’t even go down that road again….WillieD made a great point last week when a failed relationship occurs you be damn to accept less than perfect the second time around and we have to have our eyes open and listen and observe more and talk less….experience Angie we all got a story! But I can’t continue to be the fool in the plot….My heart can’t take it!:)

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
9:35 am

First off.. This guy is the CEo of Oracle.. He couldnt hide his wife if he wanted to. Now 8.5 years dont forget the .5 they were doing they do. She knew about the wife and the wife prolly knew about her. She just wanted to be number 1 instead of number two and thats when things got ugly.

Now as far as concealing a marriage. A person couldnt do that unless the person they are dating is A. Stupid B. Lives in another state C. Doesnt care what else is going on in that persons life..

Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
9:36 am

*I think the best revenge is to stay on top of your game (physical, financial, socially, etc) and thats enough revenge when you run into your ex and they see your life has not missed a beat without them.*

that was so hard for me to do. but i tried my hardest tho. moving to atl helped a lot.

ImAPeach404

January 25th, 2010
9:37 am

@slim – well stated @ 8:58

I definitely think she knew or had a feeling he was married. And, I do think the wife knew (or at least suspected) he had someone on the side. I’m sure she was embarrassed by the billboard, but not surprised…

Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
9:40 am

i wish i can sleep for the next two days.

Lady J

January 25th, 2010
9:40 am

So agree THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING it isn’t that much confusion ever….it is what it is until someone does something about it but that won’t occur til someone is fed up totally and handle it without question….now how they handle it will determine or define a bit of their character…

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
9:41 am

The other part of it is, whose shame is it?

I mean the side chick may have exposed part of his life to the world that dude (maybe) tried to hide, but she exposed herself as being the fool to go along with it; for 9 years!.

In her life she’s probably classy, really goal oriented (gotta have money for billboards -even these days), and from the looks of her, coulda got it in from any number of single cats.

But no, you chose the married dude and when you didn’t get your way, put him on blast. Well, that door swings open both ways because she looks a might foolish too.

Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
9:41 am

i feel for both of ‘em. love is pain.

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
9:43 am

I have never sought revenge, but have thought of some things. Never slashed tires, jump on the hood of a moving car, running down the street in bathrobe screeching at the top of my lungs. Yet, I do understand the hurt and the vindicative desire to lash out. I’m not vindicative (except that itme I wanted to drop kick my ex with a big lamp) so I couldn’t resort to such drastic measures.

Exactly, LadyJ. Affairs have a way of crippling/destroying the marriage and, in some cases, even strengthen the marriage. Unfortunately, unlike back in the day, more and more are not willing to Stand By Your Man!

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
9:43 am

@Angie

If love is pain, you’re doing it wrong…

Come and let Daddy show you how it’s done…

ImAPeach404

January 25th, 2010
9:43 am

Lol @ Raqi!!! You just broke some stuff as you were moving out. *giggling*
But I disagree that he was humiliated telling his wife you were pregnant – he probably used it as his excuse and allowed him to validate his actions blaming the infidelity on her desire not to have children. Probably even got himself a pass…

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
9:45 am

ImaPeach, my married ex was very cleaver. When we met he told me he had recently moved here and lived with his sister that he did not get along with so he was looking for his own place. It was only a matter of a few weeks before he had found somewhere. I would have gotten suspicious early own had I not be able to go to his house. He took care of that rather quickly.

After helping him do some work on the house and decorate it he soon asked me to move in. Which I did. He would be “home” at least 4 days a week and then the other days he traveled for business. I tell you everything was in place and he treated me and my son very well. However there were still signs that I ignored. One being he made sure to call me every day that he was away. I never had to call him. And the few times that I did call him he would say he was busy and had to call me back or I would leave a message.

One of the biggest signs was I never met his sister. I saw his brother on many occasions. He would come by the house or we would go to his. His brother helped him cheat on his wife.

The biggest mistake I made was to “be” with him again after finding out he was married. That was wrong and I knew it.

Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
9:46 am

@Dan
i’m a emotional cancer! cut me some slack. lol.

ImAPeach404

January 25th, 2010
9:47 am

Everything ok Beautiful???

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
9:49 am

Morning Gang!

I’ve not read the stupid story, saw the stupid billboard, but you mean to tell me that she is saying she didn’t KNOW he was married? NO WAY!! Unless she is blind, deaf & dumb, like DK said, there is NO WAY you would not know the CEO of Oracle is married! Come on!

I understand hurt but, I did read she spent about $250K on the whole billboard stunt. If you’re gonna throw away money, toss it over to Haiti or some hungry people here that need it.

M dot, I love your post and that’s always my approach to a broken heart. The best revenge is LIVING WELL!

Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
9:50 am

@Peach
i’m takin’ advantage of the blog today to vent. *sigh* right now, no i’m not ok.

thanks Wise!

ImAPeach404

January 25th, 2010
9:50 am

Raqi – you mentioned something that I have a HUGE issue with… his brother HELPING him cheat on his wife!!!! OMG! I don’t care WHO you are… momma, sister, bff, coworker… i am NOT helping ANYONE cheat on another person!

WRONG! WRONG! WROOOOOOOOONG!!!!

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
9:51 am

Morning
If she tries to say she didn’t know he was married, then she’s not even an idiot…she’s just LYING. Philips is the President of Oracle. His professional (and personal to some extent) life is very high profile. She knew he was married, and she didn’t care.

He played himself too though. Somehow he was dumb enough to think he could have an 8 year affair that wouldn’t come back to bite him. I’m sure the wife knew too. The billboards probably aren’t the first of her little antics, just the most public. She’s probably pulled several stunts in the last eight years to let the wife know she was in the picture.

IDK..part 2

January 25th, 2010
9:51 am

this whole incident is disrespectful. some women are so damn deseperate these days they seem to take whomever be the man…married, in a relationship, GAY and list could go on. but what makes it worse (IMO) is the women who applaude this type behavior, we’ve all heard it “well i did what his wife wasnt”. stupid, stoopid! 8.5 yrs, u can BET she knew his whole situation as did his wife. hanging on bc…hes a CEO? SMH. I am not judging bc “my daddy upstairs” (cute IamPeach404) know I ain no where near faultless, just stating my opinion. when are men gonna learn women ain playin around no moe! women are snapping nowadays!

Demi

January 25th, 2010
9:52 am

In New Orleans…all drunk’n'ish

Ooooooh, when the stanks, go maaar’sin’ in,
Oooooh when the paints go maaaars’pit’in,
Oh Lord, I want to be in that bumber,
When the stanks go maaaars’sin in.

in my Dave Chapelle drunk as sin Rick James’s voice

Yeaaaaaaaaah, New Orleans bishes!!!! You ain’t seen dis coming Bishes!!!

Now jumping on MIA’s bland new white couch with muddy platform on

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
9:53 am

@Kimmie/Mdot

Why is it revenge to be the best you? Why does it have to do with the other person?

I’m not attacking, I’m asking about the thought process (I’ll show him/her)…

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
9:54 am

ImaPeach, no pass. She divorced him. He thought I would take him back after his divorce but I told him he was not to be trusted. How can I trust a man that cheated on his wife with me? What’s to say he wouldn’t do the same to me with someone else.

abc

January 25th, 2010
9:55 am

I agree with DK’s 9:35. Both of them were so self-absorbed that they’d do what they did; putting up the billboard is just more people acting out in selfish fashion, about what you’d expect from a couple of clowns like these.

Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
9:55 am

*toss it over to Haiti or some hungry people here that need it.* yup!

and i agree that he prolly threw the *she doesn’t want kids thing* in her face!

Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
9:56 am

hi Alvin! i mees u.

Demi

January 25th, 2010
9:56 am

I am NOT helping ANYONE cheat on another person!

404…yeen right!!!! What Would Jesus Do!!!

ImAPeach404

January 25th, 2010
10:00 am

@Beautiful – well thats what we’re here for – to listen to each other vent. I hope everything turns out ok :)

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
10:03 am

You know who I feel sorry for.. His Wife.. She has been thoroughly embarrased by her husbands antics and jumpoffs buffonery.. Do they have kids? I feel sorry for them.

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
10:03 am

ImaPeach, you are right. Helping someone cheat is just as bad as the person cheating.

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 25th, 2010
10:05 am

@Why is it revenge to be the best you? Why does it have to do with the other person?

Like I said, you have to make sure your life doesnt miss a beat without them because the idea of relationships is built on security. When the relationship breaks off, alot of people feel insecure and dont know how their lives will be affected. So I was speaking from a standpoint of not letting a breakup affect you drastically. Charge it to the game and move forward.

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
10:05 am

You are right Infamous, it is stupid. I was stupid and greedy.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
10:06 am

IDKClone – Everybody is snapping now a days..

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
10:10 am

Infamous, I feel sorry for the wife too, but I have to wonder how did he get away with it for 8 years without her even suspecting anything. There had to be something not right that she should have questioned.

As his wife she had the right to ask him about anything and everything. You best believe if I ever get a hint of something not being as it should Imma ask questions.

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
10:11 am

Why is it revenge to be the best you? Why does it have to do with the other person?

Dan – That’s an oversimplified way to explain a rather simple thought process. Pride. If you’ve never understood it, you would not understand it. It’s hoping that if you ever run into that ex again that they will see you at your very best, that you have not missed a beat and they see what they missed out on. A very human thought process.

After my first bad heartbreak, I did not run into my ex, but his best friend. Not only was I looking fabulous that night, but I had a guy friend with me that was some serious eyecandy. Keep in mind that my ex used to put me down all the time – I was never slim enough, cute enough, dressed right enough, etc for HIM. Oh yes, word got back.

Now it did not matter really – there was no chance we would ever get back together. And my new look had nothing to do with him, in fact, I was sure I would never see him again because he went away in the military. I felt good about ME! The fact that his friend saw me and reported back was icing on the cake.

Vanessa Williams says that was her motivation after she went thru her debacle with the Miss America incident.

A much better form of “revenge” than busting windows, don’t you think?

Demi

January 25th, 2010
10:11 am

Hey Angie…I miss me too, LOL I kid…I miss you and the rest of my blog folks…But school is kicking my behind…

Hello Lady J, Slim, 404, Leggs, Raqi, kimmie, and Mz Dreaming….Head Nod’n'Pounds to my fellas

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
10:12 am

RAqi – But Whitebread was good.. Real Good.. He had the MEANS to do it and conceal his actions. Thats what I said last week..

Anyone with multiple residences can cheat at will..

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
10:16 am

@Kimmie

Yeah, better than the Class E felony…

Pride huh? Interesting.

I’ve never understood it (even when it was used on me). A “look at me now” got the “um, okay…and?” response from me. If we’re done, let’s be done.

Thanks for the explaination.

Sitting Pretty

January 25th, 2010
10:20 am

I’m sure the wife knew eventually. She probably made a decision to ignore the signs. People can call her crazy, but if anything, she was/is crazy in love. I’m sure he was doing just enough to make her feel like she was the only woman for him. Maybe their marriage is more of a business deal. Basically, you do you and i’ll do me, but come tax time let’s meet up to discuss our assets. Who knows!?!? Either way, the husband and the mistress were wrong. The husband disrespected his wife, himself, and his vows. The mistress was wrong for staying around after she found out he was married. (He probably was good at concealing it at first, but the truth always comes to the light and it’s usually sooner than later). This was extreme and unnecessary revenge. I wonder if she now thinks it was worth it?

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 25th, 2010
10:21 am

@Dan

“A “look at me now””

I see what you mean Dan, but you have to upgrade yourself and not be dependent on someone you used to date. Its good to see that you are moving forward and standing on your own 2 feet.

Lady J

January 25th, 2010
10:23 am

Hey Demi!!!!!!!! That game has me SICK this morning!!!!! SO wanted MINN to Win and they gave the game away 10 times over! But it was for NO in the ordered steps and I’m trying to accept that! I don’t do NO!!!! GO COLTS!!!!!:)

Leggs thanks for your wisdom!!!!:)

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
10:24 am

“look at me now”

For me Dan, it was more like the words to a song, I can’t remember who sings it, but the words are:

I was bruised, but not broken.

If you’ve ever had someone mentally and/or verbally abuse you, you understand.

IDK..

