“I blame Hollywood,” Jeff said with a straight face. My buddy was trying to convince me that romantic comedies and films about love have contributed to relationship fantasies. He thinks they set us up for unrealistic expectations because we see what romance “looks like” on the big screen then feel let down when we don’t have the same thing.
I don’t know, I felt rather insulted. I consider myself pretty realistic. Do I love romance in films? Of course! Am I expecting the men I date to be the Darius Lovehall to my Nina Mosely (Love Jones)? Not so much!
I argued that if women have distorted views about relationships from romance films then men should consider their porn consumption. Some men watch porn and expect the same in real life. I know, it was a weak counter argument, but I kept a straight face anyway!
If men can distinguish from their sexual fantasies that are played out in porn, why can’t women do the same with romance in film? What do you guys think? Are romantic movies just “chick porn” as Jeff jokingly replied?
Is it hard to stay in reality when we are watching so much fantasy on tv and in film? Do you think our mass media consumption influences how we date and relate to each other?
Just for fun, what is your favorite romantic moment of a film or show?
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