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Lucky to Have You

I once read that relationships are like blenders, you need one, but you’re not quite sure why.  I know we all go through bad dates or relationship stress sometimes.   Of course it’s not always easy to relate to one another but that’s perfectly normal and to be expected. There are probably moments when we want to throw in the towel and give up.

The truth is, we are lucky to have each other.  I can honestly say showing appreciation and gratitude to your partner or date can go a long way.  Even if you don’t express it in words, you can find a way to let them know that you feel fortunate to be with them. I would think this adds more potential to your budding romance or add more shelf-life to your relationship .

Why do you think we are lucky to have each other?  How do you show how it?

Happy Friday! What fun and exciting things do you guys have planned?

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LoveLife411

January 15th, 2010
4:00 pm

and Chink your comments are appreciated and noted… pretty much everything posted here is food for thought.

kimmie

January 15th, 2010
4:03 pm

Okay Melo, I get playful, cause I can be downright silly myself. I just think if Slim really thought he was joking, she would have presented it that way. A lot of truth is sometimes presented as a joke.

You gotta really watch folk these days though, Melo. A lady can’t be too careful.

Luvbug

January 15th, 2010
4:05 pm

Rhianna perm!! Now that’s funny.

I get (and respect) the suggestion to not take advice from strangers with no real context of the whole situation. I don’t get the part about not giving an opinion on a blog based on that same sliver of info.

I’m gonna assume that Slim don’t go around just taking advice all willy-nilly.

Side note: I am concerned with the trend of guys stalking after initially showing slight crazy traits…that’s too common in Atlanta. And yes, I know I cannot assume that he is crazy.

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 15th, 2010
4:06 pm

@SlimOne

Look me up and I want to see the profile.!

Raqi

January 15th, 2010
4:06 pm

A lot of truth is sometimes presented as a joke.

Kimmie, I actually think people speak more truth in joking than they do when not.

Chink

January 15th, 2010
4:08 pm

LOL Dreams we can discuss but I just dont agree with telling someone to RUN …when we dont have the whole story. That means action that’s for SLIM to decide and saying this person is a/can be a abuser is ridiculous in itself. I know there are smart people on this blog I just think it went too far with the broad judging strokes.

LoveLife Got a Man thanks!

kimmie

January 15th, 2010
4:12 pm

Raqi – I agree. Notice how folks will say “just kidding”(but not really)?

Melo

January 15th, 2010
4:12 pm

Kimmie/Luvbug/Raqi

what really concerns me about afri/american guys,(u can say white guys too) is this trend to kill especially after being dumped or even going on the stalker thing.

I really dont get it altho i asuume some males are back bone less,meaning,they depend on the women for stuff,money,accomodation etc so when they get dumped,they become spiteful.

My only advice to chics, i dont care how much u luv him,dont let a dude come live in ur house/apartment or sign on his lease.Let his brother,his friends etc do that.Let him be a man and hustlke on his own without burdening u with his responsibilities be4 u are even married.

The moment u chics realize that,thats when ur men are gon to be real standup dudes!

Just sayin

January 15th, 2010
4:17 pm

What I am saying is that she is portraying this dude in a negative light

First of all, Chink must be white, which is why they get killed like they do in horrors. Freddie standing over you with the axe and to make sure you don’t prematurely judge you can only know for sure he’s wanting to kill you after the deed is done AS OPPOSED TO JUST DANG RUNNING!!!

If you’re 10 miles up in my butt from day one, something is not right. If you’re overly anything after a couple of dates again, something is not right. It’s not rocket science. If you’re scary and that’s what I get from my interaction with you, I’m probably right. The safe thing to do is to move it along. My safety is first and foremost. Lastly, if all is he is, done or said has been negative, then she’s protraying as is. You should date him.

kimmie

January 15th, 2010
4:17 pm

this trend to kill especially after being dumped or even going on the stalker thing.

Melo – See this is really what I’ve alluding to! That’s what I was talking about with 4 Real about sometimes you have to EASE away! Some of these dudes just can’t take NO for an answer. That’s why I don’t PLAY with people and give mixed signals. If I’m not really feeling you even a little, I don’t even go out with you, much less go & let something happen physically. I do not need a free meal or drink – I can make a peanut butter sandwich and be just fine – and ALIVE!

kimmie

January 15th, 2010
4:19 pm

dont let a dude come live in ur house/apartment or sign on his lease.Let his brother,his friends etc do that.Let him be a man and hustlke on his own without burdening u with his responsibilities be4 u are even married.

Melo, you need to put this on a BILLBOARD! God, you sound like my parents with that kind of advice!

Luvbug

January 15th, 2010
4:19 pm

Odd, joking advice that my mom gave me once…”Luvbug, there are three things that a man says that you betta believe he aint joking about…even if he’s laughing when he’s saying it.”

1. I don’t love you
2. I don’t want that baby
3. I’ll kill you

She continues, “Men don’t lie about things like that”.

I just looked at her…but somehow it still stays in the back of my mind.

