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Naughty or Nice?

If you survived Thanksgiving and all those well-intentioned relatives asking about your dating life, congratulations!  You cleared the first holiday without sinking into a funk about your lacking love life. Being single and dateless during the holidays doesn’t have to spell doom.  For all of us who are single during the holidays, here are some tips on holidating:

Mingle: You know all those e-vites that are sitting in your inbox for holiday gatherings? Open them! Even if you don’t know who you want to take, just RSVP and go! The goal should not be to  score phone numbers, though. Relax, be yourself, and laugh. When you aren’t focused on the numbers game, I think you are able to enjoy the people/experience more. Trust me. I’ve had the most fun at holiday parties without a date.  I played the card games, sipped on yummy drinks, and grabbed random hot guys to stand under some mistletoe! (Yes, I have been known to carry my own. Don’t judge me.)

Venture out: It’s getting cold, the days are shorter, and the single people seem to disappear! This just means you need to be more creative and go where lots of people are gathered. Ice skating rinks, sporting events, bookstores, museums, or a cozy restaurant/cafe with comfy surroundings. Relaxed people are sexy.  I bet you could strike up a conversation with interesting people who share similar interests.

What are other activities single people can do during the next few weeks? Lots of days off which means plenty of leisure time! What do you plan to do for fun during the holidays?

Do single people try to  avoid meeting someone new because they don’t want to get caught up in that holiday trifecta: Christmas, New Years, Valentine’s Day?

Do you ever “relax” your dating standards just so you can get a snuggle buddy for the cold, winter nights? I have to admit that the thought of having a sweetie to curl up with in front of the fire is awfully tempting!

Is it wrong to do the “expiration” dating thing just for the holiday season? How does one even pull that off? Yes, this would fall in the naughty category, have you done it before?

What are the perks for being single during the holidays?

448 comments Add your comment

Raqi

December 22nd, 2009
2:40 pm

Willie, I haven’t directly but I did tell her she should not base her happy existence on what others have accomplished. I think it is sad when people can’t and do not know how to be happy for others.

2CPTG........"naughty elf"

December 22nd, 2009
2:42 pm

“Anyone asking Santa for anything special this year?”

hmmmm, les’see……..

to see Mo’s infamous booty…
to play “naked” jeopardy with Professor
to get a glimpse of Slim’s CT
to install a webcam in Raqi’s house…
and……a free round trip to Chi-Town!!!!!

Luvbug

December 22nd, 2009
2:47 pm

What is CT?…if it’s not freaky

Raqi

December 22nd, 2009
2:47 pm

Melo, she didn’t say anything at the party. When I said I was prepared to tell her to leave, that was if she had started with her negative talk about how others are coming up in life and it being a reflection on those who have not.

Melo

December 22nd, 2009
2:47 pm

@ 2CAN
to get a glimpse of Slim’s legendary, long CT!

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Beautiful

December 22nd, 2009
2:49 pm

i have everything i want and need.

Willie Dynamite (Naughty as I Wanna Be)

December 22nd, 2009
2:50 pm

Raqi – Sit her down and have a REAL talk with her. She may just need the heads up.

2can – Glimpse aint gon cut it

LoveLife411

December 22nd, 2009
2:50 pm

@ INFAM… LL411 – So how did ya’ll end it? For him, yelling, cussing, and brow beating me. And, for me I said “I give up”. I was not appreciated… I was the compromiser, laid back, lets enjoy, we should be do’in the damm thing person. He was, always dragging around the body bags from previous relationships, allowed drama related to his family to overshadow what should have been a good times (moody), he wasn’t really selfish, more like he had no balance aka the compromiser got the short end every time.

Melo

December 22nd, 2009
2:52 pm

got u Raqi!

glad it went well…

Beautiful

December 22nd, 2009
2:52 pm

camel toe. you know when your pants are too tight in da front.

Raqi

December 22nd, 2009
2:52 pm

The one thing that I am really hoping Santa gives me this year in 8 uninterrupted hours of sleep on Christmas morning. And breakfast in bed would be nice.

