Met The One, Now What?
I haven’t been dating just for kicks and giggles. The good and bad (and traumatizing) experiences are all a part of meeting the one person that is truly right for me. When Mr. Right For Me shows up, I pretty much just have one main goal: don’t screw it up. Of course, it’s way more complicated than that. There will be compromise and loads of patience (patience mostly on his part) and actual work that would be involved.
A lot of us aren’t ready for love, even though we think we are. How do you know for sure that you are? If you met the person you think is meant for you, are you prepared to do the work? It won’t always be sunshine and rainbows, so as New Edition used to sing, Can You Stand the Rain? Sounds cheesy, but it’s the truth. We are so used to bailing out when things don’t work for us, how are we working now to make sure we can make a relationship last?
Do you think there are things we can do while we are single to prepare us for a relationship? What about marriage?
When you meet someone who you feel that you could have a future with, what should you do to let them know?
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Leggs
January 20th, 2010
4:40 pm
LOL @Iam, I know what lockdown means. Are you locking it down just for him or are you open to meet others possibly connecting with another individual who may unlock you? I identify 100% with your post! But, I don’t pay any attention to the 3-month rule, but the other part of your post is on point!
Poppa Grande
January 20th, 2010
4:41 pm
I’d love to see Peyton get ring #2 against his hometown team (The New Orleans Saints).
I am whatever you say I am
January 20th, 2010
4:41 pm
@ Melo: I don’t like to play games
Cemeeli
January 20th, 2010
4:42 pm
hahahahaha….
@PoppaG – I caint help but laugh. Yeah…i KNOW how expensive that ticket to Superbowl is.
lol…bless you.
Cemeeli
January 20th, 2010
4:42 pm
just saying though…if you got any pull with Sam and ‘nem.
DreamsMaterialize
January 20th, 2010
4:43 pm
I am whatever guess you see where my mind was. lol although I’m not judging you if that’s what it was. everyone needs some release. BTW I have some tools for your “problem”. What time should I come?
Leggs
January 20th, 2010
4:43 pm
I guess what I’m asking is if after the 3 month rule you’ve been kicking it with another who is showing you interest would you consider giving up the honeypot for him knowing you half deep feelings for another?
Poppa Grande
January 20th, 2010
4:43 pm
Also, it would be great for Pierre Garcon. He probably needs this season to go on as long as possible to get his mind off the tragedy in his home country of Haiti. I’m rooting for him, too. He made the best play of playoff by punching the ball out of Ed Reed’s hand after that interception and allowing his team to keep the ball. With all that is on his heart, he had the presence of mind to keep playing and make a play.
Cemeeli
January 20th, 2010
4:45 pm
@ Melo – I must say, i like Colts ball. But I wish somebody would have KNOCKED the fire from them Saints early in the game though!
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
January 20th, 2010
4:45 pm
@Dreams can go both ways. I had a lady ask me over the phone once if she could come over and give me a little (substitute name for a cat here). Being the agreaable gent that I am, I “reluctantly” (yeah right) agreed. Thirty minutes later I opened my apartment door and she was standing there holding a CAT. Her daughter had to have someone keep her cat for a month until she changed residences (turned out to be a year). Not the “kitty” I was expecting for sure.
Leggs
January 20th, 2010
4:46 pm
knowing you have….knowing you have…
Melo
January 20th, 2010
4:46 pm
I am whatever you say I am ??
“I don’t like to play games”
i know altho us guys make u chics do…..u kinda 2 stepping right now,u see that?
U luv this guy and it shows..
Leggs
January 20th, 2010
4:48 pm
Too funny, greed and lust got you forgetting the true meaning of the word “kitty”. That was cute and funny!
Melo
January 20th, 2010
4:48 pm
KNOCKED the fire from them Saints early in the game though!
Cee…
i know they hated(nuerlens) esp here in the A by the falcon pple..
there is a big possibility they may win this thang….but my money is on peyton… tho.
I wish the nu erlens the worst..but u know,they got katrina goodwill on their back so will see…
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
January 20th, 2010
4:50 pm
Me too, PG, me too. I like the Saints okay, but I like the Colts better. Just keep the coach away and let Peyton run the game.
DreamsMaterialize
January 20th, 2010
4:50 pm
Randyt that’s some funny ish man. I could see myself making the same mistake.
Poppa Grande
January 20th, 2010
4:50 pm
Oh yeah, I want the Saints to win this weekend. I am trying to find Tonya Harding so she can put a hit out on Brett Farve like she did Nancy Kerrigan in the 1994 winter olympics.
Cemeeli
January 20th, 2010
4:50 pm
I am crakin’ up at the cat story. Got caught sliiiipin’.
Melo
January 20th, 2010
4:50 pm
With all that is on his heart, he had the presence of mind to keep playing and make a play
I know right!
If it were T.O.,his eyes wld have been blood shot after that, jus standing and his hands on his waist!
I am whatever you say I am
January 20th, 2010
4:52 pm
Leggs: never been good at 3 month rule but after doing research it seems like something I should try.
I’m very open to meeting new people. I might have a date this weekend with someone I just met.
The hard part is that I want my ex
but I know for a fact that if I let him do him and I do me then whatever is meant to be will be
Whether or not I’m with him or someone else its fine but I have to accept the reality that he may not want me
We broke up because after being in a relationship he realized he wasn’t sure what he wanted and felt like he wasn’t ready.
I didn’t want to play pretend so I ended it.
DreamsMaterialize
January 20th, 2010
4:52 pm
I’m all for the Colts too. PoppaG would you say they’re still using the Dungy legacy as a winning strategy or is there a whole new system in place?
