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Billboard of Shame

If you happened to have missed the headlines last week, Atlanta was one of the cities included in the “vengeance by billboard” by YaVaugnie Wilkins.

Billboard
Photo Credit: AJC

There is certainly a lot that is not being told about the couple’s history. Mr. Phillips made his public statement about an 8-year relationship with Ms. Wilkins. I think what struck me the most was how a relationship ends up like this after such a long time.

The whole saga seems deeper than “hell hath no fury”. Maybe it is a cautionary tale about how well we know the people we are dating or committed to. Do you think a person can conceal an entire marriage without showing any signs?

What happens when someone is not the person they portray themselves to be? If you found out that you had been dating a married person, how would you react?

What is it about love gone wrong that makes us want to exact revenge, anyway? Have you ever gone out of your way to humiliate or embarrass someone who betrayed you? Did it make you feel better?

Do you think we have a sense of entitlement when it comes to breakups? Are we owed some type of retribution for being hurt?

403 comments Add your comment

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
1:38 pm

LOL Leggs, that was pretty good.

IDK..

January 25th, 2010
1:43 pm

roll call; Melo..off tha chain! LOL. Infamous…age ain nuttn but a numba huh? suuuuuuurre..thas what they say! Raqi…lol, cute. i’ll do the math later. ;-) Leggs, im applauding you!! nice move! and yet his gf was upset with YOU…craziness. M. u sholl ain lying with those examples!

SexyCool - Still Feeling Good

January 25th, 2010
1:47 pm

I do feel just a smidgen of sympathy for o’girl’s embarrassment. However, she knows what program she’s on by now – I’m sure.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 25th, 2010
1:52 pm

@Dreams what is the point of trying to get caught…why not just break up with the person? DUH!

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
1:52 pm

Now, perhaps someone will soon slip me their number and not be attached to another!

@SexyC ~ doubt this was his first time. I was cool with giving her the number. I didn’t make a scene and I didn’t want to strain my neck to look up to him but he probably looked like a scared giraffe!

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
1:52 pm

Usually, when men get caught cheating, it’s not because he was too dumb to get away with it. He just didn’t care enough to hide it anymore. In some cases he probably even wanted to get caught.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
1:56 pm

He just didn’t care enough to hide it anymore. In some cases he probably even wanted to get caught.

Well D@mn!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
1:56 pm

Slim – Its better when they break up with you so you dont have the guilt of being the one that broke things off..

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
1:57 pm

She lives in my lap.. Forever my Fiance..

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
1:59 pm

what is the point of trying to get caught…why not just break up with the person?
Slim If you let me come by a little later, I’ll tell why. Just don’t tell my wife or my other three mistresses. lol

SexyCool - Still Feeling Good

January 25th, 2010
1:59 pm

Shthead never would have broken up with me. It was easier for him to just put up with my bytching and complaining when he didn’t something effed up because he felt like I was just going to be mad for a few days or a week or so and then I would go back to my usual habit of accepting and believing the bllsht. (Which I did for longer than I am proud to admit.)

I am sure it would have gone on like this indefinitely if I had not called an end to it.

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 25th, 2010
2:01 pm

@DreamsMaterialize

That is so true. Also with some males/females, they do this to give their SO a reason to break up with them. Some people just cant be straight up and down so they just sabotage it.

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
2:02 pm

Dreams – Why feel “guilty” about being a grown up and breaking it off if you don’t want to be in the relationship anymore?

That’s okay, I already know the answer.

SexyCool - Still Feeling Good

January 25th, 2010
2:02 pm

when he DID something effed up

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
2:07 pm

The old “Imma drive her crazy so SHE’LL break up with me” mess is how some folks end up on Snapped! Keep playing with people emotions if you want to.

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
2:08 pm

@DreamsM ~ A lot get caught not because they no longer cared, but because they were stupid and slipped!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
2:09 pm

Every boy and girl, woman to man
When you feel you’ve done about the best you can
Muthafunk the wagon, come join the band
Vibrate, vibrate, higher!

