Billboard of Shame
If you happened to have missed the headlines last week, Atlanta was one of the cities included in the “vengeance by billboard” by YaVaugnie Wilkins.
Photo Credit: AJC
There is certainly a lot that is not being told about the couple’s history. Mr. Phillips made his public statement about an 8-year relationship with Ms. Wilkins. I think what struck me the most was how a relationship ends up like this after such a long time.
The whole saga seems deeper than “hell hath no fury”. Maybe it is a cautionary tale about how well we know the people we are dating or committed to. Do you think a person can conceal an entire marriage without showing any signs?
What happens when someone is not the person they portray themselves to be? If you found out that you had been dating a married person, how would you react?
What is it about love gone wrong that makes us want to exact revenge, anyway? Have you ever gone out of your way to humiliate or embarrass someone who betrayed you? Did it make you feel better?
Do you think we have a sense of entitlement when it comes to breakups? Are we owed some type of retribution for being hurt?
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THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 25th, 2010
11:04 am
For all the tough talk.. Everybody here has had a tough break up in which it took time for them to deal with.. Its ok thats a part of life.. Take that experience and move forward with it. Make it apart of who you are, let it make you more aware but dont let it into your soul. The goal is to keep your soul free from past breakups and mess because you always want your Soul light to shine and not put other plugs in the socket that dims it..
Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!
January 25th, 2010
11:05 am
@DK
and that’s all it was suppose to be. get some and bounce.
i'm swiss
January 25th, 2010
11:07 am
Dang… After reading some of these stories all I keep thinking about is how much d@mn work some guys are putting on themselves trying to keep up the charades. Wives/families in different states, having a separate house for the girlfriend to move into… good grief. How could it possibly be worth that much effort?
Not that I ever would, but if I ever got to the point where I just had to have some strange… I do believe I’d just go to a pro. 
Definitely cheaper & it’s got to be less stressful than some of these stories on here… 
D@mn….
Demi
January 25th, 2010
11:09 am
While I do not buy or down load porn…I while I was visiting a one of my lesbian home girl’s home…beh pop in some Lesbian flick in HD display thru her new samsung 52′ led…puddy has never look so dang good…I didn’t know weither to lick the screen or skeet…it was that realistic!!!!
Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!
January 25th, 2010
11:09 am
*See, stuff like that hurts. I’ve been there. It rips at your heart. Some folks are close to the edge and can’t handle stuff like that gracefully.*
co-sign!
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 25th, 2010
11:11 am
Beaut – What I want you to see is this. If you intend to get the man you want, you have to wait on him. Not every random dude you know, knew or is getting to know deserves your body. Youre prolly a cutie so dudes are gonna approach but wait on him to come. When he comes it will be different. It will be like he brought his own theme music with him. His conversation will be clearly understood with no curves and mumbo jumbo. Let the Lord send you a Dude cause you have been picking wrong. You dont have the right radar for men so you need a little extra help..
Raqi
January 25th, 2010
11:11 am
Infamous, I agree. If you have never had your heart broken to the point of it hurting you have never been in a real relationship.
kimmie
January 25th, 2010
11:13 am
But I tell my female friends all the time “git right for you, not him”. It gives that other person a place in your life that they don’t deserve.
That’s exactly what I said in my post to DK & in so many words, my 1st response to you. I take pride in my appearance anyway and I truly did not think I would ever see my ex again or anyone connected with him. But I’d be lying if I say it did not make me feel good to know I was at my best and word got back. At 21 I was not so super-enlightened like you Dan, but I did know to get myself together FOR ME and not anybody else out there. For my own health and well-being. And yes, loved ones reap the benefits too of my being at my best.
Melo
January 25th, 2010
11:15 am
Good morning!
This topic is really for u ladies…
And u are all,most of u at least,proving that a break up,esp if the guy initiates it,hurts u really bad…
U may not go gung ho with it,liike this heifer did,but at leat u contemplate some thangs!
