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Get It Off Your Chest

I don’t know about you, but I am elated to see 2009 come to an end. It’s been quite a year, to say the least!  I can remember having moments when I just wanted to scream – from excitement, frustration, or pure happiness. Are you glad the year is almost over?

As a year ends, I tend to reflect back on  misadventures and the adventures.  I think most of us learned some lessons along the way, even if they were stressful at the time.  What did you discover this past year that taught you something about yourself?

What do you want to vent about dating or being single this year? Sometimes you just need to vent and get it all off your chest.  This allows you to move on and leave the past behind you, where it belongs.

This year was like a roller coaster ride, you either want to kiss the year goodbye or give it a one-finger salute. What did you love or hate about 2009?

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i'm swiss

December 18th, 2009
8:48 am

Well, this year was certainly an eventful one in the swiss household… 3 jobs, 4 moves, a wedding (and honeymoon :-D ) and a new house. But in the end, I wound up with the Best Wife In The History Of Wives, Ever, a kick-a$$ new house that’s far nicer than anything I ever thought I would have (thanks for collapsing, housing market) and a job that I love, where I play ping-pong twice a day, minimum. Come to think of it, I kind of hate to see this year go… :lol:

i'm swiss

December 18th, 2009
8:49 am

Oh, and I forgot to add…

FIRST!

;-)

TexasBoy

December 18th, 2009
9:00 am

2009 has been a wonderful year to both me and my wife. This time last year we were praying for a beautiful baby after trying for four years. In February the good lord blessed us with twins , a boy and a girl. We are elated at being new parents for two beautiful, healthy, happy babies. I looked forward to 2010 because I will be finishing up my business degree and looking for more happiness and prosperity with my family and friends.

Raqi

December 18th, 2009
9:01 am

Congratulations Texasboy.

Lady J

December 18th, 2009
9:03 am

A year I will NEVER forget….It has mold me to take on my 30s gracefully and with a smile during all challenges with a POSITIVE attitude!!! It has humbled me to know the equation is NOT about me and to be patient and open when dealing with adversity. It gave me a sense of peace that the fire burning inside of me can’t be contained and I REFUSE to let curcumstances and events from my recent past define my life with being bitter and angry!!!!! I am at a point where I feel I am a REAL mother!!!! It didn’t come easily bc the bundle of joy didn’t come with instructions but baby these four years and past year and opened my eyes to a joy that just brings tears to my eyes!!!!! A healthy, smart, beautiful blessing from the Creator that he picked just for me!!! A blessing that keeps me grounded and brings out the best in me!!! My child!!! I not perfect and far from 100% but I am a better person and 2009 brought out the grown woman in me….I am wiser, stronger, open to change for new results, positive, and grouded. All of it brought me closer to God….I promise it is my testimony….2009 has defined faith and what can be worked out without one even touching it….I made it over th hump yall and my happy dance is on going….Life is short and can’t ever be taken for granted….

Cemeeli

December 18th, 2009
9:06 am

Morning!

…starting this afternoon, i’ll be on vacation until 2010!!!…BIM!

I embraced every experience i’ve had this year…as always i’ve gained more wisdom about a lot of things…and i can’t wait to see what 2010 will brings my way.

~Sign
Wisdom Seeker

ImAPeach404

December 18th, 2009
9:08 am

@Texas – How nice!!! Thanks for sharing :)

@Swiss – I too am a beneficiary of the crappy housing market!!! Sometimes I just sit in my house and think “I got every single thing on my desired, required, and nice to have lists”. My real estate agent really pushed me to only buy a home with a garage… with all this rain we’ve had this year, I’ve called him a few times to say thanks not only for that push, but also getting the builder to include and install a garage door opener too :D

ImAPeach404

December 18th, 2009
9:11 am

@Lady – What a wonderful testimony! Babies are a blessing from God… now teenagers, I’m not so sure about.