January 25th, 2010
10:25 am

@ infamous, lol im not a clone, i do at times admire ur font tho (others too). it seems like in the last year its been more females going postal and men are losing theirs LIVES over it. why take what aint yours? dan @ 10:16 im wit ya!! if its over its OVER. all parites in that situation have mental issues..LOVE does not hurt, FOLKS hurt. remember, GOD Is Love…

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
10:26 am

@Kimmie

I’m sorry that happened to you.

@Kimmie and MDot

I guess I’m just lost on why it’s about the other person’s response. I never really cared what people thought about me (good or bad).

And to go as far as reinventing myself for someone else….DTM. It feels like giving them way too much power…

That’s just my opinion though. Thanks for sharing, y’all.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
10:26 am

People kill me with that. Yeah Im gonna work out so when he/she sees me they are gonna regret leaving me.. Bwahahahaha!! Man gone.. If I bounce on ya it wouldnt matter if you won Miss America the next day.. You would still be some chick I used to cut that got banned from the scream machine. Prolly be looking at you on TV like “I bet they dont know I painted her face”

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
10:27 am

Kimmie – Phil Collins Look at Me now..

Melo

January 25th, 2010
10:32 am

@DK..Prolly be looking at you on TV like “I bet they dont know I painted her face”

u funny man! :lol: :lol:

Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
10:32 am

got on FB a lil over a month ago. connected with high school friends. it’s been wild! *giggle* found out at the last minute that they had been planned a reunion in Vegas. my cut buddy from hs hit me up. *gurl, you betta get there!* this nicca is STILL phine and sexy as heyo!
fifty of us from FB showed up. kwazy! ev1 lookin’ good. i don’t drink, but they were lit the whole time. DaCl showed up first, sunday. i touched down tues. on wed we finally caught up with each other and he took me to lunch. since his rental car was actin’ up, i picked him up in mine. he stayed at the beautiful Polo Hotel overlooking the strip! a spectacular view. when i seen him i got out the car for a hug and this guy just laid it on ya gurl! the kiss was amazing and i didn’t expect it. he didn’t hold back.
we jumped in da car and hit some lil spot . . . ate and won $50 bucks on the slots. lol. shii*t lunch was on them. lol. we went back to his room and i seriously thought that we were going to just chill. we had to leave in less than two hrs to pick up a classmate at the airport.
he showed me around the suite. i stopped at the big window in the living room and stared out at the MGM, New York New York . . . just breath taking. he came over and grabbed me. it went down Vegas style!!!
*sigh*
i didn’t realize i caught feelings until we parted. this is not good.
don’t get me wrong though, i had a blast with my gurls! shout out to Soulzburry on Dean Martin Drive. Tank performed fri nite! small black club in s. vegas. we shut that place down at 3:30. anutha shout out to Queen Sheba a jamaican spot. it didn’t close till 7am. we shut that one down too! we started out at Nellis base for a drink, then headed to Pure for VIP party, ladies only. hated Pure. too many white guys. i didn’t care how much money they had. i like chocolate.

SexyCool - Still Feeling Good

January 25th, 2010
10:32 am

I’d rather be cheating on by a rich husband than a broke ass one. :)

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
10:34 am

I thought the story was that the mistress got upset because they decided not to go thru with the divorce and he decided to work on his marriage. She was probably under the impression(that he probably gave her) that once the divorce was final, they would hook up.

Kinda like one of Tiger’s mistresses being mad when she found out there were other mistresses! You have no RIGHTS at all, you’re just a mistress!

But folks are going to get enough of playing around with people! As you can see, some people are CRAZY!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
10:35 am

The best revenge to me is letting that person know that youre not bitter towards them.. A smile and let em know that you are praying for them.

I had to tell my EX something that put it into perspective for her. “I’m not angry with you, I respect you because you are my Son’s Mohter and I pray for you both daily. Have a Nice Day.” The look on her face told the story. You have to mean it though.. Really Mean that you have prayed for them because you have. Let the Man upstairs deal with your EX because revenge aint yours.. All you can do is remain positive even if you died a thousand times behind the situation. Be diligent in your valley.. Be productive after your bad breakup. Let your roots take hold in the dirt youve been thrown, sprout roots and grow a flower. Dont worry they will see the flower. Dont do nothing for them or that this will get them back.. Please.. D@mn Them..

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
10:35 am

Infamous, I agree that the way whitebread had it set up made it easier however looking back now I can see where he slipped up a couple of times yet I chose to ignore it. That’s why I have to believe that he slipped up on the other side too with the wife. And we were together only 1-1/2 years. In 8-1/2 years something had to show on both ends with Mr. Phillips.

SexyCool - Still Feeling Good

January 25th, 2010
10:35 am

Angie – You broke the “VEGAS RULE”. Came back and told EVERYthAng!!! LOL!!!

Melo

January 25th, 2010
10:36 am

it went down Vegas style!!!
*sigh*

:lol: :lol:

gerl u so easy…laughing! :lol:

Lady J

January 25th, 2010
10:37 am

hmmmm the act of cheating goes way back meaning having affairs I can’t understand good looking SINGLE brothers grown behind men who seek teen-agers…..just thinking out loud of a former educator now locked up behind a sixteen year old there are sooooo many available women….I know rhetorical and off subject but I just don’t get it….lol

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
10:39 am

kimmie, that could be the case. That’s probably why she went to just drastic measures to out him. He probably had her thinking he was going to leave the wife for her and when he didn’t after all she snapped.

Hell has no fury like a woman scorned.

Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
10:39 am

forgot to add. the big reunion/b-day bash was sat nite at Treasure Island. shut that down too at 5:30a. i miss them already. lol. my azz went from club straight to airport. smh.

lil jon (not a Demi)

January 25th, 2010
10:40 am

SO wanted MINN to Win and they gave the game away 10 times over!

Yeaaaaaah!!!

.I don’t do NO!!!! GO COLTS!!!!!:)

said with a puzzle look on face

Okaaaaay?I?I?

Sorry, Pimpest….NO is a second home to me…I am going down to MIAMI to help put a dent in the drinking market…

Oh how I love them pretty South Bech ‘Oes

Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
10:42 am

lol @ Sexy!

@Melo
if you were to see DaCl, you would give him some azz too! lol.

Lady J

January 25th, 2010
10:42 am

LMBAO @ U CARZY!!!!!!!!!!! Enjoy boo!!!!!

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
10:42 am

LadyJ, I agree but it was going on when we were in high school. We all knew which cute fine male teacher was getting it from which very “mature” girls. There were more than a couple.

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
10:42 am

People kill me with that. Yeah Im gonna work out so when he/she sees me they are gonna regret leaving me..

DK – And putting like that, that is giving the other person power that they should not have. You are right, and if you’ve dumped me, I know it really does not matter and I don’t care if you regret it or not, I’m SO through with you! That’s never been my motivation. That’s why counselors will tell you not to lose weight, get plastic surgery, etc – FOR SOMEONE ELSE. You have to do it for YOU!

But on the real, yes if you’ve dumped me, then yes, if you ran into me later I would want you to see me looking cute and not laying in a gutter. If most folks are honest with themselves, they will admit that.

Poppa Grande

January 25th, 2010
10:45 am

Good morning all.

I agree with Infamous.

I read the story last week. I thought it was childish. What did she think that it would accomplish? He is CEO of Oracle and also an advisor to Pres. Obama. On top of that, he was still with his wife. He still has all of that.

He wasn’t right at all with what he did. However, I refuse to believe that she didn’t know what was going on. Even if he said things that strung her along, she would be agreeing to contribute to breaking up a family. That makes her actions contributory to situation.

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
10:45 am

You have to mean it though.. Really Mean that you have prayed for them because you have.
This is true. I used to know this chick who was in a relationship where there was infidelity and abuse (mentally and physically). She eventually left dude and got herself together. She claimed she was past it. Meanwhile, dude gets some help, stops drinking, and gets himself together too. He starts a business, the whole nine. He gets married and seems to be happy. So, when the chick finds out, she was upset because deep down she was hoping things wouldn’t go well for him because of everything he did to her.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
10:47 am

Kimmie – The reality of it is no one really expects to see their ex in the gutter.. If you believe that then youre off your rocker because these people had some qualities that attracted you to them in the first place.

EX: If your EX was a hardworking person.. Why would You expect that to change. If anything you should expect they are gonna work harder because they can focus now without Love being a distraction.

Lady J

January 25th, 2010
10:47 am

yep raqi your right….smh…..

Demi

January 25th, 2010
10:49 am

I’d rather be cheating on by a rich husband than a broke ass one.

See Shaq’s EX or Kobie’s wife for more info…

SexyCool - Still Feeling Good

January 25th, 2010
10:49 am

The “I’m gonna workout for revenge.” line. Hilarious.

However, one of my co-workers recently received a text message from Shthead saying that he’d heard that I had lost weight and was looking good. (Disclaimer – Me not working out for revenge. Me working out for health.) But – I did smirk just a bit when I heard that.

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
10:49 am

@Kimmie

This town ain’t that big. I run into my “ex’s” all over the place. Smile, a hug, a pinch on the bootay and I’m out…

“Holla at cha boy if you need anything..” <– And I mean it. Call me if you need me (within reason and they know it).

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
10:50 am

I’ll admit. Would rather look neat, fresh and well groomed than looking broke down as I run to the store wearing my holey socks and stain smeared sweatshirt(lol)!

Poppa Grande

January 25th, 2010
10:50 am

As far as pride goes, be careful with pride. Pride did Lucifer in.

I’ve had to learn to deal with pride myself. It can be as much as a liability as it can be an asset. (Not to mention that it one of the seven deadly sins.)

Humility is important, too.

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
10:53 am

@DreamsM ~ Celie told Mister (Color Purple) that nothing would be good with him until he does right by her! It’s not always the case. I too have a gf who man broke up with her and married another less than a year later. To this day, her heart still hurts!

Professor...

January 25th, 2010
10:53 am

I think him having to tell his wife, who did not want kids, that he had gotten his mistress pregnant was enough humilation for one century. LOL

…I am sorry, but I cannot find the laugh or the humor in this sentence.

Good morning!

Lady J

January 25th, 2010
10:53 am

Demi stop lol and Dan you are right the different social crowds you run into folk you didn’t even knew hung out until your pouring a glass of wine choking @ their pressence….lol too funny!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
10:54 am

Angie – I hope you havent caught feelings.. Honestly if I hadnt seen you in many moons and as soon as I see you.. I take you to the room and Fcuk you in the window..

All Im saying is you might wanna put ya feeling back in check.

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
10:55 am

The reality of it is no one really expects to see their ex in the gutter.. If you believe that then youre off your rocker because these people had some qualities that attracted you to them in the first place.

DK- Come on, you know I was exaggerating. The following snipet of your post proves the point I was trying to make. I understand you & Dan have to play devil’s advocate toward the ladies on here, though, LOL, so I understand both of your responses.

Be productive after your bad breakup. Let your roots take hold in the dirt youve been thrown, sprout roots and grow a flower. Dont worry they will see the flower. Dont do nothing for them or that this will get them back..

Beautifully put!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
10:56 am

Kimmie – Wink

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
10:56 am

Hey SCool! Thanks sister & you too, Leggs. You all obviously get it.

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
10:57 am

@PG

Exactly.

Demi

January 25th, 2010
10:59 am

I take you to the room and Fcuk you in the window..

DK…pls record in HD…I am apart of the blu-ray crowd now…thats the only way i’ll purchase y’all’s sex tape.

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
10:59 am

@Kimmie

I’m not playing “Devil’s Advocate” in this case, I truly haven’t gotten it. Mdot was the first dude I’ve seen say it.

But I tell my female friends all the time “git right for you, not him”. It gives that other person a place in your life that they don’t deserve. Anger, resentment, hurt all lead to really bad places, and ion like to see my folk go through it – for anybody.

Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
11:01 am

@DK
smh @ you dude! like i can control this. of course i’m workin’ on it. i can’t like or be in love with DaCl! he lives out of state and freshly divorced. i’m giving myself a couple of days to deal. then its back to business as usual.

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
11:03 am

I too have a gf who man broke up with her and married another less than a year later. To this day, her heart still hurts!

Leggs – See, stuff like that hurts. I’ve been there. It rips at your heart. Some folks are close to the edge and can’t handle stuff like that gracefully.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
11:04 am

For all the tough talk.. Everybody here has had a tough break up in which it took time for them to deal with.. Its ok thats a part of life.. Take that experience and move forward with it. Make it apart of who you are, let it make you more aware but dont let it into your soul. The goal is to keep your soul free from past breakups and mess because you always want your Soul light to shine and not put other plugs in the socket that dims it..

Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
11:05 am

@DK
and that’s all it was suppose to be. get some and bounce.

i'm swiss

January 25th, 2010
11:07 am

Dang… After reading some of these stories all I keep thinking about is how much d@mn work some guys are putting on themselves trying to keep up the charades. Wives/families in different states, having a separate house for the girlfriend to move into… good grief. How could it possibly be worth that much effort? :lol: Not that I ever would, but if I ever got to the point where I just had to have some strange… I do believe I’d just go to a pro. :lol: Definitely cheaper & it’s got to be less stressful than some of these stories on here… :lol: D@mn….

Demi

January 25th, 2010
11:09 am

While I do not buy or down load porn…I while I was visiting a one of my lesbian home girl’s home…beh pop in some Lesbian flick in HD display thru her new samsung 52′ led…puddy has never look so dang good…I didn’t know weither to lick the screen or skeet…it was that realistic!!!!

Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
11:09 am

*See, stuff like that hurts. I’ve been there. It rips at your heart. Some folks are close to the edge and can’t handle stuff like that gracefully.*

co-sign!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
11:11 am

Beaut – What I want you to see is this. If you intend to get the man you want, you have to wait on him. Not every random dude you know, knew or is getting to know deserves your body. Youre prolly a cutie so dudes are gonna approach but wait on him to come. When he comes it will be different. It will be like he brought his own theme music with him. His conversation will be clearly understood with no curves and mumbo jumbo. Let the Lord send you a Dude cause you have been picking wrong. You dont have the right radar for men so you need a little extra help..

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
11:11 am

Infamous, I agree. If you have never had your heart broken to the point of it hurting you have never been in a real relationship.

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
11:13 am

But I tell my female friends all the time “git right for you, not him”. It gives that other person a place in your life that they don’t deserve.

That’s exactly what I said in my post to DK & in so many words, my 1st response to you. I take pride in my appearance anyway and I truly did not think I would ever see my ex again or anyone connected with him. But I’d be lying if I say it did not make me feel good to know I was at my best and word got back. At 21 I was not so super-enlightened like you Dan, but I did know to get myself together FOR ME and not anybody else out there. For my own health and well-being. And yes, loved ones reap the benefits too of my being at my best.

Melo

January 25th, 2010
11:15 am

Good morning!

This topic is really for u ladies…
And u are all,most of u at least,proving that a break up,esp if the guy initiates it,hurts u really bad…

U may not go gung ho with it,liike this heifer did,but at leat u contemplate some thangs! :lol:

Why?

Im really enjoying the aspect of “getting phine” so he can see that he missed on a good thang..funny. :lol:

Didnt he know then tht he had a phine thang??

U all take break ups serioulsy for no reason instead of just focusing on the future.

If he was thinking about u,he wld be with u!

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
11:15 am

DK – 11:04 – real talk!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
11:16 am

Raqi – A broken heart can do one or two things.. It can break you or it can make you. A broken heart shows you what youre made of. Then the fact that you go on and love again proves you are fearless.

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
11:18 am

@Kimmie

There you go…

I’m far from “enlightened”. I continue to make my share of mistakes, daily.

And most of the stuff I say comes from my firsthand knowledge of getting/being hurt. And when you’re a stubborn as I, telling someone else about it don’t work (besides, it’s hard for someone else to tell me how I’m supposed to feel).

Believe me when I tell you I’m damaged, but I gladly acknowledge that fact and keep it pushing.

Melo

January 25th, 2010
11:19 am

If you have never had your heart broken to the point of it hurting you have never been in a real relationship

DisAgree!!

Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
11:19 am

is it jus me or is DK way off base today? wth are you talkn bout? i’m not lookin’ to marry or be with DaCl. we shared something special, it was hot, thats it.

back in hs, it was so simple. we would for example leave a house party together for a minute, come back and act like nuttn happen. see each other monday at school. still nuttn!

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
11:19 am

U all take break ups serioulsy for no reason instead of just focusing on the future.

Melo – Have you never had your heart broken?

Professor...

January 25th, 2010
11:19 am

Angie, what is the distance between you and your high school window buddy? Is he seeing someone at this time?

On topic: I don’t think it is difficult to spot red flags. I do feel it is up to us on what we do with the red flags. I think it is crazy to be a whore mistress especially with all of the STDs in the world. What kind of example is being set for the kids (if applicable) if you are living or mingling with a married wo/man?

Poppa Grande

January 25th, 2010
11:19 am

Exactly DK.

That which does not kill me, makes me stronger.

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
11:20 am

Kimmie, I ain’t gone even lie. When we went to court about my son’s custody I was looking very extra put together with my husband sitting right there by my side. Whitebread told me that no other man would treat as well as he did. He is right. Mason does not treat me as good as whitebread did, he treats me 10 times better. And I wanted him to see that.

Poppa Grande

January 25th, 2010
11:21 am

Trust me, breaking up the the Doc was tough. It was hard a decision for me to make. However, I had to make the decision best for me (and probably best for us as a couple).

I learned from it, and it made me appreciate my current relationship even more.

Melo

January 25th, 2010
11:21 am

Melo – Have you never had your heart broken?

Broken?? Nope…

I may have broken but i cant say that for sure…my ex exhibited such signs but i cant speak for her.

I have had some cute chics that i liked get away but breaking my heart..

Never!

Im so realistic about lyfe and some of these thangs..for real for real!

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 25th, 2010
11:23 am

@Demi LMAO!!!!!!!!! Flick in HD….next thing you know there will be Flicks in 3D/HD. :lol:

Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
11:24 am

*I learned from it, and it made me appreciate my current relationship even more.*

that’s what i’m banking on.

SexyCool - Still Feeling Good

January 25th, 2010
11:25 am

It’s funny. We all like to think that no one is going to treat a mate as good as we did. And I KNOW that’s not true, but I still like to THINK it. However, I am forever confident in the knowledge that for every relationship that I was truly 100% invested in, that person got MY best for that time.

And I’m good with that.

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
11:26 am

Infamous and Poppa, I agree. However for a minute there I thought I was as good as dead. My mom told me that if I was going to keep that up I may as well go outside, dig my grave and lie in it. Or get up, get myself together, take care of my kids and be the woman that she had taught me to be.

That I did. After a while the hurt left and I was on to bigger and better things.

Professor...

January 25th, 2010
11:26 am

I think red flags are always there, but it is up to the person on what they do with them. As for this entire s.l.u.t or ho I mean mistress thingy. I do not understand that at all.

When you talk about looking good after a relationship I can understand the logic behind that as well. In fact I think we should look at ourselves and see what we can improve.

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
11:27 am

Whitebread told me that no other man would treat as well as he did.

Raqi – Almost like the mess my ex would say to me – the one I’ve been referring to today. He said no man would ever want me and nobody would treat me like him.

SMH

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
11:28 am

SexyCool, I think that is why it hurts so bad when some relationships end. We give our best to that person. When you have my best you have me 100%.

i'm swiss

January 25th, 2010
11:28 am

“@Demi LMAO!!!!!!!!! Flick in HD….next thing you know there will be Flicks in 3D/HD.”

Awwwwwww suki suki, now… “Squirters 3: In 3-D” :lol:

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
11:32 am

kimmie, they say that stuff trying to break us and keep us down. They thing that broke me was I had a baby from the relationship. That’s what crushed my spirit more than the breakup and the nature of it itself.

That little baby.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
11:33 am

Beaut – Its your life Lady.. See what Steve Harvey didnt tell you is ya’ll cant date like a man because that makes you a wh0re, not a lady..

Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
11:35 am

@DK
you right bout that. i cannot date like a man and will not even try. my sensitive azz! smh.

@Raqi/Sexy
my issue from the breakup was all the hard work i put into our relationship. *ugh*

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
11:35 am

Beaut – Then you had a dude at home.. Wow!!! You go Girl.. I guess.

Demi

January 25th, 2010
11:36 am

next thing you know there will be Flicks in 3D/HD.

Slim….lawd yes, yes ,yes…i can’t wait for squirter flicks to be in HD…I hope they come out with special 3D goggles that spray mist in your face at the right time…AWWWWWWWW SKEET SKEET SKeeee..ee..ee..eeT!!!!

Demi is now pasting out from wang exhaustion

I feel like Mr.brown after running in place.

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
11:37 am

Melo – Then you are very lucky, to not ever have experienced that hurt. If you had, then you may understand a little better when others react the way they do over matters of the heart.

If a person is not very stable to begin with, it can be enough to take them over the edge. Just wanting to look cute in case you run into an ex is really nothing and is actually quite normal, as opposed to putting up billboards, slashing tires, killing folk.

You ever seen that show Snapped?

Demi

January 25th, 2010
11:37 am

>>>i can’t wait for squirter flicks to be in 3D/HD

Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
11:37 am

@DK
i don’t have a man! you mixin’ me up with another blogger.

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
11:38 am

@Raqi/kimmie ~ that seems to be common thread among men. Talking out the sides of their mouths hoping we believe that no one else will want us. My ex repeatedly told me no one would want me with a child. Each time he said it I laughed and kept it moving. My pysche was too strong for his foolishness and after awhile he realized it and STFU!

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 25th, 2010
11:38 am

@Melo THis topic doesn’t mainly pertain to ladies….what about dudes who flip the fcuk out when a chick dumps them…show up everywhere they are, drive by the house, come over unannounced, blow up the phone when she doesn’t answer, keep sending flowers or other unwarranted gifts, crying and begging, stalking, threatening, beating up, even killing in some extremes….Let’s not forget about ole boy who had a Bytch BBQ…killed his exgirl then grilled her!

Poppa Grande

January 25th, 2010
11:39 am

Raqi

I never thought of myself as good as dead, but it was tough. However, I did look back and see what I could improve.

I never thought that there would never be another relationship. I just took it as this person was not the one for me. If her spoiled ways bothered me before the ring, it would be an even bigger issue after a ring. I wasn’t trying to change her. So, I had to move on instead of making a decision that we’d both regret.

I still wish her best. She is good and I am good, but we just weren’t good together.

Melo

January 25th, 2010
11:41 am

ya’ll cant date like a man because that makes you a wh0re, not a lady..

@DK

boy u on phire :lol: :lol:

Beaut has been wh0ring for a while now…eve new guy she meets and blazes her,she gets feelings :lol:

@Angie..did u do the “on-the-bed-tie-ur-pony-tail” maneuvre on dude?? :lol: <swiss knows about that one! :lol:

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
11:42 am

Y’all are killing me….

The logic that the woman I’m with is not good enough for anyone else says more about me than anything….and cats actually say this isht?

@Slim/Demi

There are HD TV’s in the pipeline that will have a 3D feature. They marketed them last week in Vegas.

From what I heard they were nice. And the first thing the homie said was “porn is gonna change!”

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
11:43 am

Damn who the EX gets with as long as she is away from me. I would shake his hand and thank him for getting her to stop Fcukin with me..

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 25th, 2010
11:45 am

I’m swiss & Demi You all might be on to something. I might need to start working on putting my ‘mist’ in a spray bottle. Swiss you, unfortunately can’t help me with this…so that’s just going to leave all the milking to Demi. I sure he’s up for it, cause that’s going to take a whooooole lot of work :mrgreen:

SexyCool - Still Feeling Good

January 25th, 2010
11:46 am

Oh…and my response to Shthead’s statement that I’d never find anyone to treat me like he did, “I certainly hope not!”

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
11:46 am

Dang Swiss..

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
11:50 am

@Kimmie ~ Snapped can take your entire day. Love it!

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
11:50 am

I certainly hope not!”

SCool – That’s what I’m talking about!LOL!!

Melo

January 25th, 2010
11:51 am

kimmie/Slimone..

I do understand and hear about chics who get heartbreaks,even guys for that matter,like the ones u sighted Slimone…

I have never been one…

When i was dating, i used to go outa my way to NOT DATE chics who i thoght cld potentilaly go that route and hurt and possiblky commit suicide coz we broke up.YES! there were cases like those back in my nik of the woods where chics wld commit suicide and personally, i tried to weed out chis like that…

chics with kids,looking for husbands with thirsty eyes..
chics with low self esteem

very religious chics..most of them wld be nursing wounds from prior relationships..no wonder God was “salvation”..the church was really an escape..
etc…

But all im saying is that personally, i have never been the one with that kinda of low self esteem or put myself in a position where a chic wld abuse me to the extend of me feeling sorry for myself..

