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It’s Your Own Fault

A  group of us met up for dinner recently at Flip Burger Boutique to catch up with each other and nosh on some food.  It didn’t take long before the topic turned to dating and sex.  (They  like to blame this on me, but I am rarely the one to bring it up).

Shauna was complaining about the fact that she was let down with how her new man “performed”.  I thought she should cut him some slack. Things could improve and he probably was just as disappointed as she was.  She said she wasn’t going to mention anything to him because she didn’t want to come across as bossy in bed.

One of the men told her  not to let it go on for too long.  If she ended up in a relationship with a man that didn’t satisfy her, it would be her own fault, not his. Of course, this sparked a debate about who was responsible for bad sex people are having.

Do you blame the people who lack bedroom skills or their partners that don’t tell them?

Of course the central argument for some was that people fake satisfaction too much to keep the peace and protect the egos. What do you think?

Should you bring up how to improve things in the bedroom when you have just started a relationship? Do you wait to see if it improves with time and umm… practice?

Happy Friday!

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Cemeeli

January 22nd, 2010
3:04 pm

Dream_n – Oh, lemme catch you up thenm. You have babysitting duty. While you were out we planned some stuff…and since you wheren’t here…you got stuff with babysitting.

My boy likes pepperoni and cheese pizza. He can only have 1 soda, a Sprite..and Friday’s i make him go to bed at 10pm.

Thanks sweetie. :)

Melo

January 22nd, 2010
3:05 pm

have to agree with you and glad your leaky pipes are fixed

Leggs! :lol:

u got jokes! :lol:

Just saying

January 22nd, 2010
3:05 pm

Naaw Mr. Infamous, you took a shot at me first. If I’m on here crying today, at least it ain’t everday like some folks I read, giving one-sided stories at that. But it’s okay, call me names or make suggestions about me. I don’t need to clarify how I swing neither do I need to speak on the filth you suggested so you can have at that. Some things I don’t have to clarify, justify or nullify for strangers. I just know there are some serious hypocrites but God carries the weight and balances. I’m good knowing just that.

Luvbug

January 22nd, 2010
3:06 pm

Just saying – just read your 2:47…completely agree.

Somehow I was thinking the same thing but in a different conversation.

Dream_n~ Priceless

January 22nd, 2010
3:08 pm

LOL Cee..

Aww heck naw.. I wanna go out with the grown-ups this time. Ya’ll always leaving me at home with the kids….

Sassy Me....Exhaling :-)

January 22nd, 2010
3:10 pm

I got it CeeMee! You the shyt,yo :)

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 22nd, 2010
3:10 pm

Chiming in on the “advisor’s” affair-

SLOPPY PIMPIN’

that is all

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 22nd, 2010
3:10 pm

Just A Jumpoff – Wow you go from blowing backs out to GOD.. Now if that aint a hypocrite I dont know what is..

Baby don’t you
Baby don’t you know
You’re so beautiful (beautiful, beautiful)

Look Baby Im singing just for you on my knees giving it all I got.. Reaching out to you..

Uh huh ok whats up.. You know the rest.

You ain't sayin' isht

January 22nd, 2010
3:12 pm

If I’m on here crying today, at least it ain’t everday like some folks I read, giving one-sided stories at that

Go somewhere and sit you’re azz down then and STFU with all of that shyt….I’m just sayin

Luvbug

January 22nd, 2010
3:13 pm

Melo – what are you talking about??

still reading

Cemeeli

January 22nd, 2010
3:14 pm

Naw Dream_n You can go next time. I’ll bring you something back, k?

got it CeeMee! You the shyt,yo

SassaFrass – yo??? lol you from the south!

Raqi…Baby love, My baby love, I need you, Oh, how I need you

January 22nd, 2010
3:15 pm

Leggs, I am actually sitting here mentally scanning my closet trying to decide what would nice to wear tonight. It is going to sorta cool out tonight but that don’t mean I still can’t look hot. LOL

Melo

January 22nd, 2010
3:15 pm

You ain’t sayin’ isht??

u related to Angie??

LoveLife411

January 22nd, 2010
3:15 pm

I know I’m pleasing by the way he trembles >>>>> my signature!

Melo

January 22nd, 2010
3:17 pm

Luvbug??

im saying,u seem to be addressing smething in ur past but u aint that clear to me….

What happened tween u and some men u referenced..im missing the context.

on a diff not..im so full,feels better to be hungry right now….

