Billboard of Shame
If you happened to have missed the headlines last week, Atlanta was one of the cities included in the “vengeance by billboard” by YaVaugnie Wilkins.
Photo Credit: AJC
There is certainly a lot that is not being told about the couple’s history. Mr. Phillips made his public statement about an 8-year relationship with Ms. Wilkins. I think what struck me the most was how a relationship ends up like this after such a long time.
The whole saga seems deeper than “hell hath no fury”. Maybe it is a cautionary tale about how well we know the people we are dating or committed to. Do you think a person can conceal an entire marriage without showing any signs?
What happens when someone is not the person they portray themselves to be? If you found out that you had been dating a married person, how would you react?
What is it about love gone wrong that makes us want to exact revenge, anyway? Have you ever gone out of your way to humiliate or embarrass someone who betrayed you? Did it make you feel better?
Do you think we have a sense of entitlement when it comes to breakups? Are we owed some type of retribution for being hurt?
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Raqi
January 25th, 2010
11:57 am
kimmie, I have watched a couple of episodes of snapped and I hear all the horror stories in the news every day. People go around playing with other people’s emotions not knowing where that snapping point is. You can push people too far and the results can be deadly.
kimmie
January 25th, 2010
11:57 am
I have never been one
Melo – That’s the best way to avoid being on Snapped or being the “Snappee” – don’t be “that” guy – that plays with a ladies feelings!LOL!!
But sometimes, no matter how nice you’ve been or how carefully you think you’ve chosen, heartache can just be part of life. It may be someone you really loved and cared for does not feel the same for you and breaks up with you. Being a stable person, you may hurt, but you lick your wounds, chalk it up to the game, get yourself together & move on. Other, less stable folk – can’t deal with it, and a lot of things in life, rationally.
i'm swiss
January 25th, 2010
11:58 am
D@mn Slim — Why’d you have to shoot me down — preemptively, at that — all in publish & ish?
Did I do something wrong? 
Melo
January 25th, 2010
11:58 am
You ever seen that show Snapped?
@Kimmie
No..ive seen CHEATERS
what snapped about?
Melo
January 25th, 2010
12:01 pm
Bret Favre played like a true champ untill the last few seconds….
shld have one the game!
This defeat will haunt him forever!
SlimOne...just call me Nicety!
January 25th, 2010
12:02 pm
i’m swiss You have a MRS. Sorry Charlie. BUT if you like, I can rewind that ’shut down’ and just act like I don’t know you’re taken…hence the topic we are discussing today (only if you get your permission signed by Mrs Swiss) J/K
Dan - moving away from gray and back to black
January 25th, 2010
12:04 pm
@Kimmie
The other part of that (11:57) is the damage that you cause and don’t see.
Hearing about crushing some female in passing does something to you…
kimmie
January 25th, 2010
12:04 pm
what snapped about?
Melo – Google it & watch an episode of it. It comes on Oxygen and it’s all these true stories about women that have “snapped” and killed their lovers or husbands! A lot of the cases you’ve heard about in the news, like the GA lady who poisoned & killed 2 husbands with antifreeze – these stories usually end up on Snapped!
Leggs
January 25th, 2010
12:06 pm
@Melo ~ it’s been stated that Cheaters is staged. Hired people to pose as the jilted wife or gf. Even Jerry Greco has been questioned over his infamous knife stabbing on the boat.
Snapped is about wifes, girlfriends, mistresses that emotionally breakdown usually through killing. I few supposedly hitmen have staged murders only to have the woman wide eyed when the alleged victim walks into the room/courthouse.
kimmie
January 25th, 2010
12:09 pm
The other part of that (11:57) is the damage that you cause and don’t see.
Dan – Exactly.
Demi
January 25th, 2010
12:09 pm
I personally think most men and women enjoy getting their feelings hurt or toyed with…There comes a point and time when you just KNOW…you’re being F/K wit…most folk just keep running the Matrix program…hoping for new results, LOL
dumb a$$es
Lady J
January 25th, 2010
12:10 pm
the insanity definition is real….lol demi!
Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!
January 25th, 2010
12:12 pm
@Melo
you calling me a wh*ore! that’s sad man. i see you and DK are on attack mode today.
wow!
you both know what this means right? lol. imma keep you thirsty on this one unless someone knows what i’m talkn bout. hehehe
Lady J
January 25th, 2010
12:15 pm
I’m a snapped, 48hr hard evidence, 48hrs mystery, ID, TLC, WE, A&E watching fanatic…..Ive watched all and enjoy the re runs and the ones I haven’t seen periodically….Great shows on humans and reactions….
