Go Deeper
One of the best part of going out with someone new is exploring their personality. Not only are you putting in face time to determine how strong your attraction is, you also get to discover the way they think.
When things are going well, you move past the shallow conversations and small talk. I love to go deeper in conversations and find out how much we are alike, how we differ, and even learn something new.
Once you go below the surface, you find out what a person is truly passionate about. In my experience, this is how you manage to get to a second and third dates. You both are so captivated by the conversation, you can’t wait for another opportunity to, well go deeper!
It is always a great sign when you can have a great discussion with someone you are attracted to. I think that a person’s dating conversation can make or break a date. Have you ever been on a second date with someone whose conversation left you confused, annoyed, or bored? Trust me, if you struggle with this, it’s something you should work on.
What do you like to discuss on a date? If you find out that you are intellectually unmatched, do you think your attraction to the person would fade?
Update: Check out our fabulous Atlanta Bargain Hunger blog! Today, Miss Cash covers Cheap Date Ideas perfect for the holiday season!
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Leggs - F and F
December 10th, 2009
3:59 pm
“if he didn’t interest you in his heyday, what piqued the interest today?” Good question! I don’t really know. I know I didn’t give him a fair chance just getting over my divorce, and thought I wasn’t really seeing him with clear eyes. Thought I see if with me being “whole” again, I may see him differently. Unfortunately, I didn’t and we will forever remain in the FZ.
Cemeeli
December 10th, 2009
3:59 pm
oh…my country names post got eaten.
this is when you have true core southerners in your family. But my southern belle cut came from grandma and aintees <— lol pronounced "ain't tees" down south.
read common southern names: lean, anne, frank, lee, sarah, junbug, john wayne, peewee,…and i could go on. But if i said some of the nick names someone would pass out cryin…
Melo
December 10th, 2009
4:00 pm
Cemeeli
most south african women i know dont like cow feet…..
thats a man delicacy coz we know its value..we pride in cooking the dish ourselves too,if a woman touches it,its like it looses its value…just as we dont allow our womenfolk to prep the cow bull Balls…..
We just unleash the side effect on our women to enjoy
lurker
December 10th, 2009
4:01 pm
Nothing wrong with both of us staying in the FZ having lunch.
and
he pulled up in a shiny black Honda Accord that appeard spit shining clean inside and out
okay, for that first statement, if that’s true then you wouln’t have recognized the limp and him being a noodle. it wouldn’t have phased you at all if it was strickly platonic or if you didn’t hope/wish a bit if things could progress. just saying
on the honda comment. i would have gone back in the buiding. i remember asking this guy i dated (looking for a new car) if he’d checked out any honda and he looked as if i’d grown 2 heads. that is soooo a girl car. uh uh, no way hosea. then an old cat at that. that is if it’s anything more and slightly passed the FZ. just sayin
Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday
December 10th, 2009
4:03 pm
I will be buying some cleaned chittlins…
Something I will prolly never eat again.. My grandma was the only one that I trusted to clean em right. She used to clean them around Thanksgiving put them in the deep freezer, then get them out for Christmas.. douse them with hotsauce and mannn…!
Cemeeli
December 10th, 2009
4:04 pm
thanks PoppaG.
2CPTG......smart azz!
December 10th, 2009
4:05 pm
I can dig that explanation, Leggs…….
but lemme ask somma y’all that been divorced….how long does it take to “get over it”? shyt, if you gettin’ a divorce ain’t you “over” the fact that your marriage is over? If not, then why not reconcile?
Professor
December 10th, 2009
4:06 pm
Thanks Leggs I see my picture was soooo wrong, but you scared me when you described those fingers and stuff.
Leggs - F and F
December 10th, 2009
4:06 pm
Also, I met him in 2007 and hate to think that might have been his “heyday”
mqew
December 10th, 2009
4:06 pm
DreamN – I trust mom dukes. She will do the cleaning
CAN’T WAIT! We usually do something really nice like a rib roast or a duck or crown pork roast. Just give me the shytlyns please 
Leggs - F and F
December 10th, 2009
4:08 pm
I grew up with pickled feet and pickled eggs in those big nasty looking jars and vowed never to see what one taste like.
