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Single-ish During the Holidays

If you have a current person of interest things can get tricky.  Holidays has this weird double-edged sword effect.  From the awkward gift exchanges, to meeting friends and family,to  accompanying each other to parties – it can  accelerate a good thing, or hit the brakes on a bad one.

If you have only just started seeing each other, expectations during the holiday should be kept in perspective.  I think it is a good idea to use the extra time you have together to do fun activities that allow you to showcase your personalities.

Instead of conforming to the idea of being a “couple during the holidays” why not seize the opportunity to be relaxed and silly. No expectations or obligations.

If you don’t get to spend a lot of time with the your new person of interest, don’t count it all bad. They may have had prior social obligations or trips already scheduled. It doesn’t mean they are not interested.

What are you planning for the holidays? Will you be going to a lot of events solo or do you plan to take someone you are spending time with now?

What will you do about gift exchange? Do you plan to bring it up? Ignore it altogether? Would you be uncomfortable giving gifts to someone you just started dating?

If you have only just met, but you are really enjoying the person’s company, what kind of gift would be appropriate?

Are you single or single-ish for the holidays?

Happy Monday!

255 comments Add your comment

Dan

December 14th, 2009
8:50 am

See….. and this is the tricky part: to be or not be “together” for the holidays.

As one that just started dating around the holiday’s (fellas remember the Thanksgiving-ish ease off of the relationship), it’s about having a pretty frank conversation about expectations.

As stated, that could prove to be the progression of a relationship, or the end. For me, I’m one that needs that kinda clarity.

Good morning folks

Merry Christmas...

December 14th, 2009
9:06 am

…to y’all!

SlimOne

December 14th, 2009
9:08 am

Good morning.

My dude and I decided to wait until January before we decide to break up or keep it moving. lol There are too many things we have within next few weeks of the year to deal with any fallout now.

Professor ~NOT that professor

December 14th, 2009
9:09 am

Hola Happy People!

I hope everyone stayed warm and dry this weekend.

Well I will say this relax and have fun! If you two are spending time together and things are going great I feel just let things continue to flow. Do not…I repeat DO NOT allow the Holidays to add pressure to your new relationship.

If you have only just met, but you are really enjoying the person’s company, what kind of gift would be appropriate?

Usually for me I listen and get ideals. Something nice and thoughtful, anything that is too lavish may make the gift exchange seems awkward. If your guy or gal has a hobby maybe you can buy something that will help complete the hobby. If s/he is a music fan of a particular artist maybe you can purchase a nice CD anthology. Also I really like buying people those nice items that they may see in the store, but may not necessary buy for them. I mean small stuff like a nice candle, or really nice PJs…it is always good if you are giving away small gifts to let them serve as a theme. If the theme is relaxation a bottle of wine, nice candle and some cute and comfortable flannel shorts from VS. If your guy likes to read and maybe a nice book or two will do the trick and if he drinks coffee or tea you can add that in with the books. IMO the theme gifts are successful.

Dan

December 14th, 2009
9:15 am

@Professor

No offense intended but, that seems kinda like cowardice to me. I’m not in the habit of lying to folks, and when asked, I’d kinda like an answer beyond “just friends” to give to my family.

‘Cause once the liquor starts flowing, ‘just’ is never enough…

Professor ~NOT that professor

December 14th, 2009
9:22 am

Dan,

What part of my answer seems like cowardice to you. Please copy/paste that sentence.

Professor ~NOT that professor

December 14th, 2009
9:31 am

? It is still early for some reason I left off my ? in that first sentence.

Dan

December 14th, 2009
9:32 am

“…things are going great I feel just let things continue to flow.”

and “Do not…[I] repeat DO NOT allow the Holidays to add pressure to [your] new relationship.”

These statements read together as: “don’t press the issue” IMO.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 10 days til my birthday :-)

December 14th, 2009
9:34 am

Are you single or single-ish for the holidays?

I put the I in sIngle so I don’t have to worry about the awkwardness that a situation like that could precipitate…guess I’ll be lurking between this and experiments today.

Happy Monday Blog fam!! :mrgreen:

Professor ~NOT that professor

December 14th, 2009
9:48 am

Well Dan I don’t see that as a coward statement unless you are trying to hang a mistletoe over someone’s head. I would wonder why the sense of urgency due to the Holidays. You will have to ask yourself if it wasn’t for the Holiday would you still be rushing into a relationship?

If things are flowing, why would the Holiday’s change things? Are you saying that eggnog brings out the lonely wolf in you? Letting things flow means doing what you normally would do and there is nothing coward about that statement. What is a bit bizarre is rushing into something with someone just because you see Holiday lights, a new year, a gift and some eggnog now that is the dumbest thing in the world for two grown people to do, and the start of a dysfunctional relationship

Dream_n~ Now wanting to give Rell a big hug :)

December 14th, 2009
9:57 am

Morning All!!

No expectations or obligations

Exactly Wise D.

Why put so much pressure into “being a couple” around the Holidays if it wasn’t there in the first place. I say continue on the road you’re on. Now if you “two” want to take that step go ahead take a leap of faith… But to force an “arrangement” or force someone to play the role just for the sake of creating this “picture” is just fooleywang at it’s best. IMO

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 14th, 2009
9:59 am

Yup Professor we are >>>>>here<<<<<< :)

Raqi

December 14th, 2009
10:04 am

Appropriate gifts for early relationships, stick to the practical and inexpensive. They should be of the friend sort.

Dan

December 14th, 2009
10:07 am

@Prof

I’m not the one changing tunes do to the season, tis you.

We’ve had discussions this year about my propensity to allow things in a relationship to “be”. I’ve stood my ground on just that fact and been blasted for it in this forum as a less than ideal way to be in a relationship.

My opinion in that aspect has not changed, but if it’s the holidays and there are office parties, family gatherings, etc. that I and a young lady are attending; then we need to have that discussion prior to going so that there is no confusion. We need to be on the same page, esp. around family.

That said, if “just friends” is what we are, she’s not coming with me to a family function, because my female ‘friend’ would be uncomfortable (my aunts and female cousins are NOSY to the “n-th” degree).

Don’t misunderstand me, I’m good with it either way. For me, it’s more about aligning expectations to reality.

Dan

December 14th, 2009
10:09 am

@Prof/Dream

I’m saying that to WD’s point about expectations, it’s better to have the conversation than to have someone’s feeling get bruised.

It’s the adult thing to do, IMO.

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 14th, 2009
10:20 am

Morning all.

I am single for these holidays and it’s not really a bad thing. Gift wise, I think a nice card anmd gift card to Starbucks or a restaruant gift card with enough value for lunch is just fine. You dont want to come across as a trick even with the holidays.

I will be in Chicago for Christmas and NYE. My biggest issue is meeting girls who dont live in Atlanta. I refuse to get into another long distance relationship.

@SlimOne

Question, so you guy’s are basically about to have a premeditated breakup? It’s kind of planned already?

???

December 14th, 2009
10:20 am

Raqi

December 14th, 2009
10:22 am

Dan, IMO if a person is not one that you would have accompany you to a gathering or party at any other time of the year, then don’t drag them along to a holiday gathering.

If you haven’t had to notion for your new love interest to meet your folks before now, don’t let the season change that.

Melo

December 14th, 2009
10:22 am

Oooohh boy!

Good morning folks! :lol:

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 14th, 2009
10:23 am

@ Dan

(I’ll entertain this discussion)

So why does it take the “holidays” to define the status of the relationship?

Melo

December 14th, 2009
10:26 am

that I and a young lady are attending; then we need to have that discussion prior to going so that there is no confusion

what are u talking about..??

you and a young lady or u and ur girlfriend??

a young lady who is just ur friend..and then u have a discussion prior to attending a party??? discussion bout what if u are friends,u are friends…where is the confusion???

SlimOne...??

December 14th, 2009
10:28 am

@MDOT lol yeah I guess you could say that. I think in many relationships, at some point in time, you and the SO may kind of get off track or become a little disconnected for whatever reason. So we are currently at one of those times where one person feels one way, while the other doesn’t. It’s not as if something MAJOR such as an infidelity has occured so I guess that’s why we’ve taken this approach. I myself am not necessarily sure what change the next few weeks will bring but sounded like an OK plan at the time. Who knows, the holidays may, in some miracle way, bring forth some new light or give us that boost we need now. So until then, I will be known as SlimOne Question mark. LMAO!

Leggs - R Hurting!

December 14th, 2009
10:29 am

Good morning, everyone.

“I am single for these holidays and it’s not really a bad thing.” Ditto!

