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Let Your Guard Down

I am not sure if men are always aware of this, but it takes some women time to let our guard down with a man sexually.  A lot of us believe that it is your job to make us not feel self conscious about our bedroom activities.  If a woman can see that you respect her and she can trust you, it allows her to let her guard down.

So what happens when a man doesn’t seem trustworthy? Well, a lot of women take the risk anyway. Sometimes we want it as badly as you do! We may or may not regret that, but that is part of our ongoing dilemma of when/if we decide to sleep with someone.

Ladies, are you ever concerned about maintaining a “good girl” image when it comes to your bedroom behavior? Do you think that you hold back because you worry about a stereotype of some kind?

Guys, do you ever have a problem with getting women to let their guard down with you? Do you make an effort to gain trust from the women you date?  Are you ever slow to let your guard down with a woman in the bedroom?

Happy Friday!

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Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 11th, 2009
10:37 am

then what are the drawbacks to “other” stuff?
And what’s the other stuff you’re alluding to?

I mean being a freak in the bedroom should not shine through in your every day life especially your career. That’s where that element of mystery comes from.
Yea I may play a “role in the bedroom, I may play many roles in the bedroom. But believe me…. Jessica Rabbit is not showing up for work on Monday morning…..

Cemeeli

December 11th, 2009
10:38 am

That make sense…..crazy takes time to come out, so why not the freak as well

mqew – I know the crazy of which i exist.

2CPTG......heavily guarded heart!

December 11th, 2009
10:39 am

Raqi, I know what you’re saying, but the ORDER of connection is what baffles me…..so because men “appear” to value oral more, women are inclined to hold back on that aspect of the “connection”? I thought the actual order of things was intercourse was the icing on the cake, so to speak…..everything else was a precursor.

Luvbug

December 11th, 2009
10:40 am

2CPTG, that could be because a lot of guys give women the notion that they value oral more than nature’s intended

I agree with that

2CPTG......heavily guarded heart!

December 11th, 2009
10:43 am

Dream_n, I’m not saying wear “freak” on ya forehead….of course not, but when you take it there, why any inhibitions? that’s all I’m sayin…..

2CPTG......heavily guarded heart!

December 11th, 2009
10:48 am

example…..my girl in college was a nympho!!! I’m talkin bout whenever the urge hit, she wanted it…..however, only in certain positions….talkin bout doggie style gon’ have to wait……being the horny toad I was in college, I continued to hit it. But I never understood her reasoning for withholding “all” the coochie…..

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 11th, 2009
10:52 am

2CPTG

I guess some people don’t like everything.. I mean I know girls that won’t go down on a guy, some girls that don’t like anal(me included), some girls don’t like doggy style…

I mean it’s up to the individual…. i guess

2CPTG......heavily guarded heart!

December 11th, 2009
10:54 am

yes, it is, and I’m not downing anyone for how they feel, or what they do, it just puzzles me, that’s all…..

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 11th, 2009
10:54 am

It may not be that they’re holding out, it could be that they just don’t particulary care for that aspect of sex.

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 11th, 2009
10:54 am

I hear ya though! :wink:

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 11th, 2009
11:00 am

And I dont like a babe who just wants to do that missionary bed sex.. I like it all over the room and bed.. The house for that matter..

Raqi…He Got into My Head…Then I Got into His Bed

December 11th, 2009
11:02 am

2CPTG possibly because oral was taboo for many for a long time. It was something “good girls” did not do. I got married when I was 19 and oral was foreign to me. We never went there. I didn’t know anything about it other than you pretty much got frowned on back then if you as a woman was known for doing it. Then I grew up. LOL But in growing up it still is looked at as taking it to another level over and above nature’s way. I assume that is why is gets categorized as a sexual “favor”. But being with my love it’s gets to be the alternative and/or the icing on top. Intercourse is the cake. The cake is the most important.

