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Get It Off Your Chest

I don’t know about you, but I am elated to see 2009 come to an end. It’s been quite a year, to say the least!  I can remember having moments when I just wanted to scream – from excitement, frustration, or pure happiness. Are you glad the year is almost over?

As a year ends, I tend to reflect back on  misadventures and the adventures.  I think most of us learned some lessons along the way, even if they were stressful at the time.  What did you discover this past year that taught you something about yourself?

What do you want to vent about dating or being single this year? Sometimes you just need to vent and get it all off your chest.  This allows you to move on and leave the past behind you, where it belongs.

This year was like a roller coaster ride, you either want to kiss the year goodbye or give it a one-finger salute. What did you love or hate about 2009?

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2CPTG....out with the old, in with the new..

December 18th, 2009
10:30 am

mornin’ folks

2009 started off on some bullshyt, but after August 29th, things started looking up…..so much so, like Goapele, “I’m getting closer to my dreams!” so ummm, yeah, 2010 gon be the business, I mean literally.

Luvbug

December 18th, 2009
10:34 am

The Man Upstairs has given me all of this and I will not fail to speak of it because of others.

I hear that! That self conviction gets people every time…then they knit pick…then they attack…then you’ve turn the other cheek so many times you seeing them in double and hitting both of ‘em.

i'm swiss

December 18th, 2009
10:34 am

“…but after August 29th, things started looking up…”

That was a good day for me too, 2can… Stars must have been aligned… ;-)

Luvbug

December 18th, 2009
10:36 am

Yes – positioning

Raqi

December 18th, 2009
10:36 am

LOL Cemeeli. So you saying I should pay for her kid to go to a better school and pay half her rent so she can live in a better neighborhood, or even better handle her spending for her so she will learn how to save and spend wisely?

Just don’t want the scrooge making the rounds at my party. I guess I need to send out a memo telling all my other friends and associates to dress down and not talk about any of their accomplishments or blessings because we don’t want to offend anyone. :lol:

2CPTG....out with the old, in with the new..

December 18th, 2009
10:42 am

Swiss, ain’t it a good thing when you can pinpoint your blessings? As crass as I may seem, I still know “from whence cometh my help.” Just keep looking to the hills, my brother!!!

First Sexy. Then Cool.

December 18th, 2009
10:43 am

Raqi – Everytime chick starts with the negativity cut her off. Like “Seriously? Only positivity is allowed and this party tonight. Leave all that other mess alone. Otherwise, I will make you wear a ‘Scrooge’ sign around your neck.

If you really don’t want her there and no longer care about her friendship, uninvite her and tell her why.

Raqi

December 18th, 2009
10:44 am

And the thing is I don’t have much. We just live in a little brick box sitting on the side of the road and drive a metal capsule rolling on four wheels. LOL

First Sexy. Then Cool.

December 18th, 2009
10:45 am

When I read this headline, I knew IMMEDIATELY this was a chick who has jeopardized her career and freedom for a dude.

http://www.ajc.com/news/dekalb/dekalb-sheriff-s-deputy-244958.html

Raqi

December 18th, 2009
10:45 am

…out with the old, in with the new…

That’s what my husband says everytime the baby poops her diaper while he if feeding her. LOL

2CPTG....out with the old, in with the new..

December 18th, 2009
10:49 am

Raqi….the end of every year gives me the time to reflect; what have I accomplished the past year, and what are my plans for the following……That’s why before I do any partying on News Year’s Eve, I make it my business to be in church, and give thanks…….then after that……it’s on!

Leggs

December 18th, 2009
10:49 am

Good morning everyone!

Congratulations TXBoy and congrats to you i’m swiss for loving everything about your life and nabbing the perfect wife of all wives.

@Raqi ~ you’ve already invited her so go with the flow and stay “above the fray.” You can distance yourself after the party. Women know when they haven’t moved from the “associate” zone into the “friendship” zone. Curious, what made you invite her in the first place? Did you just recently find out about her envious side??

Glad to see 2009 leave because I’ve learned a few things about myself. My hangup of doing things by myself almost left me in a corner I didn’t want to be in. The latter part of 2009 I’ve started going out and doing things by myself and found it not to be so bad. I really can’t say anything bad about dating in 2009 because I didn’t do much and that’s no one’s fault but my own. Listening to folk on this blog has been enlightening to say the least. So…..