Kimmie..that guy abused u and i understand the feelings..
Raqi got got and i do sympathize too..

I always dated with my eyes wide open..u know like the shark smelling blood while prancing in the waters of the Atlantic..loking here and looking there :lol:

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
11:52 am

Leggs – One of my gf’s husbands got kinda worried and a little mad at me cause I told her about Snapped! She stayed glued to it whenever it was on! LOL!!

Demi

January 25th, 2010
11:54 am

SlimOne…..

demi be good demi be good…demi stall be good

well…Walmart batteries are on sale…and i do have a few toys I would like to try on ya…Demi has nothing but time…

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
11:57 am

kimmie, I have watched a couple of episodes of snapped and I hear all the horror stories in the news every day. People go around playing with other people’s emotions not knowing where that snapping point is. You can push people too far and the results can be deadly.

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
11:57 am

I have never been one

Melo – That’s the best way to avoid being on Snapped or being the “Snappee” – don’t be “that” guy – that plays with a ladies feelings!LOL!!

But sometimes, no matter how nice you’ve been or how carefully you think you’ve chosen, heartache can just be part of life. It may be someone you really loved and cared for does not feel the same for you and breaks up with you. Being a stable person, you may hurt, but you lick your wounds, chalk it up to the game, get yourself together & move on. Other, less stable folk – can’t deal with it, and a lot of things in life, rationally.

i'm swiss

January 25th, 2010
11:58 am

D@mn Slim — Why’d you have to shoot me down — preemptively, at that — all in publish & ish? :lol: Did I do something wrong? :lol:

Melo

January 25th, 2010
11:58 am

You ever seen that show Snapped?
@Kimmie

No..ive seen CHEATERS

what snapped about?

Melo

January 25th, 2010
12:01 pm

Bret Favre played like a true champ untill the last few seconds….

shld have one the game!

This defeat will haunt him forever!

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 25th, 2010
12:02 pm

i’m swiss You have a MRS. Sorry Charlie. BUT if you like, I can rewind that ’shut down’ and just act like I don’t know you’re taken…hence the topic we are discussing today (only if you get your permission signed by Mrs Swiss) J/K :-)

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
12:04 pm

@Kimmie

The other part of that (11:57) is the damage that you cause and don’t see.

Hearing about crushing some female in passing does something to you…

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
12:04 pm

what snapped about?

Melo – Google it & watch an episode of it. It comes on Oxygen and it’s all these true stories about women that have “snapped” and killed their lovers or husbands! A lot of the cases you’ve heard about in the news, like the GA lady who poisoned & killed 2 husbands with antifreeze – these stories usually end up on Snapped!

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
12:06 pm

@Melo ~ it’s been stated that Cheaters is staged. Hired people to pose as the jilted wife or gf. Even Jerry Greco has been questioned over his infamous knife stabbing on the boat.

Snapped is about wifes, girlfriends, mistresses that emotionally breakdown usually through killing. I few supposedly hitmen have staged murders only to have the woman wide eyed when the alleged victim walks into the room/courthouse.

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
12:09 pm

The other part of that (11:57) is the damage that you cause and don’t see.

Dan – Exactly.

Demi

January 25th, 2010
12:09 pm

I personally think most men and women enjoy getting their feelings hurt or toyed with…There comes a point and time when you just KNOW…you’re being F/K wit…most folk just keep running the Matrix program…hoping for new results, LOL

dumb a$$es

Lady J

January 25th, 2010
12:10 pm

the insanity definition is real….lol demi!

Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
12:12 pm

@Melo
you calling me a wh*ore! that’s sad man. i see you and DK are on attack mode today.

wow!

you both know what this means right? lol. imma keep you thirsty on this one unless someone knows what i’m talkn bout. hehehe

Lady J

January 25th, 2010
12:15 pm

I’m a snapped, 48hr hard evidence, 48hrs mystery, ID, TLC, WE, A&E watching fanatic…..Ive watched all and enjoy the re runs and the ones I haven’t seen periodically….Great shows on humans and reactions….

Lady J

January 25th, 2010
12:16 pm

20/20 re reuns are great too!!! just good stuff….every now and then you get a black couple but mostly is white and I know cheating or demise has no color just an observation….lol

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
12:16 pm

I like First 48. You know when they are about to give it up when they ask for a cigarette..

IDK..

January 25th, 2010
12:16 pm

yall r wild..and very funny. anyone know the age range of the folks on here? im quite curious…

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
12:17 pm

IDK – Everybody is old enough to Drink and stay up past their bed time..

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
12:18 pm

Beauty – If I was in attack mode you couldnt stand it because believe me I didnt say what I really thought.

Demi

January 25th, 2010
12:18 pm

…is the damage that you cause and don’t see

The Butterfly effect…

IDK..

January 25th, 2010
12:18 pm

lol…u like me huh infamous??? i just wondered…

Melo

January 25th, 2010
12:19 pm

you calling me a wh*ore!

@Angie

yeah!

we still on earth u know and single women with kids like urself dont get no points,even from ur fellow females for coming on the blog and informercializing ur Easy-Lay Antics

This wasnt ur first on blog One hit wonder GOT Laid announcement and if the trajectory is correct,proly wont be ur last..

Keep ur Grown 40+ Woman Cob Web Dusting to urself. :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
12:21 pm

IDK – You know it Aaliyah all day in this piece… Age a int nothing but a number.. Blah blah blah..

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
12:22 pm

Angie
Those old “crushes” die hard, and your boy in Vegas knew that. Every dude knows that whenever he runs into a chick that says, “I used to have the biggest crush on you”, it usually means he can get still get it, no matter the circumstance (involved, married, whatever).

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
12:22 pm

@Melo ~ you are funny.

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
12:24 pm

@Dreams

I thought that’s what that (12:22) means for real.

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
12:25 pm

IDK, I am roughly 15,270. Give or take a day or two.

Lady J

January 25th, 2010
12:26 pm

leggs can you get into cold blood???? I can’t that’s bout the only one that doesn’t hold my attention…

Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
12:27 pm

@DK
if ur gonna be a jerk, be a jerk! spill it.

@Melo
i’ve blogged about a lot of stuff. mostly about the past. you got it all wrong homie. *eyeroll*

@DreamsM
you guys are misunderstanding my posts today. but whatever.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
12:28 pm

Beauty – Babe enjoy yourself. Its your life..

i'm swiss

January 25th, 2010
12:28 pm

“i’m swiss You have a MRS.”

Ah, okay, that’s what I figured. But next time, please, make sure you qualify shut-downs like that…

“Only because you’re taken, swiss, ‘cos if you weren’t it would be ON…” Something like that… :lol: I may be married, but I’ve still got to maintain some street cred here… ;-) :lol:

Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
12:31 pm

@Melo
and i’m spilling the beans to ppl who doesn’t and will never have a personal connection in my life. i come here to be real about my dating/sex life. you’re the reason bloggers hold back. you are the biggest perverted cheater on here! nicca you got nerve. lol.

Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!

January 25th, 2010
12:33 pm

and with that i’m out. gotta get my taxes done! *waving*

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
12:35 pm

@LadyJ ~ never heard of cold blood, but if it’s crime related, true stories and not a lot of gore, it will probably hold my attention. Love practically all forms of crime stories.

Melo

January 25th, 2010
12:36 pm

@Angie..

know u licked dude really good,like u were his gerl…i trust u on that!

:lol: :lol:

Lady J

January 25th, 2010
12:39 pm

yeah it is what you stated same channels too…cool

Lady J

January 25th, 2010
12:46 pm

guys I got one for ya…..get a late night (12:45am) text former lover now that stupid word friend….lol…..hey are you out….no i am in bed watching movies….where are you watching the games tomorrow…..I don’t know….the same questions are asked to him via tex….never answered where he was watching the game but going say he’s @ one of his homegirl’s house and they were discusing the games….my reply was random isn’t so random sometimes his response what I don’t understand and I said me either good night….lol dating is FUNNY!!!!! Growth baby!!!! LOL

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
12:47 pm

I went to a party this past Saturday and saw a few things that looked strange. I knew everyone at the party except this one dude. He was knew to the circle so naturally I inquired about him. He had to be about 6′8 and nice looking. What caught my attention other than his height is the fact that he walked around the entire evening with his own 40 oz of Budweiser. Secondly, I quickly found out he was with a woman there. He’s 43 and she looks to be close to 60. My gf advised me to stay away from him cuz the elevator didn’t go all the way up. The gf I went to the party w/asked him about the 40 oz, and he said he was from Connecticut and that’s how they roll. Been to many parties in Connecticut and I never saw that. Anyway, he followed me and my gf outside as she puffed on her medicine trying to talk to either one of that would talk back. We didn’t. Long story short, just before I was leaving he saw me by the kitchen sink alone and he placed a piece of paper by my wine glass. I opened it, looked at him, looked at his girl and walked over to her and gave her his piece of paper. What happened after that I could care less.

Ok, on to Sunday. My friend who gave the party called me laughing at me and my antics. Said homegirl was peeved and would have felt better if I had pulled her to the side and given her number. You see, that tells me one thing only…she can forgive him and not look like a fool to those who witness me giving her back his number. They’re suppose to get married.

SexyCool - Still Feeling Good

January 25th, 2010
12:50 pm

Leggs – you get the Post of the Day Award.
Priceless!!!

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 25th, 2010
12:57 pm

@Raqi

Question. In your earlier post, you said you went back to the married guy. How much longer did this go on for?

Professor...

January 25th, 2010
1:06 pm

Ms. Leggs you GOT him! Why you didn’t do your other thing…when you tear up the paper and let it fall to his feet? Ohhh you was at someone’s house, so I see why, but I love the way you handle this kind of stuff and I am taking notes!

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 25th, 2010
1:07 pm

@i’m swiss “I’ve still got to maintain some street cred here”

oh my bad bud…now step behind this here counter so I can squeeze your buttocks, dry hump & makeup. Sssssshhhh don’t tell anybody :mrgreen:

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
1:10 pm

Mdot, I said that I was with him again. Meaning I laid with him knowing full well he was married. It only happened once. My son was six months at the time and he was the last guy that I had been with which was at the beginning of my pregnancy. I let my guard down.

After that I was able to fight it. It was hard sometimes but I managed. About 2 years after that I met someone else. That lasted for almost 2 years. After that I dated every now and then but was not in a relationship for almost 4 years. Nothing physical just going out here and there.

Melo

January 25th, 2010
1:13 pm

After that I was able to fight it??
@Raqi??

it??

the urge or the luv??

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
1:17 pm

@SexyC ~ people can only get away with crap like that if you let them. He picked the wrong person. I’m not dealing with any of that crap. I won’t let misunderstandings develop between me, him or the woman. Nip it in the bud as soon as it happens!!

M. (pronuced M dot)

January 25th, 2010
1:23 pm

@Raqi

Ok. Thanks for explaining that.

I have a question, it’s crazy but who do you all think is better at concealing cheating especially in a marriage? A friend’s aunt was an infamous cheater and her husband never really caught on. Also I know some guy’s that cheat on their wives, but I think it may be a necessity motive; meaning as long as everything is taken care of, the women really wont question.

Here is my thoughts on the cheaters: Men lie, but women are slick. If you are slick you are bound to slide.

I am generalizing but here are some examples:

Guy Example:

He may lie about being at the mall but he may be with his other woman.

Woman Example:

She will say she was at the mall with her friend; which she probably was but also she may have had lunch with a guy she is seeing and she had him meet her at the mall but you didnt ask so she was vague but technically she didnt lie.

Guys need to listen more!

Professor...

January 25th, 2010
1:23 pm

I am far from perfection, but it takes a special kind of harlot to knowingly sleep with another woman’s husband (and that goes for men too)!

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
1:24 pm

@Professor ~ no need in making a mountain out of a molehill. Nip it, nip it at its core. He tried and it backfired….he may roll up on the right female. He thought perhaps it would be me.

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
1:28 pm

Leggs – I love it! And what’s with the “that’s how we roll in Connecticutt”?! Hillarious!

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
1:36 pm

@kimmie ~ hilarious at best. Who walks through a party with a 40 oz. Kanye wasn’t invited!

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
1:38 pm

LOL Leggs, that was pretty good.

IDK..

