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Lucky to Have You

I once read that relationships are like blenders, you need one, but you’re not quite sure why.  I know we all go through bad dates or relationship stress sometimes.   Of course it’s not always easy to relate to one another but that’s perfectly normal and to be expected. There are probably moments when we want to throw in the towel and give up.

The truth is, we are lucky to have each other.  I can honestly say showing appreciation and gratitude to your partner or date can go a long way.  Even if you don’t express it in words, you can find a way to let them know that you feel fortunate to be with them. I would think this adds more potential to your budding romance or add more shelf-life to your relationship .

Why do you think we are lucky to have each other?  How do you show how it?

Happy Friday! What fun and exciting things do you guys have planned?

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LoveLife411

January 15th, 2010
8:50 am

I see everyone’s worn out from jacking, tasting and swallowing yesterday :)

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 15th, 2010
9:00 am

Morning….either the topic scared everyone away or maybe that morning gas I just let go did…who knows.

Anyhoo, I’ll be spending my weekend with the fam. My niece will be 1 tomorrow so it’s her very first BDAY. Yippee!

Raqi

January 15th, 2010
9:07 am

I am truly blessed and thankful to have this man in my life. Period.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 15th, 2010
9:09 am

LL411 For some reason, seeing this ‘jacking, tasting and swallowing’ this early in the morning sort of made me cringe. I think those are afternoon words. lol

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 15th, 2010
9:13 am

Then Slim, put on some John Legend “Good Morning” to get in the mood….

DreamsMaterialize

January 15th, 2010
9:15 am

Morning
LoveLife that’s funny.

Not in a relationship right now, but I show my appreciation for the lovely ladies on a daily basis, from holding the door to sharing a compliment. Every now and then, one of them even acknowledges or reciprocates that appreciation. lol I don’t let that deter me though. I have a daughter, and I have to show by example that that’s the type of treatment she deserves and should expect. She’s the poster child for “Daddy’s little girl”…life wouldn’t be the same without her.

To all the blog ladies, Dreams appreciates you

Professor

January 15th, 2010
9:15 am

LoveLife411 I am still wearing the :shock: face from yesterday!

Happy Friday to everyone….

Why do you think we are lucky to have each other?

Human beings are social creatures, so just having that interaction with each other soothes that natural instinct we have within.

Lady J

January 15th, 2010
9:25 am

I am lucky to see with a clear vision!!!! I once was blind but now I see!!!!:) When whatever is for me and presented I will be lucky and grateful for it!!! Through experience and becoming wiser I would hope my staying power has increased!!!! TGIF and enjoy this great MLK Holiday Weekend MIA Blog!!!!:)

TexasBoy

January 15th, 2010
9:35 am

Happy Friday Folks! Hope everyone has a good weekend and “HOW BOUT THEM COWBOYS!!!”

M.( pronouced M dot)

January 15th, 2010
9:40 am

What’s up.

“Why do you think we are lucky to have each other?”

I dont really think that we should de-value ourselves to the point where we feel like someone is doing us a favor by having us in their lives. We need to all be secure within ourselves, single or in a relationship no matter what.

So many people get consumed within their relationships and defined by them rather than allowing them to add to them.

abc

January 15th, 2010
9:47 am

People should be appreciative of all the people in their lives. It seems natural that the most appreciation would be for the most significant people, or the most significant person. The people in our lives are really all we have; all the material stuff is not worth much if only you enjoy it, with nobody to share it with. That goes for everyone in our lives, and especially for the most significant ones.

Raqi

January 15th, 2010
9:54 am

Woman was made for man. We belong together. The deal is to get with the one that is right and compatible for you. Love is a beautiful thing and mating is a gift of nature. While we as men and women are quite different in thinking and doing, together we create a perfect bond. Logic and emotion. It creates a balance.

I feel that I am blessed, or lucky if that is what you want to call it, to have that perfect balance in my life. I don’t do all things right but I do like to show appreciation for my husband. Everybody wants to feel appreciated. It’s a human emotion that is ingrained in all of us. He makes me feel like the most important person in his life and I can’t help but give that back to him.

You all know my motto about him making me happy makes me make him happy…

Been Thru It All

January 15th, 2010
9:55 am

WTF…h.e.l.l. has officially frozen over…did ABC just type that…betta get my affairs in order…lol

Melo

January 15th, 2010
9:59 am

“HOW BOUT THEM COWBOYS!!!”

They goin’ down,come sunday.

Go Bret! :lol: (Bret and Peyton in the Super Bowl..is that even possible??..i dnt know that much about brackets,disvisions etc) :lol:

Raqi

January 15th, 2010
9:59 am

abc, having someone to share my life with is one of the greatest things right now for me. All my joyous occasions and even my tried moments are good having someone to walk along with me.

