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Lucky to Have You

I once read that relationships are like blenders, you need one, but you’re not quite sure why.  I know we all go through bad dates or relationship stress sometimes.   Of course it’s not always easy to relate to one another but that’s perfectly normal and to be expected. There are probably moments when we want to throw in the towel and give up.

The truth is, we are lucky to have each other.  I can honestly say showing appreciation and gratitude to your partner or date can go a long way.  Even if you don’t express it in words, you can find a way to let them know that you feel fortunate to be with them. I would think this adds more potential to your budding romance or add more shelf-life to your relationship .

Why do you think we are lucky to have each other?  How do you show how it?

Happy Friday! What fun and exciting things do you guys have planned?

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Raqi

January 15th, 2010
11:26 am

Or as a way to avoid defining what the relationship is. And Mdot, as you said some may use it to keep the possibility open with one before they let go of what is in the other hand. i.e. “Let me see if you are worth me cutting this off over here first”.

Leggs

January 15th, 2010
11:27 am

LL411 and SlimOne ~ I see you guys have jokes this morning. Both were funny.

I see my other post was eaten…home with a sick child. Been up since 6 with her with flu like symptoms. Miraculosly, this 15 year old turned into a 4-year old. her spitting her up sent her into a tizzy!

I love and appreciate her, all my friends, all people and hopefully soon I have a mate who will appreciate me and to whom I too can show my appreciation.

kimmie

January 15th, 2010
11:32 am

Unless you guys are still in high school, I would think you would assume that they may be dating others. Saying you want to take it slow does not mean you’ve made a commitment, therefore cutting off all others. You’re still taking applications and you’d like to mull over this one for awhile before you make a final decision. Take your time & get to know, yet you still may be dating others. I see nothing wrong with that. Also, MY definition of taking it slow means just that – no physical.

kinderbabe

January 15th, 2010
11:33 am

I am lucky to have my significant other because I feel understood by him. His love comforts me when I need it most. He accepts many things about me that others would call flaws. It does my heart good knowing that someone has my back.:)

Leggs

January 15th, 2010
11:36 am

Let me try this a 3rd time:

LL411 and SlimOne – you too were very funny first thing this morning.

I’m home with a sick child with flu like symptoms. Couldn’t get a same date apptmt until 2:30. It’s a miracle how this 15 year old instantly turned into a 4-year old. I think her spitting up put her in a tizzy.

Nonetheless, I love and appreciate her, all my friends, people in general. Who knows, perhaps I will soon find one who will appreciate me and I in turn can show my appreciation.

kimmie

January 15th, 2010
11:36 am

Some people use “take it slow” as a way to avoid commitment.

I agree with this too, Raqi.

And that’s okay too, if neither want or are ready for a commitment. The pace, or how fast people move in a relationship, is really unique to that relationship. There are no rules.

For Real

January 15th, 2010
11:39 am

What up Blog Fam!

1. A relationship is not a need. It’s a want.

2. Selfishness is the opposite of grateful. Can’t preciamate people when you do everything for yourself.

3. Marriage is a covenant before God period. Then came along and made a contract before man and screwed up God’s plan.

4. I don’t like Bret but I mitty-fickin hate, mitty-fickin the Cowboys. Go Vikins.

5. Saints vs Cardinal is going to be a basketball score. I predict Brees will have a triple double.

6. Why ain’t nobody talkin about the Jets game?

7. Superbowl Colts vs Vikings

8. “what does it mean when a woman says she wants to take it slow?” – She’s not that in to you and she is waiting for you to persuade her into dating you.

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 15th, 2010
11:40 am

Interesting…I know guys and women do this. You may be dealing with someone and meet someone new. Alot of people really arent about to put their cards on the table just yet. People are selfish in one way or another.

@Kimmie

“Also, MY definition of taking it slow means just that – no physical.”

Ok. So really you mean no physical with HIM! Somebody is getting physical with you like Olivia Newton John lol

@Raqi

LOL so you do check them out ;)

Leggs

January 15th, 2010
11:43 am

We are all lucky…with or without someone because we can love ourselves. Yeah, yeah, I know you’re talking about the love shared by two.

For Real

January 15th, 2010
11:44 am

“Also, MY definition of taking it slow means just that – no physical.” – Does that include dry humping? What we kept our clothes on? Technically if I use a condom I am not phyiscally touching you. I’m just pushing this condom inside you for a full 17.9 second.

Sassy Me....I got that boom boom POW!! :-)

January 15th, 2010
11:45 am

Is “take it slow” only a woman’s concept? Ladies has a guy ever told you that he wanted to take it slow? I know I’ve told women that’s there’s no rush, but I see that as different than taking it slow. Is there a difference for you all?