And 2CPTG don’t be peeping my windows. LOL My husband is very protective of his assets.

Dream_n~ What would Santa say?

December 22nd, 2009
2:53 pm

Okay I too want to know what CT is..

Melo???

Beautiful

December 22nd, 2009
2:53 pm

camel toe was in big in the 70s and early 80s. lol.

Dream_n~ What would Santa say?

December 22nd, 2009
2:53 pm

ohhhhh thanx Beautiful

Luvbug

December 22nd, 2009
2:53 pm

I take it back if Melo has the answer

Sessy Coooool

December 22nd, 2009
2:54 pm

Sounds tiring and tiresome.

Good riddance to bad rubbish.

Luvbug

December 22nd, 2009
2:55 pm

My bad – just read CAMEL TOE…yall soooooo nasty

Dream_n~ What would Santa say?

December 22nd, 2009
2:55 pm

I take it back if Melo has the answer</strong

LMAO

LoveLife411

December 22nd, 2009
2:56 pm

@ Melo … when I say selfish I’m not referring to money. I can tell your mind set is money oriented as his was (give her some money and she’ll be ok.). He would attest that I never asked/wanted his money, although he believed if he gave it that would make everything ok.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 22nd, 2009
2:59 pm

2CPTG – I see your wish list! LOL! Im gonna counteract that on my own wish list…..’keep 2CPTG away from my ‘onion’… :0)

Hey Err’body! How do?

okay so i have to hit the mall for one more gift and Im so not happy!!

And I wouldnt mind Santa leaving me a new iPod Touch and new dude (shout out to SCool) under my tree. :wink:

LoveLife411

December 22nd, 2009
3:02 pm

@ Melo… I’m not into a guys money, I’m grown and responsible, so I take care of me and mine. I’m more into the relationship as a whole, meaning we compliment each other. I believe Raqi said, “I make him happy, he makes me happy, then I make him happy” The circle! :) .

Melo

December 22nd, 2009
3:03 pm

so selfish in this instance is referring to what LuvLife411??..his time,his what???

wanted his needs met but not urs???

Sessy Coooool

December 22nd, 2009
3:03 pm

Moe – Text me so that I can put your number in my new phone. Thx!

Dream_n~ What would Santa say?

December 22nd, 2009
3:03 pm

No Mo!!!

Not the mall… Mann I dread that place even when it’s not the Holiday Season..

I hope you get that Ipod Touch and the dude :wink:

2CPTG........"naughty elf"

December 22nd, 2009
3:03 pm

luvbug….no we ain’t…….

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 22nd, 2009
3:05 pm

SCool – gotcha chica!! LOL @ Sessy! :smile:

Raqi

December 22nd, 2009
3:06 pm

I believe Raqi said…

Yes Lovelife, that is my motto. But I have to tell you that money does fit in there somewhere along with love, companionship, conversation, food, honesty, sex, intimacy, and sacrifice.

2CPTG........"naughty elf"

December 22nd, 2009
3:08 pm

yeah….all y’all ladies text me too…..so I can put y’all number in my phone…….

btw, Sexy…..I called you last night!!!

Raqi

December 22nd, 2009
3:10 pm

Him doing nice things for me and buying me things I need and want is part of the whole circle. I buy him stuff that he needs. Especially the little every day stuff.

Sessy Coooool

December 22nd, 2009
3:11 pm

Naw…not me, dude. Call me now.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 22nd, 2009
3:12 pm

Dream_n – I dont mind the mall, just the mall with last minute shoopers! LOL! People’s patience is too short so you never know what might set folks off! And Ive been nice this year so I should get both! :wink:

2CPTG – whats yo number, 777-9311? lol

LoveLife411

December 22nd, 2009
3:12 pm

@Melo… his time,his what???

wanted his needs met but not urs??? DING, DING, DING!!!

Raqi

December 22nd, 2009
3:13 pm

Just like he has no doubt that a good hearty hot meal will be waiting for him when he gets home this evening, I have no doubt that mortgage will be paid next week.