Dan

December 14th, 2009
10:32 am

@Raqi

Agreed; but she may not be on the same page. If I’m “not there” with her, that needs to be stated.

@Dream

First, thank you for ‘entertaining’ me, it’s truly appreciated.

Second, it’s not the holidays that rush these kinds of discussions, it’s a number of events: going out on a date and running into an ex, friends, or family (this city is not that large).

The holidays seem to create these tensions by virtue of being with someone and the professional/personal obligations during this time of year.

Dig it, I just don’t want her to introduce me as ‘[her] boyfriend’ and I feel the need to correct her.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
10:40 am

If youre not my girlfriend dont expect to meet Moma and nem.. I dont take dates to functions cause its always good to show up alone and be the lone wolf in the room.. Mysterious and well dressed.. Speaking to everyone and no one..

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
10:42 am

Dan – Its too much to ask for honesty and logic about the situation. Its always expected but never given in return..

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 14th, 2009
10:44 am

@SlimOne…??

Interesting. LOL. So you should ask yourself some questions. How do you really feel about him?

Are you just keeping him around so you arent lonely for the holidays or are you keeping him around until something better comes along?

Also, how would you feel if he meets someone else or a better situation? Like if he calls you up like:

Guy: Hey Slim, whats up?

SlimOne: Hey!

Guy: Ok, since we are adults, Im going to get right to the point. I understand that we decided to take a different approach to our relationship…

Slim…Yes…and?

Guy: Well, I decided to pursue other options.

Slim?…Really?

Guy: Yeah, I think she is a better fit for me and what I am looking for. Happy New Year! Good Bye

Slim:…..

Dan

December 14th, 2009
10:45 am

@DK

Do you watch “House”? Did you see last weeks episode?

I might have to get some cough syrup, just to date.

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 14th, 2009
10:47 am

Dan.. I’m attempting to understand the logic…

I mean is this your friend who has the capability of becoming your mate in the future or is this just a friend..

I mean have you guys not defined that already.. How long have you guys been dating? Or are you dating? Is she a FWB? Or is she a hang out type buddy?

Let’s just be frank.. What is the nature of the relationship between you two at this very moment???

SlimOne...??

December 14th, 2009
10:48 am

(for those offended easily please close your eyes & ears)

@Infamous – what kind of meat comes with that bread? :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
10:49 am

Pay Attention..

I’m on the outside
I’m looking in
I can see through you
See your true colors
Cause inside you’re ugly
You’re ugly like me
I can see through you
See to the real you

Dan

December 14th, 2009
10:51 am

@Dream

Unfortunately I don’t divulge that kind of information. I don’t violate other people’s privacy.

So should you choose to continue this conversation, think of everything in the hypothetical or abstract.

Professor ~NOT that professor

December 14th, 2009
10:52 am

Hey Dream I am happy it makes sense and somebody feels me! BTW, sorry about your Bears!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
10:56 am

Slimone – Grade A Black Angus Beef.. No by products.. No Fillers.. No Presevatives.. No artificial flavors.. Excellent source of Protein..

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 14th, 2009
10:59 am

So should you choose to continue this conversation, think of everything in the hypothetical or abstract.

Okay Dan… I throw in the towel.
I live in the real/now/what’s really happening.. so I can’t really divulge in your hypothetical/abstract life.

So good Luck with that!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
10:59 am

Dan – I dont watch house but my Sister says I need to give it a chance..

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 14th, 2009
11:01 am

Professor…

I gave up about 3 games ago :cry:
I had high hopes with Cutler…. then my baby Brian was injured… so umm I’ll sit back and wait for next year…

Professor ~NOT that professor

December 14th, 2009
11:01 am

@Dan~ well it appears to me that you are trying to change the topic. If you read my post you will see that I answered WD questions. Simply put if going to an office party makes you want to be her man, well have your discussion. As for ME, I don’t need the Holidays to make me get all warm and gooey over somebody…I let things flow, because there is a lot more living to do after the Christmas tree comes down and the fruitcake is gone.

~Dream it is obvious that Dan is single. Girl Stop! A man that is “cutting” does not engage in these conversations for this length of time!

My screen is not refreshing so please be patient with me on this technical problem

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 10 days til my birthday :-)

December 14th, 2009
11:03 am

@Infamous – what kind of meat comes with that bread?

Inquiring minds would like to know :mrgreen:

Professor ~NOT that professor

December 14th, 2009
11:04 am

Dream ^5 on that 10:59! :sad: I had to shed a tear for my Falcons as well!

Professor ~NOT that professor

December 14th, 2009
11:06 am

Hey Melo YES SIR on that 10:26

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 10 days til my birthday :-)

December 14th, 2009
11:06 am

Grade A Black Angus Beef…. Excellent source of Protein..

Aww shucky ducky…..that’s what I’m talkin’ bout thurr. Tell it like it t-i-z…

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
11:06 am

Sassy – What kinda meat you like on your fresh baked bread??

Slimone – Same question…

Oh and answer carefully Slim cause I’ll be in the auction this week.. I sold a car over the weekend..

Grace

December 14th, 2009
11:07 am

Good morning folsk!

Holiday foliday—Bah humbug! :evil:

Dan

December 14th, 2009
11:08 am

@Professor

Assuming facts not in evidence….you should know better (ie the scientific method and all).

@Dream

That’s cool.

Grace

December 14th, 2009
11:09 am

Too much tension this time of the year whether you’re dating/relationship or married.. too many expections to ones own selfish need/deed….

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 14th, 2009
11:12 am

It’s only tension if you make it tension. I view the “Holidays” more so as a chance to be with the family. Do the usually, knee slapping laughs, telling of the stories, catching up… kinda stuff

And if you have a SO to share it with just “BE”.

Professor ~NOT that professor

December 14th, 2009
11:14 am

I meant to add that I have a wonderful male friend that is married now, but when we were both single he would always ask me to go to company parties and to his Frat functions. We were strictly friends and we would go and trip out…people always wondered what was the connection, and we would say we were great friends from undergrad and grad school. It worked well because we laughed and tripped out and we did not have to worry about anything The moral of the story is if you are going to a professional function that may impact your career you better make a wise decision and not try to bring someone you don’t know where they stand, you should take someone that knows proper protocol and small talk and will not cause a stir after drinking too much free liquor. As for family if you already made family plans let them know and if possible exchange gifts on Christmas Eve and have private moment.

Leggs - Too Much Dancing!

December 14th, 2009
11:15 am

@Grace ~ why is there tension? Are any of these “expectations” being verbalized? It seems that a lot want mind readers aroun this time of year.

Grace

December 14th, 2009
11:17 am

Dream_n no tension for me since I don’t partake in the “holidays”. I should’ve stated for some….it’s tension.

Dan

December 14th, 2009
11:18 am

@Leggs

My point exactly.

Folks be tryin to act like the holidays don’t raise expectations….

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 10 days til my birthday :-)

December 14th, 2009
11:19 am

What kinda meat you like on your fresh baked bread??

My answer would probably read like your 10:56 except for the “no filler”(I chuckled a little reading it) part….not b/c I don’t know what you mean by that b/c I do, but I want to definitely “feel full” if you get my drift. ;)

SlimOne...??

December 14th, 2009
11:20 am

@Mdot LOL@ your skit. This situation is sort of difficult to acertain being that we’ve been together off and on for a very long time. My hope would be that no matter what, we could still maintain a friendship, even if it isn’t a romantic one. Sure it’ll be hard to draw that line after being together so long, but time, I surely wish would allow us to redefine our existence in a cordial yet loving way. ;-) Do i love him…yep. Does he love me…yep. He doesn’t seem to see anything wrong or lacking whereas I do. I asked him (being the crazy silly person I am) if we should just pick things back up after Football season. :lol:

@Infamous “Grade A Black Angus Beef.. No by products.. No Fillers.. No Presevatives.. No artificial flavors.. Excellent source of Protein.”

I sure feel hungry all of a sudden. :-D I like quality meat on my bread…not that Chi-nee meat either…..you know the kind….it looks good, get’s you all excited but you get full too fast then find yourself still feeling empty & just as hungry as you were when started out —> no msg! ;-) (Congrats on the dealerblock sale)

JtJ

December 14th, 2009
11:21 am

Good Morning!!

Dating & Holidays always seem to clash for some odd reason. I think its because people always assume if a person is willing to travel/visit your family during the holiday season, then they must mean a lot to you. I have dated before and have been stood up just for a holiday dinner because the guy felt he wasn’t ready to meet my family.

@ Leggs—Why are your leggs hurting???Did you go out dancing, too?