2010 I’ll definitely be on the prowlgetting out more and enjoying all that life and my wallet can afford.

Raqi

December 18th, 2009
10:50 am

SexyCool, I guess I can tell her if she comes she is not allowed to speak negatively to anyone or else she will be subjected to bathroom duty or parking cars. LOL

Seriously she seemed to be a very nice person in general but then she started trying to make folks feel bad for having a little something in their store house.

Raqi

December 18th, 2009
10:51 am

2CPTG, I agree. Give thanks first and then celebrate his blessings.

Cemeeli

December 18th, 2009
10:52 am

Nooo Raqi you don’t havta pay for her expenditures…not sure how that…

…auh, didn’t you invite this person? So there must be something you thought that was enough to invite her in the first place?…

First Sexy. Then Cool.

December 18th, 2009
10:52 am

I think that putting her on notice upfront with humor might work. It could be something she subconsciously does out of insecurity.

Some many people spend time envying other people’s grass that they don’t realize that theirs is the same shade of green. It may just be tended a little bit differently.

2CPTG....out with the old, in with the new..

December 18th, 2009
10:54 am

“then she started trying to make folks feel bad for having a little something in their store house”

tell her, according to Malachi 3:10, if she paid her tithes accordingly, she too could have something in her storehouse! chuuuch!

Melo

December 18th, 2009
10:59 am

Raqi..look at it this way:

some pple are enlightened by being in ur presence and u also get enloghtened by being in the company of other pple,some who are way above ur league.

U send out the invite already,taking it back is inviting negativity in ur lyfe..invite positivity instead!
And if she comes to the party pouting about her negative situation,shes a grown womamn,she will feel outa place.Let her grow up on that score,on her own damn self! Im sure shes gonna learn some good thangs too.

Merry Xmas! :lol:

Leggs

December 18th, 2009
11:00 am

@2C, when you see your newly found love, give her a big kiss, and a big heartfelt hug while slaping her on her bootay. It’s so clear you’re falling in love…kudos!

“Everytime chick starts with the negativity cut her off. Like “Seriously? Only positivity is allowed and this party tonight. Leave all that other mess alone. Otherwise, I will make you wear a ‘Scrooge’ sign around your neck.” EXCELLENT SUGGESTION!

Raqi

December 18th, 2009
11:01 am

Yes Leggs and Cemeeli, I invited her back in early November. She started working here back in March and we became friends and she was cool. We would go to lunch sometimes and whatnot. She made what I thought was a joke once when I pulled out my credit card to pay for lunch. “You didn’t have pull that out?”, Me thinking “HaHa”. Hell it’s my husband’s card. I don’t pay the bill. So “haha”. Then she started making comments while in my office about something new someone had on.

I brushed it off as no big deal until earlier this week she made a comment about folks get on her nerves driving their fancy cars and flaunting their “whatever” in front of others just to make them look bad. Hell these folks are just here to work and make a living like you. They can drive or wear whatever the hell they please. It’s theirs. That’s when I knew I did not want her around my friends.

Unfortunately the one that I know will get her told front and center holding back nothing has just had her first baby and will not be at the party. Darn!!!

TexasBoy

December 18th, 2009
11:02 am

Ha Ha Ha (laughing @ M.) old gold diggers and groupies for Freddie Jackson and the Deele. That was funny
Thanks Raqi and ImAPeach404

2CPTG....out with the old, in with the new..

December 18th, 2009
11:03 am

for real, Leggs? is it really that obvious?????

TexasBoy

December 18th, 2009
11:04 am

Thanks Cemeeli, Hope everyone has a great 2010.!

First Sexy. Then Cool.

December 18th, 2009
11:05 am

Libra in me. (Flipside)

Okay, Raqi – now she is going to come to your party see how phat your crib is and how fab your friends are and she is really going to become your number one Frenemy.

~lol~

Next time she makes one of those ‘hatin’-ass comments’, call her on it.

Leggs

December 18th, 2009
11:10 am

Yes, it is!!!

@Raqi ~ unfortunately, she will be walking around with a sour look on her face because her jealousy will be palpable. She will try to laugh at things being said, but will eventually put her foot in her mouth by some off color remark. Don’t fret much, she’ll probably excuse herself early from the party. Enjoy your friends and enjoy yourself and smile, smile, smile at all you’ve accomplished.

Leggs

December 18th, 2009
11:12 am

Exactly, SCool!!