Why?
Im really enjoying the aspect of “getting phine” so he can see that he missed on a good thang..funny.
Didnt he know then tht he had a phine thang??
U all take break ups serioulsy for no reason instead of just focusing on the future.
If he was thinking about u,he wld be with u!
kimmie
January 25th, 2010
11:15 am
DK – 11:04 – real talk!
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 25th, 2010
11:16 am
Raqi – A broken heart can do one or two things.. It can break you or it can make you. A broken heart shows you what youre made of. Then the fact that you go on and love again proves you are fearless.
Dan - moving away from gray and back to black
January 25th, 2010
11:18 am
@Kimmie
There you go…
I’m far from “enlightened”. I continue to make my share of mistakes, daily.
And most of the stuff I say comes from my firsthand knowledge of getting/being hurt. And when you’re a stubborn as I, telling someone else about it don’t work (besides, it’s hard for someone else to tell me how I’m supposed to feel).
Believe me when I tell you I’m damaged, but I gladly acknowledge that fact and keep it pushing.
Melo
January 25th, 2010
11:19 am
If you have never had your heart broken to the point of it hurting you have never been in a real relationship
DisAgree!!
Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!
January 25th, 2010
11:19 am
is it jus me or is DK way off base today? wth are you talkn bout? i’m not lookin’ to marry or be with DaCl. we shared something special, it was hot, thats it.
back in hs, it was so simple. we would for example leave a house party together for a minute, come back and act like nuttn happen. see each other monday at school. still nuttn!
kimmie
January 25th, 2010
11:19 am
U all take break ups serioulsy for no reason instead of just focusing on the future.
Melo – Have you never had your heart broken?
Professor...
January 25th, 2010
11:19 am
Angie, what is the distance between you and your high school window buddy? Is he seeing someone at this time?
On topic: I don’t think it is difficult to spot red flags. I do feel it is up to us on what we do with the red flags. I think it is crazy to be a
whoremistress especially with all of the STDs in the world. What kind of example is being set for the kids (if applicable) if you are living or mingling with a married wo/man?Poppa Grande
January 25th, 2010
11:19 am
Exactly DK.
That which does not kill me, makes me stronger.
Raqi
January 25th, 2010
11:20 am
Kimmie, I ain’t gone even lie. When we went to court about my son’s custody I was looking very extra put together with my husband sitting right there by my side. Whitebread told me that no other man would treat as well as he did. He is right. Mason does not treat me as good as whitebread did, he treats me 10 times better. And I wanted him to see that.
Poppa Grande
January 25th, 2010
11:21 am
Trust me, breaking up the the Doc was tough. It was hard a decision for me to make. However, I had to make the decision best for me (and probably best for us as a couple).
I learned from it, and it made me appreciate my current relationship even more.
Melo
January 25th, 2010
11:21 am
Melo – Have you never had your heart broken?
Broken?? Nope…
I may have broken but i cant say that for sure…my ex exhibited such signs but i cant speak for her.
I have had some cute chics that i liked get away but breaking my heart..
Never!
Im so realistic about lyfe and some of these thangs..for real for real!
SlimOne...just call me Nicety!
January 25th, 2010
11:23 am
@Demi LMAO!!!!!!!!! Flick in HD….next thing you know there will be Flicks in 3D/HD.
Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!
January 25th, 2010
11:24 am
*I learned from it, and it made me appreciate my current relationship even more.*
that’s what i’m banking on.
SexyCool - Still Feeling Good
January 25th, 2010
11:25 am
It’s funny. We all like to think that no one is going to treat a mate as good as we did. And I KNOW that’s not true, but I still like to THINK it. However, I am forever confident in the knowledge that for every relationship that I was truly 100% invested in, that person got MY best for that time.
And I’m good with that.