And I also agree that we should appreciate all the people in our lives.

kimmie

January 15th, 2010
10:01 am

Happy Friday Blog!

abc, I like your post. Really says it all in a nutshell.

I am thankful for everyone in my lives, even those that are a “challenge”. But since this is a dating blog, I will focus on my boo. I am extremely grateful to know him and have him in my life. I try to show that gratitude in some way every day, if nothing more than just a pleasant hello. Unlike family or coworkers, he is someone I CHOOSE to deal with, and he CHOSE me. Neither HAVE to be there. So we make a sincere effort to give each other our best.

Also, it’s clear that others are not so blessed to have such a person that ADDS to their life, so I feel especially fortunate.

Raqi

January 15th, 2010
10:03 am

Mdot, why do bring up “We need to all be secure within ourselves” when talking about being lucky to have that opposite person in our lives?

It has nothing to do with being secure or insecure IMO. I think that is one of the biggest misconceptions today. Needing someone and then appreciating that person in your life does not mean you are not secure in who you are. We belong together. Man and woman.

Professor

January 15th, 2010
10:08 am

On to football Melo, I want to see the Cardinals fly all over them Saints. I want the Saints crushed

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 15th, 2010
10:09 am

@Raqi

I understand what you mean but I meant from a standpoint of people losing themselves in their relationships. We are in different dynamics. You are married. Im not. Their are certain wifely duties that you have that a gf may not have yet. Basically, it’s about having a balance within your relationships but still being able to enjoy the person you are with.

Dream_n~ Appreciates the small things in life

January 15th, 2010
10:11 am

Happy Friday All :grin:

I appreciate all things good in my life. Whether it be my daughter, my family, my job, my sanity, my ability to use all my limbs, or just being able to walk.

But as it relates to a mate. I’m currently single, sooo I appreciate my alone time. Being with someone for so long sometimes you kinda loose yourself. Not intentionally, but when you’re away you get to relize tings about yourself that seem new. (this applies to me)

We’re all aware that being in a healthy and loving realionship can be a wonderful thing. So call it lucky, call it a blessing, call it whatever you want. I know that I’ll be basking in all those adjectives and he the same :)

Oh and that was funny LoveLife :lol:

Dream_n~ Appreciates the small things in life

January 15th, 2010
10:15 am

Professor/Melo

I’m waiting to see the Vikings and the Cowboys!! Brett all the way!!!!!

Melo

January 15th, 2010
10:16 am

Thats gon be a high scoring game for sho Proff!
U like me,I hate that nameless quater back with a passion! :lol:

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 15th, 2010
10:20 am

@Raqi

I’mma frame that 9:54.

That was beautiful…

Raqi

January 15th, 2010
10:22 am

Mdot, my appreciation didn’t grow for him just being I got married, it was there already. If not I doubt we would be married. He was mine and I was his in mind and heart before the nuptials. We just took it to the next step of making vows to each other before God. As well as willing to be joined together in a legal sense. It’s something when you are willing to tie yourself to a person in a way that you are accepting responsibility for whatever may come up in life.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

January 15th, 2010
10:23 am

@Raqi I had a post that apparently disappeared into thin air….basically a co-sign to your 10:03. Not everyone can say that have that special person that adds to their life that they cherish & appreciate.

Professor

January 15th, 2010
10:23 am

Dream_n/Melo,

AFC I am going for the Ravens, but I am cool if the Colts go all the way too.

In the NFC I love the Vikings.

Superbowl…I want to see the Ravens and the Vikings!

Melo

January 15th, 2010
10:26 am

I liked it too Dan.

Esp this part: Woman was made for man!

Talk about starting the right way,Raqi surely did with that post! :lol:

ON TOPIC

Iluvmyfam,period,extended,immediate,cousins,nephs,uncles,aunties..nephs who carry the fam name from aunties/sisters etc whose boyfriends didnt show up..all that..If u carry our zulu name,u in,cousins from the extended whose mums are zulus..mad luv.

Thats how we do! :lol:

Happy Friday folks

Professor

January 15th, 2010
10:27 am

Melo Yes I will not name the nameless QB that we both dislike.

Professor

January 15th, 2010
10:30 am

I do believe that woman was made for man. However if we are completely honest woman and man are really far apart these days. You now have women sampling several men and men sampling several women…we are far far away from where things were intended to be.

brn in 15

Dream_n~ Appreciates the small things in life

January 15th, 2010
10:31 am

Prof..

Me too. They really had a good year and I hope they make it. Of course I’d be going for the Bears, but they couldn’t get it together. LOL

Yea Manning I’m kewl with him going back to the SuperBowl.

DreamsMaterialize

January 15th, 2010
10:37 am

Colts and Vikings, that’s how it need to go down. Colts all the way though.

Dream_n~ Appreciates the small things in life

January 15th, 2010
10:37 am

Profssor..