For Real

December 18th, 2009
11:27 am

Raqi: Let ole girl come to the party. You are forgetting the most valuable part of a blessing. LET IT BE KNOWN!!!! Negative people need to see positive people. Don’t hide your blessing from her show it to her and if she ask tell her how you received it. Our lives are meant to be lessons for others. Now, arch your back pull your shoulders back and lift your head and let me see your blessings. Hold it, hold it camera phone click got it!

First Sexy. Then Cool.

December 18th, 2009
11:30 am

Pose for the camera now. Click. Click.

lurker...

December 18th, 2009
11:31 am

To be alive is a blessing, on my birthday at that. Had a meeting yesterday with the guy that’s about 4 steps down from our CEO in helping me transition my career. We have 50,000 plus employees so that’s no small thing. I know someone that knows him and he reached out to me. He was coooool as ever, black and surpisingly young. Gave invaluable advice and pointers. Said about 3 or 4 times he thought I was intelligent and articulate and could tell I know what I want to go. Sent me an email with a few courses to take for the field in which I’m heading AND he requested I call him once completed and we’ll go from there. Honestly, at first he was headed with referring someone here locally to show me the ropes but after talking, asked that I call him back directly and we’ll go from there. Super super cool guy.

Aside from that, everyday is a good day and I’m thankful.

For Real

December 18th, 2009
11:35 am

For Real now setting up his annual Chrismus Picturetaking photos in the back of the blog. I got several background shots to choose from:

1. Black Benz with 20’s
2. Sliver Bently with 20’s
3. Orange GTO with 20’s
4. Escalade with 20’s

Oh and there is .007% discount on all prison poses and Fellas if you would like to see unauthorized photo of the blog ladies let me know but those pictures are extra.

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 18th, 2009
11:41 am

@First Sexy. Then Cool.

Question, do you think guys can find a dime (10) that’s not a gold digger? Can women find a guy that’s not a cheater? I think so.

It’s amazing but did anyone see Steve Harvey on Good Morning America yesterday? He has made a fortune telling women what they want to hear. Its funny because 3 women were on camera asking questions about cheating men, but when the 4th question came from a man who asked how does he know if his woman is cheating, Steve almost got OFFENDED that he asked that question. I guess Steve didnt want to piss off his meal ticket i.e. women who buy his book.

I guess there is alot of money in man bashing….

Raqi...Getting it Off My Chest

December 18th, 2009
11:48 am

So ForReal I take you like my new winter white sweater? My husband thinks it’s nice also. He said I look very toasty and snuggly today.

Raqi...Getting it Off My Chest

December 18th, 2009
11:51 am

In 2010 we are going to reorganize the committee that decides what our Friday office lunches will be. How many times in 6 months can a person eat from the Olive Garden before you start sweating pasta and garlic? Please people there are other places that cater to you.

Raqi...Getting it Off My Chest

December 18th, 2009
11:52 am

Happy Birthday “lurker…”. There are so many you all these days. LOL
And good luck on that higher height you are trying to reach.

First Sexy. Then Cool.

December 18th, 2009
11:53 am

M.Dot – You really can just call me SexyCool or SCool. You don’t have to type out my daily attempt at a witty moniker.

Thing is…everybody out here grindin’ is diggin’ for gold. We all looking to strike it rich or get ahead. So, I don’t knock gold digging per se. I just don’t dig in dude’s pockets for it.

By the same token, nobody wants anybody who doesn’t have anything and should run away from someone who is struggling or who ain’t got nothin’. (They need to be focusing more on their come-up than a relationship anyway.) A certain level of checking for gold (read: something of value, what you bring to the table) should be expected. However, if you ain’t got no gold, you ain’t got nothing to worry about – cause ain’t nobody checking for you. (Disclaimer – This last statement is not directed at you personally. I’m just sayin’.)

And I have more…but, I have to deal with a new employee who is waiting to come into my office.

Be back.

First Sexy. Then Cool.

December 18th, 2009
11:55 am

And real quick, yes, I did see Steve on GMA. He did look a little thrown by the question, but TheDude and I thought he did a fair job of answering the question.

(He and I usually make it a point to check Steve out when he’s going to be on GMA. It gives us good topics of discussion that we usually use to discuss issues in our growing relationship.)

