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Let Your Guard Down

I am not sure if men are always aware of this, but it takes some women time to let our guard down with a man sexually.  A lot of us believe that it is your job to make us not feel self conscious about our bedroom activities.  If a woman can see that you respect her and she can trust you, it allows her to let her guard down.

So what happens when a man doesn’t seem trustworthy? Well, a lot of women take the risk anyway. Sometimes we want it as badly as you do! We may or may not regret that, but that is part of our ongoing dilemma of when/if we decide to sleep with someone.

Ladies, are you ever concerned about maintaining a “good girl” image when it comes to your bedroom behavior? Do you think that you hold back because you worry about a stereotype of some kind?

Guys, do you ever have a problem with getting women to let their guard down with you? Do you make an effort to gain trust from the women you date?  Are you ever slow to let your guard down with a woman in the bedroom?

Happy Friday!

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Professor

December 11th, 2009
11:37 am

Dream me too, and the word is even funnier if you say it like you are the Prince Akeem from Zamunda (Coming to America)

MsM

December 11th, 2009
11:38 am

she might let you beat it out the frame and not give two shyts about you; but she sho nuff diggin you, if you she give you some head! ABSOLUTELY CORRECT!

Cemeeli

December 11th, 2009
11:39 am

the ORDER of connection is what baffles me

…speaking of…i got a question for the “order” thing…

2C what about oral when it comes to men servicing women? Some men will offer oral before, or NO intercourse at all.

It’s offered in a way that they value their oral gift than that of intercourse? I thought that intercourse (from her) for a man was more improtant.

and Swiss you can chime in on that one too.

Melo – Hush.

Leggs - F and F

December 11th, 2009
11:40 am

@MsM ~ now that I got the correct visuals back in their proper slots, I stand corrected.

2CPTG......heavily guarded heart!

December 11th, 2009
11:43 am

Cee….too easy…the order is gettin naked period! like I said earlier, if we’ve made it to that point, then what’s the hold up…..the “favor” is sharing one another; mouth, booty, coochie, whatever!

Cemeeli

December 11th, 2009
11:46 am

Professor

December 11th, 2009
11:46 am

the ORDER of connection is what baffles me

I would like to hear all our blog favorites answer, Melo, abc, Lord V, and those that are out there lurking.

Professor

December 11th, 2009
11:48 am

Off Topic: I cannot imagine being the mother of 19 children.

http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/34379874/ns/today-today_people/?GT1=43001

Mr. Unknown

December 11th, 2009
11:48 am

What up ya’ll,, I see the inner freaks are loose today. Wow! lol

Cemeeli

December 11th, 2009
11:51 am

lol @ Ms. Professor.

whistling

Leggs - F and F

December 11th, 2009
11:51 am

This wasn’t my intent, but glad I finally gave you guys a gut wrenching laugh cuz I’ve gotten many from most of you.

Raqi…He Got into My Head…Then I Got into His Bed

December 11th, 2009
11:51 am

Cemeeli, you know for many women oral is it because not every woman is able to hit the big O via intercourse. Oral before can be and often is looked at in a way of him letting her get “hers” first.

Now the ones that prefer giving and that’s it, I don’t get. One of my bff had a guy that was all about the kissing the hairy lips. No intercourse and no dome.

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 11th, 2009
11:53 am

Hell the a mother of more than 1 scares the ish outta me..lol

2CPTG......heavily guarded heart!

December 11th, 2009
11:54 am

“Now the ones that prefer giving and that’s it, I don’t get. One of my bff had a guy that was all about the kissing the hairy lips. No intercourse and no dome.”

cause he was “short strokin’”…..he didn’t want his lil member seen; to be teased about later.

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 11th, 2009
11:54 am

2CPTG Noe you got me thinking…

On average how many women have sex before giving oral??? Or take longer to give oral than intercourse????

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 11th, 2009
11:56 am

Awww Leggs it’s okay… Many have laughed/chuckled/coughed up a lung at my expense… We have lost no blog love for ya! :mrgreen:

Raqi…He Got into My Head…Then I Got into His Bed

December 11th, 2009
11:56 am

LOL Leggs, girl we all our day. You are cool.