No I don’t think it’s only a woman’s concept(that’s border line sexist but I digress). I’ve been told that in the past and for me it really helped me to feel even more comfortable with the POI. After that I knew he wasn’t looking for instant gratification and wanted to learn more about ME and not the booty. When women feel comfortable/safe/secure with you she can let her guard down and things are better for the BOTH b/c it takes away alot of fear and apprehension.
“There’s no rush and taking it slow” both sound the same to me. What do you think?…has that ever been your experience?

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 15th, 2010
11:46 am

@Mdot

I’m with Melo (and others)

The only way to know what she means is to ask. Then while “taking it slow” get a sense of her. Is she passive agressive, does she still play the 7th grade games, is she an honest broker in dealing with people and other things in her life?

Between her answer and your ‘feel’ for her, you should be able to discern her intention.

Leggs

January 15th, 2010
11:47 am

@kinderbabe ~ it’s a beautiful thing knowing someone has your back! Good for you!

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 15th, 2010
11:49 am

@For Real

“I don’t like Bret but I mitty-fickin hate, mitty-fickin the Cowboys. Go Vikins.”

LOL that’s funny because the reason everyone hates the cowboys is because they are NOT the cowboys…think about it..the best stadium, the best cheerleaders, and 1 star that’s world reknown..lol

“She’s not that in to you and she is waiting for you to persuade her into dating you.”

Like we said, no one should have to persuade you to deal with them. While you waiting to persuade her, she’s not sitting at home by the phone listening to Cherelle….lol she out with the next guy!

Raqi

January 15th, 2010
11:50 am

Kimmie, It seems that we live in time where folks are living relationships but put the brakes on when one or the other wants to call it what it is. For some crazy reason so many think it’s the label that we put on what is going on that makes it so. But I am more of a believer that the actions within the relationship defines itself.

The only that changes a relationship is going from unmarried to married. Outside of that, if two people are living like boyfriend and girlfriend then that’s what you are. People need to stop being the boyfriend/girlfriend of folks who refuse to claim them as such.

But that just my lil ole opinion.

Sassy Me....I got that boom boom POW!! :-)

January 15th, 2010
11:51 am

“Also, MY definition of taking it slow means just that – no physical.” – Does that include dry humping? What we kept our clothes on?

For Real you are a certified nut job..lol @ the “dry humping”(got people lookin in my office to see if I’m ok).

kimmie

January 15th, 2010
11:52 am

M dot – Olivia Newton John – ohkayyy. But yes, don’t I have that right, if there is no commitment? I’m grown. Physical complicates things – how can I tell him I want to take it slow, but go there with HIM? Now, personally, I’ve never been able to juggle and I’m a one-man-at-a-time lady. If I’m physical, I’m mental too, all there with one guy. So, I’m not dating others. But there have been times when I took applications – went on a few dates, talked on the phone, to two guys, not physical with either, no obligation except honesty to all. Inevitably, one caught my fancy more than the other, so other got cut off. Not a big deal.

Raqi

January 15th, 2010
11:53 am

Leggs, my ex sister-in-law has two kids with the stomach flu. It must something going around. I hope it misses my house.

Leggs

January 15th, 2010
11:58 am

@Raq ~ I just hope it passes me and get out of her asap.

@ForReal, you are crazy. We all know from our teenage years, it’s hard to dry hump and stop w/ or w/o a condumn…that was funny!

Dream_n~ Appreciates the small things in life

January 15th, 2010
11:58 am

@ M.
Jealous of the cowboys you say??? I had to LOL @ that.

I’ll sit back and continue to work/read.

Leggs I hope you guys feel better.

Melo

January 15th, 2010
12:01 pm

M(dot)??
be careful tho with chics that say they wanna take it slow but u giving them gerlfriend 4 star treatment,nice dates,u around her and she around yu but she neva wants to commit to u like like that….

U may just be on standby treatment,meaning,she proly seeing another dude and proly their thang aint gone smooth and u just a standby dude..
Ur excitement at being accorded play may blind u to the real reality..that u are just financing a project u are neva going to own..so its a double eddged sword too…..

I played sucker for a while to sme like that in the past,untill one saturday afternoon,Im driving from ma grandpa house, i see her and the “hidden” boyfriend coming outa his apartment….I regretted that i neva pressed her for pudsy,coz i respectfully thoght chic was gonna come to her senses anyway and give it up.

After that incident,Me being me, I pretended like I knew nothing untill I got the draws!
Then I treated her as such..a friend but lover on the side!

Gon to lernch!

