Single-ish During the Holidays
If you have a current person of interest things can get tricky. Holidays has this weird double-edged sword effect. From the awkward gift exchanges, to meeting friends and family,to accompanying each other to parties – it can accelerate a good thing, or hit the brakes on a bad one.
If you have only just started seeing each other, expectations during the holiday should be kept in perspective. I think it is a good idea to use the extra time you have together to do fun activities that allow you to showcase your personalities.
Instead of conforming to the idea of being a “couple during the holidays” why not seize the opportunity to be relaxed and silly. No expectations or obligations.
If you don’t get to spend a lot of time with the your new person of interest, don’t count it all bad. They may have had prior social obligations or trips already scheduled. It doesn’t mean they are not interested.
What are you planning for the holidays? Will you be going to a lot of events solo or do you plan to take someone you are spending time with now?
What will you do about gift exchange? Do you plan to bring it up? Ignore it altogether? Would you be uncomfortable giving gifts to someone you just started dating?
If you have only just met, but you are really enjoying the person’s company, what kind of gift would be appropriate?
Are you single or single-ish for the holidays?
Happy Monday!
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lurker
December 14th, 2009
1:08 pm
DK, did you wake up with a stiff one or what? You betta talk to the hand!
Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 10 days til my birthday :-)
December 14th, 2009
1:09 pm
You betta talk to the hand!
It’s just not the same….it’s not.
THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD
December 14th, 2009
1:11 pm
Lurker – I always wake up with a stiff one and if I dont have company I just think my my my thats a nice boner gone to waste.. Somebody need one of these this morning.. But at any rate..
The "preaching" Professor
December 14th, 2009
1:12 pm
You betta talk to the hand!
Whoa! I guess some folks have their holiday traditions too
THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD
December 14th, 2009
1:15 pm
Lurker – Uh huh.. You know your style of writing is distinct right..
M. (pronoucd M dot)
December 14th, 2009
1:19 pm
@Melo
“a playa knows how to shuffle their cards..they wont tell u tho….”
What did you mean by this exactly? I think I know what you meant but I dont want to assume….This was directly generally and not to me specifically correct? I just wanted to respond accordingly.
I am whatever you say I am
December 14th, 2009
1:19 pm
I am wishing everyone a warm and safe holiday. be grateful for your loved ones and if you are in a relationship, be grateful
Raqi
December 14th, 2009
1:20 pm
Somebody need one of these this morning
Infamous, I rolled over and bumped into one of those this morning. LOL
THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD
December 14th, 2009
1:22 pm
I am – This too shall pass.. Im not in a relationship and its cool.. No pressure about anything. Life is what you make it so if youre gonna sit over there and cry in you milk thats not gonna solve anything.. Find a hobby or a something..
If you dont cheer up Imma comeover there and feel you all the way up.. Now what..
Leggs - R Slowly Coming Around
December 14th, 2009
1:22 pm
“…..cameltoe on swole for me so I can pinch it…” If it’s swollen wouldn’t that indicate someone was there before you, or her masturbating got a little out of hand. It doesn’t “swole” on its own (LOLOLOLOL). I’m kidding, I know what you mean!
@Professor ~ preach on my sister, preach on!
Raqi
December 14th, 2009
1:25 pm
Thank you, Dan.
Melo
December 14th, 2009
1:29 pm
What did you mean by this exactly?
read 1.02
why want to rotate when u dont have rotation skills M.(dot)??
(and i dont mean u specifically)
most rotators are zulu with it..they take it in stride(as opposed to being tiger wit it)
when u get caught M(dot) u jus say “Babey,im sorry,mua mua mua”..and u slam it again with her that evening..it dont even go out public like that…
Now,if u have to get 6 ironed,wedged or putted,u aint a true playa!
proly got some blasian blood! 
Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 10 days til my birthday :-)
December 14th, 2009
1:30 pm
” If it’s swollen wouldn’t that indicate someone was there before you, or her masturbating got a little out of hand. It doesn’t “swole” on its own
Kym--Student No More!!!