January 25th, 2010
1:43 pm

roll call; Melo..off tha chain! LOL. Infamous…age ain nuttn but a numba huh? suuuuuuurre..thas what they say! Raqi…lol, cute. i’ll do the math later. ;-) Leggs, im applauding you!! nice move! and yet his gf was upset with YOU…craziness. M. u sholl ain lying with those examples!

SexyCool - Still Feeling Good

January 25th, 2010
1:47 pm

I do feel just a smidgen of sympathy for o’girl’s embarrassment. However, she knows what program she’s on by now – I’m sure.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 25th, 2010
1:52 pm

@Dreams what is the point of trying to get caught…why not just break up with the person? DUH!

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
1:52 pm

Now, perhaps someone will soon slip me their number and not be attached to another!

@SexyC ~ doubt this was his first time. I was cool with giving her the number. I didn’t make a scene and I didn’t want to strain my neck to look up to him but he probably looked like a scared giraffe!

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
1:52 pm

Usually, when men get caught cheating, it’s not because he was too dumb to get away with it. He just didn’t care enough to hide it anymore. In some cases he probably even wanted to get caught.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
1:56 pm

He just didn’t care enough to hide it anymore. In some cases he probably even wanted to get caught.

Well D@mn!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
1:56 pm

Slim – Its better when they break up with you so you dont have the guilt of being the one that broke things off..

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
1:57 pm

She lives in my lap.. Forever my Fiance..

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
1:59 pm

what is the point of trying to get caught…why not just break up with the person?
Slim If you let me come by a little later, I’ll tell why. Just don’t tell my wife or my other three mistresses. lol

SexyCool - Still Feeling Good

January 25th, 2010
1:59 pm

Shthead never would have broken up with me. It was easier for him to just put up with my bytching and complaining when he didn’t something effed up because he felt like I was just going to be mad for a few days or a week or so and then I would go back to my usual habit of accepting and believing the bllsht. (Which I did for longer than I am proud to admit.)

I am sure it would have gone on like this indefinitely if I had not called an end to it.

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 25th, 2010
2:01 pm

@DreamsMaterialize

That is so true. Also with some males/females, they do this to give their SO a reason to break up with them. Some people just cant be straight up and down so they just sabotage it.

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
2:02 pm

Dreams – Why feel “guilty” about being a grown up and breaking it off if you don’t want to be in the relationship anymore?

That’s okay, I already know the answer.

SexyCool - Still Feeling Good

January 25th, 2010
2:02 pm

when he DID something effed up

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
2:07 pm

The old “Imma drive her crazy so SHE’LL break up with me” mess is how some folks end up on Snapped! Keep playing with people emotions if you want to.

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
2:08 pm

@DreamsM ~ A lot get caught not because they no longer cared, but because they were stupid and slipped!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
2:09 pm

Every boy and girl, woman to man
When you feel you’ve done about the best you can
Muthafunk the wagon, come join the band
Vibrate, vibrate, higher!

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 25th, 2010
2:09 pm

@Infamous “Its better when they break up with you so you dont have the guilt of being the one that broke things off”

I hear ya! Me likey likey….bad thing about it is, how dayum long you gotta wait for them to get the courage to actually break up with you when you’ve tried everything?

BF comes home and walks in on Slim talking into his Pops ‘mic’

Slim: Oh Dayum baby….wait hole on…let me wipe my mouff first. I’m sorry, I just couldn’t resist. Guess you’re gonna leave me now huh?

BF: I cannot believe you would betray me like this!! But i know i’ve been working extra hours and haven’t had much time to spend with you. I forgive you but PLEASE forgive me for putting you on the back burner. I promise to put forth better effort.

Slim now faints cuz she actually brought herself to sucky sucky her bf’s 69yr old Daddys slong!!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
2:09 pm

Kimmie _ I think you’ll kill a dude.. Youre scaring me.. You keep talking bout Snapped..

Professor

January 25th, 2010
2:10 pm

Anyone over the age of 21 should NOT be playing that lame game of messing up so the other person will break up with them…what a weiner if you are! :roll:

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
2:10 pm

DreamsMat, I agree that sometimes folks want to get caught. One of my friends found herself in a situation with a married guy for almost a month and she said she believes he tried to set her up in way that his wife would find out. Maybe to get out of having to confess to his wrong doings to his wife he had her to call him at his house. (Message on her voicemail: Call me at my new number XXX-XXX-XXXX) She said when the wife answered she just pretended to be a telemarketer.

She really don’t know if it was his way of ending it with her, his way of telling his wife, or his way of telling his wife so she would leave him. Either way it was a cashmere move because my friend didn’t know dude was married.

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
2:10 pm

@InfamousD ~ as Chrisette Michelle would say “Blame It On Me!”

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
2:12 pm

SexyCool, like your occasional rants was a small price for him to pay for him to have his cake and eat it too.

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
2:13 pm

DK – LOL!!! Naw, I ain’t going to prison for nobody! If I ruined MY life over some sorry dude – yeah I think I really would SNAP!

DK, I’m just scared of people nowadays. I don’t play with anybody – man, woman or child!

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
2:13 pm

Could be lots of reasons why a dude doesn’t care about getting caught anymore.

1) didn’t want to be “the one to break it off”
2) tried (not so assertively) several times before to break it off
3) he’s a malicious, spiteful bastard

SexyCool - Still Feeling Good

January 25th, 2010
2:14 pm

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
2:18 pm

Professor – I always thought that game was stupid.

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
2:21 pm

Lots of people sabotage their relationships, for lots of different reasons. I’m sure a therapist could run down a long list of reasons. And despite what we on the blog would like to think, these things are not limited to “young” people. Immature, sure, but not young. I enough of us have exerienced something with someone we figured was “too old” to be acting like that.

IDK..

January 25th, 2010
2:21 pm

DM..right! they SAY age ain nuttn but a number…go figure!!

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
2:21 pm

I would not give whitebread the benefit of telling his wife I was having his baby. I was not going to do his dirty work for him. When I finally met his wife she said that he told her by denying the whole thing first. He told her “a woman” was trying to accuse him of fathering her child because he evicted her. He didn’t evict me, I moved out. And I was not renting from him. I was living with him rent free. LOL

He was over there telling her one thing, but in my ear every chance he got trying to get me back. Then ole hazel eyes was born…

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
2:22 pm

To add to Dreams 2:21;

It’s also fear.

Fear of retribution, fear of hurting the other person, just fear of the unknown reaction.

And yes, it is immaturity as well.

Run4life

January 25th, 2010
2:22 pm

@Leggs…how pathetic are men nowadays to actually attend a party with his lady, and not only look at all the other ladies attendig the party, but to pass a telephone number as well. That is really SAD! Sorry guys..just had to get that off my chest.

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
2:23 pm

these things are not limited to “young” people. Immature, sure, but not young. I enough of us have exerienced something with someone we figured was “too old” to be acting like that.

Dreams – Oh yeah, some things do NOT improved with age! I mean, look at the mess Leggs met up with at that party at 43, and she’s spoken of dudes older than that pulling stupid stunts. To the mature-minded individual though, it is disappointing when you think most of that should be behind you – high school antics.

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
2:24 pm

Yeah DreamsMat. My son’s father is 13 years older than I am. He was 39 at the time I got pregnant.

IDK..

January 25th, 2010
2:25 pm

Raqi, since ur putting it out thr (perhaps i missed it) but how long was you with WB? and honestly, what was you thinking being with him? not being a smartass just asking

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
2:25 pm

Hey Im not gonna lie.. Ive done it and had it done to me.. Its not cool.. Believe me the most important thing Ive learned about relationships is this.. Go when you feel like its time to go. Dont wait to see if…… Get ghost when ish aint right.. I understand that part of it.. I would rather be honest and walk away rather than tear the relationship to h3ll..

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
2:27 pm

IDK, we were together 1-1/2 years. I was thinking I was with a great guy at the time. I had no idea he was married. And when the signs did show up I did not take them for what they were.

Melo

January 25th, 2010
2:32 pm

Isnt billboard dude in the topic about 45 years old and this billboard heiffer is about same age as Angie! 41 years?? :lol:

The “marriage and wedding” pressure cpled with the competition and the fact that the peers are married makes some chics go real nutts upstairs!

Its a widespread,world wide phenomena.

IDK..

January 25th, 2010
2:32 pm

raqi..well kudos to you. for sharing/opening and finally getting out of the relationship. especially pregnant i can imagine ur emotions. u got the most precious gift out of it tho so it was not all in vain :-) we’ve all played a blind eye at some point…

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
2:32 pm

DK – I’m no angel either, I’ve gotten “ghost” and just didn’t return calls anymore, that kind of thing. But to go about, pulling all kinds of antics to get the other to break up with me – just takes too much energy and like I said, I’ve always been scared….

But I can understand the motivation behind it – don’t want to hurt feelings, fear,etc. Like a political columnist I read earlier – it takes courage to do the right thing.

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
2:32 pm

The “marriage and wedding” pressure cpled with the competition and the fact that the peers are married makes some chics go real nutts upstairs!

Melo – I think billboard chick’s issues are WAY beyond wanting marriage & a wedding because her friends are married!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
2:33 pm

Kimmie – Its not that blatanly obvious.. Again its just you dont care anymore..

Professor

January 25th, 2010
2:34 pm

I am not trying to be funny, but you were not living rent free, in fact you were living in sin as an adultress, Raqi.

I really feel bad for WB’s wife to have all of this mess explode in her face like that, what a mess for her to deal with.

Willie Dynamite

January 25th, 2010
2:34 pm

Afternoon All –

Not much on topic so I’ll just lurk. Oh yeah fugg Brett Favre.

Professor

January 25th, 2010
2:36 pm

Willie, please don’t mention that game my BP will go up! That game was a mess…I cannot stand the Saints!

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
2:36 pm

IDK, I love that little boy to death no matter how he got here.

Melo

January 25th, 2010
2:36 pm

2nd post!

@Raqi,why do u call him whitebread??

Is he white??

School..i understand Sh!tihead! :lol:

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
2:36 pm

Well Professor, we live and we learn.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
2:37 pm

RAqi – You know Im with Prof on this one cause you eventually knew he was married.. You know how I feel about dating married folk.. So Im sure WB hates you just as much as you hate him and Im sure his side is just as interesting as yours.. Ya’ll destroyed his wife.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
2:38 pm

Raqi – But its still all love because youre soooo 1 hunnid about it..

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
2:40 pm

@Willie D

That ‘not caring’ will have a cat acting reckless and (in hindsight) real rude.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
2:41 pm

Melo – The rest is Chicken Sh!t.. Whitebread Chicken Sh!t..

Willie Dynamite

January 25th, 2010
2:41 pm

Prof – Sorry, just can’t stand punk azz Brett Favre. Hope his overrated azz finally retires. Not a Aints fan and not a Peyton Manning fan. Dont care who really wins the SB because I’m a Cowboys fan. Just happy for Jim Caldwell even though he wont get any credit.

Willie Dynamite

January 25th, 2010
2:42 pm

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
2:42 pm

@Run4Life ~ I’ve been good, real good abt all this creeping. But if this keeps up, I’m gonna snap and verbally read someone their rights.

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
2:43 pm

Infamous, I left him when I found out he was married. I was only with him one time after then and they were separated by then. No I am not proud of that one time but I can’t go back and undo it now neither am I ashame to admit I did wrong. And neither will I let someone make me feel bad for something that happened in my past that I have asked forgiveness for.

I did not destroy his wife because I did not know he was married. He was the one wrong for those 1-1/2 years.

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
2:44 pm

And why would he hate me. He was the one that did not wear a condom that night and he knew he was married.

Melo

January 25th, 2010
2:45 pm

You know how I feel about dating married folk.. So Im sure WB hates you just as much as you hate him

@DK

Raqi said she “Only” slept with him once after she knew!

I liked the “Only” part! :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
2:46 pm

Raqi – There is a deep hatred there.. Trust.

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
2:48 pm

@Willie D

My bad…

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
2:50 pm

Infamous, really? Why? All the time we were together we used condoms. We let is slip once time. Nothing happened. We let it slip another time. Bam here comes ole hazel. It’s not like I was lying to him about taking birth control or something. He knew going in raw what the chances were. He was nearly 40 at the time. We just got careless. He more than I because he had something (marriage) to loss where I didn’t.

SexyCool - Still Feeling Good

January 25th, 2010
2:53 pm

So much judgement. Thank God HE forgives.