Lawd I remember those days when I wasn’t getting any. Instead of forgetting certain things, some of the oddest sounds would set me on fire. A blazing fire with no fireman in sight to put it out.

Jeff

December 11th, 2009
11:59 am

I no longer allow women to do this to me. Not saying all of them do it deliberately, but we’re adults. I don’t give myself fully to a woman NOW in exchange for her opening up fully at some later time, determined by her, at her discretion and with the right to revoke it all together when she sees fit. Sure, I bypass a couple of nice women with that philosophy, but it sure saves a lot of fruatration.

Raqi…He Got into My Head…Then I Got into His Bed

December 11th, 2009
11:59 am

2CPTG, that’s not it because I asked her. She said she touched it in his pants and it felt very promising but she never got a chance to feel what he could do with it. Because it seemed to be a fetish she didn’t stay around long.

Melo

December 11th, 2009
12:00 pm

@CEE…here is my perspective on the guys who offer Os..

its a lame move..its the same lame move some of those guys u blog chics speak of,the ones who send u pics of their johnsons..

they are trying to sell u their so called or perceived sexual talents in the area….

A str8 up dude will not sell u any sexual abilities..

he simply brings it when its time and appropriate!

Luvbug

December 11th, 2009
12:04 pm

A str8 up dude will not sell u any sexual abilities..

he simply brings it when its time and appropriate!

INDEED!

Mr. Unknown

December 11th, 2009
12:07 pm

Hey fellas, Have ya’ll ever had the women that cried in bed while doing the do. First time it happen I was like umm, what just happen.. Did I break something.. lol

Professor

December 11th, 2009
12:07 pm

Off Topic: :cry: We need all hands on deck if we are going to beat the Saints :cry:

http://www.wsbtv.com/sports/21929333/detail.html

MsM

December 11th, 2009
12:09 pm

On average how many women have sex before giving oral??? Or take longer to give oral than intercourse????

Once we have both declared we’re exclusive/committed/love… Heck, all of this is going down at the same time. And, no hang ups about doggie or anal (i know) or anything else we’re into. All has been discussed during the “go deeper” conversations, no surprises here!

East Point's Own

December 11th, 2009
12:10 pm

Raqi The only cake I want without icing is cheesecake. Icing is what makes the cake worth eating… without that its just bread. I have to have icing on every bite of cake I eat… but that’s just me
http://hispointofview.com

Yoni masseuse

December 11th, 2009
12:10 pm

@2C…i usually get head before sex…always..i have never meet a women that did not enjoy pampering the swipe…

@mr unknown..yes i have that happen to me several times and it always makes me flacid in no time…like da hell is yo problem…lol

Cemeeli

December 11th, 2009
12:11 pm

it seemed to be a fetish she didn’t stay around long.

Raqi – Some men do have a fetish for it…say theyjust like giving oral pleasure.

they are trying to sell u their so called or perceived sexual talents in the area.

Melo …it is real lame…and it’s very inappropriate.

Yoni masseuse

December 11th, 2009
12:12 pm

Once we have both declared we’re exclusive/committed/love

- what does this mean…i dont get why this has to be declared…naturally things just fall in place…no…only thing i should say is i love you..not hey today we are committed…lol..where they do that at?

Yoni masseuse

December 11th, 2009
12:13 pm

Some men do have a fetish for it…say theyjust like giving oral pleasure.

- men that only give oral are on some bs..they have no nuts and enjoy being under a woman….check those cats…thats is not natural for a man to only want to lick it…lol….our job is to mount you and cummmm…lol

Leggs - F and F

December 11th, 2009
12:15 pm

@Mr. Unknown, most times when a woman cries they’re crying because it was so so so good. Look at it as a compliment. You hit all the right spots and elicited all the right moans and groans. Crying is akin to making one lose their mind. The latter being a negative reaction. It takes a while to regroup (mentally and physically).

Cemeeli

December 11th, 2009
12:16 pm

like mqew said earlier. I wouldn’t want any man’s mouth on my body like that if not in a committed relationship.

I am not down for that, AT ALL!

…shoot, all of me is precious.

