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Go Deeper

One of the best part of going out with someone new is exploring their personality.  Not only are you putting in face time to determine how strong your attraction is, you also get to discover the way they think.

When things are going well, you move past the shallow conversations and small talk. I love to go deeper in conversations and find out how much we are alike, how we differ, and even learn something new.

Once you go below the surface, you find out what a person is truly passionate about. In my experience, this is how you manage to get to a second and third dates.  You both are so captivated by the conversation, you can’t wait for another opportunity to, well go deeper!

It is always a great sign when you can have a great discussion with someone you are attracted to.  I think that a person’s dating conversation can make or break a date.  Have you ever been  on a second date with someone whose conversation left you confused, annoyed, or bored? Trust me, if you struggle with this, it’s something you should work on.

What do you like to discuss on a date? If you find out that you are intellectually unmatched, do you think your attraction to the person would fade?

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493 comments Add your comment

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 10th, 2009
2:46 pm

Infamous – I love that song in your 2:38! Whatever you waaaant, girl you know I can provide….

Melo

December 10th, 2009
2:47 pm

Leggs..

dude hasnt seen action in months maybe so hes just lil tense…and if hes been married,he hasnt gone out with a chic in years..so cut him some slack.

Now,if his intention is to date u and not jus catch up on work(u say hes an associate) and u interested,u may have to ease him in,kinda lead him into u.That way he becomes more comfortable to talk other personal stuff and so he can ask about u.

Every man will get some up on their throat when they talking to a sexxy lady…..it happens..me included!

Does the limp bother u??

Professor

December 10th, 2009
2:47 pm

…catching up.

Leggs, I don’t know if I should laugh or cry about your date. Walking with a limp…AWB…job. Whew! That is why I usually decline a lunch date. To me lunch is a time to relax and let my hair down I do not want my lunch wasted like that. How did he smell? Did he smell good, or did he smell like Old Spice and Ben Gay

Melo I love that Kelis comment, man you are a mess!

Dream Girl you need to email me those love quotes.

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday

December 10th, 2009
2:48 pm

@ mqew

I would be most excited to see KC and JoJo in that line up!

Maybe more so back then, than now.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 10th, 2009
2:48 pm

Take my hand
You know I’ll be there
If you can
I’ll cross the sky for your love
For I have promised
Oh, to be with you tonight
And for the time that will come
Take my hand
You know I’ll be there
If you can
I’ll cross the sky for your love
And I understand
These winds and tides
This change of times
Won’t drag you away
Hold on, and hold on tightly
Hold on, and don’t let go
Of my love

Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
2:49 pm

I miss Winn Dixie and Piggly Wiggly…my grandma shopped there…in the country we’d walk to the grocery store and grandma would pay us big when we got exactly what she’d sent for and didn’t take a long time.

Melo

December 10th, 2009
2:49 pm

u welcome mqew/Proff!

lurker

December 10th, 2009
2:49 pm

Did he smell good, or did he smell like Old Spice and Ben Gay

another funny…lol

Lady J

December 10th, 2009
2:50 pm

Poppa Grande

December 10th, 2009
2:50 pm

Cee

If u take Lil Cee to the Hawks game on Sunday and take an unwrapped toy u get two vouchers for another game in the future. So, u end up with two games for the price of one.

Hawks have partnered with Toys For Tots.

Poppa Grande

December 10th, 2009
2:51 pm

I think that Piggly Wiggly is still on Cleveland Ave next to the K-Mart.

The only thing that I miss from Winn Dixie is Chek cola. It was better than that nasty Big K (Kroger)

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday

December 10th, 2009
2:52 pm

Professor.. I got you :wink:

mqew

December 10th, 2009
2:55 pm

DreamN – I might have wanted to see Guy, but as you said BACK IN THE DAY! It was like seeing EnVogue this summer. I was like, dang I could have went somewhere to have a drink instead of payin $60+ I think I’m just not a concert person as well….

Raqi

December 10th, 2009
2:55 pm

And Leggs, did you ask him about the limp? It could very well be due to an injury. That would be something he has no control over.

Professor

December 10th, 2009
2:55 pm

Leggs, For some reason I have a picture of him in my head. I picture your lunch date with a brown or black hat on with a little tail feather on the side, wearing a leather jacket or coat. Pulling up to the curb slowly in a long Lincoln Town Car or the big Cadillac car. Driving a little slow trying to peep at your Leggs out the corner of his eye without getting caught. He is wearing a diamond cocktail pinky ring about 1 carat tw and a diamond missing with a small amount of dryness between the fingers and on the knuckles

Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
2:56 pm

Who do the Hawks play Sunday?