December 14th, 2009
1:30 pm
Good Afternoon All,
Just popped in to see the sites..I never really thought about single at the holidays..I mean it is not something I really say ohh no I’m single and its Xmas or New Year’s or Arbor Day. I am just enjoying the time..family is well, the son is well, friends are well(had a great time with some Saturday night and heading out again next Saturday, employed(with a new job title)..so no real reason to feel down. Well except my Steelers are driving me freaking batty..but hell I am even blaming that on the Madden curse. The holidays should not be stressful, it is time for joy, goodwill and holiday cheer..besides if you single you might push up on a good thang at a holiday gathering.
Dan
December 14th, 2009
1:34 pm
My thought about “pushing up on something” during the holidays is equivalent to flirting with a bridesmaid at a wedding….
It’s a limited time offer.
SlimOne...??
December 14th, 2009
1:34 pm
The only thing I rolled over and bumped into was Mr. Bullet. He likes to sleep on the other side of the bed for that “Just In Case of Emergency” situation.
M. (pronouced M dot)
December 14th, 2009
1:35 pm
@Melo
Question, how old are you or what age range would you fit in?
THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD
December 14th, 2009
1:37 pm
Slim – See and I be having good boners going to waste..
SlimOne...??
December 14th, 2009
1:37 pm
….try rolling over in middle of the night and…buuuuuuuuuuuuuzzzzzz!
Kym--Student No More!!!
December 14th, 2009
1:38 pm
Well Dan..if someone is bemoaning the fact they can’t find anyone then maybe it is that limited time offer..they will need to get a jumpstart. Also, it doesn’t have to be limited. You never know.
Leggs - Only Hurts When I Walk Down the stairs!
December 14th, 2009
1:39 pm
@SassyMe ~ I plead the Fifth!
Melo
December 14th, 2009
1:40 pm
“fit in”??
25-150
25= Dream_n
150= Queen Elizabeth
is that ur qstion??
THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD
December 14th, 2009
1:40 pm
Slim and Sassy – Cause I cant fool with Thumbalina and her four sisters.. I’d rather save grade A morningwood for some shagging..
Dan
December 14th, 2009
1:41 pm
@Kym
You right, Imjussayin
Leggs - Only Hurts When I Walk Down the stairs!
December 14th, 2009
1:42 pm
“The only thing I rolled over and bumped into was Mr. Bullet. He likes to sleep on the other side of the bed” That was too funny!
Raqi
December 14th, 2009
1:42 pm
Slimone, he has a pair of boxers that have Christmas trees on it. That’s a package I never mind finding under those trees.
Things that go thump, bump, hump in the night. LOL
THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD
December 14th, 2009
1:43 pm
Slim – Thats a choice to get your buzz on..
Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 10 days til my birthday :-)
December 14th, 2009
1:43 pm
The only thing I rolled over and bumped into was Mr. Bullet.
Slim it sho sounds like a couple of y’all need to be seen(me,too
ops) I’ve heard of “the bullet” is it really all of that like they say it is?
Melo
December 14th, 2009
1:43 pm
SlimOne…??
chics are still doing Mr Bullet in 2009/2010??
who..tell me, who,other than urself!
If true,then i may have to push for a new bill in the state of GA then country wide!
I am whatever you say I am
December 14th, 2009
1:43 pm
@ infamous, no longer on pity pot…..
Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 10 days til my birthday :-)
December 14th, 2009
1:43 pm
that was supposed to be
,dammyt….
THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD
December 14th, 2009
1:46 pm
thats funny women be using bullets.. Smile a little more and ya’ll can get that thang shot all to h3ll..
M. (pronouced M dot)
December 14th, 2009
1:46 pm
@Melo
So Im guessing, 45-50?
The reason I asked because I was wondering which age do most people stop having a rotation and franchise one person.
Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 10 days til my birthday :-)
December 14th, 2009
1:47 pm
I’d rather save grade A morningwood for some shagging..
Yessir!! Ain’t NOTHIN like that mornin wood….sho nuff puts pep in your step or a limp…lol.
Leggs - Danced Hard and Long and is now paying for it!
December 14th, 2009
1:47 pm
“…why want to rotate when u dont have rotation skills M.(dot)??” When someone does this, they usually feel a hot pot of grits being thrown on them while taking a shower. Or, they find their poon tang magnet glued to their stomach!
THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD
December 14th, 2009
1:48 pm
I am – Good cause I was gonna come thru and bust ya a$$. thats the one thing about the blog.. We aint gonna let you throw no pity party here.. H3ll alot us us have been thru the ringer but we still manage to smile and enjoy wonderful lives.. Keep reading and get your smile on, you’ll be aight ASAP..