SlimOne...??

December 14th, 2009
11:22 am

LMAO @ Prof “Dream it is obvious that Dan is single. Girl Stop! A man that is “cutting” does not engage in these conversations for this length of time!”

I think I’ll stand behind this bar…don’t wanna get hit with any blog ammo anytime soon. I suggest all others take cover. LOL!

Melo

December 14th, 2009
11:23 am

Hey Proff!

I wonder if some single pple feel pressured to invite some “friend” to tag along to a company party etc just so they can potray an impression of being coupled up??

well,if u been single year after year after year and u have never broght anybody to the company Xmas party, i get the point. :lol:
coz I dont understand how a holiday wld bring pressure to a single person,a married or single but coupled up couple.

Married with kids,maybe coz at least they(kids) expect some presents etc..
boooy..!
I miss the point!

Grace

December 14th, 2009
11:23 am

It seems that a lot want mind readers aroun this time of year.- Leggs on point!

SlimOne...??

December 14th, 2009
11:25 am

@Sassy “I want to definitely “feel full” if you get my drift” :shock: Ha ha ha ha…guuuurrrrl, you got me cracking up over here. I ain’t mad at cha tho

Leggs - Hope to feel better 2morrow?

December 14th, 2009
11:30 am

@JtJ ~ Yes, went dancing. Had a great time.

Personally, I have one expectation this holiday season…..to see lil leggs smiling and jumping up and down doing the Running Man (or something like that) cuz she got what she wanted. Whoop, whoop!

Beautiful

December 14th, 2009
11:39 am

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kJzm1_5pBXc

Luther Vandross

Happy Holiday bloggers!

I am whatever you say I am

December 14th, 2009
11:41 am

I’m single for the holidays and it sucks.

Beautiful

December 14th, 2009
11:47 am

@Whatever
cheer up sweetie. look at all the options we have to choose from. i’m having a good time right now. and i’m not even giving away the booty.

get yourself dolled up and get involved in the festivities for the holidays. it’s a lot of fun and you’ll meet tons of single available men!

good luck.

Leggs - Hope to feel better 2morrow?

December 14th, 2009
11:49 am

It doesn’t have to suck. People get all caught up in the hype of having someone on their arms that they miss the genuine pleasure of being, of being alive, of volunteering, smiling at the children, being w/friends and family and just simply being thankful for what you have. Hell, having a mate shouldn’t define who you are nor should it make you feel less than “whole.” To be honest, all the angst one experiences during the holidays is mostly self-induced!

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 14th, 2009
11:54 am

To be honest, all the angst one experiences during the holidays is mostly self-induced!

Where’s Prof to say it in the Southern Preacher man’s voice..LMAO.

I can totally understand if you are going through a hard break-up around these times or if you’ve been with your mate for a long time and this is the first holiday w/out them or if they passed away and you are dealing with grief at this time. Totally understandable situations.

In my case, I’m single,sexy,free and loving every minute of it :wink:

Like Leggs, I’m more concerned about showering the lil one with gifts for being mommy’s pump’kin!!!

Beautiful

December 14th, 2009
11:55 am

http://www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=136295177149&ref=share

this link may not work. but if you want a laugh, here you go!

JtJ

December 14th, 2009
11:57 am

@ Leggs….I did too, I went to Taboo 2 Sat. night and it was packed!!! I celebrated my belated birthday along with my cousin an my sister’s friend who are both Sags!!! My fiance treated us to some reserved tables and a bottle! We had a blast!

@ Melo….my sister is single and she goes to her company party every year and enjoys her self alone! I think people just put too much into trying to impress or put up a front. Then there are those who bring a different person to the Christmas party every year and are even more embarrassed when people notice it.

I am whatever you say I am

December 14th, 2009
11:58 am

@Beautiful. I have everything I ever wanted in life except a husband.
I volunteer, when my son’s goes to his dad’s I go out and do things for myself, I surround myself around positive happy people.
If I had one wish I had a husband

Dan

December 14th, 2009
12:03 pm

@JtJ/Melo

There’s also the politics of being single.

A single person is considered (though never verbalized) to be a high risk/ high reward promotion for management. High reward in that they can work longer hours with no ties; and high risk as they can leave the company – again becuase of no ties.

Melo

December 14th, 2009
12:04 pm

I think people just put too much into trying to impress or put up a front

@JtJ

I think u right!

Im not getting this need to convene a summit or summits) be4 going out to a party or parties with “friends” thang…. :lol: just so there is no holiday expectation etc. LMAOF!! :lol:
Oh boy,i been outa the lop for a damn long time…

Dating has become so mind game hoopla,techno/green..u name it and stuff that i cant even keep up!

Melo

December 14th, 2009
12:06 pm

@Dan
so that brings pressure when company Xmas party comes along tnat u have to take a friend there to be seen as coupled up??

Dont they know already from ur HR records??

SexyCool - looCyxeS

December 14th, 2009
12:06 pm

Two Word Week – Think rich.

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 14th, 2009
12:11 pm

I need a joke stat!!!!

Beautiful

December 14th, 2009
12:12 pm

@Whatever
it’ll come. in due time. trust me. when you’re busy and preoccupied, that’s when they seem to find you.

i found out from an old friend that her brother in law, a guy from my past Jon, has been looking for me. when we met years ago, he was married. i told him in so many words to look me up if the divorce he’s been talking about ever happens.

bingo!

we’re really good friends right now.

patience.

Dan

December 14th, 2009
12:12 pm

@Melo

Naw, there is no pressure during the holiday party (or any other time of year) it’s just ‘noticed’. As for HR, they only know what you tell them. People get married and be long gone from a gig before an HR dept knows anything about it.

Leggs - Hope to feel better 2morrow?

December 14th, 2009
12:13 pm

@Dream_n ~ if there’s been a breakup, or a death in the family that make any of the holiday hard to deal with I can understand. But to be crying, woe is me simply because a mate isn’t in the picture is not grounds to be miserable. I never understood this. The commercialism that one needs to be “booed” up for the holidays, and or that matter Valentine’s Day, is just that…commercialism and many are suckered into feeling bad if they’re alone because they see so many others in love. Remember, those happy faces you see in the street may not be all that happy behind closed doors. Never envy what another has because you have no idea what they had to do to get to where they are!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
12:18 pm

Sassy & Slim – This meat fills you up for days.. It takes a little while to thru your your system.. On top of it all this meat is Kosher.. It has been given many blessing and thanks…

Beautiful

December 14th, 2009
12:21 pm

reality is that some people do feel the void when single. i do. i feel incomplete. but only you and i know this. nothing falls by the waste side just because i don’t have a man. my family is not affected at all.

it would be nice to be in a loving relationship anytime of the year, not just holiday time. sharing my life with another is priceless to me.

Melo

December 14th, 2009
12:23 pm

sharing my life with another is priceless to me.

how about ur kids??

The "preaching" Professor

December 14th, 2009
12:23 pm

Well…lets all I see ya’ll out there worried ‘bout the Holidays…yea…worried ‘bout not having someone warm in dat bed….worried ‘bout who gon take ya to the Christmas party. Well I am here to tell you that Jesus said he will give you peace…not peace that the world gives you, but real peace. Now if you are having fornicating thoughts ‘bout bedding that wo/man that is NOT what the season is ‘bout…if you are listening to J Holiday and he tells you “imma put you to bed bed bed (singing it and rocking my hips slowly) that is not what the holiday is bout. You need to clear yo mind and fast.

Shouting this time…for my single moms and dads it is not ‘bout how many toys you can buy those kids to break. Nor is it about trying to buy that FUBU or Baby Phat (church whisper Rev they want True Religion and Rock of Republic). Well ya’ll get what I am telling you STOP thinking that Christmas Eve and Christmas day is gon change yo life Saints…stop making the mall and match.com rich buying into this propaganda put on by Hollywood and the retail stores go sit yo behind down and worship! Usher Dream send that plate around again and I want you to get that ruler and hit anyone under 12 that tries to sneak some pennies in it.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 10 days til my birthday :-)

December 14th, 2009
12:24 pm

On top of it all this meat is Kosher.. It has been given many blessing and thanks…

I’m sure it has ;) Hercules…Hercules…Hercules

Beautiful

December 14th, 2009
12:27 pm

have a blessed day! *waving*

Raqi

December 14th, 2009
12:28 pm

But to be crying, woe is me simply because a mate
You know Leggs thinking back to former days I think the holidays were actually the times when I missed having a mate the least. Maybe it was because I had my kids but I would get so caught in making sure they were happy and doing things with my family and friends I just really didn’t have time to miss being in a relationship. When my mom was alive we would be at my parent’s house every Christmas. We would spend the night there Christmas Eve and spend the whole day Christmas with them. I just didn’t think about it much during that time.