Cemeeli
December 10th, 2009
4:09 pm
Now speaking of chemistry, i wld neva bee with a woman thats stingy with sex…
Melo yea…the cows feet doesn’t sound anything like a women’s indulgence. And it’s good that the tradition is for men. Now on the stingy with sex…i think i would leave dude…i mean unless something medical…God help me.
Professor
December 10th, 2009
4:09 pm
I would love a pickled egg right about now with a little black pepper.
2CPTG......smart azz!
December 10th, 2009
4:10 pm
lurker, you make a lot of sense……
mqew
December 10th, 2009
4:10 pm
Never had a pickled egg…..
Cemeeli
December 10th, 2009
4:11 pm
Oh…pickled food…we had pickleed peaches on the dinner table @ Thanksgiving! Now do the countriest of contry will remember that one…
Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday
December 10th, 2009
4:12 pm
pickled egg ???
pickleed peaches???
I must have city girl written all over my face right now
SexyCool - Got Jokes?!?!?
December 10th, 2009
4:13 pm
I have had canned peaches….but never pickled ones.
2CPTG......smart azz!
December 10th, 2009
4:13 pm
Cee…..the way you make your “‘ol man” sound, gal, you ain’t goin’ nowhere….go sit down somewhere! Hell, if he checkin yo pockets, he prolly got everything else in check too…
mqew
December 10th, 2009
4:14 pm
I know a couple that do the picled peaches, but I just don’t get it…
Leggs - F and F
December 10th, 2009
4:14 pm
@2c ~ I listen to people grumble about their divorce and the pain and suffering and then I look at myself. Sometimes I felt something may have been wrong with me because ever since my divorce I’ve been smiling, feeling good about things and working on me getting back to ME. I never quibbled or pined over “what ifs.” For me not doing so, I thought perhaps I was a selfish, callous woman. I had to question why I was so cold and this divorce was one of the best thing that happened to me.
Melo
December 10th, 2009
4:14 pm
And for those of u who clean and say u dont like to eat cow parts etc(whatever!?
) ,as if brisket and rump an’ fillet aint a part),when it comes to eating cow tripe..the inside of cow that houses the grass and foilage etc..the dudu basically…
its actually more tasty when u kill the cow urself,clean the trip and/but leave a lil bit of cow dudu on there when u clean it…
can u say
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm and tastyyyyyyyyy!
SexyCool - Got Jokes?!?!?
December 10th, 2009
4:15 pm
In fact, I know how to can fruit and how to parch and freeze vegetables…mostly field peas and butter beans.
SexyCool - Got Jokes?!?!?
December 10th, 2009
4:16 pm
should have said BLANCH vegetables…you parche peanuts…
Cemeeli
December 10th, 2009
4:16 pm
@ Dreamn – I think Paula Dean had pickled peaches on her show once…i’ve never had one.
lurker
December 10th, 2009
4:16 pm
lurker, you make a lot of sense……
wow, thanks. that’s a compliment coming from you. not being a smarty
Leggs - F and F
December 10th, 2009
4:17 pm
Didn’t the jar turn you guys off. It sure turned me off, as well as those prongs that rested on top of the jar. EEEwwww!!
Melo
December 10th, 2009
4:17 pm
i think i would leave dude…i mean unless something medical…God help me.
@ CEE
what u mean u wld leave dude??
u sayng u prefer ur coochie in the museum,on display than on the bed with dude,humping…
cmeon girl!
Raqi
December 10th, 2009
4:19 pm
SexyCool, do you make biscuits from scratch?
mqew
December 10th, 2009
4:19 pm
Speaking of Cow Melo (I’ma ignore that last part) I went to Chicago this past weekend and had a bomb corned beef sandwich.
My point – Are there any places here that have good corned beef or is that a northern thing? Jus askn as I jus might have to do it myself.
MsM
December 10th, 2009
4:19 pm
@2C.. but lemme ask somma y’all that been divorced….how long does it take to “get over it”? shyt, if you gettin’ a divorce ain’t you “over” the fact that your marriage is over? If not, then why not reconcile?