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 22nd, 2010
3:18 pm

See what it is ya’ll dont like that I stand up for my Dudes.. I have to give the male perspective.. Come on now ya’ll know the ladies stick together and will turn a conversation on the dudes in a minute.. Cause half the dudes scared to say what they really wanna say and those that do are called crazies.. Well I’ll be that.. Crazy and Deranged.. I can take it and guess what… All of you are sooo Beautiful.. Even if you dont like what I say I listen to what ya’ll say and if its good info I digest it and if not I just keep it moving.. I love you all, My Babies Mommies.. Much Love to you all.. Aww Yeah Love is in the Air..

Cause it just feels so right
I don’t wanna waste no time
If I had to choose
I know I’m gonna always choose to be with you
Cause girl don’t you know

Girl don’t you know
You’re so beautiful
I wanna give all my love to you girl
Not just a night
But the rest of your life
I wanna be always here by your side

Dream_n~ Priceless

January 22nd, 2010
3:18 pm

Raqi

Since I do know a lil about fashion LOL

Are you a jeans woman/skirts/dresses/ slacks/ tights??

Raqi…Baby love, My baby love, I need you, Oh, how I need you

January 22nd, 2010
3:20 pm

Dream_n, tonight probably slacks. I might get into trouble if I wear a skirt. Or rather trouble might get into me if I wear a skirt. LOL

DreamsMaterialize

January 22nd, 2010
3:20 pm

I am whatever are you sure it’s fixed. I think I should come over and inspect your “faucet”. How’s 8:22 sound?

Dream_n~ Priceless

January 22nd, 2010
3:20 pm

Ya’ll hostile today.

You ain't sayin' isht

January 22nd, 2010
3:22 pm

yo??? lol you from the south!

Lemme s’plain…my sperm donor is Trini and my mom is from Chucktown(Charleston),S.C. and they met when they attended the C of C. She became “with child” and they went back to Trini….fast forward 10 years and a baby brother and we ended up back in Chas. I used to hang around alot of cats from “up top” and the “yo” stuck with me. Does that make me complicated? :)

Melo

January 22nd, 2010
3:23 pm

who got a bikini pic(s) and is not insecure about their body..females??

I dont mind the face..u cn hide/block it..

Just send me ur chest/bossom,tummy and leggs…

Thanx!

(uuuuuggh,eeeeeewh,I hate that whrre’s bikini pic,skinny legs an’d all!)

Leggs

January 22nd, 2010
3:23 pm

@Raqi ~ whatever you decide to wear, you’re so hot I suggest you go commando for the art of the tease. Keep them in your purse! Oops did I just say that!!!

Just saying

January 22nd, 2010
3:24 pm

Luvbug, thanks. I know I don’t HAVE to read here but it would be nice to not be onesided, nor blame nor belittle. On the subject of cheating, pull the archives, the men will be the first to call a spade a spade (i.e. skank). I just don’t appreciate the casual “nothing” in which women are viewed when more often than not, it was for some dumb dude she put out for…I know not his fault, just saying. Not an activist nor feminist but I can’t help but (often) think wonder about these dudes making those type calls and judgements…like this —> We hear a story of a woman that’s tattered and worn and infidelity. They’ll call her a ho, skank, “she knew better.” Then by the same token we read the stories and experiences of people telling their way around the bedroom, same behavior, different story teller and the slight difference of it being done on their boyfriend versus somebody’s husband and then we read kudos and props, suckers and trophies being handed out all day and according to those rewarding and commending, they simply wouldn’t have it any other way. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not knocking or judging but I often wonder (in their minds) how hoish behavior from a stranger is differentiated from that of a blog buddy? That’s what I mean by hypocrisy.

Luvbug

January 22nd, 2010
3:24 pm

Melo – just posting what’s on my mind regarding the topic…nothing deeper than what I wrote…nothing to figure out.

DreamsMaterialize

January 22nd, 2010
3:24 pm

Dream_n you got stuck with babysitting? lol I’ll come kick with you. We puttin the kids to bed at 6:22pm though. ;-)

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 22nd, 2010
3:25 pm

The KING is enjoying life.. All the planets have lined up for him and No one can bring him down. Crusin at 6 Million Light Years out of sight.

Just saying

January 22nd, 2010
3:25 pm

You ain’t sayin’ isht

Go somewhere and sit you’re azz down then and STFU with all of that shyt….I’m just sayin

Okay, all that from behind the keyboard…riiiight. You know I’m right.

Leggs

January 22nd, 2010
3:26 pm

And if you don’t want me to buy a poster to hang in the postoffice for $9.00 you best be finished by 8:22.

Just saying

January 22nd, 2010
3:28 pm

You ain’t sayin’ isht ….READ AND LEARN, K?

Dream_n~ Priceless

January 22nd, 2010
3:28 pm

I like slacks paired with an off the shoulder shirt and I pair of heel boots or stiletos would be really nice.