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 15th, 2010
12:01 pm

Well I sort of recently been dating a guy. He is already always asking me if i like him or what I think about him or if I want to be with him or not. It’s really kind of irritating because I can’t make that determination off a few phone calls and hanging out a few times. So in my case, me wanting to ‘take things slow’ is to get to know more of him, before I get pressured into buying a lemon. He told me he’s a scorpio and if I wasn’t already aware, they are very passionate folks, and he doesn’t do the Gray area too much..He’s pretty much black and white. Even with that said, I’m just not at a point where I can say either way….there hasn’t been enough time for me to have any emotional tie to him…hence my slow pace

kimmie

January 15th, 2010
12:01 pm

Raqi – I agree totally with your 11:50. If it walks like a duck, quacks, you get the picture. And don’t pull out the “lets take it slow” card after we’ve acted like boyfriend/girlfriend for the last 6, 10, 12 months!

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 15th, 2010
12:02 pm

@Kimmie

Olivia Newton John had that song but anyway.

“But there have been times when I took applications – went on a few dates, talked on the phone, to two guys, not physical with either, no obligation except honesty to all.”

LOL Define took applications. Have you ever taken any of them out on a date?

Sassy Me....I got that boom boom POW!! :-)

January 15th, 2010
12:02 pm

….the reason everyone hates the cowboys is because they are NOT the cowboys…think about it..the best stadium, the best cheerleaders, and 1 star that’s world reknown..

Needed repeating…

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 15th, 2010
12:04 pm

4Real, I made this REEeeeeeemmmmmmiiiiixxxxxx just for you:

Panties on the ground, panties on the ground. Lookin like a fool wit my panties on the ground. :-)

Raqi

January 15th, 2010
12:05 pm

Melo, I agree with that first paragraph of your 12:01. Don’t be giving someone the boyfriend/girlfriend treatments who are not willing to be claimed as such.

Why allow someone to reap the benefits yet disown you?

kimmie

January 15th, 2010
12:05 pm

4 Real – You funny!LOL!! But naw, that’s teasing, high school stuff. Like I said, I’m grown. There are folks that do that & more, yet they “want to take it slow”! You right, they are just not that into you!

For Real

January 15th, 2010
12:06 pm

“LOL that’s funny because the reason everyone hates the cowboys is because they are NOT the cowboys…think about it..the best stadium, the best cheerleaders, and 1 star that’s world reknown..” – I words of Dave Chappel “I HATE THE COWBOYS CAUSE DEY STANK!!”

Raqi: “if two people are living like boyfriend and girlfriend then that’s what you are.” – Ummmm, no it makes you unmarried like you posted. The problem with titles for men is that one title leads to another one when women are concerned.

Titles: Girlfriend (which is so fuggin high school) leads to wife and wife lead to the ruler of the dude whole entire world (in the mind of the chick) now you know why dudes hate titles.

Sassy: “got people lookin in my office to see if I’m ok).” – Are you dry humping now? I am. I got a picture of Slim wearing a Backstreet Boys t-shirt with pants on biting her toenails for inspiration.

Raqi

January 15th, 2010
12:07 pm

kimmie, Exactly.

Raqi

January 15th, 2010
12:09 pm

one title leads to another one

ForReal, as in the progression of relationships?

Sassy Me....I got that boom boom POW!! :-)

January 15th, 2010
12:12 pm

I got a picture of Slim wearing a Backstreet Boys t-shirt with pants on biting her toenails for inspiration.

No ForReal don’t dry hump to that wait til Slim makes that video for her remix to Panties on the Ground”.

Melo

January 15th, 2010
12:12 pm

Raqi??
u treat a potentil gerlfriend like a true gerlfriend,for the most part..thats what gentlemen do…
other than expensive gifts and sexx..u treat a gerl like ur gerl…

Ofcourse when u 2 are boy/girl,there is an elevated level of treatment and associations…u meet her pple,she meets mine..

Leggs

January 15th, 2010
12:12 pm

@SlimOne ~ he probably keeps asking because he doesn’t want to put too much stock in a budding relationship that will soon fizzle. May have another prospect he’s considering but seems to like you a little more before closing the door on the other.

For Real

January 15th, 2010
12:12 pm

Slim: I re-remixed this for you: Panties on the ground, ZIP, panties on the ground, ZIP. Lookin like a fool wit my panties on the ground and Black Cake rubbing CT at a hundit miles an hour bout to reach 17.2 seconds trying to go for 17.9.

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 15th, 2010
12:14 pm

@Melo

Man I feel you 100% and you understand where I was coming from. That was what I was saying that they want to take it slow with YOU. They dont want to get physical with YOU. They want YOU to give them that BF treatment and boost their ego…but it’s another dude in the wings when she not with you….Her tearing her up like girl scout cookies.

That’s the definition of take it slow.

I had a situation like that once…went out with this chick, thinking everything was cool and if I would call, she would not pick up but just text right back. Im like what’s this about. Then one day, Im driving on 285, and I see her boo’d up in the car with some other dude lol I had to laugh.

kimmie

January 15th, 2010
12:16 pm

M dot – I’m familiar with the song, just corny, that’s all!LOL!!

“Taking applications” is just my cute way of saying I’m meeting and exchanging numbers with the intent to possibly date.