Tazzee - still praying for Haiti

January 25th, 2010
2:56 pm

Afternoon Folks!

LET’S GO COLTS!!!

Hate those Saints!

When I first heard the billboard story – I must admit I chuckled a little, but then I thought about how stupid it all was.

I’ve never been one to try to get revenge. I’ve had some interesting thoughts of vengeance, but never carried it out. But if anyone is looking for some ideas – hit me up ;-)

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
2:57 pm

SexyCool, God is the only one I look to. People are going to say what they say but I don’t care. I made some bad choices but I don’t regret them because they taught me a lesson. I am not perfect. But I am glad that I have a life and experience that I can speak of. There is so much that I have learned that I will be able to teach my daughter.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
2:57 pm

Raqi – I understand and you know I fcuks with you I mean we used to have verbal warfare during this time.. I remember and can appreciate where you are today. I was fresh off or going thru my divorce and you were Scorned it made for interesting convos.. As long as you learned from it.

Melo

January 25th, 2010
2:58 pm

Willie Dynamite??

Bret played really well,save 4 that one time at the end..

Give dude credit,he got hit pretty bad..5xtimes!!

Matty “Ice” of them Fakkeons wldnt have withstood one blow, even! :lol:

Bret was Iron Man in this game….

I salute him…

(I still cant get ova fact that Angie swallowed dudes’ stuff after not seeing him for almost 20+ years??) smdh! :lol:

Professor...

January 25th, 2010
2:58 pm

I call it the way I see it…no I don’t do the judging I say what I have to say.

I really feel sorry for the wife. As for faulting a man for not wearing protection is the biggest crock of BS out there. Why would anyone allow someone to stick something in them without protection? There was a story about a lady asking her rapist to put on a glove because she was afraid of getting HIV.

I guess the bank robbers, molesters etc. live and learn…smdh :roll:

Lady J

January 25th, 2010
3:01 pm

Willie gosh man whew….lol…I just wanted MINN to winn and find my silly self joing that Farve BW but remember today who he really is….lol….I am proud of the quiet Colts Coach!!!! I hope they go all they way…theyhave such slow starts to the game though but they do close with a win!!!! LOL

Hey Professor!!!!

This has been a crazy Monday!!!!!

Enjoy your evening folks!

Sassy Me....high level not eye level :-)

January 25th, 2010
3:01 pm

I’ve never been one to try to get revenge. I’ve had some interesting thoughts of vengeance, but never carried it out…

Tempting….oh soo tempting but ultimately it’s not worth it. The satisfaction is fleeting.

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
3:03 pm

@Taz

As an Atlanta native, I’m forced to root for the Colts as Saint’s fans will be insufferable if they win a SB before the Falcons.

That would make those home and away games (for each team) much more dangerous.

So for the greater good – Go Colts!

Professor...

January 25th, 2010
3:06 pm

Hey Lady J!!! Did you have a good weekend? The Vikings spoiled my weekend :cry: :cry:

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
3:06 pm

Dan – As an Atlanta native, I’m forced to root for the Colts as Saint’s fans will be insufferable if they win a SB before the Falcons.

Exactly!! Damn the Aints..

Sassy Me....high level not eye level :-)

January 25th, 2010
3:07 pm

(I still cant get ova fact that Angie swallowed dudes’ stuff after not seeing him for almost 20+ years??)

:shock: :shock:

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
3:07 pm

how pathetic are men nowadays
Run4Life Men nowadays are just like men 5000 years ago. Nothing has really changed. We can read any number of religious texts and see that it’s true.

Question: Do you all believe that humans are meant to be monogamous?

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
3:08 pm

@Prof

So the man bears no responsiblity for his choice?

By my reckoning, there’s a shared responsibility..

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
3:08 pm

Well Professor we live and we learn.

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
3:10 pm

He without sin cast the first stone,

And yes Dan, I don’t think I could take it if the Saints win.

Melo

January 25th, 2010
3:11 pm

He was the one that did not wear a condom that night

@Proff??

u talking about that there?? :lol:

its my fault(men) not to wear the rubber but u(chic) dont mind the good good of raw??!

as if u dont feel it….

:lol: :lol: :lol:

IDK..

January 25th, 2010
3:12 pm

DM – YES, absolutely and please dont get it twisted. has much to do with control & respect

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
3:12 pm

Hey Brett played a good game. Can’t blame 6 fumbles on him. Can’t expect any team to win with that many turnovers. ONE turnover is a nail in the coffin for most teams. They should have won by two touchdowns. They gave the game away, and it wasn’t Brett’s fault.

SexyCool - Still Feeling Good

January 25th, 2010
3:14 pm

Speaking of fumbles – Adrian Peterson – Kill yo’self, dude!
(I jest. I joke. I kid.)
:)

Professor...

January 25th, 2010
3:14 pm

Dan,

Please read the statement I commented on, “He was the one that did not wear a condom that night and he knew he was married.” Now tell me who is doing the blaming. I don’t have no babies by a married man so I don’t know who would be responsible. Maybe you should go to the source of the comment to get clarification.

Well Professor we live and we learn. I would not expect more than that from you either. After being an accessory to the dissolving of a marriage, and three different men have planted seeds in your womb that is what I really expected you to say. Just live and learn and after you help eff’up that woman’s marriage. Way to GO…TOUCHDOWN!!!

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
3:15 pm

LOL Infamous. You and 2Can used to double team me.

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
3:15 pm

and it wasn’t Brett’s fault

DreamsMat, it’s never the man’s fault. LOL

Melo

January 25th, 2010
3:15 pm

Question: Do you all believe that humans are meant to be monogamous?

NO

americas and western europe are lagging africa and the muslim world on that one!

Melo

January 25th, 2010
3:17 pm

DreamsMaterialize??

thats why i will neva accept to be a citizen here! :lol: :lol:

jus a resident..

too much to lose!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
3:17 pm

@Dreams

It so was his fault.

:20 left IN THE GAME and instead of running to or 3 yards, or throwing the ball away, or anything this cat does what Brett Farve does…too much.

The one thing they tell you not to do (from Pop Warner to the Pro’s) and he does it – throwing across your body and across the field.

If it were any other qb that ended 3 (GB, Jets, and Minn) seasons throwing dumb INT’s the media’d kill ‘em.

But because it’s Brett Farve, it’s not his fault….really?

@PG

Did you see the CB ’slip’ when that lineman came out on the screen pass? I almost cried…

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
3:21 pm

@Prof

Raqi also stated (either before or after) that she accepted responsibility for her choices in getting with the dude after finding out.

Plus, her statement on total (since I’ve been participating) lead me to believe she’s accepted and come to terms with her decisions in life. Thus, I respect when she voices her opinions.

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
3:21 pm

@Raqi

That “tag team” line may need context…for those of us that haven’t been here since the ‘old’ days

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
3:22 pm

Dan there were a series of fumbles, some in the red zone, where they probably would have scored. The fumbles put them in a position to HAVE to depend on a Brett miracle to win the game.

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
3:24 pm

So, why do so many of the Biblical polygamists receive divine favor (Abraham, Solomon, David, Jacob, Lamech…)?

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
3:25 pm

All jokes and wishes aside – who do you all REALLY believe has the best shot of winning the Super Bowl.

The Falcons are the only NFL team I halfway keep up with, so I really don’t know how these 2 Super Bowl teams line up – talentwise.

Tazzee - still praying for Haiti

January 25th, 2010
3:26 pm

Dan – it should not have come to Brett needing to make that play for the Vikings to win. AP fumbling, Percy Harvin fumbling… I mean Brett got them in position to score a few times only to have the ball mysteriously fall out of someone’s hands.

Then 12 men in the huddle?!?!?

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
3:27 pm

@Dreams

He didn’t need a miracle. All he needed to do was be smart.

He’s outside the pocket, he could’ve thrown the ball away;

He had two receivers within 5 yards of him to throw to;

He could’ve run a 2 or 3 yard out of bounds to stop the clock;

All these things he’d been (rightfully) lauded for doing all year – and being a smart qb.

But, when the game comes down to the final seconds, his fundamental flaw was expressed; both as a qb and leader of a team. He didn’t have to win anything…the team did.

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
3:27 pm

Dan so basically the last man to make a mistake is the one to blame for losing?

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
3:27 pm

Raqi – Its always the mans fault.. You know it..

Billboard Jumpoff

January 25th, 2010
3:27 pm

As long as you learned from it.

Thanks for being so understanding and non-judgemental. I’m right to assume you’re extending this arm of love to all jumpoffs. Afterall, I’ve been through a lot these last 8.5 years.

Billboard Jumpoff

January 25th, 2010
3:29 pm

He without sin cast the first stone

Thank you all so much for the love and change of hearts. Just Friday I was toast. Hug everyone?

Melo

January 25th, 2010
3:30 pm

kimmie??

Colts…

the defence is superb,the offense is potent,the QB has the highest IQ in the league…if not all time!

(analysis from a soccer fan)

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
3:30 pm

Jumpoff – Yeah baby come on in.. Jumpoffs need love to.. Im gonna need you, especially you to sign this confidentiality agreement.

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
3:32 pm

so basically the last man to make a mistake is the one to blame for losing?

DreamsMat, yep just like the one who drank the last cup is responsible for drinking all of the kool-aid. The same is true in sports. LOL

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
3:33 pm

@Melo

The Colts defense is not superb…good, yeap.

Agreed with you on Peyton. He is scary good (it’s like watching Rain Man perform the physical mechaninations).

Melo

January 25th, 2010
3:33 pm

So, why do so many of the Biblical polygamists receive divine favor (Abraham, Solomon, David, Jacob, Lamech…)?

Dreams??

blame that on Hilary Clinton and all the other women’s lib agaitators be4 her!
At least Bill is smart,hes rationed to one kid and no sexx and he gets it on the outside! :lol:

The rest of uall are in limbo..drought!

Im selling a quarter acre in kwazulu,anybody interested??

:lol: :lol:

IDK..

January 25th, 2010
3:33 pm

DM, wish i knew The Holy Bible’s the answer 2 that question…I do know it says for A Man to find A Wife is A good thing. And too, from my general knowledge they all had their share of hardships/sin, when GOD forgive its instant and favor given

Billboard Jumpoff

January 25th, 2010
3:34 pm

Infamous DK MUAH

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
3:34 pm

Jumpoff – I didnt say it was right.. I hate people who mess with married folks.. I think thats the lowest. You got roasted cause you said some nonsense directly to me. You were mad cause I was supposedly taking up for the dudes.. I’m not taking up for her.. She knows where I stand on that issue. That will never change but everyone has to learn. I even understand what Prof is saying. Thats why this blog is crazy like that.. Oh and guess what.. Youre still beautiful.. Sooo Beautiful.. I mean that Baby..

Tazzee - still praying for Haiti

January 25th, 2010
3:35 pm

kimmie – the only way the Saints win is if that hoo-doo luck they’ve had all year shows up in Miami. The Saints didn’t win, the Vikings lost that game. I mean they didn’t even capitalize on all the turnovers they got – no way the Colts are turning the ball over that many times. The Saints are going to be emotional when they go into that Super Bowl.

The Saints have a very good offense, not sure if the Colts secondary can handle the Saints receivers. But I still don’t think the Saints have what it takes to win.

In the end I think the defense is going to determine who wins and I think the Colts will pull through. The Saints will make a few mistakes and there aren’t any hoo-doo chicken bones buried under the turf in Miami…

that’s my projection – plus, I hate the Saints.

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
3:35 pm

Okay, thanks Melo.

I will just be so hurt if the Saint’s go marching in and win!

What are the Vegas oddsmakers saying?

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
3:37 pm

they all had their share of hardships/sin
Where does it say that polygamy is a sin? The Bible neither promotes nor condemns it.

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
3:38 pm

Thanks Taz, I like your breakdown too!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
3:38 pm

Tazzee – Spoken like a true Falcons Fan.. Oh and dont forget to Check Vick out on BET Feb 2nd..

Billboard Jumpoff

January 25th, 2010
3:38 pm

I hate people who mess with married folks.. I think thats the lowest.

As long as that hate is extended to all jumpoffs – PAST present and future. Thanks for the love baby MUAH Got another billboard to post.