For Real

December 18th, 2009
11:56 am

Happy Bday Lurker and it’s good to see “each one teach one” in action good luck. Now, place you hands on your knees, bend a little, a little more there you go, now arch your back, hold your head up, look at me hold it, hold it, camera phone click, got it!

For Real

December 18th, 2009
11:56 am

Raqi: I do like the sweater but why are you wearing a white bra?

i'm swiss

December 18th, 2009
11:57 am

“…do you think guys can find a dime (10) that’s not a gold digger?”

Yep. They are out there. Mrs. Swiss is a dime and not only is she not a gold-digger, but she’s my sugar-mama. :lol: Now you know why I’m walking around with this big, goofy grin all the time — I hit the lotto… :D

Raqi...Getting it Off My Chest

December 18th, 2009
11:59 am

Mdot…

What is considered a “dime” to you?

What makes someone a gold-digger?

Is it the alleged gold diggers fault for going out and getting what she wants or is it the guys fault for falling for her looks and giving it?

You don’t like nickels?

Leggs

December 18th, 2009
12:00 pm

@M. ~ I saw Steve’s reaction and he really wanted to say something other than what he did. However, he had to get a comedic jab in there nonetheless and said for that man to be asking the question, its obvious he’s not doing his job in the bedroom.

For Real

December 18th, 2009
12:01 pm

“…do you think guys can find a dime (10) that’s not a gold digger?” – They are everywhere but I think you are suffering from “I worked too hard my ish to lose it to some trick syndrome”

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 18th, 2009
12:02 pm

@First Sexy. Then Cool.

“You really can just call me SexyCool or SCool. You don’t have to type out my daily attempt at a witty moniker.”

Calm down….If you notice, I call everyone by the name they have listed so nobody is trying to be witty…geesh

First Sexy. Then Cool.

December 18th, 2009
12:03 pm

(Dude is filling out paperwork.)

To get a ten, you gotta be a ten.

Leggs

December 18th, 2009
12:04 pm

@M. She was talking HER daily attempt at a witty moniker (LOL)

First Sexy. Then Cool.

December 18th, 2009
12:07 pm

I didn’t think you were trying to be witty. I was just trying to save you some keystrokes. And there is no excitement, attitude, nothing to calm down from. Trust.

Raqi...Getting it Off My Chest

December 18th, 2009
12:09 pm

There are certain things in this world that continue to exist because we give them power to exist. These alleged gold-diggers that you speak of only have as much power over your pocket that you men folk keep allowing them to have. She comes with a pretty face and revealing assets you open your wallet. She has learned that the view of her T & A will get her cars, clothing and cash. You men folk keep falling for her.

But when 7 and 8s allow you into their space they got to bring half to the table. And the 4 and 5s gone be damn near taking care of you arse.

While the 2 and 3s are you midnight banging bags.

Now while most of that was typed T-I-C, I ask why not just get with a woman that will treat you right.

Do you think Halle Berry is a dime?

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 18th, 2009
12:10 pm

@Raqi…Getting it Off My Chest

I think a dime is not only looks but someone who is a good package and with no attitude or extras. Brings alot to the table.

A gold digger is someone who only dates/deals with someone for financial gain and who would not stay with them if the gain is gone.

It’s not her fault and I dont knock her hustle but the guy should be on top of his to where he doesnt get caught up in the gold digger web.

LOL Nickels have a purpose….

@Leggs

I didnt like that little slick response from Steve about that guy not doing his job. Obviously we dont know what goes on in that household, but Steve made it like women never cheat and who could fathom that idea? LOL. It was what show he was on. If he was on his show, he wouldve gave him the real answer.

@First Sexy. Then Cool.

“To get a ten, you gotta be a ten.”

I dont necessarily agree with that. Denzel’s wife is not a ten. Sometimes if somebody is cool and worth it, you can overlook alot of stuff.

Raqi...Getting it Off My Chest

December 18th, 2009
12:14 pm

LOL Leggs, yeah he took SexyCool’s comment about her moniker to heart.

Mdot, dude you are really hurting aren’t you? What’s up with you and your friend chasing these women that you cannot have? Your friend is trying to get a woman to “open up” to him and she doesn’t want to and you are trying to get with a type of woman that wants a certain type of life style that you are not willing to give her. What gives?

Talk to us. We will be honest with you from the Women’s Corner. Let us help.

lurker...

December 18th, 2009
12:16 pm

Thanks Raqi, thanks For Real