As for taking a guy on a date, meaning paying and even picking dude up – yes I have if we are an established couple. I’ll give the full court press. For a guy I just met, no I’m old school there and I make no apologies. Now maybe I will put down the tip, or if he buys the Chastain Park concert tickets, I will spring for the picnic. He buy dinner, I pay for the movie tickets, stuff like that. But I only go “dutch” – he pay for his meal, I pay for mine, with my platonic friends, not on a date. Not elegant, just not my style.

For Real

January 15th, 2010
12:18 pm

Raqi: “ForReal, as in the progression of relationships?” – I’m cool with “natural” progression but not the ish I experienced/witness. I mean you can go from gf and bf to married faster than it takes me to…. well you know and we all know how lonnggggggggggggg I likes to put it down. But it’s a lot like Slim’s case with ole boy. Hell i didn’t ask to be Slim’s cutbuddy until after I humped her pinky toe. Ole boy ain’t been but 1.7 dates.

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 15th, 2010
12:18 pm

@SlimOne

That’s interesting that he is coming on so strong so fast. I think he may just not be trying to play games and just put his cards on the table.

Is someone else in your picture?

Dream_n~ Appreciates the small things in life

January 15th, 2010
12:19 pm

LOL @ For Real

M.

Nope, that was her definition of taking it slow.
The blog women have given you many examples of what that term could mean, but you sat back and waited for someone to agree with you to validate your point.

Everything is all relative anyway.
My definition is not going to be your definition in most of these scenarios brought up.

Luvbug

January 15th, 2010
12:21 pm

I played sucker for a while to sme like that in the past,untill one saturday afternoon,Im driving from ma grandpa house, i see her and the “hidden” boyfriend coming outa his apartment

You just happened to be there Melo? Was it dark? Did you have shades on? Were you ducking down in your car? j/k…not about the first question.

Regarding marriage…so if God is the center, what’s with the state contract? Aren’t you technically married if you are religiously married with no state contract?

I appreciate life, my family, friends, health, peace of mind, frequent state of joy, everything (except pain…I don’t like pain)!!

Beautiful ♥ is off to Vegas for a week!

January 15th, 2010
12:22 pm

hi bloggers! nice topic.

Raqi, i’ll be lucky as you one day. :)

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 15th, 2010
12:22 pm

@Leggs well he started acting funny a little bit recently which I really didn’t too much care either way…so when he got done wacking out, he feeling some kind of way because i’m not running up behind him with my finger in his hiney. So i told him maybe i’m just not the person for him…he was cool at first then he was like, Why you act like you don’t like me…..then next day comes and I get invited to take a weekend trip. LOL Can you say mixed signals

4Real You’re crazy…but no need to go for that 17.9secs….I done went and wet myself. You got any baby wipes?

kimmie

January 15th, 2010
12:23 pm

M dot – The girl in your example, did you two make a commitment to each other or were you under the impression that you were the only guy she was seeing? Were YOU seeing others. Because if you two were upfront about that, she was not in the wrong. I know it may hurt if you were really into her and hoping to establish something with her, to see her with someone else, but hey, that sort of thing happens with both men & women everyday.

Sassy Me....oochie wally, wally :-)

January 15th, 2010
12:27 pm

Have a grreat weekend errbody!!

For Real

January 15th, 2010
12:32 pm

Luvbug: “Aren’t you technically married if you are religiously married with no state contract?” – Nope! The only marriage any state will recognize are the ones certified by state. Why you say? Well the state and the lawyers has a stake in the demise of marriages.

kinderbabe

January 15th, 2010
12:32 pm

thanks, Leggs!:)

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 15th, 2010
12:35 pm

@Kimmie

“As for taking a guy on a date, meaning paying and even picking dude up – yes I have if we are an established couple.”

I get this part but if you are dating a couple of dudes why should he have to pay for you? If you like this guy or think you may (obviously its something there which is why you are out with him) would it hurt you to say, hey you are cool, you took me on 3 dates, I got this one.

Dont just show up with some tuna sandwiches and some chips like the movies like hey lets have a picnic. Thats says you are cool but really not worth me spending some money on you. Yes I know you spent money at Publix for the Tuna. Give what you get.

@Dream_n

It wasnt about finding someone to agree with. I was just acknowledging Melo because I agreed with what he was saying. We still have that right dont we? Or no? Just asking ;)

For Real

January 15th, 2010
12:36 pm

Slim: I sure do. I keep them on me because I’m a Doctor.

Kimmie: you know I can tell you got a man?

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 15th, 2010
12:41 pm

@Kimmie

” I know it may hurt if you were really into her and hoping to establish something with her, to see her with someone else, but hey, that sort of thing happens with both men & women everyday.”

It was nothing. Like I said we went out one time. I just thought it was funny. No worries.