2CPTG........"naughty elf"

December 22nd, 2009
3:17 pm

Sexy….is it still the 499-xxxx number? hope so, cause I was just yakkin’ up on somebody’s answering machine…..

Mo…..don’t play wit’ me…..if you serious I’ll give you my email addy….

Melo

December 22nd, 2009
3:17 pm

@LoveLife41

wanted his needs met but not urs??? DING, DING, DING!!!

thats easy to fulfill!!

Text me! :lol:

I can tell your mind set is money oriented

ABSOLUTELY!!
If it werent,i wld be in KwaZulu! :lol:

LoveLife411

December 22nd, 2009
3:19 pm

@ Raqi… Yes Lovelife, that is my motto. But I have to tell you that money does fit in there somewhere along with love, companionship, conversation, food, honesty, sex, intimacy, and sacrifice.

Exactly… when I say “rounded” this is what I’m talking about, not just bits and pieces when you feel like dealing it out. My bad… always being the compromiser allowed a lot of what I need/want/expect to fall by the wayside overtime… Shame on me!

Sessy Coooool

December 22nd, 2009
3:19 pm

LOL…Oh, snap…the 850 threw me off…I’m a retard. Don’t mind me.

Sessy Coooool

December 22nd, 2009
3:20 pm

I was afraid it was my bi-polar ass cousin who always calls me when he’s off his meds. Call ya’ back in a sec.

Dream_n~ What would Santa say?

December 22nd, 2009
3:20 pm

LoveLife411

December 22nd, 2009
3:23 pm

Oh well, I’ve come to appreciate this blog. I’ve read and not read and meditated on a lot of things people put out here, and I must say there have been some subjects I just couldn’t read because they hit close to home. STILL GROWING.

@ Melo… If it werent,i wld be in KwaZulu! I hear ya! :)

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 22nd, 2009
3:24 pm

2CPTG – :wink:

Sessy Cool – I see you dodge the crazy cousins too! LOL!

LoveLife411

December 22nd, 2009
3:25 pm

I’m done… so where are the single guys? :) No, I’m not all broke-up (it’s been a long slow death, I’ve already mourned) so there is no reason for me not to jump back in.

2CPTG........"naughty elf"

December 22nd, 2009
3:25 pm

“I can tell your mind set is money oriented”

ALWAYS!!!!! btw, how much is my cut from the wagers? Willie D? For Real?

Dream_n…..last night you said you wanted to get in on the bet….hit me on the sidelines, and we can talk about it!

LURKER

December 22nd, 2009
3:27 pm

What it do people? Happy Birthday to that sexy, intelligent, sassy PROFESSOR! :wink: :wink:

2010 is going to be LURKER and the Professor!

Being single during Christmas is a bonus I get to go any place I want to I can mingle many single women,I can get drunk and act a total fool! YESSSSSSS!

Dream_n~ What would Santa say?

December 22nd, 2009
3:29 pm

2C..

And what would this sideline bet entail?

Dream_n~ What would Santa say?

December 22nd, 2009
3:32 pm

LOL @ Lovelife…..

Melo

December 22nd, 2009
3:36 pm

I must say there have been some subjects I just couldn’t read because they hit close to home

u bringing it today Luvlyfe411!

so whatchu wanna talk about now..what pple say that made u shy away from ur screen?? :lol:

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 22nd, 2009
3:37 pm

2CPTG – lovin the tag today too, naughty elf!

I so need a nap right now…dayum! LOL!

2CPTG........"naughty elf"

December 22nd, 2009
3:38 pm

“And what would this sideline bet entail?”

naw, me and you ain’t side bet’n…..we teaming up….you know…..how them dudes do it with the newspaper and cups, how they be gettin’ you to pick which cup the ball is under…..we gon’ be like that, and get some bread……

and ummm, Mo…….gal!!!!! just peeped somma yo pics!!!! lawd hammercy!

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 22nd, 2009
3:40 pm

2CPTG – how you see my pics homie??? Who let you check ya gurl out?? lol