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Naughty or Nice?

If you survived Thanksgiving and all those well-intentioned relatives asking about your dating life, congratulations!  You cleared the first holiday without sinking into a funk about your lacking love life. Being single and dateless during the holidays doesn’t have to spell doom.  For all of us who are single during the holidays, here are some tips on holidating:

Mingle: You know all those e-vites that are sitting in your inbox for holiday gatherings? Open them! Even if you don’t know who you want to take, just RSVP and go! The goal should not be to  score phone numbers, though. Relax, be yourself, and laugh. When you aren’t focused on the numbers game, I think you are able to enjoy the people/experience more. Trust me. I’ve had the most fun at holiday parties without a date.  I played the card games, sipped on yummy drinks, and grabbed random hot guys to stand under some mistletoe! (Yes, I have been known to carry my own. Don’t judge me.)

Venture out: It’s getting cold, the days are shorter, and the single people seem to disappear! This just means you need to be more creative and go where lots of people are gathered. Ice skating rinks, sporting events, bookstores, museums, or a cozy restaurant/cafe with comfy surroundings. Relaxed people are sexy.  I bet you could strike up a conversation with interesting people who share similar interests.

What are other activities single people can do during the next few weeks? Lots of days off which means plenty of leisure time! What do you plan to do for fun during the holidays?

Do single people try to  avoid meeting someone new because they don’t want to get caught up in that holiday trifecta: Christmas, New Years, Valentine’s Day?

Do you ever “relax” your dating standards just so you can get a snuggle buddy for the cold, winter nights? I have to admit that the thought of having a sweetie to curl up with in front of the fire is awfully tempting!

Is it wrong to do the “expiration” dating thing just for the holiday season? How does one even pull that off? Yes, this would fall in the naughty category, have you done it before?

What are the perks for being single during the holidays?

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M. (pronouced M dot)

December 22nd, 2009
9:10 am

Morning all…I am in Chicago and watching it snow.

The perks of being single during the holiday is the freedom and ability to do what you want on your schedule. If you want to just hang around or go out you can.

Tip for everyone: Go to the pond i.e. the mall….it’s crawling with singles. I just never feel comfortable talking to women that work in the mall. You know they get approached daily….lol

Also as a guy, you never really have to worry about that conversation of why havent I met your family yet or why do we have to stay at your folks house for the entire day. The real reason is I just dont eat everybody’s cooking lol…I am for real!

I also have the worst Quad-fecta (Christmas, NYE, my bday, and Valentines Day!)

2CPTG........"nuaghty elf"

December 22nd, 2009
9:32 am

mornin’……

Chicago????? you bet’not be out there trynna holla at my gal, Dream_n….you better be nice!

SlimOne...just called me Nicety!

December 22nd, 2009
9:36 am

Melo

December 22nd, 2009
9:50 am

Do you ever “relax” your dating standards just so you can get a snuggle buddy for the cold, winter nights? I have to admit that the thought of having a sweetie to curl up with in front of the fire is awfully tempting!

HA??!! :lol:

@2Can…you bet’not be out there trynna holla at my gal, Dream_n

I matchmade that one..im glad M(dot) is on it..!! :lol:

U late 2Can!! :lol:

Melo

December 22nd, 2009
9:51 am

Happy birthday Professor!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR WHIPPLE

December 22nd, 2009
10:01 am

Hola party people..

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 22nd, 2009
10:07 am

Morning All!!
Welcome back to chicago M.!! (it is quite beautiful outside)

@2C you are a straight fool..Don’t worry I know where “it’s” at :wink:

HAPPY BDAY MS. PROFESSOR!!!!
Morning Melo!

On Topic: I’m actually not in a funk about the holidays. First christmas in 5 years being single and it feels good.

Wings (()) Naughty and nice

December 22nd, 2009
10:30 am

Good Morning All!

M.dot agreed…When I first became single the hardest was getting through Christmas and Valentines Day…..but that is when I discovered the freedom and fun of friends. My family is kinda funny…you can’t just bring a date to the family dinner..if it’s not serious, they don’t even want to meet the person…..

Happy Birthday Professor!

Hey IDK

THE INFAMOUS DK aka B.A. BARACUS

December 22nd, 2009
10:35 am

Heeeey Wings Said in my shy guy voice

Sexy is SCool.

December 22nd, 2009
10:48 am

Witty Wisdom Week – Face it. Some days, you’re the statue. Some days, you’re the pigeon.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka B.A. BARACUS

December 22nd, 2009
10:49 am

On topic.. Why [lay games with someones emotions.. If you meet someone during the Christmas break then cool but dont just do it to have a date for the holidays.. Thats rude and mean.. It might even get you pimp slapped.