Being with someone during the holidays is was nice but when I wasn’t I didn’t have time to miss it.

The "preaching" Professor

December 14th, 2009
12:28 pm

Melo~

As for me whether I have a man or not I go to the company party by myself. That is just how I roll, but a lot of people sit at work all year and talk this fairytale BS ish and folks want to see how their SO look and get nosey…IMO those are the people that feel the pressure. Me I go and work the room and work the crowd and leave. I know how to do the thing, though.

I’ve never felt lonely just because I did not have a SO…as long as I have my strenghth, health and family I count my blessings and keep it moving

The "preaching" Professor

December 14th, 2009
12:34 pm

:evil: this thing will not refresh! :evil:

Raqi

December 14th, 2009
12:39 pm

I miss my mom the most around Christmas time.

Melo

December 14th, 2009
12:39 pm

holidays is time for fam,parties,friends etc..but fam esp,for me..

If u are single,even better coz thats the time to get around,meet other single folks at parties etc and get the thang going…..
U may not sleep with somebody roght away :lol: but at least u start some interractions.. which may pan out really well down the road.

But then,if u think of winter and holidays and sausage,then, well..u got a diff problem!

The "preaching" Professor

December 14th, 2009
12:42 pm

I agree the Holidays is a time for friends, families and parties like Melo said Now I don’t know about all this sausage talk and starting the interactions talk… :wink: but it is all good

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
12:48 pm

Prof – Dont be mad.. Imma get me a crimmus date this year from right here on the blog.. We gonna swap spit unda the miseltoe and hopefully she’ll be showing her cameltoe..

The "preaching" Professor

December 14th, 2009
12:50 pm

Now, DK why would I be mad? If you can find you someone here on the blog to do all of that with (it has happened before) I wish you two the best!

I am sending a heartfelt Holly Jolly Crimmus to you and yours!

The "preaching" Professor

December 14th, 2009
12:51 pm

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
12:52 pm

Prof – I was talking bout you.. I just wanna feel on ya booty and do donuts in your vette.. Make sure you have that cameltoe on swole for me so I can pinch it..

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 10 days til my birthday :-)

December 14th, 2009
12:54 pm

I just wanna feel on ya booty and do donuts in your vette.. Make sure you have that cameltoe on swole for me so I can pinch it..

:shock:

The "preaching" Professor

December 14th, 2009
12:56 pm

:shock: LMAO after the inital :shock: DK you are a mess!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
12:57 pm

Sassy – You know gently squeeze em together and have a good look at that there..

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 14th, 2009
12:57 pm

@ Everyone

On the opposite side, how are the males and females here handling the holidays if you are dating and/or have a rotation?

How open are you? How do you handle parties, events, dinners, and gifts? How do you decide who gets what and goes where? Do you face alot of questions from family and friends?

The "preaching" Professor

December 14th, 2009
12:57 pm

BTW~ what is “cameltoe on swole for me so I can pinch it..”????/

Rell - i want some pudding

December 14th, 2009
1:02 pm

On the opposite side, how are the males and females here handling the holidays if you are dating and/or have a rotation?

-if you have bench management skills…this typically takes cares of itself…your rotation will fall in line with your commands…if not they get cut off

How open are you? How do you handle parties, events, dinners, and gifts? How do you decide who gets what and goes where? Do you face alot of questions from family and friends?

- umm dont do any type of company or famliy party…dinners are cool..it can be a gift for a new potential or less than three months of dating..

Dan

December 14th, 2009
1:02 pm

I love how folks call on Jesus to replace of something(someone) else.

@Raqi

I feel the same way about my brother (missing him), so I’m with you on that. Feel better

Melo

December 14th, 2009
1:04 pm

males and females here handling the holidays if you are dating and/or have a rotation?

boy,u funny! :lol:

a playa knows how to shuffle their cards..they wont tell u tho….

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 10 days til my birthday :-)

December 14th, 2009
1:05 pm

You know gently squeeze em together and have a good look at that there..

Stop it I say DK!! You so nasty….but I like it ;)

lurker

December 14th, 2009
1:08 pm

DK, did you wake up with a stiff one or what? You betta talk to the hand!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 10 days til my birthday :-)

December 14th, 2009
1:09 pm

You betta talk to the hand!

It’s just not the same….it’s not.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
1:11 pm

Lurker – I always wake up with a stiff one and if I dont have company I just think my my my thats a nice boner gone to waste.. Somebody need one of these this morning.. But at any rate..

The "preaching" Professor

December 14th, 2009
1:12 pm

You betta talk to the hand!

Whoa! I guess some folks have their holiday traditions too

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
1:15 pm

Lurker – Uh huh.. You know your style of writing is distinct right..

M. (pronoucd M dot)

December 14th, 2009
1:19 pm

@Melo

“a playa knows how to shuffle their cards..they wont tell u tho….”

What did you mean by this exactly? I think I know what you meant but I dont want to assume….This was directly generally and not to me specifically correct? I just wanted to respond accordingly.

I am whatever you say I am

December 14th, 2009
1:19 pm

I am wishing everyone a warm and safe holiday. be grateful for your loved ones and if you are in a relationship, be grateful

Raqi

December 14th, 2009
1:20 pm

Somebody need one of these this morning

Infamous, I rolled over and bumped into one of those this morning. LOL

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
1:22 pm

I am – This too shall pass.. Im not in a relationship and its cool.. No pressure about anything. Life is what you make it so if youre gonna sit over there and cry in you milk thats not gonna solve anything.. Find a hobby or a something..

If you dont cheer up Imma comeover there and feel you all the way up.. Now what..

Leggs - R Slowly Coming Around

December 14th, 2009
1:22 pm

“…..cameltoe on swole for me so I can pinch it…” If it’s swollen wouldn’t that indicate someone was there before you, or her masturbating got a little out of hand. It doesn’t “swole” on its own (LOLOLOLOL). I’m kidding, I know what you mean!

@Professor ~ preach on my sister, preach on!

Raqi

December 14th, 2009
1:25 pm

Thank you, Dan.

Melo

December 14th, 2009
1:29 pm

What did you mean by this exactly?

read 1.02

why want to rotate when u dont have rotation skills M.(dot)??

(and i dont mean u specifically)

most rotators are zulu with it..they take it in stride(as opposed to being tiger wit it) :lol:

when u get caught M(dot) u jus say “Babey,im sorry,mua mua mua”..and u slam it again with her that evening..it dont even go out public like that…

Now,if u have to get 6 ironed,wedged or putted,u aint a true playa! :lol: proly got some blasian blood! :lol:

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 10 days til my birthday :-)

December 14th, 2009
1:30 pm

” If it’s swollen wouldn’t that indicate someone was there before you, or her masturbating got a little out of hand. It doesn’t “swole” on its own

:shock: Leggs that YOU? Between you,DK and Professor you guys have made my Monday worth laughing at. My science is kicking my butt but reading y’all is making it okay.

Kym--Student No More!!!

December 14th, 2009
1:30 pm

Good Afternoon All,

Just popped in to see the sites..I never really thought about single at the holidays..I mean it is not something I really say ohh no I’m single and its Xmas or New Year’s or Arbor Day. I am just enjoying the time..family is well, the son is well, friends are well(had a great time with some Saturday night and heading out again next Saturday, employed(with a new job title)..so no real reason to feel down. Well except my Steelers are driving me freaking batty..but hell I am even blaming that on the Madden curse. The holidays should not be stressful, it is time for joy, goodwill and holiday cheer..besides if you single you might push up on a good thang at a holiday gathering.

Dan

December 14th, 2009
1:34 pm

My thought about “pushing up on something” during the holidays is equivalent to flirting with a bridesmaid at a wedding….

It’s a limited time offer.

SlimOne...??

December 14th, 2009
1:34 pm

The only thing I rolled over and bumped into was Mr. Bullet. He likes to sleep on the other side of the bed for that “Just In Case of Emergency” situation. ;-)

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 14th, 2009
1:35 pm

@Melo

Question, how old are you or what age range would you fit in?

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
1:37 pm

Slim – See and I be having good boners going to waste..

SlimOne...??

December 14th, 2009
1:37 pm

….try rolling over in middle of the night and…buuuuuuuuuuuuuzzzzzz! :lol:

Kym--Student No More!!!

December 14th, 2009
1:38 pm

Well Dan..if someone is bemoaning the fact they can’t find anyone then maybe it is that limited time offer..they will need to get a jumpstart. Also, it doesn’t have to be limited. You never know.