Poppa Grande

December 10th, 2009
2:58 pm

Cee..Atlanta plays the NJ Nets.

Leggs - F and F

December 10th, 2009
2:58 pm

I’m trying to get out there and meet folk, but all of mine are MIA! I had to scratch my back and when I finished he said: “hopefully next time you get an itch like that that you’ll let my fingers do the scratching.” I’m thinking to myself, you couldn’t even scratch my big black toe.

I appreciate all your condolences and glad you’re able to laugh at my expense (just kidding). It’s funny watching the dynamics of lunch dates, convo, mannerisms, etc with things talked about on this blog. I actually chuckled to myself a few times at lunch. :cool:

Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
2:58 pm

and – 2C – You never answered my question…lefted yesturday.

Poppa Grande

December 10th, 2009
2:59 pm

Keep in mind that the New Orleans Saints are also in town Sunday to play the Falcons. So, downtown will be busy. Hawks game is 5 pm and Falcons play at 1 pm.

2CPTG......smart azz!

December 10th, 2009
2:59 pm

maybe I missed something…..but Leggs, WHY did you even bother to hang out with this dude? If he didn’t pique your interests back then, what could’ve possibley changed? I mean I can understand folks goin’ through an “ugly duckling” phase, but were you just trynna reap a freebie?

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday

December 10th, 2009
2:59 pm

@ mqew

There’s a lot of artists, that I widh I could’ve seen back in the day… Keith Sweat especially!!

But some people just don’t know how to put on a show. You have performers then you have singers. The best is when you can get the 2 together.

2CPTG......smart azz!

December 10th, 2009
3:00 pm

what was your question, Cee?

Raqi

December 10th, 2009
3:01 pm

hopefully next time you get an itch like that that you’ll let my fingers do the scratching.

Leggs, maybe that was his way of trying to break the ice. You know, HA, HA.

Melo

December 10th, 2009
3:01 pm

It was like seeing EnVogue this summer. I was like, dang I could have went somewhere to have a drink instead of payin $60+

@mqew
u right…some of these old school groups,u better off jus playing their cds or LPs if u still have them..
i was listening to changing faces on v over the weekend and i reminisced and luved it..

I went all the way to duduth the other friday for Ryna Cameron’s fund raiser with SWV……

i enjoyed the dj rotation better when it was his turn..just as well i hadnt paid that much.

Leggs - F and F

December 10th, 2009
3:02 pm

@Raqi ~ you’re absolutely right, I asked the question on whether he was still living there or if he sold it. However, I didn’t ask for a dissertation on his life.

Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
3:03 pm

@ PoppaG – Are there any 1/2 tickets somewhere for the Nutcracker performance. AtlantaTix hadn’t post as of last week.

…since you at home and all…chillin…burping backing pecans and stuff…help assit round here… :wink:

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday

December 10th, 2009
3:04 pm

@ Melo

That’s very true. Sorry but most of those old schoolers don’t have it anymore. They’re trying to hang in there and they need to just hang it up.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 14 days til my birthday :-)

December 10th, 2009
3:06 pm

I miss Winn Dixie and Piggly Wiggly…

Now that’s what I’m talkin ’bout Cameeli. When my granny used to send us to the store she would always tell us to “go and come right back….hear! Don’t tarry and don’t linger.” Those were the days :)

SexyCool - Got Jokes?!?!?

December 10th, 2009
3:07 pm

I put Shthead out a year ago this week. One of the BEST decisions I ever made.

Lord Velonese (insert trendy quote here)

December 10th, 2009
3:07 pm

“Have you ever been on a second date with someone whose conversation left you confused, annoyed, or bored?”

It usually does not make it to second date. In most cases it takes 5-10mins to determine is this person going to be annoying. And when it comes to snuddy city girls their is allot of failure going around. Selfish, self-centered, gimmie your money, it’s all about me women. The first question I ask is what do you think about pre-nups? That’s almost in every case the firing question because they hate the thought of it; I have determined that the reason for that is every woman needs a back up plan in case things don’t work out even if it’s their fault (pitiful I know right). Besides I don’t associate with people who I’m at disadvantage with over trivial things from the get go, so much for equality, need I say more. Lastly, relationships are for dudes who wish to throw their life away and make all the things they work for in vain. If law wasn’t so that woman could easily destroy a Mans life at the snap of a finger I might have more respect for women, but I doubt that will change, but I’ll settle for them watching me enjoy myself cause I can.

lurker

December 10th, 2009
3:07 pm

phases are during (mostly) adolescent years. ain’t no mo phases when you’re an old man

Leggs - F and F

December 10th, 2009
3:08 pm

He just turned 50 on 8/21.