I myself if we werent kickin it before the holidays I dont wanna be all up on ya during the holiday season.. Im not buying you a gift and I dont want to meet ya folks if I just met ya.. I like to play it safe and get to know who you know first before we do all the friends and hanging out with extra parties.. I mean I would hate for you to have to explain what happened to that charming young man you were with if it doesnt work out.. Im looking out for her best interest..

THE INFAMOUS DK aka B.A. BARACUS

December 22nd, 2009
10:52 am

Sessy Cool – and some Days youre Niko Bellic from Liberty City shooting Pigeons for sport as a part of your challenges..

THE INFAMOUS DK aka B.A. BARACUS

December 22nd, 2009
10:53 am

czBrat

December 22nd, 2009
11:04 am

GM All!

DK got me belly laughing early today. thanx :lol:

czBrat

December 22nd, 2009
11:06 am

ok. i posted that before i saw your 10:52. there’s that dark side again. :lol: :lol: :lol:

SlimOne...just called me Nicety!

December 22nd, 2009
11:07 am

Slow morning huh? anybody wanna spoon for the holidays…well not necessarily FOR the holidays. You’d have to leave before midnight Thursday night. Afterall, I wouldn’t want to have to explain to my family why you’re still there the next morning. ;-)

Sessy Coooool

December 22nd, 2009
11:09 am

I know that there have been times in my past where I didn’t think enough about dating decisions. I just went with the flow. However, if there is one thing that I have learned in all my blogging days it’s that – sometimes, you can OVER think this ish.

Melo

December 22nd, 2009
11:13 am

whats the difference tween a single lady and a prostitute??

No big difference,they all get phlucked by different men over time..

A prostitute makes them pay and a single lady wont,at least not in cash. :lol:

Dream_n~ What would Santa say?

December 22nd, 2009
11:18 am

Melo

Only you, only you…lmao

THE INFAMOUS DK aka B.A. BARACUS

December 22nd, 2009
11:25 am

CZ Brat-ez – Niko Bellic is a character in the Grand Theft Auto 4 Video Game and one of the challenges is to shoot 200 pigeons through out the game.. Hey I thought that was funny..

THE INFAMOUS DK aka B.A. BARACUS

December 22nd, 2009
11:26 am

Slim – Yeah Id like to take you up on that offer and spoon all on ya..

THE INFAMOUS DK aka B.A. BARACUS

December 22nd, 2009
11:28 am

Sessy Cool – I agree over analysis equals paralysis..

THE INFAMOUS DK aka B.A. BARACUS

December 22nd, 2009
11:30 am

Slim – Now mind you I will have on my patented Dennis Rodman shorts with my business hanging out the bottom as we spoon.. If thats cool then Im cool..

no odds, even $

December 22nd, 2009
11:30 am

morning beauties!

Melo

December 22nd, 2009
11:33 am

You’d have to leave before midnight Thursday night

@SlimOne,cmeone girl,at least let the man have breakfast.:lol:

After all,he needs to replenish his energy coz thats not his only holiday stop!

I am whatever you say I am

December 22nd, 2009
11:49 am

Perks of being single= one less gift to buy ;-D he he he

czBrat

December 22nd, 2009
11:49 am

yep. i know the game. but that never entered my mind …. thus the LOL at your dark side. it’s actually kinda cute, until it turns to rage against the ex. that’s when i have to scoot my chair a lil farther from the computer.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka B.A. BARACUS

December 22nd, 2009
11:58 am

CZ – Unfortunately My EX brings out the worst in me.. Ya’ll only hear the tip of the iceberg of what goes on.. Im normally a cool customer but it gets to be a bit much after a while..

czBrat

December 22nd, 2009
12:17 pm

i hear ya DK. vent when you need to … it’s good for the soul. i imagine if i had any kind of contact with my ex i might be prone to volcanic eruptions too. here’s wishing you a peaceful center for the new year :)

on the flip side of today’s topic … anyone out there care to admit to(or have been a victim of) dumping someone before the holidays just to avoid the whole family visiting/gifting/attachment during the trifecta?

Dream_n~ What would Santa say?

December 22nd, 2009
12:30 pm

cbratz..

I’m trying to imagine how that conversation would go?

Where’s For Real.. I’m sure he could give us some dialogue… :grin:

Luvbug

December 22nd, 2009
12:32 pm

What are the perks for being single during the holidays?

