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Breakup Etiquette

If you are one of those individuals that decided to break up with someone to avoid giving gifts and holiday craze, stay classy!  This is the type of behavior that gets filed as bad breakup etiquette.

A friend of mine was telling me that he doesn’t think there is such a thing as good etiquette when you are dumping someone.  There is simply no good way of saying I don’t want to sleep with you anymore. Fair enough,  but that doesn’t mean you get to act like a total jerk, either.

I’m beginning to wonder if the disappearing act is the nicest way to dump someone. Is it the lesser of all the evils? Perhaps, if you consider having an awkward conversation about why you aren’t going to work our gut wrenching torture. In comparison, fading away can look to be easiest, but not to the person who is left wondering what happened.

In your experiences, do you have good breakup etiquette? Can you outright tell someone that they aren’t the one?  When things start to go south, why does it take people so long to speak up and admit it to each other?

A strange question, but what is the best breakup you’ve ever had? How many of your exes do you still respect and love? What do you think prevented your breakup from becoming a bad episode of Cheaters?

301 comments Add your comment

Melo

December 15th, 2009
4:26 pm

DreamsMaterialize

the Hr pple pick the resumes,send them to hiring manager,he says fine,he say no ,on this one…

urs neva makes it to the hiring manager unless he selects resumes himself.

i work for a big company tho!

2CPTG......holla!

December 15th, 2009
4:26 pm

“they thought the Professor was an old white lady, and not this young fine racehorse”

damn, fa real!!!!!

now scribblin in my notepad…..Mo gotta big ‘ol booty…and professor is not only smart, but a stallion too……

HM Roberts

December 15th, 2009
4:27 pm

@2CPTG…holla! No relation to Oral :-) .

on the name sidebar… 1)my name ends with A 2)its Russian 3)I’m not russian

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 15th, 2009
4:28 pm

2CPTG – LMAO! Yeah I got ‘junk in the trunk’….mad at you keepin notes on that!

2CPTG......holla!

December 15th, 2009
4:29 pm

HM…..my name is greek, go figure……my real name, that is…..

DreamsMaterialize

December 15th, 2009
4:30 pm

Much love to Morris Brown. If they do have the opportunity to come back, then we have to make sure they have competent people in there who really care about the school and the students.

I am
Is it a disadvantage to have gone to an HBCU?

Professor is.....

December 15th, 2009
4:31 pm

My real name is also Biblical…so maybe Eddie Long will hire me one day or Creflo Dollar

czBrat

December 15th, 2009
4:31 pm

2CPTG… how the he!! you gonna call Professor a stallion???? :shock: i’m guessing you were thinking mare. :lol:

2CPTG......holla!

December 15th, 2009
4:31 pm

Mo….I’on miss too much, Ms. Lady……..just didn’t comment the other day when you mentioned it….

Professor is.....

December 15th, 2009
4:32 pm

I would teach a class for free at Morris Brown, though to give back and help out.

2CPTG......holla!

December 15th, 2009
4:34 pm

semantics, Brat, mere semantics……what, did I miss your attributes? c’mere, sugar and tell 2 what you workin’ with……

Professor is.....

December 15th, 2009
4:34 pm

czBrat, I saw that but 2CPTG is cool so I let it slide, actually I consider myself a little filly

DreamsMaterialize

December 15th, 2009
4:35 pm

Melo
I know that’s how it is at most big companies. When I worked at larger companies I hated that HR picked resumes because they knew nothing about the skills set I was looking for. All the people I hired, I found myself. It would take me forever to wait for HR to find me someone that matched what I was looking for.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 15th, 2009
4:35 pm

2CPTG – LMAO! alright dude

DreamsMaterialize – I dont feel its a disadvantage to have attended an HBCU. But that is just my experience. I hope Morris Brown can bounce back as well.

czBrat

December 15th, 2009
4:35 pm

Morris Brown has been on the decline for a looooong time. it was barely holding on when i was at Clark 20 eyears ago. it will take a major community and alumni effort to make it viable again.

2CPTG......holla!

December 15th, 2009
4:36 pm

I read the article this past weekend about Mo Brown……how can their graduates get into grad school if they’ve lost accreditation?

DreamsMaterialize

December 15th, 2009
4:36 pm

Mo
wassup girl. How you been? I brought a Pepsi for you.

czBrat

December 15th, 2009
4:37 pm

LMAO @ 2C. no, no. i’m the wallflower in the room. don’t take notes on me. :)

Raqi

December 15th, 2009
4:38 pm

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 15th, 2009
4:39 pm

DreamsMaterialize – Im hanging in here! Thanx for my pepsi! I sho’ need it right now!

2CPTG – I wondered the same thing about Morris Brown

For Real

December 15th, 2009
4:41 pm

“1)my name ends with A 2)its Russian 3)I’m not russian” – What is Vodka? Alex.

2CPTG......holla!