Yes, it was a long time coming so I was so over it by the time I opened my mouth to say. I was not involved with anyone either at the end. I didn’t think it would be fair to the new person, so I waited until that door was firmly closed and my business taken care of. Reconcile? No, can’t even imagine it.
Poppa Grande
December 10th, 2009
4:20 pm
All I can do at the 4:14 is
There is candy store that sells chocolate on some of the Easter grass and calls it the “cow patty”.
That post made me think of that candy.
Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday
December 10th, 2009
4:21 pm
Speaking of Cow Melo (I’ma ignore that last part
lmao… me too, me too
2CPTG......smart azz!
December 10th, 2009
4:21 pm
That’s what I’m talkin bout, Leggs…..da hell with those “lingering effects”…..shyt, the hurting part is gettin’ to it….cause you don’ tried all that you know how to do….so now, it’s time to cut ties and move on with life……at first I didn’t understand how folks started seeing new people immediately after coming out of a realtionship, but now I do…….hell, life goes on……..”long after the thrill of livin’ is gone”
yeah, I like John Cougar Mellencamp!
Raqi
December 10th, 2009
4:21 pm
Mqew I had a really good cornbeef sandwich a few years ago. I cannot remember where though. Now you got me thinking.
SexyCool - Got Jokes?!?!?
December 10th, 2009
4:21 pm
I can, but I don’t often.
Melo
December 10th, 2009
4:21 pm
Cee..how is big sis coping with his mandingo
there!
Mo (aka Moeisha)
December 10th, 2009
4:23 pm
Cemeeli – I used to each pickled peaches too! Im witcha chica! LOL
MsM
December 10th, 2009
4:24 pm
@ Leggs….ever since my divorce I’ve been smiling, feeling good about things and working on me getting back to ME. I never quibbled or pined over “what ifs.”
I know what you mean. I don’t even care to talk about my ex and what went wrong, I took what I learned from it and moved on. Some people still, still talk about an ex like it was just yesterday and its been like 10+ years. WOW!
Some think because I don’t sit around expounded on the marriage that I’m hiding something. Well, no it’s just not important in the here and now. Let’s concentrate on us babe!
Poppa Grande
December 10th, 2009
4:24 pm
mqew…corned beef is a northern thing.
my wife loves that mess. Just pour a box of salt down my throat and eliminate the middle cow (man)
Leggs - F and F
December 10th, 2009
4:25 pm
“…it was a long time coming so I was so over it by the time [everything was finalized]”
Yeah, that’s why I’m still smiling!
Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday
December 10th, 2009
4:25 pm
lol @ a Northern thing…
Although I don’t eat it, my mom and dad loves it… along with a couple of family and friends I know.
Melo
December 10th, 2009
4:26 pm
mqew/dream_n/Cee
I went to a baby shower this past weekend(in africa we dont do that baby shower thing tho)
and one of my homies is married to an american girl
we(guys) were talking about her on the sly coz she was dancing african music,interacting etc, evething on beat..like she african in blood…it was nice to see..
She mandingonized!
Raqi
December 10th, 2009
4:26 pm
American Roadhouse. Mqew I had a reuben at American Roadhouse.
2CPTG......smart azz!
December 10th, 2009
4:27 pm
lurker, really?
gal, you musta been lurkin’ for quite awhile……..but I do give credit, where credit is due…..
Melo
December 10th, 2009
4:28 pm
the men,that is!
lurker
December 10th, 2009
4:28 pm
yeah, you’re quite a perceptive cat. i read, even though they’re rare times that you hop in
Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday
December 10th, 2009
4:28 pm
evething on beat..like she african in blood
Melo, Is she white?
Leggs - F and F
December 10th, 2009
4:29 pm
@MsM ~ too funny, you took from my post and I took from yours. I don’t know how to do that eye to eye thing, but we are there (LOL)!
Cemeeli
December 10th, 2009
4:30 pm
@ 2C – So you gonna throw me under the bus today? oh boy…he does not “check” me…he and i have a good understanding 2…”and a bag of chip”…okay.
why when a lady is confident enough to share where she is with her guy it comes across as her being ostentatious about it? i truly adore being able to share him with you on that level though.