Single-ish During the Holidays
If you have a current person of interest things can get tricky. Holidays has this weird double-edged sword effect. From the awkward gift exchanges, to meeting friends and family,to accompanying each other to parties – it can accelerate a good thing, or hit the brakes on a bad one.
If you have only just started seeing each other, expectations during the holiday should be kept in perspective. I think it is a good idea to use the extra time you have together to do fun activities that allow you to showcase your personalities.
Instead of conforming to the idea of being a “couple during the holidays” why not seize the opportunity to be relaxed and silly. No expectations or obligations.
If you don’t get to spend a lot of time with the your new person of interest, don’t count it all bad. They may have had prior social obligations or trips already scheduled. It doesn’t mean they are not interested.
What are you planning for the holidays? Will you be going to a lot of events solo or do you plan to take someone you are spending time with now?
What will you do about gift exchange? Do you plan to bring it up? Ignore it altogether? Would you be uncomfortable giving gifts to someone you just started dating?
If you have only just met, but you are really enjoying the person’s company, what kind of gift would be appropriate?
Are you single or single-ish for the holidays?
Happy Monday!
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Melo
December 14th, 2009
3:44 pm
To prove what to who?
@Dan
U blog like a girl,bringing up old stuff,week in week out…
thats what my Queen does!
Dan
December 14th, 2009
3:47 pm
Yeah, aight Melo.
Again, my track record vs. yours.
Beautiful
December 14th, 2009
3:50 pm
taking a three hour lunch. gonna do some errands and get the car washed.
whatchy’all talkn bout?
Raqi, happy holidays to you and the family! How’s the Princess?
bbl.
SexyCool - looCyxeS
December 14th, 2009
3:51 pm
Prof – You make a very good point. It is nearing that time. I am the one that’s crazy. LOL!
I just got a little antsy this weekend because I asked him a question and thought the answer that he gave was too vague. Then he got irritated with me because of how I was attempting to handle him because of it. In the end, he was like, “Well, if you wanted to know that, you should have just asked that.”
My bad.
Melo
December 14th, 2009
3:52 pm
Again, my track record vs. yours.
we dont knows urs coz u have privacy concerns on it!
They know Queen here,some have seen her on pics…
U???
i know i got the option to get mines wet each night…
who is phluckking u??
MsM
December 14th, 2009
3:57 pm
@ Melo & Dan … Fella’s come on now! Cat fights I can read because they are hilarious, but guys… NO!
Dan
December 14th, 2009
4:00 pm
Who’s cat fighting?
I said what I said, and I’m done with it
SexyCool - looCyxeS
December 14th, 2009
4:01 pm
Background on that…Shthead was the king of Vaguely Answering Questions.
Example:
Q. Where are you going?
A. Out.
Q. Who was with you?
A. Some folk from work.
Q. What time will you be back?
A. Before too late.
Raqi
December 14th, 2009
4:05 pm
Hello Beautiful. The princess is doing just fine.
Dan
December 14th, 2009
4:06 pm
@SC
We all do that from time to time, either because we don’t feel like sharing or we don’t want you to know.
Think about it like this, its Christmas time, he might not have wanted to tell you whatever so you wouldn’t get a sense of his gift giving idea. See, a good light on a potentially bad situation.
Melo
December 14th, 2009
4:07 pm
MsM???
when smebody says they have a track record,u cant help but ask:
With Who??
now,thangs get grey…
dont call smebody gay if u have no penis!
LURKER
December 14th, 2009
4:07 pm
Those are some good answers SC!
My Professor, my little Professor how art thou today? It would be a honor to go with you to your company christmas party as Mr. LURKER!
Leggs -U C the F and F went out the window, but still F!
December 14th, 2009
4:08 pm
I despise this vague answer:
Me: When will I see you?
Him: Hopefully, sooner than later! WTH, nothing was said here! Just words floating in the wind!
Raqi
December 14th, 2009
4:09 pm
SexyCool, once you have been hurt it hard not to look for the warning signs in others.