Lady J
January 25th, 2010
12:16 pm
20/20 re reuns are great too!!! just good stuff….every now and then you get a black couple but mostly is white and I know cheating or demise has no color just an observation….lol
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 25th, 2010
12:16 pm
I like First 48. You know when they are about to give it up when they ask for a cigarette..
IDK..
January 25th, 2010
12:16 pm
yall r wild..and very funny. anyone know the age range of the folks on here? im quite curious…
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 25th, 2010
12:17 pm
IDK – Everybody is old enough to Drink and stay up past their bed time..
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 25th, 2010
12:18 pm
Beauty – If I was in attack mode you couldnt stand it because believe me I didnt say what I really thought.
Demi
January 25th, 2010
12:18 pm
…is the damage that you cause and don’t see
The Butterfly effect…
IDK..
January 25th, 2010
12:18 pm
lol…u like me huh infamous??? i just wondered…
Melo
January 25th, 2010
12:19 pm
you calling me a wh*ore!
@Angie
yeah!
we still on earth u know and single women with kids like urself dont get no points,even from ur fellow females for coming on the blog and informercializing ur Easy-Lay Antics…
This wasnt ur first on blog One hit wonder GOT Laid announcement and if the trajectory is correct,proly wont be ur last..
Keep ur Grown 40+ Woman Cob Web Dusting to urself.
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 25th, 2010
12:21 pm
IDK – You know it Aaliyah all day in this piece… Age a int nothing but a number.. Blah blah blah..
DreamsMaterialize
January 25th, 2010
12:22 pm
Angie
Those old “crushes” die hard, and your boy in Vegas knew that. Every dude knows that whenever he runs into a chick that says, “I used to have the biggest crush on you”, it usually means he can get still get it, no matter the circumstance (involved, married, whatever).
Leggs
January 25th, 2010
12:22 pm
@Melo ~ you are funny.
Dan - moving away from gray and back to black
January 25th, 2010
12:24 pm
@Dreams
I thought that’s what that (12:22) means for real.
Raqi
January 25th, 2010
12:25 pm
IDK, I am roughly 15,270. Give or take a day or two.
Lady J
January 25th, 2010
12:26 pm
leggs can you get into cold blood???? I can’t that’s bout the only one that doesn’t hold my attention…
Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!
January 25th, 2010
12:27 pm
@DK
if ur gonna be a jerk, be a jerk! spill it.
@Melo
i’ve blogged about a lot of stuff. mostly about the past. you got it all wrong homie. *eyeroll*
@DreamsM
you guys are misunderstanding my posts today. but whatever.
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 25th, 2010
12:28 pm
Beauty – Babe enjoy yourself. Its your life..
i'm swiss
January 25th, 2010
12:28 pm
“i’m swiss You have a MRS.”
Ah, okay, that’s what I figured. But next time, please, make sure you qualify shut-downs like that…
“Only because you’re taken, swiss, ‘cos if you weren’t it would be ON…” Something like that…
I may be married, but I’ve still got to maintain some street cred here… 
Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!
January 25th, 2010
12:31 pm
@Melo
and i’m spilling the beans to ppl who doesn’t and will never have a personal connection in my life. i come here to be real about my dating/sex life. you’re the reason bloggers hold back. you are the biggest perverted cheater on here! nicca you got nerve. lol.
Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!
January 25th, 2010
12:33 pm
and with that i’m out. gotta get my taxes done! *waving*
Leggs
January 25th, 2010
12:35 pm
@LadyJ ~ never heard of cold blood, but if it’s crime related, true stories and not a lot of gore, it will probably hold my attention. Love practically all forms of crime stories.
Melo
January 25th, 2010
12:36 pm
@Angie..
know u licked dude really good,like u were his gerl…i trust u on that!