December 15th, 2009
4:41 pm

what you laughin’ at Raqi……..been had yo vitals down…..shiiiiid, you know what the deal is!!!!

I am whatever you say I am

December 15th, 2009
4:41 pm

@DreamsMaterialize : No it is not a disadvantage to attend a HBCU.
I pride myself in being Howard alumni.

I am whatever you say I am

December 15th, 2009
4:42 pm

it is a disadvantage if your school (HBCU or not) goes under.
Look at Morris Brow

I am whatever you say I am

December 15th, 2009
4:43 pm

typo: Look at Morris Brown

DreamsMaterialize

December 15th, 2009
4:43 pm

problem is that many of the alumni won’t support Mo B anymore because of the many times the institution has been mismanaged in the past.

Tom

December 15th, 2009
4:43 pm

Simple note is the best way……

Dear ______,

Welcome to Dumpsville.

Population: YOU!

Tom

Professor is.....

December 15th, 2009
4:45 pm

I guess the problem I have is Life University did not experience as much backlash when they went down, but look at Morris Brown. I really feel like Morris Brown alumni and the community should keep on moving and assist with getting the school back on track.

HM Roberts

December 15th, 2009
4:45 pm

@For Real.. although i enjoy a good martini, its not Vodka

For Real

December 15th, 2009
4:46 pm

“My real name is also Biblical” – Who is Zilla?

Professor is.....

December 15th, 2009
4:46 pm

How would you all react if you received that letter from Tom?

Raqi

December 15th, 2009
4:47 pm

2CPTG, I am laughing at you and Ms. Leggs.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 15th, 2009
4:48 pm

Professor – I feel the same way, I think Alumni needs to really step up and then others will be more ready to help.

I am whatever ……- I too am proud HBCU alum, Hampton U.

Ya’ll be easy, gotta go get Lil Mo! See ya tomorrow

2CPTG......holla!

December 15th, 2009
4:49 pm

I AM…..HU, eh? that was one of my last choices before deciding to go where I went……I’mma be real, I regret not going to an HBCU…..all good tho, “the man” opened my eyes to a lotta shyt……like Cube said in “Higher Learning”, I was behind enemy lines…..

For Real

December 15th, 2009
4:50 pm

I believe they should merge all of the HBCU’s here and throughout the country into a single University. Atlanta HBCU’s should merge and change the name to King University. Keep the current name as schools of study.

2CPTG......holla!

December 15th, 2009
4:51 pm

Dang Raqi, I was hopin’ you wanted to update your stats……you know, it’s been awhile, specially after baby Elizabeth and all…..

I am whatever you say I am

December 15th, 2009
4:51 pm

@ 2CPTG……holla: I begged to go to Howard.
After going thru predominatly white school systems I wanted to learn more about my history other than Martin Luther King and Malcom X.
I wanted to learn from Black professors that were actively working in the fields they taught.
Ironically, my first semester at Howard, my professors were caucasion.

For Real

December 15th, 2009
4:53 pm

On topic: Keep it simple: Looka here yeahhhh this is just not working for me anymore so give me back the mood ring I gave you and you be easy.

DreamsMaterialize

December 15th, 2009
4:53 pm

For Real
I went to Morehouse, and I agree with merging the schools and keeping the current names as separate colleges within the university. We should have done that years ago, but pride has kept us from doing that.

Leggs

December 15th, 2009
4:54 pm

Good night!

A great breakup line that speaks volumes is:

“I’m not over my ex”!

The sweetest woman in the world could be the meanest woman in the world if you make it that way……

2CPTG......holla!

December 15th, 2009
4:55 pm

Howard, Hampton, Clark, Mo’house…..love it!!!!!!

Raqi

December 15th, 2009
4:56 pm

2CPTG, you mean did my hips get a little bigger? Yep.

2CPTG......holla!

December 15th, 2009
4:58 pm

“you mean did my hips get a little bigger? Yep”

lawd hammercy!!!!!! ummmmm……neva mind….you might tell Mase.

Raqi

December 15th, 2009
4:59 pm

2Can, believe he don’t hate it the least bit. LOL

Good night yall.

For Real

December 15th, 2009
5:18 pm

“but pride has kept us from doing that” – It has nothing to do with pride. I all about the MONEY!!!

“you mean did my hips get a little bigger? Yep” – For Real now mummbling something manish in pig latin

I am whatever you say I am

December 15th, 2009
5:33 pm

Anyone remember when Laney used to write on the blog with Wise Diva?
What ever happened to her?

2CPTG......holla!

December 15th, 2009
5:40 pm

I am, she got “runned” off!!!!

I am whatever you say I am

December 15th, 2009
5:41 pm

oh! she got let go!
tell me the details

2CPTG......holla!

December 15th, 2009
5:42 pm

I’on know the details….was just speculating……but what da hell you still doin’ on here!

I am whatever you say I am

December 15th, 2009
5:46 pm

I’m at work. That’s why I’m still here