Cemeeli

January 22nd, 2010
3:28 pm

…this is the funniest! okay, i ain’t touching it…Going home.

~ Ya’ll have a blessed weekend.

Dont’ forget Haiti – Alonzo Mourning and D-Wade has a site set up for donations towards helping the doctors get more supplies for the makeshift field tents they are treating victims.

@ http://www.amcharities.org.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 22nd, 2010
3:28 pm

Awwww Yeah So Beautiful.. The truth is..

You know I apologize if my tone hurt your feelings Baby.. I didnt mean to be so gruff baby.. Ohhhh Baby youre so Beautiful..

Dream_n~ Priceless

January 22nd, 2010
3:30 pm

@ DreamsM

6:22 sounds good but hope no other plans were made cause we aint gon be finished til 12:22..

Don’t worry Cee… I’ll make sureeee lil Cee is fast asleep and any of the other blog kids… LOL

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 22nd, 2010
3:30 pm

Awwww Baby Female Accountability is Soooo Beautiful..

Melo

January 22nd, 2010
3:32 pm

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not knocking or judging but I often wonder (in their minds) how hoish behavior from a stranger is differentiated from that of a blog buddy?

Just saying??

Lemme ask this lady:

Wld u rather be on the roman catholic blog or this one??

we call a spade a spadde on here..if u sleep with married man and u know he got a wife,u a whrre…not just on this blog but in society too…
i dont see any contradiction nor hypocrisy.

The man aint a whrre really coz he aint “selling” the sex.

The whrre meanwhile gets “treated”(say euphamism),going to london sydney etc….and if dude didnt have money like me,she wldnt be there…

Just like whrres do..u pay,u play!

Dream_n~ Priceless

January 22nd, 2010
3:33 pm

Okay something didn’t read write. Was i the only one that caught that? LMAO

I’ll read you good people next week.

Be safe!

Raqi…Baby love, My baby love, I need you, Oh, how I need you

January 22nd, 2010
3:34 pm

Leggs, Yeah and I’ll send him a text message and tell him while is standing over in a group talking to his buddies. LOL

lurker

January 22nd, 2010
3:34 pm

hot in here, good night

THE INFAMOUS DK aka THE KING

January 22nd, 2010
3:34 pm

Its official.. I am a full fledged member NO M.A.A.M with Al Bundy..

Sassy Me....Exhaling :-)

January 22nd, 2010
3:36 pm

READ AND LEARN, K?

All I can say is you still reading like your panties in a bunch and the wedgie is phuckng with your O2. I don’t really think you want me to come out of my bag on your bitter sounding azz….if you’ve been reading like you claim then you would know I really ain’t the one to phuck with like that….to hell with the keyboard,h-o.

MusingLee

January 22nd, 2010
3:36 pm

SexyC you are off the chain wit it! LMAO

Musing now looking sideways

Sassy Me....Exhaling :-)

January 22nd, 2010
3:37 pm

No Dream you read it all like you were supposed to.

DreamsMaterialize

January 22nd, 2010
3:38 pm

Leggs $9? you taking the cheap route. can’t get a billboard? oh well, at least it’s not some grafiti in the bathroom. lol

Just saying

January 22nd, 2010
3:40 pm

we call a spade a spadde on here..if u sleep with married man and u know he got a wife,u a whrre…not just on this blog but in society too…
i dont see any contradiction nor hypocrisy.

If you sleep with anybody that’s not married to you, you’re a ho. Your married friend, your boyfriend, your fwb, whatever. Now, was that harsh? Too bad. The truth though. Hypocrisy comes into play when you make hoing with a married slighty worse than hoing with your man. IF YOU AIN’T MARRRIED, you’re hoing. Doesn’t matter how you or society feels about it. Take it up with GOD. I’m not perfect but I don’t look down on others and can’t stand those that do. Open your eyes, it’s all the same and IS (not should be) categorized as such.

Leggs

January 22nd, 2010
3:41 pm

Exactly, Raqi, Exactly…and watch him start stammering and feign an excuse to end that convo so he can saunter over to you.

Luvbug

January 22nd, 2010
3:42 pm

About the 2:47…not that it matters at this point…

I specifically agree with the blame women for everything part as a valid point.

Just saying

January 22nd, 2010
3:43 pm

Sassy – just because you came out, don’t make me jump. Really chick. Like I said, READ AND LEARN…K? Just like I read bitter to you, your post was indicative that the hit dog (yes dog, skank, hore) hollered.

DreamsMaterialize

January 22nd, 2010
3:44 pm

we aint gon be finished til 12:22
Dream_n the neighbors gon know my name (maybe the blog kids too). lol

Just saying

January 22nd, 2010
3:44 pm

“didn’t make me jump” never scared.