Raqi

December 18th, 2009
9:14 am

Get It Off My Chest? Can someone please pass me a bottle of Tums. This heartburn is killing me.

Raqi

December 18th, 2009
9:14 am

Good for you Lady J.

Raqi

December 18th, 2009
9:15 am

Cemeeli, wisdom is one of life’s most precious gifts. And it’s free. We live and we learn.

Lady J

December 18th, 2009
9:16 am

Thanks ImAPeach404!!!! And Raqi your on my Shero list!!!!! In the start I didn’t quite understand you (the little girl in me) but woman to woman you got it going on and I applaud your journey honey!!!!! I so appreciate your daily wisdom with life!!!!!:)

Cemeeli

December 18th, 2009
9:18 am

LadyJ – I’m going to NOT hold you while you give GOD his due praise, girl!…’n for what he has transitioned you to, you better let that fire in you burn the “mess” outta your life!

I got a three words for that – Fire of Peace!!

Lady J

December 18th, 2009
9:20 am

Now Cee I am crying my ETERNAL FLAME IS FIRE OF PEACE!!!!!! You know that is going on EVERY status I am apart of!!!!! Cee you are my vlog sistah I adore!!!! Thanks for just being nice through it all!!!! Happy Holidays!!!!!:)

Cemeeli

December 18th, 2009
9:21 am

“wisdom is one of life’s most precious gifts.”

that’s why i hold it to a high standard…if you’ve get the wisdom of things…you can sheild bs from your life.

~Sign
Soul of Wit

Lady J

December 18th, 2009
9:23 am

yall know my typing and spelling sucks but who cares not me!!!! All errors in love! LOL

Lurky lurke

December 18th, 2009
9:24 am

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Dream_n~Thankful for the samll things...

December 18th, 2009
9:27 am

Wow…
Congrats Swiss,Texasboy, and Lady J!!!

I am actually happy the year is ending… Time to embark on a new journey.

Looking back on this year, I’m glad I learned to let go. Holding on to something toxic is not good for your soul or your growth…

I’m excited about what life has in store for me and eager to attain each goal I’ve set before me. I’ve been blessed with an extraordinary little mini me who absolutely is my heart. I’ve learned quite a few things about myself that I didn’t like and things that I love.

2010 here I come :wink:

DreamsMaterialize

December 18th, 2009
9:27 am

Morning
No magic for me in the transition from one year to the next. It’s just the passage of time, and a year is how we denote it. My progression is upward, and I’m thankful for that. I have a few obstacles to destroy in the near future, but obstacles will always present themselves. I’m enjoying the journey.

I’m also thankful for the next 3 weeks that I’ll be off! lol
BTW, I’ve lit up the blg fireplace and made some “enhanced” cocoa…don’t drink too fast.

Cemeeli

December 18th, 2009
9:28 am

awww…and you are my lil sister of the blog. So thoughtful of you.

I don’t mind prasing him with you LadyJ…i’ve got an 1.5 hr before my meeting…sis, i’ll “go-in” and make this day a sunny day! lol :)

ImAPeach404

December 18th, 2009
9:28 am

Lol @ the love fest going on this morning

Luvbug

December 18th, 2009
9:29 am

Boy, this year has flown by. For the first time ever I did no dating – just situating. I can’t think of a minus worth mentioning – just regular growing pains. So far, I’ve been steadfast and patient about most things. Life is good.

I’ve enjoyed this blog. Ms. Diva does a good job of coming up with topics. I like reading the comments…at least the non crabs in a barrel, non hating, non personal attacking azz ones…it’s good to hear different, sincere points of views. :grin:

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 18th, 2009
9:32 am

Morning all.

2009 was an interesting year. It’s good to take something positive from everything this year. In the dating realm, I learned to keep my standards high and not settle mainly because I dont have to.

I also learned that it’s ok and to try to learn from others mistakes.