Raqi
January 25th, 2010
11:26 am
Infamous and Poppa, I agree. However for a minute there I thought I was as good as dead. My mom told me that if I was going to keep that up I may as well go outside, dig my grave and lie in it. Or get up, get myself together, take care of my kids and be the woman that she had taught me to be.
That I did. After a while the hurt left and I was on to bigger and better things.
Professor...
January 25th, 2010
11:26 am
I think red flags are always there, but it is up to the person on what they do with them. As for this entire
s.l.u.t or hoI mean mistress thingy. I do not understand that at all.When you talk about looking good after a relationship I can understand the logic behind that as well. In fact I think we should look at ourselves and see what we can improve.
kimmie
January 25th, 2010
11:27 am
Whitebread told me that no other man would treat as well as he did.
Raqi – Almost like the mess my ex would say to me – the one I’ve been referring to today. He said no man would ever want me and nobody would treat me like him.
SMH
Raqi
January 25th, 2010
11:28 am
SexyCool, I think that is why it hurts so bad when some relationships end. We give our best to that person. When you have my best you have me 100%.
i'm swiss
January 25th, 2010
11:28 am
“@Demi LMAO!!!!!!!!! Flick in HD….next thing you know there will be Flicks in 3D/HD.”
Awwwwwww suki suki, now… “Squirters 3: In 3-D”
Raqi
January 25th, 2010
11:32 am
kimmie, they say that stuff trying to break us and keep us down. They thing that broke me was I had a baby from the relationship. That’s what crushed my spirit more than the breakup and the nature of it itself.
That little baby.
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 25th, 2010
11:33 am
Beaut – Its your life Lady.. See what Steve Harvey didnt tell you is ya’ll cant date like a man because that makes you a wh0re, not a lady..
Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!
January 25th, 2010
11:35 am
@DK
you right bout that. i cannot date like a man and will not even try. my sensitive azz! smh.
@Raqi/Sexy
my issue from the breakup was all the hard work i put into our relationship. *ugh*
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 25th, 2010
11:35 am
Beaut – Then you had a dude at home.. Wow!!! You go Girl.. I guess.
Demi
January 25th, 2010
11:36 am
next thing you know there will be Flicks in 3D/HD.
Slim….lawd yes, yes ,yes…i can’t wait for squirter flicks to be in HD…I hope they come out with special 3D goggles that spray mist in your face at the right time…AWWWWWWWW SKEET SKEET SKeeee..ee..ee..eeT!!!!
Demi is now pasting out from wang exhaustion
I feel like Mr.brown after running in place.
kimmie
January 25th, 2010
11:37 am
Melo – Then you are very lucky, to not ever have experienced that hurt. If you had, then you may understand a little better when others react the way they do over matters of the heart.
If a person is not very stable to begin with, it can be enough to take them over the edge. Just wanting to look cute in case you run into an ex is really nothing and is actually quite normal, as opposed to putting up billboards, slashing tires, killing folk.
You ever seen that show Snapped?
Demi
January 25th, 2010
11:37 am
>>>i can’t wait for squirter flicks to be in 3D/HD
Beautiful ♥ went to Vegas and caught feelings! SMDH. That wasn't suppose to happen dammit!!!
January 25th, 2010
11:37 am
@DK
i don’t have a man! you mixin’ me up with another blogger.
Leggs
January 25th, 2010
11:38 am
@Raqi/kimmie ~ that seems to be common thread among men. Talking out the sides of their mouths hoping we believe that no one else will want us. My ex repeatedly told me no one would want me with a child. Each time he said it I laughed and kept it moving. My pysche was too strong for his foolishness and after awhile he realized it and STFU!
SlimOne...just call me Nicety!
January 25th, 2010
11:38 am
@Melo THis topic doesn’t mainly pertain to ladies….what about dudes who flip the fcuk out when a chick dumps them…show up everywhere they are, drive by the house, come over unannounced, blow up the phone when she doesn’t answer, keep sending flowers or other unwarranted gifts, crying and begging, stalking, threatening, beating up, even killing in some extremes….Let’s not forget about ole boy who had a Bytch BBQ…killed his exgirl then grilled her!