In life in general we can eat cake without the icing and still get satisfaction. Cake is where the substance is. Sometimes I may eat a spoon or two of icing to temporary satisfy a sweet tooth. And then many times icing gets put on the baked cake. But cake is where it is.

Melo

December 11th, 2009
11:03 am

talkin bout doggie style gon’ have to wait

2C?? how about 1/2 doggie..u know,flipping one of her leg up while u on the side,not back.. :lol:

so doggie is the fillet mignon of sex, for some??

Who wkd have thunk it??!! :lol: :roll:

tent is gonna be my new filet mignon from now on..thanks to Leggs!! :lol:

Raqi…He Got into My Head…Then I Got into His Bed

December 11th, 2009
11:04 am

2CPTG, No doggie style? Now that’s odd. It’s still p in v. Intercourse.

Beautiful

December 11th, 2009
11:08 am

**Do you think that you hold back because you worry about a stereotype of some kind?**

i never hold back! i let my hair down and do what i do.

Leggs - F and F

December 11th, 2009
11:08 am

Isn’t anal and doggie style the same thing???

MsM

December 11th, 2009
11:08 am

He Got into My Head…Then I Got into His Bed <<< This is the truth!

That's not to say I haven't gone for mine without a thought in my head (i.e., no thoughts past the here and now, no expectations), but the guy that gets the full monte has connected on a level that's made me see/feel him much deeper than the "puddy meowing" thus its full access freaky deaky… him to me, me to him.

Raqi…He Got into My Head…Then I Got into His Bed

December 11th, 2009
11:10 am

Infamous, just missionary day in and day out will get rather monotonous over time, variety is the spice of life. But the missionary act itself is the most intimate and connecting for me. It’s a position that offers opportunity to engage simultaneously with other passionate acts. Kissing and caressing.

Luvbug

December 11th, 2009
11:11 am

Isn’t anal and doggie style the same thing???

Good lord, I hope not…don’t be making no mistakes back there…Welcome to Moes!!

Raqi…He Got into My Head…Then I Got into His Bed

December 11th, 2009
11:12 am

Isn’t anal and doggie style the same thing???

No Leggs. Doggie style is p in v from behind.

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 11th, 2009
11:14 am

Isn’t anal and doggie style the same thing???

LMAO!!!

Leggs - F and F

December 11th, 2009
11:14 am

Oh, got the pictures screwed up in my mind! Carry on!

2CPTG......heavily guarded heart!

December 11th, 2009
11:14 am

Melo, you aiiight with me! keep me crackin up……

alrighty then…..”dome” is considered a “favor”….fellas, y’all hear that? she might let you beat it out the frame and not give two shyts about you; but she sho nuff diggin you, if you she give you some head!

Raqi…He Got into My Head…Then I Got into His Bed

December 11th, 2009
11:14 am

Leggs, When dogs engage the male is not poking the arse. P in V.

Melo

December 11th, 2009
11:15 am

Isn’t anal and doggie style the same thing???

hell Naw Leggs…cmeon now :lol:

doggie style is just hitting the coochie from the back while standing(the man) while the woman is on front twos..squirmishing but wiggling that phat,coca cola bottle shaped tail for maximum jonxtontolgy(I made that word up) :lol:

Do u need a demo Leggs..practicals u know! :lol:

Leggs - F and F

December 11th, 2009
11:15 am

Ok, let my guard down by asking that lame question!

Leggs - F and F

December 11th, 2009
11:16 am

LOL…Stop laughing at me, Dream_N

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 11th, 2009
11:17 am

she might let you beat it out the frame and not give two shyts about you; but she sho nuff diggin you, if you she give you some head

squirmishing but wiggling that phat,coca cola bottle shaped tail for maximum jonxtontolgy(I made that word up)

Melo & 2C… are certified fools… lmao

Leggs - F and F

December 11th, 2009
11:17 am

I really did know that, but forgot!

Beautiful

December 11th, 2009
11:18 am

missionary is the business. especially when he knows how to kiss. and has rhythm.