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 25th, 2010
2:09 pm

@Infamous “Its better when they break up with you so you dont have the guilt of being the one that broke things off”

I hear ya! Me likey likey….bad thing about it is, how dayum long you gotta wait for them to get the courage to actually break up with you when you’ve tried everything?

BF comes home and walks in on Slim talking into his Pops ‘mic’

Slim: Oh Dayum baby….wait hole on…let me wipe my mouff first. I’m sorry, I just couldn’t resist. Guess you’re gonna leave me now huh?

BF: I cannot believe you would betray me like this!! But i know i’ve been working extra hours and haven’t had much time to spend with you. I forgive you but PLEASE forgive me for putting you on the back burner. I promise to put forth better effort.

Slim now faints cuz she actually brought herself to sucky sucky her bf’s 69yr old Daddys slong!!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
2:09 pm

Kimmie _ I think you’ll kill a dude.. Youre scaring me.. You keep talking bout Snapped..

Professor

January 25th, 2010
2:10 pm

Anyone over the age of 21 should NOT be playing that lame game of messing up so the other person will break up with them…what a weiner if you are! :roll:

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
2:10 pm

DreamsMat, I agree that sometimes folks want to get caught. One of my friends found herself in a situation with a married guy for almost a month and she said she believes he tried to set her up in way that his wife would find out. Maybe to get out of having to confess to his wrong doings to his wife he had her to call him at his house. (Message on her voicemail: Call me at my new number XXX-XXX-XXXX) She said when the wife answered she just pretended to be a telemarketer.

She really don’t know if it was his way of ending it with her, his way of telling his wife, or his way of telling his wife so she would leave him. Either way it was a cashmere move because my friend didn’t know dude was married.

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
2:10 pm

@InfamousD ~ as Chrisette Michelle would say “Blame It On Me!”

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
2:12 pm

SexyCool, like your occasional rants was a small price for him to pay for him to have his cake and eat it too.

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
2:13 pm

DK – LOL!!! Naw, I ain’t going to prison for nobody! If I ruined MY life over some sorry dude – yeah I think I really would SNAP!

DK, I’m just scared of people nowadays. I don’t play with anybody – man, woman or child!

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
2:13 pm

Could be lots of reasons why a dude doesn’t care about getting caught anymore.

1) didn’t want to be “the one to break it off”
2) tried (not so assertively) several times before to break it off
3) he’s a malicious, spiteful bastard

SexyCool - Still Feeling Good

January 25th, 2010
2:14 pm

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
2:18 pm

Professor – I always thought that game was stupid.

DreamsMaterialize

January 25th, 2010
2:21 pm

Lots of people sabotage their relationships, for lots of different reasons. I’m sure a therapist could run down a long list of reasons. And despite what we on the blog would like to think, these things are not limited to “young” people. Immature, sure, but not young. I enough of us have exerienced something with someone we figured was “too old” to be acting like that.

IDK..

January 25th, 2010
2:21 pm

DM..right! they SAY age ain nuttn but a number…go figure!!

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
2:21 pm

I would not give whitebread the benefit of telling his wife I was having his baby. I was not going to do his dirty work for him. When I finally met his wife she said that he told her by denying the whole thing first. He told her “a woman” was trying to accuse him of fathering her child because he evicted her. He didn’t evict me, I moved out. And I was not renting from him. I was living with him rent free. LOL

He was over there telling her one thing, but in my ear every chance he got trying to get me back. Then ole hazel eyes was born…

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 25th, 2010
2:22 pm

To add to Dreams 2:21;

It’s also fear.

Fear of retribution, fear of hurting the other person, just fear of the unknown reaction.

And yes, it is immaturity as well.

Run4life

January 25th, 2010
2:22 pm

@Leggs…how pathetic are men nowadays to actually attend a party with his lady, and not only look at all the other ladies attendig the party, but to pass a telephone number as well. That is really SAD! Sorry guys..just had to get that off my chest.