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 11th, 2009
12:17 pm

our job is to mount you and cummmm

And I guess there have it.. lmao

Yoni masseuse

December 11th, 2009
12:18 pm

@leggs…its called hitting that bottom…lol…we breaking off your stick in that moist hole…thats what you get…lol

so leggs what should we read when we make a woman squirt and kill our sheets and mattress with her leaking….or is she just pee pee’n in the bed..lol

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 11th, 2009
12:19 pm

I wouldn’t want any man’s mouth on my body like that if not in a committed relationship.

I am not down for that, AT ALL!

…shoot, all of me is precious.

Couldn’t have said it better

Professor

December 11th, 2009
12:20 pm

our job is to mount you and cummmm

that is the reason dudes be :cry: about not getting the “dome” when you think like that “dome” is not apart of the job description you put out there

Melo

December 11th, 2009
12:20 pm

like da hell is yo problem…lol

i hope in a good way…

u hit right,she bound to cry!

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 11th, 2009
12:24 pm

You hit all the right spots and elicited all the right moans and groans.

Okay, okay,… I can dig..

MsM

December 11th, 2009
12:24 pm

The full monte only happens when I and my partner have forged an emotional bond that leads to complete abandonment. You don’t get here with just anybody, thus yes I can be guarded until I reach a comfort level that may only increase incrementally over time.

Yoni masseuse

December 11th, 2009
12:24 pm

@prof…dudes are still getting it in..come on now…all women get on there knees period…its in your nature to be under a man..you want to submit…come on now..you know different..if a dude is hitting all those mental triggers gettin on your knees is no problem…or whatever else he wants..you are no different…killing me…its sex folks..even in love/committed/married…you will still get fluck er now an then…lol..you ladies are funny..what is this sister act 5

mqew

December 11th, 2009
12:26 pm

K Just woke up from a nap…. What I miss? We still talking about freakin? :lol:

Flabbergasted

December 11th, 2009
12:26 pm

Waaaaay off topic, to the left. That piece of EYE CANDY in the print room almost made me forget where I was in multi-tasking. Was I putting in the Japanese Yen deposit, in the middle domestic deposits or had I completed confirming the British Pound Sterling payment? EYE CANDY.

Yoni masseuse

December 11th, 2009
12:26 pm

The full monte only happens when I and my partner have forged an emotional bond that leads to complete abandonment

ROTFLMAO…yea that in a good pitcher of texas margarita….lol…LMAO…lol

Raqi…He Got into My Head…Then I Got into His Bed

December 11th, 2009
12:29 pm

Just thinking back…

Trust is the key that unlocks the guard door. It was not my intention to give myself to this man when I agreed to have lunch with him. That was the furthest thing from my mind that day. We were just sitting there talking, enjoying the sound of the rain beating against the concrete patio floor. I trusted him. I trusted him more than I trust any man that I know. (My father doesn’t count).

We were there…we were talking…I was fully exposed emotionally and mentally at that moment…then that S.O.B. kissed me. LOL

I lovez that S.O.B., God knows I do.

Raqi…He Got into My Head…Then I Got into His Bed

December 11th, 2009
12:30 pm

MsM

December 11th, 2009
12:31 pm

@ Yoni.. There’s F* and there’s intimacy. Sometimes all in the same session. No if my dude serves me a a good ass texas margarita then we probably f*

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 11th, 2009
12:31 pm

Yoni masseuse A.K.A For Real

Didn’t we have this debate/discussion with you a few weeks back???

lmao!!!!

Professor

December 11th, 2009
12:32 pm

@Yoni

I will say this your argument is full of fallacies and lacks logic. You cannot say what all women are doing and want to do. Furthermore if all women wanted to be “under a man” lesbians would not exist so save that weak ish for the dummies. My IQ is a little too high…

Professor

December 11th, 2009
12:34 pm

Dream, ok? We know how folks like to change their monikers. We need to add that to the blog awards, too.

Yoni masseuse

December 11th, 2009
12:36 pm

@Prof….lol..really you thinks so…i personally know lesbians that er now and then will go get them some dizzle….lol

what does this convo has to do with your IQ??….so from your reply i can see you like to control and dominate your men….where they do that at

Mr. Unknown

December 11th, 2009
12:37 pm

Ya’ll got awards, prizes and stuff.