The thing is if we don’t stay mindful of that stuff we set ourselves up to be got again. The key is to not become paranoid.
For a long time I didn’t trust men at all because of my round with whitebread. The minute they opened their mouth I labeled it as a lie.
MsM
December 14th, 2009
4:11 pm
@ Melo & Dan Neither one of you read “gay” But anyhoo…
THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD
December 14th, 2009
4:12 pm
Im sorry to all the loves ive had before.. I was a vague B@stard.. And can still be if you piss me off.. I have been very nonchalant about alot of things..
Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach
December 14th, 2009
4:12 pm
I think I just gained 5 lbs… Co. catered lunch for us today.
Soooo what subject are we on now?
Raqi
December 14th, 2009
4:13 pm
Leggs, yeah that answering without answering. Reeks of guilt and misbehaving.
SexyCool - looCyxeS
December 14th, 2009
4:13 pm
I think that’s a very good way of putting it – remaining aware while guarding against paranoia.
Raqi
December 14th, 2009
4:14 pm
The vague answers and being on the defense all the time are signs.
THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD
December 14th, 2009
4:17 pm
Raqi – No it doesnt it just reeks of a dude is tired of your questions..
Leggs
December 14th, 2009
4:21 pm
No, it doesn’t mean the dude is tired of your questions. Not at all!
Raqi
December 14th, 2009
4:21 pm
Infamous, are you one of those guys that do not give his lady the freedom to ask him where he is going or what he is doing?
LURKER
December 14th, 2009
4:22 pm
I see Dwight Howard is giving the women of Florida and Atlanta his christmas stick? Go head playa, play on!
SexyCool….What do you want from DUDE at this very moment in your relationship that he is not giving you?
Leggs
December 14th, 2009
4:22 pm
What it reeks of is an older “playa” thinking he can spin words around an unsuspecting, gullible, just new to dating fool! That’s what it reeks of.
Melo
December 14th, 2009
4:23 pm
what did u ask him Scool..if u dont mind..and his answer??
Raqi
December 14th, 2009
4:23 pm
Leggs, LOL, yeah if he is tired of my questions and I’ve only asked him two questions the is something going on with him.
I like tit tay milk
December 14th, 2009
4:25 pm
I just got a little antsy this weekend because I asked him a question and thought the answer that he gave was too vague. Then he got irritated with me because of how I was attempting to handle him because of it. In the end, he was like, “Well, if you wanted to know that, you should have just asked that.”
My bad.
- dayum dayum dayum….can we just send “that girl” on a vaca or something…and whats with the questions….????
LURKER
December 14th, 2009
4:25 pm
Totally Co-Sign with INFAMOUS-DK…Sometimes we get tired of answering 2 thousand questions from you! Relax and it will be alright! Let’s enjoy each moment we have to spin together!
Leggs
December 14th, 2009
4:25 pm
@Raqi, yep yep!
The "preaching" Professor
December 14th, 2009
4:29 pm
who is phluckking u?? LMAOROTFL we dont knows urs coz u have privacy concerns on it! HoT Dayum
Scool~ PMS is also like liquor to me…I ask more questions, and of course my nerves are bad too.
Leggs
December 14th, 2009
4:33 pm
@Lurker, again, it’s not always about the amount of questions being asked but more about your mask of deception.
The "preaching" Professor
December 14th, 2009
4:34 pm
…catching up.
LURKER~My Professor, my little Professor how art thou today? It would be a honor to go with you to your company christmas party as Mr. LURKER! I am good, as for the christmas party I will have to decline my little lurker
Dream~ I am going to meet you at 5 Points station wrap me up a plate…
LURKER
December 14th, 2009
4:34 pm
It’s a good thing Raqi is on this blog to express her thoughts and ideas because if she did not have a forum to express Mason would be in big trouble! Raqi can run it those lips!