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
2:23 pm

these things are not limited to “young” people. Immature, sure, but not young. I enough of us have exerienced something with someone we figured was “too old” to be acting like that.

Dreams – Oh yeah, some things do NOT improved with age! I mean, look at the mess Leggs met up with at that party at 43, and she’s spoken of dudes older than that pulling stupid stunts. To the mature-minded individual though, it is disappointing when you think most of that should be behind you – high school antics.

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
2:24 pm

Yeah DreamsMat. My son’s father is 13 years older than I am. He was 39 at the time I got pregnant.

IDK..

January 25th, 2010
2:25 pm

Raqi, since ur putting it out thr (perhaps i missed it) but how long was you with WB? and honestly, what was you thinking being with him? not being a smartass just asking

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
2:25 pm

Hey Im not gonna lie.. Ive done it and had it done to me.. Its not cool.. Believe me the most important thing Ive learned about relationships is this.. Go when you feel like its time to go. Dont wait to see if…… Get ghost when ish aint right.. I understand that part of it.. I would rather be honest and walk away rather than tear the relationship to h3ll..

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
2:27 pm

IDK, we were together 1-1/2 years. I was thinking I was with a great guy at the time. I had no idea he was married. And when the signs did show up I did not take them for what they were.

Melo

January 25th, 2010
2:32 pm

Isnt billboard dude in the topic about 45 years old and this billboard heiffer is about same age as Angie! 41 years?? :lol:

The “marriage and wedding” pressure cpled with the competition and the fact that the peers are married makes some chics go real nutts upstairs!

Its a widespread,world wide phenomena.

IDK..

January 25th, 2010
2:32 pm

raqi..well kudos to you. for sharing/opening and finally getting out of the relationship. especially pregnant i can imagine ur emotions. u got the most precious gift out of it tho so it was not all in vain :-) we’ve all played a blind eye at some point…

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
2:32 pm

DK – I’m no angel either, I’ve gotten “ghost” and just didn’t return calls anymore, that kind of thing. But to go about, pulling all kinds of antics to get the other to break up with me – just takes too much energy and like I said, I’ve always been scared….

But I can understand the motivation behind it – don’t want to hurt feelings, fear,etc. Like a political columnist I read earlier – it takes courage to do the right thing.

kimmie

January 25th, 2010
2:32 pm

The “marriage and wedding” pressure cpled with the competition and the fact that the peers are married makes some chics go real nutts upstairs!

Melo – I think billboard chick’s issues are WAY beyond wanting marriage & a wedding because her friends are married!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
2:33 pm

Kimmie – Its not that blatanly obvious.. Again its just you dont care anymore..

Professor

January 25th, 2010
2:34 pm

I am not trying to be funny, but you were not living rent free, in fact you were living in sin as an adultress, Raqi.

I really feel bad for WB’s wife to have all of this mess explode in her face like that, what a mess for her to deal with.

Willie Dynamite

January 25th, 2010
2:34 pm

Afternoon All –

Not much on topic so I’ll just lurk. Oh yeah fugg Brett Favre.

Professor

January 25th, 2010
2:36 pm

Willie, please don’t mention that game my BP will go up! That game was a mess…I cannot stand the Saints!

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
2:36 pm

IDK, I love that little boy to death no matter how he got here.

Melo

January 25th, 2010
2:36 pm

2nd post!

@Raqi,why do u call him whitebread??

Is he white??

School..i understand Sh!tihead! :lol:

Raqi

January 25th, 2010
2:36 pm

Well Professor, we live and we learn.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
2:37 pm

RAqi – You know Im with Prof on this one cause you eventually knew he was married.. You know how I feel about dating married folk.. So Im sure WB hates you just as much as you hate him and Im sure his side is just as interesting as yours.. Ya’ll destroyed his wife.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 25th, 2010
2:38 pm

Raqi – But its still all love because youre soooo 1 hunnid about it..