Billboard Jumpoff

January 25th, 2010
3:40 pm

As long as your hate don’t cast me into hell, we’re good. I’m looking to the Great I AM for penitence. Not you baby MUAH

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
3:42 pm

As long as that hate is extended to all jumpoffs – PAST present and future.
So you’re saying EVERY woman should be hated? Everyone has probably been a jumpoff at some point, even those who think they haven’t been?

Melo

January 25th, 2010
3:42 pm

hoo-doo chicken bones buried under the turf in Miami

@Tazzee..

I wasnt gonna even talk about that oodo stuff..but hey…

I just hate the Aints for wanting to capitalize on Katrina in football..

the more they do that,the more they sound like the Repugnicans

Trying to benefit from 09/11

Just Saying

January 25th, 2010
3:42 pm

Where does it say that polygamy is a sin? The Bible neither promotes nor condemns it.

Ya’ll better stop picking the bible apart for your own selfishness or justificiation. No matter what you see or don’t see for that matter, it’s not changing. When it says though a deacon/bishop must be the husband of one wife, I believe that cut of the 2nd, 3rd and 4th. You can find that in the Pauline epistles.

Tazzee - still praying for Haiti

January 25th, 2010
3:43 pm

Infamous – I’ll be checking it out, as much as I try to stay away from that channel…

Billboard Jumpoff

January 25th, 2010
3:45 pm

To DreamsMaterialize: I don’t think every woman should be hated as much as I KNOW he don’t have a right to hate any woman or person for that matter. He’s not the Great I AM, no matter the sin it doesn’t justify hate. That was my point. Who is he to cast a stone at anyone. The fact that he’s screwing/screwed his wife’s beautician is enough to look in the mirror. HE THAT IS WITHOUT SIN…..

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
3:45 pm

Billboard Jumpoff is that you DasV?

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
3:46 pm

Yeah Taz/Melo, I do feel the Vikings beat themselves. I expected so much better from them.

Dog, I guess Prince won’t be at THIS Super Bowl!

Melo

January 25th, 2010
3:46 pm

u know folks!, i missed the entire colts game coz our lights went out just when peyton threw for that 1st reception in 1st qtr that was later converted to a fg.

then out..

if the colts hadnt won,we(my subdivision) were gon file a class action to have the game replayed!

I followed the game on ma iphone!

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
3:48 pm

All I know is God has the last say so and in my life he is all that matters. And if you think just because you lied and I was found in adultery you will be judged differently than me, you are sadly mistaken. God gave 10 commandments and he will judge us all. Liar, thief, adultery, murderer, blasphemer all the same.

Willie Dynamite

January 25th, 2010
3:48 pm

I don’t think it was all Favre fault. I do agree with Dan in that had any other QB done what he did they would be roasted. I give Favre all the respect in the world for being a Warrior. He is/was a very good QB. I personally think he’s overrated. I also lost alot of respect for how he’s handled the past 3 offseasons. With that being said fugg Brett Favre. Now about the SB, I dont like the Saints and cant bring myself to root for a UT alumni (Manning). I just want a good game to enhance my buzz.

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
3:50 pm

Just Saying I’m not picking the Bible apart for my own selfishness. The Bible is supposed to have been divinely inspired as a guide for man. So, why would anything important to our salvation be concealed or not clearly illuminated in the writings? And the Pauline epistles refer to a spiritual leader, not necessarily everyone. This isn’t “interpretation”, it’s merely a reading of what is actually on the page.

IDK..

January 25th, 2010
3:51 pm

DM, to each his own…I am not positive of what the Holy Bible KJV says on the topic of polygamy but im going 2 read and see for myself. r u a wanna be polygamist??

Just Saying, HELLO!! im wit ya! GOD will not be mocked!

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 25th, 2010
3:51 pm

@ Leggs

Question; one aspect of the cheating dynamic is usually when women or men trying to pit their SO’s against each other. Have any of you ever been involved in that? Have you ever pit someone against somebody else knowingly or unknowingly? Has anyone ever got into a physical altercation over someone?

The reason I asked because of what Legg’s (I think that was her) said earlier about the guy giving her his number with his gf there. That could have got ugly and Leggs didnt even do anything but handle it the right way!

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
3:51 pm

I just want a good game to enhance my buzz.

I ain’t mad atcha, Willie!LOL!!

Just saying

January 25th, 2010
3:52 pm

Infamous needs to go to bible study, a lot of what “he thinks” would so be wiped out of his mouth. Everybody’s thinking and passing judgement but ain’t nobody consulted the good book nor the man upstairs. If you did, you wouldn’t find a place to condemn anybody. If you had knowledge you’d know in condemning others, you’re condemning yourself.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
3:53 pm

Jumpoff – I dont hate you.. Im not even upset with you.. Im glad you could come here and get it off your chest.

Now are you Sexy or Cool. Or do you have nice Leggs. Or are you Mo Betta or could Cee me later.. Are your eyes Chinky? Are you StacEd? Are you Kym/Kimmetically correct? Im just askin..

Melo

January 25th, 2010
3:53 pm

Just Saying??

u saw the pics of my prezident and the story i posted cpple of weeks back??

With his 3 smiling wives and a new new wife too,5th one on the way..

The 4th one got a bachelors and masters in science sme..more educated than a lot of chics in this joint..

Proud of that Man! :lol: :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
3:53 pm

Jumpoff – Oh and are you a Wise Diva?

Professor...

January 25th, 2010
3:54 pm

To me Peterson messed up a lot in that game as well, not just Favre.

Melo

January 25th, 2010
3:54 pm

IDK..??

as far as the bible and polygamy is concerned..Tazzee proly knows the answer.

Shes not gon to empower u tho,so she’ll keep quiet!

But spiritually, u can go ahead and get another 2..3 etc wives…but the popo will get u… :lol:

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
3:55 pm

Infamous, do you hate dislike married folks that cheat as much as you hate those they cheat with?

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
3:56 pm

GOD will not be mocked!
How is it a mockery of the CREATOR to try to truly understand his will, as opposed to merely following what “tradition” has said about it? I’m not a polygamist, but one third of the world’s population belongs to a culture that embraces the concept. Are they all doomed, even if many of them have never been exposed to biblical teachings in any way?

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
3:56 pm

Jumpoff – Is that what this is about.. Me screwing the Exs friends.. Yeah Ive admitted that was wrong but I did enjoy it.. Or Do enjoy it.. I dont know.. What should I be sorry? I know Im a sinner but I dont mess with married folk but I commit other atrocities.. There we good now. Now Kiss my Pinky ring and let that be the end of it..

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
3:57 pm

Many of the people who go to “bible study” don’t study the bible.

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
3:57 pm

DK – Now you know whomever it is won’t admit it! For all you know, it could be a dude!LOL!!

And do you really care?

Just saying

January 25th, 2010
4:00 pm

All I know is God has the last say so and in my life he is all that matters. And if you think just because you lied and I was found in adultery you will be judged differently than me, you are sadly mistaken. God gave 10 commandments and he will judge us all. Liar, thief, adultery, murderer, blasphemer all the same.

AMEN AMEN AMEN….this is all I’ve been saying. As humans it’s soooo easy to take pot shots at people but if you have true knowledge, the good book teaches we all have fallen short some place, at some time, somewhere. So when you hop on here and quick to pass judgement and comments on people’s behavior, unless you’re the Christ, REALLY there’s no room to talk. At all. The best we become is as filthy rags (taken from the good book). That in and of itself should humble us all and keep us from looking down on one another. There’s enough “self” work to be done than to look out and around us on other people’s sins.

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
4:00 pm

Infamous, stop it and answer my question. LOL

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
4:00 pm

Just sayin/Jumpoff – Oh you take my words so literally.. I dont actually hate anyone I just wanted to make the point strong.. Aww Dang.. The important thing is I love you, Boo so to h3ll with these other heathens. yelling like Aunt Esther “Oh Glory, Hallelujah!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
4:01 pm

Kimmie – I dont because anybody who has to address me from a sidebar anonomously is a joke from the begin.. So I handle it jokingly..

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
4:02 pm

@M. ~ an insecure person pits another against another. There’s no need to do that and no, I have never done it. I can only imagine the reason the man does that in front of his SO is to puff his chest out and see if he in fact can get away with it. What it tells me right of the bat, is he has no respect for his woman, nor any for me. For him to think I would gladly accept his number and slip it in my pocket, bra or purse thereby immediately reducing my importance and respect for self!

Just saying

January 25th, 2010
4:02 pm

yelling like Aunt Esther “Oh Glory, Hallelujah!

LOL

Infamouns DK: MUAH, you too DreamsMaterialize.

Am I a huzzy for throwing kisses to the both of you all? So be it then

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
4:04 pm

Raqi – I do.. The Institution of Marriage is a beautiful thing.. I unfortunately know that now and will make someone a wonderful Husband one day. A wonderful husband with a prenup.

Just saying

January 25th, 2010
4:04 pm

I dont because anybody who has to address me from a sidebar anonomously is a joke from the begin..

Anybody is REALLY takes blogging seriously, really, is a bigger joke. Although I speak truth, it ain’t that deep dog. We’ll NEVER meet. Now there.

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
4:05 pm

A wonderful husband with a prenup.

Ah, dang, you just tainted it. LOL

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
4:05 pm

Just sayin – Nah cause I dont judge.. And you didnt kiss me in my mouth anyway.. wink

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 25th, 2010
4:05 pm

@Raqi

“do you dislike married folks that cheat as much as you hate those they cheat with?”

I think the issue is always with the cheater not the person they are cheating with. The 3rd party really is never at fault.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 25th, 2010
4:05 pm

Are we now having Chuuuuch up in here? When I go out to the car to get my Bible, don’t mind me if you see me taking my stockings off. I just can’t concentrate with them thangs all up in the CT like that.

Just saying

January 25th, 2010
4:06 pm

I unfortunately know that now and will make someone a wonderful Husband one day.

One more….you’re already somebody’s husband. See, while you’re dogging the billboard chick, you’re an adulterer yourself. Yeah, it’s in there. Watch that strong word of hate you used. You’re committing the same sin

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
4:06 pm

Just – you know you wanna meet me.. You better not be no Miss Sophia.. Or Im gonna knock you out..

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
4:06 pm

is a crock full of balony….forgot to finish the sentence!

Melo

January 25th, 2010
4:07 pm

Just saying??

do u have a verse, in the bible, that says polygamy is wrong?

(i will want to read it to nonite then inform my pples)

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
4:09 pm

Just – Yeah Im gonna be your future husband and I’ll slice you, wife you, marry you, divorce you. Throw the Porsche at you, is what I’m forced to do

Cause the whole, world, loves it when you don’t get down
(Bah bah-da, bah bah bah-da da)
And the whole, world, loves it when you make that sound
(Bah bah-da, bah bah bah-da da)
And the whole, world, loves it when you’re in the news
(Bah bah-da, bah bah bah-da da)
And the whole, world, loves it when you sang the blues
(Bah bah-da, bah bah bah-da da)

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 25th, 2010
4:09 pm

@Leggs

LOL I feel you. He is scandelous. I never really had someone try to pit me against another guy, but I was friends with this girl who had a bf. Everything was cool, then 1 day I ask like, your bf is cool that we are friends right? She goes of course. Then a week later, she turns her phone off, then text me like its a long story, but I cant talk to you anymore. Im like why? She goes, because my bf thinks Im cheating on him with you. Im like really? The truth is she probably just threw me out there during an argument to try to make him jealous.

This is why women and men really cant be friends if someone is in a relationship.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
4:10 pm

Just sayin – and false prophetting is in there also. I know you arent casting no stones.. You reek of a chick that got herself some Jesus and now dont know how to act. Just because you just found out about Jesus and just learned your Bible youre not ready to start preaching.

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
4:12 pm

Just Saying/Das Venus kiss back at you. it’s all love.

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
4:12 pm

Mdot, I think you are at fault when you knowingly get into it. However not so much if you are not aware. The one that took the vows should be true to those vows and not have the responsibility of them being made to put on the person that is outside of that marriage.

If my husband cheats on me he is the wrong doer that I will fault. Yeah if that woman knows he is married she is wrong but only before God. But I did not make my vows with her I made them with him. He wronged me and our marriage. He is accountable to God and me. She is accountable to God.

Melo

January 25th, 2010
4:12 pm

Kimmie??

ur SO likes football??

who is he rooting for??

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
4:13 pm

Just sayin – You right I need some Bible Study.. Can you take me to Bible Study and show a wayward Christian his way back home. You know look at me as the prodigal son.. You can help me return..