Leggs - Only Hurts When I Walk Down the stairs!

December 14th, 2009
1:39 pm

@SassyMe ~ I plead the Fifth!

Melo

December 14th, 2009
1:40 pm

“fit in”??

25-150

25= Dream_n

150= Queen Elizabeth

:lol:

is that ur qstion??

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
1:40 pm

Slim and Sassy – Cause I cant fool with Thumbalina and her four sisters.. I’d rather save grade A morningwood for some shagging..

Dan

December 14th, 2009
1:41 pm

@Kym

You right, Imjussayin

Leggs - Only Hurts When I Walk Down the stairs!

December 14th, 2009
1:42 pm

“The only thing I rolled over and bumped into was Mr. Bullet. He likes to sleep on the other side of the bed” That was too funny!

Raqi

December 14th, 2009
1:42 pm

Slimone, he has a pair of boxers that have Christmas trees on it. That’s a package I never mind finding under those trees.

Things that go thump, bump, hump in the night. LOL

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
1:43 pm

Slim – Thats a choice to get your buzz on..

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 10 days til my birthday :-)

December 14th, 2009
1:43 pm

The only thing I rolled over and bumped into was Mr. Bullet.

Slim it sho sounds like a couple of y’all need to be seen(me,too :o ops) I’ve heard of “the bullet” is it really all of that like they say it is?

Melo

December 14th, 2009
1:43 pm

SlimOne…??

chics are still doing Mr Bullet in 2009/2010??

who..tell me, who,other than urself!

If true,then i may have to push for a new bill in the state of GA then country wide!

I am whatever you say I am

December 14th, 2009
1:43 pm

@ infamous, no longer on pity pot…..

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 10 days til my birthday :-)

December 14th, 2009
1:43 pm

that was supposed to be :oops: ,dammyt….

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
1:46 pm

thats funny women be using bullets.. Smile a little more and ya’ll can get that thang shot all to h3ll..

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 14th, 2009
1:46 pm

@Melo

So Im guessing, 45-50?

The reason I asked because I was wondering which age do most people stop having a rotation and franchise one person.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 10 days til my birthday :-)

December 14th, 2009
1:47 pm

I’d rather save grade A morningwood for some shagging..

Yessir!! Ain’t NOTHIN like that mornin wood….sho nuff puts pep in your step or a limp…lol.

Leggs - Danced Hard and Long and is now paying for it!

December 14th, 2009
1:47 pm

“…why want to rotate when u dont have rotation skills M.(dot)??” When someone does this, they usually feel a hot pot of grits being thrown on them while taking a shower. Or, they find their poon tang magnet glued to their stomach!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
1:48 pm

I am – Good cause I was gonna come thru and bust ya a$$. thats the one thing about the blog.. We aint gonna let you throw no pity party here.. H3ll alot us us have been thru the ringer but we still manage to smile and enjoy wonderful lives.. Keep reading and get your smile on, you’ll be aight ASAP..

Leggs - Danced Hard and Long and is now paying for it!

December 14th, 2009
1:51 pm

@ I am ~ pls change your moniker….you are whatever YOU say you are. Never let another define you.

Melo

December 14th, 2009
1:52 pm

do most people stop having a rotation and franchise one person

how old are u urslef u ask these qstions??!

nobody knows for sure..all the studies out there are biased.. :lol:

divorce rate in america is 50 percent, i hear,so those generalizations may not apply….

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
1:52 pm

Go check out my theme music..

El’s Interlude

Raqi

December 14th, 2009
1:53 pm

I was wondering which age do most people stop having a rotation and franchise one person.

Mdot, age has nothing to do with it. People settle down at different times in their lives.

Professor

December 14th, 2009
1:56 pm

Sassy please kindly add Melo to your list…Queen Elizabeth and the magic bullet…getting a bill passed LMAO.

Leggs, I agree that means someone or something got to the “easy button” saying it in my staples voice first. that was easy

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 14th, 2009
1:59 pm

@Melo

I asked about the rotation thing because that would look crazy if a guy is 45 and still trying to date like they are 25…

I’ll be 27 next month. The reason I ask questions is because I always want to learn and elevate my mind all around. I also try to learn from other mistakes that other people made. Sometimes alot of people come off as know it all’s on the blog. Nobody knows everything. That’s why I zip my lips, and listen. Some people confuse experience with knowing it all. There is always going to be a area where someone is not proficient. That’s why you dialogue with others.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
1:59 pm

I am – Heres a good one borrowed from Popeye.. I am what I am

Professor

December 14th, 2009
2:00 pm

I am ~ pls change your moniker….you are whatever YOU say you are. Never let another define you.

Will “I AM DK’s”due j/k

SlimOne...??

December 14th, 2009
2:00 pm

@Infamous “Cause I cant fool with Thumbalina and her four sisters” And why not? Sometimes you have to be your own best friend. lol And I didn’t say i necessarily HAD to bring the bullet out…I simply said he is the only one on the other side of MY bed. Read between the lines. HA HA HA HA!

@Sassy I can only speak for me and I loves my bullet…lawd knows I do…but I’ll kill em dead if i finds out he cheats on me. :lol: But really, it gets straight to the point. No Tom Foolery when Mr Bullet is in town.

@Raqi LOL! I love your thinking about the Christmas Tree Boxers…sounds like a great gift idea. Muuuuhhhhaaaaaa (Evil laugh)

SlimOne...??

December 14th, 2009
2:03 pm

Melo Yes folks still use the Bullet in 2009/2010. I’m a simple chick. I don’t need a Battery operated toy that’s got a limb for every orface on my body which can turn, twist, hum, cook, clean, vibrate, squirt water or anything else all that other high tech stuff does.

Professor

December 14th, 2009
2:03 pm

@M. I think it depends on the person. I have seen some old players fools out there looking crazy. On the flip side I have seen some young’uns holding it down so I really think it depends on the person. I have an uncle by marriage that is still out ther 70 years old…he brags about taking extend and giving the ladies a pounding…from what I heard I will not be in the same place with his dirty azz

Melo

December 14th, 2009
2:07 pm

M(dot) there are 45 yr old rolling stones,who maintain a rotation……

People are getting married for the most part(americans) so they are rotating…maybe not a circular rotation but linear,as time goes on..u know one comes in for 4 motnhts,they push,she out,then in anoher..think Clooney?!!!
there are others,not celebrities doing the same..

Who does Tyler Perry/Hill Harper/Johhny Gil/Brian Mcknight and uncle Ray Ray etc date? or is this a can of worms?? :lol:

Melo

December 14th, 2009
2:09 pm

arent getting married!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 10 days til my birthday :-)

December 14th, 2009
2:10 pm

All of this “spicey” banter is hawt DK, you’re reading all nictey(nice/nasty),and rugged…..you tryna make me backslide.

Professor/Leggs it’s not even Friday yet and we waay off the chain….DK and his “meat” got it started….no it was Slim who started with that “meat” question and we’ve been “rolling” downhill ever since.

That’s why I zip my lips, and listen. Some people confuse experience with knowing it all.

TRUE!!.

Lady J

December 14th, 2009
2:10 pm

MELO I AM SCREAMING LAUGHING @ YOU!!!!!!!! LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I really tried not to post you are a riot! LOL

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
2:11 pm

Slim – Nah babe I rather save that for the shaggin.. It makes the explosion more intense for the both of us.. I mean it aint no substitute for the real thing.. It aint nothing like being between the banks of the amazon..

Grace

December 14th, 2009
2:13 pm

one comes in for 4 motnhts,they push,she out,then in anoher – Melo you’ve got a point there, this has happened to me minus the “push”. :evil:

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 14th, 2009
2:17 pm

@Professor

LOL that is crazy…lol so will your uncle be at the Christmas festivities…lol

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
2:17 pm

Its the weather ya’ll.. I just want to be at home tangled up with somebodys daughter.. Chasing her round the house and everytime I catch her I get to get her..

Ahh but theres work to be done.. Gotta make the donuts..

Melo

December 14th, 2009
2:19 pm

M(dot) the best way to learn dating and stuff and chics is to actually be involved.
U make ur own mistakes,u get played by chics a cpple times,u meet good ones and u the one who phluck up etc..thats the way to learn.

Asking qstions on the blog..it wont get u very far coz most folks wil be fronting anyway..they may not tell u the real deal…this is a singles blog for the most part,so u in competition…why wld smebody want u to get Proffessor and not get her for themeslevs?/ makes sense to u??