Dream_n~ Appreciates the small things in life

January 15th, 2010
4:21 pm

Melo..

Not everyone wants to get married. Some people are content with being in a committed relationship with their significant other.

I’m just say’n

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 15th, 2010
4:24 pm

Mdot bout to head out to get this Head done….look up via email keasha_96@yahoo.com

GOOD RIDDENS…ooops meant have a good weekend all!

kimmie

January 15th, 2010
4:25 pm

Dream_n:

That advice applies even if you don’t want to get married.

Melo

January 15th, 2010
4:26 pm

Chink must be white, which is why they get killed like they do in horrors.

@Jus saying..blacks are getting killed too..! that was kinda funny tho :lol:

@Kimmie,i understand what u saying…i think,if we look at Slim situ closely,reading her, i think the fact that there are 2 dudes makes her rationale a lil twisted and conflicted..shes conflicted in some way, i guarantee u that,she may tell us otherwise.If this guy werent good enough..i dont think he wld be about to go on 4th date….

kimmie

January 15th, 2010
4:27 pm

Luvbug – I had a guy say #1 & #3 on your list. That’s when I “eased” away.

Of course, later he said he didn’t mean it, but it was over for me.

Dream_n~ Appreciates the small things in life

January 15th, 2010
4:29 pm

@ Kimmie

Too late to debate :lol:

But I dont see a problem with letting my SO other move in with me if we are together. Or even if he’s struggling a bit.

I’d be there like johnny on the spot.

Raqi

January 15th, 2010
4:31 pm

Melo, I think it’s a control issue. If they kill they have the control.

Melo

January 15th, 2010
4:34 pm

That advice applies even if you don’t want to get married

YEP..IF u gon to be committed to him,he needs to think thru aome things in advance…credit,saving etc…coz he wants to have a gerl for keeps..

Let a man be a man and let him demonstrate that thru action rather than u bailing him out on tricky stuff!

My young cousin was jailed one time,back home over a thang he neva did.
we kept that on the low low and none in the fam got wind of it and we got himn out as boys.
Ur man must do likewise,wake up everday gon to work,food on the table,aprtment is looking good,his wheels are decent and there is food in the home and he asks u for nothing except to put some on the stove for him! :lol:

Dream_n~ Appreciates the small things in life

January 15th, 2010
4:38 pm

Well

I guess I differ on that. I’ll let a man be a man, but if my man gets down. I’m going to be there to help him out, pull him up, and keep his head above water.
Now if he’s not doing anything, that’s a different story.

DreamsMaterialize

January 15th, 2010
4:39 pm

Lots of these dudes are just boys in a man’s body. People probably made a million excuses for them growing up. “His daddy’s not around”, “He comes from a bad neighborhood”, “He’s an only child”, “He’s all I got”…

Now, they’re grown (physically), and people are still making excuses for them. “It’s hard out there”, “He had a bad childhood”, “He got issues”, “He really is a good person”, “He really is trying”…

Still getting treated like little boys, so they still act like little boys. Physical/verbal abuse is just a grownup way of throwing a temper tantrum. Throw their a#* in the pool of life and let ‘em learn to swim. Time to take the floaties off and become a man.

kimmie

January 15th, 2010
4:41 pm

Melo – Your 4:34 – ON POINT! That was/is the mindset of the men in my family that I respect, like my dad, grandad, some uncles, etc. That’s the definition of a real man & what I look for & tell my friends to look for. But I think it would be difficult, being a woman, to express that to a boy if I had to raise one on my own. I’d have to get one of my uncles or cousins I respect to teach it & show it in ACTION!

Melo

January 15th, 2010
4:43 pm

Dream_n..

thing is,most of these chics are bringing the dudes in theri apartment from jump…they are not beiong kept by them..its the other way round..signing leases for him,signing on a car for him..etc…or dwruight bringing him in on jump only coz the dyck was good and she swallowed :lol:

Dont do that! :lol:

Melo

January 15th, 2010
4:45 pm

Dream_n!

And im done..after this!

The way u start is the way u end!

God weekend everybody! Enjoy ur football and may the best teams win!

Dream_n~ Appreciates the small things in life

January 15th, 2010
4:47 pm

We may be talking about two different “men”.But hey..
I dont care, I’m not supporting one soooooo with that said.

DreamsMaterialize

January 15th, 2010
4:47 pm

Dream_n
You think I can stay with you for a little while. I’ll kick in on some bills as soon as I get this job thing staightened out. I can make it up to you in other ways. ;-)

Dream_n~ Appreciates the small things in life

January 15th, 2010
4:50 pm

LOL… As long as you do that thing you did in the Champagne Room yesterday..
I’on forsee no prob!

Luvbug

January 15th, 2010
4:52 pm

Melo – totally agree…except for the COOKING (you knew that already)…although in the way you typed it (woman not working), I agree. There is no reason a person should do househeeping when his/her partner is unemployed. That’s called teamwork.