Leggs - Danced Hard and Long and is now paying for it!
December 14th, 2009
1:51 pm
@ I am ~ pls change your moniker….you are whatever YOU say you are. Never let another define you.
Melo
December 14th, 2009
1:52 pm
do most people stop having a rotation and franchise one person
how old are u urslef u ask these qstions??!
nobody knows for sure..all the studies out there are biased..
divorce rate in america is 50 percent, i hear,so those generalizations may not apply….
THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD
December 14th, 2009
1:52 pm
Go check out my theme music..
El’s Interlude
Raqi
December 14th, 2009
1:53 pm
I was wondering which age do most people stop having a rotation and franchise one person.
Mdot, age has nothing to do with it. People settle down at different times in their lives.
Professor
December 14th, 2009
1:56 pm
Sassy please kindly add Melo to your list…Queen Elizabeth and the magic bullet…getting a bill passed LMAO.
Leggs, I agree that means someone or something got to the “easy button” saying it in my staples voice first. that was easy
M. (pronouced M dot)
December 14th, 2009
1:59 pm
@Melo
I asked about the rotation thing because that would look crazy if a guy is 45 and still trying to date like they are 25…
I’ll be 27 next month. The reason I ask questions is because I always want to learn and elevate my mind all around. I also try to learn from other mistakes that other people made. Sometimes alot of people come off as know it all’s on the blog. Nobody knows everything. That’s why I zip my lips, and listen. Some people confuse experience with knowing it all. There is always going to be a area where someone is not proficient. That’s why you dialogue with others.
THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD
December 14th, 2009
1:59 pm
I am – Heres a good one borrowed from Popeye.. I am what I am
Professor
December 14th, 2009
2:00 pm
I am ~ pls change your moniker….you are whatever YOU say you are. Never let another define you.
Will “I AM DK’s”due j/k
SlimOne...??
December 14th, 2009
2:00 pm
@Infamous “Cause I cant fool with Thumbalina and her four sisters” And why not? Sometimes you have to be your own best friend. lol And I didn’t say i necessarily HAD to bring the bullet out…I simply said he is the only one on the other side of MY bed. Read between the lines. HA HA HA HA!
@Sassy I can only speak for me and I loves my bullet…lawd knows I do…but I’ll kill em dead if i finds out he cheats on me.
But really, it gets straight to the point. No Tom Foolery when Mr Bullet is in town.
@Raqi LOL! I love your thinking about the Christmas Tree Boxers…sounds like a great gift idea. Muuuuhhhhaaaaaa (Evil laugh)
SlimOne...??
December 14th, 2009
2:03 pm
Melo Yes folks still use the Bullet in 2009/2010. I’m a simple chick. I don’t need a Battery operated toy that’s got a limb for every orface on my body which can turn, twist, hum, cook, clean, vibrate, squirt water or anything else all that other high tech stuff does.
Professor
December 14th, 2009
2:03 pm
@M. I think it depends on the person. I have seen some old
playersfools out there looking crazy. On the flip side I have seen some young’uns holding it down so I really think it depends on the person. I have an uncle by marriage that is still out ther 70 years old…he brags about taking extend and giving the ladies a pounding…from what I heard I will not be in the same place with his dirty azzMelo
December 14th, 2009
2:07 pm
M(dot) there are 45 yr old rolling stones,who maintain a rotation……
People are getting married for the most part(americans) so they are rotating…maybe not a circular rotation but linear,as time goes on..u know one comes in for 4 motnhts,they push,she out,then in anoher..think Clooney?!!!
there are others,not celebrities doing the same..
Who does Tyler Perry/Hill Harper/Johhny Gil/Brian Mcknight and uncle Ray Ray etc date? or is this a can of worms??
Melo
December 14th, 2009
2:09 pm
arent getting married!
Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 10 days til my birthday :-)
December 14th, 2009
2:10 pm
All of this “spicey” banter is hawt DK, you’re reading all nictey(nice/nasty),and rugged…..you tryna make me backslide.
Professor/Leggs it’s not even Friday yet and we waay off the chain….DK and his “meat” got it started….no it was Slim who started with that “meat” question and we’ve been “rolling” downhill ever since.
That’s why I zip my lips, and listen. Some people confuse experience with knowing it all.
TRUE!!.