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Go Deeper

One of the best part of going out with someone new is exploring their personality.  Not only are you putting in face time to determine how strong your attraction is, you also get to discover the way they think.

When things are going well, you move past the shallow conversations and small talk. I love to go deeper in conversations and find out how much we are alike, how we differ, and even learn something new.

Once you go below the surface, you find out what a person is truly passionate about. In my experience, this is how you manage to get to a second and third dates.  You both are so captivated by the conversation, you can’t wait for another opportunity to, well go deeper!

It is always a great sign when you can have a great discussion with someone you are attracted to.  I think that a person’s dating conversation can make or break a date.  Have you ever been  on a second date with someone whose conversation left you confused, annoyed, or bored? Trust me, if you struggle with this, it’s something you should work on.

What do you like to discuss on a date? If you find out that you are intellectually unmatched, do you think your attraction to the person would fade?

Update: Check out our fabulous Atlanta Bargain Hunger blog! Today, Miss Cash covers  Cheap Date Ideas perfect for the holiday season!

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Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
3:20 pm

@ mqew – auh…oatmeal cookies come pre-made at my house…just scoop and bake. I’m not big on baking either.

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday

December 10th, 2009
3:20 pm

mqew

Get me one too, some of these posts make you wanna drink….

Melo

December 10th, 2009
3:23 pm

Did u guys go dutch or he paid Leggs??

Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
3:23 pm

@ Dream_n – heheheh…not drivin you to “drinks”!!?

ohlawd!

For Real

December 10th, 2009
3:24 pm

Your body’s here with me
But your mind is on the other side of town
You’re messin’ me around
Girl, your body’s here with me
But your mind is on the other side of town
You’re messin’ me around

I thought you told me you’d straightened out your life
When we agreed to try it one more time
It would be my job to work and protect you
And you would make our home life sublime

but I keep hearin’ you cry after midnight
When the whole wide world is still, uh
And I know the reason you have to come home
He gives you plenty thrills, but I’m the one who pays the bills

You know your body’s here with me
But your mind is on the other side of town
You’re messin’ me around {Messin’ me around}
Girl, your body’s here with me
But your mind is on the other side of town
You’re messin’ me around {Foolin’ around}

mqew

December 10th, 2009
3:24 pm

DreamN – What’s your poison? Gotcha covered :lol:

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 14 days til my birthday :-)

December 10th, 2009
3:25 pm

You were a “store run” grandchild too?

Yes m’aam I sho was….my maternal grandmother lives on the Sea Islands off the coast of South Carolina and it got no more country than that. Lemme take you back Cameeli….my granny or her sister would send us to the store back in the day and get stuff like “souse meat”..you know that stuff that you HAD to keep cold b/c otherwise it would melt. They would give us $5 and tell us to go and “get $3 worth of souse meat” and that would be for sammiches for lunch. I know,right?
Back when I first moved to Atlanta I saw a package of souse meat in one of those little knock off Asian owned super markets and read the ingredients…it had erry part of the hog from the roota to the toota and at that point I decided to stop eating meat…and still don’t.

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday

December 10th, 2009
3:25 pm

Tomorrow the title of this topic would’ve sooooo went the other way. :lol:

Poppa Grande

December 10th, 2009
3:26 pm

mqew

December 10th, 2009
3:27 pm

Ceemee – I’m not going out anymore. If it ain’t in this kitchn, it aint hatannin

2C – Changing Faces – Stroke you up?…. rings not one bell…

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 14 days til my birthday :-)

December 10th, 2009
3:27 pm

See now why y’all got to start with the O’Jays?….I wanna hear “We Cried Together”…oooohh

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday

December 10th, 2009
3:27 pm

Cee/Sassy..

They way you guys convey your points through your posts have me crack’n up… Genuine down south black belles is what I invision… lmao!!

Leggs - F and F

December 10th, 2009
3:28 pm

@Raqi, it definitely is a fine line. When one asks questions, and one gets answers I don’t think one expects the entire rest of the time together be spent on that question. I was of the opinion that conversing consisted of a variety of topics, not just one. He didn’t ask me anything because he couldn’t stop talking on the two questions I asked. Ok, I concede. I asked the 2 questions and he answered them.