Lady J
January 25th, 2010
12:39 pm
yeah it is what you stated same channels too…cool
Lady J
January 25th, 2010
12:46 pm
guys I got one for ya…..get a late night (12:45am) text former lover now that stupid word friend….lol…..hey are you out….no i am in bed watching movies….where are you watching the games tomorrow…..I don’t know….the same questions are asked to him via tex….never answered where he was watching the game but going say he’s @ one of his homegirl’s house and they were discusing the games….my reply was random isn’t so random sometimes his response what I don’t understand and I said me either good night….lol dating is FUNNY!!!!! Growth baby!!!! LOL
Leggs
January 25th, 2010
12:47 pm
I went to a party this past Saturday and saw a few things that looked strange. I knew everyone at the party except this one dude. He was knew to the circle so naturally I inquired about him. He had to be about 6′8 and nice looking. What caught my attention other than his height is the fact that he walked around the entire evening with his own 40 oz of Budweiser. Secondly, I quickly found out he was with a woman there. He’s 43 and she looks to be close to 60. My gf advised me to stay away from him cuz the elevator didn’t go all the way up. The gf I went to the party w/asked him about the 40 oz, and he said he was from Connecticut and that’s how they roll. Been to many parties in Connecticut and I never saw that. Anyway, he followed me and my gf outside as she puffed on her medicine trying to talk to either one of that would talk back. We didn’t. Long story short, just before I was leaving he saw me by the kitchen sink alone and he placed a piece of paper by my wine glass. I opened it, looked at him, looked at his girl and walked over to her and gave her his piece of paper. What happened after that I could care less.
Ok, on to Sunday. My friend who gave the party called me laughing at me and my antics. Said homegirl was peeved and would have felt better if I had pulled her to the side and given her number. You see, that tells me one thing only…she can forgive him and not look like a fool to those who witness me giving her back his number. They’re suppose to get married.
SexyCool - Still Feeling Good
January 25th, 2010
12:50 pm
Leggs – you get the Post of the Day Award.
Priceless!!!
M. (pronouced M dot)
January 25th, 2010
12:57 pm
@Raqi
Question. In your earlier post, you said you went back to the married guy. How much longer did this go on for?
Professor...
January 25th, 2010
1:06 pm
Ms. Leggs you GOT him! Why you didn’t do your other thing…when you tear up the paper and let it fall to his feet? Ohhh you was at someone’s house, so I see why, but I love the way you handle this kind of stuff and I am taking notes!
SlimOne...just call me Nicety!
January 25th, 2010
1:07 pm
@i’m swiss “I’ve still got to maintain some street cred here”
oh my bad bud…now step behind this here counter so I can squeeze your buttocks, dry hump & makeup. Sssssshhhh don’t tell anybody
Raqi
January 25th, 2010
1:10 pm
Mdot, I said that I was with him again. Meaning I laid with him knowing full well he was married. It only happened once. My son was six months at the time and he was the last guy that I had been with which was at the beginning of my pregnancy. I let my guard down.
After that I was able to fight it. It was hard sometimes but I managed. About 2 years after that I met someone else. That lasted for almost 2 years. After that I dated every now and then but was not in a relationship for almost 4 years. Nothing physical just going out here and there.
Melo
January 25th, 2010
1:13 pm
After that I was able to fight it??
@Raqi??
it??
the urge or the luv??
Leggs
January 25th, 2010
1:17 pm
@SexyC ~ people can only get away with crap like that if you let them. He picked the wrong person. I’m not dealing with any of that crap. I won’t let misunderstandings develop between me, him or the woman. Nip it in the bud as soon as it happens!!
M. (pronuced M dot)
January 25th, 2010
1:23 pm
@Raqi
Ok. Thanks for explaining that.
I have a question, it’s crazy but who do you all think is better at concealing cheating especially in a marriage? A friend’s aunt was an infamous cheater and her husband never really caught on. Also I know some guy’s that cheat on their wives, but I think it may be a necessity motive; meaning as long as everything is taken care of, the women really wont question.
Here is my thoughts on the cheaters: Men lie, but women are slick. If you are slick you are bound to slide.
I am generalizing but here are some examples:
Guy Example:
He may lie about being at the mall but he may be with his other woman.
Woman Example:
She will say she was at the mall with her friend; which she probably was but also she may have had lunch with a guy she is seeing and she had him meet her at the mall but you didnt ask so she was vague but technically she didnt lie.
Guys need to listen more!
Professor...
January 25th, 2010
1:23 pm
I am far from perfection, but it takes a special kind of harlot to knowingly sleep with another woman’s husband (and that goes for men too)!
Leggs
January 25th, 2010
1:24 pm
@Professor ~ no need in making a mountain out of a molehill. Nip it, nip it at its core. He tried and it backfired….he may roll up on the right female. He thought perhaps it would be me.
kimmie
January 25th, 2010
1:28 pm
Leggs – I love it! And what’s with the “that’s how we roll in Connecticutt”?! Hillarious!
Leggs
January 25th, 2010
1:36 pm
@kimmie ~ hilarious at best. Who walks through a party with a 40 oz. Kanye wasn’t invited!