So go out there,have fun,shang it..ull learn ur lessons.

Raqi

December 14th, 2009
2:24 pm

Its the weather ya’ll

Yep this weather makes you want to exchange body heat.

It was so cold Saturday if felt like the inside of my body was cold.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 10 days til my birthday :-)

December 14th, 2009
2:29 pm

Yeah this weather’s got me feeling rather “friendly”,too DK….

SexyCool - looCyxeS

December 14th, 2009
2:29 pm

Spent the weekend cuddled up under blankets, drinking cherry rum and watching movies and finishing up season one of 24.

A bonus of working underground in this kind of weather – I can’t see it; so, it’s easier to forget that I’d rather be in bed.

Dan

December 14th, 2009
2:31 pm

@Melo

That (re – 2:07) ain’t a rotation, that’s life homie.

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 14th, 2009
2:38 pm

@Melo

LoL I got you and I am dating I just dont have a starter that I am confident in yet…. (I live in Atlanta so the opportunity is always there). You did make a good point. Some people do front and they come off like they never make mistakes or never slip up. They probably getting played right at this very moment…

They think their spouse is at work…lol thats what she told you. LOL j/k.

@ Melo & Blog. Lets have some truth…So whats the biggest mistake you made, thing that happened to you, or simpish thing you have ever done?

I wonder who will be honest?

Melo

December 14th, 2009
2:39 pm

That (re – 2:07) ain’t a rotation, that’s life homie.

naw,thats undercover,”dignified” rotation.

If u 37 and up,let alone 40 and u still kind find one girl,not 2,just one that u can date for 2 years at least..u like to rotate!
U a rolling stone.

Melo

December 14th, 2009
2:39 pm

cant find! (angst)

SexyCool - looCyxeS

December 14th, 2009
2:41 pm

Trying to believe Shthead when he said he wasn’t cheating on me.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
2:44 pm

Melo

December 14th, 2009
2:46 pm

So whats the biggest mistake you made, thing that happened to you, or simpish thing you have ever done?

I will tell u..

me,it was geting married first time…I became a victim of peer and societal pressure.

Never do that!
At 27,u young,…..phluck as much as u want,lick that cootie,smash on it,kick it,do everything u can possibly do and do three some 2 if u neva done it…just be safe but dont be shy…

Thing is,u get tired of it and it will get outta ur system at some point..

dont worry about Jesus and God coz hes a kind and forgiving God..

Pudsy will make u full and feel kinda cheap at some point..when u get to that point..find one starter,u be good by then!

The smell of good cootie is all the same… :lol:

U wont know this, unless u have phlucked a cpple! :lol:

Lord Velonese

December 14th, 2009
2:48 pm

I wonder who is going to read between my lines today?

The "preaching" Professor

December 14th, 2009
2:54 pm

M (dot) Yes he comes out and tell all of his business. That mess was funny to me about 10-15 years ago he would pop his fingers and move all around looking like a drunken chicken that was having a seizure. However it is no longer funny to me to watch this old man with all of these ailments of fixed income spending his maintenance medication money on “Extend” and playing these women. He will be at the dessert table rambling on.

Scool Is new dude your first relationship since feces head? If so how difficult has it been to open up and trust again? If you don’t mind sharing

The "preaching" Professor

December 14th, 2009
2:56 pm

:shock: I am sitting her in :shock: after reading that 2:46 let me read it again to make sure it is real…LMAO

The "preaching" Professor

December 14th, 2009
3:00 pm

So whats the biggest mistake you made, thing that happened to you, or simpish thing you have ever done?

I stayed in a relationship long after that mess was over…I stayed when I should have been gone. The best thing I did was to….ohhhh I cannot say that but I had to put my foot down so that he would stop calling because I was done and I did not want to be dragged back into something that was not working.

Dan

December 14th, 2009
3:00 pm

@Melo

Gotta disagree again. ‘Cootie’ isn’t the problem, it’s how you chase it that makes you feel cheap.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
3:04 pm

Theme Song #2 – Mind Sex – Dead Prez..

SexyCool - looCyxeS

December 14th, 2009
3:04 pm

Prof – I have done my share of dating in the past year. However, this is the first that has really gone to that next level. And as strong as I like to think I am, I allowed myself to be wounded quite deeply and in ways, the scars are still rather freshly healed, if even totally healed at all.

And while all this feels like sunshine, a certain shade of terror lurks just inside the shadows.

Melo

December 14th, 2009
3:06 pm

@Dan ,u wont neva get cheap coz u chased a girl a ceratin way…

u certainly feel cheap when u in rotation for an extended and endless time and the cootie aint giving u no tangible satisfaction.

U wont realise that till u realize it.

Thats when u decide to seek smething deeper,not just endless cootie.

Boy stop! coz ur experience level is kinda green! :lol:

M. (pronouced M do)

December 14th, 2009
3:08 pm

@Melo

Thanks for being honest. I commend you for keeping it real. Its funny that you mentioned marriage because I am to the point where all my friends are in SUPER serious relationships, engaged, or about to get married. I am not trying to follow suit like that. If I find someone, cool, but like you said, I dont want to succumb to societal pressure and like I said, I need a STARTER.

I was seeing a girl who was trying to preessure me into a relationship and I generally was not ready so I stood my groud.

Also the most sucker thing to happen to me…

I went out with a woman who claimed she was single. We go out, eat, have a good time, the night is flowing, so next we go to hear live music etc. We at the bar chilling and suddenly she goes…OH NO…THERE GOES MY EX!!! And starts trying to hide! Im like what is up with this…

Next the guy comes OVER to where we are…introduces himself like its all good….I was like wow…next hopped in the car and was ready to roll….never spoke in the car….I felt disgusted with her…LOL women can be real slick at times…lol She knew he was going to be there.

Raqi

December 14th, 2009
3:09 pm

Men folk, give me some gift ideas please.

The "preaching" Professor

December 14th, 2009
3:11 pm

Thanks for sharing SCool that is how I felt after a long relationship. However I can remember getting back out there only to retreat again because I just didn’t feel right.

Melo

December 14th, 2009
3:15 pm

M. (pronouced M do)

dont get mad at her coz thats how it is out there….

now if i were u, i wld simply take a mental note,tell her u going to get drinks,move to to to th other side of the bar and come back when they done talking with dude..

but take her home,smash and kiss good bye….
U need some of those for ur pudsy/wang meter and experience,but her game is lame and off, so charge her to the game.

2CPTG......heavily guarded heart!

December 14th, 2009
3:18 pm

Afternoon y’all……been lurkin and peepin’,

but ummm, this right here, is some real shyt!!!!
“u certainly feel cheap when u in rotation for an extended and endless time and the cootie aint giving u no tangible satisfaction.

U wont realise that till u realize it.

Thats when u decide to seek smething deeper,not just endless cootie.”

only a true play a can attest to that! after awhile the endless rotations even become a bore……

Leggs - Danced Hard and Long and is now paying for it!

December 14th, 2009
3:18 pm

@M. ~ “We at the bar chilling and suddenly she goes…OH NO…THERE GOES MY EX!!!” Whenever I hear things like this I think of my ex. We are walking in the mall with lil leggs and he spots his ex walking toward us. Do you know what this fool did. He ran in the nearest store and left us standing there. I had no idea who he was talking about because I never met her, but how cowardice can a man be that he can’t even have his ex walk up in a public mall and not run and shyt on himself. I’m looking left and right not know WTH just went down. He finally tells me he hasn’t told her he’s remarried because he ows money for a car they bought together but when he left NY he left her with the payments. He said he didn’t even know she was in Georgia.

Most know my story, so I didn’t want to keep harping, but mine was staying entirely too long.

Dan

December 14th, 2009
3:19 pm

@Melo

Are you calling me green? Really?

See, to dignify that would mean exposing my hubris and the final vestiages of my younger self, because part of me wants to explain to you just who I is.

But, I’m trying to be more adult these days, so I’ll just say that those that have seen me, and those that have seen you would likely describe the situation much differently.

To the other point, it is the chase that makes you feel dirty. Whether method or time in the game, you and I both agree that at some point the ‘game’ isn’t that fun anymore.

2CPTG......my gift is me!

December 14th, 2009
3:19 pm

damn, forgot to change my phrase for today…..how’s this….

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 14th, 2009
3:20 pm

@Melo

Oh Im not tripping. That was like 3 years ago almost when I first got to Atlanta.

I should have just left her there. Would that be wrong? I mean let your ex take you home.

Has any of you on the blog ever left a date and just bounced?