@mqew ~ my bday was yesterday and I changed my moniker to read SexyLeggs – Fit and Fabulous @ 51. Today, I changed it to read Leggs – F and F which now stands for Foolish and Frightened! Just kidding.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 10th, 2009
3:28 pm

For Real – go on with that Ojays!!! I cannot wait to see them w Charlie Wilson on Jan 2!

Okay I am so loving Eric Roberson’s new cd…..

Leggs - F and F

December 10th, 2009
3:29 pm

@Melo ~ he paid. He asked if he could take me out to lunch.

Melo

December 10th, 2009
3:29 pm

@Raqi, i think the limp thru Leggs off..
anything else he wld have said,she wasnt feeling it..

Some other heifer wld have been celebrating that the nameles/faceless hated wify is out,coz her cobwebs are about to get some good old wiping instead! :lol:

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 14 days til my birthday :-)

December 10th, 2009
3:29 pm

2C – Changing Faces – Stroke you up?…. rings not one bell…

:shock:

Lawd hammercy I made a nu**a truly believe on that song…still got the maxi-cd with just that single on it.

Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
3:30 pm

@Sassy – yes maam, i know what souse meat is!…truly i’m country. Girl, my folk ate hog chesse and all that…

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 10th, 2009
3:30 pm

Sassy – my grandfather still MAKES Souse meat!! LOL! I am so with ya’ll!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 14 days til my birthday :-)

December 10th, 2009
3:31 pm

Dream it’s all Cameeli’s for starting with the Piggly Wiggly n stuff…lol

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday

December 10th, 2009
3:32 pm

Cee

Hog Head Cheese is what I think my Dad still eats.. It looks all gross with different stuff embedded in there? Comes kinda orangish???

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 14 days til my birthday :-)

December 10th, 2009
3:32 pm

MO my jaw just dropped. He makes it?…shyt that’s what’s up.

Raqi

December 10th, 2009
3:35 pm

He didn’t ask me anything because he couldn’t stop talking on the two questions I asked.

Okay, that made me laugh.

For Real

December 10th, 2009
3:35 pm

Lovin’ you
Has made my life much sweeter, baby
Baby, since I’ve got you
Everything is alright

When I’m lovin’ you
I feel so good inside, ooh baby
When I make love to you
I’m in paradis, I’m in paradise

You know you make me feel
You make me feel so good
From my head down to my toes

Sometimes I wanna shout
I wanna scream, tell the world about it
There’s a girl in my mind
Your love is so good, so good, so good, so good to me

As long as I keep food on the table
Long as I keep the bills paid, baby
Long as I’m lovin you
Long as you’re lovin me

mqew

December 10th, 2009
3:35 pm

OK so I just googled Changing Faces -

1) Before I googled it I thought it was a boi group :lol:
2) HATED that damn song
3) Now I know I’m staying my butt at home and play scrabble :lol:

Professor

December 10th, 2009
3:36 pm

Dream, I think I mentioned I am going to buy me a few bottles this weekend.

2CPTG......smart azz!

December 10th, 2009
3:36 pm

shiiid, I still buy them big jars of pickled pigs feet!!!!

Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
3:37 pm

Dream_n – Thanks for the compliment!…I am southern cut belle….took after my grandma and ainties. <—(that's aunts pronounced aint-tees) hahaha…

lean, anne, frank, otis, sarah, lee are names that run in my family …just some true core southerners.

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday

December 10th, 2009
3:38 pm

Umm Yup… I just might get a few myself.

Taking the mimi me to see Princess Tiana tomorrow.

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday

December 10th, 2009
3:39 pm

big jars of pickled pigs feet

umm okay. lol

Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
3:40 pm

“Genuine down south black belles is what I invision

@ Dreamn – Thanks for the compliment!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 14 days til my birthday :-)

December 10th, 2009
3:41 pm

Tomorrow the title of this topic would’ve sooooo went the other way.

Had me thinking the same thing,too Dream :oops:

Peace y’all….

Leggs - F and F

December 10th, 2009
3:42 pm

@Melo, the wrinkled clothes through me off. You haven’t seen me in over 1.5 years and you can’t iron your clothese…wrinkled shirt and wrinkle jeans is something I don’t understand when going out in public.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 10th, 2009
3:42 pm

Sassy – yep, MAKES the stuff and is always so happy to do it! I used to love it but not so much anymore

mqew – dont worry I was never a fan of Changing Faces either, they could stay wherever they have been for all I care! LOL

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 14 days til my birthday :-)

December 10th, 2009
3:42 pm

@ Dreamn – Thanks for the compliment! :)

I second that emotion….