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
January 20th, 2010
4:53 pm
@Leggs yeah, tell me about it. I listen a whole lot closer from then on and don’t ASS U ME anything anymore
I am whatever you say I am
January 20th, 2010
4:53 pm
Yes Melo, I love him.
Cemeeli
January 20th, 2010
4:53 pm
If it were T.O.,his eyes wld have been blood shot after that, jus standing and his hands on his waist!
okay. DONE!
Leggs
January 20th, 2010
4:53 pm
You can’t go forward with your life while continuously looking in the rearview mirror! ~ dedicated to i am whatever
Nite!
I am whatever you say I am
January 20th, 2010
4:54 pm
Dreams Mat: you are silly! LOL
Poppa Grande
January 20th, 2010
4:55 pm
It is probably the Dungy legacy.
Jim Caldwell had been a college coach forever. (He was at Wake Forest for a while).
Peyton knows that offense inside and out. That defense played outstanding last week against Baltimore.
Melo
January 20th, 2010
4:55 pm
So Randyt,the cat woman didnt pay u no deposit for that cat care??!!
Poppa Grande
January 20th, 2010
4:56 pm
With that said, as a former player, I’d LOVE to play for Rex Ryan. That confidence and he is a brilliant defensive mind.
I just like the horseshoes better.
Cemeeli
January 20th, 2010
4:56 pm
Saints are like roaches…
Leggs
January 20th, 2010
4:58 pm
Ewwwwwwww!
DreamsMaterialize
January 20th, 2010
4:58 pm
I am whatever I am silly, indeed. But on the real, why did you tell the blog we were going on a date this weekend. I thought we were going to keep that a secret. And why am I just finding out about this 3 month rule. On second thought, I might have to cancel for this weekend.
Cemeeli
January 20th, 2010
4:58 pm
@Leggs – oops…only reference i can make for them. awww..ain’t i sweet.
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
January 20th, 2010
4:58 pm
Melo … let’s just say it was not totally reward free. She “may” have made it up to me (with a dayum wicked grin on her face the whole time).
Poppa Grande
January 20th, 2010
4:59 pm
Cee
Imagine the talk from the New Orleans folks if they messed around and actually won this thing.
I remembered when Tampa won, my family called and rubbed it in. (Tampa got their ring against my favorite team, Oakland Raiders)
Poppa Grande
January 20th, 2010
5:00 pm
I just think that Peyton is the only QB that could carve up that Saints defense. He handles the blitz well. Greg Williams (NO Defensive Coordinator) loves to blitz.
DreamsMaterialize
January 20th, 2010
5:01 pm
Oakland and Philly are my favs. I was hoping to see a Oakland vs. Philly superbowl that year. Dungy deserved that Tampa ring though. Brought them up from the ashes.
Cemeeli
January 20th, 2010
5:02 pm
Yeah, i remember the Buccs moment.
Lol at you being a dang Raiders fan!
DreamsMaterialize
January 20th, 2010
5:02 pm
Grudin has Dungy’s ring
Melo
January 20th, 2010
5:03 pm
Ewwwwwwww!
seen some pple kissing Leggs??
Cemeeli
January 20th, 2010
5:03 pm
The Saints win this thing?!? wth?…flee from whenst you came you serpent.
I am whatever you say I am
January 20th, 2010
5:03 pm
Leggs: Trust me, if I meet the right guy, I can quickly close the door on the ex.
It’s just the guys I have met since we broke up are not guys that I am interested in which makes me miss the ex more.
For all married people that are upset around petty stuff in their marriage, It’s just not worth it . Grass is not greener on the other side.
I hope married people realize that.
Poppa Grande
January 20th, 2010
5:05 pm
Yeah, he deserved that ring.
He has one now, too.
Leggs
January 20th, 2010
5:06 pm
Good to know, i am whatever, good to know. You’re pining for him came across crisp and sharp! I gotcha!
Who ain’t seen nobody, Melo!
Poppa Grande
January 20th, 2010
5:07 pm
I am a proud fan of the Oakland Raiders. Our coaches beat each other up. We don’t play at all.
It is time to send Jamarcus packing. He isn’t serious about winning. He got his big payday and doesn’t care about anything else. He eats way too much KFC. He has a big gut for a QB.
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
January 20th, 2010
5:07 pm
PG … I stillhave not actually heard. What things did the Colts do well and what was just miscues of the Ravens? Did the Colts hit on all cylinders?
Poppa Grande
January 20th, 2010
5:10 pm
The Colts defense was the story of the game. Which is an accomplishment when the other defense has Ray Lewis and Ed Reed. The offense was good as usual, but that defense really stepped up and make life miserable for Ray Rice and Joe Flacco.
They looked crisp. Caldwell used the bye as a minicamp and made them hit with pads like it was a summer camp or something. They were ready.
Melo
January 20th, 2010
5:11 pm
ok..
time for bootleg bloging now!
All cylinders Randyt and the Ravens had possessions taken away 1,2,3 i think 4 times.
The colts played like its the playoffs defence was a beast…(kinda feel sorry to expect MATT Ryan to play at same level)
Its was fierce!
They do it again 2 times..they take this thing!
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
January 20th, 2010
5:13 pm
Great, thanks. I really hated missing that game.
I am whatever you say I am
January 20th, 2010
5:13 pm
Dreams Mat: you read it wrong.
I said I might have a date this weekend with someone that I just met.
I want to be with my ex but I am not about to hold my breath waiting for him to feel the same way.
In time, if he wants more with me he will definatley let me know. It’s too soon. So for me, life goes on.