SexyCool - looCyxeS

December 14th, 2009
3:21 pm

Right now, I am working to make myself stop wondering if I am seeing Shthead’s tendencies in any of TheDude’s actions.

It’s unwarranted and not fair to TheDude, but still, a bit easier said than done.

Dan

December 14th, 2009
3:25 pm

That 3:21 is why I like Ms. SexyCool.

Good isht, kid; good isht.

Melo

December 14th, 2009
3:26 pm

To the other point, it is the chase that makes you feel dirty.

@DAN,if u calling “hunt and kill” as “chase” then we agree..but if u saying “chase” as in the game of it ot the wooing part,then i disagree….

im not sure how old u are so i wld really know if u still chasing or what….

u dont have a girlfriend to speak of,so u proly still on the hunt,kill,and rotate kinda of gmae,meaning u still hungry and not feeling cheap yet…..

If u experienced with, one girlfriend,then u kinda tired of the chase and kill, u want to havae a deeper relationship with one….

Just tell me how many women u slept with this one whole year,if u dont mind, that way i can gauge ur progression..young like M(dot),in rotation or settled??

(hopefully no crickets this time) :lol:

I like tit tay milk

December 14th, 2009
3:28 pm

@sc….We hold on to the past because we fear the future

Therefore in my view when the courtier wishes to declare
his love he should do so by his actions rather than by
speech, for a man’s feelings are sometimes more clearly re¬
vealed by . . . a gesture of respect or a certain shyness than
by volumes of words.
—BALDASSARE CASTIGLIONE

if his actions are matching up to what you believe love is to you..go with it

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 14th, 2009
3:28 pm

@Leggs – Danced Hard and Long and is now paying for it!

LOL DANG! That’s how I felt like what am I missing? She was like trying to hide and then play it off.

The worst part of it all was that I bet she was still dealing with this guy and he obviously moved on…

Grace

December 14th, 2009
3:29 pm

Call Girl Linked to Ex-N.Y. Gov. Eliot Spitzer Writes N.Y. Post S3x Column – this should be very interesting!

Melo

December 14th, 2009
3:29 pm

me he hasn’t told her he’s remarried because he ows money for a car they bought together but when he left NY he left her with the payments

funny Leggs LMAO!!! :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
3:32 pm

She smiles, I smile
She walks, no she glides softly by me changing night into day
She opens her mouth to speak, and so sounds ring in my head
She speaks, and i want to dance to her rhythm
She moves ever so gently, increasing my desires,
As i place my arms around her waist,
Hold and squeeze unto me,
I want to melt into her body, and discover the base of her warmth
Her beautiful black body that, no human mind could ever conceive
She’s love
She’s truth
She’s real, as real as the stars that shine in the heavens
As real as the sun that bathes her body,
As real as the moon that glows and the birds that sing and the rose
That blossoms in spring for she is that rose
And not just any rose,
But a black rose,
Black rose stands tall and stronger than any other plant
A black rose, that stands as creator, of nations of
Black rose
That never loses her petals, and blossoms all year round
Black rose,
Sweet rose,
Thornless rose
Eternal rose
Please look my way,
Please look my way
Please look my way
Black rose

SexyCool - looCyxeS

December 14th, 2009
3:32 pm

Hey, Rell – ~lmao~

Dan

December 14th, 2009
3:33 pm

@Melo

Given some of your past statements regarding the anatomy of other males (and my aforementioned privacy concerns): I respectfully decline your request.

But to say that I haven’t had a deeper connection is false. I’ve had it, lost it, and like others I haven’t been eager to go down that road again.

And as I step back out, I venture with a better knowledge of self; including what I want in the person I’ll spend my life with.

Leggs -U C the F and F went out the window, but still F!

December 14th, 2009
3:35 pm

@M. ~ Just shady. We were already married, but I knew nothing about cosigning on a car. After a while I started receiving phone calls asking if I would help repay this loan. After the 3rd phone call in no uncertain terms it was their last call ever made to ME.

@Melo ~ nothing funny there…simply childish and inexcusable!

DreamsMaterialize

December 14th, 2009
3:38 pm

Hey Blog Crew. Hope everyone is well.

People have a tendency to ADD difficulty to things that should be easy. Holidays aren’t difficult. If I didn’t take you to meet my family the day before Thanksgiving, then you’re probably not going on Thanksgiving. If I didn’t give you a gift before Christmas, don’t hold your breath for one on Christmas. The holidays are like all the other days…our relationship will be on the holidays what it was all the days leading up to it.

Melo

December 14th, 2009
3:39 pm

Given some of your past statements regarding the anatomy of other males

I wld think that wld be a good opportunity to fend me off if i wanted to phluck u (coz im gay?) coz u have a girlfriend or girlfriends and dont do males??

But NO,im gay(accrding to u) but U dont have a girlfriend nor girlfreinds to prove that u str8 and have phlucked a girl this year??

Now who is gay?????? :lol:

LOGIC?????

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
3:40 pm

Hey guys knock off the Gay comments cause Im a Lesbian and Im taking offense to your commentary..

The "preaching" Professor

December 14th, 2009
3:41 pm

Has any of you on the blog ever left a date and just bounced?

Yup

SCool you and TheDude has been kicking it for like 3 or 4 months now so that is enough time to see patterns. When I say patterns I am talking about in you and him. I PMS so I know if things go wrong during that time 9.7/10 it is ME. Look at things both ways, but I feel you girl it is hard.

Dan

December 14th, 2009
3:41 pm

Dude, I’m not blog fighting with you.

I’m just saying:

1) you’ve made some suspect statement in the past and;

2) I’mma grown man, I don’t need you to tell me where I’m at in my life.

To prove what to who?

Man please.

DreamsMaterialize

December 14th, 2009
3:42 pm

@BK
That Dead Prez is tight. Cats sleep on them.

Melo

December 14th, 2009
3:44 pm

To prove what to who?
@Dan

U blog like a girl,bringing up old stuff,week in week out…

thats what my Queen does! :lol:

Dan

December 14th, 2009
3:47 pm

Yeah, aight Melo.

Again, my track record vs. yours.

Beautiful

December 14th, 2009
3:50 pm

taking a three hour lunch. gonna do some errands and get the car washed.

whatchy’all talkn bout?

Raqi, happy holidays to you and the family! How’s the Princess?

bbl.

SexyCool - looCyxeS

December 14th, 2009
3:51 pm

Prof – You make a very good point. It is nearing that time. I am the one that’s crazy. LOL!

I just got a little antsy this weekend because I asked him a question and thought the answer that he gave was too vague. Then he got irritated with me because of how I was attempting to handle him because of it. In the end, he was like, “Well, if you wanted to know that, you should have just asked that.”

My bad.

Melo

December 14th, 2009
3:52 pm

Again, my track record vs. yours.

we dont knows urs coz u have privacy concerns on it! :roll:

They know Queen here,some have seen her on pics…

U???
i know i got the option to get mines wet each night…

who is phluckking u??

MsM

December 14th, 2009
3:57 pm

@ Melo & Dan … Fella’s come on now! Cat fights I can read because they are hilarious, but guys… NO!

Dan

December 14th, 2009
4:00 pm

Who’s cat fighting?

I said what I said, and I’m done with it

SexyCool - looCyxeS

December 14th, 2009
4:01 pm

Background on that…Shthead was the king of Vaguely Answering Questions.

Example:
Q. Where are you going?
A. Out.

Q. Who was with you?
A. Some folk from work.

Q. What time will you be back?
A. Before too late.

Raqi

December 14th, 2009
4:05 pm

Hello Beautiful. The princess is doing just fine.

Dan

December 14th, 2009
4:06 pm

@SC

We all do that from time to time, either because we don’t feel like sharing or we don’t want you to know.

Think about it like this, its Christmas time, he might not have wanted to tell you whatever so you wouldn’t get a sense of his gift giving idea. See, a good light on a potentially bad situation.

Melo

December 14th, 2009
4:07 pm

MsM???

when smebody says they have a track record,u cant help but ask:

With Who?? :lol:

now,thangs get grey… :lol:

dont call smebody gay if u have no penis!

LURKER

December 14th, 2009
4:07 pm

Those are some good answers SC! :smile:

My Professor, my little Professor how art thou today? It would be a honor to go with you to your company christmas party as Mr. LURKER!
:wink:

Leggs -U C the F and F went out the window, but still F!

December 14th, 2009
4:08 pm

I despise this vague answer:

Me: When will I see you?
Him: Hopefully, sooner than later! WTH, nothing was said here! Just words floating in the wind!

Raqi

December 14th, 2009
4:09 pm

SexyCool, once you have been hurt it hard not to look for the warning signs in others.