Melo

December 11th, 2009
11:18 am

@Leggs Oh, got the pictures screwed up in my mind

now thats a bad and good loook Leggs! :lol:

bad coz u havent had it in a while coz of the hallucinations and cross thinking we are putting u thru this morning…. :lol:

Goood coz u thinking about it..u fresh and sexxy…jus need DK to not be that tentative with u..u waiting ha?? :lol:

Leggs - F and F

December 11th, 2009
11:18 am

SECURITY, SECURITY, please escort Leggs out of the building!!!

SexyCool - looCyxeS

December 11th, 2009
11:19 am

Leggs – it’s been too long, babygirl. It’s been too long. ~lol~

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 13 days til my birthday :-)

December 11th, 2009
11:19 am

Ok, let my guard down by asking that lame question!

Okay ’cause I’m over here thinking you’re F and F and you asking that?…but it’s cool, no need to digress ’cause we grown.

Leggs - F and F

December 11th, 2009
11:20 am

“bad coz u havent had it in a while coz of the hallucinations and cross thinking we are putting u thru this morning….

Now, that has me laughing out the door to go get some water…that shyt was funny!

Raqi…He Got into My Head…Then I Got into His Bed

December 11th, 2009
11:21 am

2CPTG, Yes and no.

Raqi…He Got into My Head…Then I Got into His Bed

December 11th, 2009
11:22 am

I really did know that, but forgot!

Dang Leggs, I know you said it’s been awhile but…LOL

Beautiful

December 11th, 2009
11:22 am

i remember one time when he slipped and went in the wrong hole. ouch! that was over twenty yrs ago, but i remember that shi*t like it was yesterday. lol.

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 11th, 2009
11:24 am

i remember one time when he slipped and went in the wrong hole. ouch! :shock:

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 11th, 2009
11:25 am

Naw ain’t no slipping in the backdoor if it ain’t never been open….

Leggs - F and F

December 11th, 2009
11:25 am

I am tearing up I’m laughing so hard. Had no intention of putting myself on front street like that! Damn, that question spokes volumes….I’m going back to the corner!

@SassyMe ~ you can be F and F and still walk around with the Sierra Desert between your…..I simply forgot.

2CPTG......heavily guarded heart!

December 11th, 2009
11:27 am

“2CPTG, Yes and no.”

nope, not using some of the justifications posted on here! “yeah, you can hit it, but ‘fo I slurp you up, you gotta committ!”

Melo

December 11th, 2009
11:27 am

remember one time when he slipped and went in the wrong hole. ouch!

if u remember it from 20 yrs back,u must have liked it..

dont front! :lol:

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 11th, 2009
11:28 am

@Leggs

It’s okay… We know you still know what hole it goes in… LMAO! I kid I kid :wink:

Beautiful

December 11th, 2009
11:29 am

also my favorite part in the bedroom is when it’s his turn. i’ll sit there for a minute while i throw my hair in a bun then proceed to break him off. lol. kissing him from head to toe. i enjoy seeing him enjoying every minute of it. afterwards he doesn’t fail to say *gal, yous a freak!*

lol.

y’all have a good one!

Professor

December 11th, 2009
11:30 am

Isn’t anal and doggie style the same thing???

Leggs, I was getting ready to call dude in that Honda for a quick refresher course!

Melo maximum jonxtontolgy~man, you made up a big word…LMAO

2CPTG......heavily guarded heart!

December 11th, 2009
11:34 am

Beautiful, that’s what I’m talkin bout!!!! pullin ya hair back, gettin serious with the task at hand!!!!

Dream_n~ Honorary GA Peach

December 11th, 2009
11:34 am

Prof,

I’m still cracking up on that word!!

Professor

December 11th, 2009
11:35 am

:shock: @ Beautiful, oh he knew he just wanted to see

MsM

December 11th, 2009
11:35 am

Isn’t anal and doggie style the same thing??? OMG you’re kidding right?

Same position different hole :) :) :)