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
4:16 pm

do u have a verse, in the bible, that says polygamy is wrong?
Melo I don’t think there is such a verse. Only possible interpretations of verses.

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
4:16 pm

People like to blame other folks for wrecking their marriage, but it’s that spouse that stepped out that wrecked the marriage. If it’s not that woman/man it will be another. So don’t hate the person that they cheated with, hate your spouse and yourself for being with such a person.

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 25th, 2010
4:21 pm

@Raqi

That’s what I was saying. If he deceives her and does not tell her that he is married, she didnt know and cant be at fault because he deceived her.

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
4:22 pm

All acts start in the heart and mind before ever materilized on paper sheets. So if we all had the responsibility of making our fellow man do the right thing, that person is still who they are for even asking. If 100 women turns him down, he still has a cheating heart because he is on the hunt. He is the problem, not the outsider.

And that’s all I have to say about that.

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 25th, 2010
4:22 pm

@ Raqi

Now if he kept it real and said I have a wife and Im not leaving, but if you are cool, then we can still roll, and she is down, then she has to be held accountable also.

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
4:25 pm

True Mdot, she is held accountable but she did not make you cheat. That was your decision. So even without her you are still a cheater if that is what’s in your heart and mind to do.

Professor...

January 25th, 2010
4:25 pm

Whew! After all of these illogical excuses my eyes are hurting from reading this junk. People trip me out saying they don’t care what “man” have to say. I bet if their ratchey tails were before a jury they would care. Anyway I am going to leave this topic to the side, and let those that play house with other folks “husbands” have their say. :roll: :evil: :evil: :roll:

Grace

January 25th, 2010
4:27 pm

So don’t hate the person that they cheated with, hate your spouse and yourself for being with such a person-That’s some BS right there. So is the adulterer innocent if she knows that person was married? NOT. She is just as guilty.

Melo

January 25th, 2010
4:27 pm

do u have a verse, in the bible, that says polygamy is wrong?
Melo I don’t think there is such a verse

DREAMS??

If GOD didnt approve of it,he wld have made it EXPLICIT! :lol:

(pheeew,we safe!)

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Professor...

January 25th, 2010
4:30 pm

Melo,

You can tell me are you going to get you another wife? Its just you and me talking :grin: now that you feel you are safe!

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
4:31 pm

If GOD didnt approve of it,he wld have made it EXPLICIT!
yep that’s what I said in my 3:50pm.

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
4:33 pm

@Prof ~ “ratchey tails” Knew it was only a matter of time before some funny phrase emerged. You never fall short! :wink:

Grace

January 25th, 2010
4:33 pm

God has two wives (Israel and Judah). God has two wives in His relationship with the two kingdoms of Israel.

Just Sayin'

January 25th, 2010
4:34 pm

@ PROF…..”I would not expect more than that from you either.”……if that ain’t judging, then please do enlighten us….since you a “professor” and all……

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
4:36 pm

Melo – My SO does love football too. He hates the Saints as well, but he really does not care who wins because he loves the Falcons.

When the Saints won, though, the diplomat in him came out. He started with the “Well, they’ve never been before” routine.

I, on the other hand, am heartless. For example, I am a Ga Bulldog thru & thru. If Ga Tech was playing the national championship, I still would not root for them, even though it would be a win for the state. That’s how much I hate them. I don’t have quite that same hate for the Saints(I think I hate Dallas more), but it’s pretty close.

Professor...

January 25th, 2010
4:37 pm

Leggs…LOL it sounds sort of bad ratchey tails! ha

Just Sayin'

January 25th, 2010
4:37 pm

@Professor…you need to go ‘on somewhere with yo Holier than Thou attitude……just cause you ain’t neva been with a married man…..don’t make you no betta than anyone else…..and why you got to bring up how many kids she got……all the money in the world can’t bring you a fraction of what she got now…High-falutin’ azz!!!!

Melo

January 25th, 2010
4:39 pm

Its just you and me talking now that you feel you are safe!

Proff??

tween u and me..the popo will get me if we try..

BUT??
if some chic comes along and she aint as crazy as billboard chic,we can do that on the low low..she(#2) gets the ring and wife#1 gets the actual marriage certificate….

we split the accts,401k and other stuff plus the Tulis and land back home.

Is that sme u cld consider..?

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
4:39 pm

Sounds worse than blue balls!

Professor...

January 25th, 2010
4:41 pm

@Just Sayin’

1st things 1st you actually sound like someone that used to blog, so I would hate to call you out of hiding.

2nd the same God that forgives that harlot that sleeps with someone’s husband or does the 50 cent…have a baby by me and be a “baby momma” is the same God that will forgive me on judging if your perception is correct.

Shoot the blog is fair game. The same folks that screw anything that moves or moves in and screw anything, so it is only natural that comments/questions are made and asked.

Now, did that answer your dumb azz question, since you just sayin’?

Melo

January 25th, 2010
4:43 pm

yep that’s what I said in my 3:50pm.

Dreams??

what do they say about GREAT MINDS!

(me and u in the eyes..eye to eye)

Just saying

January 25th, 2010
4:44 pm

.. You reek of a chick that got herself some Jesus and now dont know how to act. Just because you just found out about Jesus and just learned your Bible youre not ready to start preaching.

Now THAT was funny than ever.

Just sayin’, I’m good sharing that moniker with you cause I’m agreeing at you clowning Professor

Just saying

January 25th, 2010
4:47 pm

Nothing like a good healthy hearty debate. All this blog love gets to be sickening some days. Really it does. Everyone in agreeance on everything. LIE! Folks faking. Wouldn’t you agree Just sayin’?

Just Sayin'

January 25th, 2010
4:47 pm

Ahhh Professor..Truth hurts don’t it!!!!

Tazzee - still praying for Haiti

January 25th, 2010
4:48 pm

I had a long post on polygamy, homewreckers – the whole nine but then I looked at the time.

My summary – both are guilty when adultery occurs, however if the wife wants to ‘hate’ someone, it should be the husband. He’s the one that made a vow, supposedly loves her and then turns around and messes with another woman.

however, women find it easier to blame the other woman because it hurts too much to know that your husband chose someone else. That other woman must have put some roots on her husband or something…

Polygamy – you can have as many women as the law and your pocket allows. If you lay with a woman, you should be taking care of her – and THAT is where God had a problem in the bible. David wasn’t punished for having many wives, he was punished for taking another laying with another man’s wife.

Professor...

January 25th, 2010
4:50 pm

Just sayin’

Look down! Now move your head around. Yep you dont have no balls or brains. What matrix did you use to measure her happiness and how did you determine mine?

Go sit your dumb azz down you just mad because you are broke! Here take this $2 bill so you will at least have something in your pocket besides dust mites.

You little pissy raschal…on this blog gettin’ mad ’cause you broke and don’t have no toliet paper at home.

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
4:50 pm

I hate to say this, but sometimes men cheat just to bust a nut and that’s all. Yes, they shouldn’t marry and disrespect their wives. Somehow, there’s a mental defect that they think it’s ok to do and say in the same breath they love their wives!

Melo

January 25th, 2010
4:53 pm

David wasn’t punished for having many wives

Thank u Tazzee!!

I knew u wld come thru.. :lol:

(i know what Tazze is saying, i just didnt have the verse on it)

Just saying

January 25th, 2010
4:53 pm

Go sit your dumb azz down you just mad because you are broke! Here take this $2 bill so you will at least have something in your pocket besides dust mites.

You little pissy raschal…on this blog gettin’ mad ’cause you broke and don’t have no toliet paper at home.

Okay that’s lame. You’re out of juice and scraping the bottom. Come again tomorrow.

Professor...

January 25th, 2010
4:53 pm

Is that sme u cld consider..?

You know my holier than thou behind is not up for that, but you can sale those cows and get a loan off your 401k you can take at least 50% in a loan and give me all that money…no vows will be broken and you get to see me on the blog :grin:

does that work for you?

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
4:54 pm

We could learn a lot from crayons:

Some are sharp, some are pretty,
Some are dull, some have weird names,
and all are different colors….but
they all exist very nicely in the same box!!

Enjoy your evening! Whistling and popping my fingers!

Melo

January 25th, 2010
4:54 pm

but most times men cheat just to bust a nut and that’s all!

and thats all for real! :lol:

HELLO!

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
4:57 pm

Probably cuz they can’t talk…that’s when problems set in. :lol: :lol: :lol:

Professor...

January 25th, 2010
4:57 pm

@Leggs I agree on your 4:50pm I have seen that before and the husband will deny and call the tadpole acceptor all kinds of names, because she was only good for dumping inside of

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
5:03 pm

Yes indeed, some merely wants to make a deposit, with no interest accruing!

Professor...

January 25th, 2010
5:08 pm

**waving bye bye to the blog***

Mooning Just saying and Just sayin’ both are the same dumb azz, but they like looking at this round and brown bottom as I moon them

I am whatever you say I am

January 25th, 2010
5:10 pm

I’m really disgusted by this stupid billboard thing.
At $50,000 a pop, that money could have easily gone to Haiti or to benefit another worthy cause.
What was she hoping to accomplish? She’s 150K lighter that’s it!
At the end of the day, her lover still goes home to his wife.

Just saying

January 25th, 2010
5:13 pm

Professor Just saying and Just sayin’ really are not the same dumb azz, as you so put it. I really wasn’t thinking about you and was having dialog with Infamous DK. Obviously you irk someone you daily blog with. See what I’m saying? Folks agreeing in front of the screen but gotta hide or piggy another moniker to say what they really feel. Heeeelarious. Really, I didn’t attack you but I do agree with them. I’m not afraid to key toe to toe (write that as I laugh as it’s about as silly as it reads)

Just saying

January 25th, 2010
5:14 pm

She’s 150K lighter that’s it

No, HE’S probably 150K lighter. Money well spent!

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Just Being Me

January 26th, 2010
12:01 pm

*Have you ever gone out of your way to humiliate or embarrass someone who betrayed you? Did it make you feel better?*

I just wanted to chime in, if I may. I have gone out of my way to humiliate AND embarass someone who betrayed me. But it didn’t make me feel better in the least… lol.

I was in the picture perfect domestic partnership for nearly four years. We entertained on a regular basis, throwing dinner parties and hosting other celebratory gatherings with friends… we were the couple all our friends admired. Never argued and rarely had spats or disagreements. We got along great and really LIKED each other in addition to being in love. We had a child together, a dog, three cats, a house, two cars, and two great careers.

Almost overnight, things started changing… my perfect relationship started going downhill and my ex would pick fights with me, stay out late, take late phone calls and just act strange. I suspected infidelity but was repeatedly derided for suggesting such a thing and accused of insecurity and jealousy.

To make a long story short, in the end… on Valentine’s Day, no less, my ex moved out with no notice at all and moved in with the new chick. From that point on, things got even uglier. All the utilities were shut off, I got a call from a neighbor that there was a moving truck in my driveway loading up all my furniture (and no, I didn’t know about it)… all the money was drained out of my checking account and savings… all contact with our adopted daughter stopped… Oh, then I found out this jerk had gotten a phone for the other chick and added it to our family account… I had been paying her cell phone bill for over a year!!! That’s when I got ugly. :-)

I took the worst kind of revenge one could imagine (not as bad as a billboard though… lol), and today, 3 years later, we’re best friends again. We’ll never be together again, and I’ll probably never trust another, but at least we were able to forgive and move forward. I traded my class and dignity for a moment of revenge and in the end, all of us were humiliated and embarassed. And it didn’t change anything.

I think that sometimes, people play with your emotions and push you to a point that you lose sensibility and logic and are unable to reason. At least that’s what happened to me. I lost it. To this day, I’m still repairing and rebuilding my life and self-esteem. Still rebuilding my credit. Still buying new furniture. Still rebuilding my career. Still trying to soothe my heart. Deceit costs, and you often don’t know the price until it’s too late.

Heather

February 1st, 2010
8:31 pm

If I loved somebody, I’m never going to want to exact vengeance over a hurt heart. If I loved them, even if we were poor together, I’m going to wish him the best going forward. My ex-fiance cheated on me. We moved forward and are each better people, and I am now friends with him and his wife. We needed growing, and not to be together. If you are holding that type of harsh feeling in your heart, you cannot heal and grow. It is petty, and people should really be more mature and graceful. Be the better person, and cherish the love you had, not the hurt that happened.