What made me really mad about Atlanta Dating this year was an influx (I dont know if its due to the recession) of gold diggers. It seemed like everybody was out for self. I know this is everywhere but it seems like if you dont have a Mercedes S550, they just arent interested. So I really dont buy that whole Atlanta woman argument that its all these single women and no good men, I think the guys are here but alot of the women really probably arent even up to par to be on their level.

I also was liquidated out of a toxic relationship and I feel like I lost 200 pounds!

I also got to improve my friendships etc and stay busy and compete in 3 bartending competitions.

I also got to travel and I am stepping it up next year and I won a trip to Las Vegas this past October.

Ok that’s my rant!

Raqi

December 18th, 2009
9:36 am

Thank you Lady J. I got many, many years of continuous learning ahead me. Heck I gotz a little girl to raise now. Who would have thunk it? LOL

Lady J

December 18th, 2009
9:38 am

your welcome Raqi and enjoy her!!! She has a mother that can’t be fooled! LOL

ImAPeach404

December 18th, 2009
9:39 am

ImAPeach404

December 18th, 2009
9:42 am

For the first time ever I did no dating – just situating.

@luvbug – huh?

@M – Gold diggers? Really? I think they are urban legend or like leprechauns cuz I’ve never seen one and don’t know any.

NY2GA, Inc.

December 18th, 2009
9:46 am

Well, it sounds real nice to be the poster child for positivity and “the journey”, but I’m going to keep it real.

2009 was a year of change for me. In some cases it was good, in others I was often left with the feeling of “Why” is this happening? Better yet, “WTF?” But, all in all, I still have my health, my sanity, make a good living, have a roof over my head, and I am surrounded by folks who love and care for me. For that I am grateful because alot of people do not have these things.

So far as the dating tip of 2009, it has been a rocky road as I try to weather the storm, support and grow with a brother that I have really grown to care about. Some men are always complaining about having a woman to support them and have their back. Well, I do have his. I’ve been told that I am appreciated, but lately I have not been shown. This has left me feeling kid of empty because actions are not equaling words. So, on this front, either 2010 is going to be a year of celebration after the storm is over and getting back on the right track or one of moving forward without the one I chose to be with. Only time will tell-

Salute.

Melo

December 18th, 2009
9:47 am

OK…
Good morning blog fam!
2009,yes..for me too,it has been good..

My brother has been battling mental illness for at least ten years.He came to the states and had to go back home in 2004 for same reason.End of this year,there was a turnaround,thanks to my Mum’s effors.So im really really thankful that his health and mental faculties have had a 100% turn around!
I thank the Lord for my lil fam.Good kids and motherly Queen!
And on the financial front,Im thankful that my portfolio hit a milestone and went up almost 40% compared to same period last year.
Iam looking forward to 2010 coz i been working on some things and iam hoping that all that work will pan out real soon.

Happy rainy day!

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 18th, 2009
9:51 am

@ImAPeach404

What up :) I think you must not get out enough. LOL They are all over Atlanta. Granted it depends where you hang out also. I went to a Christmas Party wednesday for Ferrari Atlanta and the golddiggers were out. They even had some old gold diggers….lol One lady was probably gold digging during the under ground railroad lol….

One more rant! Nothing I hate more than an Old Gold digger or and Old groupie…..if a chick used to be a groupie for Freddie Jackson or The Deele’s thats cool but this is 2009…scum of the earth….lol

Luvbug

December 18th, 2009
9:51 am

@ImApeach404

By situating, I mean arranging my life. I stop moving, sat down and thought about my life plans and began preparing in that direction in many areas of my life. With respect to dating, I decided to stop dating for fun, no matter how tempting. I decline when I know it won’t go anywhere.

LOL- I know it sound confusing without the details…I’m usually talking out loud to myself on this blog, so you’ll have to forgive me.

Raqi

December 18th, 2009
9:52 am

For me this year has brought me a daughter and I am thankful for that. This year has also made me appreciate even more what I have and has given me an even more earnest desire to hold on to it. This year did not fail me in my love and trust in the man I love. I thank God for him.