Melo
December 14th, 2009
4:34 pm
look at the eyes Scool..
is he looking at u str8 in the eye…??
if direct eye contact aint there….u got it!
Raqi
December 14th, 2009
4:35 pm
Yeah, Leggs a mask of deception.
The "preaching" Professor
December 14th, 2009
4:38 pm
Leggs right on with that 4:35!
Melo is it ever right to cross examine dude if he is looking down mumbling and lying…just asking
Melo
December 14th, 2009
4:38 pm
u ladies arent making this ish easy..
@Raqi/Leggs
u running to conclusions be4 u have full info…
DreamsMaterialize
December 14th, 2009
4:39 pm
Sometimes we just don’t feel like answering questions. I go from having no one asking any questions to an interrogation. Yes even simple questions seem like too much when you’ve been used to doing whaterver you want, whenever, with whomever.
LURKER
December 14th, 2009
4:40 pm
PROFESSSSSSOOOOORRRRRR…..NOOOOOOOOO! This could be the beginning of a beautiful,luving, careful,thoughtful, and extremely physical relationship! Trust me your co-workers will luv what’s on your arm that night!
Leggs
December 14th, 2009
4:41 pm
Sheesh tomorrow is my day to cook for department holiday festivities. I’ve been adopted by other departments since it’s only me and my boss. Mac n cheese, yams and baked beans is my side. We will have collards, potato salad and ribs to go along with that for lunch. Others are bring in breakfast, lunch is on me and a few others!
Melo
December 14th, 2009
4:41 pm
well its not corss exmaining but if u ask and dude aint looking at u but looking smewhere else and fiddling with some other stuff but u talking to him..??
not a good look..
a good cheat will juss say:
“we werent to velvet with jimmie,chris and dan,it was packed so we left and ended up at strokkers..looking at u str8 in the eye!
(but its a lie)
thats called lying with a str8 face!
u need practice tho!
Raqi
December 14th, 2009
4:42 pm
Melo, we are talking about those vague answering that are usually accompanied by an avoidance of eye contact and a bit of defense or irritation.
“Where are you going?” is a very reasonable question.
Leggs
December 14th, 2009
4:44 pm
It’s not that you’re answering the question, but more HOW YOU’RE ANSWERING it makes that one eye brow stand at attention.
Raqi
December 14th, 2009
4:44 pm
DreamsMaterialize, that’s why I say if you want to live like you are single, stay single. When in a committed relationship you are accountable to your mate. That’s the type of stuff that needs to be considered before you commit yourself to someone.
The "preaching" Professor
December 14th, 2009
4:44 pm
…stepping out.
LURKER I would suggest we discuss this tomorrow, but I am not looking for any of those things you mentioned. …could be the beginning of a beautiful,luving, careful,thoughtful, and extremely physical relationship!
LURKER
December 14th, 2009
4:47 pm
Professor…. I might look down when answering a question because I am blinded by your beauty! hehehehehehe!
@Leggs… I agree being evasive can seem like you are hiding something, but sometimes women we have tough days just like you do and would like to relax and not field questions all the time! Because you do ask a lot of questions!
SexyCool…Do not be afraid to luv DUDE, you heart is made to Luv!
Melo
December 14th, 2009
4:48 pm
Where are you going?”
@Raqi
yes,but if he a reasonably young dude and goes to clubs,then there is no st8 forward answer coz most pple check different clubs out be4 settling on one,eventually!
MsM
December 14th, 2009
4:48 pm
that’s why I say if you want to live like you are single, stay single. When in a committed relationship you are accountable to your mate. That’s the type of stuff that needs to be considered before you commit yourself to someone. Amen, Amen!
Leggs
December 14th, 2009
4:50 pm
We all understand that. You too need to unwind and relax not fielding questions. Women start with the richoceting questions when they get answers like the one you gave Professor
might look down when answering a question because I am blinded by your beauty! Although I know you’re playing there are many that will playdown the question to shut her up and that’s what makes the brain tick louder!