Poppa Grande
January 25th, 2010
11:39 am
Raqi
I never thought of myself as good as dead, but it was tough. However, I did look back and see what I could improve.
I never thought that there would never be another relationship. I just took it as this person was not the one for me. If her spoiled ways bothered me before the ring, it would be an even bigger issue after a ring. I wasn’t trying to change her. So, I had to move on instead of making a decision that we’d both regret.
I still wish her best. She is good and I am good, but we just weren’t good together.
Melo
January 25th, 2010
11:41 am
ya’ll cant date like a man because that makes you a wh0re, not a lady..
@DK
boy u on phire
Beaut has been wh0ring for a while now…eve new guy she meets and blazes her,she gets feelings
@Angie..did u do the “on-the-bed-tie-ur-pony-tail” maneuvre on dude??
<swiss knows about that one! 
Dan - moving away from gray and back to black
January 25th, 2010
11:42 am
Y’all are killing me….
The logic that the woman I’m with is not good enough for anyone else says more about me than anything….and cats actually say this isht?
@Slim/Demi
There are HD TV’s in the pipeline that will have a 3D feature. They marketed them last week in Vegas.
From what I heard they were nice. And the first thing the homie said was “porn is gonna change!”
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 25th, 2010
11:43 am
Damn who the EX gets with as long as she is away from me. I would shake his hand and thank him for getting her to stop Fcukin with me..
SlimOne...just call me Nicety!
January 25th, 2010
11:45 am
I’m swiss & Demi You all might be on to something. I might need to start working on putting my ‘mist’ in a spray bottle. Swiss you, unfortunately can’t help me with this…so that’s just going to leave all the milking to Demi. I sure he’s up for it, cause that’s going to take a whooooole lot of work
SexyCool - Still Feeling Good
January 25th, 2010
11:46 am
Oh…and my response to Shthead’s statement that I’d never find anyone to treat me like he did, “I certainly hope not!”
THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING
January 25th, 2010
11:46 am
Dang Swiss..
Leggs
January 25th, 2010
11:50 am
@Kimmie ~ Snapped can take your entire day. Love it!
kimmie
January 25th, 2010
11:50 am
I certainly hope not!”
SCool – That’s what I’m talking about!LOL!!
Melo
January 25th, 2010
11:51 am
kimmie/Slimone..
I do understand and hear about chics who get heartbreaks,even guys for that matter,like the ones u sighted Slimone…
I have never been one…
When i was dating, i used to go outa my way to NOT DATE chics who i thoght cld potentilaly go that route and hurt and possiblky commit suicide coz we broke up.YES! there were cases like those back in my nik of the woods where chics wld commit suicide and personally, i tried to weed out chis like that…
chics with kids,looking for husbands with thirsty eyes..
chics with low self esteem
very religious chics..most of them wld be nursing wounds from prior relationships..no wonder God was “salvation”..the church was really an escape..
etc…
But all im saying is that personally, i have never been the one with that kinda of low self esteem or put myself in a position where a chic wld abuse me to the extend of me feeling sorry for myself..
Kimmie..that guy abused u and i understand the feelings..
Raqi got got and i do sympathize too..
I always dated with my eyes wide open..u know like the shark smelling blood while prancing in the waters of the Atlantic..loking here and looking there
kimmie
January 25th, 2010
11:52 am
Leggs – One of my gf’s husbands got kinda worried and a little mad at me cause I told her about Snapped! She stayed glued to it whenever it was on! LOL!!
Demi
January 25th, 2010
11:54 am
SlimOne…..
demi be good demi be good…demi stall be good
well…Walmart batteries are on sale…and i do have a few toys I would like to try on ya…Demi has nothing but time…