Leggs - F and F

December 10th, 2009
3:43 pm

that would be “threw”

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 14 days til my birthday :-)

December 10th, 2009
3:44 pm

big jars of pickled pigs feet

Aww hell!! When I was little we used to eat(but mostly suck on the bones) those til our lips turned colors…back down memory lane.

Okay now I’m OWT.

Melo

December 10th, 2009
3:45 pm

shiiid, I still buy them big jars of pickled pigs feet!!!!

@2CPTG……smart azz!

try cow feet too buddy.
Very Goood for ur libido…u be on overdrive! :lol:

Just as well u get a woman now! Thats the beauty of having a woman in-house(thinking of JtJ)

With me,when im feeling it,after that concoation of slimy cow feet,and we downstairs, i look at my Quen str8 in the eye(it makes ur eyes feel like u had 4 glasses of scotch),from say,across the room(and the kids are not loking,picture that) and just tilt my head in the direction of the bedroom,upstairs!

She knows its on..i lead..and she be following soon,behind me!

Professor

December 10th, 2009
3:46 pm

Leggs I am waiting on a description from my 2:55 post

SexyCool - Got Jokes?!?!?

December 10th, 2009
3:46 pm

I am country as the day is long. I canNOT eat the leftover animal parts.

Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
3:47 pm

Sassy – My family is to blame not me…they are some true core sotherners. Now the real southern belles that influenced me is grandma and ainties <—(that's my aunts pronounced aint tees)..

lookit…these are some of my family's common names…lean, anne, frank, sarah, lee, john wayne, junbug, peewee, …i could go on…but i will not share my dad's nickname cause if i do someone on here is gonna pass out! lol :lol:

lurker

December 10th, 2009
3:49 pm

pretty much the point I’m gettin at……if he didn’t interest you in his heyday, what piqued the interest today?

i’m agreeing. almost like looking to grow more inches, the baby’s sex changing after conception, or a third arm, or an extra ear when after it’s set that’s it. it’s done. lol

Melo

December 10th, 2009
3:50 pm

Now speaking of chemistry, i wld neva bee with a woman thats stingy with sex…

I like spontaneity….

dont like a woman who,i start fiddling with her and what not,she gimme excuse after excuse,heeeee, i wanna watch this show..no,wait a minute,my boss blah blah blah…. this and that….silly excuses

Fluck that! Not for me!

Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
3:50 pm

try cow feet too buddy. Very Goood for ur libido…u be on overdrive

@ Melo – You’re like an informercial!…cow feet? not okay!

2CPTG......smart azz!

December 10th, 2009
3:52 pm

Melo….that’s when you know you’ve got it goin’ on…you can just nod towards the bedroom, and wifey, or SO, knows what time it is……

Leggs - F and F

December 10th, 2009
3:52 pm

@Professor, thanks for bring that laughable post to my attention. You are truly, truly touched.

No, he pulled up in a shiny black Honda Accord that appeard spit shining clean inside and out. He apologized for the dirtiness saying he meant to clean it this week. I’m looking in the back and then at the dashboard wondering what needs cleaning??? Anyway, close cropped hair w/gray around the edges. Not a bad looking dude. Now, onto those fingers. Unreal, I couldn’t stop looking at his hands, they look older than mine….all wrinkly and skinny like a witch’s hand. Really, it was quite amazing looking at his non manly dry hands. Almost like those with long piano fingers only crusty looking.

SexyCool - Got Jokes?!?!?

December 10th, 2009
3:52 pm

Mrs. Obama was Barbara Walters’ Most Fascinating Person of 2009. I must say that I agree.

lurker

December 10th, 2009
3:52 pm

So are you saying you stop learning and growing when you are an old man or woman?

naw mayne, but if you’re a dweeb at 40 or 50, ummm more than likely that’s where you’ll stay

mqew

December 10th, 2009
3:55 pm

OK – I could never get with pickled pig feet, souse, or hog head cheese. All of which my grandmother and some other fam members would eat. BUT, next week, I will be buying some cleand chittlins (to be cleaned again of course :lol: )

Poppa Grande

December 10th, 2009
3:57 pm