I’ve not experienced a big difference between single and not single during the holidays. I always spend it at a family gathering somewhere. If anything, I would like to change that. I would like to go out of town – mix it up…something memorable.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka B.A. BARACUS

December 22nd, 2009
12:33 pm

CZ – I appeciate that it means alot..

Luvbug

December 22nd, 2009
12:36 pm

Does anyone know of any (legitimate) singles traveling groups?

THE INFAMOUS DK aka B.A. BARACUS

December 22nd, 2009
12:37 pm

Ok ladies I have a side bar question..

Why is it the dudes that take care of their kids get sooo much grief but the ones that dont want anything to do with their kids get all the passes on Earth? Im serious.. I cant figure it out.

Dream_n~ What would Santa say?

December 22nd, 2009
12:37 pm

@ Luvbug

Maybe you could get a group of friends together and go out for drinks at a local bar, then end with a game night.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka B.A. BARACUS

December 22nd, 2009
12:39 pm

LuvBug – Dont be afraid to travel alone… Just pick up and go where you wanna go..

Luvbug

December 22nd, 2009
12:45 pm

Sounds interesting, but I don’t drink or hangout in bars and my friends are more committed to family gatherings than me. I do have a guy friend I was thinking of taking in an early movie with on Xmas day, but we used to date and he still tries me when I am kind in ANY little way…they don’t make platonic male friends like they used to…if they ever did.

Thanks for the suggestion though

Luvbug

December 22nd, 2009
12:45 pm

forgot – @ Dream_n

Luvbug

December 22nd, 2009
12:46 pm

@DK

Traveling alone? I don’t have the balls yet.

Melo

December 22nd, 2009
12:46 pm

LuvBug??

where u wanna travel to??

Dream_n~ What would Santa say?

December 22nd, 2009
12:47 pm

No prob…

Well the early movie thing sounds like a pretty good idea.

Luvbug

December 22nd, 2009
12:48 pm

@Melo

I wouldn’t mind taking in a broadway play or something in New York

Luvbug

December 22nd, 2009
12:50 pm

@Dream_n

Yeah I was thinking about seeing Avatar

@everyone
Has anyone seen it? Are the 3-d glasses free at the movie?

no odds, even $

December 22nd, 2009
12:50 pm

*dudes that take care of their kids* – first off, their doing what they’re suppose to do! and we should expect more from them, cause it’s both our jobs to put the kids first. stop lookin’ for a pat on da back for taking care of your own kid!!! i really wish God made it to where men had the babies. wait . . . we wouldn’t be here. nrr’mind. smh.

dead beats – can’t get blood from a turnip! period. dot.

Dream_n~ What would Santa say?

December 22nd, 2009
12:52 pm

I didnt see the movie, but my sister and a co worker did.

They both enjoyed the movie and said it was really good.

Raqi

December 22nd, 2009
12:53 pm

If you are single and don’t want to hang out with your family for the holidays hang out with friends who feel the say way. Have a good time and meet new people. Keep your head clear and avoid any unnecessary holiday hook-ups you may regret in a few months.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka B.A. BARACUS

December 22nd, 2009
12:53 pm

Luv – Its amazing.. You just have to act like you know where your going even if you dont know.. You know dont do the tourist looking around, survey your area just by exploring it first and once you see its cool then take pics.. Pick a city, check hotel deals and bounce.. Go online, choose anything above 4 stars and you’ll be ok.. They have some sweet deals out there for a one night stay..

Dream_n~ What would Santa say?

December 22nd, 2009
12:53 pm

And yes, they are free :)

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 22nd, 2009
12:56 pm

@Luvbug

Hey LuvBug.

Don’t worry. This is a great chance to try some new stuff. Atlanta is cool because you can always find something unique and Atlanta has something for everyone. All you have to do is put yourself in a position to do new stuff and meet new people. Volunteer, take a class (cooking, pottery, etc), get involved with the Church, mix up the parts of towns you hang in, change your surrondings etc.

Also

“they don’t make platonic male friends like they used to…if they ever did.”

Its only 3 instances in which a guy is a legitimate platonic male friend.

1. He dated a friend/relative of yours before.
2. He genuinely is not attracted to you but you are cool.
3. Maybe you have alot of attractive friends that he would want to talk to.

Otherwise, you will always be on his radar and if he gets a chance, he will….

Alot of women just like the attention they get from guys so this is why they like to keep the male platonic friends around…for validation and a rush.

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 22nd, 2009
12:58 pm

@LuvBug

Also here is a great travel site for you. Also subscrbe via email for vacation deals…pick a place you like and just go.

http://www.sidestep.com