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It’s Your Own Fault

A  group of us met up for dinner recently at Flip Burger Boutique to catch up with each other and nosh on some food.  It didn’t take long before the topic turned to dating and sex.  (They  like to blame this on me, but I am rarely the one to bring it up).

Shauna was complaining about the fact that she was let down with how her new man “performed”.  I thought she should cut him some slack. Things could improve and he probably was just as disappointed as she was.  She said she wasn’t going to mention anything to him because she didn’t want to come across as bossy in bed.

One of the men told her  not to let it go on for too long.  If she ended up in a relationship with a man that didn’t satisfy her, it would be her own fault, not his. Of course, this sparked a debate about who was responsible for bad sex people are having.

Do you blame the people who lack bedroom skills or their partners that don’t tell them?

Of course the central argument for some was that people fake satisfaction too much to keep the peace and protect the egos. What do you think?

Should you bring up how to improve things in the bedroom when you have just started a relationship? Do you wait to see if it improves with time and umm… practice?

Happy Friday!

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Just saying

January 22nd, 2010
3:45 pm

You ain’t smart Sassy…you forgot to go back into hiding when posting your threats. Stupid is as stupid does

Melo

January 22nd, 2010
3:45 pm

If you sleep with anybody that’s not married to you, you’re a ho
@Just saying

I dont agree! Strongly disagree!

But u on the Roman and Baptist tip, and i dont hate u nor get hurt by it…

I slept and smashed many be4 marriage..

Im proud of my record! :lol:

Raqi…Baby love, My baby love, I need you, Oh, how I need you

January 22nd, 2010
3:46 pm

Leggs, I need to have my excuse ready in case we get that urge to dip early. Since it’s a anniversary/dinner party that we are attending.

Just saying

January 22nd, 2010
3:47 pm

You read like a hood rat….not just today, ON THE REGULAR. Ain’t no blog brother gonna tell you that though. This statement of mine —> how hoish behavior from a stranger is differentiated from that of a blog buddy…was for stories like the ones you tell.

Raqi…Baby love, My baby love, I need you, Oh, how I need you

January 22nd, 2010
3:48 pm

I think I feel a headache coming on that will hit me right around 8:45. LOL

Just saying

January 22nd, 2010
3:48 pm

If you sleep with anybody that’s not married to you, you’re a ho

I dont agree! Strongly disagree!

Again, I stand tall, hypocrisy at it’s finest.

Leggs

January 22nd, 2010
3:49 pm

@Raqi ~ That should put fire in his loins!

Just saying

January 22nd, 2010
3:49 pm

Melo, I smashed too. Just don’t think I’m better than others.

Raqi…I'm givin him somethin he can feel...

January 22nd, 2010
3:52 pm

A 45 minute drive.

Melo

January 22nd, 2010
3:52 pm

You read like a hood rat
@Just saying

yeah,i grew up in the hood…

u lucky u still a virgin!

Melo

January 22nd, 2010
3:53 pm

Just saying??

so who is holding themselves or their pudsy or wang as better….??

I miss ur point/beef..

I am whatever you say I am

January 22nd, 2010
3:56 pm

ALOL @ Leggs about internal plumbing.

Raqi…I'm givin him somethin he can feel...

January 22nd, 2010
3:56 pm

Leggs, Imma go back out that window I came in. That way yall won’t even know I was here. LOL

Let me see how much more time I got up here.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 22nd, 2010
4:01 pm

Ha Ha!! Jeezy Laugh

I am whatever you say I am

January 22nd, 2010
4:02 pm

At Dreams Mat: LOL!!! Instigating!!! LOL

Pipes are fixed!!! I cooked dinner to show appreciation for him helping me. My plumber encouraged me to have a friend do it because he was going to charge $100+ !!!!
Oh and yes, I am a huge fan of Home Depot and Ehow (that’s where I learned how to repair tub faucets- but I needed manpower and tools which is why I couldn’t do it myself.

Leggs

January 22nd, 2010
4:05 pm

@ 45 min drive in which direction…home tonight or a 45 min ride to the event. If it’s too the event, try not to wrinkle your clothes.

Luvbug

January 22nd, 2010
4:06 pm

random thoughts – SKIP THIS POST CUZ I’M JUST THINKING OUT LOUD

To do list (Monday 25th)

1. My damn work before I get fired
2. Wait until my down time (or slow days) to read Misadventures b/c I can’t do both successfully. I’m either losing 10-20 extra minutes of productivity a day at work or skimming on the blog to the point of confusion (whether that’s me reading or posting).
3. Exercise or start exercising or think about exercising
4. Bring my own lunch

Leggs

January 22nd, 2010
4:13 pm

Have a great weekend everyone.

Dang this window is harder to open this evening….

Tazzee - still praying for Haiti

January 22nd, 2010
4:14 pm

Dang – I step away and come back to a catfight.

Have a positive weekend folks!

Melo

January 22nd, 2010
4:16 pm

Its that Heifer’s Fault..Jus saying!

greedy whrre…

Just saying

January 22nd, 2010
4:18 pm

Its that Heifer’s Fault..Jus saying!

greedy whrre…

I had to laugh out loud (literally) on this one. Sorry if I ruined freaky friday…gone home and get ya freak on. LOL

Sitting Pretty

January 22nd, 2010
4:18 pm

@Infamous
I’m just an innocent lurker, so I’m not choosing sides, but I will say you made my day with that Jeezy laugh. I can always count on the blog for a laugh! Ha Ha! :-)

Just saying

January 22nd, 2010
4:19 pm

Funny, folks speaking truth is just like shining a flashlight on bugs DEY SCATTA

Just saying

January 22nd, 2010
4:21 pm

INFAMOUS DK I still think you post sexy. No harm no foul.

DreamsMaterialize

January 22nd, 2010
4:22 pm

Just saying
quit all that. cmon over here and sit by me. ;-)

Melo

January 22nd, 2010
4:23 pm

freaky friday was turned into sunday school by u..

thats not fair Jus saying..

go to the baptist or roman catholic blog and step on their podium.

But im gon get my freak on,nonetheless! :lol:

Just saying

January 22nd, 2010
4:25 pm

freaky friday was turned into sunday school by u..

Boy you made me do it again…laugh out loud. That was unexpected. You silly

DreamMaterialize, I like you. You’re light hearted most of the time. Sit by you? Anytime.

Raqi…I'm givin him somethin he can feel...

January 22nd, 2010
4:35 pm

Leggs, to the event. 45 minutes drive to the party.

DreamsMaterialize

January 22nd, 2010
4:44 pm

Just Saying always good vibes over here. Now close your eyes and let me show you what I mean.

Leggs

January 25th, 2010
8:36 am

Dang, will somebody turn on the lights on in this camp….