DreamsMaterialize

January 15th, 2010
4:53 pm

don’t worry, you can have that on demand, like cable. actually, I’m feelin’ like it’s time for another round…

Dream_n~ Appreciates the small things in life

January 15th, 2010
4:56 pm

Aigh’t let me get my coat again….
**DING** **DING** ***DING**
Round 10

Dream_n~ Appreciates the small things in life

January 15th, 2010
5:01 pm

Goodnight Lovely Folks..

Wish me well… as I ski my little heart out!

Night Melo/Professor/Leggs

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 18th, 2010
9:43 am

Guess it’s Broke Blogging FreeBallin Day!!!!!!!!!!

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 18th, 2010
9:46 am

BROKE BLOGGIN

DreamsMaterialize

January 18th, 2010
9:58 am

Sup Slim. Looks like WD took the day off for MLK. We the only ones on the plantation today? lol

Miss SexyCool

January 18th, 2010
10:03 am

I’se heyah, massa.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 18th, 2010
10:06 am

Yep I reckon so. Gonna be a slow cotton pickin’ day

DreamsMaterialize

January 18th, 2010
10:13 am

lol hey Sexy. ya’ll silly. did you all have a good weekend?

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 18th, 2010
10:20 am

My weekend was bitter sweet. I really enjoyed spending time with my sis & niece celebrating her very first year….boy did she really tear that cake up, had icing everywhere.

Then bitter news is that my dad isn’t doing so well. So i’ll be off to NC later today to go check thangs out. Lawd I pray I have enough strenff to control my Pimp Slap Hand from wretchin across my stepmama face….lawd knows I need ya now. AAaaaaaamen!

DreamsMaterialize

January 18th, 2010
10:38 am

Hope everything turns out well with your dad.
Leave your Pimp Slap Hand with me until you get back. That way you won’t be able to use it. lol

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 18th, 2010
10:48 am

Yeah I hope things turn out for the better as well. I hope I won’t have to move up to Charlotte but if that’s the sacrifice I have to make then, that’s just what it is….

DreamsMaterialize

January 18th, 2010
10:58 am

yeah I feel you. charlotte isn’t too horrible. I used to live there. It’s not The A though. so no misadventures to speak of? we need a Bootleg Blog Topic. lol

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 18th, 2010
11:27 am

So why don’t you come up with our topic for today…that’ll be a great idea. LOL! Only thing i have is a minor update from the dude i was telling you all about Friday.

When I got off work he called and said, some chicks were beginning to UP their game, so he needed to know what it is I wanted to do as far as dating him. He said he wanted to continue on with me but if I didn’t feel the same way he’d go with doors #2, 3 and so forth. LOL! I asked him what it was he was asking me exactly: to agree to a relationship with him, date exclusively…what. So he said he wants to go forward getting rid of all our side action and just date exclusively. :shock:

Beautiful ♥ is off to Vegas for a week!

January 18th, 2010
11:31 am

morning bootleggers! *Slim* i hope he feels better. going to go get the hair done for Vegas. almost cancelled my flight last night. don’t want to leave the boys. had a long talk with them last evening. idk about this!

Lurker

January 18th, 2010
11:35 am

Do you guys believe in love at first sight or what the french call the “flash”?

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 18th, 2010
11:37 am

Mawnin Beautiful….I could use some Vegas right about now! Have fun for me

@Lurker Um…i’ve never personally experienced Love at first sight so my final answer will probably have to be, “That’s a Negative” :-)

Beautiful ♥ is off to Vegas for a week!

January 18th, 2010
11:42 am

i do! and have. but you prolly already knew that.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 18th, 2010
11:47 am

The only love at first sight I could POSSIBLY think of is seeing my niece coming out of the birth canal and loving her instantly. But as far as a love insterest type deal….NAH. Have a hard time trying to fathom automatically loving someone you don’t know. JMO

DreamsMaterialize

January 18th, 2010
11:47 am

Lurker, I don’t know about love at first sight, but I believe it is possible for some to know pretty quickly if they want to spend the rest of their life with someone.

Beautiful, what’s up? Hit the Black Jack table for me…that’s my joint.

Slim, what do you want with this guy? Are you feeling him, or still trying to decide? Seems like he’s wants to lock it down. Are you trying to do that? On my end, a few chicks from the past have been coming out of the woodworks all of a sudden. One hit me up out the blue like, “Hey I’m moving to Atlanta. We should kick it”. Another one like, “Hey I’m thinking of moving to Atlanta. We should hang out.” A third hit me saying she’s visiting and wants to hang out with me…and she’s married. I’m like wth is going on in the universe? lol

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 18th, 2010
11:58 am

Dreams Not really feeling him like that…especially enough to say i ONLY want to date you. Just the recent events have sort of turned me off then to now be preoccupied with my Pops just further pushes him to backdrop of my mind. Not sure what’s going on as far as the chicks trying to lock you up. So what are YOU going to do with all the potential offers??? Inquiring mind would like to know