I thank God for the bad also. This year has shown me that you cannot please every one. Folks are going to hate you for who you are what you have positive going on in your life. I also have been blessed with some of life’s wisdom that has lead to me realize that I do not have to play down the me to suit others. It is not my responsibility to assure the happiness of those on the outside or refrain from expressing my joy because it may make their life look less fulfilling. The Man Upstairs has given me all of this and I will not fail to speak of it because of others.

What friends and associates and buddies and pals I have going into the new year are those that are true.

Lady J

December 18th, 2009
9:52 am

Melo my borhter has been dealing with his since he was 16 and he is 25 now…..I know what you have and are dealing with! It is no joke!

Cemeeli

December 18th, 2009
9:55 am

Texasboy – Congratulations!…twins?…good lawd!

…no really, bless your HEART!

Dream_n~Feel'n all warm and tingly inside!

December 18th, 2009
9:57 am

@ Melo

I am so happy to hear that. (about ur brother)

Cemeeli

December 18th, 2009
9:58 am

the love fest going on this morning

…i think the rain contributed to it.

Dream_n~Feel'n all warm and tingly inside!

December 18th, 2009
10:00 am

I gotta run… I’ll catch up with you good folks later…

Morning Prof/Leggs/Melo!!!

LMBO mannn some people….

Raqi

December 18th, 2009
10:02 am

Mdot, you wanna buy my five clicks so the women will flock to you? LOL

Raqi

December 18th, 2009
10:04 am

i think the rain contributed to it

Yeah Cemeeli. I kinda want to go home, make some hot chocolate and biscotti, sit in front of the fireplace and watch White Christmas.

Raqi

December 18th, 2009
10:07 am

What’s the proper etiquette for uninviting someone to a Christmas party? I invited her but I have determined that she is really not a person I want to remain associates with.

Raqi

December 18th, 2009
10:09 am

Happy Rainy Day to you too Melo.

Melo

December 18th, 2009
10:11 am

Raqi??

just leave it alone..u invited her already..thats unnecessary drama..
U be the classy one!

Thanks Lady J/Dream_n!!

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 18th, 2009
10:12 am

@Raqi

Five Clicks? Not sure but I’m straight thanks lol

Does anyone know if the blog is closed until Jan. 4th?

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 18th, 2009
10:13 am

@Raqi

Five Clicks? Not sure what that is but I’m straight thanks lol

Does anyone know if the blog is closed until Jan. 4th?

Raqi

December 18th, 2009
10:16 am

But Melo, how do you put up with a person that is so freaking negative? I have found out that she is the type of person that if you have $1 and she only has 30 cents she gets upset if you pull out your dollar for whatever reason. What she has or don’t have it not my fault or anyone else. I can’t not keep company with a person I will have to mask my life in attempt not to offend her. I cannot have someone like that around my friends and family.

I thought she was going to be a good person to have in my sister circle but I feel very different now.

First Sexy. Then Cool.

December 18th, 2009
10:18 am

Two Word Week – Love life.

First Sexy. Then Cool.

December 18th, 2009
10:19 am

I’ve learned that I still have lessons to learn.

Cemeeli

December 18th, 2009
10:22 am

agree with Melo…what irritates us most about others, teaches us more about ourselves.

for instance…I gave a young lady (mid 50s) here in the office (that bothers me all the time with petty filing questions she should already know…soemthings she does just to bother me)…i gave her a trifold organizer for her xmas gift, so that when i give her pointers/info she can write things down.

and yes she at time irritates me HIGHLY…but to get me out of bondage of allowing her antics to bother me…i’m going to fix this subtly and all the “extra” from here will roll off my shoulder… :)

First Sexy. Then Cool.

December 18th, 2009
10:24 am

Luvbug – I would call what you are doing “positioning.” You are positioning yourself to be in a better place.

First Sexy. Then Cool.

December 18th, 2009
10:26 am

M.Dot – What you look for is what you will find.