The thing is if we don’t stay mindful of that stuff we set ourselves up to be got again. The key is to not become paranoid.

For a long time I didn’t trust men at all because of my round with whitebread. The minute they opened their mouth I labeled it as a lie.

MsM

December 14th, 2009
4:11 pm

@ Melo & Dan Neither one of you read “gay” But anyhoo…

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
4:12 pm

Im sorry to all the loves ive had before.. I was a vague B@stard.. And can still be if you piss me off.. I have been very nonchalant about alot of things..

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 14th, 2009
4:12 pm

I think I just gained 5 lbs… Co. catered lunch for us today.

Soooo what subject are we on now?

Raqi

December 14th, 2009
4:13 pm

Leggs, yeah that answering without answering. Reeks of guilt and misbehaving.

SexyCool - looCyxeS

December 14th, 2009
4:13 pm

I think that’s a very good way of putting it – remaining aware while guarding against paranoia.

Raqi

December 14th, 2009
4:14 pm

The vague answers and being on the defense all the time are signs.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 14th, 2009
4:17 pm

Raqi – No it doesnt it just reeks of a dude is tired of your questions..

Leggs

December 14th, 2009
4:21 pm

No, it doesn’t mean the dude is tired of your questions. Not at all!

Raqi

December 14th, 2009
4:21 pm

Infamous, are you one of those guys that do not give his lady the freedom to ask him where he is going or what he is doing?

LURKER

December 14th, 2009
4:22 pm

I see Dwight Howard is giving the women of Florida and Atlanta his christmas stick? Go head playa, play on!

SexyCool….What do you want from DUDE at this very moment in your relationship that he is not giving you?

Leggs

December 14th, 2009
4:22 pm

What it reeks of is an older “playa” thinking he can spin words around an unsuspecting, gullible, just new to dating fool! That’s what it reeks of.

Melo

December 14th, 2009
4:23 pm

what did u ask him Scool..if u dont mind..and his answer??

Raqi

December 14th, 2009
4:23 pm

Leggs, LOL, yeah if he is tired of my questions and I’ve only asked him two questions the is something going on with him.

I like tit tay milk

December 14th, 2009
4:25 pm

I just got a little antsy this weekend because I asked him a question and thought the answer that he gave was too vague. Then he got irritated with me because of how I was attempting to handle him because of it. In the end, he was like, “Well, if you wanted to know that, you should have just asked that.”

My bad.

- dayum dayum dayum….can we just send “that girl” on a vaca or something…and whats with the questions….????

LURKER

December 14th, 2009
4:25 pm

Totally Co-Sign with INFAMOUS-DK…Sometimes we get tired of answering 2 thousand questions from you! Relax and it will be alright! Let’s enjoy each moment we have to spin together!

Leggs

December 14th, 2009
4:25 pm

@Raqi, yep yep!

The "preaching" Professor

December 14th, 2009
4:29 pm

who is phluckking u?? LMAOROTFL we dont knows urs coz u have privacy concerns on it! HoT Dayum

Scool~ PMS is also like liquor to me…I ask more questions, and of course my nerves are bad too.

Leggs

December 14th, 2009
4:33 pm

@Lurker, again, it’s not always about the amount of questions being asked but more about your mask of deception.

The "preaching" Professor

December 14th, 2009
4:34 pm

…catching up.

LURKER~My Professor, my little Professor how art thou today? It would be a honor to go with you to your company christmas party as Mr. LURKER! I am good, as for the christmas party I will have to decline my little lurker :evil:

Dream~ I am going to meet you at 5 Points station wrap me up a plate…

LURKER

December 14th, 2009
4:34 pm

It’s a good thing Raqi is on this blog to express her thoughts and ideas because if she did not have a forum to express Mason would be in big trouble! Raqi can run it those lips! :smile:

Melo

December 14th, 2009
4:34 pm

look at the eyes Scool..

is he looking at u str8 in the eye…??

if direct eye contact aint there….u got it!

Raqi

December 14th, 2009
4:35 pm

Yeah, Leggs a mask of deception.

The "preaching" Professor

December 14th, 2009
4:38 pm

Leggs right on with that 4:35!
Melo is it ever right to cross examine dude if he is looking down mumbling and lying…just asking

Melo

December 14th, 2009
4:38 pm

u ladies arent making this ish easy..
@Raqi/Leggs
u running to conclusions be4 u have full info… :evil:

DreamsMaterialize

December 14th, 2009
4:39 pm

Sometimes we just don’t feel like answering questions. I go from having no one asking any questions to an interrogation. Yes even simple questions seem like too much when you’ve been used to doing whaterver you want, whenever, with whomever.

LURKER

December 14th, 2009
4:40 pm

PROFESSSSSSOOOOORRRRRR…..NOOOOOOOOO! This could be the beginning of a beautiful,luving, careful,thoughtful, and extremely physical relationship! Trust me your co-workers will luv what’s on your arm that night! :wink: :smile: :wink:

Leggs

December 14th, 2009
4:41 pm

Sheesh tomorrow is my day to cook for department holiday festivities. I’ve been adopted by other departments since it’s only me and my boss. Mac n cheese, yams and baked beans is my side. We will have collards, potato salad and ribs to go along with that for lunch. Others are bring in breakfast, lunch is on me and a few others!

Melo

December 14th, 2009
4:41 pm

well its not corss exmaining but if u ask and dude aint looking at u but looking smewhere else and fiddling with some other stuff but u talking to him..??

not a good look..

a good cheat will juss say:

“we werent to velvet with jimmie,chris and dan,it was packed so we left and ended up at strokkers..looking at u str8 in the eye!

(but its a lie)

thats called lying with a str8 face! :lol:

u need practice tho! :lol:

Raqi

December 14th, 2009
4:42 pm

Melo, we are talking about those vague answering that are usually accompanied by an avoidance of eye contact and a bit of defense or irritation.

“Where are you going?” is a very reasonable question.

Leggs

December 14th, 2009
4:44 pm

It’s not that you’re answering the question, but more HOW YOU’RE ANSWERING it makes that one eye brow stand at attention.

Raqi

December 14th, 2009
4:44 pm

DreamsMaterialize, that’s why I say if you want to live like you are single, stay single. When in a committed relationship you are accountable to your mate. That’s the type of stuff that needs to be considered before you commit yourself to someone.

The "preaching" Professor

December 14th, 2009
4:44 pm

…stepping out.

LURKER I would suggest we discuss this tomorrow, but I am not looking for any of those things you mentioned. …could be the beginning of a beautiful,luving, careful,thoughtful, and extremely physical relationship!

LURKER

December 14th, 2009
4:47 pm

Professor…. I might look down when answering a question because I am blinded by your beauty! hehehehehehe!

@Leggs… I agree being evasive can seem like you are hiding something, but sometimes women we have tough days just like you do and would like to relax and not field questions all the time! Because you do ask a lot of questions!

SexyCool…Do not be afraid to luv DUDE, you heart is made to Luv!

Melo

December 14th, 2009
4:48 pm

Where are you going?”
@Raqi
yes,but if he a reasonably young dude and goes to clubs,then there is no st8 forward answer coz most pple check different clubs out be4 settling on one,eventually!

MsM

December 14th, 2009
4:48 pm

that’s why I say if you want to live like you are single, stay single. When in a committed relationship you are accountable to your mate. That’s the type of stuff that needs to be considered before you commit yourself to someone. Amen, Amen!

Leggs

December 14th, 2009
4:50 pm

We all understand that. You too need to unwind and relax not fielding questions. Women start with the richoceting questions when they get answers like the one you gave Professor :arrow: might look down when answering a question because I am blinded by your beauty! Although I know you’re playing there are many that will playdown the question to shut her up and that’s what makes the brain tick louder!

DreamsMaterialize

December 14th, 2009
4:52 pm

Raqi. I agree. That’s why I’m single. lol

Leggs

December 14th, 2009
4:56 pm

Good night, all

No one is in charge of your happiness but you. ~ dedicated to “i am”!

Clap, clap, still clapping!

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 14th, 2009
5:13 pm

Professor! I got you :wink:

Today I hardly worked.. I love the holidays!

we dont knows urs coz u have privacy concerns on it!

Melo.. u are a straight fool!!!

Night Beautiful People/Keep Smiling and Be Safe!!

BTW: 2C… I loved your post from Friday evening… I cracked up! :lol:

Night Prof/Melo/Leggs

Melo..

I am whatever you say I am

December 14th, 2009
5:40 pm

@ EVERYONE on the blog: My name is more of in reference to Eninem

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