My sister and her boyfriend will be boarding a plane at 11:00 today to make a visit to your state :(

Dream_n~ Appreciates the small things in life

January 15th, 2010
10:40 am

I agree with you DreamsM
but Vikings for me.

Raqi

January 15th, 2010
10:52 am

Marriage is so important to so many because it says more than I love you and I want to spend my life with you. It says that I am willing to be one with you. I am willing to be connected to you by way of responsibility and accountability.

That’s why good enough to bed but not good enough to wed is just a strong statement.

BSandwich

January 15th, 2010
10:53 am

abc summed it up best at 9:47. We should be appreciative of all the people in our lives. I most certainly am.

Dan - moving away from gray and back to black

January 15th, 2010
10:53 am

@Raqi

These days “good enough to spend time without needing to drink to numb myself from [your] foolishness” is all I’m looking for….baby steps

abc

January 15th, 2010
10:59 am

Ideally, Raqi, marriage is not only a commitment between two people, but a covenant with God that goes beyond merely feeling lucky to have the other person. Without such a covenant, such a union is nothing more than a legal agreement and written commitment.

M. (pronouced M dot)

January 15th, 2010
11:01 am

@Professor

Please man…You think DeMarcus Ware makes $79 million for nothing? The superbowl will be Dallas vs San Diego.

@Raqi

Question, do you ever look at other guys in passing and make comments with your girls?

Also what does it mean when a woman says she wants to take it slow? I heard a definition that I think works:

If a woman wants to take it slow, that means you are a good guy and I know I want to date you but I need to close some of these other jumpoff, ex bf’s, cut buddy accounts.

What do yall think?

sam

January 15th, 2010
11:02 am

@Kimmie, so that good man of yours still havent propose to you. Arent you the one cooking & cleaning for him & his kids but then again why would he.

sam

January 15th, 2010
11:04 am

RAqi u should be happy/grateful a man with no kids married you with 2 kids/baby daddys

Melo

January 15th, 2010
11:08 am

what does it mean when a woman says she wants to take it slow?
M(dot)
u have to ask the woman concerned..does it mean calling her once a week,twice etc..not wanting to be seen with the guy in public but u can come home and hit it late in the night?? what..

Unless u ask her specifically what that means,ull neva know…

Stop or rather,that man shld stop being put in a situ unless they want to be put in the situ.

Raqi

January 15th, 2010
11:11 am

abc, I agree. Marriage was instituted by God and when two people choose to engage they are making a covenant before him. Hence, marriage is honorable and that honor is before God, the one that matter the most.
But we all know that there are unbelievers. Those that believe there is no God or higher power yet they enter into the matrimonial institute, being more of a legal connection and that of their pledged love for each other.

Sassy Me....I got that boom boom POW!! :-)

January 15th, 2010
11:12 am

Also what does it mean when a woman says she wants to take it slow?

Err….aaaa…ummm I’m going to take a stab and say that it means just that slow…i.e. let’s get to know each other through conversing,dating and then proceed to something deeper only if both parties are in aggreement and on the same page. If she likes you that much during your “get to know me phase” then someone(ex bf/cutt buddie) may get some walking papers whether it be inadvertently or purposefully done.

Which do YOU prefer?….the slow mover or the Usain Bolt? Shout out to all a di Yard Man dem ;)

Sassy Me....I got that boom boom POW!! :-)

January 15th, 2010
11:16 am

The superbowl will be Dallas vs San Diego.

How ’bout them COWBOYS?!!! :mrgreen:

Raqi

January 15th, 2010
11:16 am

Mdot, I am not blind. LOL

Leggs

January 15th, 2010
11:16 am

@LL411 and SlimOne ~ I see you guys have jokes first thing this morning. Both were funny.

Unfortunately, I am home with a sick child. Been up since 6:00 with all the symptoms of the flu and can’t get a same day apptmt until 2:30 this afternoon. She looks horrible and miraculously has turned into a 4-year old. Nonetheless, I love and appreciate her, my friends and I have no doubt I’ll soon meet a man who will appreciate me and me in turn appreciate him…woo hoo, woo hoo!

DreamsMaterialize

January 15th, 2010
11:19 am

Is “take it slow” only a woman’s concept? Ladies has a guy ever told you that he wanted to take it slow? I know I’ve told women that’s there’s no rush, but I see that as different than taking it slow. Is there a difference for you all?

Raqi

January 15th, 2010
11:20 am

And as far as a woman saying she wants to take it slow meaning? That depends on that woman. When I have made that statement in the past it meant that I wanted to take my time and get to know the man or certain things about him before we got too serious. It’s sorta like doing your research before you buy. But like I said that statement could and probably does mean something totally different to another woman.

Leggs

January 15th, 2010
11:21 am

while she’s sleeping let me go get some food so I can keep up my energy and hopefully not get what she has!

Raqi

January 15th, 2010
11:24 am

Some people use “take it slow” as a way to avoid commitment.