@Raqi ~ apparently he has control over his limp since he said he’s good at hiding it. And yes, I looked at that as perhaps his way of breaking the ice. He was tense. He even resorted back to when he first saw me coming through the detector at the courthouse. He remembers everything from the waist down, my legs, the skirt I had on, even the shoes!!

@Melo, I use “associate” because I don’t know him well enough to use the word “friend.”

Poppa Grande

December 10th, 2009
3:08 pm

I don’t know of any half price tickets to the Nutcraker.
I keep an ear to the ground.

Melo

December 10th, 2009
3:09 pm

Leggs,that limp disuguise thang and ur notice of it was awkward.

I had a guy that i knew growing up,whose arm had been severed in a dynamite accident back then in south africa.
he always kept his hand in his pocket and most pple,other than his close relations, didnt know he had a severed hand.

The joke was he only let his hand out in the open air when he was out in the woods,tending to his cattle and walking his dogs.

But when ever he heard what seemed like pple within the vicinity,talking or making foot sounds,his hand would find its way into his pockets,in a flash! :lol:

mqew

December 10th, 2009
3:09 pm

Leggs – Next time, damn near trip a server to get a drink next time :lol: :lol: :lol:

Melo – You’re right, I’ll put some of those artists in Pandora and take it from there. ( I have no idea what Changn faces made)

PoppaG – Judge Judy is on :-) Thas my fav judge!

2CPTG......smart azz!

December 10th, 2009
3:10 pm

“phases are during (mostly) adolescent years. ain’t no mo phases when you’re an old man”

pretty much the point I’m gettin at……if he didn’t interest you in his heyday, what piqued the interest today?

Lord Velonese (insert trendy quote here)

December 10th, 2009
3:10 pm

Three Words Daily – Not Carrying you

Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
3:10 pm

PoppaG – Beat you can find one.

For Real

December 10th, 2009
3:11 pm

Here we go
Climbing the stairway to heaven
Here we go
Walking the road to ecstasy

Taking the load
Of this whole world off our shoulders
The door is wide open for you
The door is open for me

Here we go
Still in a moment of pleasure
You and I
We are gonna find the pirates treasure

And we going step by step
Together, step by step
Climbing the stairway to heaven

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday

December 10th, 2009
3:11 pm

:roll: @ Lord Velonese

2CPTG......smart azz!

December 10th, 2009
3:12 pm

mqew…..Changing Faces made, “Stroke you up”

For Real

December 10th, 2009
3:13 pm

“phases are during (mostly) adolescent years. ain’t no mo phases when you’re an old man” – So are you saying you stop learning and growing when you are an old man or woman?

Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
3:13 pm

@ Sassy – You were a “store run” grandchild too? :) …I think that’s why i know how to get substitutes when i’m cooking. I like your granny’s “don’t tarry and don’t linger”…That’s rich!

Leggs - F and F

December 10th, 2009
3:13 pm

@2C, not trying to reap a freebie. We got along when we first met, just not date material. Nothing wrong with both of us staying in the FZ having lunch. The only pass he made was about my next scratch. Other than that it was boring, friendly, safe convo.

Raqi

December 10th, 2009
3:17 pm

Leggs, for the sake of conversation because I have a minute to spare….

That could be one of those “damn if you do, damn if you don’t” situations. Had you asked him if he still lived in the house and he had just said “No, I moved”. Where would the conversation have gone from there? What is it you would have looked to sprout from that question? You asked about his job. Would “it is okay” have been enough of an answer? Where would that have gone? You probably would have thought he was just as unexciting had he given those three word answers.

All I am saying is when we ask questions we have to understand the answer may be more involved that we are expecting, however the true answer. Our lives is what we have. It’s what we know.

Now to avoid him talking about his “life” you could have asked him if he thinks humans are the main cause and contributors of global warming. You all could have debated that but what would have been gained at the end of the day.

Many seek profound, philosophical exchange that leads to nothing. You leave knowing no more about the person than you walked in the door.

mqew

December 10th, 2009
3:17 pm

L V – boi ain’t nobody payn tention to you!

Leggs – what does the F&F mean, did I miss that?

SCool – Congrats on your outta-versary. If the blog bar is open, send one on me to SCool CHEERS! Ain’t nothin like gettin rid of baggage :lol:

LURKER

December 10th, 2009
3:17 pm

SO LORD V are you playing the women you date right now? Since you do not respect them!

2CPTG......smart azz!

December 10th, 2009
3:18 pm

To each his own, I guess….cause friend or not, you ain’t gon’ waste my damn time!

LURKER

December 10th, 2009
3:19 pm

By the Leggs ( AKA Sexy Vixen) I know you are a good mother too! :wink: :wink: